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When my cousin's boyfriend saw a pimple on her face on a video call once he said it was 'ugly' and 'weird'. She was using filters over video calls and lots of make up in real life, just to keep up with the beauty standards. Clearly, the guy got so used to seeing the edited version of her (and other women) that any perceived blemish freaked him out.
People like that obviously don’t get out into the real world. So it’s better to not date those kinds of men as they will have unrealistic expectations of women.
Thank goodness I grew up with MySpace and not Tik-Tok. I still struggle with my mental health from time to time, but I know it'd be in the toilet if I was a teen today with all this stuff.
I've recently started going to the gym and noticed a crazy amount of young women there in full makeup, falsies and everything. I staterd wondering why and how all that product just wont come off when they start sweating. So today I took a deep look at some of them and noticed (not without some level of horror) that they're not truly there to excercise. They do like 3 repetitions while another one records it for social media! Then they go to another equipment and repeat the proccess. Now watching this video I wonder how much of those bold lip liners and falsies isn't to mimic a certain filter look and also how warped their view of the world is. They're paying about $200 for a gym membership they don't truly use, not to mention the less than health ways they may be doing in order to stay in shape (since I now know isn't excercising). Oh, and since this has been a current theme in this chanel, it's valid to add how hostile women are towards other women at the gym, while the guys tend to help each other. Needless to say, we all know why. 😥
Just like magazines from the 60's to the early 2000s. There is always something used to make up feel bad or what we look like. That is not my main issue with this new trend, my issue is how will this affect others. I do remember magazines encouraging young girls to attack other girls who were at by shaming them. Are we repeating history? Also I don't understand this whole, I need surgery to look like this? We have come so far in makeup, why don't people just try it in makeup form first before doing the surgery
Funny this came out now. I just got something called bells palsy. It isn't permanent but likely cause of a virus half my face doesn't work. My dad reckoned he had the same thing at about 19...Al he remembers is he just was so embarrassed. So that made me wanna take a bunch of selfies. After having kids...I had zero time to do make-up sp my skin as a result got better and it was so freeing because I love make-up...and it feel now like just a fun thing to try and experiment with rather than an obligation. Anyway..unfiltered...your face is fascinating and ever changing. It doesn't have to be perfect to be awesome and interesting.
I like using the filters because my face doesn’t have that much blemishes or shadows when I look in the mirror, but in the camera those blemishes are all over the place. So the filters for me is a way to replicate what I see in real life, of course it’s not 100% real but Ik the truth. I actually posted a pic without filters on Insta and Facebook dating, and men liked it which surprised me. Also, Ik there’s studies about the impacts that social media has but I wonder if 20 years is enough to have one, you know? Like how long do we need to know the long term effects?
Strangely enough all these wxegerated filters makes people look more like 90s depictions of aliens: small lips, big eyes, slightly bigger foreheads. Only the skin colour green trend has yet to be started and we're set.
Those beauty filters look ugly. PlayStation 2 era graphics. They remove most of the intricate details in favour of plastic looking faces. Video games these days show off how much detail they can display on a face, whereas social media filters show off how much detail they can remove from a face.
The fact that perfectly attractive young women deplore their makeup-free looks proves once again that a large part of the beauty imperative for women is the impulse to compare themselves with other women. It's not really (or not much) about attracting men.
At the very least it started out as a focus on attracting men. Getting a wealthy husband used to be incredibly important for a woman's status and survival. Though I think that once an idea or association becomes a part of the culture and people stop questioning it, it is able to exist on its own. After a certain point the obsession with female beauty does not need an outside motivating factor. Both men and women perpetuate it because that is what they grew up with, it is normal. We inherit the obsessions and neurosis of our forefathers.
This is why I hate social media. My ex partner would always fat shame and make fun of my “wrinkles”, crows feet. This impacted my mental health and well being. I felt depressed and sad because I felt I was ugly. The irony or what I realized was that my ex partner was ashamed by their appearance did not like the idea of they looked like so they would always try to make me feel bad for what and how I looked. I am better right now but there is still more progress that I need to make.
