Why Women Need to Show Interest First 

hey chris, can you address the social construct that is the mating value of formal education. seems like its an outdated measure of "value" in dating and is just an ego thing at this point. "i need someone with equal or higher (formal) education status than me" will mean nothing in the coming years and thus one aspect of these dating issues should be corrected. Women will be 'humbled' a bit (i.e. some of the hot air let out) and in the meantime men will set a new criteria for status (since it matters more for men's access to sex than a woman's).

Why don't we talk about how women don't approach men? Women approach men even less, than men approach women.

How about women approaching us? They sure do talk about equality a lot.

Chris, perhaps "pyschodynamics" is a better term for the subject of male-female social interactions than "thermodynamics".

Wise beyond your age young man. You guest was great

Exactly.

🍻 Women. Can't live with them...the end. --- Al Bundy

In other words they don’t want to take on any responsibility.

Apparently they don't get it...but it's fine, they can wish (not hope, wish, lol). It might happen, but probably never.

If I sit with my female friend in a bar no we are not open targets for any man sometimes we just want to enjoy a drink. Read the signs guys. Approach yes love it support it appreciate it thankful for it but not constantly everywhere. Politely Sent 2 guys away and yet a third comes over and thinks he’s the one to take us home. Didn’t even for a second watch the scene or serious interest in us as human beings

And the men who are immune to the rejection are horrible people. But women do get what they train. I have met women who fell in love with people they would not have been attractive to, but got to know the guy in an organic setting and fell in love with the man.

You might call it toxic femininity

Worse still now, new laws are coming in to deal with unwanted communication and behaviour. Dating apps will also have a legal duty to prevent and act. One wrong move toward one person will destroy your social status and potentially risk your liberty and give you a criminal record for life.

Plus there's legal risk, social risk, and career risk.

@@tgheretford it's just insane. It's like it's engineered or something

lol Eastern Europeans aren’t known for being approachable in any context. What’s probably going on is he doesn’t have the right accent down, which heavily influences the tone he interprets from others and the tone he projects onto others. Cultural differences will also heavily influence how you expect someone to respond in a given context. I’m sure he has had many missed opportunities to engender friendly connection with others. And I’m sure he has been utilizing the wrong methods to get it.

The crap women watch on TV and the internet TELLS them they are better than us. @@slow-adhesiveness-4933

@@graceg3250 uh oh, we got an expert here 🤡

@@graceg3250 I am from Eastern Europe and you're actually wrong. In general we're quite approachable. We engage in conversation even if this conversation is difficult.

100%. Even in casual customer employee conversations I have always found the women far nicer and more approachable whenever I'm in Eastern Europe.

Amen. We've set up society these days in a way that the woman has to offer up nothing but herself. The only role she plays is as the rejector of guys until she finds one she is willing to accept. But the men have to approach in exactly the right way at exactly the right time, and both of those depend on him being exactly the right guy because until he is, he's approaching in the wrong way the wrong time and he's intrinsically in the wrong. He has all the risk and has to put in all the effort and he has to be able to read her mind. Her role is to accept or deny? That's not an equal endeavour now, is it? It takes two to tango but only one has to play by any sort of rules.

This

Hey Cinderella had it hard

You don't need to have them fall into your lap, you just need to be put into places where you end up encountering each other so there's a balance of "some work and luck"

@@jagr06 Exactly... Women should not hand out their phone number to any bozo who walks up to them because of violence. It's just harder to meet people nowadays in organic ways . E.g school, the workplace, gyms and dates sets up by friends/mutuals are great first steps to meeting the "right" one.

and women consider a '9' to be an 'average' man that they'd be willing to settle for.

That's the thing, "unattractive" isn't even the problem. An 8 who isn't the most interesting man in the world will be treated as poorly as a 2.

@@brianmeen2158 It's not nonsense, there's literal statistics about this stuff.

@@brianmeen2158 Only partly agree. Unattractive men can develop attractive personalities, learn to play the game, and if they're loaded they will -- or can -- do well. Women are drawn to wealth and charisma. I've seen that in bars, where women were drawn to well-paid factory men and well-dressed professionals like iron filings to a strong magnet. But I don't think that every comment in these threads about unattractive men being overall treated like shit is an untrue comment. Even working out and lifting isn't a guarantee you'll do better. 60% of younger men (age 18-30) being alone in the US is an indication that something is haywire, and you can't tell me all of those 60% of men 18-30 are unattractive. There are other factors at play, obviously.

@@chriscampbell9191 Unattractive men have nothing to gain by being flashy. They would do well to hide their wealth, and not attract users. This is garbage red pill advice you are peddling.

If there is a karma-thing, I hope it would return you your kindness.

Thank you for being a decent human being. We are quick to shame those who misbehave and often forget to simply praise those who appropriately behave.

Sadly here in USA in this century, you'll see women shaming men and reporting them creepers to the human resources despite accepting his phone number while she said 'thanks' to him while she smiled. When this type of things happen very often to men, you'll see a different shift changing within society. Man would rather be alone instead of putting him under the bus by her. Manipulation at its best. I can never put any woman in trouble in that type of situation despite her unknown outcome with her courage.

1%

I hate to break it to you. But whether you know it or not the reason you are warm is because you are married. Man or woman when they are taken have 0 defensive barriers up because they have nothing to gain or lose interacting with the opposite sex. The women who are taken are always the friendliest and those who are single are often very cold and stand off ish.

@FrankM men have to do all this lol it’s just not worth the effort anymore

I am 59 and can say that I believe that women are absolutely terrible at navigating and improving relationships. I have been dumbfounded so many times....

I did speed dating nights for short period. And it was always the same Gold Digging questions, that was a total turn off & I Never returned

@@hiteck007 Well, a very common , expected, and fair question for a woman to ask a man at an event like that is "What do you do for a living?". So unless she asks directly "how much money do you make" .....well I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.

@@andyscherer6936 That was usually about their 2nd question, every question was centered around MONEY and how much you have. Once I saw they all asked the same questions well I was done with that lot. They were ALL GOLD DIGGERS. They weren't impressed with my answers either. LOL

Cool that 15 years ago someone could ask a coworker out without getting fired and blacklist from other jobs. And yeah, of course ladies can still sexual harass, oops, I mean ask a coworker out, with no repercussion. But perhaps we're even getting into the era of women losing that ability. Men are now so thoroughly instructed in sexual harassment that if a woman passed me a note with her number and invite to go out, I'd have to take the note to HR immediately and file a sexual harassment just to protect myself. If I didn't file a complaint and didn't then call that woman, ask her out, etc... I'd be risking retaliation from her. To seek vengeance against me and make up a harassment claim. It's a war out there and we have no idea who the friendlies are. In the choice of risking career vs asking out a coworker I have to go with career being more important. Focus on career, retire early and move to another country. That's what I did and planning to move to SE Asia next year. There I can ask out a woman without risking criminal charging assuming I'm careful about her age. Just a much better deal all the way round.

