Christine has been so extremely strong through this whole process, I'm so proud of her. It takes a LOT of courage to open up and talk about a trauma and sorrow like this publicly, especially when it's about your own body ❤
Wishing you all well and I am so sorry this happened. Talking about her trauma, both of your trauma, in front of this many ppl can become horrible after a while. Please be careful, it’s so deceiving. You feel like it’s therapeutic, but it can cause so much more damage than you know. Taking a huge break from the internet might be a good idea
As a father i cannot imagine your pain. If there was something i could say to help the pain. To stop you and your wife's suffering , then i would. This is very unfortunate and i do not know why things like this happen or what we are to learn from it. I hope what is good from this day forward from this point is filled with abundance for you and your wife. And though it cannot fill the loss , hopefully it can soften the blow. I am sorry for your loss.🌹
There's a saying that grief doesn't shrink with time, instead your life grows around it. The shape and size remain the same but you learn how to cope. These conversations are so unbelievably difficult, but our culture is so far removed from the reality of death I think it's important to be open and honest about how it happens and what it's like. So thank you for being strong in the face of grief like this, I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry you lost your grandfather too 😔
Dear Christine and Kalle, I am a 70 year old 3rd generation Swedish woman born and raised in the United States. I recently found your videos and have loved them. I have grown to love you both like family. I know that this video is 10 months old, but I need to tell you that I cried with you, Kalle, as you walked us through this terrible loss, but mostly your deep love and concern for Christina. I trust that she is doing well now. May our loving God bless you always and know that you are in my prayers. Blessings, Laura Hendrickson-Trettevik.
I really appreciate hearing this tender side of a father’s experience losing his baby. Thank you for sharing. I could feel your love for both your baby and your companion. I’ve lost 4 babies and I always appreciate those who acknowledge my babies and those who acknowledge their own babies so openly. My heart goes out to you both.
Dear Kalle and Christine. I knew the moment I saw your video last week that this was what had happened because I recognised the pain immediately, having gone through it myself. I am so, so very sorry for you both. It hurts so bad it's like a physical pain. I am only a stranger from the internet but I am sending you my love and so much healing. To anyone else who might read this comment, please be mindful of your comments too. Words like 'something wasn't right' and 'at least you know you can get pregnant' or ' you will have lots of babies' are agonising to hear at a time like this, as kindly as they are meant.
I had a miscarriage 42 years ago, my final year in nursing school. I still remember those feelings and being in hospital. I healed. You will heal. In your time and in your way. Peace be with you both.
My wife and I have gone through this a couple of times. It takes a lot of bravery and courage to open up so publicly about miscarriage and we're both thinking of you x
Losing a child is the most pain you'll ever face. Our son was 21 when he departed in 2021. Sorry for your excruciating pain. Nobody is to blame. Keep loving each other. 💔💞
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had two miscarriages and the emotions, physical pain, hormones and all that comes with it. And it is as you say so common. I started talking about it as well and it's beyond hitting the roof with stories and how many miscarriages couples and women have gone through. It's really brave and nice to see a man's perspective and emotions around this. Thanks for sharing that! ♡
I whole heartedly agree with you! I’ve only had one miscarriage and it happened when I was so young! I didn’t understand what was going on. After I got some good insight from a friend that’s when everything hit me! Thank you for sharing your story and for pointing out that it’s important to hear the fathers side of the story. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss Kalle. My wife and I had several miscarriages, and also a couple failed attempts at in vitro, so when you talked about how it's different for a guy that really resonated with me. #flashbacks Thank you for having the courage to share your story, as well as your sadness. You are not alone my friend.
I'm so sorry for your loss ♥️ we lost twins in a missed misscarriage in 2017 and it was extremely painful (birth physically and emotionally). I appreciate that you're willing to talk about it and help break the stigma. I found that to be an important part of my own healing journey.
I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your baby! From the moment I realized that I was pregnant my life changed. That little babe become part of our family, our hopes and dreams! Four months later we too lost our baby. We commemorated our little one by planting a garden that came up year after year.
Kalle, I’m so very sorry for your loss of both your baby and your grandfather. Words from a stranger cannot sooth your broken hearts, but please know that you and Christine are in my thoughts. Huge hugs to you both. Thank you for sharing your journey.
