You you are interested in internal family systems (IFS) watch this video next: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-YyJg6-Aq7Gw.html. Best wishes, Teresa.
IFS has helped me more than any other therapy I've tried. Talk therapy does not work for me. I am so grateful to have found a therapist in my area who is certified in this type of therapy.
I had never heard of it before I met my current therapist. It has been transformational and I highly recommend it. Although, it is intense! Which is not a bad thing ;-)
Closed my eyes. I felt bitchy and cynical. I also felt tension in certain parts of my body. I offered gratitude to the bitchy, cynical feelings and they responded with a feeling of validation. Like, they felt valid in their bitchy/cynicism.
I'm right there with you on that. I'm finally getting help for my ptsd and just listening to this makes me cry. It makes so much sense. Good luck to you. ❤😊
Thanks Teresa again! 👏 I feel IFS can help enormously, perhaps even more so than Polyvagal theory, which also resonates, due to the spiritual dimension of the core self. ✌
I did the exercise and it made me realise something. I felt anxiousness and vulnerability in my body. But when you said to send that part gratitude, I found that very hard. I found myself very resistant to give those uncomfortable feelings any gratitude. I just gave those feelings the cold shoulder.
Whats works for me is to think those feelings or emotions are protectors and in a way indicators that something is not right and I have to pay attention to it. If i decided in the past to ignore them I just made my issue bigger. Just trying to help but I do understand why you( and myself in the past) do that
This was a very informative video and very easy to understand. I have been doing IFS for a few years now and it is life changing. I wish everyone would make the time to get to know their parts. IFS should be taught in school.
Thank you! ❤ I'd also recommend the book Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy by Susan McConnell. Really highlights the somatic/body aspect of this method!
If one does anything practical in his work, 'firefighter' can't be avoided, it is just a question in which form it is. Problems are fixed and handled as they appear, on the fly.
Interesting exercise. I’ve only done this just the once, just now, but I noticed that it felt sort of good to ever-so-slightly 'see'/feel/sense (…?) that ‘part of me’ that was/is presently feeling worried, miserable and lacking a clear enough focus on things to do the things I need to do, work wise. My sense of it is like an imagined physical presence, movement, shape and so on (one part 'me-me' and another part also 'me'), rather than anything I could accurately put words to or names to. Maybe I’m not doing this exercise right, but for me it seems to be almost a physical thing - sort of like the act of drawing, ‘seeing’ musical forms/patterns/etc, touch or physically making something. This might not make any sense to anyone else out there but I thought it might be worthwhile adding my experience of this exercise to the general mix of comments. I’ll try this exercise again when I get time. My feeling is that there is something useful to be got from it. A bit dream-like in some ways. Anyway, cuppa tea and back to work.
Thank you so much for sharing your insights Roy. Yes, parts can feel like a shape, a colour, texture, movement, presence and so forth. I can see that you are an artist so next time you do this exercise your might want to draw a part or parts. I'd love to know how you get on. Thank you again for sharing your valuable insights. Best wishes, Teresa.
I've been trying so hard to understand what IFS is, by watching vids and reading things online about it, but I guess my mental processes really don't work this way. Lucky me, I guess? It seems like a very real struggle to be at odds with yourself. Thanks for the explanation
This method is helping me so much!! I wish everyone knew about it. Especially for complex trauma and triggers. I have a question though, how does this therapy healing modality relate to Dissociative Identity Disorder?
Thanks for your comment. IFS says that people who suffer from Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) only differ from the average person in terms of how separated their parts are. In other words, we’re all multiple.The average person is significantly more integrated in terms of how their inner parts or aspects function in comparison to someone with DID, but the basic structure is the same: we have an internal ‘family’ of parts that has its own interpersonal dynamics and tensions. There are many psychological models that recognise we are made up of many different parts. You may find my videos on Transactional Analysis (TA) of interest. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology As a live-long victim of narcissistic abuse from childhood your video raised a question about the Self in a narcissistic personality. I say it because I have the notion they don't have a real identity (if I am not mistaken) due to their need to wear a mask or many masks. What is the difference between the Self of a narcissist from someone who is not? Hoping my question makes any sense and I have explained myself well enough (English is my second language). Thanks for your videos. I do enjoy them 😊
The work of Robert Falconer combines SRT (spirit releasement therapy) with IFS and it's made an enormous difference in folks' lives, tho it's heterodox in all the ways. Here's to merging of these modalities. Great video.
IFS and Polyvagal are two very different theories. If I were to link them I would say the Self links to the ventral vagal state, the protectors link to the sympathetic and dorsal vagal states. Best wishes. Teresa.
It is weird that I have the conviction before that somehow we need integration even when we dont have multiple personalities disorder. It has been in my mind for so long. Just mentioned it to my therapist and she agreed and send me this.
So... what if we've been subtly doing this for years now to cope and manage ourselves but those parts of us have been given full identities and swap out who is in lead with our core? And we don't mean DID, but something like this still... 'cause I'm one of those parts.
We all have managers and they can take many different forms. If your firefighters dominate then you can get the sense that you are not functional. Ideally you want your Self to be in charge. I hope this helps. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology This helps me! I heard about IFS from a friend years ago. Your video sums up the basics in a way I can more easily understand. Thank you!
Thanks for your comment. IFS says that people who suffer from Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) only differ from the average person in terms of how separated their parts are. In other words, we’re all multiple.The average person is significantly more integrated in terms of how their inner parts or aspects function in comparison to someone with DID, but the basic structure is the same: we have an internal ‘family’ of parts that has its own interpersonal dynamics and tensions. There are many psychological models that recognise we are made up of many different parts. You may find my videos on Transactional Analysis (TA) of interest. Best wishes, Teresa.
This is the first time I’ve heard of this therapy. It’s reminding me of when I’ve heard people talk about DID. I don’t think I experience myself as”parts”, so it’s hard to relate to what you’re saying. I experience different sides to my personality, but they aren’t compartmentalised and don’t exist as parts sitting along side one another, so I don’t understand how to talk to parts of myself like you’re suggesting. Is the idea that I should try and turn different sides to my personality into separate parts and imagine them talking to one another? If so, how do I do that?
Great to hear your IFS therapist is an experienced trauma therapist. I think some theoretical approaches will personally resonate more than others. Also, you will find you ‘click’ with some therapists and not others. Therapy is a process of finding what works for you. Best wishes, Teresa.
Is it normal for these parts to have names and different pronouns? I suffer from extreme depersonalization and I really don’t know what thoughts are mine. I don’t fit the criteria for DID so I’m wondering if my brain just automatically started using this therapy.
There are many models of therapy that use parts for example, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Transactional Analysis (TA). IFS and TA name the parts differently. For example in TA the parts are labelled Parent, Adult and Child and in IFS the parts are labelled Managers, Firefighters and Exiles. I have IFS and TA playlists that you may find helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.
In order to keep things simple for myself, I always only focused on one part and acknowledged one part. Thinking this would be simpler and more efficient. But that only makes it worse right ?