If he had done the same, he might have lost his job for his efforts.

why can't it be more socially acceptable for women to shoot their shot with men they like or for women to be the initiators?

You’re a unicorn

It's both cute and annoying when a man isn't getting our clues ❤

Getting rejected with a sneer and to see her and all her friends laugh at you is quite the experience

@@Eleriol84 yep

Who tf does that? That’s so scummy.

so what? if theyre not interested, then boo fucking hoo. lets adapt the approach, put on a fresh smile, and go get the next one. its all a mindset. get some thicker skin

@@averagejoe7860 you're not wrong. But it sure as hell doesn't make things easier.

One hell of a good comment and no replies, lemme fix that

The attention has essentially stopped. Not unless they're posting their backside on social media or OF.

The original post is challenging that. And yes - when the "unwanted" attention stops, and it will, many will not be okay with it. @@Adele5554

That is an excellent inquiry🧐

When it stops. For sure 100%

Yup. Literally how my parents met. My mom says back in the day (she grew up in the 80s) it was normal and flattering.

@@HotelMari0Maker It was still pretty bad in the 80's though...

Yeah true 100%!! I saw it with my own eyes. Socialising after work and all these ladies were bragging about how they string men along

I could imagine how they would like in group chats..

That sucks. I always appreciated the compliment and the guts it took to approach me. As long and the guy was also courteous, and not too persistent, vicious if rejected etc. I think a lot of women have also seen men turn nasty if we politely refused them.

You are the real MVP 🏆 You are also smart, good on you.

@@OlivePittsOnDesk As a woman: well done!

I've seen that at clubs also, it's one thing if guy is aggressive but if a man is respectful there no reason to be rude smh a true sign of bad character

This is so real. I notice it when I go to the bars all the time, ESPECIALLY in the sacred space where women reveal all their secrets; the women's washroom lol. I'll see a girl that I think is absolutely beautiful, but then I'll catch her with her friends making the nastiest remarks about a man just because she didn't find them attractive. This ironically makes her and her friends less appear less attractive with their hateful energy. The way some of these girls talk about men is so dehumanizing, it actually makes me a bit sad. That's someone's child they're talking about :(

Good discipline 🏃‍♂️

What do you think is the incentives that is greater than the cost?

Japan has a ton of marriage incentives and they have an even worse problem of people not getting married than America and the UK do.

Almost like our society should encourage heterosexual marriages which lead to family units. Hmmm. What a novel idea

I’m my view, one of the reasons is the high cost of marriage and family, divorce and the unbearable cost of childcare. We do have economic tools to increase the viability of starting a family. I’m looking at what we can do over an idealized actions.

@@jamewakk And increasingly now, it carries a potential criminal risk as there is lobbying to criminalise unwanted communication and behaviour.

This sounds like a you problem. Don't be so bitter about your own failings

@@highnoon7097 Failed PUA/Simp detected here.

Interesting, they stare at me while pissed off somewhat often. I must be attractive and they are pissed off about that fact. They are still rude though.

A kind word can do wonders to change that pissed off look to a genuine smile. A lot of people have it hard, not everyone can smile 24/7 at strangers who they have no reason to trust. But breaking through all that can make anyone's day and they'd think about you at least a couple of times even if you simply decide to leave after a friendly interaction and don't ask for contact info. That applies to both men and women because almost all people need friendly interaction. Don't focus on unpleasant talks, focus on the occasional positive interactions where a person shows interest in the conversation.

​@@bloodymares sometimes it can be challenging to offer kind words to people who only see you as an ATM machine.

It's true

Translation: 1) Men I'm not interested in approach me. 2) Men I'm interested in don't approach me.

@@frozenskies1718 verily

Exactly. When are men supposed to approach women? I have heard literally every single public space where strangers meet described as a no go place to approach women, by women.

No my definition of incel is the most accurate and backed by data. First, let's look at my definition of incel. Incel: A single male that is not in a long-term loving relationship with a partner that THEY find attractive. They may or may not have kids. These men are likely to be excess men of low social and financial standing. But due to our Darwinian high pressure, society...."more above average men" are finding themselves locked out of having a long-term loving relationship. This is what will cause society to destabilise and fall in quality and safety. Indeed, we are seeing it NOW already. And these men will either check out or become destructive. Both are not good news for society in terms of economic, social, and security reasons. Remember, the media and even others are not correct about what an incel is. It's not about just getting "3ex"......its realising that you have been unable to find a long-term loving, mutually validating relationship with a partner that YOU find attractive. My question to the world is this..... If a man IS IN a long-term loving relationship with a partner that THEY find attractive and they have kids. And that man is close to his parents and relatives and family, kids and friends. If he does a job that may not earn him all the money in the world. But it's enough to get his family by in dignity, and he finds purpose in that line of work. And that man is respected in HIS family, community........ TELL ME HOW MANY MEN LIKE THIS DO YOU FIND COMMITTING CRIMES, RIOTING, LOOTING???? THEY ARE THE PILLERS OF A STABLE SOCIETY. Now, "chads" that trun a lot of plates and have a lot of options are not strictly speaking incels, providing they don't have prolonged dry spells between "relationships".....but make no mistake these men are not necessarily destructive like incels, but are ultimately unfulfilled.....they are not as happy/stable as the man I described above. And that's all these is to know on the matter..... Peace

“It’s always the fridge protecting the snacks” that analogy has me dead 🤣💀😂

I love that line, heh

And just by the way you wrote this everybody can tell she is not interested for a very, VERY good reason.

BRO STOP 😂😂😂 too good

This line deserves an award

🤣🤣🤣 Brutal takedown

Women take ownership of anything? 🤣

Lol never gonna happen. They love DOING the rejecting, they could not possibly TAKE the rejection.

At this point, I see no alternatives. The insane amount of courage we had to work up to just ask the girl was enough to deal with... _now_ we have these cut-throat political and social boundaries to break through on top of that..... Traditional women who are victims of the current sexual market climate would have much better chance at approaching... And, on behalf of men, I'd say we'd be stunned and honored; we might stand a little taller under the weight of Clown World....... The _most_ that would happen is a soft let-down; surely never a "beat it, creep" episode.

Ha, ha. Good luck with *that!* I've seen quite a few videos of w0men complaining on Bumble, that men don't initiate (more). Uh, it is website *designed* for w0men to initiate contact?!

Yeah, it’s weird. I actually do approach women in public. Sometimes I get dates from it. But the amount of times I have met a woman and she seems to be really digging it, flirting, asking me questions, looking excited. They seem enchanted. And then when you text them later, they are just lukewarm at best. It’s like they can’t hold on to whatever excitement or interest they felt. And that's fine, nobody owes you interest. But women sure are strange and fickle creatures!

