What Is "Trauma" - and How to Cope With It 

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Trauma has such a profound effect on the human brain that we will likely forever avoid comparable situations. It's like touching a hot stove... We only do it once. Best wishes to all of those suffering from it

“In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate.” ― Isaac Asimov

As a therapist that works with trauma, and had my own, I of course agree with the premise of this... But I felt that this was a bit overly simplistic and directive. Not every trauma is safe for people to reopen and reprocess at any given moment in life. Sometimes accessing it in less direct ways (i.e. artistic expression, or through meditative visualisations), and/or with a counsellor is necessary. It is up to every individual to decide how they go about this healing, and when. That aside, lovely video and good to see this get attention.

I am exactly that girl who have been universalising the childhood traumas for years, making so many mistakes on relationships and career without realising what went wrong. Now I know. I hope I can change with this realisation.

I can see how one or two incidents in childhood may be eventually overcome in adulthood. However, when it’s numerous incidents in childhood, repeatedly, so that one lives in fear on a daily basis, terrified to make a simple mistake, for fear of a beating, or fear to say something that brings mocking and ridicule that goes on for years. I believe these become imprinted on our nervous system, and even though one can find a way to survive, that trauma remains in what Buddhism calls, “store consciousness,” and can arise whenever an association or another traumatic experience comes about.

The narrator has an incredibly soothing voice. Would love to hear her narrate more videos! (Still missing Alain's voice though)

It's so hard when you think the trauma is over, and then something happens again

In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey ✌

After all, when a stone is dropped into a pond, the water continues quivering even after the stone has sunk to the bottom.

Thank you! So many people suppress their traumas and carry the burden deep down. It’s important to process these events to eventually liberate yourself from it. Self improvement begins with self awareness.

Damn, now I know why I'm shit-scared of making mistakes

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ― Carl Gustav Jung

The most traumatizing experiences of my life have not been the most violent ones Food for thought

Give your animator a raise please! I loved the context, animation and narrative of your video.

I moved back home to my dad for 6 months now in my 30ths, one of the best and the worst thing I have ever done. Feelings I never recognised before showed up. I am in rage and in tears. He is not what I expected him to be. A grumpy old man who sometimes is loving, sometimes very irritated and with ideas and thoughts I don't agree with most of the time. Never positive. I hate it. But wow I learned a lot through this pain and greef. I feel like crying every day.

When I was 10 yo I saw my mother suffering a rape by a stranger who entered by force to our house. I didn't understand what happened I thought it was her secret love and they were having sex. I grew up with this idea and when I was 29 yo I realised she was raped. I remember the shame, the silence, the fear. I would like to know how this affected me. For most of my life I have been way too respectful with women for fear of being intrusive and it has been difficult to approach girls, now I am more confident because I do therapy

The narrator sounds like Emma Watson ... ❤️😮

Experiencing the Beirut explosion gave me trauma for sure

Trauma is very hard to deal.. I think not just the abused physically can get this illness.. even those who's been going through a cycle of repetitive bad memories and circumstances and soroundings.. it steal your joy, your opportunities, your well being it's devastating, especially when no one is around to help you or solve your problem.💔💔 What's worse? Receiving burdens that make you remember it over and over again.💔

very odd. we have developed a culture of treating emotions as an inconvenience, something of less use. A culture designed to deny, ignore, destroy our spiritual needs. No machine can examine our complex spiritual needs, in all its various invisible existence. No wonder we suffer and in defeat we call ourselves normal.

Any tips on how to forgive your parents for what they did to you, and not feeling bitter every time you have to interact with them?

"We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world." ~ Dr Gabor Maté

'Kintsugi (金継ぎ, "golden joinery"), also known as kintsukuroi (金繕い, "golden repair"), is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, a method similar to the maki-e technique. As a philosophy, it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.' en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kintsugi

My teacher traumatised me when I was 6, he was a real bully. It is really hard to get over but I am in therapy now and it is improving.

