Warning, Dude! 5 Things You MUST Know BEFORE Dating a SINGLE MOM! ⚠️ 

Almost every single mom profile on dating apps reads, "My kids come first!!!", or "My kids are my world!!". No bigger red flag than that.

I married a single mom who was good at putting "US" as the team. It wasn't enough. A horrible ex-husband was too much. Unfortunately, she had a very, very, crappy ex. He actively taught his children to hate me. His lessons stuck with the boy, the girl went her own way. Her ex died a few years ago. It didn't change anything. The boy, now a man in his early 40s still hates me. The girl, a woman now in her late 40s is fine. Was it worth it? Absolutely not.

Tried it twice and the drama that comes with it is crazy.never again.I’m now in my 50”s and single no kids.i have a rescue dog and never been happier.never no drama,come home and the dog always happy to see me,and it’s so quiet.

I'm dating a single mom with 2 teenage kids. I have firmly set my boundaries and I am not willing to budge. I'm not captain save-a-hoe nor am I insta-dad. If that ends up being unacceptable, so be it. I'd rather be alone than deal with the drama.

Just ended a relationship like this today. The red flags are flying high and i got out of it cause it's just NOT WORTH IT. Watching this just solidified my choice as being the right one

I'm currently dating a single mom. Her ex isn't in the picture and she makes just enough to afford herself, her mom and her child. The kid and I have met and he's showed me nothing but respect and admiration. His mom was in a bad place when we first dated and she was triggered by a lot of things because of the stuff she went through. She's also held herself accountable for the previous relationships failing and she grew to learn to be what a woman is expected to be in a relationship. I almost ended things at one point but something told me to stay and see where this goes. Now we're 9 months away from celebrating our 3 year anniversary and the people in my family love her. She's healed now and doing her best to be everything I need

One of the hardest parts is when we really like the kid(s) and form a strong bond...and then the relationship flames out. Sometimes losing that is much harder than losing her.

Great video, Anna. Unfortunately, I dated two single moms. Both relationships were a total train wreck! I ended up in counseling after the second one. The counselor basically told me that I was a "rescuer" and that I shouldn't waste my time (and money) on this type of woman. Fortunately, I'm cured of that disease now. Keep up the great work.

I wish you had this video out in 2014. I was tryin' like the dickens to have a relationship with a single mom that I met in a church singles group. Her son and I got along great, and we shared similar interests. However, she had a ton of issues that I just didn't deal with too well. She had daddy issues, mommy issues, money issues, and good grief the list kept growing. She liked having me around, yet she kept me at arm's length (i.e., friend zone). However, one day, she was just rude enough toward me (the last straw), I just immediately got in my truck and drove off into the sunset. I ain't looked back since then. I'm good.

Single moms are not looking for love, they’re looking for help, and honestly guys, think of it like picking up someone else’s saved the game file, Don’t do it guys stay away from them, you’ll be happier

I had a on/off 7 year relationship with a Single Mother. Over time the pre teen Son came to live with Us. He walked in saying U are NOT my Father...it when down hill fast. I eventually walked away

Dating single mom is a test for a men, to appreciate his life being alone. It comes with a lot of responsibilities as well as countless heartbreaks. At 26 I got into it, came out at 30 with bunch of white hair in m beard.

I WILL NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOM EVER AGAIN. Everything you say is true. I remember a weekend was canceled because her son wouldn’t go to his dad’s even though that was the court settlement. So whenever he didn’t want to see his dad that trumped any and all plans we ever made. I can’t say she was a bad mom exactly but she wasn’t a nurturing mother. Nothing in her playbook was about positive reinforcement or emotional support or validating their feelings. It was really hard to watch at times. At dinner her oldest son would come downstairs to get his plate then go back up to his room, close the door and play Xbox the rest of the night. She was Catholic but didn’t go to mass because her kids wouldn’t go. And on and on this went. She did go to soccer and basketball with her kids. So all their material, social and physical needs were met. But we could never be affectionate around her kids because THEY DIDN’T LIKE IT. They were not only her priority, I’m not sure I ever really existed. 🤷‍♂️

A work friend had this expression "She's a 'leverite'". The first time I heard this I said "Huh?". He said "Leverite - Leave 'er right where you found her." LOL

I was a single dad, raising my teenage daughter with sole custody. Phew! Personally I knew when I had a relationship with single moms that I wouldn't be the number one, of course I would expect the mom to have her children to be top priority. My last x-wife was a less than a good mom. Her teenager daughter got into her mom's face and very disrespectful, I called her out on her behavior, of course "you're not my dad!" My retort was, "yeah I know! But you will not show such disrespect to my wife!".

