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We’re Waiting to Have Sex (How Do We Set Boundaries?)
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@crystalmast3973 2 года назад

You will never regret waiting. My husband and I have been married going on 24 years. We have no regrets of waiting till marriage and the trust it creates is incredible.

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

If he could say no to you, he could say no to all the bimbos

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

That’s fine, and I don’t regret not waiting. My husband is my best friend

@lovely1641 2 года назад

Congrats on 24 years

@JR-wu8gf 2 года назад

Husband gets it all out the system on those business trips 😂

@sobeliever1638 2 года назад

@@JR-wu8gf only men who are dogs think all men are dogs

@andreathompson9605 2 года назад

When i was in college everyone around me was pushing me to have sex. I kept saying no. My boyfriend broke up with me. It was a great lesson.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

He did you a favour ♥️

@kathyalex778 2 года назад

Better than to end up with an STD, broken heart when the dude leaves after a hookup, and become pregnant before you’re ready!!! Sex has just too many consequences for us to treat it like it’s nothing.

@Ruth-vy1qj Год назад

I’m glad u didn’t give into the peer pressure. They didn’t had ur best interest.

@judithstewart4249 6 месяцев назад

Purity issues screwed with my brain for a long time. “Dirty” and “clean” is a bad bad dichotomy. I like how Dr. J handled this.

@bmbb608 2 года назад

It's worth the wait. Married for 33 years this September- a relationship built on love, respect, affection and honoring each other. I wouldn't change the counter- cultural choice we made to wait for anything in the world. Six lovely grown children who have been given the gift of seeing what a relationship built on solid ground, and not fleeting feelings looks like.

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

AMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEN

@kevinjackson8011 2 года назад

I see a lot of ppl saying essentially “sex is a small thing in the relationship “. I think it’s important to understand how dangerous that assumption is because if someone steps outside of the marriage for sex, is it still a “small thing”?

@NeeNee_B. 2 года назад

No, but it's not the sex that's the big thing in that scenario, it's thr broken trust. Once you involve a 3rd party in ANY intimate relationship (not just a sexual one), you've gone to a new level. You can compromise on sex; I've never heard of anyone successfully compromising on trust

@britneyog9537 2 года назад

Yuuup

@Price8903 2 года назад

It’s not small, ppl are small minded if they think such.

@Nah-ah 2 года назад

Context is everything! Sex is a small thing in my relationship meaning it’s not a big issue if my husband wants it 7 days a wk, or twice a month. I can provide that, no problems! Having sex outside of marriage is a big thing bc he now broke our marriage values.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@Nah-ah if it's a small thing that would mean that people wouldn't be divorcing because of sex incompatibilities or lack of it as the number one reason. You're wrong on that

@oatmealtruck7811 2 года назад

I think it’s great they want to wait. I see a lot of people saying “what if they wait and they’re not sexually compatible?”, and that’s a fair concern. If they have sexual difficulties, that’s something they’ll need to work through. Married couples who didn’t wait may become [seemingly] incompatible down the road, and that’s something they’ll need to work though. It’ll be a lot easier to address those difficulties if there’s a foundation of love, respect, and trust. If they both value waiting until marriage, then that’s a shared moral, and that can help build the type of relationship needed. (Also, it’s totally possible that they’ll have instant and amazing sexual chemistry!)

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

I guess I lucked out. My husband and I were a hookup (friends for 4 years before that) after a long bout of celibacy on both of our ends .. we just decided to do it one day and one thing led to another. A few weeks after we were in a relationship .. a few months later we were married .. we have a very stable marriage and that man is my best friend. He’s a great partner an awesome stepdad, provider, sweet caring .. so far so good

@oatmealtruck7811 2 года назад

@@weekendnomad5038 That’s wonderful! Wishing you a lifetime of love!

@Snappypantsdance Год назад

@@weekendnomad5038 wow, amazing story:)

@gbear34 7 месяцев назад

I agree, you can work to become sexually compatible. It's not a true or false equation. That's all that marriage is, putting in effort to take steps towards the person you've chosen to love and cherish for life!

@alisonfraser8231 4 месяца назад

I think you can tell if the chemistry is there without going to the bedroom.

