We Argue Too Much | Therapy Thursday | Issac Curry 

If You we're Listening to This effectively (correctly); You heard This for yourSELF and not someone else 👀............

👂🏾- *The Best Communication is 2 People Trying to Listen Instead of Talking* _That's how you get through the tough parts and gain understanding_

listening from AZ in 2024 😊

I need to communicate better and not think everyone understands and process the information the same way I do.... Amen.....

We Argue Too Much | Therapy Thursday | Issac Curry Communication is to the relationship what blood is to the body. What did you understand based on what was communicated to you? Whenever there is clear communication, you can do anything. The devil loves for you to be in an atmosphere or climate where you don’t understand the other person. Relationships have failed because some haven’t mastered effective communication. 1. You’re not as good as a communicator as you think you are. Arguments were never meant to be won; they were meant to be understood. Our greatest issue is we are trying to win the argument but lose the person. The greatest goal should be to understand. You can be right and still wrong. Communication isn’t just sending the message but assuring the receiver receives what was sent. We’re not as concerned on what will be received but more on sending it. What did you hear me say? The very foundation of communication is language. It’s only effective if both the receiver & sender comprehend the message. A man is facts based off of logic. A woman native language is intuition, emotions & feelings. He speaks his logic. She interprets through her heart. He’s speaking through his head, she’s speaking through her heart. You have to learn to become bilingual. Learn how to speak in the other person’s language. 2. Your filter is faulty. You experienced trauma or hurt. You haven’t healed. You’re wounded. Your trauma or experience has shaped your ears. Now that your ears have been shaped, all you hear is offense. You’re going to hear dishonesty, gossip, etc. 3. You weren’t taught how to disagree well. We replicate the patterns learned from our parents. It is learned behavior. Some fight or cuss when they disagree. Some haven’t seen people disagree and not still talk, gossip, etc. Dysfunction is always needing a yes or no because you disagreed. You might’ve been taught when you disagree to be mad around the house, avoid the person, etc. Some people let you have your way because if you don’t, you pout, you stomp, or you cry. It’s okay to disagree. It’s good for your soul. Learn to receive the feedback well. We can hurt each other’s feelings and still speak how we feel or what’s on our heart. You can’t go to sleep and act like nothing never happened. Just because you don’t talk about it doesn’t mean it is resolved. 4. You’re not a great listener. Listening is a life skill. It needs to be developed. It has been ingrained in our psyche to speak and get our point across by any means necessary. Speak until you are heard. Jesus asked probing questions. He listened for the answers. Then based upon the answers, healings or blessings were a byproduct. He listened intently. He listened to what we had to say. We are taught when we enter into a conversation or disagreement, to choose to listen or understand first almost feels like I am losing. Be swift to hear, and slow to speak. Listen defensively, selectively, when we feel like it. Then when we’re done being a terrible listener, we want that same person to hear everything we have to say. Wow. In order to grow spiritually, we have to become a better listener. Work on listening in the natural in order to excel in the spirit. 5. You’re unaware or don’t understand your argument style or of you. It helps to understand how we are perceived. -The Competitor Points out the flaws in the other person. They like to argue. Relationships are a school board and they are always trying to perfect the other person but don’t hold themselves accountable. -The Dominator Usually takes charge in the conversation. If you’re not careful, they will speak to the point where the other person can’t catch up. The one who is owning or controlling the conversation. -The Avoider They pretends they he or she is cool and doesn’t have a problem. They suppress what they are feeling. They want to keep the peace. So they never share what’s on their heart. They do this until they bubble up and explode because they are avoiding the way they feel. -The Accommodator People pleaser. They want to accommodate the other person, they don’t like conflict, they don’t want the other person to be upset, they don’t like to argue. They will say yes, apologize, do whatever they have to do because they don’t want abandonment. -The Offender No matter what happens, they feel it as an attack. They have a comeback for everything that was said. Defensive, hard to be held accountable. -The Stone Waller They will shut down and withdraw. They will give you the silent treatment. -The Collaborator They consider the entire situation and the feelings of the other person. They move in empathy; they seek to understand before they seek to be understood. This is the goal. Where there is knowledge is obedience. Inability to release control, lack of self awareness, trauma that experienced and encountered is why you argue so much.

Communication is like blood in the body…WHOA!! Wow!! Thank you!!!

