We finally talked about what he has been hiding... 

*THIS WAS FILMED A FEW WEEKS AGO We were not ready to talk about this but we have finally agreed to publish it and ask you guys for your thoughts on what we can do next to help Jake:)

It could just be adhd he just sounds anxious and certain things trigger him but there’s coping mechanisms like mindfulness where he can learn holistic ways to help himself and ground himself he should look into holistic things but it’s all just being self aware try mindfulness it works and helps bring down a lot of anxious tics The part where Nat touched him and he calms down is because she makes you feel safe when you are in that high moment place your hand over your heart it’ll ground you too it’ll have the same effect as Nat touching you and grounding you

I’m in a burn out right now I’m a full time student, work a full time job, and I have to take care of my little brother as well it’s really hard but for everyone going thru it, it will get better ❤

This entire video was so wholesome. The fact that you guys waited to post this video until Jake felt ready says so much about the relationship and the respect you have for each other. I work at a pediatric clinic; we see ages all the way up until 21. Usually, when parents start noticing a certain behavior in their child, they go to their primary care provider to be evaluated, and then if the doctor diagnoses the patient with something, they will be referred to the indicated specialist. I think you guys should definitely start off by going to your primary care provider! Love you guys so much!!!!

I really liked this podcast a lot. Definitely one of my favorites. As someone who works with kids with autism (which many are diagnosed with ADHD as well), the most important thing is being patient. Sometimes they know what they want to say but the words don’t come out and it can be incredibly frustrating. So just a little extra love and support goes a long way. Don’t pay attention to people who have rude and negative things to say. You’re a team and you guys will get through it together 🤍

I feel for Jake so much, explaining is sometimes really hard for me as well but for me is more because of anxiety… but i still think a therapist or maybe even meditation could help. Im so glad Jake’s open to talk about it and I’m glad Nat’s able to make him feel safe and grounded

I think Jake should go to a therapist, my whole life I knew I had bipolar disorder. I got a diagnosed once I went to therapy. but I am extremely proud of Jake for being able to talk about what he has because its truly hard to talk about these kinds of things.

Jake! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 27 years old, this year.. and I felt the same way about being scared about getting addicted to the medicine, but as soon as I took it, I was finally able to get work done and not feel my brain going in a million different ways. I was also diagnosed with anxiety and it turn out I was misdiagnosed with anxiety because I really had ADHD and sometimes things that are "normal" for other people, is REALLY overwhelming for us and causes anxiety! Don't be afraid of the medicine. It is there to help you. It was the best thing to ever happen to me. I'm actually kind of sad that I've lived my whole life thinking I was living a "normal" life. I always thought it was a "personality trait". It does not change your personality, it just helps you focus on one task rather than thinking of a million things at one time. You will still be you, just more organized and less anxious. I simply called to make an appointment with my primary doctor about possibly having ADHD. I talked with my primary provider and she had me answer a questionnaire that took me 5-10 mins to fill out, in the office. It was clear as day that I had ADHD by my responses to the scenarios on the questionnaire. If they can't determine it right then and there, they may have you go to a physiatrist to get diagnosed, which is totally fine and what they're there for. Make the call! I promise you, it is life-changing in the best way possible ! :)

Jacob needs to see a physiatrist, they are the ones who diagnose, you can make a appointment at the hospital and they will do a examination test/speak to someone. I have had spoken to my physiatrist virtually and you can visit the hospital to take the online test there which takes 15 minutes and it’s free. I’ve been in therapy for over 10 years and they’re not meant to diagnose a patient, it could make the patient spiral which is why they do not do that. I’ve watched you guys for awhile and I am a psychologist major, with also experience in mental health, and I am most positive Jacob struggles with ADD/ADHD. My childhood best friend has ADD and she can function normally but she is always shaky and can hyper-fixate on different, random stuff. Medication can help but it will be a struggle because it is a journey. I had a long term partner that has ADHD and she struggled with taking medication for it, it made her depressed. She was already a drug addict and the best decision we decided was to stop the medication because I noticed she was going down a different path with medication behind my back (I also take medications for my mental health) which was a dark time for my ex-girlfriend. People with ADD/ADHD stim differently, their brain has a shorter attention span and it is not about them being bored-It is hard to explain the brain. It would be great for Jacob to see a therapist as they can help him learn coping skills and can help Nat to be informed, I feel like this can help Nat to understand Jacob better and not get frustrated. Therapy is for everyone and kudos to Nat for sticking with Jacob and learning how to understand his needs.

