You’ve probably never considered what it’s like to navigate the world as a trans person - but now, you can take a walk in their shoes. Mic followed four trans individuals with GoPros and a camera to document their experiences.
I smile at everyone. If they don't smile back, that's their problem. I can only be myself. The girl in this video is gorgeous. It doesn't matter whether or not a transgender person "passes", but as far as I can tell, she passes. I'm surprised anyone would assume she's trans.
switzerland we say in different area as we passed away we smile and say " Bonjour, Buongiorno, Grüezi, Bundi" I never had problem. I didn't receive catcalling today because im religious. Which is great. Before it was worst..
If ya'll don't accept trans people, fine, but this video isn't about being forced to date them etc. It's about how trans people should be accepted to have the right to FEEL SAFE. Which a lot of trans people *don't.* Imagine everyday/night walking down the street wondering whether or not you're going to get bashed or mugged simply for your personal identity? That's fucking terrifying.
I don’t think it’s fine to not accept trans people and I wanna be sure that you don’t think being trans is a choice but being brave enough to express their authentic selves is. Otherwise, I completely agree with you!
I literally hate being stared at, or staring at people, a fleeting half-a-sec look is more than enough to analyze someone, so I can't imagine how hard is for these people to deal with this shit EVERY-SINGLE-DAAAAY.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
Going after a straight man yea for sure it will not have positive feedback. He is straight. If a bi man approaches them they feel insulted because it’s a bi man and feel invalidated. Why a straight man it’s okay to be invalidated but a trans it’s not okay? They say be your true self, but they don’t want to be their true self, they want to be something else, which is fine, but you can’t force everyone to align with your self perception
@@nyumyu4265 can you elaborate on that or you avoid all rational comments and simply move to insult? A straight man tells you he likes women and not trans women, he is labeled transphobic for that. Make it make sense If he says he prefers biological women to avoid the stupid notion “trans women are women, there is no difference” (we all know it’s different) then they are again transphobic. In general they have no option but being invalided and forced to be with trans or else they are evil
@@annas4843 there are plenty of straight men who would date trans women, but if your talking about passing then that's a problem that goes far beyond just straight men
I understand what many are saying in regards to the glances and seeing how these individuals may be reacting negatively or they are worrying about other people : that ultimately they shouldn't care or worry about this but have you ever considered that for some trans people..... They are at a higher risk of violence and danger. The paranoia from anxiety forms in their minds because its the human brain trying to protect them from harm. They are very aware of the threat they may or may not face because in reality being trans offends alot of people. Alot of people hate trans people. This isn't an opinion it's facts. Transphobia is real.... Stop trying to say it doesn't exist
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
@@dontcallanimalspetstheyare7871 of course they real girl. You sound kinda crazy though chill out lol. If you pray with intention and determination eventually that will be manifested.
You choose the behavior you choose the consequences. If a hairy man wants to walk down the street in a dress, then people will give him the side eye. Walk down the street in a clown outfit then tell me I’m wrong. The logic of transgenderism is that we should ignore basic facts cause they may hurt someones feelings. Like the fact that the word gender is a synonym for sex and has been for 100s of years, or the fact that they don’t look like, act like, or actually do anything like women. You are literally judging people right now for thinking this weird delusion is BS making you a hypocrite. If you live in a culture that’s judgement free, then you’ll end up having murderers walking the streets freely. That’s where it leads.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
@@beautifulrainbow470 “so it’s not good to be proud of who you are” your tryin to changing what you actually are, trans people want us to accept them for what they “are” but cannot accept their true self, why should we accept them if they reject themselves, they need help, perception is never a reality
So true . Some people admire us... others are disgusted...others laugh...but they don't realize us trans have a great potential just like any other person may have also... we're beautiful, brave, strong, independent and super friendly sexy girls. I ignore the negative looks/ comments/ gestures but rather appreciate the positive ones. I love being a beautiful transgender girl, i love being me. No regrets, never been happier than now. I love to wake up to be me myself and I on the daily.
Great you feel better now. :) But please stop calling women CIS. If you don´t like to be bullied, why are you all bullying women by insulting our identities?
