Watching MY GIRL with Ask a Mortician 

Yaaaas ATLA reference

with the best vid idea

Our prayers have been answered

I felt the same

Amen to that!!!

I’m sorry for your loss 😢

❤

Wrapping you in love. That experience is one many will never know, I've experienced it too.

When my daughter was stillborn (13, almost 14 years ago), I vaguely remember me shouting "NO!" and asking if it was my fault, if something I did could have caused it. I remember going out to my car and calling my husband to tell him he needs to find a babysitter for the kids, and trying not to cry, but he asked what was wrong and I broke down. And I remember sitting in the hospital room, waiting for the pitocin to do its thing, nd i was just sitting, staring, totally dissociated from everything around me.. the numbness had set in and I just tried to mentally be anywhere but there. On the other hand, when my husband passed earlier this year, I was totally calm. He had been sick, we knew the end was near. I woke up and went to check on him, he was very still, and cold, no pulse. I called the hospice line and they sent someone out (took an hour). She then confirmed death and I had to figure out what funeral home I wanted, and call them. and it was a couple of hours before they could get out there to collect the body. In the meantime I woke my teens and told them, they came to say their goodbyes to their father. I cried some later that day, especially calling his friends. But at the memorial service almost 2 weeks later? i SOBBED. i just BROKE. It put Veda's meltdown to shame.

@@manyrainbows I’m sorry for your losses.

“He can’t see without his glasses” that the line, I loose it ever time.

That glasses part is what got me. I do remember the period thing and Vada telling Thomas J. not to visit her in 6-8 days or whatever it was. lol

@@andrewkash7273 This happened to my mother. She had no idea what a period was. She was born in 1956 (so older than Vada's character). She got her period when she was 12. She thought something was wrong with her too. It's a shame that parents don't talk about that stuff, but in Vada's case...I can sorta get why. She was growing up with a single father and that's a topic that's probably difficult for a father to even get on. Good thing Jamie Lee Curtis' character was around. I remember when my mother told my dad I'd had my first period...he was awkward around me because that meant I wasn't a little girl anymore, I guess.

I also didn't know what a period was until I got mine LOOL It was a year or two before most girls got theirs

@Lindsay Hake Oof yeah that’s why it’s important for kids to know what puberty is preemptively. No need for them to be terrified or panic. I get how he would’ve overlooked talking to her in the movie but this really needs to happen less in real life

Oh my, yes. I cried just watching Caitlin watch it.

Damn. I feel like the only person alive during the '90s who did not see this film - I was in my 20s & I do remember the 60s & 70s nostalgia though. OK, seeing this is now on my To Do List. I was Goth - before Goth was a thing - and I did want my own hearse during the 80s. Some of my family were small town morticians. Maybe that counts for something? 🤔 😉

Right the movie is heartbreaking but so good, right now I'm just amazed what an amazing actress the little girl is.

@DrunkenSquirrel ha ha, I didn't see it either, but I have probably seen so many clips of it, that I may as well have seen it entirely. Just never in the proper order!

Facts. I cried so much as a child. Even now.

Same. 😭

Touch that clock, and you can never go back! He'll be back ;-)

😢there’s an equally if not sadder sequel to all dogs do to heaven & it had be balling!

Six Feet Under did too

Oh, I'm so sorry that happened. Real men feel. And they were either playing tough or were psychopaths in training.

@@Remle907 I think feeling shame is pretty deep, but thanks for the input dude. Carry on.

I hate that boys feel they have to hide their emotions and tears. I’ll say even as a grown woman I don’t like to cry in front of others. I wonder why we’ve done this as a society to ourselves and others. Boys and men especially.

@@tibb814 "psychopaths in training" lol Jesus the fuckin melodrama

@@winstonmarlowe5254 hyperbole not melodrama. chill

I read that book a few months ago! It's great!

Yes the sequel centers around Veda going to LA to learn more about her mother. No one dies in this film, but it's so *SLOW & BORING*. That a third of the way through you'll feel like you're dead - or your brain is at any rate.

@@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980 Ah well, good I never watched it then. Seems a strange film to have a sequel to anyway.

It wasn't great. You're not missing anything if you don't watch it.

