I love what she said at the end - the hijab can be used for liberation and oppression. As an American woman, I think it should be a woman's informed choice.
But the irony there is for her, its not really a choice is it. The consequences of not wearing it is far greater than wearing it, so can you really call it a choice if not wearing it would bring about more strife and judgement (and possible condemnation in hell). Its like saying if you wear it its good, and you want to be good especially in the eyes of your mother and God, so you better wear it or else...BUT it's still ok to not to (kind of but not really) lol.
Muslims claim that men are a degree above women and are their guardians who can discipline them for being disobedient as prescribed by allah to protect them. An ideology that only allows multiple wives but not multiple husbands is sexist. A god who provides for virgins for men in heaven but nothing similar for women is sexist. An ideology which claims that men are the guardians of women (who can discipline them when they are disobedient) as prescribed by allah to protect them is sexist. It is no less offensive to me than an ideology which promotes white supremacy (but there is so much more about islam which is extremely abhorrent other than the sexism). Google worst countries for women (almost all muslim) and best countries for women (none are muslim), google Gender Gap Index (it is about much more than wage equality), no muslim countries in the top 50, most of the worst 50 countries are muslim. It seems that secular teachings and man's laws are much more effective at protecting women than god's laws and teachings.. This couldn't possibly be so if allah was truly the all-knowing omnipotent creator of the world which he is purported to be. Women have been executed for being raped in muslim countries. Western women have been imprisoned for being raped in muslim countries. Every day girls and women are "honour killed" by their own families.
That mother feeling she has failed her daugher is so relatable to me. Growing up Christian, I was always afraid of telling my mom I had stepped away from the faith from fear of hurting her, making her feel like she failed in some respect.
anne berry its a part of life. Its challenging for both of you. What you know and believe and how you feel are not always in alignment. Good luck both you and your mother.
The mother should relax. She taught her daughter whatever she needed to until she's become a grown woman and her job is done. What her daughter wants to do now is between her and God, the mother has fulfilled her duty. I get that she's saddened but really, she can't change her daughters mind, so trust her to make her own decisions and be accountable for them.
She seemed very relaxed to me. She’s just sad about it. It’s not like she started screaming or shouting and beating people up. Some close people around me also got sad when I started wearing hijab but I tried to reassure them it will be ok. Stop living in a fantasy where you think everyone will start clapping and dancing at your decisions. As long as no one is imposing, forcing or hurting you then let them feel what they feel. They have that right
That's actually a fallacy. Traditionally, as in the time of the Prophet PBUH, there was a choice. It is without a doubt a command from God to wear a hijab, but everyone is responsible for themselves and it's up to them what they want to do. There were women who didn't cover up and they weren't punished for it. The Prophet PBUH simply to the men to lower their gaze. One fundamental principal in this religion that many people fail to recognize (this includes Muslims) is that there is no compulsion in religion. It explicitly states this towards the end of the second chapter in the Quran, yet people compel each other. It's against the religion to do so.
@@sub7se7en Weird how in hundreds of years no Islamic scholar has found that passage until recently. : / Or is it perhaps that the quran and the hadiths speak quite a different language in other places and Muslims have "compelled" others from the start?
@@MrCmon113 Have you looked at any exegeses of the Quran? If you explored them I'm sure you'd find that you are quite mistaken. I'd recommend starting with the Tafsir by Ibn Kathir. That is one of the more well known exegeses on the Quran. There exist many outside of this one as well, so if I'm sure they will address your concern satisfactorily.
Countries like Afghanistan women must wear hijabs, but in the 1900’s women wore skirts and let their hair free but when the taliban was in control women had to wear it, it is truly sad. It should be a women’s choice to wear it.
Amish women also cover their hair and dress modestly. Why aren't people fussing about that? Hasidic Jews in Israel cover their hair, too. Again, we never hear about that. Makes one wonder.
Wearing a hijab can also be to make a political statement, ie. I'm a Muslim who follows a fundamentalist path, one who supports Sharia. Islam is not just a religion. It's also a political ideology which has rules about 'the Unbelievers'. The Amish and Jewish faiths are more of a personal religious practice only, so there is no reason to fuss about them.
I think that the media fuss about the hijab is somewhat overblown. Most people in the West don't care whether another person chooses to cover her own hair and neck with a scarf. (France is somewhat of an exception because of its tradition of strict secularism, but in a country like the United States with strong traditions of personal liberty, it's really not a big deal in the eyes of most people.) The niqab is an exception because it basically allows a person to walk around in public anonymously. That raises legitimate security concerns, the same way that someone walking around on a public street wearing a ski mask or any kind of face covering would (no matter what their religious or cultural background is). There's a legitimate debate surrounding the niqab about the limits of religious freedom versus security concerns, but the hijab itself isn't a problem.
