WE'RE PREGNANT BY SURPRISE | Ep. 3 

When my sister in law got pregnant sooner than she expected she nicknamed her baby Bob Ross and her motto was “there are no mistakes, just happy little accidents” 😆

Pro Tip from Pediatrician- When you have two littles close in age and they’re both crying at the same time and you’re panicking- get the oldest settled first. It’ll take the guess work out of deciding and the oldest is more likely to understand or get upset feelings if they have to watch you help the newborn first. CONGRATS 🎉 !! So happy for your growing family!!

My sister and I are 13 months apart. She’s my best friend and we’re 56 and 57 years old now. Congratulations! You guys are a great loving family. I can’t wait to see the birth video!

I have three children that are all grown now. Just wanted to tell you that my first two are are 15 months apart and and second two are 10 months apart. That’s just about as close as you can have them and I don’t regret it for a second. My kids are so close and have such a great bond. Yes, it’s stressful and difficult at times, but it’s so worth it. Enjoy every minute you guys! You got this!

As someone who lost two pregnancies last year (12 weeks & 14 weeks), thank you for mentioning miscarriage and how lucky/grateful you are. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant and having a healthy baby are all freaking miracles.

Great quote from the show "Roseanne": 'Mommy, was I an accident?' 'No, honey, you were a surprise. An accident is something you'd never want; a surprise is something you never knew you wanted until you got it.' Congrats to the whole family, including your brother and sister-in-law! :)

Honestly... even though you said you'd "never" do a podcast, I'm starting to prefer the podcast to your normal videos - there's something so REAL, SINCERE, HONEST, REFRESHING, HELPFUL and so inspiring 🤩 You're so relatable, I love it!!!

I love that Matt’s reaction to Abby projectile vomiting was “it was so so sad” because he had empathy for her, instead of saying “it was so so gross” which, let’s be real, it’s vomit and it is gross. However, I really appreciate seeing a man be more empathetic towards his spouse than grossed out.

You can see how much Matt loves Abby

So happy for you guys ❤

As the “oopsie baby” in my family with my brother and I only being a year and a half apart, my mom always was honest letting me know that yeah! It was really scary and a shock but also she never not loved or wanted me even if the emotions were all over. So if you were feeling any guilt about it, I thought I’d share from the child’s perspective that it is scary and that’s valid! We understand! 💚✨

Being pregnant is HUGE on your body and mind and you have a baby right now - your reaction is so normal!! You’re a rockstar and will do amazing, but the nerves and stress are completely normal. Also Matt’s reaction was SO selfless, he was scared I’m sure but immediately said things to comfort you. Amazing parents!!!

Omg this being called the Unplanned Podcast makes so much more sense now😂

I saw this and my jaw dropped, it feels like just yesterday griffin was born. Congrats guys, griffin will be a great big brother

Love how this podcast episode was a journey of sharing the vulnerable side of this experience where you guys were shocked, in awe, terrified, and stressed about the unknown and then to transitioning to the point where you were able to accept and embrace the reality, have excitement, and see this unplanned experience in a positive way! I love how you guys are able to normalize an unplanned lifestyle and show people how there's beauty in surprises and unexpected experiences. So happy for you guys and can't what to see your family grow!

During my second pregnancy, I would say “this baby is unplanned but is not unwanted!” Enjoy the journey with your “dutch twins” (siblings born within one year).

The age difference between griffen and the baby is the best part actually.....they are going to be best friends and are gonna thank you later😂😂😂😂

As Bob Ross would say “we don’t make mistakes; we just have happy accidents” so excited for you both ❤

I have 3 boys. First 2 are 20 months apart. We were using condoms, spermicide, mini pill and breastfeeding. Found out when my oldest under 1 and was still soooo hard. We were not sure if we were going to have anymore because the first was so hard. I cried for 2 weeks after finding out. Not tears of joy. He turned out to be the biggest blessing and most wonderful child from the beginning. He will be 21 in April. Best surprise ever. So grateful for him.

