Y'all, your comments here and community through this journey have blessed us immensely. Thank You! Here are the Playlists mentioned at the end of the video (Linked in Bio as well)! 2023 Worship - spoti.fi/401fPJZ Hope For the Waiting - spoti.fi/3kHNJDt Worship Through Delivery - spoti.fi/3WBJw1h
Are you guys also currently trying to adopt while you go through your medical journey to produce more embryo’s? If you are wanting a big family I was assuming you would be adopting while continuing with IVF. Super curious!
So proud of you guys I know it sucks but I hope you find other ways to keep growing your family if that’s what you want. I love you guys so much. Thanks again for sharing
The fact that you stayed to see your embryos through the process speaks volumes about your character. There is so much more to come in your next chapter. Keep the faith and blessings! 🌻🌻🌻
I think it’s so beautiful that you allowed those little embabies a chance and that they were able to return to your body and given the respect they deserve even if they are just tiny embryos. Hugs for your heartache and prayers for your future fertility endeavors. ❤
This is the most incredible thing I’ve ever heard. Such a sweet blessing to give those babies a chance and to let them be with you for even a short time. ❤ to your family!
keep a notebook of everything (write everything done it will help your brain) and stay organized - this will help your state of mind. Vibes your way of successes!
Try not to get discouraged. I tried for 17 years and when I was giving up, I got pregnant. The timing for us worked out perfectly and I wish I wouldn’t have caused myself so much stress through the years. I pray you will be successful in your fertility journey.
We have that smile right now. After 6 years of infertility, ivf and multiple miscarriages we finally got our miracle at the end of October. I also dreamed of a big family but only have 1 inconclusive embryo left to transfer. Not sure my body can take a third retrieval. Praying one day that little embryo waiting for us will bring us our second but just so thankful for our little boy right now. I’m praying you get yours too ❤
I’ve struggled with infertility my whole adult life, couldn’t afford IVF but here I am, 35, married to a Godly man, prayers and heartbreak with every period, my dad dies, I assume my missed period is due to his death from the stress, and now I’m finding out I’m due November 13th and I just cannot believe it. I am so happy and thankful.
I have been with you from the 1st day .I feel like your family. I have sobbed with you ,laughed with you, and prayed with you. It's so good to see you all thriving 💗.
You guys are seriously the biggest hope givers in my journey! After 7 years trying for a baby I am finally sitting here in my second trimester early on and feeling my baby girl due in July kick and roll in my womb. Thank you for giving me hope and always telling your families story! You are amazing and I have loved watching you since Kinsley!
I will be praying for you guys. I know people say this all time, but I will not only be praying for a miracle for you, but also just for general peace, healing, and comfort in whatever season of life you will go through next. Love you guys! Stay strong and courageous❤
Your coffee chat was amazing...it transcended across all ages of people...those just beginning their life's journey trying to start a family, to those trying to grow more family, but also those who's families are already grown. Thank you for helping us all reset our place setting at the table of many Blessings and Joy.
I thought I was coming on here just to listen to an update on your life... I've been following you guys for about 4 years and love to see your family grow and the adventures you have. And though I did get that, I also got so much more. My husband and I have been struggling with what to do with our remaining embryos, so that is always on my heart. I immediately turned on the song that you recommended and entered into worship and prayer while reading the comments of others here. Right now I am standing firm in my choice to give them all a chance. The encouragement you give is so beautiful and I thank you for that. And to all of the other comments that I read, thank you as well!
As a mom of a Trisomy 18 boy Fernando, that was here on earth with us 4 years, I want to THANK YOU, for giving those babies a chance. They are so deserving of that. Even if its for 4 years or 4 seconds. God bless you and your entire family!
@cocoliasvd I am a Chromosome 18 parent as well. My son has a partial Trisomy of the q arm and a partial monosomy of the p arm, he is now 8 years old now. I am so glad you got that time with your son Fernando. CH 18 kids are always stronger than the doctors realize!
