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What Price - Bride Price? full documentary 

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Bride Price can lead to Early Forced Child Marriage (EFCM). Bride Price, sometimes referred to as lobola is both a cherished but highly controversial culture practised throughout Africa. It is the price paid in cows or money by the groom to the parents of the bride.
For more information contact: mifumi@mifumi.org Website: www.mifumi.org
MIFUMI is a developmental NGO and women's rights organization. The organization has worked for over twenty years to reduce the burden of poverty; addressing issues that hinder development by initiating developmental projects.
This inspirational documentary tackles important side effects of bride wealth, namely child marriages, domestic violence and poverty. It features a cross-section of survivors of domestic violence, judges, community leaders, policy makers and rights activists. The makers believe there are various aspects of the practice of bride price that violate the Constitution of Uganda as well as binding International Human Rights laws. We take the viewer into the lives of ordinary Ugandans as they share their experience on dowry. This enlightening documentary also provides a wealth of information on the practice of Bride Price in different cultures in Uganda.
Bride Price gives rise to conditions of inequality between men and women which is prohibited by the Constitution of Uganda, which provides that all persons are equal before the law. Bride Price has close links to poverty. Young men and their families have to work hard to accumulate the wealth necessary to pay Bride Price. Because of grinding poverty, parents and clan members ask for exorbitant sums or commodities as Bride Price. Women, especially widows, have now become vulnerable in the face of relatives who want to take away their husbands property and leave them with no support. Girls are married off early to raise income for the family. The demand for the return of Bride Price by men when a marriage breaks down forces many women to remain in the marriage and endure violence and abuse. Demanding refund of Bride Price does not take into account the contribution of the woman to the marriage, the children she has produced and the products of her labour. Finally, a sad practice has crept into the custom of Bride Price whereby when a woman dies before Bride Price has been paid, her relatives refuse the burial to take place until it is paid. The relatives haggle over Bride Price while the body is laid out in the home. This is inhuman and degrading treatment because people have a right to dignity of the person, even in dea
Embarking on this documentary was another exciting step in MIFUMI’s bride price campaign. MIFUMI’s ambition was to translate the stories and experiences of survivors from mere paper reports and voice testimonies to complete visual representations. The goal of the project was to amplify the Survivors’ voices telling their own story.
The documentary initiated national debate on the Practice of Bride price in Uganda.
The making of the documentary spanned 9 districts Tororo, Mbale, Soroti, Amolatar, Ngora, Pallisa, Kumi, Mbarara and Kampala. It involved professionals from the legal, education and medical fraternities. It extended to include politicians, social workers, representatives from cultural institutions and most importantly a broad selection of survivors including women, men and children. The interviewees were selected to represent the broad selection of cases relating to the bride price issue that MIFUMI has encountered over the years. Many of these cases also were intended to highlight to viewers, the contextual and underlying factors that fuel the practice and the extent to which it has negatively affected society’s fabric.
MIFUMI came to learn that traditional and cultural practices across many societies are the main drivers of violence against women and girls. Some cultures perpetuated male dominance and power and control over women and girls, denying women and girls their rights, entitlements and enjoyment. To this end, MIFUMI continuously campaigns for changes and reforms in these cultural practices. MIFUMI successfully lobbied the government and was given the mandate to hold the first social referendum in Uganda in December 2001 which resulted in a successful verdict with 60% saying YES to the reform of bride price.
Early Forced Child Marriage (EFCM) is sometimes referred to as Child, Early and Forced Marriage (CEFM).
The referendum pushed the campaign into the public domain exciting debate and that served to strengthen its position in the Domestic Relations Bill.
MIFUMI also held the first international conference on Bride Price in 2004.
MIFUMI has pushed for reform in laws resulting in enactment of The Tororo Bridal Gifts Ordinance into law in 2009, and a NO-REFUND ruling on Bride Price by the Uganda Supreme Court on 6th August 2015.
If you wish to support MIFUMI then visit our website www.mifumi.org

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@WinnieDaou
@WinnieDaou 8 лет назад
Children are priceless, a culture that sells their own flesh and blood to whoever offers the best deal will never prosper.
@ursulatroxler7428
@ursulatroxler7428 6 лет назад
Exactly
@Happymind-happyworld.