@rebeccaoprea9917 2 года назад

That’s amazing that people still want to wait . Discipline is the highest form of self love . Anyone can give into temptation .

@BboyRacing Год назад

Yes. Thats me. Im a sinner.

@swiftkarma4436 Год назад

@@BboyRacinguntil I decided to be celibate it was me too but I was no sinner as not everyone shares the same faith/beliefs

@samanthac.349 Месяц назад

I like John’s advice. Let the sex conversation be about honoring each other and consent. It’s also a great exercise in communication, which is a _big deal_ in marriage. Every great marriage has excellent communication.

@alisonfraser8231 4 месяца назад

The things he calls “values” are plans. Values are what guides you in decisions, not the choices themselves.

@Girlgonewise 2 года назад

My husband and I waited. We have NO regrets. Been married for almost 20 years. I hope all my children wait til marriage, it’s worth it.

@millsathn 2 года назад

What’s the point?

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@millsathn sexual partners before marriage increase the chances for divorce according to studies. And people don't forget their first experience. The couple bonds more when their first experience is their only. After that , the body bonds less and less to the next sexual partner. Sex which is supposed to be the glue of the couple alongside friendship, trust, love ends up losing its hold. So the couple loses one of its relationship pillar. •another good thing is that they have no comparison to make or other people to think about they are present for each other during intimacy. They take the pressure of performance out of sex. It just becomes something they do out of love. They have more interest to explore each other and together than to assume what the other wants because of the ex , or to make them conform to the ex. •thirdly, they can trust each other faithfulness, if they could resist the temptation to break their own decision out of love for each other, they won't betray their marriage vows for someone, •fourthly, a marriage has a stronger foundation, they spent time creating memories, getting to know each other better, becoming friends, they develop a life that allows them to communicate with each other and enjoy doing things together something most couple don't do in marriage, most can't even hold a conversation, And this way when the sex drive ends as they get older, their marriage won't die as well because sex was the only thing they held on to in their marriage. Or if one isn't as good anymore the other won't go looking because the love and understanding they've built together could make even a kiss the deepest beautiful thing they've ever felt. The more empty the relationship, the more crazy and over the top extras people need during sex. The richer the relationship, the less extras are required, a simple caress could be enough to provoke a billion emotions.

@lolabunny2831 2 года назад

@@dearbrave4183 SO WELL SAID!! THANK YOU!!

@swiftkarma4436 Год назад

@@dearbrave4183i certainly forgot my first experience. In fact I have forgotten a lot ot things in life🤷🏾‍♀️

@marawood3801 Год назад

right. I have nothing to compare it to. Best decision ever. Been married 15 years. He is my one and only.

@debsthriftytips Год назад

Married 20 years and neither of us ever regretted waiting until marriage.

@belindagarza3958 2 года назад

I don't regret waiting either. Married 25 years.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

We waited and I have no regrets.

@KH-nt7ej 2 месяца назад

I didn't wait until I got married. Don't think I could have lasted. Lol. To each his own. Don't regret my decision.

@ceciliaaznaran3317 3 месяца назад

It's a good decision for people who both are ok to wait.

@melissab3217 2 года назад

Waiting is okay, but I think there are some things to be cautious about. Shame can kill a sex life. I know because it happened to me, and I'm struggling with vaginismus that makes sex with my husband too painful. So I like how John seems to understand this and wants to reframe the conversation positively.

@starlingswallow 2 года назад

Melissa, thanks for sharing this! I don't know if you've looked at this but the book "The Great Sex Rescue" is amazing in dealing with so many things, including Vaginismus ♥️ Check it out if you'd like!

@kellharris2491 Год назад

Try a sex therapist. They are trained to help people work through their hang ups about sex. Whether they experienced shame or assualt etc. A lot of other therapists don't have specific training for talking about sex. A sex therapist can really help.

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

I suffer from that too and I chose to stay celibate.

