For sure. Attachment and dwelling on shit you can't change only leads to misery. Letting go of all the anxieties and self doubt is a tough process, but it's the ultimate freedom when reached.
Deep respect for this woman. She laughed in the devil's face. Not once but her entire life. And now she has company. Love a story of redemption. This is one of them
@K Korona "the kind of person who gets angry at people for no reason." Oh the cruel irony of that statement. You are a seriously demented fuck. I cannot even begin to explain it to you, because you're a special kind of stupid. It would be a waste of my time to do so.
Mr Rogan, I have watched probably 90% of all of your episodes. This woman is by far in my top 3 guest of all time. She had me crying and laughing in the same breath. Thank you for your diversity of guest and thank you for sharing this womans life and her story. The size of your heart and the amount of compassion and empathy you possess, is inspirational and admirable!
This podcast really has to be commended for the variety of guests. Scientists. Philosophers. Commedians. Journalists. Psychologists. List goes on. To top it off they should bring a random person from the street.
I needed this. She is so right on. Asking an abusive person for an apology or closure is like watering a dead plant. You are never going to get what you want or expect. That thing is never going to flower. Forgiveness is throwing that dead plant away and moving on with your nourishing water.
I would like to think that f it happened to me, I would plan the most beautiful revenge of all time. Like go off grid and dedicate my life to destroying theirs for like at least a solid year or so
@Pine Trees you can forgive without forgetting. You can accept their apology when they come back. You dont have to be mad at the person who hurt you. But you dont need to give them another opportunity to hurt you again
She's not just one of the funniest people, but also one of the most admirable, humble, and authentic. This episode is HILARIOUS and I was in tears at the end. Love this lady.
That’s crazy, I hope she has infinite peace from this day forward. Man Joe has a gift to genuinely communicate with and bond with the most diverse groups of people and personalities that I’ve ever seen. And it’s never forced.
Brandon In Progress not that deep, he just lets the person talk, listens for basic understanding and asks good questions to give them more to talk about
"I can't change the past, but let's laugh today" - Ms .Pat's I haven't heard any better words then those of Ms.pats , in a loooooong time! A true modern hero ladies and gentlemen.
@@Calilou52 Exactly. No idea why people have to virtue signal and act as if the world just ignores black comedians and they're here to call it out and save the blacks. Fucking cringe! My two favorite comedians of all time are Patrice O'Neal and George Carlin, may they rest in peace. My two favorite living ones are Dave Chappelle and Ricky Gervais. For my top ten I would probably add Charlie Murphy (RIP), Tracy Morgan, Mo'Nique, Bernie Mac (RIP), Patton Oswalt and Bill Burr. 6 out of my top 10 are black.
So many people just go through too much in life. Many black women go through so much from the time they’re little girls and once they start puberty (which usually happens early) they are rarely seen as a little girls anymore. Abusers come out of woodworks. First-hand experience. Happy Ms. Pat was able to overcome and love in spite of what happened to her.
@@richardwise7813 these kind of things usually happens in poor neighbourhoods, and statistically if you are black you are most likely to be from a poor neighbourhood, in her story, she got molested because she was poor. and she was raped by a black dude obviouly because she lived in a black neighbourhood. i feel like you were tryna make what you thought was a point but its just obvious shit. racism isnt always a white person doing something to a black person, the real world is more complicated that that. the poverty she faced because of which he had to go through that shit was the result of a long history of racism in america.
She has been through SO much and she’s still upright and functioning, that is some serious mental strength. And she can laugh about it all, that’s amazing.
This is the most positive comment section I have read, that gives me hope that we can have people tell there stories and nobody is tearing her down like they do for other people. It really speaks to her character. She really gives me hope.
Ms. Pat is such a change from Joe's regular guests. She is so raw and real and I love it. I feel like she is someone who is just so healthy to hear speak and she's hilarious. You can tell Joe was not faking any laughs. His stomach must hurt this morning from laughing too much. God Bless Ms. Pat
I love listening to everything this gorgeous woman says! What a real down to earth voice of reason and looking at life in the cold hard light of day. What a powerful presence you have Ms Pat. You’re amazing.
"What her views are"??!! Can't you just be inspired by that one story w/o having to know what she thinks about the Wall at the border or Transgender bathrooms at Target?!
Joe and Pat are great together. The way they laugh, talk and exchange is fantastic. The chemistry they have Is superb. This is real stuff, she laughs though it. God bless you Ms Pat.
ms pat is such a well rounded person who has had the burden of seeing all insights of life but so still can spread such positivity and teach others. one of the top guests in my opinion.
I'm teary eyed...sounds like she's been through sooo much. What a powerful woman! Ms Pat, you just melted my heart when you said you were put on this earth because you could handle it and to tell others it was okay . You are a beautiful person!!
I never heard of this lady before, but she’s a genius. She can make you laugh till your sides split and tell you stories that will captivate everyone’s attention. She needs her own show.