This video was... while heartbreaking, it was incredibly powerful and important. I've had family and friends experience miscarriages and... There aren't words. Sending so much love and support to both of you. Thank you for finding the strength to share this part of the journey. May the future hold so much happiness and good things for both of you.
Seeing the fathers perspective is really eye opening. I appreciate you sharing this very difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss. May peace and love be with you both.
What courage; what love. This is the bravest and most loving thing I’ve seen on RU-vid. My heart aches for both of you, and for this terrible loss. I am so thankful for your courage in sharing your story, and shining a light on what is still too often a very deeply hidden grief. I hope this video gives courage and support to others, and lets people walking a similar path know that they are not alone.
I’ve been sitting here typing and retyping. I just don’t have the right words. I’m so sorry to you both for such a tremendous loss. My 13 month old son passed away in June and it has been the hardest time of my life. Please, both of you, take all the time you need to heal. Don’t let anyone try and rush it. Sending love and hugs.❤️
Me and my wife went through the same thing two years ago. November we had the good news, new year's eve it turned into an ectopic pregnancy which needed an emergency operation... I feel you dude, it's tough really tough. Make sure you talk about it, talk about it as much as possible to anyone and everyone. Sending you guys love from the UK.x
I'm so sorry, Marc. Ectopic pregnancies are terrifying. I've experienced two and on the first, my fallopian tube ruptured. By the time they operated, I had a litre and half of blood and free fluid in my abdomen. The surgery that should have taken 40 minutes took nearly four hours. It happened again a year later and I needed another surgery but it wasn't quite so close to the edge that time because I knew what was happening and was in hospital when it got really serious. I'm adding this not to hijack your post but because I want to get the message out there that anyone who has early pregnancy pain and bleeding should get checked out. Considering what was going on in my body, I had relatively little pain and thought I was having a 'typical' miscarriage. If I'd not gone in just to get it checked - or even if I'd left it half-an-hour longer, I wouldn't be here. I think it's so important we share our experiences to support others who are going through similar. Sending every good wish to you and your wife. Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm very sorry. I lost my first baby 12 years ago. I was in the 5th month. I had to give birth to her after she died in my womb. It was terrible and she is still missing today, even though I now have 3 healthy children. Nobody can replace our Mia❤️.Feel warm ❤️God bless you🍀In Love, Anna from Germany
That's true everything you wrote . I have lost twins 40b years ago. Ben pregnant with my two babies in 7th month as suddenly had to give birtgh. They have dies within 3 hrs. After few years later got a healthy daughter but my twins always in my heart and never ever forgotten. Warm regards to you and be happy with yur healthy childrens , same with me .
Kalle, I can’t begin to describe how my heart breaks for you and Christina. My mom lost a baby and I saw how she and my dad held together for my brother and I. Your video has opened my eyes to how it feels from the perspective of a man and I am so sorry. I don’t know if you guys are Christian, but I will be praying for you regardless. Much love ❤️
My heart goes out to you. I lost my baby too. And my husband shortly after. This year has been one of unremitting grief and loss. It is so hard to keep going. Sending so much love and gratitude to you both for all you share and do and are. And so much empathy. Hold on to each other. Love, Meghan
Sending you Love. i lost my mother a few months ago, and it still feels rough. So many people have lost others especially recently. Our hearts are raw.
So sorry for your loss. I really knew this happened from your last video. I was an OBGyn nurse and have seen the “look” many times before. I hope you two can heal together and create a space for yourselves to do so. It will take time. ❤️
I’m so sorry. My husband and I were devastated when we lost our first baby. I’m glad you spoke about this and were so honest and transparent. Thank you.
Kalle I went through the same path in December. Was the worst month of the whole year for me. I know what sadness you and Christine are going through. There are no words to describe it.
Kale and Christine. Thank you for sharing your experience. I too suffered a miscarriage at 11 weeks and it was the hardest thing I ever had to go through. Nothing prepares you for the loss of a child. Take your time to heal and deal with it the way that is best for you. Don’t feel pressured to “get over it” and mourn your loss in your own way. Trust me when I say it will get easier but for now hold each other tight and take your time.