That's why it's best not to flirt or be overly friendly at work. All it takes is a vague complaint from her to HR and you can lose promotions or your job. I've seen it happen too many times.

@@Ben-Ken agreed. I work at a bar and I don’t even bother trying to be flirty. It’s very tempting but just flat out not worth it.

@@jonevans870 yup! Honestly I think it’s social media and phones. As soon as you aren’t in front of her all she has to do is pull out her phone for instant gratification from dozens of other men. You just become another crab in the bucket.

@@PaperStCo yeah, probably that’s a big part of it. I also think a lot of women just like leading men on. They are more interested in validation than in actually meeting people, it seems.

Ofc thats all on the internet

The pick-up thing was incredibly creepy and manipulative. People into that shit should be shamed.

@@gf6x3gkmfw38 Cool. Then people shouldn't start shamming men into bringing it back. Approaching culture is dead, and society should move on.

@@gf6x3gkmfw38 This word 'creepy' has runs its course. Its 2024, time to expand your vocabulary.

@@gf6x3gkmfw38 i think it's was mostly the same handful of PUA guys that were creepy and everyone would focus on them. the one I followed was a very tame and boring guy (Eben / David DeAngelo)

Most guys who think they’re ugly are out of shape and have a bad wardrobe. I promise you my bro, hit that gym, eat right, find good clothes. Dont gotta break the bank to get the best out of life, my dude. Go forth and conquer yourself, she’ll show up eventually 🤝

@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access preach, you have no idea how checking these on the list improves your self-confidence

I am somewhat goodlooking, and its a gamble.

@@p382742937423y4 that’s true but a gamble with more favorable odds

@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access Stop lying. If it didn't happen 15 years ago it's not going to happen now when they're all on the same bandwagon.

Fking crazy fk up world. I’m a 50 year old married man. Glad I missed this Death

Stop being paranoid

@@lennard5393 It's not paranoia, it's healthy self-preservation.

@@lennard5393 Why? Even if the fear of being shamed and prosecuted is exaggerated, look at what created it. Think about the sex hostile and/or male hostile attitude that women would need to have for them to support all this so wholeheartedly. Why would I WANT a woman who is afraid of men and sex? Or who is traumatized from previous encounters? Or who feels disgust towards men whom she deems beneath her? It's all wholly unattractive.

no girl is getting offended if you approach with a friendly smile and some manners. this isnt a legit excuse, its cowardice

Valid

Have u seen how rude guys are when they are not attracted to a woman? It's horrendous!

@@Chatelaine0 You're talking about Chad and Tyrone, who have so many women throwing themselves at them that it becomes like static noise. Alot of women don't know how to take a respectful rejection, either, get pushy, emotional and insist. If a man did that, you'd have no mercy. No means no, right?

The worse part about chasing a woman is catching her.

Why hang around someone men and uninterested when you could be hanging with the boys who 99% of the time got your back

I grew up in the '50s and '60s. It was a running joke about women and telephones. I mean, my earliest recollections are of old-fashioned, wall-mounted telephones with a fixed mouthpiece and a separate ear piece on a cord. Even in those days, that's what women did: gossip on the phone. If you needed to make a phone call, not only did all of your neighbors get to listen in, but you had to ask them to break up the party so you could get through to the operator so she could connect you to the doctor or the vet, or whoever. In the latter part of the '50s and through the '60s, the teenage girl and her tying up the phone for hours (and later, her princess phone surgically attached to her) became standard gag material.

Smart phones ruined EVERYTHING

To be fair guys are also into it. I suspect that most of that is because women are into it so they have to play that game to get a girl.

No mention of males focused almost exclusively on video games?

​@@luisdetomaso867 You're getting it wrong, males focused on video games often times is the effect of women ignoring them, not the cause. Just like how many guys turn to alcohol/drinks to numb pain and depression, most guys turn to video games as a substitute for lack of romantic affection/attention from women. This is the main reason. If these guys weren't invisible to women, most of them wouldn't spend majority of their time on video games.

Really one of the best comments here. It explains everything.

passport bros✔️

american dating is dead. Getting your money up and passports are the way to go

You did not just seriously compare going to Colombia as an American (presumably) to the regular dating scene. You’re talking about tricking. I’m gonna guess these interactions with women who were “interested” wasn’t in a small city like Jardin or Solento; it was in el poblado.

@@tonysamosa1717 you're not wrong that working girls will do that as well, but yes many normal civilian women will genuinely act the same way. The entire culture is way less rooted in individualism. They understand that going out means socializing, dancing, and actually making your night worthwhile instead of just sitting in a circle looking at your phone all night

I was not very physically attractive in my teens and early 20s (always always with lots of acne) and I got laid a lot by approaching women; I just had GAME. Learn bro; or watch yourself become bitter

@@thekey429 Or he could just learn not to be bitter. It's not like he needs women to be happy. I'd be more concerned about men being successful in life and becoming wealthy.

@@thekey429how tall or short are you?

It took an extremely long time to wise up. The pickup artist became popularized again in 2005 with neil strauss' book the game. before that, 99% of people really only had TV. It took almost 20 years to put facts about hypergamy up on the internet...

​@@thekey429Did you consider your "GAME" made you attractive?

It's easy to feel peace and content when you know you don't have to lose half of your assets to someone who "changed their mind"

I think you meant they’re a lot smarter 🤣 Intelligent men, even young men see women for the nonsense they prioritize! Men have woken up, no matter what age!

Low test

Seriously? With all the sex constantly shoved in our faces, and the façade that we all have unlimited options, I'd think they'd be borderline obsessed with chasing tail.

The opposite is reality and maybe because it's shoved in our faces@@fuzzypanda1684

Well, humans are extremely abusive with power. The ability to report a guy to a YMCA front desk (simply for saying hi) is 'power'. Modern technology has given people a sense of total immunity and anonymity; this ONLY promotes more abuses of power. Not to mention people are lacking major 'meaning' in their lives It's easy to fill that void with contempt and narcissism.

True that brother

Right there with you bro

FACTS society only blam men thats insane . Their mother and frand mother knew how to send straight clear signal to men back in the day... Nobody talk about that

Women expect men to read their mind. Did they think all men are psychic?

Ah, the ol' Dodgeball philosophy.

"I expect nothing and I'm still let down."

Beta!

Get on semen retention now!

Amen, hallelujah! 🤘

When the western human female is literally the pickiest mate selector in the known universe

@ralphfurley4217Yeah and he's one of the 9/10 guys so it's easy for him to say "Men do better", he is literally the archetype for the kind of man that women throw themselves at on dating apps.

Although I think your assumption is correct, I fear that female preferential treatment is partly of genetical / evolutionary source, not only by society / learned behaviour.