There's one more situation that I can think of that is the new boyfriend eventually becomes the babysitter while mom says that she needs to go out and do things, only to find out she's seeing another guy.

I ran into a single mom I already knew at a bar. She ended up taking me home. I found out there was no babysitter. The kids were up late because they had not had dinner. Mom was more interested in sending them to bed so she could do the same with me. I was both embarrassed and pissed to be that excuse. I helped the kids make their dinner (mac and cheese with hotdogs - quick). By this point, mom had passed out. I ended up taking her to the ER. I can remember what I helped the kids make for dinner. I can't remember if I left mom in the ER, or brought her home and and then left. Making dinner with her kids was the high point of the evening and I had no expectations after that.

I’ve had a couple of relationships with single moms, and one marriage that failed with a single mom. There was always a sense of jealousy between the mom towards the daughter. Example: took my ex-wife’s daughter to help me pick out a dress for her mom for Mother’s Day, and I immediately got the 3rd degree. My ex asked “why didn’t you take my son, why just her”? Then she asked her daughter “why didn’t she tell her that she was going with me, why’s she being sneaky”? So after I had to explain why would I take an 8yr old boy to pick out a dress when you and your daughter literally share clothes? That feeling stayed in the air in our marriage until the end even though her daughter wanted me to adopt her and I went in student loan debt for her (which her mom pushed her out as soon as she turned 18 when we both knew she wasn’t ready and didn’t have enough guidance). As soon as I got hurt at work and fell disabled is when my wife quickly and heartlessly became my ex.

I consider my experience with a single mom a test from God. This situation included a crappy baby daddy that made the big mistake of showing up to a nightclub where I worked as a bouncer. Needless to say that part of the situation was resolved. I kept close contact with my daughter and even received admiration from her moms other kids, it matured me in ways that only God could have planned.

A " rude awakening..." GUT" check for either men or women...Since love is blind, you've done a great job Anna on taking off the blindfold! Things to remember & consider...seriously! A package deal for sure! Best to avoid🚫 the baby mama drama/ daddy drama land mine!🔥...💣....💥

I got lucky! I was dating a single mom way back in the late '80s she was 19 I was 25 she had a one year old girl the baby daddy never really spent time with his daughter and Angie who I was dating never push me away because of her daughter she always included me and her daughter as one! So years later her daughter was also my daughter! They never said I was a stepdad neither did my in-laws consider me a stepdad they consider me the dad! Now I've been married to the same woman for 27 years now my daughter is 35 and has her own family and I have grandkids! And me and my wife had own daughter together so I have two daughters! My youngest is 25 now! So it's possible to find a decent single mom! Oh I hate to toot my own horn I am a decent dude!

Unfortunately, society provides so many justifications for the deleterious decisions in the world of women that emotional "healing" is regularly stunted. The fear of rock-bottom is (more often than not) necessary for a dramatic change to occur. In other words, a "healed" single modern mom is a unicorn. Great video as always though, hun!

I am a single father and have been sole supporter while her mom had to take time to sort out mental health problems (she is doing well and doing a lot of effort to catch up with our daughter so that's all good). During that time I dated single women, a great single mom, a terrible single mom older women and one youngster half my age. Every point here is valid for single dads as much as for single mothers. In my experience and opinion: experience told me the best options are very young women because they are the least impact on the family unit. I have essays to write on this topic. Seeing as I am becoming interested in long-term relationships, the best is to wait and be left alone far as dating goes until my daughter has her own space. Single parent plus child is a family unit, family unit needs stability. It is a big change when my daughter has a boyfriend even. Respect the family unit.

I once dated a single mom who left her kid in Brazil with the grandma and traveled the world, landing in the states. When we met her kid was 19 and had tons of resentment towards her about it. She wanted me to deal with the kid's issues. Bad moms are a no-go.