Never saw the picture, but that scene got to me.😭

@@elultimo102 it’s a primal feeling. Like, you know she loves him because she knows how he needs his glasses to see, and because she can’t quite accept that he’s dead, she refuses to accept that he’s well past needing his glasses anymore. Like how we as adults can cope better with the deaths of our family members by making sure they have their favorite things with them when they’re buried or cremated. And even how parents will wrap blankets around children who have passed. They’re no longer able to feel cold, and therefore a blanket is useless to the body, but its too hard to accept that in the moment and it works to comfort the bereaved family member and so still serves a purpose. Apologies for the long winded response… it’s something I’ve had to think about since my grandmother passed back in 2011

I made a big deal about picking out the suit. Shirt and tie. As well as the hankerchief. And tie clip. And the shoes and socks. Mortician.. Did put everything on I wanted. No questions asked.

I’m glad my dad wanted to be cremated.. I don’t think I could handle a whole funeral, picking his last outfit.. my dad was a free spirit anyways he didn’t want to be stuck in the dirt he wanted to be anywhere and everywhere.I miss u papa

@@1rage17 We did actually cremate my dad, per his wishes, but had a visitation and service first so we still had to go through the whole process. It was rough.

@Brittney Harper, You're stronger than I. I couldn't bare to say two goodbyes like that. Couldn't even with my dog. But I do feel a sense of something was forgotten or missing(besides then of course). Do you feel you got more closure doing a viewing before cremation? I'm sorry if that's too personal of a question! I just wonder if maybe that's what I'm missing.

@@alexl.9602 It's not too personal at all. My dad was a social butterfly and did a lot in his life. My brother, in particular, felt it was necessary to let people come say goodbye to him and celebrate him in a way that honored who he was as a man. Nobody in the family participated in a viewing right before the cremation so we said our private goodbyes after the service and then left for the wake and got his remains back after everything was done. He had a stroke about 6 weeks before he passed with a pretty unsuccessful attempt at recovery before bilateral pulmonary embolisms took his life. His final day was pretty traumatizing because of all the medical interventions that were tried at the behest of my mother. The funeral home did a beautiful job of making him look at peace and I do think it helps that my final memory of his face wasn't as traumatic as his final night alive.

On the last weekend of eighth grade, my class went on a camping trip. We got home on Sunday, and my best friend came off the bus to the news that her dad had died. And that was my first real encounter with death. at least that I was old enough to understand or care about. It had happened around the time we were on the ride home. The moment he died, we were probably telling jokes or talking about music like normal teenage girls, none the wiser, and something about that just really fucked with me. My friend and her mom said I could go to the funeral, and I wanted to, but my mom wouldn't let me, and no, I haven't forgotten it.

@14 my best friend ended his life while I was hospitalized having an appendectomy. I couldn't go and I have carried that guilt for my lifetime. Sorry we have a similar grief bond.

My best friend's mom (who was basically my second mom) died when we were fourteen. My mom told me I couldn't go to the funeral and that she would want me to be in school instead. My mom is a wonderful woman but I still am deeply saddened that I wasn't there. I should have been there.

😢 I'm so sorry. My daughter attended her 1st funeral with me at the of 6. I always try to normalize very real tough subjects. Age appropriate of course.

The exact same thing happened to me in second grade. I found out that my best friend committed suicide in what I feel was one of the worst ways: watching the evening news.😢 And although I begged to go pay my final respects, everyone said that I was too young. I’ve never forgotten that, and it still hurts me to this day😭😭😭

That's mean! 🤣🤣🤣

Whoops

I’m dying🤣

That's why I didn't do it. 😂

It makes you sound rich, that you have a personal mortician on standby.

Something similar happened to me with my husband's gran - I was working on a tapestry kit she'd given me when I was in the hospital 18 months before she died, and then being there *when* she died... I was in total denial, saying I hadn't finished the tapestry kit yet, she *couldn't* be gone. I'd almost finished it too. It took years before I could even look at it again, but I eventually finished it. Haven't done anything with it yet, but... It's done.

I also started crying when that happened I gotta finish all the blankets and other things I’m crocheting for people 😓

Memento Mori. The best you can do instead of putting it aside is to honor it by finishing it. Embrace death, because she definitely will embrace you sooner or later

I was knitting my grandmother a pair of socks when she passed. They were about 3/4 done, and I not only couldn't bring myself to finish them, I couldn't even bear to take them off the needles so I could reuse the yarn. I ended up sending them to a friend who knits who wore the same size socks, needles and all, so I wouldn't have to look at them anymore.