I understand how Jacob feels because. I have ADHD and I have had it since I was little. I went to the doctor and they sent me to a psychiatrists and diagnosed me with it. I will say, that when I was little,I was on medication and it was really hard on me because I lost hella weight and was always sad and I didn’t feel like myself. When I got into high school I decided to not take it for 4 years and I thought I could live without medication. But now that I’m out of high school I will say that it’s harder to get some of my goals done bc I get distracted easily or I don’t have the courage to get thing I need to get done. Right now I’m on my mission to get back on my medication and try out different medication that will not do the same thing the old medication did to me. So I would say talk to you doctor first. And I honestly think you are blessed to have nat in your life because she will put you in check and is a very understanding person with anything you need and I think having someone in your life like that is very helpful when you have ADHD.

there's no better way then ending off the day with a pod from best host nat and jake❤️

hi nat and jake 👋🏼 i have a bachelor's in social work and it definitely sounds like jake might have adhd or some type of anxiety, i recommend you guys seek out a psychologist if he doesn't want to go through traditional therapeutic services. talking isn't easy and medication is not the only option if he does end up getting this diagnosis. look into holistic coping mechanisms and this might sound kiddy but fidgets are also a huge coping mechanism in these cases. i hope you find the help you're seeking, best wishes to you both 🫶🏼

I love this video! Nat and Jake deep diving into mental health. I say starting off with therapy, everything that Jake problems are the same exact problems I have and I have ADHD. I was diagnosed with ADHD since I was in 4th grade and now I’m 18 and graduated high school. I feel for you Jake and I also how Nat is being so supportive and not shutting out Jake that’s true love. NAT IS SAYING SO MUCH REAL STUFF your won’t get help until you want to.

i definitely relate to you jake!! i am the exact same way and whenever i notice you having a delayed speech or adhd, i feel for you because its hard to control it. ill feel like ill make sense when speaking to someone, but the other person gives me a confused look and i just want to shut up and never speak again lmao. or if i remember to slow down my speech, then i feel like im talking too slow and like a bich bc of the way im speaking, if that makes sense. i would recommend a speech therapist or take adhd medication because im also self diagnosing myself with adhd.

it could be ADHD because the way you guys are explaining it reminds me a lot of my boyfriend which he is diagnosed with ADHD and he does have days where it is a lot more intense and noticeable.

I definitely understand Jake. I am the exact same way. I can never stay still and constantly have to do something and won’t even realized that my fingers are tapping or my feet keep moving, etc. I understand that it may annoy someone but sometimes you just don’t realize you’re doing it. I start talking fast and get nervous and start fumbling my words. I started going to therapy because I don’t know how to control it and thought something was wrong with me. Your therapist will give you the option to take medication to help you or you don’t have to take medication, instead they can help you learn different exercises to learn how to cope on your own! (I chose not to take medication, the little “exercises” that I was taught by my therapist have helped me cope with myself on my daily life!) ADHD is not easy but you can always work on making it more manageable to live with! 😊

I wanna listen to this so bad but It’s 11pm and i need to be up by 6 😭😭😭 I’ll save it for my HGW 💗 love you guysssss!!

First I’d like to say it’s wholesome to see Nat and Jake grow in their relationship and see how they care for eachother. Nat waiting for Jake to share this story may seem like the bare minimum but I think it’s so heartwarming to see that and my respect for Nat has grown. I think what Jake probably needs is therapy like what Nat said. Maybe it could be cognitive behavioral therapy? I believe this type of therapy studies ones behavior and goes down to why they do it.

Is it just me or I get excited when they drop a new popcast?😅

2 videos in one day 🎉 I’ve always love your guy’s consistency ❤

48:09 this part felt very truthfull and it seems like they get each other and they are trying to change for each other which is very beautiful; good job!!!

Why haven’t y’all posted a new pod

So proud of you guys and I am glad that you were able to put this out and maybe help others in the same situation. Just now it’s going to be okay and it’s best to seek professional help

As a clinical psychologist I can tell you that you will not need to take any medications. There are many different treatments that we can prescribe to you that do not require you to take medications. I pray that you are healed by Jesus scars in Jesus Name, Amen.