@Happymind-happyworld. 6 лет назад
I think everyone here got wrong but brideprice is t really paying for a bride it can be anything other than livestock and that woman can divorce if they want. Brideprice is just a gift to the bride’s parents for raising up their child to be a marriage material. It’s not a guarantee for your husband to beat you. I know that coz I have grown up seeing it half my lifetime here on earth. Stop calling it prostitution coz it way more expensive than the different cultures here in the west. It gives respect and it’s not meant to show anyone’s worth. Pls stop using God for all your insecurities.
@lisapoole1219
@lisapoole1219 6 лет назад
This woman hasnt the slightest clue what she is talking
@vevo3130
@vevo3130 6 лет назад
you should fuck off you useless man for being such an abuser....useless creature
@vevo3130
@vevo3130 6 лет назад
this is for all women and this goes out to all of you abusers how can shut up while useless devils like you are hurting children and women.....uselessssss mnxiiu
@lachicaplastica9447
@lachicaplastica9447 4 года назад
Tereza is such a beautiful and strong woman... Her daughter’s smile at that exact moment is gold 🤗
@DouniaYousif
@DouniaYousif 4 года назад
She is an amazing role model for others and her daughter is so beautiful 😊
@eiferjen4155
@eiferjen4155 4 года назад
When she cries while telling her story 😭😭😭 i feel her pain 😔😢😭 nobody deserves this 😥
@rhyndawatson4173
@rhyndawatson4173 4 года назад
I had a African associate professor and in a conversation I mentioned that I was divorced, he replied "in my country you would starve," starve I said, he replied, "yes because women are expected to stay at home, raise the children and no longer work outside of the house once married and once you divorce, no one will hire you for work or help you so you will starve." I replied, good thing I'm not from your country which seemed to anger him but that was truth and my opinion, he tried to lower my grade in the end, what an asshole he was, still earned my degree with a high GPA, his plan didn't work lol
@mayibuye2908
@mayibuye2908 4 года назад
Now wait a minute, I heard a number of times on Oprah abused American women saying one of the reasons they couldn't leave their abusive husbands was lack of financial independence. Why 'Africanise' this issue? By the way, no one is buying your 'associate professo" story.
@steelyearsforme4000
@steelyearsforme4000 4 года назад
Isn't that a mess..they come to this country with their sick and twisted cultures and expect Americans to abhere to them. After most of there ppl flee from their country to America to escape the torture.
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856 4 года назад
That’s a lie lol single , divorced and widowed women can get jobs
@emi62507
@emi62507 3 года назад
Might be true for his African country, but not true for all countries on the African continent. In my country women work after marriage too.
@Ghanadiaries
@Ghanadiaries 2 года назад
Where was he from? This isn't the case in most African countries
@tikimiller7966
@tikimiller7966 6 лет назад
Women were not put on the planet to serve men.... I am living proof.
@MikeHawk-tj3dz
@MikeHawk-tj3dz 4 года назад
Yes they are
@whiterose6186
@whiterose6186 4 года назад
@@MikeHawk-tj3dz ??!
@tectonicD
@tectonicD 4 года назад
PEOPLE were put on earth to serve each other! Not to BE served.
@yitawilliams601
@yitawilliams601 4 года назад
This is not true. We were put on earth to serve each other and it is not a bad thing. It gets bad when it is lopsided and one person receives, but never gives.
@meyay100
@meyay100 4 года назад
Well said! Now go make me a sandwich..
@Wul-Lop
@Wul-Lop 10 лет назад
May peace, wealth & health come to Uganda, Africa & people around the world.
@nellmccue869
@nellmccue869 5 лет назад
Wullop Khin mm
@nellmccue869
@nellmccue869 5 лет назад
Wullop Khin jm
@afternoondelight6741
@afternoondelight6741 8 лет назад
The stories of these young girls and women really touched me...Tereza's sorrowful reality broke my heart in two...Thank God that programs are being implemented as safe havens for these women and educated people are finally standing up for the battered and bruised...
@kimbranch4125
@kimbranch4125 4 года назад
These women and their wedding attire is beautiful.. But it’s so sad what the women go through behind the men..
@gacha_maker2584
@gacha_maker2584 4 года назад
Well if he can beat me to show love. I will give him a beating in return he would never forget my love. Such blatant excuse of abuse and control of the vulnerable.
@darllene3500
@darllene3500 4 года назад
Kimrose Wright very good !
@mabellelofamia3578
@mabellelofamia3578 4 года назад
Kimrose wright.. You are right...
@yukae2878
@yukae2878 4 года назад
Kimrose Wright am with you on this.