@May-qb3vx 7 месяцев назад

Pelvic floor physical therapy. I have vaginismus and was unable to use a tampon my entire life because of the pain. It’s not just a mental thing and your body isn’t rejecting anyone. It’s a legit muscle issue. Like every muscle group, it needs to be worked with and it is very common among individuals with anxiety issues. It’s something that you’ll always be susceptible to as I am. It involves someone with more tools than most people have because most people have no idea what vaginismus is, let alone what it means and what to do about it.

@melissab3217 7 месяцев назад

@@May-qb3vx yes! I have had some progress with therapy. I also had trouble using tampons growing up.

@sarahhuse9709 2 года назад

The standards should be a coming together of the highest standards of each. Compromising and doing something you don't feel is right (even if you want to do it in the moment) will probably feel icky later. Whatever your standards are you shouldn't compromise them (that goes for any area of life). And denying out desires, even when we feel no conviction personally, is a beautiful way of showing the other person sacrificial love. And I don't think people who wait think sex is unimportant, in fact the opposite, but sex is something that can be worked on and improved if there isn't instant compatibility.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

Good for you guys!♥️ And if you fail don't think you should give up the intention of waiting, you can always start over. it's good for your faith, and your discipline muscle. There are many moments in the couple where sex may not happen, many cheat , if you are capable of waiting that's an important area under your control. Also, to help yourselves it's better to get married than to keep fighting endlessly internally. If you love each other, the most important thing is to be together, the show is secondary, it doesn't have to be costly or big. It can just be intimate. All the best!♥️

@Lilac914 Год назад

We waited for sex until marriage and on our wedding night I found out that my husband has absolutely no idea how to sexually please a woman. He still hasn’t figured it out after 18 years, and has no desire to. 🙄 waiting is not always a great thing.

@madlaz5795 Год назад

Did you not have the sex talk? About you two learning each other

@Lilac914 Год назад

@@madlaz5795 how could we? We were both virgins and had no idea about anything related to sex 🤷🏻‍♀️

@sfappetrupavelandrei Год назад

I feel that this is less a waiting until marriage problem and more of a common marriage problem. I won't say anything else because I don't want to offend anyone.

@primeparadox9796 Год назад

If he has no desire to please you, he’s the problem. Not the wait.

@westaussieeggs8867 4 месяца назад

Absolutely, my best sex experiences were before marriage. I was virtually on fire, I needed just a kiss, a touch and I was climaxing. (I am not going to give you my age at that time, you would be absolutely shocked, ) During marriage it was ok at the beginning later sort of "really worked at it", never the spontaneous joy of pre marriage. I obliged for 39 years and finally put a stop to it when at the age of 59 it was too painfull to bear. I know he misses it, told me so but I am NOT going to sacrifice my health, wellbeing for his physical pleasure. Married 52 years

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

We went to the courthouse at 11 months and signed a declaration of informal marriage . You are legally married and can always have a big wedding later .. it was nice bc it WAS JUST FOR US no drama. The times I’ve “waited” I wasn’t sure about the person. My husband and I were initially a hookup 🤷🏻‍♀️ coworkers first after a bout of celibacy on my end

@jeradkiester698 2 года назад

Caller, try to get an Accounting concentration. Business Administration is the British Literature degree of the business world... especially if your wife will be a lawyer, you'll need to up that earning potential to pay off her loans when she wants to be a stay-at-home mom in 7 yrs.

@jdboyd1861 2 года назад

Underrated comment

@mxusa8383 2 года назад

He’s in big trouble if he actually marries her and he’s some low level manager and she is a lawyer. She will divorce him or cheat on him. He’s chasing and thinking marriage when he should just be chasing tail and skills and money right now. Marriage and kids shouldn’t even be on the radar for him in his young 20’s.

@GUITARTIME2024 2 года назад

Not before the junior partner makes a move on her.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@mxusa8383 if she was a cheating type, she wouldn't be waiting to have sex after marriage. This says a lot about both their characters. However, I don't know so much about the effect of their different professions

@Snappypantsdance Год назад

Good point:)

@BW_Reformation 2 года назад

“Shame eats secrets for breakfast.” 🤯🤯🤯

@carip285 10 месяцев назад

I did not wait, and I wish I did. 🥺

@ghostophelia2245 3 месяца назад

I didnt wait and im glad i did. It gave me the life experience i needed at the time and i wouldve never been with or found my husband. I probably wouldve married my ex and been in an abusive relationship just out of horniness like a lot of my peers did. I hope your ok and dont have too much shame and regret. ❤

@kiethmergard 2 года назад

It's interesting to hear Dr. John say all these things. I especially liked the part where he talked about setting boundaries.