My wife and I are so proud of you both. Yes you made us cry and the subject was hard, but wow, you will will be helping so many other people with your bravery and ability to tell this story. We both consider you two our friends and feel love for you both, even though you don't know us at all. Please know there are thousands of other people out there that feel the same way. I hope all our collective thoughts for you both help.
I can't even imagine how hard the past month has been, especially when it's normally such a joyful time of the year around Christmas. I'll be keeping you both in my prayers, and I hope that you are able to find light and peace and comfort even in the face of such sorrow. You bring joy and peace and laughter to so many through your videos, and obviously you have created a wonderful supportive community (both in person and online) that wants to lift you both up in these hard times. There aren't any words that are really enough in situations like this, but I hope y'all know how many people are praying for you and sending you good wishes and happy thoughts.
Dearest Kalle and Christine, I just watched this video and I am so sorry for your loss. I've never lost a baby but my son and his first wife did and it was devastating!!!! We ran into each other at a department store where I happened to be shopping for a baby gift. They told me then and there. I went out to my car and sat there & sobbed my heart out!!!! I finally got home, told my husband and we both lost it. This happened about 10 or 12 yrs. ago. This would have been our only grandchild. Our son is in a relationship now with a sweet lady with a daughter who we claim as our own. She's our only one and we love her!!! Take care💕♥️🤗
My heart breaks for this couple. Losing a pregnancy at any stage is such a loss. Loss of your future child. The family you are to be. The dreams of having this baby and who he/she would be within your family and in the world. It shatters you. My son and his fiancé lost their daughter at week 16. Her water broke and umbilical cord fell out. It was an inevitable loss at that time. We held her tiny precious body and marveled that we could see her facial features so clearly. Her miniscule fingernails and toenails. She was to be, and still is, my first grandchild. It was heartbreaking. For her loss but also watching my child and the woman he loves go through this pain was the hardest thing I ve ever done. Including my own miscarriage nearly 3.5 decades ago. They are expecting again and 2 days from now she will be 18 weeks along. She just felt the first flutters. We are so thrilled and hopeful but still it seems we are all holding our breath.
Kalle and Christine, with much love, we in this household extend our love and support to you both. This loss of a child is still raw, we hope that you both take care of each other and hope also that you realise that you are not alone, we all grieve with you. We as friends and subscribers are also your internet family and want so much to tell you that we love you both.
Oh how my heart BREAKS for you two. On top of such a devastating experience to have to keep going to the hospital is so hard! Take one day at a time to take care of each other. You will get through this. My first pregnancy was also a miscarriage so I know what Christine is going through. Taking one day at a time helps and trying to stay positive! I like to say prayers and will pray for you two every day!!! Thank you for sharing your lives with us. We care so much what happens to you two. Christine - you did NOT do anything wrong!!!! You will be surprised at how many miscarriages happen. I was shocked to find out the high percentage after I had mine. I had wondered what I did wrong also. After watching this video I have decided to talk to my young adult daughter about this so she is aware of the possibilities of what can happen. This is a good helpful video - Thank you! I pray you may find some peace of mind to be able to get through each day to heal physically and mentally. I cried so hard for you guys through this emotional video. You guys are like family!
Kalle and Christine my heart goes out to you, I could feel your pain, we've gone through miscarriage in 2007- the emotional pain was so much more than the physical pain, it was hard, I feel you. I pray you both will bet better soon. Sending love to you both.
You have my deepest condolences, as a mother of two blessed children and 3 miscarriages. Loosing a child even if you have never seen them born is worth every tear and every moment of felt loss.. They are and were yours, there is absolutely no shame in weeping over an unborn child because to you and your family they already existed and this is valid and true to life 🙏❤️ Thank you for being opened to sharing your loss and heartbreak. I have shed tears the entire time listening, this is important to share thank you agian.🙏
Man I'm so sad to hear these bad news, I really hope you guys stay strong and keep your head high, there's no words I could say right now that would help in any way, I hope and wish you guys all the best, you deserve it. I'm so sorry to hear this... You are such a good man, life will treat you better in the future, I promise
It takes so much courage to open up about your feelings, especially while they are so raw and unprocessed. Stories have a power to heal and connect, healing and connection is what you both need. Stay strong and thank you for showing your vulnerability!