Mary Poppins what do you know about judaism. Fact is, in general and today, judaism is about personal beleif and not prostelisation,in comparison to most of christianity and islam, that during their histories tried and our still trying to spread their beileifs, violently or otherwise. As a (very) secular jew, i do frown upon many hassidic practices, but at least they dont expect every one to hold themslves to the same standards. You were probably mentioning the prophecy from isaiah, which part of it states that after the apocalypse (a.k.a the messiah returning) the gentiles will admire the israelites and follow their lead ( by choice) way better than :"christ will return and the non believrs will go to hell" or "the infidels must die" that christianity and islam represent sometimes. Also, unlike islam, mainstream judaism reformed many times , outlawing polygamy and deleting many death penalties by stoning, in adition to branches like reform judaism and conservatives, which recognize gay marriage and equality between genders including tin the clergy.islam, as far as i know, didnt do any of that.
As a muslim woman, raised by a deeply devout muslim parents - i felt this. Honestly im at this intersection of my life. Luckily i moved to a foreign country due to job assignment. And i get to decide for myself what type of person i wanted to be - without considering how would my decision wouldve impacted my parents. U know.. Sometimes all u want in life is just to feel winds on your hair, nothing else. Why can it just be that?
toy 87 Such a simple pleasure of life. Just to feel the wind flowing through your hair. As a woman with long hair, I can tell you that it feels amazing even though it makes my hair a tangled rat's nest. I am not going to tell you what you should wear. All I will say is to do follow your heart. Do what feels right to you. Life is short and you only get one shot at it. No one has seen afterlife or next birth. Today is all you can have to enjoy, make memories for your future and live your life. Good luck. :)
Anton Arizona calm down ur not fully british the country was founded upon immigrants same as every country and atleast the immigrants do their jobs u lot sit on ur ass talking shit about immigrants taking ur jobs but u lot wont even try to get a job and ur excuse is immigrants when have u ever seen a immigrant on the doll never not once
So Hiba graduated from Harvard twice and is becoming a Doctor but removing a piece of clothing from over her head brought her mother to tears of disappointment?
It's all about perception. I had a nigerian friend in university whose mom was hysterical when she chopped off her long hair and shaved her head completely.
As a revert wearing a hijab is a daily struggle, my family constantly nags me and makes fun of me for wearing it and dressing modestly, i have been threatened with violence by my family for wearing it but to me it is such an important thing that i couldnt not wear it, its an important thing to remember that not only are people being pressured or forced into wearing the hijab but that people are being pressured or forced into not wearing the hijab and neither is okay
Salaam Alaikum Amb H. I'm not Muslim myself, but I agree and appreciate your point of view. I'm saddened and shocked to hear that your own family has threatened you with violence for wearing the hijab. Surround yourself with close friends who will be there to support and comfort you. Having to put up with this kind of crap from your own family must be tough emotionally and mentally. Remember too that threatening someone else with violence is illegal - go to the police if necessary to get a restraining order. I truly wish you all the best and wish peace and blessings upon you.
May Allah swt reward you for your patience and strength, sister. As a revert myself, I haven't mustered the courage to do this as I'm afraid of what my family would say and react. Thank you for inspiring me, sis.
Amb H MashaAllah, sister stay strong. I have Muslim friends that both wear and don't wear the hijab, but i love all of them equally. Although I personally also believe wearing hijab is close to compulsory, it is still the choice of the woman herself, because if she is wearing it just for someone else, it's not going to benefit them anyway, because their heart is not in it. So if your heart is in wearing the hijab, mashaAllah sister, I wear it too, and because I wear it for myself and Allah, there is no one that I would take it off for. InshaAllah Allah gives you the strength to follow the good things that your heart wants, and know you look equally as beautiful even in a hijab 😘❤️😍
Amb H I have faced a similar situation with my family and it ultimately pushed me to take it off. They didn’t tease me harshly, but it was the small remarks they would make that eventually drove me to it. “Aren’t you hot?” “We’re afraid for you.” “Are you doing this for a man?” I couldn’t take it anymore.
I feel so sad after watching it. The mom is trying to teach what she believes is right. The daughter can’t get away from the pressure of pleasing the mom. I feel like mom should understand her adult daughter’s decisions do not reflect on her. The daughter should talk to her mom and make her see how not disappointing her is making her keep on wearing hijab even though she doesn’t want to
288amna that’s not completely true. She also mentioned that she herself thinks the hijab has become a part of her. So it is not just for her mom. She also seems to have the freedom to do a lot of things without her mom. She is an independent woman with two degrees. The mom is allowed to feel how she likes. The daughter is also allowed to do what she likes with her life and seems capable enough to do it.
strandedstarfish - which God? The God in their holy book? You mean this one? "... and Allah was deceptive, for Allah is the best of deceivers" (Wamakaroo wamakara Allahu waAllahu khayru al-makireena)! S. 3:54; cf. 8:30. A self-proclaimed liar and deceiver. Call me crazy, but how would they trust anything that god says?