@marcanthonyrodriguez3636 2 года назад

No sleepovers … not even in pajamas .

@dakotasikes6690 Год назад

Waiting works 2 ways either its amazing or ya build up such a this is how its gonna go and then ya feel cheated

@timsentsov7282 Год назад

Abstinence is underrated

@aarondavid5866 5 месяцев назад

so is being scared and repressed of sex and controlled by a cult

@beaverdalehawk 4 месяца назад

Abstinence is overrated

@starlingswallow 2 года назад

I didn't wait for marriage and I do regret that. I was in a marriage later that was abusive and then I was sexually neglected for years. I think my hymen grew back! 🤣🤣 My second marriage, we waited until the wedding night (we'd still made out before then but had strong boundaries) and it was soooo worth it! Society paints sex in marriage as if it gets worse as time goes by~ that's a lie. If you both are givers and have fun exploring one another, and recognize that both peoples pleasure matters, it gets better and better!! A great book to read is The Great Sex Rescue! Highly recommend it! Especially if you've had abuse in the bedroom in your past ♥️

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

"I think my hymen grew back" 🤣🤣🤣

@lynnebucher6537 2 года назад

I've never waited and can say that sex before marriage is a huge deterrent to clear thinking. I wish I'd been more discriminate than I was. Should have shown more respect for myself.

@ChopChic1 2 года назад

My husband and I waited till marriage. It wasn’t always easy, but there are things you can do such as: not sleep over, keep busy doing fun things together and maybe have a short engagement. Can I add that the woman has to be the strongest one in this and hold her boundaries. A good man will honor her wishes, but if the woman isn’t strong, a man will easily be swayed by her. All things are possible with God and a mutual commitment to achieving your goals.

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

Your statement puts undo pressure on the woman and holds her more responsible. You are basically saying if the couple gives in to sex it is the shame of the woman that should have been stronger. Basically the whole archaic Adam and Eve story. Adam tried to blame Eve because she tempted him, and God was having none of that. The responsibility is EQUAL. Period.

@theshunnedBandersnatch 2 года назад

Why does the woman have to be the stronger one in this? If they both want to wait until marriage to have sex, shouldn't they _both_ be equally responsible in respecting each other's boundaries?

@ChopChic1 2 года назад

@@theshunnedBandersnatch Because women typically have a bit more self control when it comes to sex. I thought that was obvious, but in these ridiculously "progressive"/zero common sense days we're living in, I suppose I have to spell everything out. I never said they weren't equally responsible for respecting boundaries.

@ChopChic1 2 года назад

@@aimeeglatt3299 I actually never said what you accused me of, but nice try. Women have more self-control in regards to sexual matters. WHY is that offensive? You woke people are exhausting. Take offense to everything under the sun and arguing just to argue. Try reading carefully next time and not wasting people's times by accusing them of saying things they never said.

@emmawilkey2345 2 года назад

Not always my husband has more control than I did and he was the one to have more control. That is just What I Society says. There are two different sex drive types. One gets in the mood just by thinking of it and another is you need to be physically turned on first and me and my husband are opposites so we have to work though that I can just think of it and want it.

@meganelizabethmoon 5 месяцев назад

I don't agree with the idea of waiting till after marriage to have sex. Sex is important to any relationship, and much like it's important to find compatibility with a prospective partner, it's important to confirm compatibility in this area too. I'm not suggesting that people should rush into having sex with a new prospective partner, but rather to thoroughly evaluate how good of match a couple is for each other in all areas in a healthy and respectful manner.