It's absolutely terrifying to watch someone you love go through so much pain and trauma, not knowing what's going to happen. It's harder still to keep yourself together and be strong in the face of that fear, for the other person. I wish I could take the pain away, but it's clear that you are both so incredibly strong. Massive, massive hugs to you 🤍
I lost a baby as a teenager , ( the father was also a teen). It never feels good hearing “it’s for the best”… we both wanted to be together and loosing that baby ripped us apart to our core. People underestimate the depth and life changing implications a miscarriage puts on parents at any age, social status, or relationship status
It shouldn't affect relationship "status" though. Miscarriage is and always has been part of life. If your partner only wants you for what you can produce for them, you're not with the right person. True love means through thick and thin. With or without DNA kids. You can always adopt or foster if you're truly altruistic.
This was hard to watch, Kalle, so I can't imagine what it has been like to go through this. I'm glad that you two have such a close and supportive relationship. Hugs to you both from the US.
Your story touched my heart deeply! Your ability to be so open and express exactly what you felt is so inspiring because you are a man. I'm 64 and living in America/Texas you don't often hear men express themselves so openly. I'm so sorry for both your loses and will be praying for you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us and being willing to open yourself up like you did. May peace and rest flow through your soul and you find contentment in the normal again soon.
My heart aches with both of you. I have an understanding of it as my daughter has gone through it twice. Talking helps (as you're ready). Healing begins with talking with each other and knowing you're not alone while going through this difficult time. Love and prayers for you both as your hearts heal.
Dear Kalle, to be open: Whilst watching this video, I cried with you and Christina😢. Thumbs up for sharing this tabu-topic with me. I also lost my baby (as a father) More than 20 years ago - still thinking about it sometimes. You will never forget it - but t will be easier and less painful as years will go by. Listening carefully what you said and feeling your emotions for Christina, I can maybe tell you one single positive aspect about the whole situation: the connection between you and Christina will be even stronger than ever before. You are so strong and at the same time emotional - this is one thing why I like you that much.
There is so much silence around pregnancy loss and the trauma and grief it can cause. I’m sure your video will be important for many people. Love to you both, please be patient with your hearts as they heal.
Feeling helpless in such situations is so damn tough. I am sure making this emotional video helps you to feel 🙏🏻 I find it very brave of you to show yourself with such emotions. It add's so much to your channel. Thank you for sharing and I wish you both a great 2022!
What a terrible turmoil…I am so very sorry for both you and sweet Christine. As an 83 yr is old grandmother, I wanted to comfort you and hug you gently. Thank you for mustering the courage and strength to share and perhaps educate others as to the common instance of miscarriages. Because no one speaks of them it makes it much harder to accept the occurrence as a natural occurrence. May you find solace and strength to continue to build your life as you want and need to. And continue to hold each other dear. 💕💕💕
I had an ectopic pregnancy and lost the baby at the end of December 2002. Your grief is real. I'm very sorry for your loss. Sounds like your grandpa went to take care of your baby. Very sorry it was such a long traumatic experience for you two. Thank you for sharing.
Sending my love to both of you. I know you don't feel very "lucky" when you are in a terrible situation such as that one, but just the fact that you are able to appreciate your friends who took care of the dogs, the health care system that thankfully took care of you and your unlimited love and support to each other - that just prooves how important it is to have great people around you. Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry for you and I hope you take some time to recover emotionally
Wishing you and Christine all the strength, love, and healing that you need in this very sad time. Take all the time you need to yourselves, and we will be here when you get back.
This was very brave of you and Christine to share your experiences publicly. I am very sorry for your and Christine's loss of your baby. I'm grateful you have each other. And offer condolences for your Grandfather. (i am also among the people who have lost a baby to miscarriage.) take care of each other. hugs.
I cannot imaging the pain you guys are feeling, or the horrors you experienced. Couldnt watch without crying along with you. So much love to you guys and prayers of healing and comfort to you both.
