the first thing that came into my head is would he even have told you if you didn't text him first and with him being above 30 years old he could of communicated that better or a more sincere apology .
he’s not giving. maybe you should consider making it known where you stand with him and then never speak w him again since y’all were friends beforehand?
If he ever wants to date you again in the future, then he definitely would need to earn having that kind of access to you and your time. Can’t allow him back in in that way too easily, he’s going to have to make it up to you for the last time. Just my opinion though 😭
Saying “sorry” and then blah blah blah is not okay, he should’ve addressed better. I feel like as women we are too understanding. He made multiple plans with you not just one so he should’ve been able to make up for one, ESPECIALLY because you don’t live there. That was rude, you’re not being unreasonable
In my opinion you’re not tripping. Call me cynical but I really believe that some guys like having the satisfaction of having access to you and your time, but really have no kind of intentionality. Do not doubt yourself! The intuition that we have as women is there for a reason. It’s to protect us from getting hurt. Someone who respects you and cares about you as a person isn’t going to cancel on you abruptly without having some way to make it up to you. Some guys will make a bunch of promises to get access to you, but won’t follow through. Actions are more telling of a person’s character than words. You have a good heart. Unfortunately some guys will try to take advantage of your understanding and kindness. Trust yourself and trust God. Love you girl 🫶🏿
Thank you for your advice!! “A bunch of promises to gain access to you” is so real 😭😭. I’m definitely learning to take men for what they do, their actions, versus what they say!
@@AngwiTacho Same here! It really saves you a lot of stress. And this is coming from someone who loves hearing words of affirmation 😭. If things are unclear or confusing then just take it as the person isn’t interested enough in you. Not that they aren’t interested at all, but just not interested enough to prioritize you or make things clear.
i agree with you with the cancellation. him changing his plans isn’t the problem, but how he handled it. it showed that his time with you wasn’t his priority. because he could have definitely tried to see you after his event - or even the morning after. your gem will come that value’s you correctly! i’m still waiting for mine too 😩 Love your channel!! 🤍
I totally agree! Men will literally jump through hoops to make time for a lady they see value in. His loss, you are an amazing young woman and you should never settle for crumbs ❤
Hey girl ! You weren’t being unreasonable. That’s a 🚩🚩 of him , and I’m proud of how you handled it! I really like that you didn’t “okay his behavior by saying “ oh okay no prob or it’s fine” .. Because it wasn’t ! See how GOD followed up with an even BETTER opportunity ? SZA!!!! GOOD FOR YOU ❤️🎉 & the baby is soooooo cute! 🥹 his smile is infectious! Loved the vlog ! Thanks for sharing ❤️
just want to say i really appreciate the authenticity of you sharing a date story it really makes you so much more relatable in a day in age where everyone is extremely private (rightfully so cause the internet be interneting) but it’s always appreciated when my fave vloggers are open about their personal experiences as young black women!
I feel a lot of women make the mistake of doubting themselves early on in the relationship when these red flags come up. It’s not necessarily what he did but rather how it made you feel and how it impacted you and if a man is showing you that he isn’t thinking about those things then I’m not sure there is anything to explore there. You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who puts their friends before you. Trust me, it feels like no big deal now but these things rarely ever change and you will never feel like a priority in his life. Sorry! I just wish I had someone tell me these things when I was younger
I’ll keep it straight with you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a woman who does this, if they do this, they were just second guessing spending time with you the whole day OR they double booked you with someone they want more and if the other person they want more come through, they cancel on you. Its just the reality of dating nowadays. It happens a lot to a lot of people regardless of their gender. I think you’re new to this dating thing so you probably have high expectations but people suck and you just move on from it and meet someone who values you 🥰
If he never responded before you left LA after you did not reply to his news about the baby, then it’s giving he don’t care to make it right or how you feel about him canceling.
Exactly. And him not caring about the situation is his right. He does not like me that much. I don’t know why he was making a 1000 plans in a day like he was in a rush 😭
Hey boo What you are feeling is totally valid and spot on !! The same energy he used to plan would have been the same energy he would have used to deliver the cancellation. He planned a whole itinerary for the day and when canceling he should have done more and giving alternatives if he really wanted to link up with you
Ur style of vlogging literally feels so detailed and well put together I love the way you tag locations and people it’s like we’re there with you which a lot of creators can’t really get down pat but child! Always on point!
