What Happens When Parents Dont Take Care of Their Kids? | Part One | Origin 

she is 18, why couldn't they take mother with child into "care"? Teach her how to parent rather than psychologically and emotionally break the mother/child bond.

Poor, poor Emily, run dear, run. Focus on your daughter and getting sober,

I wouldn't leave Mathew with a stuffed toy let alone a baby

Matthew is the reason that Emily doesn't have her daughter and you can tell. She acts just like my mum when we were in a dv situation. She needs to leave him or she'll never get her baby

Why aren't they trying to get matthew away from emily?? She's clearly in danger, not just the baby.

Matthew thinking they're taking kids away because other people can have them when they're unable to get kids is just a whole new level of stupidity and lack of accountability.

The arrogance of some of these fathers disgusts me. I would never choose my partner over my child.

17:06 He’s delusional, disturbed, controlling, abusive, degrading, and out of control. No child or person is safe in any environment he is a part of. The mother needs counseling to realize that his behavior is controlling and abusive. If she wants to keep her child, he needs to be out of the picture. He’s a ticking time bomb that continuously shows that he is not able to control his behavior. Over a cereal bowl…. That’s replaceable.

WHY ISN’T ANYONE CONCERNED WITH GETTING EMILY AWAY FROM HIM???? The baby isn’t the only one in danger here!!

No question that Emily was abused growing up.

The couple so chilled when they've had their new born taken away. I'd be crying my eyes out and doing everything to keep my kids.

It’s rather a pity that both Emily and her baby can’t be fostered together, maybe for a few years… I know that is a bit strange to say but having been in a situation not completely different from this, it’s what I secretly wished for.

Matthew can’t even behave himself for 10 minutes in a meeting without swearing and being physically and verbally aggressive. He needs to be controlled. His behaviour is atrocious! I wonder if he would be different with men, he is just as bad.

Emily broke my heart. For her to know in her heart, adoption is best for the emotional stability and development of her child - God bless her. That Is a good mother. I hope her life has become better and that piece of works out the picture. What a sad situation.

Matthew's absolute refusal to accept accountability for his actions and CONSTANTLY blaming others and inability to recognize/choose socially acceptable behavior is GROSS and DANGEROUS.

I think they need to remove this guy all together it's clear that he's controlling of her and she is intimidated by bim

These people should not have children. Living in social housing most likely on benefits, blaming everybody else, no sense of responsibility, no accountability for their actions and behavior, not even talking about taking care of someone 24/7. They cannot take care of themselves. So many cases of abused kids - these adults were most likely growing up in abusive households themselves. It’s never ending circle. Very sad.

I can't imagine staying with a man at the cost of my child. These poor girls are just so broken and weak. Makes me wonder what life was like for them growing up.

Men like Matthew will never change. They do not see their behaviour as wrong.

Wow For Emily to be that selfless to not contest the decision for the best interest of her baby speaks volumes to the love she has for that baby. She just unfortunately can’t provide a safe environment for her. I’m shocked someone her age would make that decision when there are parents older than her who drag out a case for years despite how horrible that is for a child, knowing they aren’t fit. A parent, like Emily, putting the best interest of the child first is so refreshing to see in the child services world. I hope she’s doing well today and the baby girl is happy and thriving.

Um....how OLD is Matthew? He looks way too old to be with that girl. And given how wild he has been with the case workers, I'd be scared for her life

I don't know how old this video is,but I hope Emily ran from Matthew and never looked back. He sees no problem with anything he does, thinks every one else is the problem.... probably this isn't the first woman he was (at least) mentally abusing, and probably has other children out there he isn't allowed to see.

As someone who was a very young mom the situation with Emily breaks my heart because she is such a good mom and I really hope she gets away from him

He can't see what a bully he is. He's so focussed on how he feels and his story. He has no idea the impact he has on others. He's too immature and set in his ways to ever change. RUN EMILY!

My goodness that independent reviewer was simply wonderful. She is SO right that a child will be deeply affected by the small words and actions the bio mom went through, even if they are not reunited.

It's so good to see people cover a topic that is usually taboo in our culture. Thanks!

