What Happened When I Started Communicating for TRUST and NOT LIKABILITY 

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I love this. Build relationships! Amen! It is people first. The team isn't a group of widgets...it is a group of humans who have a story, dreams, and feelings who want to be heard, understood, encouraged & supported. ❤

This video hits home. I’m dealing with this now. I tried the kill em with kindness method too. I finally approached her to talk and she called me everything but a child of God. It’s horrible especially when you didn’t do anything to the person.

Am becoming a better manager every day. Thank you Andrews

Intelligent in a great leader. Thanks for these

Thank you for your insight and hard work!

Omg, you are the BEST! I've watched 3 of your videos now and I feel we share a kindred spirit, therefore all of your advice rings true with my personality and my specific situation. Thank you. =)

I needed this before the write-up i got yesterday! Ugh! Similar to what you described, I came into a weird dynamic that left me without the guidance and support to manage effectively. I know I'm stronger, smarter and better than what happened yesterday and I don't want it to define me. I'm still smarting from it, but I am determined to to learn and move past it. Plan to watch and learn more here

It was today that I was lead to your videos for new managers/leaders. Very helpful and will be following you going forward. Such sound information to learn from

Great advice! This is so helpful thank you very much.

I can’t help but feel racism played a role in this, like they didn’t think you deserved the role because they didn’t think a Black woman could have that job or that they should report to a Black woman. I’m really curious if that was the real issue. But thank you for sharing this! I’m glad you made it through and that it only ended with them leaving. They should have been fired for traumatizing you by yelling outside your office but often Black women aren’t supported enough to be protected from that kind of trauma in the workplace.

Amazing Mak, thank you so much!!!!!

Wow, I can really relate to your experience.

Really loved this video! So insightful

Hey, Mak! This is such an awesome and open conversation! One thing I’d add is for managers to remember that team dynamics change over the years. I am entering year 6 in my current manager role, and I have a few new leaders on the team as people have made career shifts. So yes, it’s like starting over in a way, and it does require you to remember what it’s like for them as new leaders to be just starting out or meeting new team members. But also, when that lack of confidence creeps in, I can recognize more easily that I need to change up or step up my approach. We got this! 🎉

I love this! So important and human.

Very insightful, empowering and informative 👏🏽👏🏽💫💯!! 💐Thank you💐

Never could I relate to something more! Your candid story was lovely, definitely been in a position where being accommodating eventually lead to feeling super unsure of myself and harmed my decision making skills :( was like I had to "check" with others before I could trust myself. Powerful lesson in stepping into the responsibility I had for my team and to myself, to build those relationships and gain advocacy.

Did you know the secret of the ten commandments is not just a list of random demands put on us but a lesson on relationship and leadership skills ? Think about them in half first half is personal relationship with God building a trustworthy character the second half is establishing relationship in others wether spouse neighbors family members or employment / career not just in the church but in the world there's no better leadership consultant then God

what if your team member is toxic and your supervisor uphold the toxic behavior

Great advice! Thank you. Observation: I notice when team members are raised together it creates toxic competitiveness.

Great content ❤

Great video!

Mak you are amazing. I am starting my new assistant role and your videos are so helpful.

I’ve never made a comment on you tube but I ❤ you! Keep being you!

Thank you for sharing your experience and that was very relatable.

Helpful framing. Thank you.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Thanks for sharing

I’m not a manager but this was still very helpful:)

I’m so glad I left corporate for a stable job. I can only deal with this if we are all on the same page. If not it’s not worth the effort.

Thank you ❤

Your videos helping me so much 🎉 thank you

6:28 I think I get your point. Men learn this quickly (or at least I did) in tribal/aggressive settings. Being nice to people is avoiding the real problem and is also demeaning. I used to think "stfu and lead" with certain leaders. Show competence and they will trust you.

I am the unofficial supervisor and I am between a rock and a hard place

Wow. What an amazingly bright set. Love it! And as always, great content.

I’m a year in and feeling what you described

Idk sign language but that looks ab right. 😂 Not bad vid tho. I’ll definitely try to apply this in my new role as maintenance/tooling manager.

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im really struggling with my team. my second in command picks and choses when she supports me and when she doesnt. She disagrees with me one minute and agrees at other times. she is bitter becuase i got the role and she didnt. I dont know what to do. I really like the job but i dont know if i can work under these conditions anymore

Good

Your story actually mirrors mine very well. I got promoted by God's grace into management position. And one particular team member had been there for years and she wasn't offered but I was. It caused a very tumultuous relationship between us. We've clashed a bit but it blew over. This has only been some months. But idk if it would be a wise decision to ask her honestly. But I know she's jealous and hurt and frustrated that she didn't get the position. Would asking her this question be wise? Knowing that she is because the snide comments and remarks. Deep down I know she is bothered that I got the position. But idk how to handle this with her. I did just what you did overly compensate and wanting to be liked but I know she's bothered but won't outright admit she is. I've even shared with her once I'm uncomfortable with working with her because of the issue but she blew up and so I let it be. We're okay now but still she makes snide comments and what she would do as a leader. What can I do in this matter Mak? I want my team to be strong but how do I do this? I've been in management since March and struggling to be firm and such. If I asked her this question I know she will get defensive that's why I say would this be helpful? When I asked her before she said she would never take a management position at this job which I know she's being dishonest about.

Where did you get the help from to even know what to do

Did the dynamics improve because the toxic ones quit?

You must never trust or talked about your life that cause so much drama. Just go in clock in and out for the day . Too much toxic and hater drama 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😡😡😡

Thank you

It’s so hard team building when they are all already clique’d up… and you come in and just can’t break the ice… 🧊 lmao shout out Big 5 Capo Beach. 😅 why did you hate me 😢😂