Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by: 1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing. 2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways 3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions. Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
Unconditional love is for dogs. Humans are capable of empathy. That should be the basis for a relationship. Things change. People change. You cannot change them back. Sometimes the only option is "bail", & restart your search. Z
How can I respect her free will ? What if her free will is to be careless in a way that will become a burden for both in the future ? What if her free will is to be careless at home and that's the place where we both live?
*Whether we respect another's free will or not they are absolutely entitled to theirs* and what you can do is lovingly supplement her in areas she is weak so the practical things you aspire to are still met.