You guys are all missing the point of this video. It has nothing to do with shaming people into dating them. But it explains how difficult it is for them to just interact with the world. They aren't kidding when they say it would be 1000 times easier to just be gay. But they aren't gay.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic famiy
Black men felt the exact same way when I was younger every single day….in school, stores, malls, and living life. Daddy raised me to be proud of myself and that I belonged. Once I figured it out, I was okay and excelled at whatever I wanted. I didn’t worry about what others thought and I didn’t care about being accepted by anyone. Not my problem, only theirs.
it will be your problem if you get beaten up for being black. It will be their problem if they are getting attacked for being trans. Its not purly about confidence
@@LeLe-bo7cs Yes, but the thing about that is youre going to get attacked whether youre confident or not. Have confidence and stop worrying about what others think because it's only gonna stress you out; Instead, redirect your anxiety into MMA and firearm training because this is THE UNITED STATES (context of video is NYC) and the second amendment DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE 🦅🦅🦅 thats right, queens (and kings and court fools
I agree leave them alone. Let trans people walk around as whatever they want to be. No problem with that at all. My ONLY issue with trans people are they want us to turn drop our beliefs in our strict binary gendered universe and embrace their multi-gendered universe. Trans genders need to take a page out of their own book and respect our rights to believe in a binary gendered reality! Live and let live.
@@flucas6595 Yep its all good if you stay in your own lane on the expressway of love. I have no problem if a straight man signals that he wants to change lanes and enjoy some trans lovin. What two consenting adults do is up to them. Just be honest upfront about what you are, what have and what you don't. Things will be fine!
It's so disheartening how LGBTQ+ people feel unsafe in public spaces. I just wish people weren't so bigoted in their beliefs. But for all those who see this, you are beautiful and strong.
I think its just because its considered "weird" so it garners many stares obviously. I don't think that will ever change but the violence against these people is not cool.
I applaud each of these ladies for their bravery and courage to be their true authentic selves no matter what! Not a lot of people, no matter what their gender identity or sexual orientation, have that kind of strength to be so real and honest with themselves, let alone with others.
@@kaws3076 When the way other people see you effects your safety, it matters. If you have never feared for your life for merely existing you don’t understand, but you can listen and learn.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
@@kaws3076 yeah my happiness is partly based on not being beaten up, yelled at by strangers on the street or denied service in shops. Which is linked to how people perceive me.
I got to give it to trans people, they're very strong to walk out in public places.. I know its scary to get nasty stares and negative attention from people who are not like you or people who doesn't understand the lifestyle... I can't do it, I hate to get any type of attention..
@@johnnie2638 you know yourself better than any outsider on the street. Be strong, you'll prevail ultimately over the hatred. Anyone without talent or value can dish out hate and negativity but to endure it and persist is a reflection of your own strength.
Yikes so I know there's so much shit in the comments but thank you for making this video because it gave me a real sense of solidarity and made me feel less alone.
@@Bizzyb33z Three months later, the troll was finally dealt with. You know you can report comments, right? Alphabet is under some extreme pressure to clean up their offerings. With the removal of certain protections social media companies enjoyed last year, there's some impressive legal impetus for them to actually do something.
I am Trans myself, Trans male to be clear. What these people said in the video is exactly what I have to go through every day. I hope the best for everyone.
Hi, maybe if you stick with the gender you were born with (female) you won't have to go through these things. Learn to accept yourself instead of forcing it on others. Hope that helps!
@@LgbtqSupport-gh1wr No, you posted on a public website, I'll express my opinion however I want. Not my fault you can't handle criticism without you crying about it.
@@LgbtqSupport-gh1wr Ok now I'm a bit curious. Why can't you stay female? Why do you want to change something that is essentially embedded into your DNA? Wanting to change genders is often the result of severe trauma, to escape a problem you experienced in your early life. Or to say that you're happy mutilating your body physically and chemically is a complete lie. HRT is known to cause severe chemical imbalances in the brain and it results in depressions for them years down the line. That's why there's no long term study, because too many un-alive themselves from their mistakes and realize they CAN'T go back and fix it. Listen if you need someone to talk to, I'm here. Don't throw your life away.
As a trans woman I can totally relate. I feel like when I go to the gym especially when I’m walking to one machine to the next or when I’m doing squats I get a lot of stares and it always makes me feel very uncomfortable because I’m like oh my god is my bulge showing? Can they see my bulge when I am squatting? I can’t wear certain things to the gym because I feel very afraid. And then there’s other times when I’m there and I said you know what I don’t give a fuck. I’m here to work on myself and I’m here to work on my fitness. If they wanna stare at me and see things that’s all on them. Why should I feel any type away for going to the gym and just trying to better myself like they are?????
Even watching this brings back my anxiety & panic onset. Unfortunately I'm a survivor of physical & sexual assaults and had to move away from the larger city for now. I'm still dealing with my traumas and one day hope that I can confidently walk in this world once again. Beautiful trans sisters, I applaud you all for your bravery and your beauty.