I had a friend for many years who had a ton of trauma, and as someone who cares deeply about those in suffering, I made it my mission to make her happy again. Seems like a good idea of paper but in reality I was a 15 year old who had no degree in this sort of thing, dealing with something way, way over my head. This friend became over reliant on me to save her too, and told me tons of terrifying things about her past. I think that caused me a lot of secondary trauma. When I realized I couldn't be friends with her anymore because she didn't want to be saved and all the relationship was doing anymore was sucking the joy out of life, it was hard because she trusted me and I was terrified to break her. When I finally told her I didn't think we should be friends anymore, it went even worse than I could have expected. She told me I was the one good thing in her life and I was abandoning her like everyone else in her life, and now she had nothing left. I wound up spending literally the whole night texting back and forth trying to convince her not to kill herself. Ever since, I can't get over the fact that I made someone feel that way. I ruined someone so much that they felt no desire to live anymore. I got into another relationship months later, and when I heard she had a traumatic past, the second she started clinging to me, terror came over me and I saw the same thing happening again, destroying someone else like in the past. I couldn't comprehend the possibility so after only a few weeks of knowing each other, I told her we couldn't be a part of each other's lives anymore. She was nice about it but she texted me a week or two later trying to check in on me and I never responded, because I was so afraid of what would happen if I did. Now I'm afraid of getting into relationships because I'm afraid of destroying people. Trauma comes in all kinds of forms. Thanks to anyone who read this far in my long comment.

I was just thinking yesterday how I might have some unprocessed trauma that needs tending. If your mind + body is telling you something, you should listen 👂

Oh my God, I have the trauma exactly like the child in your video. It always gets me over defensive to hear criticism. Because of this trauma, I barely have friends and I often quit jobs. I hope I still have a chance to change. Thank you again.

Something even the strongest of us require. Thank you for this🙏

You can’t tell me this isn’t Emma Watson narrating, it sounds just like her reading the tale of the three brothers

I’m from Lebanon and live in Beirut, the first example you gave about the car alarm going off and an explosion....wow. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had dreams reliving that moment. It’s not just when I hear loud noises like lightning, it’s when I am conscious and perceptive of the noises being made that I am stuck in the 2 seconds right before the explosion. This little voice in my brain starts off “ in the next 10 seconds an explosion is going to happen. Brace yourself” and I wait. A person will imagine the most horrific of things in these couple seconds, they are the scariest because you keep on telling yourself “I am going to face death, I will die in a couple of seconds, goodbye world, I am never going to see this life again”. The waiting for your death and knowing that it could have happened so easily is so scary. Unfortunately my trauma is just the tip of the iceberg in what many others have experienced. I hope everyone can be at peace as time passes.

We all have issues. We are all born with this innate ability to receive and perceive. What most of us receive during our childhood will most probably stigmatize us for the rest of our lives. It is these little details in the way our parents treated us that shaped who we are and who we want to be. And, usually, because our parents are unaware, we end up with psychological issues that affect our evolution and development. These issues can be real hurdles in our pursuit of personal growth and, for some people, obstacles that can never be overcome. This is why I want you to pay special attention to this point. You need to learn how to identify your issues and thereupon try and work hard on them. The faster you realize your psychological problems and the effect they have on you, the easier it will be to tackle them and even eliminate them.

Being conscious and aware on the ways that you think and how you act in certain situations, I think is the key to getting to know yourself more and deal with those parts that have not been healed yet. It's like when you see your demons they can't hunt you anymore and it works everytime.

I never was able to find a skilled trauma informed therapist, so I healed alot on my own.

I have had trauma therapy.. I know what traums is and what it can do to an individual and this is by far one of most well made videos on what trauma is and how it affects us in adulthood.

This is a nice explanation for single incident traumatic stress. When it comes to long term or complex trauma, coping gets a little more complicated. I would love to see more on CPTSD when you get a chance. Cheers!

“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.” ― Isaac Asimov

Thank you for sharing… as I’m learning more about my triggers for anxiety. I’m realizing how the unrealistic expectations placed on me within the military has caused me so much trauma. I’m thankful for my counselor, meditation and prayer 🙏🏽

the worst is when people keep the facts of trauma from you. oh and those same people will trigger you too.

Never stop uploading please. TSOL has taught me so much about myself and life. I have also recently bought 4 of your books. Can’t wait to read them!

I would just like to say thank you so much for making this video! With this, I was able to communicate better with my self and I now know what to work for. That not every person who tries to help me will end up hurt. And to anyone reading this, I want you to know that your actions and the things you do during a moment, that might seem so shitty, do NOT define who you are.

This explained what I have been experiencing, just this year I was able to remember and clearly tell what has happened to me. It was liberating, and I am grateful that the healing process has already started.

I’ve been through a traumatic event and all my “friends” laughed about it and now I’m here alone fighting demons everyday.

Shed actual tears to this, thank you for amazing content. it really helps.