Anna, dated a few single moms. All the red flags you discussed I experienced. Another very informative video that I hope helps those in one of these complicated relationships.

Awesome video. Definitely been here with a couple single moms. Out of all the points, the relationship with the ex is pivotal. That will define how the child/children behave, and how much interference there is, and possibly undermine your relationship.

I dated a single mother of 3 and 8 years older than me for two years. I knew what I was getting myself into but I learned so much from her and everything felt perfect. It was greatest feeling meeting her kids and her mother. Because of my career and future goals, we had no choice to end the relationship. We love each other very much but shes worried will I be able to provide enough. I miss her very much

It’s awesome hearing these reasons being confirmed by a woman. Another reason to consider is when a kid doesn’t like their mother’s new boyfriend, the kid will falsely accuse him of something horrible that he didn’t do, just to get rid of him. Even if the guy is innocent and clears his name, there could still be a stigma associated with it.

Been a stepdad and biological dad too. You hit it on the spot. Thank you Anna.

That was some very good advice. I get along quite well with a few single moms I know, and some who I use to interact with, but never dated one and don't intend to because of the possible disrespect of the child, and having to pay for most of the child's needs plus my own. Another way single moms can finally date again, or even get married is if their kids are grown and out of the house they grew up in. One of my uncles married a single mom in 2018 whose son is grown now, and so far his relationship with her is going very well. They're both in their 50's but they're happy together, and the son isn't causing them any major problems when all 3 of them interact with each other.

Single moms are great to date. Just not for long term relationships.

The one time I'd consider dating a single mother is if I was considerably older than I am now (I'm 38) and I met a woman whose kids were "off to college" age. They're not kids anymore, and if you're meeting someone in the second half of life of course it's unreasonable not to have expected them to have lived a life before meeting you. But until then single mothers go in the same category as hairdressers, horse girls, girls with a hyphenated first name etc; avoid at all costs.

Currently been seeing a single mom, and we're in the works of setting up that relationship and building trust. She's super loving towards her son who's only almost 2, and the dad isn't in the picture. I already knew a lot of these points as they were advice given by others, but this still really helped solidify that I feel she's a keeper and things may go well between us, as she and her son have both opened up a lot to me. Thanks for all this!

Anyone who gets involved with a single mother deserves what they get. Guys, don't be stupid, NO piece pf ass is worth that much trouble.

Guys, if she is a single mom. Just refuse politely, there are a lot of girls out there with no kids/bagadge, she already has a husband and a father of her daughter she just decided to leave him, it's not your pieces to pick up

I'm watching this as a single mom. Honestly gave me hope since I know I'm a high value woman, a good mother, I am healed from the past but still working on me... and I agree with everything discussed here. Men need to be aware of these things. Healing is the most important thing you do for your kids and for any future relationship.

When my relationship broke down, I started seeing someone with 3 kids of his own after a while and we all got along great but in hindsight, I wish I'd been given the green light by society (and relatives) to just enjoy raising my child without feeling like a failure. My own father seemed to think little of single mothers despite going to work away for 5 years when we were little! We saw him for 2weeks every six months. In my own case, turns out the man I was seeing for years only wanted help with his own kids.

We can't help who it is we fall in love with . It is the only thing in life really worth having ; but look out when it comes .

This will be one of those rare times in my life that I didn’t make a horrendous mistake. Reading all the comments here confirms it. Great video, love ya like a sister, but I’ll absolutely will not date a SM. Best of luck to them all.

I appreciated the even handed attempt with this topic, but from my point of view ur were equalizing some of the concerns a man would have when dealing with a single mother. 90% of my concern would be if she is OVER the baby daddy, if there is STRONG boundaries duringthe coparenting process, it can serveas a reconnecting opportunityfor one or both of them. There's nothing else to consider if that's not settled if I want to have a serious relationship or marry her. I think both the man n the babymama can confuse needing to move with her needing help.

Dont forget, her kid(s) is first, always first and that's totally fine. then comes her family, then her dog(s), then her social groups and therapy sessions, yoga, what-have-you, then her Ex-boyfriend or husband and the list goes all the way down until you're last place. imagine a DOG that has a higher position than you. Let that sink in for a bit and think about it. a dog... plus, from what i read about, Nice guys seem to be the target for single moms too compared to the "bad boys".. plus her Ex could slip in at any time and retake the throne as the legitimate father of the house hold. so where does that leave the newly step dad? out the damn door.