Jake reminds me so much of my ex I told him he may suffer from ADHD as well but unfortunately he started binge drinking to calm himself down, always recommended therapy, finding facebook group of others with diagnosis, reading about it, podcasts, youtube videos for research or even going to gym with him on daily basis and making him healthy meals to calm him down but eventually he gave up. don’t be afraid to be diagnosed can always request physical from doctor and bring up your concerns so they can recommend you to a therapist 😁

Literally THANKYOU NAT AND JAKE FOR ALWAYS TAKING THE TIME 🫶🏽💕to make these types of videos and always being real and open! I love you guys - Jazmin

Don’t get discouraged girl because you inspire people.❤❤

girll how are you gonna leave us w a cliff hangerrr at the enddd now we have to wait for a week for the storytime..😭😭 but girl i love the raw ness in your pod cast and how reall you are and the bodddd!! you’re doctor did you rightt

Is there a chance i could have already seen this i feel like i have or no?😅 im confused lol i know it says u filmed but did u post n take down too!!!🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤣🫶🏻still gonna watch/listen to again just incase im trippin😅

Look into ADHD! My sister has it and she has some of your symptoms. BUT I would SUGGEST not to take pills for it if your doctor prescribed it. My sister took the ADHD pills and she lost a lot of weight and was just calm like alllll the time like she didn’t want to play, in class she was just zoned out. It’s like she was in her own world. This is just my suggestion! If I was you I would find something to do. Like a figit or something similar. ❤❤

YOU'RE JOKINGGG first nat uploads now this?!! my heart is content I'm happy seeing you two🥰🧡

You guys are so real for posting about this I love you both so much and I get so happy whenever you guys post a new video I hope you guys had a great Thursday and have a good weekend 💕

I love your podcasts and vlogs. I look forward to seeing you both posts. You two are definitely blessed for the platforms. 🎉🎉

I relate to Jacob so much. Especially with fidgeting. I can’t stand still. Hopefully you get the help you need to find clarity.

I get so happy whne they post in this Chanel like a look at the page every day to see if they post yet it brings my mood up

🌞Love y'all great couple as always! Jake no worries you don't have to take medication, you can do other things to help with your symptoms whether it's going for walks, fidgets, hobbies, yoga, or any other things please don't think you need to take medication y'all are both great the way you are and unique individuals as everyone. I'll keep you in my prayers bc I know for whenever I would get anxious I not once took medication and I have it completely controlled barely get anxious but if I do I know exactly what would get to be anxious if it happens. You got this Jake and the fact that you have support and people that are there for you Nat that's awesome that y'all have each other 😊

jake, whenever you were saying the thing about ur fingers moving at the bottom of the screen, you said “it’s gonna make people look at the bottom of the screen instead of listening to you podcast.” i just want you to know that whatever you are going through, it doesn’t take away from how we view you or your vids. i honestly did not notice your fingers moving at all because i watch you guys for what you guys have to say. you guys really inspire me to be better :) but yeah i just wanted to let you know that it didn’t ruin the video

As an elementary educator I am not allowed to diagnose but I would say see a behavioral specialist or ask a doctor for a recommendation for hyper tension disorder test

early gang!!! this came at a perfect time i just finished watching the vlog nat posted

eek i actually relate to jake a lot 😵‍💫 it could be anxiety or adhd :3 or honestly maybe even both? i’ve been diagnosed with anxiety but since i’ve been on meds for 7 months i’m starting to wonder if i have adhd as well D: a lot of the times symptoms can overlap and it can be harder to diagnose but i def recommend going to your regular doctor and telling them about your concerns :D usually they’ll provide you with a list of recommended therapist or psychiatrist :3 but i think therapy can help a lot with having a better understanding of everything and getting a proper diagnosis!! sending all my love towards both of you and encouragement for jake EEEK you got this bestie 👯‍♀️🫶🏻

honestly with someone with sever anxiety it could be that because sometimes my anxiety can follow along the lines with adhd or i just also have adhd i just haven’t been registered by my therapist to a psychiatrist although it can be different for him since usually it’s different with men & women when it comes to adhd or tendencies! def recommend seeing a psychiatrist tho

Nat saying she wants to see better stuff on tiktok inspired me into make a how to tiktok or a little bit of everything, because I’ve been wanting to but what content to post, but I like a little bit of everything so I can’t decide on what exactly to post about or what type of content to make

I’m here right after watching Nats vlogg you guys are the best and I will always appreciate how honest and transparent you guys are 💜💜

I can really understand a little bit of what Jake is going through my youngest brother has a lot of the symptoms Jake has. I am no expert at anything that I am saying but I'm saying from personal experiences. We started with a therapist for him and it really helped him and he was diagnosed with social anxiety and ADHD i have seen so many positive changes with his speech and I think it would really help Jake to see a very good therapist and do a lot of research and a consultation with the therapist before your first set appointment.