@burningcalmness
@burningcalmness 4 года назад
They complain for slavery... Yet they started it right before their eyes..their practice needs changes.. I don't need to live in an African country to not know what their traditions and laws are as much I don't want to live in an African country to forget the value of women and the respect for everybody's existence regardless of their status in life...if I was a neighbor of a maltreated woman, I'd save her, I'd pay the groom with my turkeys and goats...women in my family speak their minds, respected and heard..I have three married brothers, my family paid the preparations and the weddings, gave the demands of the bride's families on the pre-wedding celebration, even wedding dresses from the entourage up to the bride, but never that my brothers laid a finger on their wives nor disrespected them by cursing..their wives are not their properties but their partners...
@almaz8625
@almaz8625 3 года назад
Anne L your comment is incredibly saddening on so many levels. The person before was trying to enlighten you on the way you are viewing their plight. You can not look at another’s struggle through your own prism of reality. This Is not an African problem this is a poverty and patriarchal problem. It happens all over the globe and had happened in most cultures at one point or another where the male has more valuable than the female. I can’t even begin to touch the slavery comment. It is wonderful you come from such an empowered family. I have dedicated my life to helping others, even those different than many and who at first judged me. I’ve discovered we are not that different and even in the USA there are child brides and exchanges made and abuse of women and children and it’s not isolated to race. It had more to do with opportunities, education and poverty. It bothers me when I hear women say what they would do in the same set of circumstances when most of us can’t fully understand their circumstances. You’ve already stated you come from a supportive family. What if you didn’t and had no money and children? What if no one believed you had the right to defend yourself and would return you to an abusive spouse you’ve escaped from? In some cultures your own family would beat you and return you. In some countries your family would kill you for striking your husband and it would be legal(I’m not speaking on an African country btw). I like what the woman said at the end. When woman are truly viewed as valuable and true partners things will change. With education and the ability to learn from history and others mistakes we can make the world a better place. We also need a lot less judgement and more understanding to grow! God Bless!
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
A man who beats a woman beats her from a place of fear. He is afraid of her, of her strength and knowledge. He sees how capable she is to handle the home, the garden, the children, the cooking, cleaning, and herself, (and more in Western societies) while _also_ taking care of his needs as her husband. What is he to do with someone so powerful? He must beat her down to the level he is at, he must make her weak so he can feel strong. That's what a man who beats a woman is really about. Note, I'm not saying _"he must"_ as in, "he *should,*" but rather, it's a reference to how _he_ believes that he has to live as a husband. He feels he _"must"_ beat her down to attain power over her. All any abusive man has to do in order to stop this behavior is to realize his own strengths and power as a male and join his strong male traits with her strong female traits to become one unit of power, strength, and success in life. It's simple, don't beat her down, lift her up and be *up* there _with_ her!! It should be common sense, two heads are better than one, yes? So why would you chop off one of your heads knowing it decreases your power, strength, and knowledge by half. If you're lucky enough to have a wife, see her as the other half of your incomplete self and see how well she fills in the gaps where you are lacking. It's okay not to think of yourself as fully perfect and formed. View yourself in truth and realize that the wife is to complete you. The man is the head of the household but the woman is the neck and we all know the neck has the power to turn the head. If you are an abusive man and you read that statement _"the wife is the neck"_ and feel like it's amusing and you should scoff at it, take note of what the husbands did in the video when their wives left them....they turned their head to see her go. She but had to leave to turn his head, that's just an 'nth' of the power we have. Please don't hear that as a condescending tone, it's not meant to be. I know my place in this world as a woman and I embrace it, but I won't be beneath some man just to lift him up by the strength of my back so he can be above me. It would behoove all men to give women the credit for being the strength in their lives instead of perceiving yourselves as being too strong to recognize it. It only hurts *you* not to receive us in the spirit in which we come into your lives.
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
SuburbanoidMisfit111 I do wish I could believe it's that simple but I'm a Psychology major, and a survivor of abuse. It became clear to me that male ignorance played a huge role in why I was being abused. It was so simple a fix but they would have none of it because to fix themselves meant to give up their perceived power over me. Of course, their power never lasted and I got free!
@SuburbanoidMisfit111
@SuburbanoidMisfit111 10 лет назад
They always seem to pick the right ones. I wish a man would try to put his filthy hands on me in that way.
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
SuburbanoidMisfit111 I hear your strength and resilience in that comment. I was just 19 when my abuser "chose" me. He tried to break my spirit for 8 years and it took that 8 years to get out. Nobody helped me, which is one of the problems for abused women. If they have no support system, they're trapped until they can find their own way out.