I am laughing so hard because this is dead on accurate. FYI, I am the one who told my now six year old son to inform my replacement “I don’t need to listen to you, you are not my real dad. I have a real dad and my real dad says so” 😊

There's only one thing to know before dating a single mother; Don't do it. If you're a wise man, walk away. That's a huge red flag, and something to be avoided. Another red flag is if she had a bad relationship with her father, or no relationship with her father, walk away. If she grew up in a broken home, walk away. All men should hold these standards and many more.

Anna, it goes both ways, I'm single dad, but daughter is a judger of women, which I have never invited her to meet because I have not met the one. Very protective.

Hello Anna !💐This reminds me of a time I ended up being the babysitter and ended up loving children much more than her sleazy behind Like a curse and a blessing all at once and she wasn’t the blessing I wish your videos were a bit longer after being anxious for a whole week but it’s always worth even a glimpse and a good heartfelt message🕊 God bless you out there Anna 🙏

1st thing you need to know about dating a single mom: "Don't ever do it."

I was in a 18 months relationship with a single mom and the only thing I want to share with you guys is this… **if you’re not a single dad, don’t do it** if you’re living with the complication that come with a child, at least make sure it’s yours One big thing to consider is how old she was when she got her baby, the younger the worst! About 80% of my female coworkers are mothers and all (literally all) of those who had their baby at a younger are absolutely not loyal to their significant other (I’m talking under 22)

What about a situation where you've fallen in love with a single mom, going through a divorce with an abusive husband that the kids hate, but she still makes excuses for. A situation where she's in a really bad spot in many ways, and you're a needed helping hand. You feel like you need to be there for her, and she appreciates it, but keeps going back and forth with emotions. A tough case, but you want to take it on because you care about her and her children, and want them to heal and have a better life???

Dating a single mom is like putting your hand in a bag full of snakes hoping to find a nickle.

I dated a single mom for 7 months. She was a successful business owner and pretty but was pressing me for commitment from the get to. Needy, massive anxiety issues (I can deal with your most anxiety), and extremely selfish. She had every ex bf and even short term bf meet her son. The kid was great but I could tell all the moving pieces confused the poor little kid. She was demanding and could not hold down friends and none of her exes were on even decent terms with her. Always struggled to make and keep friends of any gender as well. We had top tier chemistry though and I was coming out of a very long relationship so I got sucked in. To you reading this: please do not get involved in a serious relationship with a single mom.

I’m 21, currently dating a single mom that’s about 10 years older than me. 4 days in and this is already one hell of a challenge. Already met her kid I think a little too soon but he loves me already but I don’t think she was ready for all that yet and now thinks of me as just a friend

My next-door neighbor is a single mom, 57, with a son in college, divorced for over 8 years. We're both alone in our houses nearly all the time and she's only 3 months younger than me. In the past I've given her compliments both in person and via email (clothes, hair) but she's never responded to those. It's *so* difficult to initiate a relationship with her, she seems so content to live a singles life with no dating. At 6'1" and 190 lbs, I have confidence that she COULD find me attractive. I would like to ask her out, but it seems like a longshot. When I first met her, she was very quick to reveal to me she was divorced and I'll never forget how she smiled at me right then.

Thank you for your Great tips. I have never gone beyond dating single moms, and some of them with good qualities from my church. I love peace & quiet and too chicken to deal with all the dramas. Now, I'm happily single ☺ and I love it!!👍

I dated a single mother and she was crazy and yes, you're right, I was not her priority. We broke up and then 2 years later she sent me a text telling me that she had a new boyfriend. Not sure why she did that, she tried to rub it on my face or whatever, I didn't care.

That happened to me with the worst mom I had been with: my own wife (gladly currently my ex). I enjoyed the same signals: 1. I was not her priority, even I was real husband and father. 2. She was a crappy mom, amazingly, at the same time of the previous. 3. She was an expensive package, credit cards just rang like church bells. 4. Even I was the real dad, she spolied the kid raising me her hand on anything I tried to make an opinion on. 5. Yes I was the father and the husband, yet she kept on bringing her "ex-boyfriends magnificence" to the conversation, obsesively. Guys..... this is not only about single moms. Could be for just "moms". Watch out in advance for dating signals.