I kinda have the same thing. My sister always calls me out on it when I struggle to explain things. What I thought was my mind is always racing and I can’t keep up when it comes to wording things. I speak fast and I’ve had people tell me to slow down cause they can’t understand. I’ve always been the type to over think a lot

watching this at work.. hehe 😝definitely glad y’all posted today, this was recorded on my birthday!!

Am I the only one who likes the podcasts more than their vlogs?😭

yes right after i came from school and work 😫❤️

TWO VIDS IN ONE DAY? WOOO

WHEN I TELL YOU IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS I WAS COUNTING ON YOU GAISS THAT YU GAIS WONT POST ONE DAY LATE OMLL I LOVE YOU GUYS❤❤ I HOPE YU GUYS SEE THIS BUT ILYSSS I BE HEARING YUR PODCAST IN CLASS LIKE IN EVERY CLASS

I love coming home from work and just cooking and seating on my coach comfy and watch the podcast 😮‍💨 is so relieving 😌 and therabpiodic 🧠

Why when she talks about her siblings she never mentions Edith ?🤨

You guys should go to cotton wood canyon near saltlake and check out the cliff spa!

Idkkk why but I can hear like nats sniffling and stuff but you guys fs are this podcast up and it truly just gets better and better

Go to a Neurologist have Nat help explain everything your saying now to get a better diagnosis. Alot of the movement could be tics, mild tourette symptoms

I was screaming FILA DESTROYERS when Nat was talking about the shoes 😭😭😭

not trying to place blame but can i offer some unsolicited advice, nat you should consider stopping insinuating there’s something wrong with jake bc wether he does have adhd or not it’s not his fault and i really empathize with jake bc as someone with adhd i know exactly what you are feeling and i just want you to know there is nothing wrong with you, i also struggle with my wording (if you couldn’t tell lol) but jake you shouldn’t be scared i know it’s almost frustrating not knowing what’s wrong with you but getting a diagnosis actually truly fast and easy, also something the has really helped me is playing a easy game on my phone ( i like one more brick you don’t need to multitask with this game) i usually struggle when i’m watching tv so i hope that helps again all love too you both i know it’s sometimes hard as a partner not knowing how to handle certain situations but i can say certain insecurities are avoidable and there are better ways than flat out saying “you need to talk to a therapist” bc that has to be one’s chose when they are ready and i know nat comes from love ❤57:46

No definitely don’t take medication that does not do nothing at all there’s so many ways to heal urself natural I have adhd and I had to take medicine in elementary to focus and it made me angry 24/7 I don’t recommend.

I am an old subscriber of nat like when she started their Jathaly journey and I love watching their videos but I was not sure that I would love their podcast as much as I love their vlogs and all but I was wrong I only listened to their one podcast and now I’m a fan like I feel very calm listening to them talking about random stuff but ị literally love it please never stop making videos/ podcasts

Not Jake putting a dad sticker on his cup to cover the mom part😂

I think that I can relate to Jacob when it comes to explaining stuff I just can't put it together and I yawn like 10 times when I'm not tired Im not tired

i love watching y’all podcast smm ✌🏽 .

LMAOO when nat said ugly shoe trend i immediately thought of filas and when she said it i started dyingg because those shits were so ugly and everyone hyped them up

6:46 i sweat easily i HATE it. i think thats why i prefer fall/winter over summer bc id rather be cold than easily get swamp ass

I’m the same exact way as jake bc I have ADHD and I am moved to much the point where I can’t control it. I’m bored or stressed out or doing something new for the first time and I can’t explain myself or say things to nobody because it doesn’t make sense

I don’t think it’s actually a bad thing bro. You DON’T need help with it. Ok you’re fidgety and have the moving tics. Look at it as a part of your personality! It could be something A-LOT worse. But it’s not. Don’t waste time on something that will bring you stress for NO reason. Be you bro.