@Audra Ligas thank you for writing back. You are so right, T18 kids are resilient, doctors didn't even know how to handle them because if their so called 'incompatible with life" dx. My Fernando actually passed away because of complications from a perforation of his intestines dine by a hospital nurse. But he was a very strong boy that proved everyone wrong. God bless you and your sweet child!
@DawneyDee I bet you his love changed your life forever! Im sorry you only had him here on earth 4 days, but you, like me, are lucky yo have a piece of heaven beside you, watching you, every single day. Hugs yo you momma...
@@cocoliasvd thank you, so much. I honestly wouldn't change anything. He had to go to a different NICU hospital. He was hooked up to so many wires and tubes that I didn't think I could hold him but I did and so much love poured over me it was immeasurable. I do have a grown high functioning autistic son and love him so much. He's such a joy too. Love my rainbow baby ❤
I pray you have as many children as you want🙏🏼 I also had infertility & it was heart wrenching. We were blessed with 3 kiddos and even more blessed with 11 grand babies!! I can tell you as a grandmother, you have so much more to look forward to.. those grand babies will fill your heart and arms! 👶🏻🙏🏼💞
Alex, I just want to thank you for having such a calming spirit, and how you are so perfect at speaking prophetically. This hit home soo hard as I am in nursing school, recently diagnosed with adhd and just struggling but this was exactly what I needed to hear. You're so loved!! Jesus has got us!❤️
I have been following for almost 6 years and by far this is my favorite video Alex , I truly love seeing this insightful side of you. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing this! We got pregnant in 2020 with our son. We didn’t find out until he was 16 months that he’s missing 25 genes on his 5th chromosome. It’s a different world have children who are “genetically abnormal” so the fact that you gave them all a chance is amazing!
You’ve poured into me more than you will ever know when I was in the thick of my infertility journey. I feel God’s light shine so bright through you and your family and I just want to thank you! God would never place a desire on our heart He doesn’t intend to fill so if you feel a little boy will be joining your family God will move mountains to make it happen!! I’ve never met your family but I pray for you guys all the time 🌈 🌺 🌈
Im a mumma of 5. 3 are "not typical". But they are my entire world just like my typical 2. They changed my entire world and taught me lessons in life i wouldnt have learnt without them. Thankyou for loving your non typical in the same way as your typical. ❤️❤️❤️
We have friends this past year that got to have their first baby after years of infertility. They adopted an embryo and he is a joy and blessing to their family. They are thankful to those who chose to let others use their extra embyros instead of destroying them. I am so sorry the last of your babies didn't stick. It's beautiful that you gave them a chance and they got to be with you for the time they were given.
I wanted to have four kids, but I'm blessed with one. Sometimes I get sad and I don't really understand His plan, but I accept it. Proud of you for giving all of your embabies a chance. ❤️
We lost twins 4yrs ago. Finally was 5 months pregnant with our rainbow baby, a girl after over 3-1/2yrs of infertility to my water breaking and losing our daughter right at 20wks almost 3wks ago. We just had her funeral the other day. I am so grateful for the child we have, I am like you all, wanted a big family. Might not be the big family we wanted on earth but in heaven we will all be with our babies. I hope you get your little boy at least to "complete" your family. I wish infertility and childloss never existed. Thanks for being so open with your journey. This video has helped me alot.
I’m so sorry for the loss of you little girl. I cannot fathom that pain, especially along with the other losses you have experienced as well. My heart and prayers are with you and your husband. God bless you both. 🙏🏻💕
This life is just full of injustice or just very hard things to pass through. There are woman that want so much children and can’t have them and there are woman that are getting abortions right this second. Both realities exist. And Both woman deserve grace and respect. Life is ironic and hard 😟
I love these coffee chats. My family is currently in that grief that is similar to what you’ve gone through. My 2 yr old niece passed away a few days ago and she will be doing her honor walk today and will be saving 3 kiddos through organ donation. I don’t understand why this is her journey and why she was only given 2.5 years on this earth. The only joy emoji I can think of is is an 👼 because my niece was and is and is an angel now and angels bring so much joy.