Number 4 and 5 hits home for me. Lil boy once told me "you're not my dad". I tell him "tell me something I don't know, kid". Now me and the woman was already broken up and on our way to divorce but I was still living there til my place was ready. She already turned the kid against me so I acted the way I did. That was my best way of saying "fu*k off, kid" without saying it. And she was also running around with baby daddy behind my back.

I was with a single mom for 9 months and I was the first man she introduced her son to. She is from Peru so her upbringing is different than American women. One point her son tried to leave the table while we were eating and I told him he is not leaving until at least half of his plate is done. He actually listened and was excused. I even took both her and her son to the movies. Even though we broke up 3 years ago we still keep in contact and her son even contacts me to help with his homework.

Am not dating or doing this, but, it is one of your best videos. We people should take responsibility for who we date. but not disregard somebody based off of horror stories alone.

Dating one is like walking a mile into a minefield, day dreaming about fairys and unicorns. When you realize where you are, its too late and there's no escape. Luckily for me, before i wandered in, I tripped and scrapped myself which broke the daydreaming trance and realized HOLY JESUS MARY AND JOSEPH THATS A LIVE MINEFIELD. I didnt take a step in and turned the other way avoiding a horrible painful fate.

I’ve recently fell for a hard working & very soft hearted single mom. She’s completely different than anyone I’ve ever met. Baby dad has been out of the picture for 7 years and he’s in another state. But I’m terrified because society says run, now I’m conflicted. I’ve been friends with her for two years. So she’s not a stranger. Hmmmm

Dating a single mother is like arriving to a party after everyone left & you have to clean up the mess...

Your advice and views are spot on for men in their 20s and 30s. I'm 50 and my options for dating have become limited. I'm at a point where the dating pool is almost 90% single moms. Their kids are almost fully grown and many of the moms are now grandparents. Any advice for us 50 year olds?

I dated a single Mom about ten years ago. She had three sons. She was very open, spiritual, honest, and vulnerable, but was definitely the boss. She interrupted a lot in conversation. I brought it up, and she did a little experiment, inserting deliberate, awkward pauses, granting me a turn to speak. In short, it seemed like she was looking for a eunuch/butler/ATM. Nope.

It's a massive societal mess. I like how one guy put it.... " dating a single parent usually fails miserably because you are a constant reminder that mom and dad are no longer together." amen.

OMG! Where were you all my life! 😅 Seriously though! I'm a 45 year old content single man for several years now. I know some may say it's a complete beta move to raise another man's child however I took it as a complete alpha move as kids are innocent and I couldn't simply just turn my back on the kid especially because the mom was a train wreck. I had no idea what a narcissist really was and it's a rabbit hole I don't wish on my worst enemy. It's a years-long process to get over such an experience FYI. The breakup was most horrible because there was a child who in her heart saw me and still calls me Papa. She is 10yrs old now. I raised her from 13 months to 8yrs old I don't regret being the only one who ever bought the baby formula, diapers or extracurricular activities such as horse riding lessons, ballet, swimming and giving that child all the things I could as if she was my own. But the child is not your own! When the breakup occurs it's as close to experiencing the death of a child in it's own way and is really traumatic. Actually when you see that narcissistic abuse that I had suffered from being now projected on the child and you are completely powerless over doing anything good about it, it's humbling to say the least. Don't expect your friends to understand or anybody else for that matter. Just RUN! I don't recommend dating a single mother. You are playing around a nuclear meltdown! Especially a Eastern European narcissistic. Put your ego aside as it is not fixable and RUN! If you don't know what narcissism is I suggest you really educate yourself and learn how to identify them before you get humiliated and heartbroken and just overall broke. I had a soft spot for a single mothers because I was raised by one who was ethically and morally a good woman. Unfortunately the internet and the propaganda it dishes out to young women today has really gotten things twisted. Everything on this video is completely on point based on my personal experience. I wish I would have heard this as a young man in my twenties. Thank you so much for your care, concern, compassion and information in your videos. Thank you! You and your channel are truly amazing and a blessing!!!