I'm so glad that you managed to finish the scarf eventually! It took me two years before I could open the bag of my grandmother's clothes, and another before I moved one or two of the pieces to my wardrobe. It's an apropos depiction, I think, of how grief very slowly integrates itself into our lives. The loss has never become any less shattering in the last six years, but having held on to some souvenirs is greatly comforting, even though it's painful.

How can Thomas j’s mom be so calm after that line

@rachelleticzon7362 I think she was in some sort of depressive shock over his untimely death. I mean any parent would be, you know? It was a sad situation for his mom, for Vada and for both families.

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Actually you do when they give you the wrong ashes and don't notice for 3 weeks. But I'm sure that only happened to me

It all goes in the ggggggrrrroouuunnddd

@@theangrygamer1008 Omg! I'm so sorry you went through that!

Nooooo

Omg that’s like a way more extreme version of when my dad showing me Poseidon the day before we went on a cruise. Never before was a child so glued during a safety briefing. I can’t imagine them being like “THIS IS YOU ON PEANUT 🥜 “

Oef😅

Oh God. Takes me right back to my first solo airline flight (at...12?). Inflight movie for some insane reason was...Outbreak?!?? (Ebola breaks out in multiple places including ON A COMMERCIAL FLIGHT). It...did not help my flight anxiety. 😬

But did it work? Lol. Because being traumatized seems to be a great idea when it comes to parenting. 😂😂😂

I just ate cookies. I watched that movie two dozen times when I was a kid. 30 years later and I'm over here bawling not from watching it again, but watching the Mortician watch it again. Ugh.

that’s seriously so awesome, not only to be trusted with her final appearance for her friends and family but that your mom saw past the “omg someone i know who is dead” and realized what an honor being directly involved in someone’s preparation and burial is

@ᓚᘏᗢ right! I think that was a pivotal moment for me realizing how awesome my mom is - the family expected her to come home an emotional wreck from the expirence, but she was super at peace. She said she was just happy to know that her Henrietta felt beautiful. 😭 I cry just remembering!

That's so wonderful and touching, thank you for sharing

That is so beautiful & awesome. When I was in College for Cosmetology we actually had a day trip to one of our local funeral homes due to this same reason. In our small town many beauticians would be asked by their long time clients to provide services upon their passing. Our instructor showed us the importance of the relationships made while in the industry and the great honor that can come from providing such loving care after ones passing.

THAT makes me cry!

So sorry for your loss Elisha

@@graciousme2258 Thank you so much

I’m so sorry 😢😢😢😢😢

I know how you feel there. When my nan died and I was given the chance to see her before she was cremated, they had put a little bit of makeup on her, including a rather shiny lip gloss. I never remembered her wearing much makeup at all, let alone lip gloss, and it's one of the main things I remember from the entire day. It threw me completely and I felt unsettled, but grief does that to you anyway I suppose.

I went to a wake as a child and they actually did put the glasses on the deceased because that's how people knew him.

that line made me ugly cry at the theater to the point I had to get up and run to the bathroom. Still to this day I can't hear "Where are his glasses? He can't see without his glasses!" without tearing up.

I feel the same way about this scene. For me it was my grandma's funeral. It was an open casket and I remember staring at her and thinking she was still alive and just napping. I kept staring at her, thinking that she was still breathing. when the funeral home was done and we're about to close the casket, my aunt flung herself over my grandma's casket and started screaming "don't go mommy! Don't leave me!" And she refused to let go. I remember sitting next to her and trying to comfort her and then the grief got too much and I got pale and began sobbing to the point I couldn't breathe.

@@squidgesaurusrex3974 thanks for mentioning this, my mom has not worn any makeup since the 80’s due to religious choice and now I’m worried some funeral home will make her up weird (for reference she is currently battling stage 4 bone cancer so unfortunately it will probably be sooner than later) now I’ll know to mention her preference if my dad decides to go with a funeral route rather than cremation

There is so much loss and love, so much consideration in what you write. I want to be able to do the same for my loved ones. I am so so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing these deeply touching experiences. The idea with the little glass bottles is beautiful. There is so much love.

I lost my partner September 2021, we were/are both fans of Caitlin. I remember thinking about some of her videos while I was going through the grieving process, and you're right, how helpful they are. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are getting by as well as you can, I know how hard it can be. It's been over a year for me and I still think of him every day. I carry his ashes in a locket everywhere, alongside a little silver feather charm, as we loved birds and had nicknames for each other surrounding that. Those personal touches, the unusual funeral rites and ways of remembering them...they're so important.

Sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing your beautiful end of life story. Thank you ✌💜

I’m so deeply sorry for your loss! All my love to you

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I'M UNBELIEVABLY EXCITED! SO GLAD I'M FROM OHIO

Fantastic news!

So has New York!!!!

That's some gross shit

Yayaya! So have NY! I'm so happy for your state, I'm hoping for my home state of Maryland to come through as well 🌻

I had the same reaction to my FIL's passing. My wife picked up the phone and said he's gone. I said gone where, to which hospital? It still rattles me.

I volunteered for a grief support program for children-teens. We were to always use the word "dead/died so they would understand the permanence of death.

Sandi Brock is a RU-vidr who posts her sheep farming activity. She lost her best friend to suicide. When they told her "Amy's gone" her immediate (concerned) reaction was "Gone where? Let's go get her!" 😞

That must have been so hard. As the mother of five-year-old, when my FIL was terminal, I read what Mr. Rogers said about talking to children about death. His most important point was to tell children the truth and not use any euphemisms that will confuse children, who think in literal terms. You must use the word "died."

I had the same reaction when my father's mother died. I was 10 (I think), and my parents told me that she'd "passed". I had no idea what that meant....My comment was, "we don't have to let it ruin our weekend." Clearly, I didn't understand the concept of death. I did pick up that my father was upset by my comment but didn't truly get *why* until later. I beat myself up for years over this "thoughtless" comment until I got older and realized that it wasn't my fault. Parents, PLEASE explicitly talk to your kids about death and what it means. Children are stronger than you think - they can take it if the concepts are explained properly and age-appropriately.

+1 ❤

Yes please do!!

Because most of them are not nearly as good as these two

I was going to say... Generally child actors aren't as good as the two in this film.

You are so right.

I was going to say that as well, especially McCauley.

And I love how they went on to have pretty good acting career. Anna was hilarious and amazing on Veep.

My mother-in-law was dying she was on life support and we were just waiting for them to arrive, and they brought her grandkids to see her, and I sat down and I told nyneve about it and she says will I cry? and I was like yes you probably will.

I really had to think about how to explain to my young autistic son when his aunt died. I wasn't even sure if he knew what I was saying but I wanted to make sure that he understood so that she wouldn't be just a vague, passing memory to him. All I can say at this point is that he seemed to listen

You should be proud. You explained this the right way. There is a wrong way as well. I was told in words I haven't yet learned at the time that my dad passed in an accident. My sister who was 2 years older started crying so I started crying. I was very confused why we were plannin an event without my dad there, but everyone was too busy and as always I was sent to play outside. It wasn't an open casket, but my mom told me my dad was in there. And while I was expecting him to come out at any point, no one seemed too bothered by the fact. Imagine my panic when this box was lowered into the ground a few hours later (in my mind it took that long, I'm not sure). I was so pissed I stopped talking to anyone for years. It seriously messed me up.

I remember losing my grandpa at the age of 7. I had a general concept of death, but I still had a hard time really grasping the situation

I had to explain to my 5 year old son that his friend, our neighbor, had been murdered. At first I was not going to give the reason why he died. But it became clear he would find out more and I had to explain it or he might not understand it. As an adult, I didn't fully understand it. Explaining death and helping a child through the emotions is so tough and there really isn't any good way to explain it.

Oh, don't even *start* on The Bridge to Terabithia!!! :'{

I loved my girl

We were required to read the book for The Bridge to Terabithia for school and it was supposed to be a special "treat" that we got to go watch the movie when it came out as a field trip. Honestly, just compound the trauma. I read the book and I still wasn't prepared :(

How old was he?

The Bridge to Terabithia wrecked me. 😭

Same. Good morning fellow old person 😂

Just thinking about the scene by reading the line makes me tear up and my heart ache.

Same, I had it on VHS and it was one of my essential movies I kept rewatching, yes I'm old 😭

This is the worst and best part of this movie. I cry every time...

Same. I was 22 years old when the movie was released, and had lose a friend 2 years before. He needed glasses too, and this scene break me every time.