I find it so crazy that I’m a natural born woman and I’m just now coming into myself as a woman and I actually find myself struggling with some of the same things as far as trying to establish myself as the woman I know I wanna be in life. For example like I wanna wear heels every single day and I want certain outfits to match my personality, wigs, make up etc. etc. Not only that but I’m also working on how I carry myself on the inside And dealing with people. Choosing how to respond to them and what I don’t respond to. Anyways, The process of character building is def hard regardless of whose going through it lol Anyways, God bless and hope you find your way.
see wearing 10inch stiledos at 1 AM in NYC , trans or not isn't safe AT ALL. because if you get attacked , how far can you run with them spiky high heels without being knocked your head to the pavement.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic famiy
@@trinitym5552 at higher risk of violence than who? certainly not women. Women are the biggest victims of violence period. A trans woman has the muscle power of a man to defend. Women are more likely to be killed by another man. And serial killers largel go for women for a reason -- easier prey.
For those interested in passing, voice training helps a ton and is the primary determining factor in how people will gender you. It takes work and practice. However, kudos to those who love their natural voice! Y’all are trailblazing 💖
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
I think some of the nonhateful response in the comments is coming from the fact that you took a camera out and filmed people's reactions and then read into them negatively. When you are insecure (in both senses, including not feeling safe) you're more likely to project what you're feeling onto other people. Brandi's interview was much more reasonable. She didn't assume everyone found her unattractive or that they were uncomfortable. Also, in NYC you should expect most people to be walking around with RBF.
When you see a piece of driftwood in Louisiana, it probably is not an alligator, but that does not mean that your gut reaction is any less understandable when you're shaken, thinking you'll get your arm torn off. Trans women get enough comments, derisive stares, and threats of assault to condition them to read looks that *may* be neutral as negative. In addition to that, most trans women know how people react when you look gender conforming, so they'll have practice in knowing when people read them as gender non-conforming. The point of combining the shots of people's looks with the commentary about negative reactions was not to accuse the people in those shots of being transphobic, but to give you an insight into what it's like to be looked at as a trans woman and never knowing, always having these thoughts. Practice just a little bit of empathy and critical thinking.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
Cmon guys leave trans people alone. We are all beautiful in our own way whether you are trans or not. We are all the same too. Like that one trans said.. We walk the same street, breathe the same air.. Treat them like they are actually human and not like some aliens. I respect trans people. Why cant (most of) you guys respect them.
Why are there mostly only transwomen but never transmen it's because life is harder as a man. EDIT: Life is harder than a women, yes, it was always like that but humans are a clump of cells, only living to eat and reproduce. Women have a higher chanche of getting a potentional mate
@@jungili3071 Because trans women are way more prominent and villainized by the media? There are plenty of trans men out there, such as Elliot Page, for example.
Its more about attitude. I been transistioning 7 years. Its the aura. Like dogs, people can sense insecurity. Theres manly women. And they pass because......they effortlesdly be. Once i realized being a woman was more effortless....i start passing more after two years. Now I never really get clocked.
Imagine being unable to mind your own business and having nothing better to do than judging someone's appearance and personal choices that have no harmful implication on anybody People sure have wonderful priorities
I AM NOT THE JUDGE OR THE JURY. WE ARE LIVING IN PERILOUS TIMES AND PEEPS ARE HATEFUL...WHEN UR COME OUT AS TRANS PEOPLE USE THAT SOMETIMES TO LASH OUT AND HURT THAT PERSON. EVERYONE DESERVES TO LIVE THEIR LIFE EVEN IF U DON'T UNDERSTAND IT. LEAVE THEM ALONE.😒
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
As a gay male myself this makes me so sad because they’re all so beautiful and they seems so genuine that it isn’t fair for them to have to feel so unsafe just walking. As a person from NYC myself too as I’ve grown up I’ve become more confident in walking around the city but still have some fear. I wouldn’t walk around by myself though and that is definitely a problem
I'm a gay man but I don't need to force people to use special made up pronouns to address me. Me being gay does not ask anyone to do anything but leave me alone and let me live my life with my gay peers in peace. Trans gender people want the world to stop using customary gendered pronouns or else. I don't think they will win this battle. It's like prohibition outlawing alcohol. The idea of gender being binary is ingrained in the culture it may never change.
I feel like they do, a little nervous about it, and I live up in Massachusetts I'm afraid to go down into the Southern States because I don't know what will happen I even meet violent people up here that are against me or whatever their problem is
Listen, I am a transexual woman as well. I get it. We are always paranoid while out waking in public. I get looks as well, but I can’t always tell if they are trying to read me. They might just be looking at me because they think I am attractive or maybe they think I look familiar. We don’t know for sure because we are not mind readers.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic famiy
They really need to mention that even though all these women and people look very pretty and passable now, ALL of them have "looked like a man" at some point, and that previous experience is the cause of the a lot of the paranoia. You can tell how well you pass, just like you can't really hear what your own voice sounds like, and how much you pass can change depending on what you're wearing or where you are
no ,not necessarily they looked like men before but people tell you ,you do even when you don't ,it's their way to force you to stay the gender convenient for them to be or just be mean.
