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+Claire F Man,he,him*

+Faraz fuck off

its biological not mental there are many studies on it

+Faraz *she, her You're not welcome here, your small mindedness is pissing me off.

Fluffymint Im sorry todd

No its just you

You’re right, it’s not just you

"we have structured our society to impose gender unnecessarily????" Please explain and elaborate on that thought!

And that is why having genders is stupid, because everyone still thinks that long hair a dresses equal a woman and it’s so untrue

@Amy Paps pardon me but I'm MtF and I can assure you that most transgender ppl do not believe long hair and a dress equals woman. We believe you are valid no matter what you wear.

Same here buddy

If you think it's safe to, you should come out as early as you can cope :) being able to pass really helps with dysphoria.

update 6 years later? :D

@@Kahonekigoing off of the name and pfp I’m assuming they went through with it and are now (hopefully) happily a man which makes me very happy to see! Ofc I could be wrong but it looks like he’s transitioned now

its all the matter of how well u pass. otherwise dont do it.

+Khris the Posh Llama - You're lucky to be able to do it so young, when you will have the most time and the most bodily resilience to handle transition, and you can get the most enjoyment out of life. I won't be able to take estrogen because of my age and the risk of blood pressure and strokes, but better late than never.

+Khris the Posh Llama Hi

+Addie Lyons hello :)

+Khris the Posh Llama Can I contact you somewhere else? I would like to ask a few questions. I am a transman who has not come out or started transitioning yet.

+Khris the Posh Llama by the way, I am the same person as Addie Lyons, I've just begun using my true name online.

Just to let all know: We have the body dysmorphia, because we are and were abused, and usually through the worst way possible: sexually abused/raped. And the outcome of this abuse is the trans movement.

​@@theharshtruthoutthere I'm trans and I've never been abused. I also think you're confusing dysphoria and dysmorphia

@@usernameisusernam then you are just deceived. Human mind is easy to deceive. And masons use that daily against us. Search out the reason(s) why masons came to be and stop being deceived. Never been abused? soul be happy, not all souls gonna be that lucky.

@@theharshtruthoutthere where did you get the idea that someone has to be abused to have gender dysphoria? Is there any actual evidence or did you just come to the conclusion yourself?

@@usernameisusernam many have come out saying so. And souls, in their childhood, both males and females, getting abused sexually, is real life fact. www.youtube.com/@christsforgiveness/videos he, DAVID LYNN used to have communication with the lgbtq++ souls in some of his videos, in which they did state that they got raped as child, once or multiple times. He have lost some of his videos, therefore these which i speak about may no longer be found, I also listen some of the detrans channels: whom have also came out clear that sexual abuse was involved. The same have come out clear about souls who still believe the trans lie and live as a trans. Many FTMs have speaked that being female seemed for them unsafe. Like bible also states: Matthew 13:9 Who hath ears to hear, let him hear. And not all the time are words needed, to see and to understand the reasons behind. You are either still a child yourself, that you know it not? or just a fool living proudly without any knowledge. ?

+Mei Ki I was referring to the fact you are saying people can do whatever they want or whatever they feel like.

iam Sam I'll throw your dog off a bridge to tenderize the meat, grind it up and make tacos.

Intrapulation S how are you gonna throw my dog if ur gonna be turned to chunks ? dumb much

Bahahahaa. Stupid baka gaijin doesn't even understand his language. You said, "I want to", implying it wasn't done yet. I have studied the art of ninjitsu from naruto for over a decade, there is no way you could chop me up.

Intrapulation S already done , my dog is enjoying ur brain ur a ghost ahahaha

when I came out to my mother, I was so sure I'd lose her, but when she finally met me, her daughter Michelle, all she did was hug me and said it's about time I me you. my experience is rare so please be careful.

💜💜💜

My Chemical Rømance Trash I hope the best for u

I hope it goes well for you!🌸

good job! i hope you made your jump by now! :)

@@chrissyweikoop7931 I have. Now my wife is leaving me which has been the biggest heartbreak I've ever felt. And I'm about to come out to my family for better or worse. No one said it would hurt this much but I've found some great friends in the queer community and I think I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. ... I just hope it's not a train.