I honestly believe I was traumatised as a child. I suffer from anxious attachment and every time I’m in a relationship I firmly believe that I am not loved as much as I love. I have also had a lot of mental health issues that I never addressed as I never went to therapy. Still, I cannot identify what happened in my childhood that made me so bad.

the illustration of trauma is such a cool way to visualize the ebbs and flows

During 10th grade, while at boarding school, I was bullied relentlessly for my Autism. I was called and treated like a “retard” day in and day out, even though I could speak properly. Not to mention I was on the Dean’s List having one of the highest grades. I worked so hard in the hopes I would be accepted as a fellow student, but they continued to mistreat me. They went so far as so use my Autism as a scapegoat to blame me for things I never did, sins I never committed, even sexually mocked me and stole my holy cross. I went to the adults for help so many times, but all they did to me was talk. Other than that, they did nothing to improve the situation. In spite of the fact we have group every morning during the weekday, that did nothing, as all the students were acting passive aggressive. A few of the teachers even blamed me for getting into trouble when the bullies lied to them about me. I was truly alone. I was the only one who actually wanted to explore the town and the woods while the rest wanted to be on their cellphones and sneak drugs into the school all day long. One of them even threatened to kill me if I were to tell he was sneaking marijuana into the school. And another nearly broke down my door to steal my guitar. I didn’t do too well in wrestling class either, as I was forced to wrestle with an injury that constricted my breathing and movement, or else I’d fail the class. The coach never believed me that I was injured and never bothered to contact a chiropractor, and I never won a single match, which greatly upset me. I was incredibly suicidal those days, and hated myself so much I wish I was never born.

btw, who edited this? this is amazing

What happened to that little girl is almost exactly what happened to me, occasionally, in my childhood. Thankfully, I now have kind people around me who almost certainly won’t explode at my mistakes. I’m almost convinced that the world isn’t filled with people carrying unjustifiable rage. Almost.

i had a trauma abt sight, i removed it 1 month later, then i had again but different, its about age. then 2 days later i said to myself "dont cry it out it wont make any different, just smile, laugh, and enjoy your life" from this day i still remember that

While looking up videos on how trauma as an adult affects a person I came upon this video & was compelled to watch jt. The way you described childhood trauma makes everything make sense for me. For that insight alone I'm grateful to whoever wrote this video. I hope you are having a good day wherever & whoever you are

I needed to see this to remind myself I am not insane. grieving the sudden loss of my mother to covid, a year later and covid is still my trigger. It all takes me back. I wish I could see the positives through the grief and trauma but maybe it’s just going to take more time. As my over reactions to the outside world are filled with intense shame afterwards because I don’t know where they come from. I keep telling myself thoughts are not facts and that seems to be helping. Hope anyone reading this post finds peace if they need it xxx

This is so helpful for clarifying what trauma is. I have PTSD and I can’t destroy the enemy I don’t understand. Now that I have a better idea of what it is, I know what I need to do!

Gosh, you guys have helped me understand so much in myself and others! I don't know how am I going to find the time to watch ALL of your videos I'm interested in, it's like a hydra - after one video I see three another to be checked out immediately!

Thank you! With this video I now join that select club of those whose story you inadvertently told, as I’m that 6 year old... and on my birthday! A beautiful present indeed! How deeply powerful is the need to avoid living the same situation we once did, how we’d do anything, including hurting ourselves further or others just not to feel that exact same feeling ever again, even if we are completely aware of the trauma. But I want to get better School of Life, so I will try my best to follow your advice, which seems worth trying. I see my trauma and it feels like burning, but I want to try. Wish me luck.

Thank you for talking about this. I’m so grateful for this channel ❤️

When your heart beating just like a bomb is going to explode, when you have a short breath just like you are almost drown, when you feel dizzy and nauseated as you have a food poisoning. I know it is trauma yet I dont have any memory on why I have this symptoms. That is difficult.

Beautifully made! Loved it.❤️

thats so true, even when things are completely peaceful, I feel the very dark presence of something I can't seem to run away from. I feel on edge, like time is ticking. I often get sad when I find myself not being able to fully appreciate/live in the present moment like I used, but I am trying really hard to fix this. I really appreciate this video. Thank you.

A thoroughly excellent short introductory presentation on the subject of trauma.

Reminds me of a new channel I stumbled on recently, “Friendly Philosophy”. Excellent content in these videos.

Hello early people, I wish you guys have a wonderful time here...