@AwakenTheEarth Месяц назад

It CAN backfire horribly. People stay in relationships because they're religious oftentimes

@justinmiller576 2 года назад

was I lame?? no way my mom loved you! 😂😂

@jeanlaubenthal698 2 года назад

Law school changes a person and is an intense career …they don’t have much time for a relationship during or even after law school while in the thick of career building…it is like they are married to the law. Have you considered going to law school also? Waiting should not speed you up to the alter. Figuring out if the lives you each envision match. Law students/Lawyers can get quite contractual with relationships so I recommend you learn how to negotiate. LOL he probably wouldn’t get much sex while married to a law student/lawyer anyway.

@johnnyappleman7159 2 года назад

You don't need to feel shame for imposing an artificial social regulation on an emotional relationship with someone you value. There's nothing wrong with anyway of conducting your relationship as long as there isn't harm. If you choose to follow this path or another it is irrelevant you should just connect to what will bring you the most long term joy and satisfaction.

@yingyang7448 2 года назад

I agree.

@swiftkarma4436 Год назад

I concur

@emmafinke4931 2 месяца назад

Why is John so against acknowledging that sin exists, especially since he’s already talking to a Christian?

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

Ohhhh thats easy, the best boundary to ensure it never happens before marriage...DO NOT be alone with each other

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

Sorry, it’s NEVER healthy to marry someone that you’ve literally never been alone with. That’s creepy as hell. Everyone acts differently around other people - you wouldn’t even truly know the person!

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

@@aimeeglatt3299 Talk to their parents and friends, they will tell you.

@alexatedw 2 года назад

@@zeal4god402 lol

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

Never kiss either as a boundary. Wait it out. Best to just write notes.

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

@@JustinCase780 Not kissing is an excellent boundary too. 😗. Kissing is highly likely to lead to more exploration as sexual tension heightens The person is likely to be a great kisser if you and the person have the conversations about expectations and as time flows, you will get a better idea of the romantic mindset of the person. There will likely be regular verbal flirtations between the two, so you will pick up more on cues

@kathleenberg9168 2 года назад

Get married

@lilolmecj Год назад

Sex is not dirty.

@brightpage1020 2 года назад

Get married so you can screw the boundaries.

@brightpage1020 2 года назад

No pun intended.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

It is about honoring God and not crossing his line first, and yes staying clean before God. Then figuring out what that is exactly for the two of you. The Bible says to flee from a sexual temptation, so being together alone would not be wise.

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

Exactly and the big guy in the sky is always watching so we much oblige 24/7/365!!

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

Like a parent setting boundaries it is for our own protection. Once you understand you happily oblige.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@JustinCase780 Yes God is watching but it's still your decision. Look at you! You decided otherwise!

@ivanvargas2425 2 года назад

Prob the worst comment I’ve ever heard. Unless you like someone watching you have sex?

@LayingDownLambert 3 месяца назад

Wish we waited

@nadinefay1560 4 месяца назад

Apparently men achieved great things without doing the wild thing. Channel that energy into something useful like building, inventing something to aid humanity

@amiramahgoub 10 месяцев назад

I don't mind to discuss it with my partner, I also like to talk about it before our marriage. He could find me attractive, easy walk person and advantageous, but the reality is it's hard to come together in the same bed after all the excitement we had! By the way I couldn't stay with him longer.. .

@jim2386 Год назад

Yep no regrets waiting here. How to go about it? Don’t put your hoo hoo in the cha cha. Done.

@thejakelegion 2 года назад

All the people who slept around showing their anger in this thread. 😂 Don't hate those of us who waited just because we made good choices and stop telling us all how much you "don't regret" your choices. You do or you wouldn't be in this thread justifying yourselves. 😊

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

Where is the "anger" on this thread? NONE. Dude, maybe you are projecting a bit. 😅🤣

@mightymouse9001 2 года назад

We could say the same thing about the people justifying waiting. You must have super regretted it deep down to get on here to preach on your “good decisions”

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@mightymouse9001 hahaha no. It's actually beautiful that's why it's encouraged. Libido goes down eventually, a relationship that is primarily built on sex suffers greatly when this happens because the couple becomes strangers. They never built a friendship, never learnt to communicate , solve problems, get to know each other better and enjoy each other company without touching. Now once the sex is over they are done. In fact they are done before the sex is over because they don't even like each other company and they can't even have a conversation. So their sex is all performance not intimacy because they neither know nor like each other.