@mooki3babiiyonkerz
@mooki3babiiyonkerz 10 лет назад
Kelline Pickett People always say just leave like it's so simple, especially when you have family who's pretty much saying deal with it. I admire your strength.
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
mooki3babiiyonkerz Thank you!!! It isn't as easy as just leaving. Most of the time an abusive man keeps a woman penniless, without a car, no contacts, etc. People expect her to pick up three small children and just walk off into the night without a place for her kids to find stability. The smartest thing an abusive man does is get her pregnant because he knows she won't leave with the children without somewhere to go.
@taealexander4209
@taealexander4209 8 лет назад
"I can rebuke and that's where it ends" Love it!
@Krasnodarka
@Krasnodarka 10 лет назад
I think the only answer to this situation is education of both sexes.
@nancyp7017
@nancyp7017 5 лет назад
Amen
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
Good luck fixing that in conflict-ridden, corrupt countries that are piss poor. Most of these countries don't have local leaders with political power like in the western world. They have village elders, chieftains and shamans. There isn't a functional political hierarchy or the financial means that allows large scale education for either or both sexes to become a reality anytime soon, and that's also why these countries develop so slowly. They aren't organized and they don't function as a western country in any way, shape or form, and that's not something we can blame on them either because it's the historical exploitation of their people and resources that are the direct cause for them falling behind in the first place.
@Moi_81
@Moi_81 10 лет назад
These women are not being beaten over bride price but because the men they were married to have not respect for women...they would have been wife beaters without the bride price. Besides if this logic was true then women who pay dowry in other cultures would not experience abuse; but they do. So the man can get rid of them and get more money. It is pure disrespect and the fact that these women are not even seen as humans. Sad.
@veritytreacle1174
@veritytreacle1174 10 лет назад
You hit the nail on the head! That is so true. Those woman beating males are just brutes. They are ignorant and sexist. They are not mature or strong of mind, they refuse to see women as human beings.
@ashleyburbank3129
@ashleyburbank3129 5 лет назад
but are the parents making sure they're getting married to Honorable Men or are they just taking good amounts of money? bad parents have good women for children who don't deserve this. marriage should be a choice
@janerobi2802
@janerobi2802 5 лет назад
Its the Bride Price at the end of the day. Makes the men feel like they bought and now own the women.
@jaelzion
@jaelzion 5 лет назад
I agree with you to a certain extent. However, the Bride Price complicates things in that: (1) it reduces a woman to being property, bought and paid for which is used as a justification for domestic abuse. (2) it ensures that an abused woman cannot go home again if her family cannot afford to refund the bride price paid. (3) it incentivizes poor families to marry their daughters off early for the economic gain of collecting the bride price. Yes, these men might be abusers with or without the bride price. But without it, parents will not use their daughters as (almost literal) cash cows by marrying them to anyone who can pay them a high price. Also, without the bride price, a girl can go home again if her husband is abusive. Bride price may not have originally been intended to be selling a woman, but that's what it has effectively become. Cultures where the bride's family have to pay a dowry are just as bad. Marriage is still a cash transaction in dowry cultures, it's just that the cash is flowing in the other direction. This promotes a whole different set of abuses that are just as awful for the woman. I agree with you that fundamentally, in either type of culture, women are not seen as full human beings. They are reduced to the level of sellable commidities (bride price cultures) or unwanted burdens (dowry cultures).
@blugaledoh2669
@blugaledoh2669 4 года назад
@@jaelzion Bride price was never meant to reduced the women's worth.
@bass13mary
@bass13mary 6 лет назад
I thought my life was bad. Thank you God and bless these poor people
@cionypenalosa678
@cionypenalosa678 10 лет назад
I cried for and felt your pain.....I'm sorry for your suffering.
@kareyjackson7057
@kareyjackson7057 10 лет назад
Women be submissive does not mean to beat women. It says to love your wife and treat her well.
@jpkfox
@jpkfox 10 лет назад
Yes exactly. In the same place Paul says "Men LOVE your wife like Christ loved his church". Beating is not loving. So they are reading the Bible like a devil, taking one text out of context. Nowhere in the New Testament it says man to beat a wife for any reason. Also it says "WIFE be submissive..." , it does *not* say "Man, make wife be submissive to you...". Big difference. So its asking wife to willingly do it, not man forcing it to wife! So emphasis is that God is asking wife to do it so that life in family would go better. If wife is not doing it, well... her husband can start praying God to make changes in the family, or maybe changing himself that the wife wants to be submissive :)
@jhonboy6507
@jhonboy6507 9 лет назад
ur absoutly rite my der....also a women must stay honest to her only husbnd...til death do dem apart....a gud undrstnd is require...isnt it?????