Glad to see a Muslim going out and approaching this topic from a nuanced point of view as opposed to pushing the ‘hijab is only and always liberating’ perspective.
Let’s be real, hiba is not being forced to wear it, but she’s definitely being pressured by the expectations of her family so I don’t know how much this is a free choice. We should be able to point this out and discuss how to make it a truly free choice without fearing that discussion
I started to wear hijab at 14 because i felt like i really wanted to and then i took it off at 18 when i felt like it didnt make sense to me anymore. I remember how hard that conversation was with my parents, they were very disappointed in me.
u r wrong/ Evrything made by God makes sense. EVERYTHING is connected and has logical explanation to what he created. And all his orders should have logical explanation. U r blind believer, easy manipulated
Last year, in the UK, I trained in advanced CPR with a fellow nurse who was a Muslim. She was wearing a Hijab. When we had to practice how to palpate for the carotid pulses in the neck of other trainees, she refused to allow them to do so as she would not draw her Hijab aside. When we went on to carry out CPR techniques on the Resusi-Annie she stated she could not do the chest compressions as she was weak from fasting, it being Ramadan. After the training we all returned back to the surgical unit where we were working. Those skills could have been required immediately for a post-op patient with complications. Whilst I think it is wrong for governments to legislate for what people can put on their heads or on their bodies, in their own free time in a public space (like a beach re the Burkini), it is absolutely imperitive that any religious observances DO NOT intefere with carrying out your professional duties. Particularly when those duties involve the safety and wellbeing of others, whatever their heritage or religion. Of course no one would challenge this nurse on her religious observances making her unfit to carry out her duties for fear of being labelled racist and the employer being sued! I have lived abroad in a completely different culture and amended my behaviour to the local norms in deference to that country's culture. If you cannot do this, why choose to live in such a completely different culture anyway? It is not down to your host country to bend to your ways but quite the reverse, as it would be if a secular atheist like myself lived in a Muslim country.
It isn't down to your host country to bend to your ways, but it's very convenient for Christians and atheists of Western countries that it does. For example, would they hold the mandatory training on Christmas or Easter? Probably not, but Muslim and Jewish holidays rarely get recognized and respected, which puts Western believers in awkward and hard situations. And do you really think her Hijab would prevent her from being a good nurse? Is being used so other trainees can feel the carotid pulses necessary in the line of duty? It's a scarf, not a weighted blanket.
Callie S I have worked so many public holidays I have lost count and we have held resus alert drills to identify gaps in response times during holidays as per the calendar in a non Muslim country, as that is how this country works. If I was working in Saudi Arabia etc. then I would expect the same as per their calendar. Nevertheless, to deliberately allow yourself to be unfit for work when others lives are at risk is immoral. How dare you put religious observances of staff over patient needs. What if your Mother was a patient that died because a doctor or nurse could not function properly due to voluntary starvation during life or death demands of them. I bet you would sue. You foolish person! Thank you though. You have only reinforced my view that fundamentalist religion, in this case Islam, is all about the believer and "your rights". What a selfish creed. You should not be a nurse or a doctor if you have your priorities reversed in this way. If you feel this way then I enjoin fundamentalists to go to live in a Muslim country where you may be able to get away with dereliction of duty as part of your culture. This concerns me greatly and I will be letting as many people I can know about what I saw ( in my secular/Christian country) so that they may make an informed choice of whether to refuse to allow a Muslim doctor or nurse to care for them if they are fasting. Medical staff make enough mistakes already, without adding to the destabilising factors.
Yeah, as a nurse you've worked public holidays, no shit. But you don't have class on Christmas, or lifeguard training, or an Olympic event. You don't have to worry about choosing between going to class or celebrating an important holiday. And again, a Hijab does not make a woman unfit to work as a nurse. Not every Muslim fasts during Ramadan, and the ones who do are very good at overcoming their hunger to do their jobs. If my mother was in the hands of a Muslim doctor during Ramadan, I would trust that that doctor has a medical degree and understands the limits of their own body. You put your trust into the hands of every physician you encounter, whether they are Muslim or atheist or Christian. You don't know how much sleep they've had, how much food they've had, whether they're alcoholic or sick or pregnant or addicted to painkillers. Residents and doctors already face ridiculous work hours and exhausting stressloads, and we still expect them to act in life and death situations. I expect Muslim doctors, fasting or no, to do everything they can to help the sick the same way I expect any other doctor to. Life is full of destabilizing factors, and we still trust people to work through them. Instead of touting bigoted views, maybe you should talk to Muslim nurses and physicians about their habits. Ask them how they manage, what they do, and how they feel. Have a conversation rather than building a knee-jerk wall. There are lots of articles written by Muslims on working in the medical field during Ramadan. thedo.osteopathic.org/2013/07/long-days-without-food-or-water-muslim-residents-talk-about-ramadan/
Callie S once again the "truth" is labelled as bigotry. Your choice with your life and your family's life on this issue is born of ignorance. If you had to attend a coroner's court and give evidence on factors affecting the undue death of a patient you must give all the relevent facts. Just as if any medic had not had a break, slept, was under the influence or indeed was unfit due to voluntary fasting. Medics often don't have a choice about taking adequate breaks but the Muslim ones have a choice about fasting, many make that call not to fast correctly. Many do not and put others lives at risk over THEIR religious observances. That is immoral. Don't be too trusting of all medics either, they are not all saints, irrespective of religion. Seen some walk away and wash their hands of a patient with complications. Again, you do not add a destabilising factor into a critical situation. Science not bigotry. I see it as their bigotry in not doing the right thing actually! How about them apples!
