What Nobody Tells You About Your Twenties | Livi Redden | TEDxBayonne 

Hello everybody. I am 20 years old and from Ukraine. After what I heard in this video I want to cry. I feel that I live in another universe, because building of myself, thinking about the best years of life, thinking before going to sleep "Am I happy enough" - I always have samr answer - no. Because in Ukraine, the genocide of my people by the russians. Right now, I and my whole generation feel that our life is completely lost. Most of my generation aged 16-25 do not see the meaning of life at all. That week I attended the funerals of 2 of my acquaintances who were not even 30 yet. And this happens every month, every week, every day... I really want That such tedtoks would be relevant to me, but all I feel at the moment is envy of my peers from other countries who have opportunities that I do not have and will never have

Video Summary: The speaker discusses the lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties and emphasizes the importance of developing these skills to lead a less stressful and more fulfilling life. She introduces three pillars: unlearning social conditioning, designing an authentic way of being, and taking action, to promote better emotional intelligence and self-guided growth. The goal is to empower young adults to make conscious choices and create a successful life aligned with their core values. - 00:00 The lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties - 02:58 The decisions and habits we form in our 20s have a significant impact on our future. - 05:57 The speaker discusses the struggles faced by teens and 20-somethings, emphasizing the need for better emotional and decision-making skills. - 08:56 Living in alignment means aligning your core priorities, actions, and thoughts with your deepest core values, leading to a blissful and fulfilling life. - 11:56 The speaker talks about the importance of intentional growth and why we put forth the effort. - 14:56 Making bold changes in our lives can be scary, but if it feels right, it can bring more peace than chaos.

"A FEELING OF BEING CONSTANTLY AT WAR WITH THEIR MINDS" 100000000000000000% ✅✅✅✅✅✅

i'm 22, graduated last year but still unemployed. last year was a hard one because i beat myself up for resting before finding a job. i still feel lost rn but i'm doing my best to pull myself together. this talk reminded me that it's okay to be lost but it's not okay to stay there. we have to make big changes and learn and unlearn things. nothing changes if nothing changes.

At 22, this REALLY resonates with me. The more work you put into yourself in your youth, the better off you will be for the rest of your life. Such an amazing talk! Y’all should check out her book- The Sooner You Know, The Better! Read this recently and she goes into more detail with these concepts with great humor. Highly recommend!!

When I was 20, I don't think we have many great resources like this TED talk here. Looking back on my own twenties, I can say that life has a way of teaching me many lessons, some easy, some hard. So when you come across those hard moments, please don't beat yourself up. It is very likely that you're facing that problem for the first time in your life, it is expected to feel very difficult. Just breathe and learn to grow from it. The fact that you're here to prepare for your twenties means you are light years and wiser from tiny me, don't give up!

I just turned 30. I'm proud of my twenties. I didn't achieve all my goals, certainly am nowhere near successful by societal standards, and deal with a lot of depression and social anxiety issues. But I learned so much about myself and life and have always been "personal growth" and spiritually oriented (pagan and Buddhist). I was suffering and realized no one around me was going to help me/knew about emotional intelligence work, so I went searching (and still am) for my own answers. I'm so far from where I want to be but I've come a long way and honor my process. Self compassion, curiousity, and mindfulness have been my best tools, along with some therapy to help validate my experiences and realize my core values.

21, Indian. The title itself was an attention catcher. I graduated this year, and trust me this is the most difficult, confusing, stressed, anxious, and struggling phase of my life. It feels comforting to hear that so many of us are sailing in the same boat. also, I believe this is the only time when we are not running in autopilot mode and are finally getting the chance to think about ourselves, our values, our belief systems, and who we really are. during this phase, I have realized that it is essential for me to spend time with myself and reflect on these questions. stay distant from voices that fade these voices inside of me and continue to REFLECT, REFLECT, AND REFLECT.

Adulting was always my biggest wish. Making choices on your own and not always being dependant on your parents is a really great thing, but it is scary how the time passes and you kind of feel like not living at all and every day is the same. Comparison is also a thing I started to struggle with as I grew older. Realising how unfair life is. This video made me realise that I am not alone and thing eventually will figure. I hope that someday my work will pay off.