I am a psychologist and most of the cases I work with are with parents in denial of their baby, it’s a coping mechanism, if anyone shames you for it it’s because they lack of knowledge. Don’t be afraid to reach for professional support if you ever feel like you need it. Sending you so much love❤️

I’m a single Mama of 3 under 3 Tips - Change one; Change both - Routines are amazing the sooner the better - Get griffen involved as much as he’d like:) Congratulations!!!🎉

Matt: "This was unexpected!". Also Matt: "Honey we really need to start using protection". 😂

Honestly, it's kinda on brand for Matt and Abby to have an unplanned baby. Y'all's whole life is the definition of spontaneity

My sister-in-law had the same thing happen with her! She just had her second baby, and she was SO upset at first. She had such a hard time being excited at first, because of how worried she was about how she’d be able to do it. But she absolutely adores little Charlie and we’re all willing to pitch in and help. 😊

My mother in law’s first child was 3 months old when she found out she was pregnant with twins. The twins were born 8 days before her oldest’s 1st birthday. So for 8 days a year, they all joke that they’re triplets. Congrats to you guys! ☺️

Totally called it. The name of the podcast, Matt saying "during your first pregnancy" in the first podcast, the ultrasound pics, the pillow in front of Abby in the last podcast. Congratulations, you two! I have a 7 month old born just after Griffin was 💕

I just straight up don't comment a lot, but when y'all were like "you cant get pregnant while breastfeeding" I was like "oh she's pregnant" lmaoooo I'm so happy for y'all thou. You'll figure everything out!

My mom got pregnant with my little brother 3 months after having my sister. That was a rough time for her but God have her the strength to pull through. I know God will bless you both and give you strength. ❤️

YESSS! I was pregnant with my first when Abby was, and I am ALSO pregnant again too! ❤️

I'm 39 weeks pergnant today, and can still not wrap my head around that I'm having a baby in like two weeks 🤯

I am a single mom of two. My son is 2 years old and my daughter is 4 months. At times, it is so so tough to have two kiddos so close in age, BUT it is so incredibly rewarding. My biggest hurdle with two kids is making sure that my oldest still gets the attention and reassurance from me. Sometimes I’ll leave my youngest with a family member and I will take my son to do something just he and I do he knows that I’m still taking the time for him too since I know it can be hard for him to understand why I’m not just his mom anymore. You both are going to do AMAZING.

Yayyy!! Baby number 2! You guys are already such great parents, can’t wait to see this little human grow up to

You can see how much Matt loves Abby, his body language leaning in towards her and always listening to her attentively. You guys are so cute! Congratulations on your pregnancy, you can do this, you're so strong!

no influencers pregnancies have ever gotten me as excited as griffin and baby howard 💛

there is something about Matt and Abby that is so genuine and you just feel like they are your family. I love your content and how open you guys are.

I’m one of those women that has a high chance of multiples. It runs in the family. I got pregnant with triplets (all girls) without fertility treatments. Two of them are identical. I got pregnant with twins (a boy and a girl) 5 months after the triplets were born, and they have a 14 month age gap. The twins are only 4 months old now, so I have five kids under two. It is so hard to have so many kids so close in age, but it’s also wonderful and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I hope that because they’re all so close in age that they’ll be close with each other. I know the triplets will only be a grade apart from the twins, so they’ll all be going to the same school most of the time. Will make it a bit easier for me with dropping them off.

They’ll be 15 months apart! My older brother and I are 15 months apart. I always remember my dad telling me I was an “oopsie” baby. My mom cried when she found out she was pregnant with me because her little baby boy wouldn’t get to be a baby anymore. Having a kid now, I can see that would be A LOT of work to have kids that close in age, but growing up with it, I couldn’t have wanted anything else! My brother and I are best friends! It was always so fun to have a school buddy and friend! ❤

As a mom of 4, with every single one of my kids being super close in age, the most important thing is going to be communication with you two. It is very hard transitioning from one kid to two & y’all have to be strong & communicate with each other. Also know that the first few weeks will be difficult but once you get into a routine things will get easier. You will be so grateful you had them close in age as they get older. My kids are so close to each other and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Congratulations to you two on another beautiful baby!