Letitia Brooks My wife is White English convert to Islam who is a nurse. She wears her hijab and so far its going well for her. I guess it depends on the person and how they adhere to thier religion without compromising the rules.
When I first told my parents that I'm taking it off, they were so disappointed. Now they're not only understanding, but also super supportive and protective of my choice! I absolutely love my parents for it. Always talk with your parents and give them a chance, you'll be surprised by how THEY can change your mind and be open to new things.
This was not always the case..Muslim women wore bathing suits and no hijabs in the 70's. What changed. I too am trying to research the truth about such issues. Thank you for sharing these videos.
Hi alisha green. What changed was the "Salafization" of Islam. When Saudi Arabia and other Gulf states became incredibly wealthy due to the fact they happen to be sitting upon an ocean of petroleum, they began to spend a lot of their new found wealth promoting the strict Salafi version of Islam throughout the Islamic world. They gave out large numbers of scholarships to young students from far-flung places like Pakistan, Indonesia, Malaysia, North Africa, etc. to come to the Middle East to study Islam. When they returned home and became imams in the mosques, they preached the hardline version of Islam they had been taught in the Middle East. As these promoters of strict Islam gradually took control of mosques and Islamic publishers, they made their version of Islam normative. Those who practiced a more liberal and cultural form of the religion were accused of being "un-Islamic" and pressured to obey Muhammad's teachings strictly. Soon bathing suits and bare heads were being replaced with hijabs, abayas (full body cloaks) and even burqas and niqabs in some places.
Photios what changed was the west divided up Muslim lands after the end of the caliphate. Then women started adopting the dress of the west. During the rashidun caliphate there were no uncovered women walking about. Salafization is just returning back to the pure Islam as was done in Muhammad salallahu alayhe wa salaam time.
Muslim women nowadays educate themselves more knowledge about Islam. They now wear hijabs and cover their aurats after understanding what Islam is all about. Just like where I live, during my early age, many Muslim womens dont wear hijabs. Their clothings are mixed fashion of east and the west. As I grew up, there an awareness of how Muslim women should be after they attend Islamic classes and more understanding about Islam. Many doesnt know that wearing a hijab, covering the aurats are stated in the Al Quran. Than they start covering up their aurats by wearing hijabs and wearing clothes according to Islamic requirement.
Basti i know. there's a good conversation to be had about how societal fears get projected into different pieces of clothing through history. but since all threads devolve into a snowflake/trumptard dichotomy i say we get out while we have our dignity
Nym GRACE naw it was just sarcastic. passive aggressive would be: "hey commenters, it would really be great if you could refrain from spurting toxic bilge in this comment section, k thanks! :) :) :)"
damian zzz wearing a hijab does not automatically instil dignity. Why would anyone expect a child of 5 to wear this tripping hazard? Children should be free to run and play., so should women for that matter. You can be spiritual and modest without restriction on clothing.
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I wish my mum did that for me, isn't it strange how you live and learn, when you have something so amazing, such a gift and you don't see how lucky you are.
It’s clear your sister doesn’t want to wear it anymore, yet she will because your mom will start crying and saying she failed as a mother and your sister doesn’t want to make her feel that way, with all due respect but your mom and parents like her are extremely selfish, she lived her life the way she wanted and now she’s (somehow) forcing your sister to wear it like her, I wonder if your sister will take it off when your mama dies one day.
So why is the mom not disappointed with her two sons who went on and married non mahajabah!? Why should the mom expect only her daughter to please her and not expect that from her sons!? Poor Heba! You should not be held hostage of your parents' choice. There is no shame in taking off the hijab, and there is no special faith nor pride in wearing it. You are a clean, honourable lady, whether you wear the hijab or not. Your parents don't understand that you have to decide for yourself, the same way your siblings did with their own lives, so why should you be the only one to suffer that biased type of oppression? Are you living your life or your parents life!? This kind of parental controlling is so haram. It goes directly against Allah's given choice and free will to mankind. Maybe your parents need to learn to let go of their last frontier!