Great post , u-b , so true .!

its always our fault, that's why more men are just doing their thing. expectations of to be perfect kind reader.

exactly

Phenomenonal choice of words, Louise is so great as a speaker. I'ma remember that phrase and use it whenever this topic comes up later.

Maximilian!?? I thought you were inside the black hole!!

BIG logical problem. A woman LOOKING GOOD to me is not the same as a woman SIGNALLING me. Wow fancy that..

I love meeting a woman who has natural beauty, calm confidence, and dresses modestly with no desperation to reveal herself or be a thirst trap. That’s who I approach.

really? how many do you approach like per week or per month? How many numbers/igs have you gotten and/or dates? really curious tbh because it's been feeling hopeless

Good call.

You must be really good looking.

That's awesome, if you have anything around worth approaching. That's my answer, I don't see anything worth being attracted to. Women, get more attractive!

@@RobertMorgan lemme guess, incel?

That actually made me think, I’m a woman. I think you may have a point

Not all of us though, I’m not on social media 😊 there’s hope

​@@loveyourketo1433 being on social media doesnt turn you into a cheap and dull woman. I think its a good way to find the right man through the same values , political views and way of life

@@marienmorand no not what I’m saying. The transparency is interesting new factor and thought. Haven’t thought about that. Sadly know many women with a distorted man/dating pov. Obsessive and prime target. Target achieved never leave the house again. He’s right it used to be better hidden but they’ve always been there. I think social media not only exposed that but also is obviously not healthy on so many levels for personal relationships and ego

@@marienmorand and to give you peace I had/have a distorted dating pov as well. Just different. Not desperate.

Wise words.

Weak.

@@andrebaxter4023 Anyone who calls Arthur Schopenhauer weak has absolute no clue about psychology.

the man lived alone with a poodle...

@@nathanielknight1838 sounds good to me!

You are the reason she is having an emotional breakdown and wants to kick u out. No woman ever kicked out a man who acted like a real man. No man complained a woman taking his stuff if he was a true alpa giver generous and fatherly soul. Only the weak men who only have crumbs to offer both materialistically and emotionally, whine about having to be the giver. You sow what u reap w women. Alwsys. You plant shit in her grounds, she ll give you fruits of mysery.

I’m ugly and have been married 11 years today. I don’t have children. Marriage is what you make it!

@@tricatame7427 wow how did you get so naïve?

@@andrewpizzino2514 not having witnesses it in real life, i went on internet to see recorded evidence of men protecting women, serving their purpose in the world. So few videos...most of which were men protecting women from other men. When we live in a world where we feel safer because thereis a man there and not less safe because a man is there, only then men will be worth marrying and keeping around.

@@tricatame7427it's always men's fault. LOL. Keep pushing it, you will see marriage rates improving in the other direction.

Feminism's double standards.

It's just a conversation. But you build up some wild fantasies and expectation in your head and turn it into a question of life and death for your ego. Just go into it without any expectation, have fun, have a conversation. That's all.

@@alterego157 You're exactly right. Well said. But these days, most women that I'm attracted to don't seem to have any interest in anything that interests me. I'll try to be more positive and keep trying though.

Would be interested to know the type of women you approached and how you went about it. All these things will hugely effect your outcomes

@@brushstroke3733so you need to be looking at why you want women who have no mutual interests. You don’t have to necessarily have common interests with women you like. There will be multiple factors at play

If at first you don't succeed, try again. If you then don't succeed, give up. There's no point in making a fool of yourself. I heard that once and have stuck by it.

You want a divorce? Why?? What did I do wrong? - Nothing ..; I just need a change. I'm bored.

​@@M0viLoverAnd You still LO$E

💯

Just say no to being an inkwell ATM.

​@@caucasianafrican1435 and... AND it was also your fault

I would be much more comfortable with that arrangement. At least then someone you know and trust can vouch for the person you will be seeing. Going in blind with so much on the line absolutely terrifying.

family and friends introducing you is only great if you are passive. for the more active ones of us, this sounds terrible. i want to have the control about with whom im interacting with, i chose who i approach and who i will not. no need for others to do the work that is my responsibility. but if you are too fearful and never approach at all then yeah, i get why you might want this. its still a terrible mindset and should be overcome. basing your wishes off of fear will not make you grow. at all.

@@randomisedrandomness how often did you try?

Being fearful is valid when so much is on the line. If family and friends could speak highly of someone's character that would increase the odds of that statement being true. My judgement + family/friends judgement. The idea is to reduce the chances of getting financially destroyed.

@@DanielH874 how about you dont marry then? if the fear is that high, and you can be financially destroyed that much? also, how are you supposed to enjoy the process of getting to know each other if you are that fearful?

I don'T live in the US. I am an older man and in a shop one day out of the blue I complimented a lady on her hairdo which I said to her looked lovely. She smiled and thanked me for my compliment. Well I am a widower and the lady's hairdo reminded my of my wife who always took good care of her hair which was something I enjoyed when I looked at her. I am not sure whether a young woman would react like this mature lady did. Perhaps the younger women of today never learned there are also king men in the world who still know the Art of complimenting. There is more to life than sex which is a rather primitive form of enjoyment.

Correction: Kind men not king men.

Hello is now considered a pick-up line; that you're "trying to make a connection" or "hitting" on them.

It’s all about how a compliment is given. If it’s too personal it can be really unnerving. I will instinctively recoil and be on my guard if I get from a very personal compliment from anyone I don’t know well. Something less directly personal like “great outfit” “that’s a lovely colour on you” “what beautiful shoes/ dress/ coat” “cool car” that’s more about the choices a woman has made rather than her body is a safer place to start and I guarantee you’ll have a more receptive response.

There's a huge difference between telling a woman she looks nice, or her dress is your fave color and making lewd remarks. If young women aren't getting that, I'm sorry, guys!

Pretty much! Narcissists run rampant on dating sites, and they can screw anyone's chance to find love because of their own misery and toxicity. Some will resort to cutting off access to potential candidates, i.e. isolating the desired target (aka coercive control tactics, which are illegal and punishable) because of rejection or lack of mutual interest. It's horrifying and can go on for years until the perpetrator/stalker is exposed and imprisoned.

I would tell them to wear dresses or long skirts. There's absolutely no need to wear very tight clothes that reveals anything and everything the have to offer. Make the guys you're interested in EARN that right to see these parts of you. And you don't send "the wrong signal"... But hey I'm a guy wth do I known right?

@@Francois424 That was kinda my point. If you want to be seen a certain way by one person, then dress and behave that way only for that one person, not for the entire world to see.

Plus, a good figure will look good in any clothes. See it at work all the time. No need to run around half-naked.

@@VolkbrechtExactly ! And you'll attract the kind of dudes that appreciate it too ! 🙂

@@Volkbrechtall these suggestions are wholesome, I’m not a teenage girl I’m close to 30 but this exactly what her dad and I are instilling our daughters, wish I would have known better growing up. I’m setting the example now! I dress vintage because it’s not too revealing but still feminine! I want all girls to see you can look beautiful without compromising and self exploitation.