@unitarie
@unitarie 9 лет назад
jpkfox Jesus did beat money changers in the temple because they were doing the wrong thing, this is a perfect example for all to follow.
@fayettevillain1171
@fayettevillain1171 7 лет назад
Women do not have to be submissive.
@annabelgrace1267
@annabelgrace1267 7 лет назад
larry ship But you will submit to a woman?
@music4music237
@music4music237 7 лет назад
When women become educated and self empowered these traditions will end. Good riddance!!!!
@sandramakwikila4392
@sandramakwikila4392 8 лет назад
I will never a loud a man to buy my child, I hate the idea of bride price with passion especially when a man will glorify his deed of buying a beautiful lady to serve him, while a woman is also human full of potentials, skills to explore and life to experience.
@nevaehlorne9959
@nevaehlorne9959 8 лет назад
allowed *
@coochykilla
@coochykilla 8 лет назад
shut ur single ass up dumb bitch
@greatamericanchildrensbook4842
you know it's the same in America rite, they call them weddings. ... watch bride zillas...
@sandramakwikila4392
@sandramakwikila4392 8 лет назад
YEH I do watch bridezillas, those women makes themselves look so grazy just for a day. very sad
@rosaliembarikiwa592
@rosaliembarikiwa592 4 года назад
Same here. My child is not for sale.
@MariAnnRoss
@MariAnnRoss 10 лет назад
It is good to be able to learn of the conditions of females in other cultures. Yet, it is good to be a member of a society in which a female has the opportunity to make a "reasonable" choice.
@mandelankwazi4982
@mandelankwazi4982 8 лет назад
I am a man AGAINST bride price. All people are equal. Women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. We should stop living in the DARK AGES damn!
@MikeHawk-tj3dz
@MikeHawk-tj3dz 4 года назад
I know! I aint about to pay for pussy. That's what hookers are for amaright
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856 4 года назад
The issue isn’t bride price the issue is teaching these men to respect women
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856
@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856 4 года назад
Mike Hawk Marry a woman who’s culture don’t ask for dowry simple
@stargirl3459
@stargirl3459 3 года назад
correct!
@stargirl3459
@stargirl3459 3 года назад
@@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856 no , the issue is still bride price, Pls put islam aside and realize that everyone is equal including women, I know how your prophet married and had sex with a kid because she was female the guys was so old tho , whaaat?
@troybrown363
@troybrown363 6 лет назад
So if someone gives me a gift say for my birthday they have the right to ask for it back? So I must keep it for the rest of my life in case the person who gave it to me want it back? See how ridiculous that sounds gifts have no strings attached you cannot ask for it back.
@chrystalelizabeth
@chrystalelizabeth 3 года назад
Troy Brown... my brother gave me a book for my birthday even wrapped it up ... he had the nerve to tell me when I was done reading it that he wanted it back, like wtf? I kept it a couple days to make it look like I read it and gave it back to him in front of family
@fonachu755
@fonachu755 10 лет назад
I come from Cameroon, West Africa. Believe me its not about bride price. Most Africa families believe having a daughter brings richness to them. So selling their daughter at whatever cost in the name of bride price is the right thing to do. I believe paying a woman's bride price doesn't mean she becomes my slave or punching bag. If you truly love someone, no matter the cost in life, u will move mountains and oceans just to be with that person. I have seen where women work their ass while the men just sit on theirs consuming all she works so hard for. Yet she doesn't complain about it. Some women go the length of helping their husband with the bride price, wedding and even housing issues. But, still they're being abused in the house they both share. If a husband is abusive, it's because he is that way. Men please stop using bride price as and excuse to beat up ur wives. The fact that we men are the dominant doesn't mean women are not our equal. you don't expect both of you to return from your job and you the men expect the women to jump right into the kitchen all by themselves to make meal for you. Come on guys. Help her out a little; slice the onions, boil the rice, peel the yam,etc.... She's exhausted as well as you are. We men cheat and it's not a big deal but when a woman does, she's named a prostitute. Come on men. We are worse the women.