Who the hell is hating on the corniest man of all times. Like a man who literally wants to be a woman. Which is a feat they can't accomplish. No matter how many operations body alterations that one's does. A man is still just a man. Point blank period. A man is a man is a man. Just because a man call himself a woman. Acts like a woman. They still not no goddamn woman. On my soul. They can't get pregnant like woman. They can't breast feed. They simply just wannabe woman. Point blank period.
Don't listen to ppl. Be the beautiful woman you are. Edit: geez transphobes and homophobes need to get a life. Like these ppl aren't hurting you and studies show transphobes and homophobes aren't very smart
Trans folx deserve to feel safe in any and every environment they are in. I also hate how respect stems from one's ability to "pass" esp with cismen who get hurt when they realize they're attracted to a transwoman. I hate how their reaction in turn gets redirected to trans folx as hatred and vitriol once again show how some cismen only value women for their looks.
Try being a trans woman and not passing at all. I started late in life because I am older (64) and being trans and young there was no discussion anywhere. At least where I was. My mom beat me for 13-14 year’s because when I was 3 or 4 (my first memories) is of my mom beating me and telling me I am not a girl. She kicked me out of the house at 16. I thought I was a freak and tried the “male thing”, I just wound up trying to commit suicide multiple times. I am 64 not and although I am transitioning now at times I still feel like a freak as everyone knows the gender I was born into and that according to them I must be a freak. It’s better now with more knowledge out there, but it can still be devastating I am sure. Just be you and not what society says you are.
Joanna Lamb-I know your comment was added here a while ago now, but i was so moved by your story that I had to reply. Please know that you did not deserve the treatment you received from your mother, & you're not a freak. You are an amazing, strong woman who deserves to be happy, & anyone who tells you any different are nothing but bigots filled with hate.
I'm a trans guy. 99% of the time, they're not looking at you - or if they are, it's just because they're looking around the street as they walk. Sometimes I get paranoid about this too, yes, but I know that I'm only imagining things when I think that everyone I pass is walking past me and looking because I'm trans.
that's not true Many times I convinced myself of the same words you said But I made sure they were staring at me because of my gender Many of them even made abusive comments and called me a trany and man, or freak Or they just laugh or even insult me This problem really exists with us as male-to-female trans
99% of passing is confidence. If you feel confidence in your womanhood, you act more naturally. Others pick up on this and are more apt to treat us like women. The converse applies to trans men.
I'm a bit intersexed, and am a lesbian oriented transwoman. I worked hard on voice,looking,walking,smelling REAL. I am not only confident but ready. I live in NYC and had to deal with violence before transitioning. I workout and practice wing-chun self defense. I look and dress as an athletic femme.I embrace the goddess within . I have a subtle aura of don't mess with this bitch. Its the racism,rapists,and just the violent orientation of other NYCers that ensures,looking real,looking pretty,and ready to kick ass if necessary. TERFS need to shut the hell up,and they are not most moderate feminist. Yes confidence is important and don't make unnecessary eye contact,and a sweet smile can help.Train relaxing circular moves that are subtle enough. DQ's have rights but they intentionally get it all wrong if you want to appear real.
I think we all have insecurities and think that we can read peoples minds when they look at us. But we don’t know what they are really thinking. They could be admiring our clothing or our make up. We can’t just assume they want to attack us. It’s good to be aware but thinking the worst will only attract that. Im a women and I’ve been getting looked at since I was 13. Be aware not afraid.
Ok the one thing I dont like about this video is showing peoples reactions, We dont actually know what theyre looking at or what theyre thinking but this is making these strangers look bad. I stare at people when I walk around, Im not judging or being a dick about it but I like people watching.
I think the director of the film is just using the stares to artistically represent the paranoia trans people feel when being stared at. The slowness of the camera and the focus of the shot being centered in on the stare with the background blurred really drives the point home that they were looking. I did not get from this that the director was trying to make any opinion of the people starring and implying that they are thinking negative thoughts against the people they are starring at. What I got from this is that regardless of what these people were thinking that these trans people have to process this on a daily basis and wonder what other people are thinking about them while they're being starred at, even if it's just to look. I think this is mainly to emphasis the uncomfortableness of it all. I've had to speak in front of an audience of 200 people before. It's not the most comfortable feeling in the world.
You get so many stares like that when you're trans. It's not just one or two people and there's no way to say what they're thinking, but they're staring at you, and you can't say that people just have to pretend it's not happening because that's not how it works.