Ha. The end of my marriage was so bad that I far from expected my loved one to be perfect. She isn't, but she is a lot closer to perfection than I initially expected. "Kids first" was an essential pro for me exactly because I was a single dad. She never tried to take up the mum role for my son like I never tried to be a dad for hers (with one exception - when he got engaged and he needed someone to plead for him; I still feel very flattered). So no, I never heard "you're not my daddy". And my son never said "you're not my mummy". Neither of us ever tried to be what we weren't. Spot on: until she retired she was a hard worker (after too) with a soft heart. For various reasons I always found it important that my loved ones had paid jobs themselves. She never had any problem finding a balance between her son, her job, me and a few things more. And she always has been supportive towards me to find that balance.

I was reading another article that said "Dating a single mom with a kid is like playing somebody else save on a video game" I have to say that is very true

I have had several number of single mothers hitting on me badly. I was already working but still single with a long time girlfriend from a distant province. I had no time for them because I know they've already spoiled their relationships and wanted a comfort zone. I went ahead and married my girlfriend. We now have a son and are living happily together without any regrets.

Definitely it is important to date a woman who has gone to therapy to get over her emotional baggage from the previous relationship if it ended badly. My ex-wife felt that everyone, including her own son needed therapy; except for her. If they constantly speak badly about their ex, they will take it out on their children and you will pay for the sins of their ex.

Dating a single mom can never work unless you're a single parent yourself. A man should not ask the mom to put him first event hough in relationships, that's ideal but it is not logical with a single mom. Also, single mom's always speak ill of their ex but the fact is, they're the ones who made the bad judgement call in being with them so long and having kids with that guy. Single mom's always want the guy to make the sacrifice but us guys should focus on a single woman who has no children so we can be each other's priority from the beginning. I was in an online relationship with a single mom and I had enough, her ex kept showing up at her workplace and destroyed a journal that she kept specifically for me. She started to say that her ex stopped with alimony towards her youngest one and she had a lot of pressure. She lived with her family and still no one was really into helping her. She even had to give money to her parents rather than them helping with the kids.

After I divorced, back in 1994-95 I thought a single mom would more likely be a more mature woman and someone to build a permanent relationship around. Wrong!!! There is a reason why a single mom is single. I tried with some single moms and failed - in retrospect that was for the best. Nowadays, I would avoid a single mom totally; no matter their age; no matter the age of the children. I do not envy any man who marries a single mom. Not worth the trouble; and life gives one enough trouble anyway. I will remain single rather than marry a single mom.

I dated a single mother who did not discipiline her teenage children. She let them them have rule of the the roost, and it was a a mess! parents and I sent $300 to wash the childrens clothes, just for them to end end up on the floor again. She yelled and cussed at her children. She was terrible with money. She took out several small payday loans in order to to her children on vacation and kept rolling the loans over. She refused to let let me pay them off. This I can say, I was able to get her to finally start taking her meds. The relationship died in the water. Beautiful on the outsides, hautned on the inside.

Every relationship I have had except when a teenager was a single mom. You are never the priority but daughters generally accept you easier than sons do. The daughters generally loved me who were not biologically mine. But you are not their father and cant discipline them. Kids and grandkids seem to love me but it has broken my heart that the grandaughter cries for me and wants me to be in her life and it is awkward when the mom doesn't want to see you after you break up. The daughters connect with me because I listen to them and try not to be judgmental and sometimes they will side with me more then the mother . They can see the flaws in their mom and call her out on things her boyfriend or husband can never do . If it were up to the children in many cases I would still be in most of the relationships with single mothers but the mother decided I was not what they really wanted. This doesn't generally happen as i hear the opposite from other people.

What I see differently about this video from the guy's video on the same topic, this woman gives the single mother a chance in the dating world.

Anna is right on all this. The kids make it harder too. My situation the kids weren't the problem. Things started out great heard stories of the X . Years in I learned the truth. Dude wasn't the issue. She made the priority she gave the kids all her attention. She never realized what I gave up to be there. Before I knew it I was more like a servant she wouldn't even compromise on anything. I did everything I could to make everyone happy. Everyone but myself. We never discussed anything around the kids. Once she started taking little jabs at me infront of the kids knowing I wouldn't say anything I knew. Me staying would teach the kids treating people this way was okay I had to leave. I loved the kids enough that Once I'd finally had it and wanted to expose the truth of sugar coating and white lies I had to leave. It still hurts and I miss them as if they are my own kids. He'll I still love her but couldn't put the kids through a long hateful break up they suffered that once before. Choosing a single mom is a big choice and has to be a selfless one. Really take your time and watch for red flags. Listen to her talk about her ex and see if things line up how she tell it. You have to remember the kids have to be your priority too.