Since coming across "Therapy Thursday" the healing and growth I have received can't be measured. Grateful to GOD for this series. I'm always looking for enlightenment and I have gotten that with every message. Please continue these. May GOD bless you and yours. Thank you! I will continue to share with my tribe. 🙏🏾🏆💯💙

You must gain UNDERSTANDING.❤

AMEN. IT'S THAT SPIRIT OF OFFENSE, THAT LEADS TO THE SPIRIT OF UNFORGIVENESS. WE GOT TO LET THAT GO, AND WE MUST PRAY AGAINST THAT SPIRIT OF OFFENSE. THE BIBLE SAYS DON'T BE EASILY OFFENDED.

God is seriously showing out on me this week😊 His always on time😍. Had a miscommunication situation last week, and it's been just over a week of no phone conversations which is really foreign to myself and the person involved, but not due to an argument, but miscommunication😕. I've prayed on it, and asked God for clarity and exactly a week to the day....this message✅💡✔. Glory to the King😍 To say I'm forever grateful is an understatement. I thank God for your ministry brother Isaac, and this platform Mr and Mrs Flowers...and pray God continue to use you as his a beacon to guide the nation💞. This word has given me clarity even as an Empath, and I feel I have just packed another weapon in my Arsenal that I can use for his Glory. Blessings and Love xx From the UK.

I need this for myself I need get back to church before it's too late I must repent my life messed up without God I'm tired sins

I'm listening for the first time from south Africa

Lord Jesus help me to become the “collaborator” in how I communicate with others! Help me to bring empathy and understanding to every discussion that I have. I want to argue better and be a great communicator in the name of Jesus. 🙏🏽

Marriages have been broken because of no communication period......This hits home in every aspect..not being taught the correct way of disagreeing w/ family,siblings,frienfs,etc.

This came out 1yr ago & I just saw this tonight on 1/6/2024. THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU!!! Therapy Thursday is, for lack of a better word, FASCINATING!!! I feel like I received a WHOLE MEAL AND HV NO RM FOR DESSERT!!! I love every episode and the gratitude 🙏🏽 is endless!!! Issac your message has opened my eyes like NEVER B4!!! So many things I WANT TO SAY BUT I’ll leave it right at THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Perfect message for we humans trying to one up each other ♥️

Fruit of the Spirit

I’ll admit you almost lost me because it took u about 6 minutes to get to some teeth to your message. But when you chomped on the message was educational, note worthy , at points provocative and healing. I was definitely able to find my self in ur message today. I look forward to part 2.

Streaming from South Africa 🇿🇦❤️

So many valid points

I needed to hear this whole video! I wish me and my ex would’ve watched this cause we would’ve understood each other so much better

Checking in from Chicago IL

Message was 🔥🔥🔥!

I feel like I’m a great deal of these - depending on the situation and the person

Yes Lord AMEN,

Thank you Pastor Isaac for partnering on Therapy Thursday. I was missing the two sermons/word every week, I'm so glad you stepped in. God has an answer for everything. Thank you for this powerful powerful session! God bless you!

Watching from Michigan!

Thank you God for your words. Thank you pastor Curry. It was powerful and an eye opening message that I really needed to hear. God bless your minister and family.

Sheeew this was sooo vital and needed! Praise God for you Pastor

My first time.

Listening is definitely a life skill👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾I am still learning this with Gods help Amen💯💯💯👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾!!! I tried to talk less🗣 I need clarity before communication

this was so perfect

This was sooo good! Thank you Jesus!

This message has helped me. I've been all of these argumentative types depending on who I was dealing with.

Wow… you taught this Word!!! Communication is everything.

Very good message. I thank you all for doing these messages. I really need them. God knows I do.

Thank you!! I NEEDED this! I’m ready for part 2! Your obedience is making an impact on many lives, keep going 🙏🏼

First time from NC!🎉

I need to listen better😭 thank you so much for this powerful message.

Wow this is so good! Thank you Issac I needed this. Praises to our Lord Jesus for this message.

Pastor we need a part 2!

The very foundation of communication is language

Thanks!

Happy Sunday. Love y’all! It would definitely help if as Isaac is listing the five they can be typed on the screen as well and as you go down the list have the one they currently talking about highlighted so we can know where we are. Hope this is taken into consideration. 💕 God told me specifically to watch all the therapy Thursdays and it has tremendously blessed my life. Keep doing the work of God.

hi this is Sherell Greer from stockton and is now staying in shelter in the Stockton family shelter the singles part believing God to no longer stay in shelters.

