What Does the Bible Actually Mean By "Wives Submit To Your Husbands"? 

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As someone who has tried both ways, I can confirm beyond a shadow of a doubt that submitting to my husband and allowing him to lead, whilst submitting to Christ simultaneously, has made an amazing difference in my life and marriage. My husband has become a better father (who definitely shows me he loves me as Christ loves the church) he has returned to Christ wholeheartedly, our children are better, we both put eachother first now, it has literally changed our lives in unimaginable ways. God is so good, and His ways are perfect. 🙏😆

Amen brother I remember washing my wife's feet when she got really sick and had seizures and couldn't take care of herself and I was happy to help because of LOVE through all my struggles in life God has shown me how true and faithful he is 🙏💝📖

May God bless this precious young lady.

I hope that girl understands that she may go to Heaven and that is based off of God’s work and not her own. I’m thankful for Living Waters.

The problem in a lot of marriages is the man or woman wants to be served instead of serve. They want to be loved, but don't want to love first. Selfishness is the root of most problems in any relationship. How many people who became chronically ill lost all their friends for example? They wanted the love of that person and the help, they wanted to receive, but when push came to shove, they did not want to give love (back). Love your neighbour as yourself, do that and you will love yourself more because of it and others will love you more too.

😂 do people actually think the word "submit" means "to not answer back"? That's insane

The truth is not always accepted gladly. Thank you for speaking truth!

One of the best ways to understand submission is to understand that the family is not purposeless. Submission feels unimportant on a team thats going nowhere, has no goals, and accomplishes nothing. The husband sets that vision for the home. The primary purpose of the home is to raise children, and to be producers not consumers. The husband may set other goals too.

We were married over 46 years are Christian we are respected each other and we follow the Biblical Regulations for husband and wife and we do our best to express Love to Each Other Love is the answer to all!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Peace to All ✌💯💖💕

So true we all mess up because we don't read bible God's word and follow Our Lord Jesus Christ.

The wife should want to submit to her husband if her husband is submitting to Christ right right

GOD made everything and it was good, but humans had made it into the sewer it is now; all I hear is self-preservation and me, me, me, me. What a sad reality we all live in

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Wow, what a video! I pray and hope that the young and old women who are lost and are anxious in their life today may be able to see this video-to help them in their needs, especially to married ones.

I've been reading Martha Peace's book The Excellent Wife. She really explains what a biblical marriage looks like. Can't wait for the T.V. show.

Hey Ray 👋, Hello all JAMES 2:19 19 Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble. JOHN 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. JOHN 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. ACTS 2:38 38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. ROMANS 10:9 Confess out loud JESUS is LORD believe in your Heart GOD raised HIM from the Dead and you will be SAVED! ACTS 3:19 REPENT, and turn from your SINS, so your SINS may be FORGIVEN

God bless her, may she find the peace and freedom in Christ. The Bible is truly His love of His truth left for us. Praise our Lord Jesus Christ 🙌🙏🏽✝️🧎🏽‍♀️❤️

0:32 I finally have a face to the voice....I've watched so many videos of Ray talking to people but this is the first time I've saw him😊

Thank you living waters! Now i just need to find a women worth marrying that sees marriage this way!

Phenomenal job on the thumbnail you guys! In today’s world, the better that is, the more people will watch and people need truth!

When your married you need to remember 1st Corinthians chp 13 the love chp. Love is kind. Love doesnt keep a record of wrongs. You have to forgive. I've been married soon May 5th of this yr for 24 yrs. If my husband gets grouchy because he feels bad, I pray God convict him and then later he apologizes. Sometiimes he forgets the attitude he had earlier. Love covers a multitude of sins. He covers me with love too.

1 Peter 3:4 KJV - But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

The one who jumps up and confronts the burglar with the gun is the head of the house

I get so emotional watching this. I have allowed myself to be non existent tbh with relationships that were wrong and sinful. I took the worldly version of submission to the extreme and allowed myself to be abused. The Lord is having to completely rebuild me it feels like. I'm so grieved in this area. I am married but separated and currently living in a very abusive relationship spiritually & mentally. I haven't been rainbows and sunshine for sure but I took the brunt of everything while trying to seek the Lord in a lukewarm state. My eyes have been opened and I'm turning from all sin and back to the Lord. Very sobering, very humbling. That's true. I want to take care of my children. I don't know anything else. I'm seeking the Lord and I need full restoration in my home. I need a miracle rn. I want to go home and I want to go home. 😢

Men need to be the authority in the household. For me, I was to teach the family through bible study and prayer. My wife made sure I followed through on this, which was awesome!