@@chrisrickerby9077 oh no. i am so sorry for you. i am sure it will be for the better, although my experience isnt the same as yours. but living life as yourself feels... well, still better... i wish you the best of luck!

I'm with 100%. I know what it feels like to feel like a lovely lady Inside. And to coup it inside/hide it. If you feel like a women then you are a women.

This is why I want to become a women before I find someone. So I can be the lady I know I am! Thinking pleated skirts, tights and lovely ballerina's. Or converse. I feel sexy. And this is Me!

Olivia Quinn you use your hand of choice because that's what you decided to when you first picked a pen up, you're trans because it gives you attention for nothing and an excuse to winge 24/7

Tyler Durden says "Make soap." - Did you know Brad Pitt shows up 4 times before his introduction? Find you dominant eye: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-iK1ZOp4MaMw.html My biology (body) has XY chromosomes: male. My psychology (mind - that part that thinks and feels) is _very_ female. *I . W A N T . T O . B E . A . W H O L E . P E R S O N* But people like you insist I stay half a person, constantly divided, constantly at war with myself and constantly stressed and in pain. *Why must I suffer for you?* _you get abused because..._ THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BEING AN ABUSER. Think about it! You are trying to justify being a serious ass-wipe to someone by blaming them. _... you're clearly a dude ... yet you get offended if someone calls you that._ *YES* I get offended when someone talks to my genitals and not me. Wouldn't you get upset if some guy walked up, stared only at your crotch and spoke about how small they make sausage these days? That's the kind of insult you deliver by insisting I am a man. My mind IS NOT MALE. I do not think like a man, never have. _All your choice._ I did not choose for you to call me names. I did not choose to be transgender. I did not choose to transition. I _did_ choose to wait to transition and that was a mistake. _Let me ask you something, can you change how old you are?_ No. And neither can I change being transgender. I wish I could. If I could stay a guy and be happy with it, I would have jumped at the chance most of my life. I don't want to be transgender. I don't want the ridicule and belittling. I don't want the insults. My turn. *Can you think like a woman?*

Rachael Platt I can try, but unless I was in fact a woman it would be impossible to ever know whether my thoughts perfectly mimic theirs. Also why is it not possible to change how old you are?

Rachael Platt and just to be clear, I don't expect people to abuse you because you're transexual, I couldnt care less what you want to do with your life, I expect people to abuse you for expecting them to ignore basic kindergarten science because you choose to

_ I can try_ Exactly. You can _try_ to act like a woman but it's unnatural. Similarly I can _try_ to act like a man but it's unnatural. I've tried for decades but I can't do it for very long. Even then I'm still not very masculine. _why is it not possible to change how old you are?_ Ah. We constantly change how old we are. We get older every second. But from any point in time we cannot change how long we've been alive. It is a quantifiable value that cannot change unless we change the unit of measure. _I don't expect people to abuse you because you're transexual,_ Thank you. *Abuse is never acceptable.* _I expect people to abuse you for expecting them to ignore basic kindergarten science because you choose to_ Oh... you were doing so well! So you never got past kindergarten. That explains much. Nobody is denying science. Nobody is trying to change their DNA! (Exception: cancer research) We are changing our _body shape_ to match our identity - the shape ingrained into our minds from birth. You are denying psychology. One more time: *G E N D E R . D Y S P H O R I A . I S . N O T . A . B I O L O G I C A L . P R O B L E M !!* Gender dysphoria is where biology (body) is a different gender than psychology (mind). My body is male. My mind is female. It's a tough topic. Can you fathom such a concept?

StrapsChronicles I've known how I felt my whole life and through constant indoctrination from my family was forced to treat how I feel as irelevent. Now in my midlife I finally realize that there is a name for how I've always felt and for the very first time in my life I don't feel shame for how I feel or a need to be more masculine. I now have a lot to do in order to live the life I was supposed to have lived and it means turning over everything I've done up till now. I realize now how wrong things can go when you don't live honestly with yourself and the people around you. I just hope that it's not to late. I've got to keep telling myself, "It get's better." In order to move forward. I wish you the best in your transition.

Betty Taylor I am afraid you are very wrong, I completely agree with National Socialist News' viewpoint as do many of my compatriots. We are by no means going to become extinct as our cause is gaining support daily everywhere throughout the Western world and abroad!