100% Fact.

They are not happy cause they are not in love. They ve been pushed by society to follow the rule and get married with the first partner they 've met.

I’m middle-aged and single (divorced) and nearly all of my married friends envy me. I’m having a great time meeting women, dating, pursuing my interests, holding off until I meet someone who clicks. If that doesn’t happen I’ll be fine, I feel very at peace inside and love my life. It’s a shame there is so much resentment, loneliness, and anger out there.

ya keep things simple,if a guy approaches you give him a chance if you wanna know what youre dealing with then ask them what kind of person they are,if youre interested go on a date and find out more if youre not then just say you seem like a nice fella but am just not the girl for you be nice,you can keep talking but let a guy know where he stands. hek if you know a girl that might be for him then hook him up.

I am married with one child (7 years old). While I don't regret my trajectory in life, I readily admit that I do envy the single life. Like everything, married life with children has its ups and downs; the problem is that it is very difficult for a guy to achieve any sort of balance as your needs always come dead last, far behind those of your child and wife. Prepare to have very little agency except in how you do things (because a lot of 'what' you do will be chosen for you). Want to go out? If your wife allows it and after you put your kid to bed. Want to sleep in and lazily wake up and go straight to your computer to watch TV or play video games? That almost never happens. I love my family, don't get me wrong, but man, if you need some alone time, prepare to sleep a lot less because that's the only way you can have time for yourself.

Kramer was right. They’re man made prisons. Kramer, thou art wise.

They were only crreped out because they did NOT see you as ALPHA top G etc.

If they don't know it about themselves, no one can tell them, so compliments don't work. Then you learn that compliments are for the complimenter, not the recipient, it makes sense not to.

It's only a rejection if you were actually interested. You need to treat them as a mildly diverting distraction. Most women are dull after a short conversation.

You both need therapy

@@loveyourketo1433 From some loopy leftist? Don't think so 😉

@@jimdavis8391 just so sad don’t you think? Sounds like giving up! It’s not about the looks! Not for me. Every man has something charming and interesting. If he’s in his power. Worth thinking about

@@jimdavis8391 of course some basic hygiene and body care helps

Reddit is the worst. Their advice will always boil down to ‘do nothing’. I actually think as a man you have to risk ruffling some feathers occasionally. And give yourself permission to be ‘creepy’. The only way to never be ‘creepy’ is to never talk to any women, and that won’t end well for you.

​@@jonevans870 Spot on, but do try to not shit where you eat.

@@swedishpagan2150 And by that you mean at work?

@@fluoroantimonictippedcruis1537 Pretty much yes but could include other places aswell where appearing creepy Will put a huge cost on your lifestyle

The thing with this mate is that many people won’t tell you the truth because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. It’s just the way it is, all you need to do is look for enthusiasm. If she’s in to you she’ll make definite plans with you and it’ll feel effortless. If not, move on to someone who’s worth your time. Attraction is not a choice

Exactly.

Not really. How women dress should be up to them.

I mean if I worked years on my body because I used to be a fatty then imma flaunt that shit sorry

@@number-uz1es Do you lack the ability to introspect?

@@manifest2203Well yeah but they also might have to deal with how people can and unfortunately will often react to that.

Translation: "If we find the guy ugly, it is creepy! If we find the guy hot, it is flirting!" 🤣🤣🤣

Hmmm... Dating sites allow Ladies time and space to check out the talent without commitment, and give a considered Like. A direct approach means direct response - and being caught unawares. A ship doesn't just bang into the ground - that'll create massive damage on both sides - instead maneuvers gently alongside the pier before throwing lines of attachment out...

​@@Nabagabo22 dating sites are the mcdonalds of dating. quick, unhealthy, and a mistake. they are used primarily for one night stands and hookups. this isn't something that can be argued, it is fact.

or set up an only fans and get paid for it instead lols

Yep

This is so true.

It doesn't take that. It just takes an accusation.

"Believe women" means you dont even have to be guilty of anything. If she says it happened, society, the community and the law will assume you guilty and punishment (job loss, reputation loss) is carried out immediately. You have a better chance of beating a murder charge if you were innocent than a harassment charge, because in the former, the prosecution needs to convince the jury beyond reasonable doubt that you were guilty.

Or having their lives ruined.

Well said twice. Marriage IS about the kids. Love is not lust.

@TheSpicyLeg: That's the thing though...a woman will throw everything away, to get that lustful attraction. Familiar love is boring for them. My ex-wife told me after seven years together that she loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore. I later found out she was cheating with a co-worker. Most women don't realize that all long-term relationships turn into familiar love after a while.

@@tizodd6 Sorry for your pain. Some women. Some men also. Hope you're recovering from the betrayal.

@@42hamneggs Did he stutter? MOST women, especially when women are rewarded for cheating and divorcing.

That sounds depressing tbh

Precisely this. And, we keep telling them, but they just don't - won't - listen. LOL, you don't even need to be married, these days, to know exactly what it must feel like...

read The Book of Numbers, the analysis has been done and the answers are bleak.

Then don’t nobody forcing you lol

​@@Lovecove4 Who said they were?

@@Joshua-eo5hr then don’t lol

@@Lovecove4 English much?

English mush? no coprendo

Underrated comment.

Yeah and think of all the girlfriends those guys looking to hook up with you are hiding. Some of them have a 2nd family!! Some of them have pregnant wives at home! Yikes!

That's been my experience to an extent, seeking to meet women online. In person, well, many times, one would think I was on a Candid Camera skit. Some situations have been ludicrous, while others had no interest in even carrying on a conversation with me. A few were married, just not wearing their ring while exercising. My last relationship was in 2018 & lasted approximately 4 months with single mom, who is one year older than i. Her child is grown & serving the military. But that was certainly not the problem for us. Her lack of functioning in a relationship sabotaged us.

Actually marriage and relationships happen to men across all socio economic levels. But the thing is, dating older men has no benefit for any woman. Younger women prefer virile younger men. Older women prefer to be single over being in a relationship because most men are dependents who will nag endlessly for things like his food, his laundry, s3x, his medical follow ups and so much more. Older women want less work, but most men don’t do anything but bring more work. If a woman wants to avoid stress, she has to be single.

I'm 5'8", I make $70k a year and increasing every year, I have no debt and $100k in Savings and even more in my RSP's, I own my home and car, my net worth is $1 Mill+. I work out daily, I sauna a few times a week, I'm not obese, I own my own small software company, I'm a good cook and I keep my place clean. Yet to women, I don't hit the "magical" 6+ foot tall and $100k a year that they demand for minimum entry just to be in their presence, so that disqualifies me even if I were a good guy. They won't even give five minutes to get to know you. So I have zero empathy for any of them. And I just stopped looking all together. Sure, I've had obese older 65 year old women who showed a lot of interest, but if I can't get equal to what I bring to the table, then I just pass. Hypergamy. Women want more and more every year.