Are any of you willing to be His disciples? lay it all down for Jesus ? All authority in heaven and on earth is His and anyone born of the Spirit, born of God is one with Him. Seek Him, give Him everything, He will give you MORE.. Matthew 28:18-20 18 And Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. 19 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Amen. 1 Corinthians 6:17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.

I really love this channel and all these amazing GODLY men❤ KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! God help me to speak 🗣️ your truth to all people❤

Excellent video on a very controversial issue!

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Love your wives with action's of unconditional love and honor as Jesus loved the church.

Womem have gotten a sad image of what it means to submit. *"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.* *Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.* *For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.* *Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.* *Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;* *That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,* *That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.* *So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.* *For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:* *For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.* *For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."* There is a reason the Lord made it this way.❤

It’s very easy to understand. People just don’t want the truth. The man is the head of the house. That’s the way he ordained it.

Imo submitting goes both ways, marriage is having you're other half, best friend, loved one who wants whats best for you, as you want what's best for them. Its called true love, and not everyone marries into that, hence why theres so much divorce.

0:25 “The wife has changed on your watch.” A fine attempt to guilt a husband who has seen his wife become aggressively combative, totally masculinized, and boorishly disrespectful as a result of being influenced by feminism in the workplace (she’s a nurse) and on social media. When a woman arrives at a place where she is no longer willing to submit to God, it is without question that she will be even more unsubmissive when an added layer of subordination - her husband - is added. What a lot of Christians fail to realize is that a “modern woman” - who demands supremacy within the family structure - has opted out of God’s design. Offering to “love her back into the fold” only registers as perceived weakness to the feminist mind, whose concept of relationships is in terms as a power dynamic. This insubordination wasn’t evident when we married 35 years ago. It was acquired. How bad is it now? For example, when I was concerned that her belief system had wandered dangerously close to being “works based”, her reply was simply: “Well, when I stand before God, I’ll handle it”, she said with arms crossed defiantly. Bottom line: a woman who will not submit to God, will neither submit to a husband.

God bless Living Waters.

Could you please do more videos addressing this? Particularly on how God does not favor men over women. And that He does love them as much as He does men? This is a huge struggle for many women and there isn't much out there to combat it. 🙏🏻

To any women offended by this, read the rest of the verse. It mentions Men should treat the church as Jesus does for his bride. Meaning giving his life. Not bad in comparison right? Haha😂

No way, howd yall get Minecraft Steve on your show?! 2:18

I've always been single. I don't date and never have. I'm not a "shopper." God knows who my husband is. I'm just waiting and letting Him lead me.

I’m Talking to brother in Christ who goes to a Methodist church with a female pastor. I know it’s not a real church but how do I go about telling my friend he shouldn’t be going to a church run by a women. It goes against God and what the Bible says. How’s this so hard to understand?

we Obey the bible, thats whats Christians do, we dont need to sit and explain to justify yourself to those rebellious types

Here's what I think as a man at 41 whose never been married but in the right situation I'd like to be; The bible says that wives are to submit to their husbands, to me that's a big responsibility as it should be. The bible also says (1 Peter 3-7) that I am to honor my wife. Sidebar: My formal first name is Timothy, which broken down means "Time of Thee", in other words to honor God. If I want to try and live up to my own name, I've got a lot of honoring to do. Good thing I'm saved by Grace and not by my own works! So the idea that some women will have to submit to me I do not take lightly, I in turn have to honor her. The beauty of a marriage is in it'a design. I can't just get my way all the time, I have to make decisions that benefit my wife, even if those decision make things difficult for me, basically I have to subdue my ego, I can't just go with my opinion like a secular man can. I personally would enjoy having an exclusive friend and helper in life (that's part of what a spouse is).

I would love to have been a stay at home mom. This world has made that difficult. Every time we turn away from the ways the Lord has set in place for us, we ruin what He wanted for us.

If you want a wife in submission to you ... demonstrate that submission by YOUR submission to God. If my husband is truly submitting to God and following HIS word, allowing my husband to lead ME is an easy choice. If my husband is busy living in his OWN will it creates a lack of respect and a lack of TRUST in the decisions that he is making. Putting someone like THAT in charge of making family decisions is VERY difficult indeed.