@@glitterytransunicorn1359 Being self conscious about your own identity brings on a deep dread and paranoia that people are staring at you, judging you, that they can somehow tell you're trans by a momentary glance on the street, and you end up fearing strangers. The truth is, especially in NYC, no one is actually looking at YOU or giving any consideration at all to YOU. They are looking at everyone and everything but at nothing at the same time. If you make eye contact, they will too, but it means nothing. It's all in your head. There are so many androgynous looking people in a city. It is not novel or special. No one is actually staring at you. This is your own inner fear and insecurity that you need to overcome.
I know it probably is in here somewhere but I honestly can't find any negative comments here in 2021. I think videos get to a point where old comments get either drowned out by new comments, and/or negative one's get mass reported and automatically removed.
Congratulations on being misinformed by propaganda and thinking that these people are making decisions as simple as what color shirt to wear when talking about changing their gender.
this is an amazing, educating video! i wish they would have had a trans man there aswell though, as i noice a distinct lack of representation in the community in that aspect
I’ll be honest, besides a few weird looks and mean comments and laughs here and there, it really hasn’t been too bad for me, and some of those could’ve been about something else entirely (some of them were obviously about me being trans, though). I came out last year, so maybe things are getting better or maybe I pass well enough that most people don’t even realize I’m trans, but it hasn’t been too horrible for me tbh
This is so true, it has been happening to me almost every single day, that's why I just keep earbuds in my ears and blast music like there's no tomorrow so I can drown out the murmurings of people talking.
@Chris Jones I am not in denial, I come from a family that is half Christan half Muslim and things were very strict, going to church and following the ideology of the Christianity religion so trust me I know. However I love my life now, back then I didn't have no GFS, now a days I done slept with over 100 women just for being myself, I have been with both girls and guys and they all love me so your words can't bring me down because there words lift me up! Nice try though lol I'll be a guy smashing chicks and getting smashed by dudes and make all the money I can and have fun living my life, done been in 3somes and all so I could care less about your opinion tough guy. Later lol
No one in the city is actually staring and murmering about you. They don't actually notice you at all. Not really. That is just paranoia that you need to overcome.
To see this is disheartening I’m trans myself (female to male) and I also feel like I get awkward looks sometimes I don’t mind it, but to see all this hate on these gorgeous. Strong. Independent. Young women is v upsetting
@David Vanpatten there are plenty of women in that video. are you blind? :) this is exactly the shit that pisses me off as a trans man. keep your childish opinions to yourself and let these beautiful young ladies live how they want.
@@GollyFancies312 The bible also says not to eat shrimp and to stone your children. Also not everyone is a Christian so who are you to hold others to the bible's standards?
@@teaandsocks1001 Because that is the foundation of the world god created you should not disobey the reason why you are alive and on this earth god loves everybody but if you disappoint him he will teach you a lesson you.
I remember being a young boy and going to a shopping mall. There were these people making fun of this trans person being a "man in a dress" but I was so young and I never was taught to be mean so I just saw her as a woman, I mean she didn't pass as well as some other trans people do but she was a woman nevertheless. If transgender people were given the treatment they deserve then people would be less scared and they wouldn't even notice trans ppl are walking next to them. Remeber hate is learned it is NOT innate.
@@uyoebyik Not all of them but most trans people are cool. I can say that there are many more cisgender people who groom people but I wouldn't pain you all with the same brush would I?
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
I’m glad one of the individuals highlighted that this is all psychological, because there’s no definite way to tell what anyone is thinking. People look at other people all the time, what you assume they could be thinking is either based on your security or insecurity. Nothing more nothing less unless the passerby clearly has some sort of expression on their face that’s universally understood to be negative, or they actually voice how they feel.
Everyone is not going to be excepted. I used to feel that everyone was gazing at me when I felt unsure about myself. One must find that confidence and not care what others think or feel about them. You can't and won't please everyone. 💯🙏🏽
@Chris Jones Come on man I’m no feeling this either free flowing gender movement either, but supporting trans people doesn’t make you gay. Stop being so immature.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
That's how you know a particular situation is demonic. When you have no peace about it. The entire time i thought these ppl loved themselves and really they hate themselves and are sad(ie the negative self thoughts he mentioned). I hate Satan and his strongholds, the confusion it creates😞 he's so deceiving and half the world doesn't believe in him. The same demons that have them living this way are the same demons who cause ppl to attack them. Satan has no mercy.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic famiy
Some of the stares might be bigotry, or something, sure. But, I believe a lot of that is just paranoia... for good reason in this point in time, but paranoia none the less. I think the bulk of it is more likely people giving the stink-eye for completely unrelated shit, like someone's outfit, getting within their personal bubble, or simply looking at them. People are getting more and more hands off, and I doubt cities are any better. Also, attraction comes hand in hand with stares.