My prayers are with you! We did 6 years of IVF and completely understand your struggles. We dealt with the ethics of all of it everyday and agree that no one can understand or judge who haven't dealt with this. We were blessed with 3 beautiful children and still had 5 embryos. Because we believe that life begins at conception, having those embryos destroyed was never a choice. But I had the twins at the age of 47 and my organs started failing so they were born premature to save my life. The option of having more children was gone. We decided to put the embryos up for adoption to give them a chance at life. I have no regrets and only peace with our decisions. May God shine his light upon you and your family.
@Pontodevirada sorry that was 5 years ago. Check with your fertility doctor about adopting embryos. I have a couple other friends that did this and have beautiful children. Good luck
I wonder, what you think about abortion then?? Do you support women/ people that don’t want anything to do with pregnancy and choose to abort “life” prior to 12 weeks? Or you just hate that abortion is an option?
@Zaira Bandy wow I think that is inappropriate to ask since this is about life and trying to have children not abortion and womens rights. No matter what I say, you have already formed an opinion based on your beliefs and life experiences. Please save your negativity for another place and may God bless you in your endeavors
Sooo… I follow you for a long time like 5-7 years now. Long before starting a family was a thing for me & now here I am/we are trying for over two years - one eggtopical pregnancy and a miscarriage just three days ago. But through you I feel so well informed, I feel the trust of God - it’s strange but you prepared me for something I‘ve never thought about ❤
💕I’m so glad your precious embryos got that special time with you, even if it didn’t end up how we’d all have hoped. Continuing to pray you all through this journey, each and everyday. Thanks for always being an encouragement even when life truly has those sucky moments. 🌻
I am beyond the baby season of life and into retirement with my husband. I have folllowed you since just after you adopted Callie. Still, I listened to this video out of curiosity. So very sorry that the embryos didn't stick. Your message still blessed my heart. We all go thru things in our lives that lay us out flat with grief, concern or worry. For me it's my health and my husband's health and the worry of money. I know that God sees us and our struggles and I try to remember that. Thank you for helping me to remember that God is always there for us and we don't know how God will answer a prayer. Thank you for the song idea. I had not heard it before. It is beautiful and one that I will listen to regularly. Much love and prayers.
Too many thoughts and heavy feelings swirling around my mind right now after watching this so am just going to leave this 🌻 here. Thank you for everything. ❤
I'm at a loss for words. Watching you in this video, I saw your light shining through all the mourning and grief over the loss of your last 3 embryos last November. Truly, Alex, you have such a talent from God to help others through their journeys, even when it is fresh and painful for you. You are a mighty prayer warrior and a Barnabas of encouragement; thank you for opening your heart and emotions to us. How acutely sensitive to have tried those embryos, honoring God in all you do. I keep all of you in daily prayer and your words of "Be still, wait and have FAITH" rang in my heart. Thanks for bolstering me up today!! God gave me the love of colors, which is such a blessing. Love you!! 🌟💫☀⭐🌠
I’ve had my own infertility journey, I’ve been watching you guys for a very long time. You have always inspired me, even in the struggles. Thank you for always sharing your hearts with us. 🦋🌺💛
Alex, your light is shining so bright!!! Your love and joy, as well as heartache and sadness for others is so genuine and palpable. Your ending message of you being so happy for others joy, and you being with them during their hard times brought tears to my eyes. THAT is what being a follower of Jesus is all about. Keep shining your light ❤
Oh my lovely Alex, I know your momma heart! That feeling like someone is out there waiting is a hard hard feeling! You are such a wonderful woman of God! Bless you and Phillip for giving those little life's a chance!