I see Ray chose to ignore the claim that dead people are visiting her.

Oh my goodness! You said that a woman is the mirror image of her husband? Wow! When I first married my husband 12 years ago, by the way I'm a Christian as of 5 years ago and he is not. So of course I have changed but before I became a Christian a Christian I was very strong mouth and strong-headed I guess, I could do it myself, I could do it myself I don't need anybody's help. The other night my husband told me that he's afraid of me. I was absolutely shocked and hurt by that comment and I said are you serious and he said yes sometimes I'm afraid of you. He knows I would never physically injure him LOL he just triggers me sometimes with ignorant Behavior unless he has started it and then I'm a fighter! It's a strange thing about it is when we were first married for years I was afraid of him because of his anger issues! So I agree with your statement can I change my husband's watch and then he looks at me he's looking at himself. So we are both afraid of each other that's just stupid and I told him we will be working on that and he agrees!

I wish that guy would explain what he means by, he submits to his wife all the time. She's the head of the household? She's in the leadership role? That's backwards. So, that requires explanation and examples.

She was different cause she professed but thought she was good very sincere

As a Bible believing Christian who has been with my wife for 23 years, she has no problem submitting to me as she sees me submitting to Christ daily. Advice to women, do not follow nor submit to a man who does not first follow and submit to The Lord.

Amen 🙏🏾❤️😀👍🏾love this video, if I knew this before my marriage broke up, maybe we'd still be together.

*Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;* *While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.* *Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;* *But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.* ❤ That last part is my favorite in this regard.

Let the truth prevail.

As a single Christian, I've never encountered one married Bible believing, born again Christian woman with a Bible believing, born again Christian husband, who was treated as or felt like a slave, where her husband lorded himself over her and didn't give her space to be herself, where she just seemed to be "the one who looks after his children" and "makes the food and keeps the house", where she had to keep quiet and keep out of the husband's business. However I've have seen this disfunction in Christian households where the couple has backslid, never go to church or don't run a Godly household. People who have this twisted view of gender rolls are not Christian and don't understand Christian obedience. In fact, I see this dysfunctional behavior more often in totally non-believing households. It's not a chore for Christian women, so please stop feeling sorry for us. We want to be subservient to God because we love Him and that automatically translates to the household. Without hierarchy, in any situation/context in the world, there is chaos. So why is it that a household that is run in a similar way, so bizarre to people? A household without proper authority is a cursed and lost one, and the children, more often than not, are the ones who suffer the most. The Bible says the man should love his wife like Jesus loves the church, which to me seems like a much bigger task than simply obeying your husband's authority. And no the husband isn't always right and also makes mistakes. Christians make mistakes.

The way a woman shows her love for her man is by respecting him

Her humble heart is what Jesus wants of us ❤ just like all of us, may she repent and abide in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior through the power of the HolySpirit. In Jesus' name. Amen 🕊

“God is doing a work in our kids. He has called us to lead in the work that HE is doing, not what WE are doing.” Thank you. I needed to hear that in this crazy teenager and young adult season of parenting. 🙏🏽

They will now turn it into something else and say that they are supposed to submit to one another, as they probably believe there is no meaning of submit, as both must submit, equal in their mind. Yes, we are to submit to one another, yet we are not equal in submission in the Lord. In the Lord is key, why? Because everyone under God is given the part He wills and He wills that the man is the Head of the woman, and if married, in the home head of the wife, but if you do not submit to His will then you are not in Jesus, under Jesus but put yourself beside Him and must be humbled. Just as in the beginning, when God cast Adam and Eve out of His Rest, the Garden.

Loved the first few seconds. I hate the notion that submission means some kind of puritanical decency and religious solemnity. The most truly submissive wives I have ever met are the most vibrant, the funniest, the most affectionate, and the most joyful women I've ever met. Why? Because they find their fulfillment in the reason God put them here. "Man was not made for woman, but woman for man." Like the video says - God's way works.

That passage begins with, "submit to one another," and then goes on to explain how it looks in a family.

Thanks for making this video Ray Comfort and Living Waters!