I work with someone who said her 50 year old sister posts heavily edited photos and gets attention from men 20-30 years younger and she's like addicted to it. I can't imagine that's healthy because she knows how she really looks and I imagine she feels bad when she sees a mirror that shows reality.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's a shame when a person tries to pawn their own insecurities off on you. Just know you'll bounce back from it, and there are brighter days ahead
That makes me so angry. Fat means you're eating good!! Crows feet are cute and they mean lots of laughs and smiles!! I'm so sorry they tried to drag you down to feel shitty with them. I hate how people treat wrinkles man wrinkles are good. If you have wrinkles, you've lived a good long life and THEY HAPPEN TO EVERYONE
For what it’s worth, I think most people shown in this video looked better without the beauty filters. Experimenting with hair styles or make up to improve your look is one thing, but I’m definitely weirded out by how much virtual imaging has co-opted that process.
These filters are so invasive, the fact they’re embedded onto our camera phones and social media apps is dystopian. I also think it’s teaching us to be ageist and racist when it comes to our idea of beauty. A lot of these filters discriminate against different racialized features like how a lot of them pinch our noses when big noses are common among different ethnicities. When we’re already trying to fight back against impossible beauty standards by exposing ourselves to more diversity online, the fact we can’t even trust our own photos is daunting.
With me, it was actually the opposite. I became more brazen and confident taking pictures of myself and posting it. Of course, no picture is perfect but the need to criticise myself has lessened.
People referring to their own edited selfies at the plastic surgery office and saying "make me look like that"... Yeah we're living in a dystopian novel
Just my own take but this why I never use those damned filters ever because it takes some real logic to know how screwed up it is. Hell, life is hard enough trying to love ourselves as is then trying to sell a version that is manufactured and unrealistic online just makes things worse 🙄
I’d rather be a anonymous nobody that likes to share stories about my homemade drawing copycats and travel experiences than fame-hungry, attention seeker. For me, a good “Social Story” would be a picture or video with just a song to create the perfect atmosphere for the context. Plus, I already have a mom that mocks me for my body figure in real life, I don’t need to be mocked in the virtual world too to feel bad about myself.
The Bold Glamour filter made me look like a drag queen.....There's this other one that plumps the lips, but it made me look like I had a botched job. lol, the filters don't seem to like my face :( Then again, it may be more due to the fact that I can't stand taking selfies and hardly do it in the first place. So everything will look weird to me. I think it's fine to play around with them, but the fact that it's making more and more people have body dysmorphia is a scary thing. Especially if you're getting more likes when you have those filters and people comment on those more. That dopamine hit will just cause you to want to look like that and not yourself. But I don't see how it can stop. Social Media is all about presenting an idealized version of yourself to others for likes, so using filters go hand in hand with that.
I remember having a list on my notes app when I was like 13 of different surgeries I wanted and the prices as a goal to save up for when I turned 18 and I'm sooo glad I didn't have that kind of money when I was younger because now at 25 I've learnt to love my crooked nose and bushy eyebrows and slightly uneven boobs and labia etc and it makes me sooo sad that so many of my peers didn't get the chance to build self love because they got cosmetic procedures as soon as they were old enough legally but before their bodies and minds were fully grown
I relate to this! One of the things I hated about myself was my body hair which my mom actually stigmatized it to me. I still remember when she’d hold my face and click her tongue whenever my facial hair grew back. She would remove my hair without getting my consent but I learned to hate my hair so much that I would eventually ask her to myself. Me and sister used to talk about getting laser hair removal some day. When I learned the stigma around body hair was heavily ageist and sexist, I eventually decided to grow it out. It was intimidating but now I’m comfortable and happy with my body hair and it’s a feeling I wish all women can be elated with. It’s why I feel a little heart broken when my sister did get laser hair removal and my mom got it after her. I can’t blame them but still.