Your videos hadn’t popped up in a long, long time, and actually it was a Twitter notification that had me pop on over to this video. I missed a lot of happenings! First of all, I’m so sorry about losing your little boy. Second, I’m so glad you gave all your embryos a chance at life. God could have chosen to perform a miracle but He didn’t. He took them straight to heaven again instead. You speak so beautifully about how you feel about them, and always have. And just as a mom who like me who doesn’t really want to stop having babies and technically could have had many more, you and I can can just gentle and slowly turn our attention to those coming behind us going through the struggles of parenthood. I can’t speak to infertility. But I’m 41 now, and I’m 20 yrs into being a mom and yes, I guess I get to be the mentor now. It’s quite intimidating bc I feel like I’ve got some huge shoes to fill. And I honestly don’t want to. Im comfortable just learning from my mentors and staying in the “having babies” stage. But I’m solidly in the “growing them up” phase and even now the “they are leaving home” stage. So I have to gently release and place it in Jesus waiting hands. It does NOT have to be a fast or abrupt process. You don’t have to surrender having little ones around just because the preacher says you have to give something up that particular day. God’s not like that. He knows your heart. He will be gentle. Just watch and see. I know you. You’ve already been growing into your purpose. Just in watching this video after not watching you for the past year I can see huge growth, and grief. You’ve matured a lot. I’m sorry it had to be because of your sadness. You’ve done a great thing. 2022 was a hard year for me as well. 2023 is the beginning of something different. Just keep your eyes wide open with the expectation of God’s (other kinds of) blessings placed into your open hands. God bless you, sweetheart, for sharing this incredible, beautiful IVF journey with a world audience, from start to finish. I’ll be praying for you as you transition to the next thing. Wait upon the Lord. Just wait.
Melinda Johnson...Your message to her really touched me. I wrote down just keep your eyes wide open with the expectation of God's blessings placed into your open hands. That is beautiful. God bless you! Spirit lead me....
@@dianebay6879 I’m glad it did. It’s something that my father in law has said in many of his sermons and in our family time. And it’s something I am still learning as I am a planner and doer and don’t leave enough “white space” in my life for God to reveal himself. Just got to stop, stand still, and instead listen to God’s whispering
I will be 38 this year and my husband will be 50. We have no children. Neither of us have ever felt even a sliver of comfort with fertility interventions other than lifestyle and prayer. I am in the emotional process of unpacking the idea of having no one to pass anything onto. No family stories or heirlooms. No one to care or be with me when I'm old. This has forced me into a deeper space of trust and surrender with the Father. Knowing that He already has those pieces worked out. I think all humans dislike not knowing things; the uncertainty. Yet, in Christ, there is this odd sense of rest in that place. I'm glad He is in charge and not me. Hugs. I think your choice was courageous and beautifully displayed the sanctity of life.
💐 Thank you for being so open and transparent with yourself and your journey. Sending love to you, Phillip, and the girls! Praying for a 2023 filled with health, joy, peace, and bountiful blessings for all of you! Love from Minnesota.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I am so sorry the babies did not stay with you. But you have done incredible things giving them a chance. You have so beautiful souls... I wish another child is coming to your lovely family, he/she will be cherished and loved as much as even possible.
I lost one on my lifelong closest friends to brain cancer on New Years Eve. She was only diagnosed with Glioblastoma 12 weeks before she passed. My friend has four beautiful daughters that she has left behind. She lost a baby last year and it was the hardest thing she said she had ever been through. I am so sad and I have felt so hopeless and it feels like the world is incredibly unfair right now. I am still so thankful for my beautiful friends life, for all of her children who I am committed to being there for and supporting and loving for the rest of my life. I am so thankful that my sweet Angel is now with her Angel Baby in heaven and with our creator. Life is still such a blessing and we have so much to be grateful for 💜
It’s incredibly brave to implant embryos that have medical needs. Idk many people going through this kind of journey and I think you soujourned it for so many others coming after you. My baby had Down syndrome and passed away at 20 wks and your willingness to attempt something like that together touched my heart. Thank you so much from another mother with a child with special needs.
You and Phillip are the strongest two people I have ever known. I feel very blessed to have found your channel and get to watch those beautiful girls grow. Keep your heads held high, I feel there is a baby boy in your future. Much love and prayers for you and your family! 🌞🌈
Heather, what you said was perfect! Right on point, Thank you! I second that a million times! I love everything about your channel! You and Philip are awesome, amazing, strong, encouraging, beautiful family that I hope that Lord blesses you with a baby boy! God bless you guys and your family 🌻🙌
THANK YOU for giving those precious little babies, miracles, a chance at life. 💛💛💛 The scene of you after the transfer... Tears. What you said about your babies... So perfect and so beautiful. 💗 God bless you and your family, and prayers for another baby soon.