I don’t remember being able to watch this movie since my grandmother died when I was 11. (I think for a time I even forgot it existed because it just hits too close to home.) My grandmother’s death wasn’t my first encounter with death but it was the first I was really old enough to remember every step of the process with, the first time I had to actively participate in the hard discussions & decisions surrounding what came next even if I wasn’t always listened to. At times my own grief was put on hold so I could support my dad since I already knew what it was like to lose a mother & didn’t want to add to his pain. All my best wishes to you & your daughter.

My daughter had a friend from elementary school who died when he was 15 pushing his brother out of the way of a drunk driver. As adults we are used to pain and death in some ways anyways. Got to tell you when I had to talk to my daughter about her friend dying my understanding of the mourning process got much better because you have to help your kids learn to mourn their friend as well as teaching them that death isn't something you should fear every minute of your life and how most of the time it is a natural process. One of the harder things I've had to do as a parent

That’s the worst.

I know exactly what you mean, I recently lost my mom unexpectedly and my daughter was the one who told me.. all I could do was say " No ! No ! No ! " over and over again.. instant denial, I was in such shock that I didn't cry until I saw her with my own eyes.. it still somewhat doesn't feel real, it's been 2 months and I still pick up my phone to text her almost every day 💔😞

When I found out my best friend died, I went on a thirty minute long drive down random roads before pulling over in a random neighborhood and screaming "what the fuck" as loud as I could over and over for like three straight minutes. I don't remember the drive there or where I was. I was just in shock and absolutely horrified at how he'd died. I wish it had been some dramatic, hollywood-esque sobbing. Instead I probably traumatized the construction workers down the street forever.

Agreed. My only, personal, experience with death was when my grandpa passed away when I was 11. He had been in the hospital for about 2 months at that point, it was at the stage where it could be any day. I was just in the living room, dancing and doing my whole 11yr old thing when my dad (not related to my grandpa) came out and said he needed to talk to him. I literally remember the first thing I asked him was, "Is he dead yet?" (Crude translation of Spanish, my grandpa was my favourite person). He tried to be roundabout about it, but once he finally told me I just remember sobbing and telling him that he was lying. We didn't get to see him (I live in Canada and couldn't go back to Peru due to being between visas). It stuck w/ me a lot tbh

I found out my friend passed away right before going to work (a chef at the time). I hadn’t reacted much and it didn’t really hit me until I accidentally burned the gravy, and the other cook asked if I needed a hand. I remember blurting out “I burned the gravy and my friend died this morning!” and finally bursting into tears. Grief is just weird sometimes.

I mean, we wore it in the '90s as part of that 20 year cycle, too. Somehow the 2010s seem to have been mercifully spared its resurgence.

Great analogy!

@CCRider Wow, that's a trend with staying power then.

@@ccrider4516 Wait, so it was popular in the 1960s, OP said it was big in the 70s, my big sister's bright blue eye shadow is one of my few memories from the 80s, and someone else said this was popular in the 90s??? DID THIS TREND SERIOUSLY LAST FOUR DECADES?

@@rhov-anion I still see some old ladies wear blue eyeshadow so maybe it never died off completely

it got me this time. i wibbled a bit at vada's reaction to thomas jay's death, but thaaaat hit me hard

Same. Was not prepared.

Same. every time i see her head tilts that tiny bit and her look on her face. i cry. bawl my eyes out so much.

I always cry during this movie but this was the first time that part got me.

I found her a month after my mom died and felt the same way. Caitlin really helped me grieve. Lots of love to you and I'm so sorry for your loss.

My best friend died last august. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing

I'm so sorry for your loses A. Brooke, Lediona, Minette.... And so many others here. Please take it one day at a time, and please remember them in the pictures, not the casket - words given to me casket side of my own friend by his father.

I've never seen the movie, but I've seen the "his glasses, he can't see without his glasses" in random clips, so I was prepared for that. And then she hit me with "he was going to be an acrobat" and now I'm ugly crying. Let¨s just appreciate what a strange yet perfect choice that is, though. Wouldn't work with "doctor". Wouldn't work with "singer". Wouldn't work with "firefighter" or "football player" or literally any other standard aspirational profession for lil kids. ACROBAT. Goddamn it movie stab me in the heart why don't you

@@zprouk3091 , How dare you have not seen this movie. It's a good movie. Watch.

YES! I started crying (and I’m at work!)