I cried initially with my second because I couldn't imagine finding room in my heart to love anything as much as I loved my first born..... but you find out that you can, and you will, and it's not difficult at all. The love part anyway 😅🤣😂

I absolutely love how encouraging and supportive Matt is. It’s such a beautiful thing to witness. It’s so rare and so refreshing. Gives me hope. ❤ I am SO HAPPY and EXCITED for you guys!!! What a journey y’all are on!!! I wish you guys all the best wishes. You deserve it. Sending all my love and hugs your way!! 2023 is going to be a crazy good ride for y’all!! Whoooohoooo!! ❤

I loved how you didn’t draw out the news until the end. Great podcast! I get so annoyed how some RU-vidrs make me scroll through 15 mins of a “day in the life” teaser before the news. This was perfect!

I love the fact that you guys are being so honest about how you weren’t super excited at first. I found out I was 2 months pregnant when I was getting married in 4 months and all I could think about was that I was gonna be a pregnant bride. Now I have a beautiful 5 month old baby girl! You guys got this. Remember God’s timing is the best even when we don’t see it now 💕

Griffin is going to big the best big brother and we just know they are going to be two peas in pod!! It may have happened sooner than you were thinking but God always has a plan! Congrats again and we love you guys!!❤👶🏻

I am thirteen months apart in age from my brother and I love it. He always calls me his unofficial twin and it’s amazing. I love him to death especially because I’ve never known a life without him and that’s so special. Your babies will be besties; I’m sending prayers to your family while you navigate this journey!

Did anyone else hear Matt drop hints about it over the last few episodes? Like saying “in your first pregnancy” I’m so happy for you guys!!❤️

My cousins are 1 and 2, 11 months 3 weeks apart, it’s so fun!! The younger one advances so fast developmentally because he’s watching his sister and wants to do all that she’s doing! Y’all got this, you’re amazing parents! Congratulations!!

This is so comforting to hear. My husband and I got pregnant about 2 months before we were really planning to try and even that was hard when we found out. We definitely took some time to process and telling family and friends made it much more exciting when we got to that point.

congratulations 🎉 the whole cousin thing made this even better. my oldest cousins and i are 1 year and 4 months and 6 weeks apart respectively and we have always been friends and even though we are getting older now and have our own lives, we still make time for family weekends every year and hanging out whenever, which has only gotten better, since we aren’t dependent on parents

I love how relatable you are. It is totally acceptable and normal to want more kids and love your kids but be shocked or underwhelmed/ overwhelmed when you find out you are pregnant before you were planning.

As a sister watching my mom go through Irish twins, I know that the best thing you can do is give you and your body rest. Your body is not only making a new beautiful human to enter the world but also completely sustaining another baby’s life! ❤ You guys are so amazing. Whisking you a happy and healthy pregnancy 😊

I am loving this podcast!! I’m only up to episode 4 so far, but I love how open and vulnerable you guys are, and I just love your relationship! Such a wonderful team and such amazing parents!! Also, this will be so great for your kids to go back and listen to/watch when they get older, they’ll love hearing these stories and memories!❤️

My middle sibling and I are Irish twins, too (13 months apart)! Our mom also got pregnant 4 months postpartum and told us she was so scared at the time, but I can honestly say it was amazing growing up with a sibling so close in age. We are best friends now and being able to reflect on shared memories and have someone who I can relate to because we did everything together has been so great! We certainly got in our fair share of fights, but I'm so grateful for my sibling and I'm sure Griffin will be, too! Congratulations!

Don’t let people scare you. We had twins and people really tried to scare us. The boys turned out to be my easiest pregnancy and birth. They kept each other entertained.

My sister got pregnant when her first child was 4 months old, then they discovered it was twins. Therefore, she had the twins before her first child was even one year old. You're not alone. Good luck with everything!

Congrats guys! I had all 3 of my babies close together and wouldn't have changed it for the world! They became the best of friends and protected each other. It was just so heart full filling to watch them thru the yrs. I loved it and so will you guys!

This sounds like my husband and I getting pregnant with our second. I have PCOS, and it took us almost 2 years to conceive our first. I found out 11 months postpartum that I was expecting again, and I was floored. I didn’t feel ready either. My boys are 20 months apart and are currently 3 and 4. I can say without a doubt that accidentally getting pregnant again has been the greatest blessing in our lives. So so much fun ❤

Y’all, thanks so much for being so vulnerable and authentic with us and for talking about stuff most people don’t openly talk about. As someone who dreams of being married and being a dad one day, to get to be a fly on the wall in your conversations and your lives has helped me learn a lot and has inspired me to have a family just like yours one day. So grateful for y’all!!!!!