I am 25. Struggling with choices and doubting whether my actions are correct. By doing efforts of aligning “myself” with the society, I have struggled with self doubts. Probably it’s the best video I watched. ❤

“We must take radical responsibility as soon as possible as this is where joy & fulfilment are born.” Such an important talk for all young people to hear…thank you for sharing your profound wisdom Livi💖

No way!!! I’m 18 years old and listened to this video for the first time ever on an April 26th!!

Well, just take a note here for myself. In conclusion, she metioned three important pillars: unlearning, being and doing. Unlearning is kind of unlearning what the society had taught you all your life, learn to hear how your heart truly says, constantly reflects yourself. Being is being your true self, ignoring what other people say about how you should “build your house”. Instead of that, start building it in your own way. You’ll feel the most comfortable in the house you made for yourself. Lastly, doing. You must take the action, even if it is the most scary thing to do. People tend to afraid of the bold changes, cus it’s unpredictable. But actually, if you do it right, it will bring more peace than chaos. Reread all this and find out, the word repeated the most is “yourself”, make sense, cus only if you see through yourself, you find the peace in your soul. And that’s what matter the most.

I am a sophomore in High-school. Yesterday i wrote an essay regarding schools providing classes for mental stability and support. Following this video i am so grateful that i wrote that essay and overall provided good facts and information exactly like what was given in this video.

This is the other half of the argument on how to live through your twenties that people don't talk about. I love it.

"life-changing, life-saving, society-changing skills" that line is powerful and 100% true when it comes to emotional development. This is such an important conversation and you share it so beautifully! Everyone needs to watch this! I'm 23 and this definitely resonated with me from so many different angles. Thank you!

It is 2:35 after midnight, and I’m sitting alone questioning my quarter life crisis,being lost and sad , knowing that 20’s are my hardest part of life , and i need to survive it And this talk came in my way It’s so helpful and the concept is soothing and supportive Like a friend that telling you : it is okay , you are on the right track ❤❤❤

I’m 24 and these concepts have been heavily on my mind very often these days. I found this video at the right moment.

Absolutely on point- we need to be so much more mindful of our 20’s as it sets the stage of the scene of our lives. Thanks for sharing your story

Wow! This is so eye opening & such an important topic that isn’t talked about enough. Thank you for this talk, all young people need to hear this!

The amount of people I've been sharing this video with, is mad. I saved it and downloaded it. I'm 20 so honestly perfect timing.

I am turning 21 in less than ten days and graduate college in less than 6 months. This video came as a sort of life saver to me and am I the only one who is tearing up by the end of this ? So glad I came across this

14:26 was my favorite part. Good to hear when you’re ready for big change but scared about the world around you

This video was really inspiring to me. I am 21 years old and consider myself to be very successful and on top of all aspects of my health. I have reaped the benefits of working hard to become who I am today. But recently I have been fairly unmotivated and sitting in the back seat. This video has inspired me to try and start an "alignment growth journal." I'm hoping that with at least 4 entries per week, that I can begin to realign my values and actions. "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems." I have definitely been feeling the repercussions of falling to my systems. I would be terrified to learn that I would live the rest of my life like I have the past 3 months if I was to be hardwired today. So with becoming hardwired on the horizon, I will work super hard to act and think the way I want to do so for the rest of my life.

In my entire life of 20 years no one ever said to me that you have time

So powerful! Well done Livi. What a blessing you are to all of us on this planet 💜

3 Pillars: 1. Unlearning 2. Being 3. Doing "Start being intuitive and intentional as soon as possible."

Incredible. Probably the best adivce and mindset inspiration I've ever heard. Well, done Livi!

Thank you for sharing with us, recently I had been struggle with my life decision, whether did I pick a right job or i dont have enough money so I force to work. My life decision seems like always money and money. This video had motivate me a lot that I need to align myself with own values not other people values, my own happiness is the most important things that I need. Really appreciate that !!!!