It depends. The first marriage takes priority.

Unfortunately, I had to learn this the hard way. Dated one single Mom and will never do it again. She def. was not healed from her relationship with her child’s father, the kid was only two years old and she got cheated on by her child’s father. Situation drained me mentally and financially. Thankfully, it was only a couple of months and thankfully I didn’t develop a bond with the child, as that probably would suck losing both the girl and kid. I’m so sorry to the men that invested years and/or even gotten married…all for it to not work out. I will never date a single Mom ever again.

My 38 yo daughter is a single nurse,lives 350 mls in Adelaide , hope she’s doing well despite her mom and I divorcing Thanks.

One benefit a single mom gives to dating is that (little) kids don't have the same filters and self awareness as adults. The child will attempt to lie in the same way she does. If she has a bad attitude around them they will have it around you. If she lacks discipline they will. If she shi* talks the father, or others, the kids will as well. The kids can be an easy way to learn about all the important things she will attempt to hide from you.

I got dumped last week by my girlfriend who was/is a single mom. 3 kids from 2 fathers; both out of the picture. The last relationship being an abusive one. 4 years into the (temporary long distance)relationship we planned on moving from Holland to Canada, getting married and i was prepared to eventually adopt the kids if all went well. We never had fights and i tried to be a good male role model to the kids. We were always intimate and sent eachother sweet messages and facetimed daily through whatsapp. Went there at least once a week. Last thursday she out of the blue pulled the rug from under me. 4 years of my life of being a good man to her and her children and i'm left with nothing. Would love to give some advice but i am pretty devastated since it has onky been a week. My heart hurts because i thought she really cared for me. So....she is gone , the kids are gone and the pets are gone. I will NEVER do this again. EVER

I recommend dating 5 single moms and cycling thru them during the week, while also giving yourself a 2 day break.

I dated and married a widowed single mom. It didn’t work out because she was a narcissist that blamed everyone. Unfortunately in the divorce I lost contact with the kid (who did call me dad, which she supported the attempted to put an end to as things got worse).

I hate saying this, but it is real. Sometimes a Mom is single because she is not a nice person. People should always look for red flags and take their time to know someone before they live with them and commit further. So take the reality, if she is a solo mum she not only comes with baggage, but she may be the reason the father left in the first place and your just next in line. I dated one solo mum in my life and she was awesome, so I am just saying this out of intellectual awareness.

A mother’s loyalty should be with her child.

Most all the women I associate with have adult children as I do. When my kids were younger, many women would reject me because my kids were top priority. Wound up being a pretty good dating filter...although I still made some bad choices for other reasons LOL

The person I was seeing was 1 year removed from her ex, the dad. We were together three months, and I met the kids twice in short sessions. I knew her and the dad talked but it turns out it was more than I thought. She told me that when she was alone, she had thoughts of him. I kind of said, I don’t think you’re ready. The next day after telling her we should take a break, she broke up with me. I have not talked to her since, a week now, and I feel like I messed up but deep down I don’t think she was ready. Her ex was also missing with her head once he found out she was seeing someone.

Just started dating a single mom couple months ago. Ex ain’t involved . I made it clear I ain’t looking to be a father to a child that ain’t mine, ESPECIALLY financially. We haven’t really gotten involved in each others personal lives yet either (meeting each others friends and family etc). I’m financially stable, she ain’t got a job either. I ain’t one to spoil someone that can’t afford to buy their own things. I’m not sure how this will play out but I may be ignoring too many red flags right now. On top of that, I don’t even want kids.

I dated at 38 year old single mom. For the first 6-8 months I thought it would work out. But, I started to realize why she was single, she was selfish and conceded. She put on a good show, she told me how her ex was abusive and not a good father. But i never saw that side at all and she would contradict stories. The nail in the coffin was her mother, she was a nasty miserable woman who had been divorced and would make emasculating comments to my face in front of the kids. I ended it and also ended up doing a year of counseling. I am doing much better now but i truly regret even meeting that woman. She was definitely not as advertised. She had a very good job and was very attractive, but it was a friggin nightmare

Very frustrating. I'm getting back into dating after a long break. I'd like to settle down. But in my late 20's all that seems to be around me is single moms or women not seeking an eventual commitment.