@fml3131
@fml3131 10 лет назад
Respect u, bro! ;)
@Noname-ni8qm
@Noname-ni8qm 7 лет назад
Fon Achu Donald is africa mentality and not all are muslims or viligers ,many blacks are said that women isnt equal to man so the only one way is to avoid men like this but women are stupid,that why this kind primitive man can dare to act like this
@Sandyyy-
@Sandyyy- 6 лет назад
You are right. I think that bride price it’s only a appreciation and respect for the parent. Like a kinda gift. The difference in this video is that those mens have are not doing anything about their life and are wife beater which has completely nothing to do with bride price. They’re just showing how poor and stupid those men are ! I feel bad for those womens.
@AlvaF01
@AlvaF01 6 лет назад
I too was about to write the same thing, im a female of cameroonian descent and even in my tribe a daughter is seen as a blessing and treated with respect with even the family checking in to make sure she doesn't become a slave in her own home.
@stanleymessiless9717
@stanleymessiless9717 6 лет назад
Fon Achu Donald ur right bro
@SARAI7HJ
@SARAI7HJ 6 лет назад
I couldn't. I would have to literally beat the living hell out of a man that dared to abuse me. In the past my first husband got the shock of his life when he dared to strike me. When I was done with him the cops put me on probation outside of our apartment. When the children & I returned I found out later that he had told his parents he was afraid of me. He didn't tell them that as small as I was compared to him I was totally capable of defending myself against any male. He has since passed away but I took my children and left long before his death rather than end up in jail for killing him if he ever dared to raise a hand to me again.
@vevo3130
@vevo3130 6 лет назад
hhaaaaaa i like that
@sabrinariggs470
@sabrinariggs470 6 лет назад
But u wernt raised in a culture where it was ok me either thats why we can say this
@user-nubiangoddess
@user-nubiangoddess 6 лет назад
Its not so easy to do..wen ur in d situation its not easy
@mmdoz711
@mmdoz711 5 лет назад
👍Thats Right Don't let a man disrespect you as Yahuah God Creation !! Don't let him abuse u !! Leave !! I don't care how many children u have by him !!!A Man abuse u that meaning he Hate u !!! Period !
@chasingclouds7101
@chasingclouds7101 5 лет назад
Go girl, I'd never let any man hurt me as well. Cowardly bullies, nkt
@johannkifouni6633
@johannkifouni6633 7 лет назад
It's so sad for these women... Bride price or not, it is very evil to beat his wife ! Woman's life is more than bride price. Something is wrong with the kind of husbands who justify themself the fact of beating wives.
@proudseeker4814
@proudseeker4814 9 лет назад
I never want to disrespect anyone's culture, however this is just abuse and I would even say of form of pimping women cloaked under the term "marriage"!
@miyu-miyu9771
@miyu-miyu9771 8 лет назад
+Sheba Newfreedom It's sad that even in the 21st century, this practice still exists. I hope the younger generations of the tribes will realize that this is just so wrong.
@241Genevieve
@241Genevieve 8 лет назад
erm I don't known if you are African or not but for many the bride price is simple an appreciation for raising a "good woman" nothing to do with selling your child. Just like a dad gives their daughter away during the wedding. When people are poor such as portrayed that's when it becomes a problem, in most places it literally can be just coming with your family buying drinks, food, providing music and just appreciation for the day before the actual marriage ceremony.
@proudseeker4814
@proudseeker4814 8 лет назад
241Genevieve Thank you for that.
@SAJacksonArt
@SAJacksonArt 8 лет назад
its still pimping, especially when many of those marriages are between children (teenagers) and perfect stranger not mutual love and respect for each other.
@SAJacksonArt
@SAJacksonArt 8 лет назад
plus bride prices comes from having women that are left in poverty and uneducated thus unable to provide and depend on themselves so they have no choice to marry and be someones 'object; the commentary of a lot of these people show how primitive their ideas on female independence are, they're basically putting the idea that women should not be treated in any human aspect at all, and that they are just there to please others and not creatures of their own making.
@justicek9260
@justicek9260 8 лет назад
These women are so beautiful... Just natural beauty! Especially Juliet 😻 so beautiful.
@realrasmckhaileath1846
@realrasmckhaileath1846 7 лет назад
Justice K c'mon stop lying
@camillomancini5619
@camillomancini5619 7 лет назад
realrasmckhaileath hahahaha yeah
@nellmccue869
@nellmccue869 5 лет назад
Justice K nnn
@lumilabonte3980
@lumilabonte3980 5 лет назад
They have healthy skin and nice teeth...they are children not women but I know what you mean....just so sad about how they are treated...watched a few documentaries back to back like this today and my blood is boiling over how these young girls are treated.