Oh gosh it’s so hard when making decisions for remaining frozen embryos that are mosaic or abnormal. We keep paying the fee to keep them stored while we raise our children and give time for prayers to be answered. Totally felt you there. Let us know what your plan moving forward is. ❤
I needed this so much! Pretty sure I'm starting perimenopause and my baby making days are over. I've been so sad about it, but your video has really helped to see things from a different perspective. It's not over, it's just beginning! A new beginning! Thank you!
Your family and your words are such a joy. I’ve been watching since the wee days of my infertility journey. I’ve laughed, cried, and celebrated through the screen with you. I can’t wait to see what this year brings us all. “Wait on you” by elevation worship and maverick city came to me in the neediest of moments. Music is SO powerful. Xoxo!
Alex, you are so amazing and such an inspiration! I'm currently holding my 4 week old ivf miracle baby, and as I was watching your transfer, I cried! Just because our arms aren't empty doesn't mean the pain isn't still there. I will continue to pray for you and your family! God bless you 🙏 ❤️ 🫂
I’ve been following your journey since your pregnancy with Cassidy. I don’t struggle with infertility. You just popped up. So i watched and fell in love. So, though your message at the end with the garden didn’t mean anything to me fertility wise, it meant something to me mental health wise. Because my depression has been rough over the last month or so. I needed that. And i will listen to the song on my way to work tomorrow ❤
I feel the same hahaha Also not yet at the stage of trying to conceive so not sure on my status but I love their family dynamic and how they raise their girls it’s so heartbreaking sweet and you really do see the love
@@HeartFallenstar same. I have one son but unfortunately the birth control i was on after having him causes infertility for many women along with other issues. So that lays in the back of my mind a lot of “will i struggle to try again?” So whether or not this is still good info to know. And yes their family is so wholesome and so welcoming ❤️
I struggle with a lot of unhealthy emotionally immature parents who only think they are always right in every situation so I came across them by chance and stuck around cause their home life ks something I know I wasn’t given, but my children will.
So, I listened to the song. And, it was beautiful. And Jesus healed something inside me through it. Thank you so much! I know we never may meet but you and your journey has profoundly impacted my life. Thank you for being such a beautiful picture of what it looks like to walk with Jesus.
God bless you for your honesty and your willingness to share. Especially when you know some will roast you, toast you and spit you out. Sharing about infertility is truly a ministry to others. One no one wants to be knowledgeable in (have fertility issues), but a ministry nonetheless.
God bless you and Phil. Have been with you since Callie was a little baby. My daughter did infertility and went through 3 transfer and we now have my amazing grandson who just turned 16. So understand some. What you and Phil have shared, your love and faith and sharing I know many have been comforted and encouraged by your being willing to share. ❤❤ ❤
I can relate to infertility pain. As a kid I had a story of moving to Hawaii and having 17 kids. Now I cannot tell you why Hawaii, still haven't been...lol... My life landed me in Georgia and I am the most proudest mommy of 1! God gave her to me through adoption. My body couldn't do what I envisioned, but God filled my heart with love when we needed it the most! I want to thank you and all these mamas for sharing their stories. We are a community!
I admire you for giving your embryos a chance and loving them whether or not they stuck. God bless you both and your family and I hope God blesses you with a baby if it’s His will. Praying for you!❤
I remember the Adoption of Kinsley, this makes me so emotional. The ethics of family vlogging has become so blurry to me- but I love how you guys do it and I respect you and your family so much ❤️
🙌🏻 Thankful to you and your family for being so open and sharing something so vulnerable. I immediately listened to the song and I too sobbed. Trying to give control over to God you think would be easy since it was never ours to begin with, but it’s not and is something I’m working at everyday. Thank you for the encouragement. ❤
You've given your embryos a chance to survive. They went in peace. I've often wondered what I would do in a situation where I had frozen embryos but felt my family was complete. I couldn't just have them destroyed, but I don't think I could donate them. I could only have 1 child, and she completed my life. I'm so grateful to have her.