A relationship between a son and the father is an important bond that passes down morals and values. And with a mother, children learn how to be compassionate and empathetic. It prevents people from going overboard into a self-indulgent down spiral of dopamine rushes. Without traditional values or morals, people submit themselves to acts of pleasure of which they create their own values in order to be contempt with doing those actions. Instead of actively trying to better themselves, it's easier to be contemptuous with being sick and you can't do anything to change it. The idea you should accept everyone for who they want to be has unleashed ideological diseases that corrupt minds into a weakness. There are two types of people who profit from spreading diseases. People in power such as government, and big corporations, who know it's easier to control weak-minded citizens, and the mentally ill who seek nothing but gratification from a community of like-minded degenerates, the corrupted youth. The powerful people spread it by advertising it on their logos, their commercials, and on social media. The powerful people gain the high ground out of their competitors with their newfound “correct morality “ that the mob is so easily inclined to love. The weak spread it in order to fulfill a meaningless purpose of being kind with “acceptance”. It does nothing to empower or to encourage people to improve themselves. They invent spectrums and transgenderism in order to explain the new found mental problems they acquired from a poor family structure. Of which they seek newer more complicated identifiers to find their place in society. They require more gratification, like it’s a drug. It's easier to create less intricated, easier to understand, and “morally correct” reasons on a foundation of “acceptance” than to explain and maintain traditional ones that have been passed down for generations. For example “love is love” is a simple and widely accepted term as “be with who you want to be with”, but where is the limit? Can people love animals? Children? How can this “love” not be a pervasive lust for a relationship from a desperate mentally ill human being? As time goes on, values without morals corrupt the youth as there are no standards. The importance of historical figures and their lessons will in time be removed due to the disease wanting to erase the past so as to completely eradicate any possibility of a philosophical antidote arising. The fewer restrictions the disease has to go through, the more it can multiply until it destroys society. And the only ones left to profit are the people pulling the strings from positions of government that were put there by people thinking they were doing the right thing, but for all the wrong reasons..
It's human nature for our eyes to be drawn to things that stand out, that are different from our expectations. When most people see a male body with a female presentation, their brain experiences a mismatch and is startled, trying to evaluate the situation and make sure it's safe. As social and tribal creatures, humans are well-evolved to sniff out people who are pretending to be something they are not, similar to the uncanny valley. This process can result either in the brain deciding that there is no threat and letting it's guard down, or it can heighten feelings of fear, disgust, and anger to motivate you to move away from the undesired stimulus. From the outside, if you're insecure, this unconcious surprise-deciding process looks a lot like a death stare.
@@makoosh3448 I don't disagree at all. These trends that don't prioritize having kids usually die off. Life shouldn't be only about have kids and family and no individualism outside of that either. Ballance is needed.
Since the pandemic started, I wore a mask everyday. Now that mandates are lifted, I still wear a mask. I still feel anxiety, always worried about people, but it’s become easier and easier. I manage to pass most of the time, sometimes people are unsure. I go out with cat ears all the time, which tends to attract attention... which sort of contradicts the point. Voice dysphoria has been a huge issue, but it has somewhat improved. I’m still hesitant to speak to people. I’m lucky to live in a relatively accepting area and place, many people have it very very hard
This video made me wanna cry. These beautiful, wonderful women deserve so much better. The looks of disgust, the violence and the hatred trans people go through is awful.
What facts are they presenting exactly? Why can’t these people just be who they want, without people like you just being assholes because you fear something you don’t understand?
@@zhambiea3989 They can't simply because they will themselves to. There are things that you cannot do in life. You can't sustain flight unassisted. You can't hold your breath for a full day. You can't become a dog. You can't become younger, and you can't change your DNA. The fact that so many people don't respect themselves for who they are and try to change that is absolutely disgusting. It's not benefitting you. You aren't getting healthier. You are harming your body.
Matthew Howard they can though, if they couldn’t you wouldn’t be so triggered, since their would be nothing 2 be mad about. Even if u ‘think’ it’s disgusting, that’s their chosen path and I’m sure theirs some thing u do that disgusts others but as individuals you learn you can’t please everyone.
People are people regardless of their gender. Everyone deserves respect. I feel so bad for The LGBTQ community. No one should be mistreated for being who they are. Yes times are changing and people just need to except that. When I see trans people I see strength and bravery and admiration. It takes a lot of heart to be who you are and not everyone can admit that or handle that.