Abby, don't feel guilt over your reaction to being pregnant again, it's a normal response of overwhelm and fear. Some women get concerned they won't be able to love second baby as much as the first but you're heart grows! Congrats to you guys

You guys are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this very special chapter of your guys' life. Thank you for being raw about your first real emotions when you two found out, and hearing how those emotions started to turn around to excitement is just so inspiring. And from the stories you told, we can really see how you two work as a team and how you support one another in any way you can, it's so beautiful! Have a wonderful 2nd pregnancy, Abby! We're excited for you and Matt. This is my top comfort YT channel and I'm so happy with everything you put out. I'm going through anxiety and your channel is such a huge help. Love you guys!

Congratulations! So excited to see this newest chapter continue to unfold in your lives! 💕💕

I can't believe it!!! Oh my goodness! Now I see why Abby was sick pretty frequently for a bit. I did not expect it at all with y'all doing fertility awareness and with the doctor's advice after Abby's surgery, and I thought that Mother Nature would definitely give y'all a bit of time after Griffin. How wonderful! You guys have Griffin, Caleb and Abigail are expecting, and now Griffin will have a little sibling too. Howard babies all around! Many couples have to wait so long to have even a small family. Y'all are so blessed, and may you always be. 💛 Sorry my comment was so lengthy, but I'm so happy and excited for you!

I'm 49 years old and I knew when she kept getting sick that she was pregnant. I am so happy for you all. I absolutely love the little set up as well for your Podcast. I'm just a year younger than my oldest brother.

Congratulations ! My sister and I are 16 months apart and we're just besties (we're 18 and 19), as you said it's such a blessing to have two close in age kids :)

I have a brother 11 months younger than me and I can’t even remember anything from when we were little but the fact that you are both around will really be helpful for you two ❤️ good luck!

Abby: “my world is like flipped upside down and he’s just asleep.” Matt: “that’s what I do.”

When you said "Were pregnant" I screamed when everyone was sleeping 😂 I'M SO FREAKING HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS ❤️ May God give you a healthy pregnancy YAY GRIFFIN WILL HAVE A SIBLING😭❤️

Congrats on a great podcast and the baby on the way! My first two were 16 months apart and I can relate to all the emotions Abby was feeling. They are now best friends at 16 and 15. Hang in there. You guys got this.

Happy for you ! I had 4 children 3 and under with one set being twins. It was a lot of work but also a lot of fun watching them grow up together. We have 7 children , I was 34 when youngest was born, I also homeschooled all of them. My children have thanked me for having them close together as they say they had sooo much fun playing and working together as we had a hobby farm at that time. God gives us always the grace we need at the moment! God is good! Enjoyed watching this!

My babies are 14 months apart and I am currently in the thick of it with a 16 month old and a 2 month old. Your story sounds identical to mine from the denial, to the stress, to the acceptance. I won’t lie and say it’s not hard and everything is great, but I will say it has been amazing seeing my husband and my daughters bond grow from all the time they spend together. And by the time your baby is born you easily bounce right back into newborn life like you never stopped and it’s way easier the second time around. Congratulations and just know you are not alone!

I had 5 kids in five years, #2 & #3 are 1 week shy of being a year apart and then we had twins 2 years later 😮 they are 13,11,10, 7 and 7 now and WE SURVIVED!!!! what I can’t stress enough is ENJOY IT! It’s so easy to try to just get through the day and miss the little moments so cherish the little things, leave the dishes and laundry every once in awhile because it goes by SO fast when they are little and you can’t get those years back…. I wouldn’t trade my kids being close for the world

New podcast subscriber here. My daughter has 5 kids and her oldest 2 are 11 months apart. She says her second child was an unplanned blessing. Congratulations! And just like I told her you guys have got this. Even though she was extremely exhausted she managed. They prayed, enlisted help, and slept as much as possible. They also ignored and avoided judgment and negativity as much as humanly possible. God bless you all.

I got pregnant with my second 5 years after my first and it was totally unplanned. But my husband always liked to say that “it’s a surprise, not an accident”. That always made me feel more positive. My nieces are 15 months apart and I’ve got the chance to see the pros and cons of having kids close and far apart. It’s all in how you approach it. Positivity is super important and you both are definitely positive people. Love the podcasts. I listen to you while I work!!