OMG. To see Emily sitting next to her man, beaten, slumped over, looking down. She desperately needs to get away from him

As a former foster child and dv survivor I choose my child. I wish my mother would have chosen us. You can be the change

I wish Emily could have someone, besides a social worker, to be a parent to HER to help her break free from Matthew, I think she has the potential to be a good mom. If he cant even keep it together in front of the very people who make the decisions about whether they have their child or not, then he surely can’t keep it together at home.

This is one of the more depressing things I have ever watched.

Bro's more concerned about his daughter's bowl being smashed than he is his own daughter.

Ray is right. Demanding getting specific help that vulnerable people cant access is cruel. Emily needs access to care and so does Nicola.

The mom that didnt show to say goodbye to her baby broke my heart. That poor little boy. And emily needs to get far away from mathew. She needs a family herself it seems.

I feel so sorry for Emily and her daughter. Emily is a battered woman stuck in an abusive relationship. She needs saving also.

Matthew is an abuser. He doesn't need to have his kids back, but Emily definitely would have a shot if she would leave him. She needs to flee. He's probably hitting her

The UK is much stricter and on top of things than the US. Our government has sold out families to billion dollar corporations instead of running public welfare themselves. These private "contractors" prioritize their earning (which is a forgone conclusion as they are private BUSINESSES) and child abuse is ignored. The government representatives who decide to contract out public welfare jobs are really siphoning billions in taxpayer money to their wealthy donors, who then turn around and donate millions to their campaigns. Same thing with privately run prisons, privately run healthcare, etc. Capitalism.

Matthew needs to shut his mouth & open his ears. He refuses to listen. Thinks he's done nothing wrong. I understand he's angry, but acting like a ignorant ass isn't going to get his child back!!!!! RUN EMILY!!

40 with an 18 yr old yeah 😅

42:56 that's a sick smile. He's relieved... Not sad.

How can Emily chose him over her sweet little baby?

the age gap between Emily and Matthew is fucken scary.

Why are they keeping Emily away from her baby? She's not abusive. She IS abused. They need to put a restraining order on him and keep him away from Emily and her baby.

These poor little babies - they didn’t choose to be born into this 😢

I hope that Emily left Matthew!

God bless Emily, "What"s IQ got to do with it?" Also Emily "I don't understand why he does this." MISS MAAM 😭😭😭

I've known a few mothers who have had their children removed because of their partners. I understand wanting to stand by your man, but when it comes to your child, you need to always put them before a relationship. If you aren't with that person, you take away the reason for your child to be removed. Do what you need to do to keep your child in your care. You will both be better for it.

Wouldn't matter how much i loved my partner if i had to choose between them or my child i would choose my child every time

I feel horrible for Emily. She seems like she'd be a just fine mom and even the social workers agree that she'd be a good mom, but its her abusive boyfriend that is ruining everything. No doubt he's abusive toward Emily all the time. She needs to get away from him. I wish someone would help her with that so she could be free and get her baby girl back. Leaving domestic violence, especially at such a young age and with no resources, can be really hard. Emily needs help.

How is it possible to send 3000 texts?! That’s a truly insane person

Im a mom. I was in an abusive relationship with my childs DNA donor. I ran with my child when she was a couples old. Had to wait until he was inebriated enough until i could pack up and leave. My child is my life. My ex is now a revolving door in prison. I would'nt change my past. But im raising my child to be brave and not to take anything from a partner never. I will always have my childs back. This poor girl (emily) needed help she was stuck in a cycle and thought that Mathew was love when he definitely wasnt. I hope she got away

Reunification is absolutely key for a family. The parents that were drinking and stopped after their 4 boys were taken away never had any chance to do the 24 mths therapy and get custody of their baby before she was adopted. Yes best interest of the child is usually to stay with birth parents this system in the UK seems hugely biased and cruel. Give a mother or father sterility surgery instead of taking newborns…

I been there and done that many many years ago and just follow the rules and do what you are told, don't argue just do your job and proof you can do it!! Don't give up and stay focus for your child and don't blow it!!!

It is shocking how fast children are placed for adoption. Doesn’t feel right.