I've just seen Christine's video. Thank you so much for being so open around this hard subject. I have lost count of how many friends have gone through similar. There is a lot of misconceptions around this and I applaud you for being so open because It will help others not feel so alone/ confused. I also thank you for you for your vulnerability because I have always heard it from the women's point of view. It is very hard on guys as well so thank you for being open.
My heart goes out to both of you. It is the most lonely feeling in the world. We lost our first two children due to pre-eclampsia and it was horrid. Hugs to both of you and know that you are not alone. 🙏
Kalle and Christine, I’m so sorry to hear about all you’ve gone through and then the loss of your grandfather! I understand the sadness completely, having had a miscarriage myself in Feb 2010. Thank you for sharing with us! I believe that it will help someone out there! Sending you both love and wishing you a peaceful time of healing!
You ARE being strong. Incredibly strong and it's a daily step by step process. I am proud of the man you have built of yourself. Keep your core strength spirit and mind. Well done.
My heart goes out to the both of you. I'm so sorry for the losses you suffered. Thank you for being so brave, vulnerable, and selfless by sharing your experience in hopes that it helps others. It most definitely will.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️ please take your time and don’t try to force yourself i assure your fans will be here for you both!💕❤️ Sending lots of love from the Netherlands 💕
Thank you for sharing your story. This sounds like an unimaginably hard experience. When I was about 7 years old, my mom had a miscarriage. This was her second miscarriage in 3 years. I found her in the bathroom and had to call 911. I know she almost lost her life that day. She was hospitalized for several days afterward. It was a really scary time. I didn't fully grasp how scary it was until I was older. But I also remember no one talking about it. I've spoken to my mom about it since and she expressed how difficult it was that no one would acknowledge the intense loss. Family and friends alike remained silent during a time when vulnerability, love, and support would have healed more than medicine. I appreciate you speaking so openly about this. It is help for me to see people willing to speak about the traumatic event. It helps me understand my mom a little more and prepare me for helping friends or processing this myself, in the future. Sending you all the love and support I can!
Kalle and Christine ...... I’m sending my heartfelt love which along with all the other kind comments, will hopefully give you a much needed feeling of sincere support at this emotional time. Thank you for sharing such a difficult experience. Nature constantly reminds us we are simply participating in something much bigger than ourselves. In that thought lies the healing answers you need to get you through this difficult time. The fact you are sitting in front of the camera lens heartbroken is a fact that your child has existed, even if for such a small window of time, and in the mystical tapestry of life your child still exists and always will be connected to you. One of the things which can validate this connection is your obvious love for your child. It is quite clear how much you and Christine wanted your child to come into the living world, that incredible love is what still connects you to your child in the space they still exist peacefully and contentedly. And when you eventually bring into the world their brothers and or sisters, it will be BECAUSE of this experience (because of the baby you did not get to hold) and the powerful feelings of parenthood you feel right now, that your future family will be stronger and more loving than you could ever have hoped for. You are on a journey, one in which love is always present. I hope you will soon realise that the pain you are feeling is also linked to the joy of having known your child for a short time. Peace be with you all. Love conquers all, time will heal. Take care ❣
I agree. Everything we are going through makes us to what we are, teaches us to appreciate things we might have taken for granted, shows us how much we love or care for others and what is the most important thing for us. And everything that happens to us together as friends, couples, family, colleagues etc makes the bond between the relationships stronger. Everything in life has good and bad sides - if you find just a tiny aspect to consider as something good in this whole situation then you are going out of this situation as a winner, as a stronger person than ever before.
Wow. Thank you for being strong enough to show your genuine emotion like this. I think probably every person watching this cried with you. We feel your pain. You helped us to be a tiny bit more okay with facing and feeling our own pain. Thank you so much for showing us that it is okay to feel emotions like this sometimes. Much love, and lots of support.
I never ever heard a mans side before. Thanks for you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for you & your woman's loss. I hope you've both healed emotionally from the worse of this ordeal. May your darling woman be healed physically.
Even though it is some months later I have just watched your heartfelt video. A personal matter yes, but thank you for your courage to share the Dads perspective Kalle. It is not often talked about and is very helpful to other grieving Dads to be able to listen to your experience. Sending best wishes to you and Christine from New Zealand.