Thanks to this channel, I was the only person who'd had the tough conversations with my mum and i was the only one who had that info when she passed. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad xxx

I remember being told that my grandma had died unexpectedly and it was my first experience of death. I remember the only thing I could do was just to say “oh…ok” and just go sit down and stare blankly at the wall. I only started to begin to feel any sort of recognisable emotion about 10 hours later

@@edsayshey3314 I did the same thing when I lost my father to suicide. I just went into my room and sat on my bed in shock.

Yeah that scene really did blow me away, she really did a great job in trying to convey how kids or early teens take in death. I was 5 when I encountered my first family death. Yeah you just don't understand that you'll never see that person alive again. Then it just sinks in. It's a hard thing to live through, but to act it honestly, she did a fantastic job

@@mylovesongs2429 me too. i couldn’t believe it was real

I didn’t immediately breakdown when I learned my grandmother was dead. I knew it was coming, but I still went numb & did the impression of a goldfish… I was relieved she was no longer suffering, unsure if I was glad or upset I hadn’t been by her bedside when it finally happened, nervous about what would happen next-ran the whole gamut before the sadness & tears made their appearance. This moment where she doesn’t immediately respond with tears hits differently as an adult who now has an instance where she remembers this moment & reaction of everything but tears.

It's also hee debut acting gig. She totally bailed it

@@dirtyfiendswithneedles3111 1. not your trauma, not your business. 2. I worked as a veterinary technician where I assisted in countless euthanasia of companion animals. We always ask if there are kids in the family because it’s healthy for them to learn about death and being there when their pet is passing. We always recommend that any kids be there. Learning about death at a young age in a safe environment actually helps. 3. There are even Thanatology classes and books on the subject. As someone who was accepted into a MS Thanatology program (and turned it down cause I unfortunately can’t afford it), I’m not an expert. But the curriculum had classes on life stages and grief. THN 707: Suicide and Children, Teens, and Young Adults THN 703: Developmental Perspectives in Thanatology: Children, Teens, and Emerging Adults (3 credits) www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Children's-Books-on-Death-Dying/zgbs/books/3125 Learning about death at a young age helps develop healthier coping mechanism and grief. ✌🏻

I'm so very sorry for your loss 💔😞

A childhood friend of mine passed the same way.....

@@dirtyfiendswithneedles3111 Wtf, dude?

@@Chiller-pc1dv I am so sorry 💔

no fr i was like "i didn't even watch the whole movie why am I crying?"

Right?! What a raw line. I have seen My Girl, once, nearly 2 decades ago (when I was very little), so I didn't remember most of the details. Was still a quick one-two punch to the gut and now im crying. ;n;

#2 hit me so hard, I also burst into tears 😭

Literally same, I’m sitting here crying and I literally saw the scene out of context

@@odangoatama98 exactly

Thank you for sharing. I'm a pediatric resident and having babies die in my hands while doing CPR was beyond what I expected this specialty entailed. I also believe it's more tragic to lose a child than to lose an adult. It surprises me each time whenever I hear people think otherwise.

So many years in pediatric health care... "the cry" of a mother who has lost her child is gut wrenching the true sound of heart break.

I'm glad the world has strong, kind, caring people such as yourselves because I could never do that kind of work. I am not an emotional guy but the cry of a mother that has just lost a child would break me and I'd be a sobbing mess right there with her

This was beautiful to read

I can say you showing your respects at the funerals helped the parents tremendously. When my godson passed away from leukemia at 12, a bunch of the medical staff showed up to the funeral. And maybe not so much in that very moment due to the overwhelming shock and grief, but after everything my best friend had said it meant so much to her. It did to me as well.

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Yes, a ton of bricks takes a while to travel when it hits you out of the blue. When my mom called me to tell me that my aunt, her little sister, had committed suicide, I first didn't recognize her voice as she was sobbing and wailing and screaming in a way I never heard of her before. When she repeated her words I didn't understand her because what she said just didn't make sense to me. Third time I kind of took in the words, but processing them took quite a while. After finishing the phone call, I went back to the living room to my housemate and a friend that was visiting. Told them what happened and then I started to shiver uncontrollably because I felt so damn cold and confused when everything started sinking in. My friends made me drink water and wrapped me in a blanket as I apparently was in a state of shock.