Emily is a child herself, why aren’t they stepping up to help her. Her relationship is probably normal to her bc of how she was raised. She needs helps herself. Her and her baby need a home together where people can teacher her what love is and how she should be treated. This is like the children here in the US who age out of the foster care system with no family and end up in some of the worst situations bc they have no one. They end up with an abusive man who controls them and they don’t know any different. It’s heart breaking.

my mother beat me and starved me, i called police, they called social workers, they literally went ''okay she has a room, a bed, clothes and fridge has food'' and left me there, in the end i was raped and had to endure being choked the lights out by mothers husband(stepdad) and nothing was done, she denied it happening, he denied and i was made into lying kid who was ''spoiled and clearly had it too good in life'' when i asked my mother why she didnt do anything she blammed my aunts relationship status as why allowed him to do it infront of her. I broke down and my finace saw it and he knew that i might punch my mother for saying thats the reason, but i just got into her face and said ''dont you dare blame ppl who werent there'' and walked up to my aunt and asked for her to driive me away from that house. My family didnt know that i wasnt lying since they were told that im lying for attention and they believed them till i kept on saying it more and more and when ran away, now they all believe me and dont want them anywhere near anyone. I wwas left at a rapist who beat me household where i was starved and literally abused by only having a room and fridge with food which i wasnt allowed to touch, my only meal was school lunch. im so happy to see these kids getting taken away right away

This is horrifying. The policy should be immediately offering a mum in a dv situation support to get out with her children. Policy needs to change. She's a victim foremostly. There is a book called "Batterer as parent" which examines this issue and should be used as a bible by social services and family law policy makers case managers etc

The sad thing is you cant guarantee the adoption family will be any better

They should put a protective intervention order in place against Mathew and the baby’s mother that is what worked for me it kept my baby with me but kept me away from the problem and allowed me to care for my baby however for a while I did have to live in a young mom home but still got to keep my baby ❤❤❤and I love my kiddos soooo much I would do anything for them ! There is no MAN or person in this whole world that I would choose over my babies not EVER !

In America, If a kid says, "There's no food at home, or you notice them taking food home. they WILL take your kids away and PAY someone upon arrival to feed that child where as if you make a penny over the food stamp minimum. You won't get it; if you get it, it can take weeks for a card to arrive by mail! I worked at a dollar store, and they would buy nothing except air and junk, but Publix isn't even .3 miles away. One woman who died ONLY used it for sweets. I'm not even being rude but It was sad cause they way she died could have been prevented.

Wow they are real quick on adopting over there huh?

They lost their older children so let's have another one. What? Maybe parenting classes would have helped instead of waiting to see if they do it again. Just because you can have children doesn't mean that you should. Children are a life time not just until they become adults. Hope things go well for these struggling adults.

He is not good fit for the child cus he has bad temper and don't allow him near the child and he seems to be crazy and mentally

bruh whats matthews problem he needs to be in jail fr

Matthew is UNHINGED. 16:45

From one social worker to another, thank you!

Any woman chosing a man over their child has proven to be an unfit mother.

100 000 kids placed per year!! There must be a problem somewhere…

Trust me now that I’m older and have grown the frick up I now understand okay they don’t want that child baby around abuse and screaming all time they don’t want that baby to be around Matthew or anyone who acts that way around a baby it’s scary for the child it’s not fair seeing their mama be abused or however !!! If MATHEW WOULD JUST SHUT THE HELL UP she would probably get that baby back 😢😢

Wait Mathew looks and acts like he's 25 and Emily's only 18??? Tf that's a 7 year age gap🤨

Emily is a child having a child she needs to get away from him now no one is safe

My heart is with that baby, but also with Emily. You can see it, in his face, he’s a horrible controlling person. I feel for her, I hope she can find a way to give herself the love she needs so she can be with her baby.

My heart when she missed saying goodbye to him

It is so different in France : we do all we can to keep parents and children together by helping the parents. Sometimes children can be removed for a short period and send to a children facility or a foster family. The final goal is to keep the social links between the family and the children the siblings. We all need a family to thrive. The best is to help the family to grow together ! Of course psychiatric and housing is help all states should be able to offer to vulnerable parents to help them become better parents and citizen !

I don't understand why the social workers aren't trying to protect the mother of this baby. She is clearly vulnerable, and he's a toxic piece of scum. He's got serious issues with his personality and his temper. I'm betting he's whacked her a few times, because he appears to have no self control, and that may be one of the reasons they are removing the baby. I mean, he's also incredibly stupid because anyone with any common sense or any sort of impulse control would not act the way he did around social services and speak to them the way he did. He's an out and out liar because what he said contradicted what we saw on the video. He may even be like this because he's got mental health issues, but no matter. Surely they explained to this young girl that being around him is one of the reasons she isn't keeping her baby. I suspect though, she's easily led and would end up back with him at some point. Let us hope that without the baby, she is free to leave him if things get really bad. He seems the sort of person who would seek her out if she did and not give her any peace unfortunately.