Sometimes it's brought up the men used to marry single women quite often. When you dig in to it, yes, men used to, but this was back when most (nearly all) single mothers were widows, either due to war or dangerous work.

I've been there, done that. Never again. One, you have to deal with the baby's daddy. And two, no matter what you do for the children, they will never be your children. To each is own, don't get me wrong, if someone is willing to make it work then power to them. But I know as for me, I don't want a ready-made family.

In 1998, there was this older lady, her name's Jolie. I didn't want her, but she was 44, I was 20. She has a daughter. One night, she came by, and we hugged a few times. Then that same night, we slowed dance twice. She made my night!

This was SO helpful! I took your advice and applied it to dating a single dad, and this clarified a lot for me. Keep doing what you’re doing! Thank you so much! Side note: any advice for dating a single parent with multiple baby mama’s/daddy’s? 😅 asking for a friend…

Great, as usual, thanks! 😉 One women I dated with had 3 kids (I too). Systematically, her ex called her on the afternoon: "We have to discuss about kids, see you this evening". And she went like a good dog, especially if we had arranged a romantic meeting. I told her she was working on destroying our beginning of relationship, but she didn't want to listen or even think about it. It didn't last, as I soon stopped this comedy, and then she cried. Too late, and I too wasn't happy with this ending. With another women, they had always something to talk about. A widow can even be a worse choice, as she can regret her late husband, who had "all required qualities", in some cases. To avoid, in my opinion, except if, as you say, she has healed herself, in which case it could become a great relationship.

I've been in three relationships with single mum's in my life time ( slow learner I know ) and it has always , always ends badly , its hard these day , as we get older to find a woman that hasn't got kids , even if they are adults there will always be problems.

I'm never dating a single mom. I'll tell you why, I don't want to take care of the kids of another man. Look, I've already taken care of and basically acted as an older brother for kids from my family friends for decades, if I'm going to take care of kids like that again, they're going to be my own flesh and blood, period. The only exception is if we both decide to adopt a kid because then we are on the same level of learning to raise and care for a kid who is not really our own. I don't want to deal with the baggage of a kid I can't call my own flesh and blood and not to mention her baby daddy.

Dear Anna: Awesome boom box. Do you still listen to music on it, or is it just for decor? Either way, KUDOS. Fluffy cat on the dresser in the room behind you. Well, the older us men get, it is nearly impossible to not date a single mom. Luckily once you get to a certain age, the kids are mostly middle school and older, so they require less attention. Albeit sometimes they are worse than little kids. I have dated single moms, and I have a horror story or two. Baby-daddy drama, "do you mind picking up some diapers on the way here?" Kid called me "dad" after two dates, etc. And that is what I can share. Wild and crazy times the 90s. Very informative video again. Sadly too many women are looking for help, other than a good man, so we really have to watch out for that. Anna, thank you so much for wearing you hair to one side again. I feel privileged you think about your GLAWAB while getting ready for your videos. You looked very pretty today, as always. Hug and a peck on each cheek. You Rock, Anna Maria.

So just to be clear, are we assuming little Johnny is allowed to say,”your not my dad”, instead of the child being raised to respect adults?

Coming here fresh out of a break up with single mom of two. Wished I had seen this before as she would always talk bad about her ex and complained about the way he would spend his time with the kids. After watching your video, I realized the signs of her not being over their breakup and her pipe dream of them being a family again were always there. I would have known that she had not moved on yet which eventually lead to us breaking up. I will say that she otherwise had green flags everywhere else. Motherly, soft, nurturing and cared deeply for me. Let me help “parent” and wasn’t dependent on me for her and her kids well being. It’s a shame that she hadn’t fully healed.

Having dated a couple single moms in my time, all with different situations of why they are single moms, that I will say it's exponentially better if the ex-husband/baby daddy has either re-married or is in a serious relationship with someone else cause if he's single then you're in for a tough ride. It's definitely not worth it if he's still "an option" like that. Save yourself the grief and time.