Allah is a figment of the patriarchal imagination--a viciously vengeful wackjob. Muhammad adapted the Judaic Yahweh (another minatory, neurotic nut-case) for his own purposes: to terrify people into following him. Free your mind from this rubbish. You wouldn't believe it if your culture didn't believe it.
For me for a long time i wore it. Until i read about it and my own interpretation was its not compulsory. God doesnt give you a burden you cant handle. I had anxiety and couldnt sleep cos i didnt want to wear it when i woke up in morning. But i knew what i believed and how it wasnt my choice. My mum told me i would go to hell and since then i have little relationship with her. I dont wear it anymore but i know my parents are upset. Its the south asian culture which is so toxic, cos for me the religion is a lot more liberal than the patriarchy interpreted it as.
I can relate so much to her since I am a Baptist christian. We believe that woman should dress modestly in skirts and covered from neck to below knees. Once we get married it’s between our husband and ourselves to make the decision on what to wear. It’s hard.
This video describes perfectly the struggles that most Muslim go through. I did choose to wear the hijab but I was too young to know if I wanted to wear it for the rest of my life, and now I can’t imagine taking it off because the disappointment of my mom would kill me. It had become part of me but I do sometime think about taking it off
covering the body yes! covering the head ? no ! its not god commend nor it is mentiond in the Quran therefor its not an obligation ( and the word hijab in the Quran has no relation to a woman dress)
I'm more interested in how she decided to study both law and medicine than whether or not women should wear the hijab. Over a decade of learning highly regarded skills takes a huge commitment and she managed to stick with it. Now the mind behind the hijab is what I appreciate more.
I’m just like ur sister. I use to wear the hijab right and now I wear a turban and my dad isn’t really happy about it and tells me that I look better if I wear it right. I know that it’s wrong but someone who doesn’t wear the hijab doesn’t know what it’s like to wear it and I think no one should be judging another person by if she’s wearing the hijab or not or if she’s wearing it right or wrong.
Wear hijab only for Allah. Allah says modest clothing is better for us. Now it’s your choice if you wanna obey Allah or not.. simple enough, no need to turn this into this big debate like everyone’s doing nowadays. Everyone’s accountable for there own actions and it’s between them and Allah.
👏👏👏 you are absolutely right!!! We all have to go into our own qabars and are answerable for our own amal...modesty is very important not only for women but for men too. Unfortunately we live in times were wearing a bikini is being feminist and wearing hijab is considered as being orthodox and restricted. Feminist are not so feminist after all that they can't grasp the point that we women can wear it by our own free will and find it liberating...
There's nothing in the Quran that says a woman should wear hijab. Only to be modest. Wearing it is cultural. Mainly it comes from men who want all their "womenfolk" to be subjected to their will.
I do understand the different symbolisms of something such as a hijab can take - from a tool of oppression in some places to a symbol of cultural identity and minority rights in other places. That said, the mother's attitude is exactly what we need to fight against. We need to not allow our parents to emotionally manipulate us in doing things their way. If it is a personal choice then let it be personal, but don't do something that you might not want to do just because your parents would be sad otherwise - that is textbook emotional manipulation. I am not saying that the mother in this video is a bad person or that she is _intentionally_ manipulating her daughter, nothing of the sort, but she definitely has some blind spots and biases, as we all do in various circumstances. We need to encourage our children to explore the world, be free and find their own identities. In my own life, I have taken several personal decisions that have saddened my parents, and one decision in particular which really angered my father. However, they eventually understood and accepted my decisions. Of course we have some responsibilities to our parents and families, but we should not try to impose our wills onto the other, especially when it comes to personal decisions regarding one's own life.
im from Morocco and i wear it out of personal choice( i see it as the feeling of god and faith and pride being concrete and true ) ,my aunts and cousins don't wear it but i do.. and society sees us just the same.. I wanted to share my positive experience to empower others
she’s not even wearing a hijab in the first place .Come on plz she’s just covering a part of her hair with that called « hijeb » of her. Her mother failed in educating her what’s Islam abt what allah tells us to do and not .really things don’t work like this she’s not even wearing a hijab . ppl don’t consider that this is a life which means we’ll all gonna die someday and its just a test from allah to test our belief . The real life starts in the hereafter so just stop running after life and work on it for whats coming after it is just a test wake up ppl wake up....
I wear hijab because it gives me confidence in every aspect of myself. One time I remember my friend told me I don't have to wear it , I felt like she took something from and I get sad. And I noticed she doesn't like wearing hijab, is not about me at all.
Her daughter is a good person and leads a good and responsible life,but her daughter not wearing the hijab has her in tears,saying she would feel as though she didn't do her job as a mother?! She did an excellent job!! And love of God should be there no matter what.All this over a piece of cloth.I hope shes not implying that wearing hijab=love of God.
