@@fahimrahman9824 I don't agree with you, I'm not saying stop dating women fully, but you should have Control over your Emotions like Love and Lust when you are around them. Be the Game 🎮 not a Player alone 😏
0:10 I grew up in a house with four older sisters and I've been saying this for years and will continue to do so: women aren't complicated, they're inconsistent. Horribly inconsistent.
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused.
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's.. This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused.
That's why experienced masculine men set up boundaries from the get-go. To weed out all the women who do not align with his values and morals. That can be over text by hanging out... he's genuine, and that's a man who's fine by himself as well. He also understands that women test men, and he's fine by that. He will even challenge tests with funny, smart remarks.
Indeed, particularly the difficult to acquire ability to verbally respond cleverly to a girl's test. Even once us boys understand that it IS a test then often it is all too quick to be able to both think and respond; so I am nowadays trying to slow that exchange down a bit, enough to allow the brain to come up with that neat response, by simply SLOWLY REPEATING her challenge - and, bingo, by doing so, I've injected that creative brain space. I am happily getting quite good at it now, please try it. Thanks, David.
0:07 1. Women are extremely complicated 3:21 2. Women are more emotional&need more time to process 5:00 3. Most women are not blunt&don't wanna hurt your feelings 6:25 4. Girls get into abusive relationships early on 7:51 5. Most women want the masculine&feminine dynamic
"Most women are not blunt & don't want to hurt your feelings"?? THAT'S a bunch of BS! I've never been turned down nicely by any of the women I approached. Most were very insulting and some even were downright nasty about it, and I'm a baby boomer, so this kind of thing is NOT just in the younger generation. 😐
What every woman needs to know about men: he does not care about your career or money. From you, a man wants the things he can't do well himself for the relationship (and later, family). It's amazing how many women think that men look for the same things in women as women look for in men. They don't. Complementarity, not sameness.
@@turboslayer8246 Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, Arnold shwarzeniggar, and some guy named zig…..ziggler? Oh and Richard Branson but nobody knows when he is really so don’t mind that last one 😂 Anyways good luck brotha
1:00 Ignore women that don't follow, listen, not submissive, etc. 1:25 Follow structure, pattern, numbers game. 3:00 Women want leaders, assertive men, men that they will follow and submit to.
On number 3 : girls are not nice. A woman finds a indirect way of letting you down because she can not face direct confrontation with you. It is not for you she acts this way, it is for herself.
One the best lessons I learned when dealing with women is not to say "I love you" first. Wait until they say it first when they are emotionally ready, or they freak out.
Great lessons here, Julia. This is one of the biggest reasons why guys fail at online dating and blame women for it. They lack masculine energy ASAP. They'll immediately be too accommodating in the initial messaging and girls can sense a simp a mile away.
Dating and a lot more, taking on difficult challenges and seeing them thru, particularly business/career but even daily challenges, broken plumbing or broken down car....
Had I have known this shit in my teens and 20's, I probably would've had longer lasting relationships. Looking back on my prior relationships then, it makes a lot of sense. Great info. Thanks Julia! 👍
They be playing games and sending signals that not only go over my head but slip right under the radar, compounding the confusion from a simple encounter.
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's.. This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused.
@@Matlockization ok .. I actually confronted her she blocked him immediately and cried said it was just a mistake that old man was offering bribe jewelry, property, flat etc so I couldn't control myself I'm sorry"-she said.. What I am going through is after looking at the way she texted him I'm very much disgusted and not able to have any romantic feelings for her, I stay happy when not talk to her thats what Im feeling..
Its very true what she says, if you have a blueprint, it's like having foresight, you will know 90% of the time what's happening and what to do, this video could not be more spot on 💪💪
great stuff! Super validating and helpful! You’re amazing Julia and I wish for you to get more views! Thank you for making sense of the world for us men!
By leader she doesn't mean a slave owner or CEO. It means a protection layer from outside threats. Woman follows a man because he's stronger and he will get hits from predators first.
yup, another reminder that, guys, men, are the only gender that have to practice or do all the learning when it comes to knowing how to or just getting better at interacting with, communicating with or just talking to the other sex, yes, i'm aware people will say "so what?", or "thats the way it is", those statements make me very mad and angry, they make it sound like men still have it better than women do, and because i'm saying thats how it is for women, and women just what, just have to exist, just exist and do nothing, that doesn't require any skills or any learning, training, practice and trial and error. It makes me laugh and cringe when people say that women need "game", or women need "skills", for attracting or interacting with guys, when they are passive throughout the whole seduction/courtship process.
Very good point you brought up about how women can eventually come back to their more feminine traits. I had never thought of that before. As a man I generally think people are who they are, so if she's a dominant woman - that is what it is. She basically need a real man to pave the way and set the tone. Really good advice here!