My boyfriend gifted me the "How to Overcome Your Childhood" book after talking to him about one of my recent therapy sessions and wow...this book hit so many nails on the head- it really opened my eyes to some other components of my behavior and the bridge between my present and the unresolved past that I'm working hard to overcome.. I truly recommend the book- it's short, easy to digest, and really has an amazing perspective (in my opinion) Good luck to everyone who is facing any obstacle.. big or small, one or many, easy or hard..we're only human at the end of the day and to be fully human is to be fully gentle and understanding to ourselves...

There is help!! don't ever give up. our brain copes with trauma in it's way and there is nothing wrong with you. it's the oppsosite, you feel like you do because your brain is trying to protect you.

"Life as a whole, won't have to be so terrifying once we understand the bits of it that truly once were!" 🤗

I also have strange traumas 1) i was verbally abused for not having a hobby ,and bcs of that i can,t still find a hobby because of the trauma . 2) Iwas verbally abused for my academic scores during my school days which traumatized me so much that i couldn,t get satisfied with my 7.5 cgpa i. Scored in college. Exact Reason for both: sibling comparing

This video has been saved to my "awesome" playlist.

Your script and animation is amazing.. crisp and to the point.. kudos..

Amazing work, easy to understand

Very difficult to live with..you have to constantly distract yourself..self. awareness is the key. There's only so much a Therapist can do for you.

I am just now dealing with some past trauma and I have been overwhelmed by it but this was so helpful

Beautifully put 😭♥️♥️

Could you do an episode on irrational and negative Core Beliefs, what they are and how to overcome them. I believe core beliefs, the unconscious beliefs we hold from childhood trauma, play a huge role in our lives and overcoming false and negative core beliefs can make our lives infinitely better.

In true isolation, you find yourself.

Such a deep lesson so concisely delivered. Thank you! "By properly gripping an original event in the claws of our adult rational mind, and stripping it of its mystery, we will be able to repatriate fearful emotions and render the world less unnerving than it presently seems." These words, over the graphic of the merkavah in someone's chest, is brilliant!!!!!

I love all your videos!! They have a lot of interesting information and they help me in the discipline of my life!!🤤☺️🥰

It gets better. A few years ago I nearly had a panic attack because the keening noise of an unhooked power chair, it seemed so much louder than it really was.

Rly needed this

Much drama from my childhood of swiftly shifted into hatred and anger

This short video should get an award 🥇

thanks bro helped alot

Wow!!!! Thank you for this insightful information

I had experience of war in young age but I am more traumatised by my first love leaving me for someone else.

You are really my school of life.

quality of video is just insane... that editing that voice that animation...

This video help me a Lot, don't have the words to thank you

Some trauma would be extemely hard to go away and it dragging your emotion for years. Maybe decades. No matter what you do it keeps on coming back. My brother had passed away when I was 14, I am 38 now, and I loathes the troublesome I've become over early years of those incidents... my parents really have real PTSD up till now... presumely coming from that occurence. I have a real age gap problem going on with parents, my little sister luckily escaped the whole drama as I acted for the 'shield' but hell this trauma keeps getting every now and then.

Healing with trauma takes time. Be kind to yourself in this journey😇

Wow this helps me calm down

great video. people going through trauma can also try to go for healing. I have personally healed many people from childhood traumas to accident traumas and many more.

thank you so much about this since I think I just had a huge trauma over one British person who told me to stop thinking about getting 1K subs in my channel and it sounded to me as if he didn't want me to keep promoting my channel and ask friends to get me to 1K to a GC where I clearly own. I hope that soon enough, I will be able to get off from that trauma and begin feeling comfortable again in making my videos. :)

time heals all wounds. it will take time, introspection of ourselves and our thoughts, and love to take care of trauma.

A colossal magnitude of existential trauma that includes pain, fear, illness, and death. That's what two human beings force on another human being. Thanks again mom and dad.

"we don't have to be through a war to be traumatized" unfortunately, im only 17 years old and i have already seen two wars. and now im afraid of loud sounds, soldiers, fireworks, thunder and usually quite nervous :*((( i hope that wae in my country will end up soon 💙💛

nice explanation, thank you

A car alarm literally started going off in my parking lot while I was watching this.

Only 15 dislikes. You guys are helping a lot of ppl.

Great editing, very informative indeed. Can you do a video about childhood trauma🙏

Realize every moment is completely unique and different and we are constantly being hurled into the unknown you can't compare anything to anything because it may appear similar on the surface but beneath its always completely different than anything you've ever experienced

Solid episode!