Thank you ever so much for having the bravery and sensitivity to talk about your experience. It may sound like a contradiction, but your emotional response gave me hope that such a tragic experience can be shared by both partners. I know what Christine is going through as I went through it myself; however, I didn't have the emotional support and understanding that you are giving to your beautiful Christine. I wish you both the best and a recovery for the New Year.
I've just discovered your videos as one randomly popped up the other day. I'm sorry for your loss, and Christine's suffering. You seem like a nice young man and anyone who likes dogs and nature has a good heart. Best wishes to you all from New York.
Kalle, I also wanted to thank for being so brave and sharing this. Many of my friends have lost their babies. Keep sharing your feelings with us as it will help the pain bleed out. And while the loss never goes fully away, the pain lessens.
I’m so sorry for your losses 🌸💗🌸 My sister was in perfect health, super healthy lifestyle, in her 20’s, and had a miscarriage- after having 2 successful pregnancies. Her best friend had 2 or 3 miscarriages. And so did my aunt. So it is very common. Thank you for sharing and crying- we all have our struggles in life, and it’s important to remember we aren’t alone in that. It’s part of the human experience. I wish you both health and peace, and hope the new year brings brighter days. Take care 🌞
Just found your channel tonight and as a nurse, I had to watch this video. YOU showed a wonderful side of fatherhood that is so loving, kind, and touching ... congrats on being this open and honest. i know at some point your video will help other dads to cope with their feelings while going thru a heartbreaking loss. HUGE hugs to you both from deb in Iowa.
I am so sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine what it feels like inside but I commend you for having the courage to share the pain. You're far but you're not alone. Gigantic hugs from Canada.
Losing a child is one of the most difficult things anyone can go through. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your baby. Thank you for sharing your story and experience. We lost our son a little over 3 years ago. I was only 29 weeks and got what is called pre-eclampsia. I got very sick, my blood pressure went sky high, my body started shutting down and they had to do an emergency c-section to deliver my son. He did very well in the NICU until his 5th day, then he went downhill so fast to where the doctors didn’t know what happened and suddenly died. His autopsy results showed MRSA in his lungs, likely introduced by the respiratory therapist that was in the delivery room and hadn’t bothered to gown up. There’s so many feelings when losing a child because it’s not just your child you loose, it’s a future. I’m still figuring out what our new future looks like, and it’s ok for y’all to take time as well. Everyone moves at a different pace. I hope y’all will continue to make more videos, it brings a lot of people peace, comfort and joy. Blessings to you both. ♥️
So sorry to hear love. Praying for you and your family. From one momma to another, you will overcome and be stronger. These stories will continue to help others in similar situations, keep sharing. Have a blessed Christmas! 💜
This is so heartbreaking. I cried with you. I sent it to my friend who had a miscarriage. Surrounding you and Christine with healing energy and love 🙏❤
Bless you and Christine! My husband and I lost our twin pregnancy in December as well it’s so so hard and doesn’t make any sense. I’ll be praying for you guys.
I just caught your video. I lost my first baby. I'm so very sorry you had to go through this. I went on to have two baby girls. I pray you heal and one day find joy in becoming parents. Tell your sweet wife it wasn't her fault...it just happens sometimes. Thank you for sharing your story. Grief is lessened when shared. God bless you.
I feel so sad for you and Christine. Your pain is still so raw. It is clear to see how much you love and care for each other. Wishing you both continued healing.
I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. I just saw Christina's video also. Being so open and honest about this painful event in such a public forum is of great service to others who have experienced this kind of grief and loss. My heart goes out to you both. This is a very important video. Thank you for sharing this with us all.
I've been through this, but not knowing I was pregnant until the loss, and it was so surreal and disjointing.:( Covid restrictions were heavier when I had mine and my partner sat outside in the cold for 5 hours in an ambulance bay. It was really good of your hospital to let you stay with Christine, that honestly will have helped her get through it so much, and vice versa 💛 I'm so sorry for your pregnancy loss and your grandfather. I hope these horrible experiences bring you and her even closer. I know with us it was the case- it's bittersweet but it's a small comfort. I hope this year gets better for you both 💛