Awesome

Because of feminism, I tried to force myself into roles I wasn’t comfortable in. I tried to force myself to become a career woman, but I’m just not. Doing this has caused severe depression and even made me suicidal and self-harming. But today, a few years later, now that I read the Bible and have pondered what submission means, it makes so much sense to me! I feel so much less pressure, like I don’t have to try so hard anymore. I prefer to be indoors(I’m an introvert with social anxiety)and the idea of taking care of children and educating them is very appealing to me. The role of a mother isn’t about sitting home and doing nothing, it’s a very intelligent role that not only requires extreme emotional maturity, but education, scheduling, making sure the kids have enough food, etc. It is a very hard job, but I’m determined to fulfill that role in the future!

God created Eve to be Adam's helper. Interestingly, that word, helper, is also used to describe God.

It's humility...amen.

Oh good, im not a quiet spirit😅

5:15 “For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten.” Ecclesiastes 9:5 Please do not think your loved ones are contacting you from beyond the grave, the Bible is very clear about this.

Repent and believe the gospel. Everybody needs Jesus. Only Jesus can save lost sinners. Jesus wins and the devils lose be on Jesus's side.

Let women talking about submission. Men you can teach each other how to be a good leader a role model and how to sacrifice. Outsmart your wife and win her heart. If she doesn’t trust you in heart heart, if you only want her acting like she is submitting, you are too weak. Heroes lead by examples.

Who did the editing? Its pretty good.

No husband can lead a family unless his family knows how to follow. No husband is worthy enough to be the leader. A man can only lead by faith, not by right. No man loves his wife enough that he will deserve to be followed. Noah’s wife was an amazing woman.

As a former wife, I totally agree with all of you. I just wanted to add, that most Christian women who are truly loved by their husbands and their needs are met, will do everything within their ability to please their husbands and make them happy, and believe the same with the husbands, that if they are truly loved, appreciated and respected, that they would do everything within their power and means to please their wives. It works both ways. I do agree that after discussions and opposite opinions, that the final decision is to be decided by the husband for the benefit of the home. None of us are perfect and sometimes wives must allow bad decisions to occur and still be supportive and encouraging towards husbands. There is one particular thing with women that men must accept and that is that the decor and furnishings inside the home must be agreeable to the wife in order for her to be happy within the financial budget, of course. Men need to allow their wives the arrangements of furniture, bedding, linens, kitchenware, bath accessories, wall fixtures, drapes, curtains. A wife takes pride in the appearance of her home and without that, she’s not happy. It’s something inside of us that can’t be quashed. Some of us are immaculate, perfectionists, messy, sloppy in the home, so men, choose your brides accordingly to what you prefer unless you can deal with whatever. Also, women absolutely hate picking up after their husbands and kiddos, just as men hate their wives being slobs. Most husbands will find this out very quickly. My husband hated my shoes left by the front door because my shoes were the first thing to come off because of my aching feet. I had to learn to put them away. We both had our things organized and kept in place, so our home was kept clean and everything in proper place. We never had to pick up after each other, accept for my work shoes. It was annoying to him, so I obliged him. Anyway, that’s all I wanted to add. You all sound like very good husbands and very loved and respected by your wives and it’s a great wonderful blessing to have that. God bless you all, your wives, and families, and this ministry. ✝️📖⛪️🙏😇👍

Thanks for this. Regarding the Christ-like love as well, I think we had a shadow of that in Hosea, with what he was commanded to do in seeking out and marrying Gomer. That strikes me as a shadow of the love Christ has for us, and the love that men ought to strive (by God's strength) to emulate.

An exhortation by Peter also addresses that “Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate (weak) vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.“ ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭7‬

You can make a money gospel. Track with the President Trump with his fist holding up with the flag in the background.

a Christ centred marriage should be the husband and wife who's main goal is to put each other first. submitting is to voluntarily put your will under someone else's will. a husband's job is to submit by putting his wife first just as Christ put the church first, to the point of sacrifice and death. Ephesians 5:21 submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

👍❤😇🙏GREAT VIDEO guys 👍

Before the 1900s, in most societies, only boys got an education. Girls were taught how to cook, sew, clean and tend to children. Knowledge is power. That's why the woman was subordinate, because she lacked knowledge beyond being a housewife and mother. With an educated wife, the husband now has an equally knowledgeable Partner. Each one should have the freedom to exercise their own strengths. Like an organization, there are separations of job duties and the one asdigned to do certain jobs is the one with the talent, knowledge and strength best suited to perform the duties of the job. A marriage, a family, is an organization. It is good for the CEO/President/Principal to have an Advisor/Vice President/Vice Principal.

