10 Things Every Wife Needs To Do For Her Husband | Paul Friedman 

Thanks Kevin. Its always a good idea to search in the channel. Usually there are male/female versions of a topic.

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This approach is truth about ourselves and our marriages. It will bring joy to those who embrace it 🙏

Most people who take the course (for their gender) began when they thought it was probably too late ... you might want to look into it. themarriagefoundation.org/

I need this I’m at work listening to this I’m ready for this I love my husband

God wants us to enjoy this wonderful gift of marriage and rise to love at every turn in life... we have many offerings on our website themarriagefoundation.org/

I would suggest it may not be too late and yyou should consider taking the course for women, as many who do are past where you are and it still works...maybe your grandfather would suggest it too :)

@@TheMarriageFoundation i actually started the course for women as a desperate attempt to save my marriage but my husband is already decided to leave. We live in the same roof (for now) but separate rooms that's because i don't want to leave even though he was kicking me out with all his might. And he tries so hard to strengthen the walls between us. Sure i did not know how to be married but I still blame myself because i didn't listen to his needs. I didn't let them guide me. I've heard him over and over but didn't make positive moves. Now he's fed up, about to file for divorce and i'm feeling hopeless. It's very dark right now. Thank you Sir for responding. I appreciate your comforting words. May God bless you always!

Think about the momentum that took you to where he wants so much to leave. Now, with the course you are putting on the brakes, which is a start. The process you are using with the SEW and using it to open your heart WILL work. Sometimes we have seen it take a year or more, but the process does work. It is cause and effect. So, keep opening your heart, keep diving into yourself, the soul, keep praying. And, keep on keeping on. There is nothing better you can do.

I'm glad this is helpful!

You are already moving forward

Thank you very much 🙏

I use this format to educate, not as a q & a... for that we have a free service where you can ask a counselor. you will see the option on our website themarriagefoundation.org/

I'm going through the same thing. I have found that confronting him isn't helping me or our marriage. I have photos, text messages, etc. I think there are at least four "girlfriends" over the past 7 years. I have realized that if I don't let this go and try to turn the marriage around through my behavior then I will end up divorced. I'm reading "Lessons for a Happy Marriage" and applying it. It can't hurt. My confrontations are hurting my marriage. I'm not going to get an apology which is what I want.

Agreed

He's saying not to call on husband when they're checking other women, so we should be quite & still be loving? How can you still be loving to a husband that's being unfaithful. This advice is for an egotistical man. Trust & Love goes both ways.

You sound like you are masculine.

Isn't it amazing how far behind the world is when it comes to marriage? We want to reach everyone! 🙏

We try to offer about 50/50 😀

Then do this for yourself so you feel love within. Might I suggest that if this makes sense to you that you look into the course for women? themarriagefoundation.org/

Listen to Kevin Samuels. You likely are nagging and use SIGN language.

Give it to the Lord Jesus. It's the only way.

Marriage is awesone when you know how

@@TheMarriageFoundation Thank you 🙏🏼💯👑

Excellent

I'm honored 🙏

It really is

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Not hard when you are filledd with love

We may judge but it never brings about love or happiness. Using our free will wisely means learning to love, unconditionally.

So as wives love unconditionally even if it’s not reciprocated? I already feel I make my husband’s life more convenient for him. As a wife I must stay sweet and loving, and hope that it causes my husband to personally change.

The Bible says adultery is a very grave sin before the Lord. If he's not contrite, you should separate.

​That's unrealistic, naive and unbiblical.

It is not about supprssion it is about where to put your focus, on the emotions? NO! On love and joy!

You are right to want to stop and we have the SEW technique for that.

@@TheMarriageFoundation please tell me where to begin

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Anime has a lot of lessons in the story line. Just a suggestion- find one anime show that you can try to like. Invite him to watch it with you. Ask your kids which one your husband likes. Why does he like it? Why is he drawn to that story line? If you watch it with him, he might be so curious about your new interest, that he'll be interested in YOU. Then he may want to try some things you'd like to do. But if you continue to see him as a child, he'll keep playing the part. Try not to keep him "beneath" you. I know it sounds like a silly thing to do, but if he's important to you, make the connection. Just a suggestion.

The problem for modern man is that he is a victem of anger, a sare those around him. When was the last time you were attacked by ninjas?

"primary" parent? Loading this phrase as you are defines a distortion in your thinking about your husband and his role in his children's lives....you must look at your marriage as a whole if you are to heal yourself. Use the counselor service, or better yet, one of my books or the course if just watching the videos isn't enough for you... themarriagefoundation.org/