I think your disappointment is very valid. If someone decided to cancel on me w/o a valid excuse or didn’t make the initiative to reschedule that person will no longer have access to me. I really value my time & I believe everyone should as well, vice versa. Although I have been in situations like this plenty of times , I still get cute & take myself out, but best believe that man is on my block list 😂
He could’ve celebrated with his friend and could’ve just scheduled a later time with you. But as someone who has seen this first hand, he picked his friends over you and that’s telling. Your silence will say all it need to say to him. Keep it that way. ❤
my POV of the situation : he didn't respected neither you or your time. Thinking that you were available for his plans and he didn't even reschedule it shows how much he doesn't want do anything serious or have the desire to make you feel appreciated. He's a player he doesn't really like you. Don't even hop on that boat or you're going to drown .I lived a similar situation and i even invested a lot of me and didn't felt appreciated , i almost fell in depression. My friends saved me . If you do like him , RUN girl !!!!
The baby is perfect omggg😍 You’re def not being unreasonable in your thought process. If you didn’t text him would he have reached out to let u know!? Plus very valid with how u don’t live there he could of made something work and did both. As people we can make time for things that we want, very simple
you're 100% valid because not only was it a half ass apology but he had to have known ahead of time and could have let you know. also had you not texted him first he probably wouldn't have said anything .
In response to the date night chat, your feelings are 100% valid! Yea he ‘apologized’ (barely) but it’s the principle behind it all! #WhyMenDeserveLess
From learning experience. Super last minute cancellations could also mean he’s already preoccupied with another female companion. The baby news may have always been a known plan but he used that as an excuse so you could believe him. I used to chronically date (finally in a successful relationship as of 2 years) and as a hopeless romantic and met a bunch of guys like that, your gut feeling might tell you you’re crazy but if you feel uneasy about it, then most chances are right. Especially us understanding and patient girlies always fall victim. Like he only responded because you asked for an update. If you never messaged him would he have reached out and if he reaches out would it been at a reasonable time?
Hey sis, I feel you on this one! Your feelings are so valid and you not responding to the text was a power move. It’s giving little boy behaviour and it just shows you that this man is really inconsiderate and doesn’t think about others. This has happened to me many times so I get your frustration!
I think he wasn’t interested in hanging out anymore because otherwise he would have just texted you and wouldn’t wait until you reached out to say that. But you got to see Sza instead so that’s a win!
High key … his friend’s baby story sounds made up. Truly believe like others have said to follow your gut. You’re def not tripping. I’m glad you didn’t waste your energy by responding. God is def showing you all the signs early in this dating journey. Love that for you! ❤️
This is so me!!!! With the guy cancelling plans. You not bugging. He could’ve made plans with you afterwards! He just didn’t want to and that’s fine too. He should’ve just said that!
You def have a valid point bc if yall in the space of getting to know each other and dating then as a man he should make sure you good! and not stranded (worst case scenario) def inconsiderate but love how your night worked out in the end ❤
Am I the only one who’s missed out Angwi’s break up story? You’re such a wonderful woman, seriously! I genuinely am a constant viewer of your content since 3-4 years now and the excitement I have to see your videos while having food or just relaxing. Manifesting is the key and believing in yourself. Good people get tested a lot, would love to hear what happened with the man we all knew you were with, but genuinely no pressure! Lots and lots of love! ❤❤
Girl you not tripping at all. He was wrong for not giving you a heads up about other plans coming up. If you were a priority to him, he would’ve done so. I hope you don’t give him the time of day again, you’re too pretty to be treated like that 💕
The way I experienced something so similar to you recently in regard to the text. To me, it makes it seem like he don’t care, like why not plan something else instead of completely canceling😭
***MALE PERSPECTIVE*** Yea he could have softened that alittle bit by saying this came up but i definitely have to make it up to you the next time you are in town etc SN: some of what you said seems like left over residue from previous situations & having a clean slate with someone new is the best way to go because not knowing someone’s intentions can get tricky when it’s a new situation. That’s just my two sense.