@mightymouse9001 2 года назад

@@dearbrave4183 it’s sad to think so little of people. You really equate having sex before marriage as guaranteed to not be able to build a functioning relationship. If you had to force yourself to wait because you think you wouldn’t like your partner otherwise and you think everyone is like that, that says more about you than it does others.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@mightymouse9001 no this is reality. Most couples, most parents barely talk. But for some reasons they've made children.

@GUITARTIME2024 2 года назад

Something isn't adding up.

@pcharm3711 5 месяцев назад

Could you imagine waiting until after marriage and you find out they are a dead fish and they have ED😂

@reckonerwheel5336 4 месяца назад

There was a Reddit post where a newlywed wife was upset that her husband was rejecting her months after their wedding, then the husband finally told her he had ED. She was very annoyed that he never told her, and her attraction to him left not because he had an ED, but because he let her think she was undesirable, and that his value placed on waiting for marriage was only from insecurity. Brutal.

@gilmendoza8092 2 года назад

If sex sucks the marriage will suck. Change my mind

@Jay-lz6uj 2 года назад

Don't get married or have any children.

@davidjonburke2729 2 года назад

100 percent true

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

Marriage counselors will readily tell you that a dead bedroom is a dead marriage unless BOTH partners equally don’t like sex. It’s usually one spouse refusing to give and the other is miserable

@mxusa8383 2 года назад

If you’re not having sex on a regular basis you’re not solving problems on a regular basis.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

No If the marriage sucks then sex sucks. Plus if you love God and each other you'll be good.

@lovely1641 2 года назад

I see some of the comments going :"absolutely DON'T wait", "it's just sex, it's natural why wait" and so on but people understand not overeating, they understand not stealing or actually doing work when the boss is not paying attention so why is something that carries the risk of pregnancy and stds(and super stds..ew) something we suddenly can't control ourselves over especially if it is for good reasons?

@Price8903 2 года назад

Most ppl say that because they may be promiscuous or lack sense. You’re giving your body up temporarily and sharing it with someone else; it’s absolutely important.

@alisonfraser8231 4 месяца назад

Why does everyone bring up STD? They are going to catch it when they eventually marry and get together, lol. I doubt it matters in this scenario,

@eatpigsnot 2 года назад

i never understood how god could hardwire everyone for sex, make it mentally and physically beneficial for all, pleasurable for all, then restrict sex to married people knowing full well it is not logistically and mathematically possible for everyone to marry. am i missing something? if you never marry are you supposed to die a virgin? i realize not every couple is two people of the same age but for discussions sake, it is morally ok for two 20 year olds who dated a month and married to have sex, but morally not ok for two 30, 40, 50, 60, etc... who have been an exclusive couple for years if not decades? it is ok for a married couple who treat their marriage like a toilet, like a landfill, etc... to have sex but not ok for an unmarried couple who cherish their relationship? and what about people not in a relationship at all? they just have to miss the boat entirely? something does not add up

@AP-pm9qy 2 года назад

Not everyone wants to have sex. There are people who are asexual. That aside, sex is not a necessity like food and water. You will not die if you don't have sex. It's about being disciplined and having self control. There are many things in life that seem pleasurable in the short-term but are not beneficial in the long-term.

@eatpigsnot 2 года назад

@@AP-pm9qy there are very small percentage of people who are asexual, but basically human beings are hardwired for sex and derive intense pleasure from it. granted, you will not die without sex but there is endless scientific data re: how healthy sex is mentally and physically and how being celibate is unhealthy. i still do not see the harm in unmarried people having consensual sex. what is so special about being married? i am not against marriage but i despise the notion married people have earned more or are entitled to more simply because they are married, especially when not everyone can marry, wants to marry, or is capable of being a good spouse.

@ghettosex123 Год назад

@@eatpigsnot abortion all time high, std all time high, depression all time high. Gotta love all this casual sex oh and you can die from it

@kellharris2491 Год назад

People focus on the letter of the law and not the spirit of it. The spirit of it was the Lord telling people to love your neighbor as yourself. To love your partner and treat them with respect. If you do that then you treat sex as special and don't abuse each other. If you have a child together then you work together to support them. Mankind doesn't understand this. The focus on the moment pleasure and lust. They then abuse and mistreat each other. Their child is abandoned or suffers without two parents. This is why the Lord said to wait till you're committed and love each other.