This case looks more like a family burden on women to carry hijab practice. Comments by parents are so unnecessary and indirectly non supportive. The girl is very intelligent and good hearted but burden by parents. I just want to say that no matter what you wear or not, your actions and thoughts are what brings you closer to god!
I couldn't help but giggle when Aymann's sister told him he was a smart man for having no opinion about what a woman wears😛 I hope oneday these are not Necessary conversations & we can all appreciate & respect everyone for our similarities & our differences, we are missing out on such beauty in the world by being so narrow minded!!! But while they are Aymann is AmaZing & doing an AWESOME job!!!
To be honest, nobody cares! Why would anyone give a fuck if some woman wears a sock on her head? Do whatever! The idea is to wear whatever you feel like...
It not a choice, it's a command, not wearing it is considered a sin. If a men aside from your brother glazes at your hair. It's considered a sin. There is no hadith or verse in the Quran that considered wearing hijab as a choice.
I am a Brazilian woman who embraced Islam and I proudly wear the hijab.Its not only a matter of identity,but it’s the peace that I get in my heart from following God s commands.Islam doesn’t oppress me nor do I stop doing what I love: working,studying,swimming,volunteering,etc. It’s a complete way of life that benefits everyone if properly followed.Peace be unto all of you!!:):)
In my culture it’s wrong to wear the hijab at such a young age especially 5. You should know how to pray first, know how to read and understand the Quran, know the basic underline of Islam. So we shouldn’t wear it until 15-18
It is oppression and it is part of a wider oppressive ideology. However, she is free to submit to this oppression, and keep her mother happy. The hijab is not a problem...certain people wearing it are. She is obviously not one of them.
Judy Rules on yes I'm sure that a girl walking down the street without her hijab in saudi Arabia will be fine. She wont be beaten or forced to wear hijab. You can tell this woman does not want to wear it but feels she has to because her parents expect her to. But that's not forcing her to is it? Just guilting her into wearing hijab
@@handrianiv By law rape is a crime in our country unlike in Islamic law where u r told by a lunatic who thinks he is a messenger of God that rape is okay and u will go into heaven...
@@No-sv7qo u know that ur testimony in a sharia court in an Islamic country is half that of a man and instead u can be convicted and punished by death for adultry if u can't produce 4 or more male witnesses...
A symbol of divided loyalties when worn in the west. Most of these women are afraid of their own families. This mother would be passive aggressive but other families are violent about this issue.
Sedentary Lifestyle How would you know what other families do? Muslim people are not a monolith we don’t all think the same and we all don’t resort to violence. Some muslim families have no women wearing the hijab.
I know; I have friends of both. The point however is that in the west it's a political symbol of dominance to remind the host population that "demography is destiny" & that they're already paying the jiyza via taxpayer funded social welfare payments & free housing for Muslim immigrants & their many children.
Sedentary Lifestyle lol Then you don't really have "friends of both" do you. If you did, your Muslim friends would tell you that it's a symbol of God-consciousness no doubts and no questions asked period. I bet that this news is new for you, poor you.
Not at all & spare me the Saul Alinsky tactics, thank you. My objection to the islamisation of the West is from my Muslim friends who fled from the sharia decades ago, never expecting it to follow them to the 1st World or that the west would so rapidly be becoming 3rd world, the Legal system, etc.
I think it's beautiful that with her college education and the understanding it's her choice to wear it or take it off she chooses to honor her mother. She did mention she has friends who have seen her without it so maybe she doesn't wear it all the time and it was because she was on camera. Who knows? Regarding the comments about it not being a "real" or "authentic" hajib, who cares? The whole point is that it's HER choice and that's what she's choosing so who are we to judge?
This is why I like the western culture more than the eastern culture. Of course, the eastern culture has better parts as well, but in the western culture, there is much less pressure on children to follow the footsteps of the parents. If my children makes other choices in their relationship with God, I would be happy that they are able to think for themselves. That is why I educate my children: to let them think for themselves and make their own choices.
As someone who’s born and raised muslim but now is agnostic. Im very critical about the idea of hijab and niqab in-fact many muslim scholars believe hijab is not islamic, many women in the Middle East/ North Africa especially in Egypt in the late 50s didn’t not wear the hijab and it was considered normal but after the muslim brotherhood and the extremists took over and were given power its when things have changed that’s when they instilled fear in peoples minds and making them think god is this monster that’s gonna torture them solely for sinning etc. I fully support women who have the choice to wear the hijab but the niqab is something I cannot fathom at all bc no human being should cover their face/identity.
Outsider Hijab is Islamic. There is clear evidence in the Quran. Having said that I do agree that no one should be forced wearing it. Niqab is also personal choice and not religious one.My wife's sister is white convert to Islam and she wears it and loves it.