Feeling bold after watching this amazing video as an 19 years old girl ! ❤

Livi Redden's TEDx talk on intentional emotional development for young adults struck a chord with me, especially as I approach my twenties this year. The idea that mindset shifts and emotional development can alleviate the confusion and anxiety associated with major life decisions resonated deeply. Redden's insights into steering one's life through mindfulness and accountability provided a refreshing perspective on navigating the challenges of this pivotal phase. Her emphasis on proactively shaping our emotional well-being to create a joyful and fulfilling future was both empowering and reassuring. As I reflect on her talk, I realize the importance of incorporating intentional emotional growth into my own journey. Redden's guidance encourages a more purposeful approach to decisions related to education, career, relationships, and personal development. This talk has inspired me to embrace emotional intelligence as a tool for building resilience and steering my life towards a future that aligns with my values and brings genuine fulfillment.

This is so amazing ! Thank you so much for being so brave and sharing your story with us 💕

cheers livi!! needed this message you were spot on so MANY TIMES

PAY ATTENTION! Crucial and lifelong lessons! HELP for young people looking for a more healthy mindset journey! Thank you Livi!

Couldn't stop holding my tears as i realised how much your talk resonates with me. The outburst came the moment you said 'Unlearning'. Thank you so much! ❤❤❤❤

Loved this so much! Such a great thing to be talked about.

Thank you for the topic In my 20s,I have been facing problems such as educational and financial,It’s not easy to give up on my graduation to chose the way to find money.Start from now I will not wasting my time by finding money.I will try to grow up more in my 20s and let follow the money with my skills

I'm 22 when watching this, I've been watching TEDs and this I'm ranking as one of the most resonating with me.Thanks Big time 💯💯

Honestly, I have no idea about how life has been miserable due to misunderstanding from classmates, financial stability, the worries about future and career as well. I suppose I have been focusing so much on something I cant control like overthinking rather than focusing on myself. Thanks to video for reminding and giving guideline for personal growth.

Great speech! Life-changing skills can make the difference.

Shes so lovely, gorgeous and smart. I think im inlove. The way she articulates her sentence is very attractive

Wow! I NEEDED THIS. Thank you.

When she said align with your true core values it all added up. Instantly my brain new what they were, the whole mix(finances, relationships,health,spirit, mentality) so thats what I am going to do. I'll take steps each and everyday to better myself in this regard. The confusion for me came when u are looking at everyone else and it confuses you on whether what you are doing is right or not. This has reminded me to stay true to myself, and also not to be so naive to push onto the future by saying oh well I'll find a wife later in life, what's stopping mw from taking active steps now even if it is uncomfortable in the moment. Thats what life is about, moving towards your goals with hope and certainly that with the work and effort you put in you will eventually become who you have always wanted to be.

Shoutout to Livi! I am so grateful for this video. It affirmed to me that all the work that I've done and the work that I continue to do, to live my life and my being as the most authentic version of myself, is the best thing that I can do for myself. I was feeling a bit lost and being lost is okay. I'm re-aligning with my path and what I want to explore in this life, and that's more than okay! As long as I'm being honest with what I want and who I am and am trying my best and giving myself grace, then I'm on the right path 🫶🏽

this is one of the best video i watched in youtube, this is really life saving ❤

So glad I found this now and not a decade from now ❤

This is gold! Absolutely brilliant!

This is definitely and idea worth spreading!!!

I truly needed to hear this. Thank you Livi

I am 21, soon turning 22 and I really took so many decisions in my college life to change my life it really worked, like I did acting to increase my confidence, i did dancing, singing, modelling, sports, and bodybuilding. i enjoyed my journey , but I still regret not making right decisions at the right time, after watching you I will work more on myself and I will definiately become more self-confident

I feel like the speaker was reading my life currently. I m 25 years living in Kenya . Recently I made bold decision of resigning the job because I was feeling that I wasn't adding value to my life but was more money driven. But having listen to the speaker words I feel like I made the right decision for my future. Once again thank you

Truly enlightening ❤️

LIVI SO PROUD OF YOU🎉

This is true. I started a pandemic prevention project when I was 24 years young in 2014. I'm 34 now and I know how to save world population 😊.

Thank you, Livi. The faster you grow, the better!