Most of the women I met online already had partners, which is actually backed up statistically -- 30% of people using dating sites have a partner already (not so sure about the stats on hookup apps). They were looking for something on the side, or just looking to get their egos inflated. One or the other. Some were bots.

@@chriscampbell9191 - I think that a lot of the women that I dated were just using me for a Foodie Call. They were all pleasant up front, but then dismissive as soon as the cheque was paid.

bro how are fumbling the bag rn. if you put on a smile and have some manners, girls aren't gonna get offended

yeah, and j.o.m.o. can, and needs to, be appreciated, sincerily. the likelyhood of any hetero 1-vs-1 encounter to lead to else than pain-in-arse is about 1.5%. Simple probability maths, btw. Abundance thinking: almost all xx.s are to be avoided.

​@@averagejoe7860exactly what is the smile?

@@averagejoe7860 I live in a city with an extremely liberal university. I was once honked at while going for a run and some girl made the comment "That's what its like to be a woman." I do just fine on the apps but simply would rather not deal with the potential fall out of meeting in public. Age is also a big concern. With how far make up has come good luck telling if that girl is 17 or 25.

@@mickethegoblin7167he's 100% correct

Wow dude you need to talk to some women out there

​@@loveyourketo1433 You too...

@@loveyourketo1433 take a look at all the dating apps and do a survey of the requirements from women from the first 100 hits you see. Go ahead. And take off those rose-tinted glasses.

I went on a date recently and as soon as I mentioned my financial goal in a conversation, she asked if I could aim for double that. Lmao! she didn't say it like that, but when I type that, it sounds ridiculous.

That's definitely one reason yes. Shit is too expensive these days, don't let anyone tell ya different. I'm working a full time decent job and a third of my money goes towards rent...and if I want to try to save for a house or anything, I can't be going out wasting money

We also have to pay for most things and if we don’t we’re considered broke and undatable

Also coz they're just a pain in the ass these days

FINALLY, SOMEONE HERE GOT IT!

Lol speak for yourself

Left my city to renovate a rural cottage, raise some food animals and quite literally go monk mode to get centered after a rough relationship. Nearly two years have passed and I just did my first big social event back in the city for Christmas. Plenty of catch up and back and forth with the lads, - that - was great. Good to see the boys. Solid feedback on how well I look - shared some of the beef I've raised. Cheers Lads! But the women (30-35 bracket) - they were - well, I'm content back on the property and not dealing with city women ever again. A week on and I'm still astounded with the level of narcissism, psychological plays, entitlement and loutish boss-bitch I had become enured too in previous years. Cold shower moment if ever. I really drank the kool-aid on modern women this past decade. Never again. In other news, lads bbq on the property end of Jan. Noice.

@@seb_travel BBQ, bourbon and a bon fire.... I'm in! Good luck to you my friend

@@markbills4122 Agreed. And you too, best for 2024.

💯Exactly! Apart from an occasional 'cuddle' you don't actually *need a woman.

@@seb_travel Incoming call for you - it's the Based Department. No joke - that's the way to live. Godspeed!

Personally , I go to the gym to get stronger and improve my health. It never ever enters my mind to approach women in the gym. But I guess that's me being a middle aged man who has got to the stage of life where I genuinely feel very content with being single which means having the freedom to do whatever I want to do.

I think We all had “im smiling at you be nice so I can escape” type lmao lol

The trick is to just keep it effortless, have a non threatening feel about you. Women can sense that and if they sense you’re indifferent about them and just being friendly, 99% of the time they’ll be polite back to you

Sorry your social skills suck man…. But you have to learn how to communicate .

But they worked in traditional societies, maybe not in post modern and post industrial ones...

The problem is that population and technology and what we know about the world around us keep changing. What worked for our ancestors or even our parents may not work now. A quote attributed to Darwin is this: " It is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that…is able best to adapt and adjust to the changing environment.”

@@Darknight73457 Post industrial society simply doesn't work. Hence why everything goes up, besides wages. "Money machine go brrrr" isn't a system, its self-deletion. The system your referring to is Banker-Cartel which we openly fought to protect in WW2 after defeating the Confederates who tried to warned us about it right here at home. Made our bed, time to lay in it. Constitutional republics work, cause they are by the normal people, for the normal people. ZOG nations don't work cause its by the normal people, for Israel. The people who put in, never get a return, cause it all gets sent to Ukraine to fund more anti-white wars. Traditional ALWAYS WORKS by definition. IT COULDN'T exist otherwise. Starvation will NEVER be a tradition, which is why communism will never be traditional ideology. Its permanently "Progressive" or anti-traditional. Nobody is writing down how to burn chicken in a cookbook.

I thought that line was incredibly uninteresting.

It's a platitude really.

I even avoid female family members now.

Won't ever happen, but yeah, that is definitely a problem. Men aren't stupid. Statistics indicate that most modern marriages fail, and in most of those failures the guy gets the bad end of the stick. And we're supposed to jump in headlong? Boomers, GenJonesers, GenXers, older Millennials did perhaps. These younger guys are faster learners.

It’s not mooching if you had a child with this person. It’s literally your responsibility to provide alimony. Keep the child and let her pay alimony.

Totally agree

@@PossibleBat end no fault divorce, problem solved.

Why do you get married then?

Glad someone else caught her saying this her perception and stigma on men’s eq sounds so dehumanizing

Women often give signals of interest when they're not interested just to get attention from men to boost their own ego. I know women who used to go clubbing, take wedding ring off, flirt with men ONLY to reject men at the end and tell them they're married.

@@drewashington5001 Yes, whether she meant it or not, she came across as very condescending and patronizing towards men when she implied (pretty strongly) that men who don't respond favorably to women's subtle hints are too stupid to read the signals. The possibility that the men are reading the signals alright but are too smart to respond the way the women want seems to have never crossed her mind.

I'm a woman who want to understand more about men, because I don't like what I see sometimes, how some women treat men, and I don't want to be like them even by mistake. When you say it's a matter of not trusting the signs, is it more like, fearing that you are misinterpreting them (thinking she might be interrested when she isn't), or do you not trust her intentions (knowing that she is indeed flirting but can turn on you latter on, or even try to seduce you to obtain something) ? What would be a way for you, as a man, to feel like you can indeed approach someone or trust their hints? Maybe even not giving any hints at all but being direct ?

@@arraelle7453 Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words as well as your contribution to the discussion. Part of the hesitance in responding is that the response can be taken as an act of sexual harassment leaving the man open to a devastating accusation that is almost impossible to defend against even if you had no intention of harassing the women. The questions becomes, is this genuine interest or is just a trap?