Before I was a woman trying to say it’s not required. Now still I do not wear hijab but my mind change and Insha Allah I will wear it because it’s God Command and also it’s the best way to identify a Muslim woman. Also in my view, it’s one of the most feminin tool for a woman. Hijab is beautiful in all its aspects and I am not anymore a woman trying finding excuses. The more they attack hijab, the more I want to wear it …
That is what happens when Quran is not inside our hearts..!! When you obey Allah you will do it happy and without any thoughts..!!! I remember when this happened to me ..!!
we obey god for the things he said in his book ! and god didnt mention covering the head but the body for women and men ! god's orders are clear anything not clear it means he left the door open ! its not an obligation to cover the head ! not in the Quran anyway
Thanks God my mother is not like that. She considers wearing a hijab is a personal choice. I took the decision myself, she never tried to convince me of anything. And even now if decide to remove it, she will never feel any dispointment. It's really sad that the majority of people believe that Islam is hijab and a girl that doesn't wear it is not a Muslim or less Muslim than others.... Really sad, Islam is much more than that
Cara Cara That chapter only requires you to cover your awrah/عورة as far as I'm concerned...BTW I'm from Indonesia and that's all I know in that chapter of Quran...
Cara Cara Are you from a Western countries ? Because I think that many these so called "western Muslim" are actually far more conservative than real Muslim who live in Muslim-majority countries...
"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna and not to reveal their adornment..." Surah Noor "O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies" Surah Ahzab These ayaat are clear brothers and sisters. It is talking about drawing a veil over yourself, including your hair. We mentioned the women of Quraysh and their virtues in the presence of ‘Aa’ishah and she said: “The women of Quraysh are good, but by Allaah I have never seen any better than the women of the Ansaar, or any who believed the Book of Allaah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation. When Soorat al-Noor was revealed - “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” - their menfolk came to them and recited to them what had been revealed, and there was not one woman among them who did not go to her apron, and the following morning they prayed wrapped up as if there were crows on their heads. There are many other ahadeeth to support this too... A lot of people try to move us away from the truth. If a person doesn't wear hijab it doesn't mean they are not going to jannah, they are an evil person or not a Muslim. But we shouldn't exaggerate in saying that, hijab is not part of the religion or it is not an obligation. Rather, if we struggle with a particular aspect it is better to say 'I know what is the best thing to do, but I am struggling with it at this time', not 'I don't have to do it.' May Allah forgive us all!
I went to alghazaly with you guys and remember heba...sister Nadia was my teacher in 4 the grade. Please heba, do what YOU feel you should do, Allah will judge you based on your good heart and behavior and actions, not by a piece of cloth. Sister Nadia and my mom and all women in the 70 and 80 in Egypt never wore hijiab....so why now of a sudden it's a huge part of Islam???? Why didn't they wear it when they were young? Why the Azhar in Egypt didn't have women wear it in classes???
Sometimes there are some point i want to take off my hijab cuz i am so into dancing and dancing with hijab on (especially modern dance) are not that... Appropriate nor graceful. But i always remember a hadith and also one of the reasons for me not to take off my hijab forever. The hadith says "one strand of hair showing from a female head, one step closer her father will enter Jahannam". I love my father so much. I love my God also. I don't want to harm my father especially in after life.
Janioong thank you for mentioning the hadith sister. I wear my hijab and i exactly have some problems like that. There are many many days where i think of taking my hijab off as i feel like i will be More accepted in the society or that i like dancing like this or clothing like this and many other things. It’s very hard for me sister. But at the same time, only out of fear of Allah SWT i can’t think of taking it off. And i always remember a saying ( it might be hadith idk so i don’t want to create misunderstanding) the hadith says that a women who shows one of her hair strand is cursed by 1000+ angels for that. Peace sister
@@aminam9594 peace to you to sister. I am living in a country where Islam has 86% of the population, Indonesia. So i don't really know how it feels but i know it's tough with all those environment surround you being the minority. May Allah stronger your imaan and deen. :)
I can totally relate to you.. on some days I just wanna take it off but on the other side I don’t. I hate when people who wear no hijab judge hijabis. They don’t know how we feel they don’t know how it’s like to be a hijabi. I live in Germany and wearing it is not that easy but I’m trying my best to not give up..
In my opinion as a christian, the Hijab or really any head coverings for women along with using skirts is honourable for a woman to do so.Todays society has become very unsensored. But i dont like the burka the burka is horrible, we are not 16th century desert dwellers for woman to be covered like that.
That not hijab at all. Its only a turban. Hijab is scarf or material that you wear to cover your head, neck,shoulder and your chest. What she is wearing is a turban. Her mother is wearing a proper hijab.