I will never comprehend choosing a partner over a child.

"Hopefully" we'll get her back?! That is your child, blood of your blood, flesh of your flesh, your heart, your whole wide world in a tiny little being.

I believe that they should have helped Emily get away from her abusive boyfriend and get a job and be self sufficient and gave her back her daughter. I don't believe these social workers try hard enough to truly help, it's like they are friends and see these other families as better so their just taking babies they know they can and doing nothing to help the ones who can either eventuality take care of their children or never really got the chance to try......I feel so bad for Emily bc she deserved to be a mom and have her daughter back......

And still having more children, why oh why?????

Heartbreaking. Matthew's partner should have left him and brought her baby home to family. I couldn't imagine not having my babies. I hope these individuals as well as the many others going through this situation find themselves with their beautiful children. ❤

These are horrible stories all the way around. I couldn’t imagine losing my baby the day after it was born . The ones who have had every child taken away, even after they made changes , using their past facts of losing older children, it’s against them to the point that if they have any children it would be immediate that they would lose the next baby. Oh my God ! Of course I totally believe in protecting children, are you doing that by babies not being with their parents? Why not have family programs, helping the whole family together? Investing in them as a whole ?? This is so incredibly sad.

If after loosing your 4 children you still decide to be lazy and blame everyone else except yourself than tou don't deserve to care for a little child.

I know it’s hard, but Emily, you need to leave Matthew for the sake of your child.

Why are these parents having more children so soon after losing older ones? They should get their acts together and practice birth control for awhile. There are a lot of parents in the US that shouldn’t have custody of their children.

Wait, thats her partner!!? He looks old enough to be her father..

Im curious what the age gap is between Matthew and Emily, younger girls with troubled backgrounds may be easier to gaslight and abuse. He should be no where near his child. I hope emily left and got custody of her daughter back.

This is traumatizing for children. It’s so inhumane

Holy costanza Matthew is dangerous af. He should NEVER be allowed to be alone with any children. Emily... LEAVE HIM.

Wow in the uk adoption is rather quick in Australia we foster alot longer. My Nana and pop fostered a boy in the uk when my dad was little before they moved to Australia, my dad found him on Facebook and saw him when he went over to the uk

12:55 Calling her names infront of the social services isn't going to help you ever get your baby back. Matthew is a petulant child. He's used swearing and screaming as a way of being in control. Intimidating the staff like he's entitled to the baby when he's the reason they lost the baby. And all over a bowl? Make it make sense.

Nah as the woman I would stay behind and tell them I want out of the relationship with him so I could have my child and he can continue to throw his tantrums else where

“Why can’t you fund OUR psychological therapy! I blame you, I blame the NHS!” Jaysus

I was adopted and my childhood was so viloent i was a cronic run away and homless by age 13 and emancapated by age 16. But im from the US and our CPS is famously horrifing. Point being the whole system is screwrd.

If you’re a parent and you’re so familiar with the system to call it an “EPO” you’ve got bigger problems.

Nichola is high out of her mind. She showed up late and is homeless. I need people to start looking in the mirror. It pisses me off that people claim the government comes after their kids and its them making bad decisions.

"What has IQ got to do with being a good parent? " Oh, GOD 😳

Some people don't deserve kids, have them for the benefit, then open their legs and have another one so they don't have to get off their lazy butts and work, don't care who the daddy is, just to have the benefit. They are evil to mistreat a child when others yearn to be mothers, like me. Life sucks and this makes me damn well angry !😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠

Emily.... Social services nailed this one. You seem like you could make it with your daughter but you're dude is a mess. I have been in several very long-term relationships and I did NOT screen or answer my guys phone. Thats just weird. As soon as he said that.... nope!!

She young mom but no,one said if she left Matthew she might have a chance to be a mother to her daughter 😞 so sad

the look of fear in that poor baby's eyes :(

If CPS has been in your children’s lives you need to get help with your problems before you get your children back