Long ago, and far away.

Good job!

"It was not complicated" because it was a much simpler time 24 years ago than now. I was in my early 20s in 2000 and do agree it wasn't complicated. When I was single looking to date again in my late 30s after a long-term relationship ended, I quickly learnt that approaching or even striking up a conversation isn't as well received as it was back then.

@@taridean , it’s still not complicated. Cold approaching is easy with a little experience.

@@andrebaxter4023 agreed that it's easy to approach when you have experience. However, the recipients of the cold approach today aren't the same as back in 2000.

TLDR: the juice isn't worth the squeeze!!

''They all over value themselves and bring very little to the table other than sex,''💯💯💯💯 ''I checked out, not worth the investment, im perfectly happy focusing on bettering myself, I dont have time to solve womens financial and emotional issues.''💯💯💯💯 We're on the same page my ''brother''🙂🙂

Exactly dude. I been saying the same thing forever.

I have been attending church fellowship for decades, only met two ladies who were available to date. The other women who in attendance, that i spoke to were already dating, just divorced, only visiting or just not compatible, personality wise. Even ladies who say they are "christian" end up not actually being ones...

I first attempted online dating in 2008, after seeking to date the old fashion way... This supposedly narrowed down who is single & interested in dating. Problem there, women ended up being DM overwhelming more than men, 10 to 1. Now I was competing against dozens of men versus cold turkey walking up to & talking to a lady in person. i did Interact with a few ladies via online, but did not get past the computer screen for obvious reasons. One being, attitude!

@@christopherhazell420 I spent two years messaging around two or three women a day. Nothing ever came of it. I got close to meeting some in person, but they ghosted me. I’ll never forget the time I spent an entire night messaging this woman only for her to tell me that she was just killing time.

100%

Exactly. Modern dilusional women say, the worst that can happen is that she says, "No," the man respects that, and he moves on, and she does not shame or sue him. The fact is too much risk of social shame and legal hell until death.

Nailed it. And +1 to 'by design'. S'not an accident.

I mentioned a shorter version of what you wrote in a reply to a woman on another video, trying to induce understanding. Her reply, paraphrased, was, "Whenever I hear men complaining about being victims, I roll my eyes." I'm trying to figure out if it was a real woman or a troll. I've always been aware of the size and strength difference between men and women, but I have never tried to be paranoid because of it. I'm trying to figure out the reasoning behind writing that it's lazy to say not all men are abusive but peak prudence and intelligence to have an attitude of guilty until proven innocent.

@@FlamingCockatiel "I'm trying to figure out if it was a real woman or a troll." More than likely a real woman. The majority of women in the West these days don't much like men, many even hate us.

@DanielH874: Good post. One thing you missed IMO is the significant possibility (I would say, strong likelihood) that your wife will cheat on you and feel she's doing nothing wrong, i.e. shameless and guilt-free cheating. Very common in the modern West.

You can check out all their candid pics, know every unnecessary info on their private lives online yet approach warmly and chat them up and it’s scary. Weird, weird times..

Yes that was very common and actually a very nice way to begin dating someone in the 1980s. It's how my wife did it. After first of all ignoring me every day for two years of course. 😉 I still really advise men to not do the cold approach in a bar thing. It is so false and cluncky and I can see why women think its unwelcome.

@brianthesnail3815 Personally, I never minded strangers approaching me in public. After all, at one point, everyone not related to us was a stranger. However, people you see often - co-workers, classmates, friends of friends, etc, - are easier to speak with because the interactions are more natural, and you already have something in common.

@@CharlesNauck Well, the drinks at bars, even beer, seem stronger to me than drinks outside of them. I drink faster at bars therefore I get more hammered. I can usually recoup some of my losses by charging strangers to use my breathalyzer. Which is interesting. I can approach women to get money out of them but not for a date.

You're lucky if you got a friend that does this because they be gatekeeping them from you.

How did that work out for you? Do you have someone you love? Wife?

And HOW will she let you know? What are the signs no man could ever miss? And how many hotties are you dating now? And how are YOU making them magnetically pulled to you without making any effort what so ever?

@@JolPil I think just keep interacting with them, to feel them out, and they’ll reveal it eventually if they like you. He didn’t say don’t talk to women or whatever lol, he just said don’t make the first move. A lot of guys need to just have conversations and do things with women without seeing them as a prospect first. In fact I think they have a greater likelihood of falling for you this way instead of only ever interacting with them by asking them out at first.

My dad was the same, and his wife, my mother, asked him out 3 times before he said yes the 4th time. Married 59 years, 3 kids, 2 grandkids, 2 great grands .

Most actors get rejected 100 times after audition before they are hired. Approaching girls is no different from said auditions. Sometimes they'll say "We're going to contact you" but don't, but sometimes you'll get an excited response because you happened to be the right person in the right place in the right time. Every rejection is an XP boost.

Yep

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​@bloodymares what a dumb statement just like trying to get a loan over and over and getting rejected no point trying when you already know the outcome

@@lexman8678 false analogy. Women aren't banks.

If it helps, women give mixed signals. They even make mixed direct statements. You have to look at the actions they do instead of the words they say. For example, you say "I'm going to the lake to fish, do you want to go?" If they talk about how they love fishing but don't go- that's the action. If they go, that's the action. Saying, "I don't have time" is them saying, "I don't want to" because when they do want to, then they make time. And for bonus times, the woman doesn't know it herself sometimes. She's saying and thinking one thing, but her actions show her inner thoughts and desires which she may be unaware of at a conscious level. It's a mess.

Honestly probably better off man.

I empathize with you. I gave up after women still can't say what they mean and mean what they say. They dont tend to use logic. Instead, it's fluctuating feelings in real time. I don't even look at them anymore because if she changes her mind..... meetoo accusation. this is about power. I just won't play and I'll protect my own power. I use it by telling people to f off. You haven't earned my trust.

Find someone else on the spectrum. I did. It worked for me and my husband. We didn't play social games. We're always honest with each other. It also helped that we were introduced by a mutual friend.

To my knowledge, I'm neurotypical and i still can't pick up on their subtle signals (except in hindsight, by which point it's too late).

They weren't always like this. Most people's behaviors/preferences are socially conditioned by their environment or surroundings. I know for a fact because I used to chat with women online way before any social media or dating apps became mainstream. They were less judgy, discriminatory, uptight, picky when it came to meeting new people. Things changed a lot after dating apps became popular..