Just grateful for this talk.❤

I’m really glad that I listened to this

I'm in my early thirties, and my twenties were horrendous to start with and eventually ended up to be better. I honestly don't regret the recklessness in my twenties, I personally believe that it was required to make me a better person, a calmer individual and a bit more rational. Don't stress about your twenties, enjoy it and make mistakes. Just be sure that you learn from your mistakes. Yes, 20's can have a significant impact on your life, I don't deny that at all. Learn empathy and think before you hurt someone, sometimes it can be irreversible. Also, please lock your phone away and enjoy your life with your friends and family; and please do take care of your health. Do make bold changes! Best of luck everyone.

One of the greatest and useful video I’ve encountered 🙌 thank you

such a beautiful and moving speech✨🤍

I feel so much better about my situation because now I know I am not alone in my dilemma of trying to figure out how to live life. Thank you

I'm 20 something (21) and I feel this very personal, thank u❤️❤️

”The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.“ ‭‭John‬ ‭10‬:‭10‬ The answer can’t be personal fulfillment because we will always fail one way or another. I lived this life that she talks about - but personal alignment and emotional/mental health could only get me so far. I was always striving and never arriving at the life or person I wanted to be. Jesus is the only one who can truly satisfy our souls, give us rest, and save us from the destruction around us and within us.

I'm 21 and I truly needed this. Thank you Livi... Seriously thank you❤️✨

There are many many people who needs to hear her

Thank you for uploading this video.

I am 23, about to graduate college and it is just intense. 20’s are so hard to navigate. Like who am i ? I dont even know yet

wow this is amazing thank you.

Im watching this reading these comments and i so deeply want to comprehend and actually do this but i feel like i literally am fighting a war in my mind and im always losing no matter how much i want to do something no matter how deeply i desire to just go out and do something as simple as food shopping but it feels so phycially impossible for me every second feels like an eternal battle of thinking and losing. I just want a clear head where i can say i want to do something and can just DO IT.

7:45 well said 🙌🏽

Thank you for sharing 🫶

Who came here for learning English?

This was really helpful to hear. Thank you

Very profound speech, thank you.

So amazing!!

every part of this resonated with me so deeply

Love the house analogy! What a cool metaphor.

Thank you for your sharing, I appreciate it ❤

Great listen. Very well spoken, very well done!

My gosh ! Her outfit !

Unlearning, being & doing Love that concept

"Making bold changes!!!" Thats for me

Thank you ❤

Excellent!

It’s my first time when I watched your video. I’m obsessed! You are so cute and nice!!

I know I am not living in alignment with my values but unfortunately I won’t be able in order to make a decent living. I want to go study but I can’t afford it while living out of home, the cost of living is simply too high for me to do something I genuinely enjoy. That’s the scary thing about being in your 20s right now, it seems like the world is slowly getting more and more unbearable. There’s so much hate and anger in the world and I count myself lucky to even have what I do right now, it’s all very overwhelming

Thank you so much

thanks for such wonderful advice i believe that it will help me a lot as i am in my early 20s

software is digital and hardware physical but i get your point

Is anyone here for learning English

There is absolutely. no. way. First minute in and she says her life changed april 26. I'm watching this on the night of april 26th. This actually weirded me out rn, that's crazy.

Lovely, Livi, thanks!

The Conclusion was very life changing, i felt it. Thanks for this.

Great Talk

This is the art of talking without saying anything. She will leave her audiences with more questions in their mind.

I’m about to turn 18 years old in a month, and I’m absolutely grateful for convincing myself to watch this. I still have so much to learn about life and this video taught me so many things I have to know about before my 20’s . As a 17 yo kid right now I’m very afraid of making wrong decision of my life. im worried about my future what if I made the wrong choice. I don’t even know what is right for me I don’t know if the decision I made was right or not. But after I’ve watched this video all I know is I gotta work hard. Stop thinking worrying about everything in my life and start to doing it right now whatever I wanted to do. And I’m absolutely agreed with the advice that many adults tell us that “you still have time, don’t worry about it” is the worst advice ever for me. The worst thing u can think of is that you have time.

Wow!!! You are amazing! ❤

I had a hard time pointing out the main elements of this speech. The conclusion was pretty good, however in the middle I couldn't really follow where the speech was heading.

amazing.

A feeling of being constantly at war with my mind