***** Indeed, however we will get nowhere with the current politicians in these corrupt goverments, they all want this Cultural Marxism to be spread around to elimintate a healthy, prosperous society. The European Union as a whole needs to be dismantled and each country should become strongly independent, but still remain as partners to ensure a thriving Europe!

Betty Taylor I think you're angry that our posts have more likes than yours

You should get some work done if you want to look like a female.

Shhhhh. I'll read this ;-) Sending you lots of love and thank you so much! Feel free to appropriate anything I can offer. Google my name for lots of other writing and a few videos on RU-vid you might enjoy. Take care!

+Hannah Simpson I'm going to use this as a way to help my family understand what being trans is.

kthatrapqueen they probably didn’t mean it that way. i think they were referring to her coming out and being herself externally as well as internally

Teddy The Bear then CHOOSE ur words wiser 🤷🏼‍♀️

kthatrapqueen We do choose to transition, however. Many of us don’t transition because of the society around us.

+Welsh Rabbit Well now you do, dear Rabbit. Maybe you'll lead me into rabbit holes one day with potions, cake, caterpillars, and invisible cats?

+Hannah Simpson I'm am pleased and honored to be your friend, Hannah. Ah, thou doth conflate me with the March hare of the alter ego of Oxford math don, Charles Lutwidge Dodgson. I am more of a cheesy (toasted) character. : D. My avatar is Matilda, the woulda-coulda-shoulda been rightful queen (in her case, of England, cheated out of her crown by her dastardly cousin and oath breaker, Stephen). Too bad she was a bit of a schmuck personality-wise -- in fact, she was probably at least 2 std. deviations from the mean in schmuckiness. I infer we are both doctors. I do not write Rx's but I do write writs from time to time.

this man shouldn't be called a lady. not matter what type of mask you put on, the real you will always be their underneath the mask

+Obi ONE i think what she's saying is for her being a man *was* the mask and now she is showing who she is underneath

+Obi ONE How can you think that? How can you look at a beautiful happy woman and call her a "man"? Wtf is wrong with you?

***** Thank you Jake! You're the sweetest!

He really is! Super proud that she tells her story!!

You must be fucking crazy and or blind

As you said I'm entitle to my opinion and I will say what I want on a public platforms such as RU-vid.

Chiba Sophie Cha He*

Apart from they don't 'choose' it

hannahbubbles i think she means choosing to transition not choosing to be trans

Livi's Vlog Yes, precisely, Livi! ((smiling so much reading this))

+theEddieworld Awwwww! Consider yourself hugged right back!

I wish I was a girl :// I feel like a pretty lady/girlygirl inside. I don't know how to explain it.. like a lovely flirty girl. Idk.. light-hearted. Fairy..

Yeah I'm nearly 27 and I thought it was too late.

I wish I was pretty :///

I just Want the feeling every time I slip on a pair of tights. I'm a lady now!! Sounds bit.. you know (slutty/sissy but in a good way), slip on a pleated mini-skirt. But it's what I want. And every time slip on a bra and call myself a women. I just want that feeeeeeling. That I am a lady in my own right now! And do bits of makeup/make my hair look all lovely. Not to mention I feel LOVELY/GORGEOUS and comfortable in them. To feel Comfortable in my own kind of girly way. I feel sexy and comfy at the same time. It's a LOVELYYY feeling. And to be called she and her. And Amy. Or somee girly name. Elizabeth :)))

+Max Austin I struggle more with the idea anyone would fear shopping in the men's section than with the idea of what being trans might be like. I wear men's clothes, have for years, and simply walk in and pick out what I want/want to try on. I guess I'm very fortunate to not give a damn about what anyone thinks. Still, I'm glad your confidence has grown. No one should feel ashamed like that.

Eliana Tali it's called internalised transphobia

Max Austin Thank you for the information.

Reading this I feel so guilty... Because a while back this man was looking at bras beside me and I gave him a strange look. He looked offended so I felt bad and apologized... But I know I made him feel uncomfortable and I wish I hadn't been so quick to judge.

I'm androgynous female...I typically wear mean's clothing. I guess I never felt ashamed. But some people do. I think that is something we need to change in our world; stipulations on dress as if women have to wear certain things or men.