@harshmaurya02
@harshmaurya02 3 года назад
They are ugly
@cathylena7790
@cathylena7790 8 лет назад
Im from Uganda happily married for 8 years my husband is about to pay bride price to my family this December and i live in the USA. In my culture muganda bride price is an appreciation of your parents raising you with manners,educating and taking good care of you till he met you. not all cases are bad.
@suzanabrams1
@suzanabrams1 8 лет назад
+Cate Lena I understand, Cate. I get it. x
@jeffreymiller7112
@jeffreymiller7112 8 лет назад
WESTERN WORD MESS WITH YOUR BRAIN.
@suzanabrams1
@suzanabrams1 8 лет назад
Jeffrey Miller Then, why are you writing 'Western Word?'
@demelighfe3388
@demelighfe3388 8 лет назад
and u been gettin ya ass beat for 8 years how old ru
@cathylena7790
@cathylena7790 8 лет назад
deme lighfe why would he beet me, marriage is a partnership not a competition .
@jenniferbettis1838
@jenniferbettis1838 5 лет назад
A man ever put this hands on me in anger his blood would be all over my iron skillet.
@staceyvanadder6040
@staceyvanadder6040 11 лет назад
Theresa, my lady, do not be ashamed!! It is not your fault, my lady. Hold your head high. You are an inspiration to all women in your country, & everywhere for that matter. I pray you find peace & your daughter finds happiness if she chooses to marry herself.
@briannemorse2464
@briannemorse2464 4 года назад
Who raises these men to be such animals. Are they not capable of love How do they sale their own daughters into such circumstances and they just keep the cycle going
@yaw13851
@yaw13851 4 года назад
Brianne Morse GREED
@ruthstclaire9247
@ruthstclaire9247 6 лет назад
Bride Price...thank you to the reporter who used careful English. It is a privilege to be able to share this documentary with students who crave to be given the chance to hear well spoken English-language documentaries so that they might learn from them. I wish more reporters could recognize that wanting to learn/ teach educated English-language diction is not platformed on racism.
@mjones8459
@mjones8459 6 лет назад
Wonderful documentary. Very necessary for it is a huge issue throughout Africa. Women considered commodities and second class citizens or almost invisible in some cases.
@MsMommaRose
@MsMommaRose 10 лет назад
How is bride price different than slavery? Some man sells some woman to some man who can do to her as he wants. Those same men would be against some man selling them to some man to do with what he wants. This is not marriage.
@tinochipango3735
@tinochipango3735 6 лет назад
Bride price when done right is the first sign to the woman’s parents
@lumilabonte3980
@lumilabonte3980 5 лет назад
There is ZERO difference...these people (the poor excuses for men) are the original enslavers. They LOVE it!
@reason5591
@reason5591 4 года назад
No difference although others in this thread have a lame excuse.
@waterlafeeclarke6959
@waterlafeeclarke6959 4 года назад
This is not marriage, but this is slavery is true.
@Ghanadiaries
@Ghanadiaries 2 года назад
@@reason5591 These are abusive men, who need treatment but they are shifting the blame on bride price. Am African from a different part of the continent, in my country, bride price is paid but it doesn't mean, you're buying a bride. It's just to symbolize a union between two families and in case of a divorce, all you have to bring back is a bottle of liquor (schnapps) And I will explain this one too, the liquor is brought back to his family if the lady decides to end the marriage, that's to info his family that you're parting ways. If he decides to divorce the lady, then he takes the liquor to her family.
@dychui
@dychui 10 лет назад
I learned a lot about this part of Ugandan culture by watching the video. Thank you and God bless the survivors
@nesieb6685
@nesieb6685 2 года назад
Theresa's daughter is so beautiful ❤. I pray for all women suffering in this world. God bless the women of Uganda.
@sistakia33
@sistakia33 5 лет назад
If men are going to use the Bible and demand the wife submit to the him maybe he should keep reading! The husband must cherish his wife! He must treat her as he would his own body! Never saw a man beat himself when he gets angry over nothing!
@oaklandmade007
@oaklandmade007 2 года назад
Real talk 💯 nothing about this is right
@RearviewWisdom
@RearviewWisdom 10 лет назад
Am I the only one seeing a deeper issue than a bride price here??? There are social, financial, and psychological factors that play into the failure of these marriages. If anything the issue here is a confused mindset in THE MEN'S concept of marriage where a bride price is taken as ownership or a purchase...They took something meant to show honour and respect and used it for power. SOUNDS LIKE A WORLD PROBLEM to me!! . People abuse leadership and power all over the world. In this case it's in the form of bride prices, in another country it may be something else. I FEEL for these women but it is inaccurate to say the bride price is the ROOT of these cases.