Matt: you are so supportive of Abby. The two of you definitely compliment each other.

When I was 3 months old my mom figured out she was pregnant……. with TWINS!!! I am 22 and they are 21 now and we are best friends! So excited for y’all!!! 🙌💗

I could definitely relate! I had my first child and four months later I found out I was pregnant and though I love my kids I couldn’t stop crying. Then at my first ultrasound I found out it was twins and I couldn’t stop crying then either. I was very depressed the first two months overthinking everything and not knowing how I was going to manage haha so you’re not alone. You love them so much but our emotions are valid haha

I’m a triplet. My parents were both working full time when they found out and weren’t making much. Like you guys, they had an amazing support system that helped them out a ton. You guys got this!!

My brother and I are 10 months apart. We’re currently the same age! My mom said the first 2 years were the hardest but after that things got a lot easier and she loves how close we are in age.

Soooo I have 2 kiddos close in age. My daughter was 9 months when we found out we were pregnant again. It’s an adjustment in the beginning, and they will fight like siblings do in the younger years but as they get older, it is so sweet to watch their friendship develop. It’s amazing having 2 close in age. Y’all will love it!

I just went and watched the pregnancy test video and was amazed with just how awesome Matt was towards you Abby! What a great husband…. I want someone like that

my brother and I are 13 months apart. I had a buddy through everything. there was never a moment I felt alone as a child. it was me and him through it all! you have so much to look forward to!!!:)

First off!! Congratulations!!! Thank you so much for posting this. I have a six month old and just found out we’re having another and when I initially found out I too was panicking and stressing like crazy, feeling like everything was closing in on me, and stressing about what this would mean for my baby that’s here earth-side already. I felt so bad that my initial reaction wasn’t elation or joy and to be honest I still feel guilty about that but this has helped me realize how normal that is and that it doesn’t make me a crappy mom to this new baby.

After seeing the hint in the short that they had an announcement... Thinking it could be pregnancy, but knowing they had the shorts showing a negative test... I'm very thankful to have the news in the first 2 seconds of the video haha. Congrats you two! I'm only 17 months older than my brother and loved having a close friend growing up. Well, until high school lol

My baby boy and baby girl are 1 year 1 month and 11 days apart, and while it’s hard I can already see that they love each other so much! It’ll be a really sweet sight for y’all! One thing I did was cherished all the baby moments that my son had and was there for him as much as possible but I also made sure I got him used to playing alone for an extended period of time, and for the most part he has adjusted very well to his baby sister and even kissed her forehead unprompted when she first came home! ❤ I’m sure Griffin will be a great big brother!!!

Me over here crying happy tears the whole episode at 19 weeks pregnant 😭❤️ I love watching y’all’s love for each other and your babies

I loved the "maybe an accident, but not a mistake"; if anyone could do it- it's you guys congrats :)

When I had our 5th baby we had 5 kids 6 years old and under. Right now my kids are 7, 6, 4, 2, and 1. I can completely relate to SO much of what y'all have talked about! I was on birth control and exclusively breastfeeding every single time I got pregnant so my first reaction to each positive pregnancy test was shock & overwhelm. Each time I found out I was pregnant I cried and not happy cry. It is just a lot to take in at once! Our first and second kids are the closest at 14 months apart. I was NOT expecting the pregnancy test to be positive but had felt fatigued & nauseated for a few days. I came out of the bathroom in shock and said "We are having a baby." He said "What do you mean? We have a baby right here" as he points to our 5-month-old lying in the floor. By the 6th pregnancy (we had 1 miscarriage in the midst of our 5 live birth children), I just came out of the bathroom in the morning holding a pregnancy test laughing after I had vomited. I had not said a word yet, and my husband looked at me and said "Are you serious?!..." So much of what you talked about is normal - the shock, the denial, needing time to process what is happening. Also, it is so weird to count it up but I went over 8 years with not a single period because every time I got pregnant before I ever started having periods again after a baby. So same thing as you, Abby - I would call my OB office and couldn't give them any dates so they had to estimate the due date based on ultrasound. My encouragement to y'all is this: Yes, the coming months and years will be exhausting, stressful, and overwhelming at times with little ones so close in age, but it is also a wonderful blessing. It has taught me an incredible amount of self-sacrifice. As a follower of Christ it has taught me in very practical ways what it means to die to myself and be a servant. I am often reminded of my limits and weaknesses and inability to care for all these kids in my own strength so it causes me to daily rely on God's grace, goodness, and strength to help me care for and disciple the children that He has blessed me with. In regards to caring for 2 little ones practically, give yourselves lots of grace as you figure out how to navigate it. I learned to park next to cart returns at the grocery store so I could grab a cart to load the kids into right away. When you have toddlers around a newborn, often baby-wearing the newborn is the best way to ensure they are safe when you can't have eyes on them both. One of the hardest things for me was getting used to having to let one child cry while I tended to the other because I can only do so much at one time. You will learn to breastfeed while doing lots of other things (like getting a snack or drink for another child, sitting on the bathroom floor with a potty-training toddler, reading to another child, singing a toddler to sleep, doing homeschool lessons with older children, the list goes on!). I could continue, but this is getting long so I will stop there. Congratulations, Math & Abby! The adventure continues!