@@sapphic.flower I feel the same way. I have mixed feelings with facial and body hair especially since a lot of the people around me are disgusted by it but at the same time it's what makes me ME....and it also gave me pretty bushy eyebrows lol! Whenever my friend says she hates body hair I break a little, she has this idea that body hair makes you stink? (Underarm hair or coochie hair) I mean, it's her choice but I wonder how much of it is actually her's since we're pressured to look 'feminine' and 'clean'.
After years of hating my pic being taken (because i hate filters), I made a promise to myself a couple years ago that I would never post a filtered pic of myself, but start posting real pics of me. Feel so much happier
I was born with a cleft lip and palate, and over the course of my life have had 11 surgeries to approach even a decent approximation of what “normal” looks like. Trust me, y’all, you’re way too beautiful to put yourself through the pain of plastic surgery.
The only answer is going to be some kind of offline revolution. The answer/solution will not be found on the platforms that depends on the misery of its users.
I'm now upset because I suddenly realized that someone tried to sell me a picture of me that was probably filtered like this. I didn't buy it because it costed fucking 20 dollars, but the only reason I was even considering buying it in the first place was because I thought they just caught me in a very flattering angle...😠
Hm, I reckon this is a condition that primarily affects young females and gender-nonbinary males. It's a pity and a waste of our otherwise promising youth. BUT but unlike other mental illnesses such as PTSD or even burnout, selfie dysmorphia is NOT anybody else's "fault" per se. Not to minimize anyone else's anguish/illness, but just for perspective: In some parts of the world, this issue is definitely considered a first-world problem. For instance, if you live in Haiti, chances are that you're kept busy staying alive/afloat - especially if you are a young woman or a gender-nonbinary male.
Well social media didn’t start it as a teen in the early aughts and late nineties. I remember in health class we would talk about the magazines and tv commercials that had unrealistic beauty of models. It’s nothing new it’s just enhanced
I hope we start to see more of a movement towards how to create more of a safe place for yourself on social media. I think that’s probably the most effective solution given that these apps are probably not going anywhere any time soon.
How is it that getting surgery to deal with Snapchat dismorphia is not ok but getting surgery to deal with body dismorphia is stunning and brave. Do y’all not see how this is the same issue? Both are chasing something that will never exist.
what breaks my heart the most is the fact they when the filter is off, they all still look beautiful. If that's how I look with and without filter on, I don't have to worry. I look pretty, like human, like me.
Imagine someday where AI will be able to analyze pictures of people you follow/stare at and then uses that data to manufacture pictures based off that. Totally made up, fake people, but the picture will be there. Oh, and thanks to chatCPT 4 the profiles will be able to have conversations with you and generate content. Even worse, takes pictures of you, beauty products you buy, and people who idolize, and generates portraits of you based off of those. Giving you a physical image of something you want but will never be able to achieve. It’s about to get really BAD out there.
Filters are messed up! And I had to laugh at the automatic filter on WeChat, when I was in East Asia I found out how huge these filters are! When I went on some dates there, the guys couldn't believe I looked like my photos if not even better. It was like they wanted to poke me if I was real. I could only imagine the difference if meeting someone who uses filters vs real life. It's terrifying. I feel so bad for the kids growing up with this bullshit. And even worse when I see parents adding filters to make their kids look prettier - so sick!!
I like the message here. I know this may be only semi on topic, but I wanted to share my experience anyways. I'm a nurse to pediatric and adolescent patients. We went from a couple of depression/anxiety visits per provider per week to at least 2 per day when COVID was about a year in and honestly it hasn't slowed down all that much.
It is interesting that to my eye every single person in this video looks more beautiful without the filter. It is sad to see people feeling so insecure about their real appearance when they are absolutely beautiful. Another horrible trend I have noticed on social media is modifying celebrities to golden ratio face. I find it extremely toxic. You have these people who already have money and time to spend on their appearance and we are still sending messages how they are not perfect enough because they lack “golden ratio”. And the end result is every face looking exactly the same. It is absolutely horrifying.
All of these folks looked amazing without the filters. I like seeing skin texture and open pores and asymmetrical faces and just generally "imperfect" features. It's what makes us human.