This message is much needed!!! Thank you Pastor Issac 🙏

Needed this ❤

My 1st time God bless you. Yes Lord Aman.

I need More on this word, I need this breakdown.

Part two please!!!

OMG...sooo true...

The best talk on communication, this hit home..

AMEN. THANK YOU MY PRECIOUS HOLY SPIRIT. YOU HAVE ALREADY BEEN SHARING MANY OF THESE THINGS WITH ME, WHILE I HAVE BEEN IN MY QUIET PLACE. LORD I THANK YOU FOR THE SEASON THAT YOU HAVE ME IN. IT HAVEN'T ALWAYS BEEN EASY BUT NECESSARY, AND I'M GRATEFUL AND THANK YOU GOD FOR IT. IT HAVE TRULY MADE ME BETTER, STRONGER, WISER, AND MORE BOLD.

SAY IT Pastor Issac!!!!

I needed this and loved this sooooo much part 2 pleaseeee

First time. Georgia. Trying to find my path and came here after hearing some inspirational words that hit my soul and made me cry

Ouch...I needed this. Thank u Lord for this message. God please this ministry. Brother Isaac thank u

I am going to argue better! Thank you so much Isaac Curry, I appreciate how you communicated this ; I noted dang near everything and journaled some of the points in here, I'm so grateful because this was the one thing that I've been needing and looking for, I seeked and found, thank You Father! 🙉👑🤍 Thank you so much for posting! ❤️ God bless you! 😁

Tongue tied! Thank you

I loved this one ❤️

This was good!

Part 2 please !!! This is hitting home !!! I’m claiming Jesus and Therapy message to be able to communicate and argue better !

Streaming from South Africa 🇿🇦 💜 It's not the first time I always watch Pastor Jerry Flowers🙏🏾

Coming for my life tonight!

That's good. What did you hear me say? I can generally grasp what people actually heard, based off of how they responded. Some people just want to be right all of the time, and get consumed with how they are going to respond to you, or just going to hear what they want to hear anyway. Because many of us are very stubborn and self centered. I used to be the same way, in a sense. When God was speaking to me, that's why I missed a LOT of things He was trying to tell me and show me. We must choose to keep it real.

I need this word!!!!

We argue too much!!!

This was great

Streaming from Florida.....

🔥That was as beautiful as it was needed. Thank you 🙏🏾

So good, and on time!! Thank you, Pastor Curry.

We argue TOO much.

So good!! I will definitely listen to this again and again 👀

I'm going to argue better! Amen!

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Great message!

I wished I watched this a long time ago 😢...

Lisssssennnn! We need to be bilingual!!! C'mon here!!!!

thank you 🇧🇸

Camden New Jersey

We argue too much. Me and my husband do not communicate well AT ALL!

Streaming from Jacksonville Florida

So good!!! 🔥🔥🔥

AMEN!!!

This message has really helped me. Thank you!!! Waiting for a part 2😊

We argue too much

All facts!!

I resonate with TashaKeli’s take on this … Surely we have to change strategy especially when arguing/disagreeing with a passive aggressive person … Thank you Isaac … Can’t wait for Part 2 … Hopefully you elaborate further and help us on how best to communicate with different arguing styles … May I suggest you using some Bible characters and definitely how Jesus dealt with this important part of life

Awesome content!! there a part 2 to this!?

This is good! Thank you sir🙏🏾

So good!

Amen

KAREN ZVETINA Greetings from TAMPA!!!!!

Amen!!!!!!

Connecticut

😭😭😭LORD,HELP ME! TAKE THE YOKE OF BONDAGE FROM AROUND MY NECK!!!

I'm going to argue well!!🙏🏾🙏🏾

We argue to much

I’m going to argue better!

Yes the Holy Spirit told me a little while ago people need to stop trying to be right all of the time. It's ABSOLUTELY not about that. That's why when I realize someone is choosing to NOT listen to me to understand but to argue. I just generally get quiet. Because there is no reason to argue with a fool. You just have to learn when to walk away from some people and situations. Because you can't really change how people choose to respond or perceive things. Not trying to take away from the message whatsoever. Just what I have learned away in regards to the subject matter.