I agree, if one parent has much more interaction (time) and by necessity does more of the corrections and is more responsible for the safety ! of the children and that there is no bullying between siblings - he or she IS the "primary parent" or "main caregiver" or whatever term one wants to use for that. (I think primary caregiver is the better term). If she stays at home and he holds a paid job he will be called the breadwinner. The husband should be eager to get on the same page as her, respecting her (larger) share of the carework. And why should she agree with his rules when she has many more interactions and experience (regarding discipline and daily life) with the kids. It does not sound like this father has even botherd to come up with well defined rules for the household, nor did he develop a habit of demanding compliance whenever the kids test them. And he is not willing to embrace the necessity to have and follow rules in a household, not even after discussions. This borders on being lazy, stubborn and childish. He does his family, wife and children a disservice. Children need predictability. + lesliemontagne is not even extreme with her demands or the "consequences" (neither extremely harsh, nor super lenient) so she bothered to figure out a system, and likely would be open if he wanted to make some changes. Sounds like the husband does not agree with having consistent rules for the kids / the household. Children will watch that and they will see that the mother tries to find and enforces rules that make sense, and that are beneficial for the whole family and that avoid unncessary work for the wife (like messing up the living room or car when the kids are not supposed to eat there. It goes without saying that the husband also should not eat there to be a good role model.) The lessons for the kids would be: How to have a nice home, how to feel responsible for having a nice home, eating the meals together and no endless snacking all over the place, and how to be considerate of the reasonable wishes of family members). Children will naturally test such inconvenient rules, inconvenient for them. Testing the rules is their job and they will find out soon that one parent actually derails the efforts of the other. Or at least does not think they are important. That is something that children will pick up immediately and it will encourage them to think what the mother asks them to do (or not to do) is not important. It is an effort to consistenly enforce those rules in a mild but firm and predictable way. Being lenient and inconsequent would be much easier. Why should that weight only be carried by ONE of the parents. When the father is present (less time than her) he can help or derail her efforts, his 20 or 30 % input can make that so much easier - or harder. I do not think the father is so gracious - he just does not have the diligence and commitment to do the work. Or the maturity to see the long term benefits of teaching kids good habits (even if that is another tedious chore of the parents). Versus, the kids going: nah I can weasel my way out of compliance, mum is the spoil-sport, but dad is cool and he does not care. And then there are the parents (mothers of fathers) who want to be the cool laid back parents and the (thankless and sometimes exhausting / annoying) role as disciplinarian falls to the other parent. Plus that it would be much easier to instill certain rules and norms if both parents help to establish them (whenever they are present). If one parent is usually more lenient it encourages the kids to seek for backdoors. So it slows down the learning process, the aquiring of the good habit, because at the beginning there will be usually the attempt to circumvent - else the kids would just do what is good and necessary - and be done with it.

I passed it on... it will come

@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you so much

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I think you need to watch the 10 things every husband...

@@TheMarriageFoundation I try to do what I can to improve myself not just as a man but as a person in general, and keep on praying that hopefully things will improve for me. Thank you for your videos.

Let go of everything that isn't love and joy

We were not taught about anger because Western psych has it all wrong when it comes to emotions. Anger is an "outsider" to the true us, souls. We have free will and must never allow anger to take over our mind, our lives, or our marriages. Anger can be eliminated, not just managed or stuffed. It is one of the great truths I discovered and everyone should be receptive to the idea of eliminating anger.

The Bible says a soft answer turns away wrath. If your husband is acting up, step away. Put some distance between you. Do it peacefully. Don't render evil 4 evil. That's precisely what the devil wants. War.

You do not have any control over his actions, only your respnses.

No, you can leave.

Setting boundaries is ok. Men need to know the limits.

Lying is sin. Ask the Lord what to do.

You could try other things but at the end you will always get further with love

You need to learn how to bring your marriage to love and happiness. At this point you need the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/

Smart! We do have a course for dating wheb you are ready for that 🙏

It is NEVER too late! But blaming her is not going to help one iota.

​This is a spirit. The Bible calls it a Jezebel spirit. It attempts to control & render the man, impotent. Emasculate him. This behavior is encouraged in our society. I'd temporarily separate. Run to Jesus for salvation & guidance.

Girl friends and by friends, and I speak about that as a the phase prior to engagement, are careful in their behaviors to please, and to not offend. Lots of loving greetings, smiles all the time, and basically showing off one's better attributes and hiding the things that push each other away.

Holy indifference springs from the heart that lives in love. The context of your marriage is intended to be love, not reciprocity.

They are there for the men, too. I am an equal opportunity tough guy :)

Try Kevin Samuels

Paul made plenty of videos for men and how men can make their wives happy

It is, just search the husband for wife version

Take it as warning that you have not been building the relationship and connection you have with your husband and it is time to learn how and apply what you learn.

Not always the case. The devil tempts people and he comes hard. Jesus saves.

"unacceptable" or not the world is a "devil" teacher and thats what we all have to deal with, including your husband, and you, too. Your faults are different than your husband's but they are there so it is better to love him (understanding is a form of love) and learn yourself how to love him unconditionally.

Painful, but clear. It is a great gift that you now know you are not fulfilling your promises and you can do something about it before your marriage goes downhill even more.

Whenever you come upon good advice on the net, you’ll find its origin in Islam.

Yeah I know the majority of these unfortunately 😕

These rules apply to them too?

@@summerrose4978 No...men and women are different...thank God😂💕. God bless you ABUNDANTLY!

But if my husband is too stern with the children as his father was? It leads to rebellion, drug abuse etc just as my husband reacted. I want the children to be healthy. Not treated harshly for no reason.

@@godisgood5038 but the Bible says treat your partner how u want to be treated...how is it possible that this does not work both ways.