You are so very welcome!

The Matrix is still in beta testing.... But think about ... Do you think the humans were forced into the Matrix?

MunchyMuffin Productions we go through things for a reason. it nakes up who we are

MunchyMuffin Productions because nature is a jerk

***** yeah but having a different eye color is a lot different than having a third hand and or a peace of meat coming out from between your legs; :/ and plus there's no part in the brain that expects a certain eye color.

@Suicide Squid I think we'd ALL change lol.

I'm blushing.

:)))))

I agree! shes a wonderfullll woman! Truly Wonderful ^^ and very special person.

But you're never too old to live your damn truth. Good on you!

W. James thank you , I will look at your videos

Juliette Juliette, I've only ever done song lyric videos. I don't use RU-vid as a platform. I'm afraid I wouldn't garner much of an audience since I'm kind of boring. However, my girlfriend and I were offered a spot on a reality TV show dealing with transgender people. They were wanting a trans couple. It will air either on TLC or ABC Family--the networks are still vying for picking up the show. You might be seeing us there!

W. James in which is this show ?

Juliette Juliette, it's in the works. It's being kept under wraps until one of the networks picks it up. Participants are in the dark so far. I will let you know more when we find out more.

+Pammy Airey I am so touched that this video has helped you connect with Melanie. It is so important for each of us to have allies in our friends and families. Keep being amazing for her, and know that there are people out there ready to help you too, should you ever need it.

Natalia Siegert Thank you so, so much! I am truly humbled to read this.

@Charles I agree with your so lovely comment. I feel quite the same way. As I've just "welcomed" my transidentity, I decided to meet trans people near my small town and found 2 associations. That's very important because it's so weird for "normal" people (and yet for me too) that listening to people who have transitioned -- and are still alive :-D -- helps me to understand what is happening to me, and what possibilities exist to live with this acceptation of my true nature. And, beside it, watching testimonies like this one gives clues about what to be aware of, and tips (1:20) to use with people who want to understand your feeling. Charles, I hope you will find the way to accept your being and to find a good way to adjust what you thing must be "fixed". A thing that have been told to me: "Don't think you *have* to cut your b***s. It's up to you to know what is best for you." And this was a very important advice. There is not one only way to be transgender, but multiple ways for each one of us to live our life as we want. _By the way, she is _*_very_*_ cute!_ ;-)

I am a huge dork in real life too. Thank you so much!

+sydneymattox That's so lovely to hear! Thank you for sharing your positive story with us!

They are good to stay healthy but a transition of this dort it not healthy full stop. God bless

+Elliot Cole how is it not healthy?

+Briar Rose you're joking right?

+Alex Haney They're serious, just that they're reading studies from the '60s. Not realizing that gender is a spectrum that has nothing to do with sex, along with sex having a spectrum (i.e. intersex)

+Briar Rose Damn right, trans people are born that way. You do transition to presenting yourself as you are. But you're right in that you can't change who you are. Science doesn't lie, full stop. However, people can, and do, layer their biases and social conditioning upon scientific results to come to erroneous conclusions. e.g. if you have a penis you're male. Too often these conclusions are harmful to the person on a direct level but even beyond that, they are harmful through the messages of gender rigidity and boundaries they send to society. While you ramble on about 'delusional degenerates' a little transgirl is crying in her room because she's not brave enough to kill herself, but she doesn't know how she can live with the bullying and her parents abandonment. A transguy is being raped and beaten to a pulp because other people have an issue with the clothes he wears. You have no idea what people suffer. What would it cost you to be kind? or at least to shut up. Choosing either of those options, rather than spewing poison might just save a life.

She's beautifull. I don't think so. I know so. Inside and out. She is the loveliest person I know.

I’m so sorry 😭 I wish you the best

May not only be the boobs. u transitioned early so your bone structure might gove it away. You will live happy jouful life if you pass well..find out what gives it away or dont do it.

@@ProBusterxXx Nah imma chop em off. Straight up. I’m a boy and boys don’t have boobs.

+Lampfish Skateboarding Congrats on coming to that realization Lampfish! It is the first step to many amazing journeys you will take. There is a huge community of girls just like you and I, who are out there ready to help you any way we can. Best wishes!