Not even close, but my mom died when I was a baby and until the age of 6, I thought my step-mom was my mom. When my father left and she abandoned me and my sister on the steps of a family member's house (her EXACT words were "they are your problem now") I was so confused. What followed was the most insane weekend of my life. The family member read a letter. [Name of lady] mother of [name of three kids] was killed by a drunk driver on [day of the incident]. Problem was that our hyphenated last name had changed because our stepmother was in the process of adopting us. I thought "the two girls names are similar to ours", but that was it. My sister, who was older (I'm also autistic, so I guess that had to do with the time it took me to comprehend it??) ran out of the room we were in and into the bed we were given to sleep in and started sobbing. I went to her because I didn't understand why she was crying, but I wanted to hug her to make her feel better. She broke down even worse and I was clueless, but started crying because she was so sad and I said "tell me what's wrong so I can fix it" and she said, "that lady on the letter is our mom, our oldest sibling is missing, and our mom, the lady? She is dead." I just sat there... suddenly I couldn't cry. I just sat watching her cry. It bothered me for many years after I grew up. I went to therapy and my therapist asked the million dollar question: had anyone ever explained to you what dead meant? Was that the first time you encountered that word. Yes. It was. I cried that day like a child. I just didn't know what death was.

@PRDreams Wow. You deserved 1000x better than the behavior of the adults you were encountering... ❤️ (Also: your writing reads like a good book, I was hooked for a moment!)

That is just heartbreaking. I'm sorry you went through such a huge loss and life upheaval with no real understanding of what was even happening. That must have been so difficult.

My 2 friends (one of whom was a cousin through marriage) died in a car crash on a morning we were all supposed to go to work together. I wasn't feeling well so I told them to go without me. I got woken up 2 hours later to my friend (one of their boyfriends at the time) saying "she's dead, oh my god, Taylor is dead. And Chey was airlifted to the hospital" my legit response was, "you're joking" as if someone would joke about that kind of thing with such sincerity. I'm still not sure what the hardest part of all that was, realizing they were gone after speaking to them hours before, or realizing that I was supposed to be in the car with them. It's been 6 years, and I still feel guilty that I called out but they went in. (It wasn't bad weather, just a horrible accident)

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Right? That was a huge turn in Vada and Shelly's relationship.

I say it everytime I have my period. Bahaha.

My own mother didn't know about her period when she started at almost 12 years old, on New Year's Day 1961. She woke up with her pajamas soaked and my grandmother (b. 1916) just cleaned her up and gave her a pad to wear, and that was it. No explanation given.

@@bohemianvegan oh dear, she would have been confused. She should have said something haha. My mum and grandma would have been almost the exact same age

I literally can't even talk about this movie without crying. Actually can't say words without getting choked up

Congratulations! I hope you're able to make a positive influence in the industry, or found a place that's already doing that! :D

I'm really happy for you! congratulations 🎊❤️

you HAVE to start a channel called "this will get buried" hahaha

@@justfeckit Ha! I’d follow that channel!

@@justfeckit YES!!!

Me: laughing and crying at the same time cause damn her commentary on the "glasses" line was on point 😭

Yeah that line hit like a speeding freight train.

actually seeing the whole movie, the worst most breaking lines are "where are his glasses? he can't see without his glasses!" I had never ugly cried so much at anything in my life.

Same here - there are few movies I refused to watch and this is one of them. I'm already a crier when it comes to movies so I've actively avoided this one and that Owen Wilson movie with the dog (Marley and Me, I think). I actually hesitated to even watch this RU-vid video, lol. It did make me cry, predictably.

@@crystalrowan same - I can't bring myself to watch Causalities of War with Sean Penn and Michael J Fox

Having seen the film as a child, you are making the right choice! It's been probably 30 years since I've seen it and this video brought it all back.

If you search on her channel it's called "America's First Cremation Was WILD". (And it has over a million views but imo all of her videos deserve more lol)

Last time our city flooded I saw some parents letting their kids play in the creek and no one got my Bridge to Terabithia joke.

@@lh3540 Big oof... I'd have made the same joke in an instant thou

@@azuradawn5683 oh yeah, no. As soon as this video finished I went right to that one... the queen says the video doesn't have enough views? I got you, your highness.

ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5pdq_4FJuR8.html America's first cremation was WILD

Even during watching her watch it - I’m a sobbing mess 😭😭😭

@@CMCGDavis same

It makes me a mess too. My girl, bridge to terebithia, beaches and the cure all do it.

I just got teary AGAIN. That scene.....

I uhhhhh got sand in my eye. Yup. 😢😭