@eatpigsnot Год назад

@@kellharris2491 "This is why the Lord said to wait till you're committed and love each other." That still does not address the issues of people who do not want to marry or who are simply left out. Logistically and mathematically there is not a lid for every pot

@kpas22105 Год назад

This is ideal but both partners need information about their future spouses sexual history. If a guy has been with many many women why should you believe that he will suddenly be satisfied with just one woman and why would he be willing to wait? If a woman has an adventurous history with many partners and all of a sudden they are engaged and are born again virgins? That crap doesn’t fly and it totally emasculates the future husband

@LalienX 2 года назад

Imagine getting married only to find out there is zero sexual chemistry between y'all

@BW_Reformation 2 года назад

Marriage isn’t about sex.

@maam-yj8ph 2 года назад

Imagine having sex and then a child out of wedlock only to find out there are zero mutual values and respect between ya'll. Except you don't have to, cuz that's the hell we're already living in.

@LalienX 2 года назад

@@BW_Reformation It's not but it's a big part of it. What if you weren't sexually attracted to your spouse? That would be hell on earth.

@jeradkiester698 2 года назад

@@BW_Reformation tell me your partner is sexually starved without telling me your partner is sexually starved.

@davidjonburke2729 2 года назад

well for religious folks i guess sex isnt important

@Girlgonewise 2 года назад

Why not just get married instead of burning with desires to be together? That’s what the bible tells us to do….

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

True , I guess maybe they can't afford it at the moment. Who knows... But I think it's better to make something simple and beautiful, than wait on the extravagant and burn to death or betray their vows

@Girlgonewise 2 года назад

@@dearbrave4183 All the need is a courthouse. Even if they could afford an extravagant wedding, that money would be better spent on a home.

@arlenefisher1164 Год назад

@@Girlgonewise Not even that. They could just be married by a pastor/priest with 2 witnesses.

@maxmaximum-sh4bx 3 месяца назад

For the algorithm

@millsathn 2 года назад

There is absolutely no point in waiting. What is this madness.

@Snappypantsdance Год назад

Maybe you’re young and haven’t seen consequences from sex yet? You might talk to people or even just google consequences of sex. It can be heavy!

@millsathn Год назад

@@Snappypantsdance 35 years old and married 😉

@aarondavid5866 5 месяцев назад

boundaries? wtf

@sakurisake4201 2 года назад

Geez Christians and their virginity. There may be marital issues. It is so over rated.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@Sakuri Sake imagine! these Christians who aren't following the non Christian perfect marital example. Geez having to control their sexual impulses like a kid who won't obsess over chocolate. It's so overrated.

@davidjonburke2729 2 года назад

sex is a beautiful thing, its the greatest gift we have as humans, this really makes me sad.

@davidjonburke2729 2 года назад

@cacerpop ok beefcake

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

I agree!

@sobeliever1638 2 года назад

So dramatic. Of all the things in the world to be sad about🤣As sad as prostitutes,babies being born to teenagers who can't take cate of them because they could not wait? threesomes,orgies?

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

Sex with your spouse is a beautiful thing.

@lynnebucher6537 2 года назад

Yes but if it's important to both of them to wait until marriage then I think that's a cool thing that will bring them closer together.

@tritosac 2 года назад

Waiting like that is bad. What if there is no compatibility? He could have a square peg and she might have a round hole. Or he might have a round peg and she has a small square hole and that still won't work.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

When both of them love God and love each other, they will be good. Plus you can tell just from a touch. Plus you learn and grow together.

@tritosac 2 года назад

@@yesorno1768 Sure ok whatever.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

So you want your spouse to compare you to the other sex partners?

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@tritosac nope. The woman's body is shaped by the first man she knows. Whatever he is will satisfy her. And he will be satisfied by her All these problems of not fitting happen after multiple partners but they won't have that problem since they are each other's first.