This is your best adventure yet! There is just something about you two talking back and forth that actually made me want to follow you all in the first place!! Unplanned podcast but the BEST idea ever!

My nephews are 15 months apart - they’re bond with each other is so special. They are really getting to grow up with their best friend. Congrats!!

Just want to say thank you for always shouting out us single mamas. ❤️

my mom had 4 kids in 4 1/2 years and we are all so close. you’ll do great with 2 kids! congrats!

Congratulations ❤❤ having two close together is great! I had the same situation as you guys with my two :) they are 14 months apart, one boy my eldest and my girl. It was hard at the start but now they are 3 and 2 they are so awesome together :) it’s so nice seeing them play and cuddle and communicate with each other ❤ it’s really awesome and scary as it is and now we are expecting number 3 in August :) you guys will do awesome! Get your boy a present when baby is born is my best advice :) best of luck guys!

I had 4 kids under 6 by the age of 26! My last two are twin boys. Divorced when my twins were 3. So I was a single mom, but had great family support! My twins will be 21 in September. You guys got this! Excited for you guys.

My brother and I are 15 months apart and, growing up, we were thick as thieves! As married adults w/ kids, we don't spend as much time together as we did growing up but having kids together and getting to share all these milestones at the same time is SO MUCH FUN. Obviously, raising them will be tough (especially when they're younger), but you guys will crush it! Hope the pregnancy goes smoothly.

Matt: (gets Abby pregnant) “I am still so confused” BAHAHA YOU GUYS CRACK ME UP🤣 I loved this so much!!

Omg I’m so excited for y’all and it can be challenging sometimes but if you put your mind in it you. Can do anything I love you Matt , Abby , griffin, and new baby 💕

I’m the oldest but I have siblings that are twins. We are 18 months apart and so close! The older we have gotten the closer we have gotten and we seriously thank our parents all the time for having us so close because we have such a good relationship! I have a 3 and 1/2 month old and would love to have another baby sooner rather than later! So happy for you both! Prayers coming your way for healthy baby and pregnancy!

I love how we on YT have seen both of you grow up from just married college students to becoming parents with a second child on the way. Abby you are so strong being just who you are. And Matt thanks for being a big brother figure to us bros who are in college and still just starting life.

I'm pregnant with my third and will have 3 in 3 years. Keeping communication and supporting eachother in your relationship is so so important to get through the long sleepless nights, hormone changes etc. I had the same reaction as you because mine were also unplanned but it has been amazing and my 2 kids are so close and it's been really fun! So happy for you guys and excited to watch your journey!

My brother and I are 13-months apart and we are still super close into our adult years. I absolutely loved having a big brother so close in age! He and I were attached at the hip as kids, and we’ve always had such a special bond (our other siblings are sometimes jealous). I don’t know what it’s like to be a twin, but having him so close in age- he was my very best friend growing up and having the experience of childhood and teens and adulthood with him as my “twin” has always been such a blessing. Congrats to your family!

So so glad I found you guys I’m literally listening to ur podcast from the beginning you guys are so refreshing and don’t seem like a regular family Channel it’s more about you guys and what happens to you both. And also you guys are an adorable couple ❤