Definitely could’ve communicated better, or told me he’d be too tired to hang out afterwards. But no, no leftover residue. He was a nice guy, which is why I didn’t express any anger towards him. I just left the situation alone.
You’re so right in your feelings about the date night. Cancelling and not making an alternative plan gives ‘I was never really on it in the first place’ Because were you the one who was supposed to reschedule with him? No ma’am. 🤚🏾
That was very rude, because would he have not said anything if you didn’t message him. He’s a grown man who lacks communication skills. You friend doesn’t announce out of nowhere they are having a baby girl to be exact lol. You could’ve been grown instead of beating around the bush and be direct. This was your blessing in disguise because do you really want that knowing how amazing you are … uhhh no babes.
Angwi I’m screaming! I went to visit LA that same weekend and was stood up by a guy I was talking to as well that same night and went to the SZA concert! It was therapy for sure ❤😅
You are ABSOLUTELY not tripping. Don’t dwell on it much and keep it moving. NEXT!!! You did well to have not responded. If in the future he sends a friendly message and you respond in a friendly manner, that’s fine too. But there should be no initiation on your part nor patronage of his advances in the future.
Girl you’re not tripping. These men need to do better honestly. A similar situation happened to me this past weekend but he immediately suggested that we change the date and he showed up exactly the time I told him to. So sometimes it has to do with someone’s character and priorities. But girl let him enjoy the rest of his life with his friends 😅
Honestly, I feel like you were not tripping. The reason being that you guys had a whole evening/ early morning of plans. Not to mention, this was your last night in LA so.. I always say people make time for the things they want too, and it was obvious that he did not want to make time. You not responding shows that you needed to process how you were feeling, and maybe at a later time if you feel comfortable you may express how you felt in that moment. Praying you find your husband, and ever lasting happiness. You deserve nothing less 💖 P.S. please pray that I find mine as well because ya girl is pushing 30 lol.
Listen to your intuition. If the guy doesn't confirm a time and date for the date, No date. I am very serious when it comes to my time and I will willing ignore the guy and leave his message sitting there. Your feelings are valid.
Girly! First off love the vlog as always. But no you aren’t tripping he is. Men will legit hang you out to dry but joke is on him let him miss out on an incredible woman.
Don’t entertain him. He said that he said and like you said, he did not try to find a solution to make up to you. He’s not serious about you, that’s all.
The middle part closure was beautiful on you & with curls as well. Now I just went through the same thing. The first time we both rescheduled because it was a busy weekend. The second time he called me early in the morning but Im usually booked and busy and need more of a heads up. I actually made the time & then all of a sudden he was going out of town. He apologised and asked to reschedule over the phone but I didnt respond after. There were already 2 red flags, so in your scenario that is a red flag. It's up to you on how many chances you want to give but after 2 red flags Im done personally. 2 red flags and we just started talking is a lot remember this is the honey moon phase! The honey moon phase is supposed to be fun and exciting !
Yea I got “you don’t care” vibes as well, I would’ve probably just responded “ok” and probably speak to him again unless he made it a point to apologize and talk about it
Hello Angwi, I personally think that you should have responded to him. You not responding allowed him to create his own narrative about how you feel. You could have explained that it did bother you even if you needed to take time to respond. You could have said” I’m disappointed I can't see you today but tell your friend I said congratulations on the baby maybe we can link up next time I'm in town”. That way you put it on him to decide if he wants to make an accommodations to fit both of you in his plans for the day instead of waiting for you to come back in town. How he responded to your response would have said more than his initial text message. I’m all for “if he wanted to, he would”, but you show people how you want to be treated and silence speaks louder than words. Just my opinion hope this helps. All the best, Selena
Hi babe! Thank you for your input. I definitely could’ve said something back expressing my disappointment. But the ball would’ve been in his court for making up the plans because he initiated everything and then canceled.
Angwi you did nothing wrong and you're right, he did not care. God's plan was the best. Also, in the future always make a plan A, B and C because these men tend to be a disappointment. I'm glad you still had a great time in LA esp as you were "redirected." lol