Straighten them out Ray😂

My husband takes good care of things but is also a narcissist and does embarrassing things. Weird double minded situation

If I submitted to my husband, all hell would break loose. I'm the only one who is dedicated to Jesus. I hope, my husband will find the truth, too. Until then, I lead when it comes to family matters. Amd it's working well😊

For really good teaching on Biblical Patriarchy i recommend Doug Wilson, Joel Webbon, and Michael Foster for starters.

Bless that sweet girl who Ray was talking to......she is the exception, rather than the rule today. So many young people have pre-conceptions about the Christian church and have turned their collective backs on the church and on their Creator. While many think it is perfectly okay for a biological male to take the top honors in women's sports, after those young women have worked years to excel at those sports, and yet the same people will say the church is bad because it marginalizes women in some way. The church honors women and all Christians are brothers and sisters in Christ. Half of aborted babies are girls. It was two women who discovered the empty grave. Remember that they are the ones who discovered that Jesus had risen in a part of the world, and at a time, when men were treated as superior. The Bible talks about the women who were first to discover the empty tomb.

The young lady reminds me of Esau, not able to find a place of repentance even though she seeks it with tears.

I love you guys but I did notice you left out first Peter 3:7 mentioning that the woman is the weaker vessel.... and bottom line is we're built different for different roles and it's okay to say submission is obedience

I don’t see why a woman would not submit when her husband is loving her with all his heart.

I just wish i could find a conservative, god fearing, traditional middle-aged man to spend the rest of my life with!!

Can you guys please add some female Scholars to your round table Discussions. Who did Jesus choose to tell the first good news - the women ❤

"No Bible, no breakfast. No read, no feed!" ❤️🙌🏼🙏🏼

Where did you get "unconditional" love from, between a husband and wife?

What is the name of this podcast episode? I can’t find it on the living waters podcast on apple podcasts.

A great discussion... Guys!!! Very insightful and sensitive in the right, Christ-like way. Bravo!! I hope you include Ephesians 5:20, where Paul wrote "Submit to one another out oof reverence to Christ......." Here's my own slant or translation and perspective on that verse: We as husbands, and wives..... and even as single adults who are hoping to be successfully married some day, which is to Spiritually Discern who has the most Godly idea or response to whatever situation or problem is at hand and which needs to be solved. If the man appears to have the most Godly idea or response.... then it's up to both the husband and wife, or even the dating couple on a trajectory towards marriage, to go with that Godly solution. Equally, if it appears that the wife or woman's idea or response is closer to and a more Godly solution and frame of reference, then both people should ask The Holy Spirit to go with the woman's idea or response. It's a delicate "Dance" but if approached with Jesus-like love and humility and mature discernment, I believe that the best ideas and responses will rise to the surface and be recognized by both people. In a family setting, where growing and mature children are involved, they too can begin discerning God and Christ's and The Holy spirit's solution and attitude, but to live and practice this Godly "Mind and Heart-set," does require patience and unconditional love. 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 offers a tremendous "template" which can be gently and wisely applied in these situations. It isn't easy, but the required effort is definitely worthwhile..... Cheers, Ted Schempp, Nashville

This is confirmation for me to be a “soon-to-be” wife 🙏🙌🏼

God made man in His own image, in the image of God, he created him; male and female He created them. Gen 1:27

I know exactly what the Bible meant by submit

Jeremiah 29:11 Proves that God does in fact have plans for you if you are saved. Same thing happened with Samson and John the Baptist. That has nothing to do with how we die. Even Jesus suffered a horrific death. Just because there's a plan doesn't mean everything is lollipops and rainbows. We live on a sinful planet and we chose that sin so we suffer for it. That's just how it is. Job was miserable for a time and God was still with him. He does the same for us. All life has meaning. All the things God created has purpose.

It's sad that many non-believers take one word from the Bible and misinterpret it. Please read Proverbs 31:10-31. When I get married, I pray that I'd be a wife like that woman.

I have seen in my life, choosing to be single, how married people getting a divorce, or they stay together in misery! Even Christians. That is one reason i am grateful that the Lord has blessed me from a early stage of my life, not wanting to get married or to be loved by another human in a sexual matter.

This only works if you have the right spiritual leader at the head of your house. What if you can't trust your husband.

Ephésiens 5.21