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic family
It's mostly paranoia, out if 20 dates only 1 realized I was trans (and during my first year, when was more obvious) but still always feel the paranoia of looking so "trans"
I understand the struggle because i get the same feeling but im female to male so its slightly easier but you never know what people are thinking. They may think your trans but they may think ok cool or they may look and smile in a nice way. You can never know what people are thinking .sure there are mean people but they may have positive thoughts when you think theyre negative
A relationship between a son and the father is an important bond that passes down morals and values. And with a mother, children learn how to be compassionate and empathetic. It prevents people from going overboard into a self-indulgent down spiral of dopamine rushes. Without traditional values or morals, people submit themselves to acts of pleasure of which they create their own values in order to be contempt with doing those actions. Instead of actively trying to better themselves, it's easier to be contemptuous with being sick and you can't do anything to change it. The idea you should accept everyone for who they want to be has unleashed ideological diseases that corrupt minds into a weakness. There are two types of people who profit from spreading diseases. People in power such as government, and big corporations, who know it's easier to control weak-minded citizens, and the mentally ill who seek nothing but gratification from a community of like-minded degenerates, the corrupted youth. The powerful people spread it by advertising it on their logos, their commercials, and on social media. The powerful people gain the high ground out of their competitors with their newfound “correct morality “ that the mob is so easily inclined to love. The weak spread it in order to fulfill a meaningless purpose of being kind with “acceptance”. It does nothing to empower or to encourage people to improve themselves. They invent spectrums and transgenderism in order to explain the new found mental problems they acquired from a poor family structure. Of which they seek newer more complicated identifiers to find their place in society. They require more gratification, like it’s a drug. It's easier to create less intricated, easier to understand, and “morally correct” reasons on a foundation of “acceptance” than to explain and maintain traditional ones that have been passed down for generations. For example “love is love” is a simple and widely accepted term as “be with who you want to be with”, but where is the limit? Can people love animals? Children? How can this “love” not be a pervasive lust for a relationship from a desperate mentally ill human being? As time goes on, values without morals corrupt the youth as there are no standards. The importance of historical figures and their lessons will in time be removed due to the disease wanting to erase the past so as to completely eradicate any possibility of a philosophical antidote arising. The fewer restrictions the disease has to go through, the more it can multiply until it destroys society. And the only ones left to profit are the people pulling the strings from positions of government that were put there by people thinking they were doing the right thing, but for all the wrong reasons..
@@makoosh3448 nobody is gonna read that comment. You have too much time on your hands to type out that whole essay of propaganda and conspiracy theory.
6:57 Exactly. Thank you so much for making this video and interviewing all these amazing people! There is NOTHING wrong w being transgender, and it seriously sucks how just genuine human beings like these people get judged and attacked just because this. Good luck to anyone else there thats trans, or just in a hard place!
@Chris Jones you know gender dysphoria really is a thing. Educate yourself instead of being ignorant. The fact that men like you think that the whole world resolves around to think people would really wanna trick you lmao
Never feel ashamed when people don't know you are trans and hit on you. You don't have to disclose that information if you don't want to. Anyone who feels that you have to reveal you are trans to a person thinks that there is something inherently "homosexual" or "gay" being with a trans person. What draws you to a trans person is not the qualities of them being the same gender as you. It was the qualities of the opposite gender that drew you to them. So, if you think you are "gay" or "being tricked" because you are interacting with a trans person, you need to pause and think what drew you to that person? Was it the desire of being with the same gender or the opposite gender? If the answer was looking for the opposite gender, welcome to being just your regular straight self.
Rookielove1 and you are entitled to you opinion, but this also means you have a very limited view on gender. I'm not going to sit here and explain why that is problematic. If you want to know, watch Trans 101 with Chase Ross. If you want to stay ignorant, you do you sweetie. We have no more to discuss.
No I’m sorry I disagree. If I dated somebody and they told me much later on that they’re trans I would be extremely upset. They are people and human beings, they deserve to be loved and respected and I deserve to be told the truth. Hiding it from somebody is sneaky and dirty. We aren’t all born just accepting these ideologies, some of us are a little uncomfortable with it and are working on trying to be more accepting, and we deserve to be told the truth
Nothing could have really prepared me for being trans in public. Before transition I was always seen as an outsider bc of my obvious queerness but since transitioning and presenting feminine I can't walk into a single room without being stared at by everyone it in. I can't even bring myself to look up anymore, I usually have to pull my phone out or state at the floor and get in and out as quickly as possible.
If EVERYONE is really staring at you, there must be something odd about your clothing. Or it is just a feeling/anxiety. I had that as I was young. Using a bus or train was terrifying for me.
