@@sweetdoll6491 it means tease him with the visual or maybe light affection but dont give up the goods too soon until hes worked for it. Mind sex basically.
Somehow I learned this years ago. When guys would ask what is my type of guy, I wouldn't ever answer it. I didn't want them acting fake like they were my type just to get my attention.
I ended up answering that question recently but they weren’t thinking anyone can just do to win my heart. It was mostly things I have to see in his character that if it didn’t best describe him than I’d know. And I didn’t tell him everything either.
Make a man see what he can get, but make him imagine what he can have. You’re gonna get all that you said you like until he gets what he wants. After he gets what he wants, he’s gonna show you what he has to offer. Set this on stone, ladies.
I have the opposite happening to me as old as I am.i turn them all down. Being married once for 28 yrs it's enough. I like my freedom to move and live a clean life
Has anyone else noticed how much dating advice for women is geared toward figuring out and understanding men and what to do and not to do based on what men are like and what they need and want. The best thing any woman can do is work on herself. Put herself first. Love herself. Follow her dreams and passions and hobbies. When a woman does this men will simply beg for her time. They will not be able to stay away. A self actualized, friendly, warm woman with boundaries and self esteem is intoxicating for a man. He can’t stay away. So just love on yourself. All day long. Then a wonderful loving self actualized and successful man will show up, and you won’t need to spend any time talking to your friends about what his texts or his behavior mean. You’ll know, cuz he’ll be whipped.
Lol I agree to some extent but there are some career driven and self- actualized women that still have trouble getting the guy of their dreams bcuz they're dating all wrong. The dating world, at the end of the day, is still a game you have to get good at in order to be successful. That goes for guys and for girls. Dating advice for men is all about figuring out what to do and not do to make a woman happy too.
Good advice. I think that concept has largely been lost because, in the quest for parity and "equality" between the sexes, people no longer wish to accept that men and women largely think, process and function in fundamentally different ways. That's why Steve says to women "Act like a lady, Think like a man". If a woman assumes that the man thinks like she thinks, she is setting herself up for failure. The men who think Steve's advice to women is making it more difficult for them, are right. He's making it more difficult for a man to be the least he can be, as opposed to the best.
"what kind of guy are you into"? I don't ask this question and men shouldn't ask this question. When she asks me "what kind of woman are you into" I say, "you're here, right? You're beautiful but i'm here to see what else you got." And if a man ever asks what a woman wants in a man he's already asking how to appease and please her, how to give her things so he gets the cookie. But cookie is just cookie, no matter how you slice it. Oreo, Oatmeal, Wafer, doesn't matter. It's cookie. It will come when the lady likes you. On first dates I am mostly looking to make sure she's not overly masculine, isn't argumentative or contentious, and doesn't give me a hard time when she gets answers to questions she doesn't like. I see if they are capable of an adult discussion or if they're still stuck in the highschool dating mentality. Are they looking to settle down or are they actually looking for as many free dinners? Is she feminine or will dating her require arm wrestling ever day after work? If I'm sweating for hours mowing the lawn on a hot day is she going to be the type to bring out some lemonade and give me a kiss and a smile (because she WANTS to, not because she "should" or because it's "a woman's place"). If she doesn't demonstrate that she's more than the cookie, i'm not going to ghost. I still love me them cookies. But it's not going to last and she's not going to keep me. She can be who she wants, but that doesn't mean she has to be who she wants with me in her life. That's just the truth.
Speaking of Long distance that was very hard, but you only knew it if she's into you if that person show her love and giving you her time even how busy she is because communication is a must especially in long distance relationship.
Or, instead of waiting for the guy to make all the moves, make moves yourself to learn more about him, to find out who he is as a person. Don't be passive, be proactive because, if you are passive, you just get what comes instead of making efforts to get closer to what you want.
this is true. esp if the man is a player. women basically tell too much about themselves upfront. then we know what u like and how the last guys did u and what we can get from u. women need to just be relax and enjoy the date.
So much game playing and BS... All of the great relationships of my dating life just happened naturally. And developed easily without manipulative tactics and game playing. Strive to be the Best Person you can be and when you meet that right person things will flow beautifully.
one mistake women do in a relationship she always, ALWAYS whine her past bf’s, her past relationship that we men don’t like to hear.we are not interested about the past. even keep pictures of them. this is a new page of our lives let’s move on.