It is not about her daughter, it is about *herself* , it is her ego who wants to impose on her daughter, "she will never forgive her" if she takes off the hijab, so the only one who suffers is the mother, in her mind and in the story she made up in her mind, she will try to blackmail the daughter "you make me suffer so much", making the daughter responsible for her suffering. But that is all self made suffering in her mind.
the "funny" thing is that I have seen people and especially government structure here in Germany (where the state is supposed to be NEUTRAL on religion (Bavarian idiocy notwithstanding) actually TAKING ISSUE with women wearing HIjab (as a teacher or as a judge) is when the women ARE having agency, are highly educated etc. Nobody would force a "cleaning lady to take her headscarf off (in reality cleaning-ladies in Germany tended to wear a headscarf long before and quite sometime after the first mosque was built here. It was a matter keeping the dirt out) but the critique is always loud and aggressive when muslim women who choose to wear the Hijab (as one option for example I was told about was wearing it makes that success more palatable in their community /easier for her not having to prove her "islamic cred" if you will so you have QUITE q few high achieving muslim women wearing the hijab) And then will be granted POWER (judges) or represent that state (teachers). In all fairness, the state wouldn't allow a judge to wear a kippa on duty or wear a cross either.. but I have been taught by nuns and they were wearing their habit which includes a headdress . so a certain amount of racism cannot be denied here, sigh, in the way the narratives are framed. As a white women trying to unravel her own issues with women wearing what they want...(I am aware of my ridiculous bias here, is what I mean) I realize that especially in young women the hijab sometimes - weirdly but viscerally - feels like a rejection of "our" culture where we might even love to welcome said lady. and I realize that the very few times I have seen FULL covering it makes me very uncomfortable, because of my bias that this cannot be a free choice on a hot day (even in the face of my nun teachers wearing the grey wool summer habit on any outing (but they got shorter and the headdress because optional, so even the catholic church started to "allow") I am very frustrated with myself, for having a "feeling" about what my fellow women choose to wear. I have no right to see your hair. I firmly believe that I also have no right to touch you, but I find myself finding black gloves on a summer's day "weird". I wish we could sort the racism out and simply "touch" each other's lives more, intermingle more (but in spite of what the media might have reported of Germany, I know very few muslim women in Germany unless you live in a few areas where the muslim community has focused settling) long story short: people get way more upset at hijabi wearing POWERFUL women imho and I recognize that knowing that something isn't my/your place to have an opinion about doesn't means you are on a feeling level ok with it.. and that sucks..
You have wrote a very thought provoking response. Never noticed that before, but now since you mentioned it, I can't unsee it. Really appreciate your comment.
I love how objective and rational German people are. I appreciate how you admit things and see how a country's system can make its people "racist". I'm a Moroccan living in France and for someone who has to deal with French bigotry EVERYDAY when it comes to hijab, and which is btw waaaay worse than in Germany, you're not the first German with that same reasoning :) And oh your example about the "cleaning lady covering her hair is ok and the woman with a powerful position covering isn't ok" is ooooohhh so true and it pisses me off... To me it just screams colonialism, patriarchy, xenophobia.... As if we the Muslim community or children of immigrants are only allowed to own our identity when we're less qualified, are only reminded of our origins when things go wrong, but when we compete with the elite and make huge achievements we should hide our identity and we become trashed in the media for owning it unapologetically....
Then you may never raise them properly, they may never want to brush their tooth for example or say sorry when they have too because it might make them feel unhappy. Happiness is not a criteria of good or bad. Nevertheless, I understand what you're trying to say here :).
My parents are super religious and always made me wear hijab. I get too much attention when I wear it (and I'm not very religious) so I stopped wearing it! Try it for one day girls!
If Muslims understood that every rule in Islam exists to protect us and make our lives better not worse, then they would get the full benefit of our Beautiful way of life. May Allah guide us all to the Straight Path Ameen
@The Solicitor Yeah, that's kind of my point - how can anyone say which haddiths are legit when there is some clear nonsense amongst them. People just choose and pick what they/there Imam like. Not a great foundation for a faith.
Mega Soctopus Legion Of Cake no thats why in islam, we have a course called alim and alimah for men and women respectively, and here you learn the authentic versions of the hadiths- the books written in arabic and we translate, we dont even look at at translated copy. Also the internet is a good source just and just as bad. Im doing an biology degree and have been told by my lectures not to trust the internet, you would think that the information would at least be true since its biology
Although I can see what you're attempting to do in this video what I personally took from it was the fact that your sister who is obviously more intellectually open then your mother is ( no offense intended) is clearly moving away from it by making it smaller and smaller she is there by making it more and more insignificant thereby making it easier for her one day to accept the fact that she will not wear it right now I believe all this is happening subconsciously but as soon as her conscious thought process realizes what's happening she will remove that thing off your head I will admit that I do not know much about said headdress in the first place but anytime there's a group of people telling another group of people based on their sex race or sexual orientation that they must do or where or do not or not wear something in itself is oppressive
i cry when his mother said " i'am gonna be so sad if its happened, this will make me feel like i did not teach her.i did not do my duty as a mother, to teach her and put the love of god in her life and her heart...:( :(