I am not a transgender but from my childhood, I still question things about inequality and injustice, including the patriarchy brainwashing and hypocrisy of our society. Quite late, because only few years ago I decided to finally express who I really am. In my heart, I always was a gender-bender, who adores feminine and androgynous look. Expressing yourself with fashion is such a powerful and tribal thing (I fell in love with Derek's look completely!). Great thing is that my partner supports me fully, and that's really powerful. But streets are different, and as long as I don't want anyone around me to feel uncomfortable and I am definitely afraid of any assaults, in the end I am the one who's feeling uncomfortable and just not in the right place. I am pushing it forward, including my dull and uniformed working place. If you think about it, it's just few attributes here and there, all on your skin, not someone's else, attached to your body, not someone's else. It's you who have the full autonomy, to think the way you think, to feel the way you feel and to perceive the world the way you do. No one should have a doubt those beautiful human beings are really brave, and deserve a lot of respect.
I am pretty sure this is just a visual depiction of what they perceive while walking down the street, not an actual real-time social experiment of it happening.
It makes me sad to see so many people suffering from their own interpretations of other people's thoughts. It appears most of these people are just depressed and have no sense of self. Instead of seeking acceptance from others perhaps they should start by accepting who they are and develop coping skills to deal with their internalized inadequacies and low self esteem.
My daughter went out for a fun birthday night with her wonderful friend who is transitioning, they are both lovely girls but I had to worry about their safety. I wish people would live and let others live.
I’ve been out since 2020 and being trans is hard because you never know what could happen, men will want to ask you out then before things get more serious they walk away and not acknowledging that your human too and living now as a woman it’s been really hard even today at my work I was at the checkout counter and a co-worker used he pronouns and then her boss corrected her and said “she” so that made me feel better and it did make me feel like wow the managers here really do care and I think back in 2010 employers weren’t so accepting back then, then it is now and I think we can acknowledge and give them a nod and to say thank u for seeing us through as women and not a man .
Sorry, but if you're really that good looking and passing as a woman, then most men will think you want to trick them. Straight guys, or at least the majority of us, want to date a woman because we aren't gay, we want a real pu55y and later in life, perhaps, create a family, you cannot give that to us, can you now... I understand that you're human too, but it's the price you're gonna pay for choosing to be, or being what you are. (I said it's a choice sometimes because I really doubt there are so many people like that, some are just confused because of the society, awyway) Instead of dating guys who would simp for you, gay/bisexual guys who are actually into that stuff, you expect pity?.. Why? You can't just expect people to date you out of pity, that doesn't happen and I can tell you that from personal experience, why would a hot chick date an average looking guy like me, when there's always someone else to pick?.. Yeah, date me because I am a human being too, that surely must work...
It’s something’s that can happen to anyone who’s a remarkable tall woman or someone with a strong make up or with extravagant clothes or showing too much skin 💁🏻♀️
Yea! your right I.. kinda think a little of what these trans-women are describing in this video is just like everyday stares and comments that come with presenting femininely. I can see how it would be hard to differentiate from that and trans-related judgement though.
Cis people don't worry about whether or not someone will assault or kill them for showing themselves in public. Hell, cis people don't even worry people won't see them as their gender.
hammer Yep. And since cis people are validated since birth as who they are, they'll never be in a position where they experience the extent of invalidation we do. It's easy to shug off being called "boyish", "manly", and so on when you have a lifetime of validation to comfort you.
This channel is ridiculous. Honestly, watch that mansplaining interview video. Btw, that dating part on this is also ridiculous. If a man can't take you out in the public is because he does not accept you for who you are. Find another one who can. Stop complaining. Not all men are the same.
I can totally relate to these girls. Some days are better than others for me when I feel more confident. It's still hard though to live as the Woman that I feel inside. I have been asked all of the same inappropriate questions and I have noticed most, but probably not all of the mean looks. I do enjoy when I walk down the street and someone blows their car horn though! LOL
EVERYONE JESUS AND MARY APPEARED TO ME Please pray the rosary it saves lives and stops violence please do it and also pray for the animals who get abused everyday please do it because Mary and Jesus are real they appeared to me. Please pray the rosary and pray for animal abuse to stop and spread the word of god!!!Mary and Jesus helped me while I was living in a homophobic famiy
I am a transgender woman to. So the major issues that I had during my transition were cis gender women. Guys (except few of them) had never problems with me. They like me. Cis women were so agressive and bad behavior toward me that it felt disgusting all the times it happens. So I don't really understand what happend and why they act that way? So the conclusion I came across, is that cis women ruin trans life. So if there is a murder of a transgender girl done by a man, than the real killer behind it is a cisgender woman who had planted that seed of hating towards trans women.
I used to feel really uncomfortable when people stared t me, now I just lock eye contact and they immediately look away. What helps is not interpreting their looks or not interpreting it as anything bad. They notice you and it's amazing. Change the way you read people