I am leaving this late in life. I don’t set boundaries. But now I see if I don’t she will RUN OVer you. I thought she would always do what is right. BUT she does not always do what she knows is right. So I have to in-force my boundaries
I guess we are just afraid of making her uncomfortable , unsafe . And also I guess we are afraid of what society will think of us despite sometimes knowing that things won't turn out worse
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. Causes him to envy and feel resentment and feel bitter when he sees couples out there younger than him. He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Since women are always guaranteed attention or dating options because for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention. A lot of guys hate and resent how nature and reality dictates that men have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators and do the pursuing but unfortunately there's no other way. Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long, be alone or single longer, or to have a lonely journey, yes men and women each have different difficulties or different issues to deal with but being alone or single later than normal is normally never an issue or never a problem for women. He says he feels angry and mad whenever people and Society say that he should feel grateful that he has a girlfriend now and that he has no right to feel angry and bitter that he was single and alone that long. Or why get angry and upset about what didn't happen in the past. Well he has a right to feel how he wants to feel. Probably because women are just a guaranteed options and attentions for just existing and breathing or having a pulse but it's not true if you're a guy or a human male. Men have to learn all of these skills or behaviors or know how to talk and behave a certain way or act a certain way to attract women( I got even more pissed off when a guy said that men also have to learn how to talk a certain way and behave a certain way or act a certain way in order to get a job or get certain social ranking in Society), that pissed me off a lot because that's a different issue and that's a different matter and plus the way you talk and behave and act in order to get a job or get social ranking in Society is different than what it takes to attract women, women however since they play a passive role, I just don't understand why or how women have to learn any skills in order to attract men, I just don't get it, that doesn't require any learning or I just don't see how it requires any learning. So yeah I get very mad and annoyed that there is even dating advice for women on how to attract men But yeah I get very angry whenever people think men have it better than women do in dating. I feel like I can relate to him because I didn't really have a breakthrough or a long-term relationship until my early 30s, I'll forever be sad and depressed and bitter and resentful that I didn't have a long-term relationship in my 20s. Yet people still think men have it better than women do when in fact women have always been and always will be less at risk than men do at being chronically alone or single later than normal like I described.
Dear Julia. As somebody with a very different take on these topics I´d be super interested to chat with you about your views on a personal level. In case you ever read this, please hit me up...Europeans might have a different reality here, but what you are promoting only leads to more frustrated men, toxic masculinity, and dependent women. So this might actually be interesting for you to debate on. Looking forward to it
That blueprint just doesn't work. I ask women out, I arrange a date, I confirm the date, the date comes and she just doesn't turn up and I end up wasting money ,time and energy on women who are just deceitful. What is the point?
Thanks for a great topic and blog. These are all great tips, especially the one about not bringing up becoming exclusive, until she brings it up, 😎😉👍🏼.
Once you set the date! You've made a plan to be there. Let her reach out to you to confirm. It's a GREAT interest indicator. Or just show up for the date. It shows both of you keep your word. If she reaches out to you to confirm. You'll probably get laid pretty quickly
Default is she goes in my friendzone unless specifically select her as candidate for more. I enjoy them as friends, the contrast and perspective, if you decide to get sexual w them it may alter everything from her view.
I have never understood the advice to dismiss a girl entirely if they come up with an excuse for not being able to hang out. Sometimes they could be genuinely into you and something unexpected and important comes up. She could be perfectly willing to go on a date some other time.
A girl can leave everything behind when she's attracted to a guy. But let say there is something so important to her which make her unavailable on that day, she will suggest to go on another day, if she's not doing that, its simple, she doesnt attracted to you
How about STOP GIVING AF ABOUT WOMEN! Stop the games , the bs , the wasted time and effort. 90 % of the aren’t worth 💩! Focus on yourself, having fun with the boys, keep your money and your sanity. If one comes along , cool but stop looking and absolutely NEVER CHASE! Those DMs are always loaded and the average modern woman is a ran through damaged mess that will say one thing and completely do the other. If a woman doesn’t bring peace in your life she’s worth absolutely nothing.
Consider this as general advice in dating. However, please reflect on your own individualized experiences and circumstances and DO NOT think that this advice applies everywhere, as no dating coach was there with you when you dated the girl.
Women need time to process only if that guy isnt in the top 10-20% of guys. She fails to mention all thoae women who instantly goes off with a guy based on his appearance and presentation. This is a major exception that affects most men. Women will almost always make exceptions for a guy they find "hot."
When dating women it's all about being assertive direct and dominant in responsible ways another reason why women be picking poorly with jerks and bad boys . Keep in mind women are confirmable with men that are assertive dominant with boundaries being too nice without boundaries is to boring for women. Just because some men are nice don't mean they don't have leadership skills I understand some men don't want to be too much like the jerks and bad boys women be complaining about. Know when to walk away from women when they aren't interested even when placed in the friend zone being a responsible assertive dominant leader with boundaries that's responsible is not being a foolish self centered jerks or bad .
It's like trying to break in a wild Stallion Horse (except that's easyier) I'd compare it to. Women live in a World of their own, much more than men do.
ok, so how long do you wait?. You have to know whether you actually like her without time to find out?. You get to know her, decide you do want to ask her out, you ask, she says I like you as a friend!...........You don't wait and what if (quite likely) shes not suitable? Then you have to upset her by rejecting her.. Can't you be a lover and her "best friend"? I know elderly couples that say they are!
You should do a video telling guys to not overshare too early in a relationship. Most women have a million secrets and most they'll eventually tell you and some they'll keep forever. Women also keep their feelings to themselves. Men need to stop telling their life story and their flaws so quickly. Especially personal things that show a negative side to their character. Like I used to sleep with a lot of girls but as I got older I learned that's not a good strategy or one girl I liked didn't like me and that really hurt me. Or being too emotional too soon in a new relationship. And stop texting her just text to set up dates and to respond to her but don't act like text is the relationship.
When "shit tested" I am now working on the difficult to acquire ability to verbally respond cleverly to that girl's test. Even once us boys understand that it IS a test then often it is all too quick to be able to both think and respond; so I am nowadays trying to slow that exchange down a bit, enough to allow the brain to come up with that neat response, by simply SLOWLY REPEATING her challenge calmly and politely, and, bingo, by doing so, I've injected that creative brain space. I am happily getting quite good at it now, please try it. Thanks, David