@@Ghostrider-ul7xn No, there's a certain way women think. Just like there's a certain way men think. Being a man, men weren't too much of a mystery to me. Women were a mystery because I wasn't having deep and honest conversations with many of them. In other words they wouldn't show their cards. Now there are endless videos online where women reveal who they are and what they want and who they want it from. There's this unfortunate cliche in the culture (as long as I've been alive) that says all men care about is getting laid, which isn't completely true. But now I see this unfortunate cliche in the culture that says all women care about is getting a top 10% man and social status and validation for physical beauty and moral virtue and "equality" while being provided for if choosing to not work etc. which is mostly true. Until they lose their power. And then they just become bitter and pathetic. Not all of them but it seems like a trend.

I disagree slightly with your premise. Yes, you are correct in stating she's the wrong person to ask. However, her primary concern doesn't seem to be that for women's safety, but rather for their security and entitlement to men's finances. She clearly outs herself in her train of logic. She declares that marriage is merely an economical strategy, and that looking for further spiritual or emotional sustenance is unrealistic and immature. Who is typically the primary earner in most marriages? The man. So then, we see that by her definition, marriage is a contractual obligation in which the male subsidizes the woman by proxy of the "family unit" in exchange for some other thing. Later on, she confesses in her belief, that now because men are disengaging from marriage at an alarming rate, we might consider returning to arranged marriages, to ensure that this contract endures. What was the quote she so enthusiastically supplied? "Traditions are just experiments that worked," I believe? Her primary concern is in ensuring the tradition of males providing all of their resources to females is protected. Men pulling away from relationships and marriage ultimately means men pulling away from financial obligations to women. She's so concerned about this that she's willing to agree to arranged marriages to ensure that contract. This isn't about women's safety. It's about stifling male autonomy.

My advice to women is be simple and direct, put yourself next to him, say hi, tell him he's cute, touch his arm, and tell him to ask you out sometime. Done. You got him. Most men would be flattered and into that, because it's straightforward and genuine. Just make sure your attraction to him is genuine and straightforward.

Pretty women get rejected by guys alllllll the time! Men who have Mommy issues and Narcissists are all over the map and target high achieving or great looking women all the time to break them down and humiliate her all the time. I used to have this happen to me all the time and when I gained 50 lbs after an injury, it magically stopped despite being a different size and shape! A few years later, I'm working on going back into fitness and shape and I see it happening again. It's a twisted world indeed.

@@Chatelaine0 This comment is immensely incoherent.

😂😂😂

she's right though, it's a piece of paper, people be getting divorces left and right marriage means nothing, loyalty and love is what's actually sacred

@@greyfox4838 The divorce rate is artificially stimulated by bad policy. No fault divorce and the family court system of the west has rewarded women's worst impulses. 30% of married men are raising children that are not theirs biologically. 80% of divorces are filed by women. Women are awarded child custody and alimony payments, houses and vehicles in more than 2 out of 3 family court cases. Love has nothing to do with it. Men date to find someone to marry. Women date to find someone to divorce. Men sacrifice themselves and their own happiness for their families; women sacrifice their families for their own immediate happiness. Hope this clears things up.

Don’t want my time to be wasted anymore… Too much to ask apparently…

There r many men and women who r not loving in relationships, but there r still so many great men and women. I am a woman, and i have never been a relationship, and many of the men i have been around in my life have been terrible and cold, but i know thats not all men. I am still looking for the right man.

@@beliber6681 I pity you because the prevailing cultural attitudes have scared most of them off.

@@beliber6681these guys that are cold how do you know if your not in a relationship with them ? Or is just from gauging them from a passive point of view.

I'm so sorry, man. I couldn't deal with that. I believe some are capable of loving a man, but her ego can't be too big that it gets in the way.

You were right, they never loved you. Level up. Get richer, get game. If you had game, they would have loved you. They can never love you if you dont have game.

So true

IKR. I’m neutral most of the time BUT with a slight smile and people literally call me a weirdo for that. Wtf.

Their world is not a meritocracy. Everything you have is via your family. Choose the wrong partner and be cut off from that. But they're going to have to change, because of the whole world's moving towards meritocracy. That system will not last

​​@@everythingisfine9988Really? You think affirmative action and DEI are part of a meritocracy? The western world is actually moving towards an authoritarian technocracy.

@@everythingisfine9988disagree completely that’s not just arab culture that’s Islamic culture and there’s a billion of them

My mom tried that after she didn't like some of my dates. You really don't want your mom selecting your girlfriend or wife. You might have absolutely nothing in common and you'll have to deal with that.

@@user-ds8gf3ki2g 100 years ago the entire world function like that. But a lot has changed and a lot will continue. The trend is unstoppable

You should have chosen better. It is your fault. You should be held accountable.

@@manifest2203 He is being accountable by stopping approaching women altogether

Manifest, Yes blame the victim.

If you choose attractive woman, you will likely find she will cheat on you ,it's just the way it is .Even if you have money and are attractive yourself ,that's not a factor anymore .it's not that way everywhere ,but it sure is in America

@@nightflight1454 The women I was partnered with were average looking. I think it was more an issue of character. I guess they had in common that there was a lack of empathy. So they thought more about their own well being, and less about committing to a relationship and work things out.

💯💯💯💯👏👏👏👏

Africa has no such issues 😢😢

I'm sure they wouldn't. But that isn't a thing that happens. Touch grass.

@@gf6x3gkmfw38 Hyperbole. Something as innocent as placing one's hand on a woman's back momentarily to guide her to where she needs to stand for a company group photo has gotten men called in to HR for sexual assault. Nothing sexual about it.

This is very true.

Millions of years of bad habits condensed into a 26 year old bar maid from Nuneaton

lol

I'm 40, and my mother abandoned me to adoption at birth, so the knowledge that the only woman who could ever truly love me, didn't, makes it hard to imagine one ever will, and their actions have so far matched that expectation. The people who accept, love, and nurture/protect me have always been fellow men.

You... are probably being sarcastic. Sadly, you are also right. The male and female worlds are so very different that they have almost no overlap and therefore no useful skill exchange can occur.

Hahaha

@@BenLWolf I mean it's just as legitimate as Louise Perry saying "even the intelligent men with 130 IQs are stupid" It's hard to see women as "the wise ones" when more of them are using antidepressants and mood stabilizers, and a steady decline of women's happiness over recent decades while men's is remaning stable and in some areas improving.

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​@@BenLWolf I'm confused -- the less the two spheres overlap the more I would expect a useful exchange to occur. "Exchange" implies that you aren't both just talking about the same shit, or at least you approach the same shit from a different angle.

I would say don’t be looking for a relationship and enjoy the chase. If you happen to meet a girl you like then happy days.

I'm not exactly sure if its "better" considering there's more risk involved in approaching a random person irl than trying to meet someone through OLD. In OLD platforms, they are less likely to accuse you for showing interest since both of them are on the same platform to find partners.

Online dating was so much better than though. You can message any girl you want without matching them, without any kind of maximum in the day, without paying any amount of money.

No just 1. the one, pick wiser

@@Ghostrider-ul7xnwhat is the risk in meeting people IRL though?