It's funny. I never initiate the conversation about my exes. Men always ask me on the first date about my exes and they briefly mention their exes. All I do is say my relationship with my exes didn't work out, but I wish them well and want to leave them in the past.
Nah that's great intel. 3 great points to know: If she has had previous relationships? How long they lasted? What went wrong? If she can be honest and give a good reflection on this, then you can deduct if there are red flags or not. If she doesn't want or can't share it that's a red flag right there
Not settling your Standards. Meeting him at the Restaurant instead of Existing he picks you up. Accepting to pay half the check. Show him RIGHT away. Your a High Value Woman.
I wish this worked in reverse for guys. I'd be glad to tell a women everything I like and have her give and do all those things for me. I don't care if she means it or not.
Not true I found the love of my life with a car date outside her job 145 minutes before she went to work sitting talking in a parking lot depends on the people u decide to surround yoself with i live my life about giving and receiving love no negativity only good energy it took me 40 yrs to get to this point live yo life until uk u ready I promise live life and u will find the one 🙏
I never play it this way. When I looking for a mate I’m looking for that connection, if I play it hard to get I feeling I’m playing a fake and he will find out later otherwise, I like to be me whoever I meet. They can decide take it or leave it. I’m looking for an equal partner, not quite sure why I have to make the guy works harder to get
The biggest mistake a woman make on the first date *is in trying to reel in a man through coquetry with whom she's first bonded in NOTHING OF MUTUAL INTEREST.* Because as soon as she says something with which he totally agrees and suspects he's found a kindred spirit, that truth will come flying out of his mouth to her!
I love this, but, we still have to play hard to get, which I hate and sometimes it doesn't go anywhere. It's really weird that we can't start out as friends first then build from there, no games, no waiting, no teasing. That's what's confusing, women have to pretend so much in the beginning and make them hunt for us, okay, the real question is, once they hunt and get us, what next? Do they stick around? Do they actually court us? Are they just after sex? Do they want a real relationship? We don't know. I really hate playing these games, a man has to work, that I get. But acting the opposite of who you are to get it? Just be yourself, be real, don't be rude, I wish women can actually be real and show interest without a man scurrying away so fast, we all need to pretend in the beginning. Didn't work like that before feminism ruined everything. Thanks Steve, you're right, but, games are still to be played. We have to pretend, that's why being in a relationship with yourself is the best one, you know who you are, you don't need to hold back or pretend. There's no telling who you're going to meet and if they are on the same page as you are. You don't have to guess with yourself, because you KNOW yourself.
I dated a guy for 9 months we didn’t last because he keeps lying and cheating. Now I am just scared to start a new love life with another guy what if he leaves me or do me wrong just like my ex did? I’m just afraid of love 😪
I tell certain things to challenge your character. If you immediately become what he described and do all things he said then I know you are a play boy but if you take mental note and do certain things out the blue because you remembered what I like you are a winner.
I agree with some of Steve’s advice but some of it just makes a lot of women comfortable. I feel like he says it because he knows that’s what women want to hear cuz he’s audience is mainly women.
Good for you! I hope you're stronger and hold your head up and know that you are God's beautiful creation and God loves you no matter what. Men are PIA anyway! Love yourself and that's the best thing you can do and then enjoy life.
I think men should know some things not everything.I believe it will come out in the wash sooner or later.People can only keep up an act for so long.Thats why it's important for women to take things slow and develop a friendship.Does he value his family,others,etc?
Biggest mistake women do on the first date is ask "what do you do?" That just shouts gold digger, better question to ask is do you enjoy your job and what are your hobbies
Does it though? It's a bog standard question that gets asked in all kinds of social situations. Not particularly imaginative, but hardly indicative of being a "goldigger".
@@tracyc.1005 Really? Why would you want to know what a man does for money? Wouldn’t you rather know his hobbies? And for a man to ask what a woman does for money shows he might need money! Huge red flag
@@sanaa8367 Of course there’s something wrong with it because if a woman just golddigs a man for his money there’s never any love and they will just break up. If a man just wants a young girl and he’s rich she will just use him for his money. The best situation is when two attractive people get together. Maybe they’re both broke but the sex and love will be for real! you have to get in where you fit in. You can either have love or money you cannot have both