YAYY let’s gooo new podcast video 🫶🏻🫶🏻love you guys!!!

Catching up on all the JathalTEA and thank you for the small mention on teachers.

For like to get diagnosed you can go to your regular doctor or there's also a psychiatrist

Im early but I love y’all guys videos thank you for always making my day I’m proud of y’all ❤️‍🩹🫂!!!

Just came from Nats fall morning routine, I luv you NAT AND JAKE! 🤍

Therapist can diagnose you but only with psychological “issues” but not medical problems. If it comes to medication they can not prescribe you with anything! but the therapist can or might connect you with a doctor who can. unless you have your own doctor, then you can get medication through them:)

i can hear you guys all day long lol🫣❤️

a vlog from nat and a podcast 10/10 🫶🏼

But Jake I think u should do what u feel is best therapy can be hard to wrap your head around but it could be helpful but I’m sure there are other ways just keep your head up king

Not diagnosing Jacob but I think he might have ADHD because I have it and all my siblings have it along with most of my family and they can't sit still and they also do that spacing out thing that you can hear the person but you're spacing out so I think you should consider that. Again not a therapist or doctor especially since I don't know Jacob like that but I think that should be a consideration and mentioned when you do get the help you need and I hope you guys do figure it out so he gets help. Love you guys!

I be looking forward for these podcast, love you guys!!

Consistently is like high and low there so many things to learn about things we didn't know we have don't know how handle it or get informed...

Omg I feel the same way ab tiktok so I don’t even go on my fyp anymore I just go on my following and now I love it again!!!

40:41 yeah the platform Fila was a definite no, they were to big to be good platform shoes aircforces for the win

Just wanted to put it out there. When you get diagnosed with ADHD or any other diagnosis you don’t need to take medication as a form of treatment. There are other treatments that help you self regulate your ADHD. If you are struggling don’t wait for later seek care now and make sure you advocate your needs and emphasize you don’t want medication.

I KNEW IT WAS THE FILAS LMAOOOO

yes! first time early, love you guys 🫶🏼. god bless ✨

im just like jacob,i cant explain things and i cant talk on the phone.its kinda frustrating cause im trying to explain things but nobody understands.

I immediately knew nat was talking about the filas when she said EVERY girl had them 💀 glad I never purchased any as well! Lol

The audio is so annoying 😭😭 you can’t hear nat

Best podcast back at it again I love these podcasts nathaly posts and a podcast amazing day I love y’all ❤❤

i’m in FL and i don’t think we have asb here but it kinda sounds fun

I would suggest for jake to talk to his primary care provider then get a referral to a psychologist/ psychiatrist :)

I love the chill vibe of the podcast on the couch

Don’t forget to skip the ad. I love when they post a new podcast. I hope you guys have a beautiful day. Stay blessed. Love you guys. ❤❤

There's different types of medication for ADHD. It helps you focus. You might not be as energetic but you won't lose your personality. There are some side effects but you try different medications. You have to be careful with that because I took a medication and lost weight because I didn't have a appetite and the doctor refused to take me off it. But that's just cause they were a bad doctor

Jacob it might not be ADHD is could possibly be ADD. I would look into it.

Two videos in one day wow what a good day 😊 I just finished watching Nat’s fall video

We’re all here for you jake❤️ you and nat just keep doing what your doing and know that you have your RU-vid family in your corner

And this is why I love Thursdays 😌

JATHALYYYY💗💗

Yea I think I Lowkey deal with something similar like Jake when I’m eating or something I always need to have my iPad or phone just for it to be there cause I don’t even pay attention sometimes and let’s say I’m laying down watching yt or a show I need to have something in my hand or when I’m in class even if we not writing anything or no need for a pen I need to have a pen or something in my hand to fidget with.

I hate to say this Nat but if Jake is hyperactive and I think he is because his focus is a mile a minute he has to avoid caffeine so Jake if you don't want meds try cutting caffeine out of your diet and see if it helps. Hyperactive kids do fidget a lot, they jump around from action to action, or topic to topic...and communication is hard because the brain is shooting through topics faster then the speech can come out

i knew it was the fila shoes 😭😭😭 they were not it , im happy i stuck with my vans around that time lol .