I’ve never heard of this amazing woman before but now I can’t stop watching any videos with her in it! What an AMAZING and INSPIRATIONAL human being she is ❤️
That's it, my kids will be enrolled in martial arts/self-defense classes to defend themselves from the daryl's of the world. They might be tiny but they can break a nose or a jaw, bust an ear drum etc etc. Mandatory martial arts/ self-defense up until college. I'm not takin' chances.
Yes, makes sure it's some form of MMA tho, karate ain't good for practical self defense. Also, consider that a lot of high schools have wrestling programs, so there's some additional grappling skills for free
Ms Pat I went through some of the same thing, my life was very 50/50, you know it's going to happen but when and how bad this time, you know that 'loved ones' know but they don't protect you. How can a child defend themselves against an adult..I will never forgive my Mother and the others, I've missed funerals of the guilty and I'll miss hers too, she's still with him and sold me out for less than 30 pieces of silver. Ive heard people speak ill of children that dont have a relationship with their parents but would they feel the same. Very judgemental. You are a very brave philosophical lady. Best of luck😊
You can have problems even if people have it worse. People always have it worse, there’s people who have it worse than Ms. Pat did. I say this; someone may have broken 10 bones and you’ve only broken 1, they have it worse yes, but your broken arm still hurts.
Her story is so similar to mine...I'm just now getting to the point in my life where I can simply say, "F them!" We know what was done to us and those who took advantage will pay in the end. Her mother's husband may think he got the last word by burying himself next to her mother...but I know he isn't "resting in peace". Keep letting your light shine Ms. Pat ❤❤❤
I have wanted my abusive father to apologize to me and my family, but this talk put me straight. He won’t do it, and I really need to forgive him - which I thought I did but never really did. Thanks for posting this.
I went from being so extraordinary to being depressed and fearful/shy thanks to an experience with an ex, her family and her friends, I was talking to everyone about it and nothing helped me as much as Mrs. Pat posture on that 💗 I am so grateful I found this, they never apologize for doing to me such things, so I forgive them 💗 thank you Mrs. Pat 💗
This got to me on so many levels! I been through the same thing but with cousins. It was hard especially with people blaming me but I got through this. And now I protect my kids like crazy as much as I can.
Just ran across this interview today. And what an important message. Her best retribution to those who defiled and abused her, is being exactly who she is! Mrs. Pat, you are for sure here for a wonderful purpose. Your light is so bright. Not one person would be able to dim that. This lesson helped heal a bit of the pain in my heart today. Thanks for the laughs, the vulnerability, and the inspiration. ❤️☮️
So glad she figured it out. I keep trying to tell others forgiveness is for you. The more you refuse to forgive someone the more that person wins. You don't even have to tell them. Just do it for yourself.
Mrs. Pat! Your story is helping many people who have experienced being abused. You remind people that there is such thing as coming out on top when others let you down. It is important we are reminded that we are survivors we are strong and we are not to carry around shame. An abuser wants victims down in themselves because it helps them continue destroying others. I love your message of thriving despite being through life experiences that most couldn’t handle. May we all remember that we do not ever have to repeat the situation we experienced. May we help each other and encourage us all to be better people. Do not allow our souls to be overtaken by the evils of others! We thrive💕
It's true. My grandmother told me this how for years she frustrated over what a controlling horrible person my great grandmother was to her. But then one day she decided to just forgive her and moved on, she said it made things better to just let all that baggage go, even tough her mother didn't perhaps deserve forgiveness my grandmother needed the peace of mind. So what was said in the video really is true.
I honestly wasn’t sure whether to laugh or cry when I watched this...even when she smiles about it, you can see it’s a pained smile. But her story is truly one of inspiration❤️
I was molested @ 8 years old for a couple years... never got pregnant tho...i blamed my family too because he was a drunk and harassed all of us and my family didn't do anything about it... she's a very strong woman, i appreciate this episode. Made me feel alil better about forgiveness
This is a powerful woman. The worst things in the world happen to you, but u grow and become stronger and learn. I wouldn't wish anything she's been through on anyone. But if it's happened and u stayed sane and follow that path to better yourself instead of self pity and blame, you can be a powerful person too.
Ms. Pat is a real strong woman. I don't know where she got that strength from. Compared to her, I handled my situations pretty terrible, as a kid, teen, and as an adult currently. I'm going Muay Thai and BJJ classes, and I still feel like a weak bitch. Ms. Pat is definitely a rare, special person. She looks like she got her formulas down to the fundamental core. I hope she stays that strong in the future.
She is a testament of the strength of a real woman. For a child to feel so trapped and traumatized with an abuser is one of the strongest things I’ve ever heard. A LOT of people overuse the word brave but Ms. Pat it. What’s even better is she’d probably slap the shit outta you if you called her brave.