Hannah Simpson thx it really helps knowing that not everyone judges

I first knew last year. Then I had a year of denial. Now I accepted it, but have gone back into denial even though this RU-vid is under Jacob (not my birth name) I keep going into denial because I go to an all girls school and then force myself to think that it would never work out - schools, family wouldn't accept me etc. But I hope to come out to my therapist and maybe my brother who lives somewhere else so he can take me to get my haircut in the summer :-))

+Jacob Wright I understand how you feel

You flunked Biology 101.

I'm also a huge Whovian, FYI. ;-)

Yay! That's so cool! Which is your favourite Doctor?

Not even a question, 10. And Martha for his best companion.

+Hannah Simpson oh that's so cool! I honestly can't decide which I prefer

Awwww, kiss yourself too!

Wow! Thank you for your testimony. I hope you speak about it as often as possible. It's so important. We all have prejudices, often based on fear and incomprehension. But not everybody overcome them as you did. And it's nice to read how joy came out of it and that you are now friends. Very emotional story. Thank you.

***** You are technically correct in what you say concerning the XY chromosomes etc so in that respect yes technically she will always be a male BUT think of it this way. I dye my hair blond but I don't go around announcing to everyone that my hair colour is a dark mousy brown colour... I say I am blond because its what you see and what I am now. Trans folk need understanding, and kind hearts and acceptance .... smart alecs really don't help.

+Karl Biermann You are an ignoramus that doesn't know even basic biology. And as you are unwilling to extend even basic respect to a young woman, fuck you. XY chromosomes == man? Nope. Check this out: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2190741/ She menstruated and got pregnant twice, with XY chromosomes. They. Mean. Shit.

It's he.

+•Rachael Platt, I've just realised, that I'm actually intelligent, here's my 2 cent's on it: I get the whole personality thing, but just like you the Gender thing makes no sense to me, I understand if someone feels the need (or prefers the need) to grow their hair out, put on make-up, Women's clothes etc, in fact I agree with the concept that clothes have no Gender, and you'll be surprised by the number of Men who try on their Girlfriends clothes while she's out (and not because of a Fetish). But Gender is a completely different thing, an someone saying "I just know" makes no sense to me, but I have noticed a pattern on many Trans people. 1. They are usually Mental ill, an because being Trans is a socially accepted thing, they use it as an outlet for their Mental Health, there are people who feel like they are meant to be disabled (one Woman poured Bleach in her eyes as she felt she needed to be blind), but since that type of Mental Health isn't accepted, the numbers remain low. 2. They have nothing better to do, I get a lot of shit for this, but many Trans people usually have nothing better to do, where a lot will either be living off some sort of Government handout (therefor they spend little time out of the house, little time socialising etc), or they come from a privileged background. 3. Rebel, quite a lot will have very conservative parents, very strict parents etc, an they simply do it as a way to Rebel (which is usually during their Teens) and those type of Trans do end up re-transitioning, and quite often the changes aren't reversible (therefore the other option is Suicide). 4. Parents influence, quite often it is forced onto them by the Parents, and you have have to watch a few Documentary's (which are in favour of Trans) to see it (again many of those Trans people regret it later in life, and quite of commit suicide). 6. A lot are simply just Gay/Camp/Flamboyant, and because they are aware of what being Trans is, they feel they are also Trans (again, the number of people in this category, that regret it and kill themselves is huge). An the people who are creating this problem are the Media, as the suicide thing is either hidden by them, or they just say it was to do with society hating on them (which is completely false, if that were true then why aren't there anywhere near as many Gay's killing themselves, plus a lot of Trans people can pass as the opposite Gender, so why'd they get abuse from people for). Or maybe I'm Trans-phobic, who knows.

@@buuzzsawtouchedme194 I get you, but maybe try exposing your agruments in a less "accusative"(did I write it right? English is not my first language) way, or you might pass for a transphobe

Way to go! Nobody should say this path will be easy, but I truly hope you find the fulfillment you seek in being yourself! I don't know where you are located, but we are a tight-knit bunch more than I ever imagined from the outside. We are everywhere, even if you don't see us, and we have your back all the way through whenever you need us! Take care and best wishes!