🐈🐈I cant imagine the thought process you and your family has gone through in the past few weeks. I love that you have a peaceful spirit about it while talking with us.
My IVF baby just turned 3. You are so right that you can't judge someone's journey until you are on it. You made such a difficult decision to give those embryos a chance, knowing you were also letting them go. I had a very big cry the day we decided to let our remaining embryos go. I hope you are at peace and I look forward to what happens with your family going forward.
Im so sorry Phil and Alex. The grief is beyond words. My sweet mum will be going home to Jesus one day soon. I'm both happy for her and heartbroken too. Cant keep the tears from falling. I love all of you too. May God Bless each and every one of you. 💖💔
When I got pregnant with my first, we found a very rare genetic mutation that was compatible with life most of the time, but isn’t super known of, and I was given the option to terminate. I couldn’t believe it. I now have a funny, sweet, amazing 5 year old boy. He is in a wheelchair and has a feeding tube, but he goes to school and loves cars and is so smart. It makes my heart happy that you gave those sweet babies a chance. ❤
We recently lost our little IVF miracle when he was 8days old 💔 no embryos left and so wrle are really in the thick of it right now, thank you for sharing, you’ve always been a faithful inspiration to me 😢❤ 💐
Oh my goodness, I had no idea you guys transferred again. I got pregnant with my November transfer through embryo adoption 🥰 thank you so much for all the encouraging words you’ve shared through all my years of infertility! Prayers and hugs!!
Please understand that you are making a difference with sharing your story and giving others hope. I started watching you guys when you were posting videos about Callies adoption and I was a teenager just Watching because your family was so heart warming. I had no idea that when I got married me and my husband would face reoccurring loss and struggle to have children. Watching you guys has been an encouragement to all the things I've went through in my life, but especially now ❤️ if you guys ever feel your "encouragement of the day" didn't help anyone you can atleast know, they've helped me, through this journey Watching your older videos and seeing you cry the same tears I cry through loss and trying to conceive and then seeing you having what you have today (even though Gods not done with the story) brings me such encouragement and hope.
Transferring your embryos was a beautiful decision. I have followed a journey for a long time. As a bystander I understand these vlogs are just a glimpse into your life. Go forth and find your son, he is waiting for you. I have been married for 30 years, we have experienced infertility and adoption. We have three children, two of which have complex needs. Each was given by God and we currently have the honour of guiding our twenty four year old son through his final journey due to a life limiting heart condition that is going into its end stages. It is time to trust. ‘Be still and know that I am God’. 💜🤗🌟
I was having some negative thoughts going into this next IVF cycle after our last in October resulted in an early loss. Yesterday, I just felt such a peace and a voice telling me that our baby is coming. While I don’t know if that’s in this upcoming cycle, I know they will be here. Hoping 2023 will be your and our year of welcoming a miracle 🤍 thank you for sharing your playlists! ☀️
What a wise decision to transfer those 3 embies! Many times I felt at the end of a rope! 8 years of infertility… multiple retrievals, transfers, failures, testing, immune issues… last October we’ve received our beautiful baby boy without any Ivf treatment! Such a blessing! God is at work 🫶
❤️❤️ you're doing the right thing. I understand that after you have had Cassidy it gives hope for you. Everything in God's hands. Even though I haven't personally experienced infertility your story touched me. Given to Jesus.
I am happy you got to spend even just a week with your 3 beautiful babies! They felt your warmth, your heart beat. They shared your body with you and felt loved. I’m sorry your babies are not here with us today. In your arms or growing and thriving here. I know they are watching waiting to meet you again and feel the warmth of your body as you give a hug. Thank you for sharing this story with us and I hope, I pray that God has a boy in your future some how, some way.
I’m so blessed we got to meet, pray together and hug each other ♥️ we were pregnant at the same time. My sweet boy (after 17 years of infertility) and Cassidy were belly friends 😊 miss y’all so much xoxoxo