I quit social media nearly seven years ago - and my mental health has been so much better off because of it. I tried to get 'clean' from it one time before it, but I was injured in a fall and bedridden for almost two months, so in my isolation, I reactivated... It was such a back slide for me as a person it was practically terrifying! After I could walk again, I shut it all down - and I've never been happier. It's like a black storm cloud clearing up to reveal the long forgotten blue skies of your own stability after about 4-6 months. The spell is broken - your addiction ended - and REAL LIFE becomes so much easier to shoulder! If you can shut it down, try it, if only to see how much lighter you feel. Trust me - it's worth trying at least once.
@@sandy00960 I read, write, get together with my friends or talk to them on the phone (I only do texting if it's going to a short, *short* exchange!) I play video games, spend time with my family, research, deep dive into the things that interest me, take walks, have a few cocktails and have a few laughs (occasionally so, no judgements lol!) I watch movies/shows. I play board games, cards, and put together puzzles. I try out new stuff to see what grabs me: that got me into knife throwing, archery, horseback riding and skydiving - all because I have ALL of my free time to myself instead of 'living' on those toxic platforms through a devise. It's just so much healthier and WAY more fun! Basically, I just do activities like any person who was born before the internet existed did, I guess! But the thing that makes it so easy to keep away from it (once again, after a FEW solid months time away) is that you just realize how much time you wasted out of your own life on Twitter or Facebook - but now, everything else you decide to do with your time, is REAL. You've actually going to an archery range, a drop zone, stables, restaurants, bars, what have you - and actually really, truly *doing* something and that those are real, lived experiences - enjoyed fully by your five senses, in real time.
Labial is pronounced “lay-B-ul” or “lay-B-al”. A variation of the word “labia” I’m not sure how long Be Real will be around. They have lots of adopters but minimal daily usage. Without a way to monetize their platform how will they be able to pay the bills long term? PS I don’t/view tik tok or filters. My face looks like my parents faces and they are beautiful so why would I change/hide that?
7:09 In any case, likes and followers are a metric for employment on Instagram (and other Social Media) unless of course, you go viral and then have a lot of likes and followers.
I tried using a filter after not using any for two years straight and it looked so fake to me. Straight up cartoonish. Other women using it looked cartoony to me too even kind of creepy. You really don't see how ridiculous it all is until you step back for a while.
Its terrible, especially if you're a dude trying to date lol So many women post hyper filtered photos where it's a look that no one could match. My ex used to filter her photos and I'd yell at her because she looked like a different person. I think it really fucks with people's brain and probably if I started filtering my own I'd become more self conscious.
I use black/white filters to appear much older than my real age. I have obvious _marionette lines_ and my lips tend to dry up often. So, those filters add about an addittional seven-ish years to my face.
8:59 Maybe let’s call out the rubbish pieces of softwares that think they’ve achieved something by making people look like unrealistic version of themselves.
I absolutely detest the casual fatphobia that takes place especially with respect to ‘body transformation’. I understand if it’s for a role or a health issue, but why is there this need to hate your fat version and not embrace that as a part of you?
Because being overweight makes one more likely to have type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, stroke, heart disease, liver disease, gallstones, breathing problems, types of cancer…etc. please be serious.
What I don't get about the whole issue - and why BeReal has to be a thing at all - is why do you have to share everything, from everywhere, all the damn time anyway? I have a healthy social life and really don't miss out because of the whole social media craze and literally EVERYONE that knows I'm not on social media (yes, I see the irony. This is a RU-vid comment. You know what I mean.) said they wished they could do the same and that I do well for not joining.
Having such filters on by default is both awful and absurd. Do they think people will take a selfie with each app and go with the one that looks the most attractive? Everyone judges their social media by how hot selfies look, but won't notice the obvious difference? Is that the thinking?
I used the teen filter, I'm 33 and it didn't look any different from my regular face. The bold make up one looked weird on me though. That's why I don't use filters like that. The hair color ones are fun to experiment with though.
I'm glad you're talking about this! So many still don't understand these things! It's devastating to mental health to believe that these kinds of radical bodily transformations are possible, let alone necessary!