@aladyknight 2 года назад

I love Delony, but it’s important to remember that being clean and pure is important and only God gets to determine that- not an online personality. It might not be trending terminology anymore, but it does matter.

@jonheredia8789 2 года назад

Cool...lots of sex talk...you go boy...hit that spot

@HitmanChase 2 года назад

Sex is healthy for you bro. Why wait?

@HitmanChase 2 года назад

@@juniorgod321 yessir!

@Jay-lz6uj 2 года назад

Because this is a Christian channel and they believe on waiting.

@MrOlu109 2 года назад

It gets very unhealthy when you have sex with multiple partners and you diminish the weight of it. Sex is a gift that is for a man and his wife. Outside those parameters, lots of people can get hurt. You only need to look at baby mamas/fathers to see that's true.

@mxusa8383 2 года назад

Oh she’s definitely not waiting you can bet on that! She’s been worked over every which way by the weekend in college and telling the “good boy” that we should wait! Lol she’s lining him up for her marriage title and kids on the weekends while getting plowed during the week! There’s no way she’s not getting all kinds of sausage thrown at her all week and not sampling the ones that look good to her! Lol The church girls are some of the easiest

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@HitmanChase because he has discipline, because it's not the right timing? There are so many healthy things for you to do that you aren't doing for various reasons.

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

This total control approach is not healthy. Don't be surprised if your daughter ends up stripping. 🤣

@swiftkarma4436 Год назад

Sure doesn't help one bit

@johniii8147 2 года назад

I don’t think he’s gonna be that good at sex anyway. When you’re too uptight about it is rarely that good.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

Seriously? You do realize people learn plus each person likes different things. So when your married you specialize in want your spouse likes.

@johniii8147 2 года назад

@@yesorno1768Unfortunately that's often not the case. And waiting 7 months that should actually be a warning sign by that point. There is a big part of the story not being told here.

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

Well in healthy marriage it is true. But yeah plenty of unhealthy ones out there.

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

@@johniii8147 that's not the case if you haven't had multiple partners

@johniii8147 2 года назад

@@dearbrave4183 That didn't really make any sense, what did you mean?

@73odus Год назад

Christians would be wise to seek godly counsel from the Bible only. Just a thought.

@cece1907 2 года назад

Why not just get married? I think western cultures wait too long and it leads to sin. Even the Bible says if you can’t contain your passions then get married instead of sinning. I don’t get waiting a year, 2 years especially when you’re not being intimate that entire time. Tbh it’s not even healthy

@K_M.G 5 месяцев назад

All the used up 304s in the comment section trying to convince us that waiting isn't a good idea. Chile, bye. 😂😂😂

@tritosac 2 года назад

You got to take the car for a TEST DRIVE before you buy it!

@yesorno1768 2 года назад

So you want your spouse to compare you to all the other people they had sex with and then marry you if you are good?

@enigma4526 2 года назад

people aren't cars :)

@dearbrave4183 2 года назад

Luckily they aren't cars and no test drive will be needed. Also if that was the guarantee for marriage, prostitution would have ended, all will be married. They are paid for being good in that aspect. Or couples who enjoy that aspect would always marry, and we know this is not true.

@haley7266 2 года назад

If you need to know how sex with your partner in order to choose to stay with them and love them, you don't really love them. Sex will fade, commitment to loving one another will sustain.

@tritosac 2 года назад

@@haley7266 Yeah. No that's not true. A woman I was madly in love with left me because I was no longer able to satisfy her and she even mentioned she prefers men over 6 feet tall. I am only 5'9. I thought we had chemistry and she really loved me for me anyways besides my looks. Good thing we didn't marry first.

@24collin24Collin 2 года назад

According to some religions it is considered unclean to participate in certain activities. It would be a very bigoted thing to say that religious people should not express that.

@MrBrewman95 2 года назад

What about oral? I can wait for regular intercourse but need it from time to time.

@aisherwasher6959 2 года назад

If youre looking at it from a religious context (assuming your comment isn't a joke), then the problem isn't necessarily having sex before marriage. The problem is the lusting after and forming intimacy with someone who you're not committed to. Therefore oral and other alternates are discouraged to a similar extent as sex itself