@Sankines
@Sankines 10 лет назад
I agree. Bride price was originally a tradition meant to show appreciation of a woman bein welcomed into a new family. However ppl have increasingly made it negative. Men have started using it as a way to show power hence its connection to domestic violence however the problem starts simply with men having no respect for women, Bride price is just one way it is expressed. With or without bride price, some men will always see women just as property coz of their own deep seated issues.
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
This is not social or financial, as much as it's cultural. Bride prices, arranged marriages, and dowries, are all cultural issues. We don't trade cows for brides in the U.S. We don't provide dowries in exchange for a man's daughter in the U.S., and we don't arrange marriages between our children in the U.S. They don't do those things in Great Britain, China, Japan either, or any number of other countries. They do this in India and Africa predominantly. So therefore, I disagree with this being a _"world problem."_ Physical abuse of course is a world problem, but I couldn't tell if you were saying that's the problem or the bride price. Frankly, your comment is a little hard to understand so I just decided to speak to the one thing you said. My apologies if I misunderstood.
@RearviewWisdom
@RearviewWisdom 10 лет назад
Kelline Pickett it's okay if you misunderstood. I was referring to the nature of domestic violence and other marital and social issues being a world problem. this issue of "bride price" only shelter's the real issues for ex. Poverty. (which i assume is a huge factor) ....they can ban this and demonize that but would it change the cold hearts of man ?? ...I don't think so.... it always leads back to a heart issue, and I'm afraid the entire world is facing that battle.
@kellinepickett4979
@kellinepickett4979 10 лет назад
Strange_Fruit777 I think the heart is a twisted thing in the hands of the wrong leaders. Therefore, in each culture there are belief systems in place that involve twisting the matters of the heart into matters of religion and tradition and that's what's happening here. As you see by the video, it takes the leader of the Orthodox church to command changes and that's because their matters of the heart are twisted into matters of religion. When that same priest tells his people that it's time to love one another for who they are, forget about money, don't worry about stuff and let God supply their needs (if that's what they believe) then they'll start learning to love and look past arrangements that come with cows and dowries. Their hearts will never be anything but cold stones as long as their culture won't let them see what love is supposed to be. That's my view on it, or how I see it as it pertains to how you responded.
@deogratialehmann2598
@deogratialehmann2598 10 лет назад
The bride price was a way to unite tribes and families before. If you were fighting with a neighbouring tribe the best way to come to peace was to become family. The one tribe would offer their daughter and the other their wealth (cows). The women were seen as assets because they bear children. The more people you have the richer and stronger you become because if a war breaks out you have more people. That was the thinking behind this ideology. However nowadays it is just a practised old custom which is why the exploitation. I think with or without a dowry her husband would have abused her. Add the dowry in the mix and patriarchy some men feel they have bought the woman and she is now their possesssion. Also society views women as domestic docile beings who should be submissive to her husband. Hence they put a price on their abilities (can she cook, can she bear children). If you are unmarried at a certain age you are scorned. So the men in these societies still want to control women and their bodies. They can argue every exploitation of women on culture. Society in general supports this in many countries under many guises e.g (women being given by their fathers in the West). The root of this is women liberation especially in Africa. With so many problems affecting the liberation of African countries, women liberation is put on the back burner. Then comes white feminism which is disconnected from the issues of black women ... The issue is NOT the bride price it is the systematic abuse of women which is being allowed in the name of tradition...
@queennanny4792
@queennanny4792 6 лет назад
I love that lady in the pink. This is heartbreaking. Where do we start to fix this?
@oldishandwoke-ish1181
@oldishandwoke-ish1181 5 лет назад
"We cannot afford to live in a cultural museum!" So true.
@yukae2878
@yukae2878 4 года назад
Jennifer Akdemir cultural believes have harmed a lot of people in Africa and it's sad.
@oldishandwoke-ish1181
@oldishandwoke-ish1181 4 года назад
@@yukae2878 Yes. I worked in China for four years, and a Cameroonian colleague there was a follower of some of your "Men of God". She said that some of them do good, which may well be true, but I suspect that many are just making money out of gullible people, like the U.S. televangelists.
@teamvargas2534
@teamvargas2534 8 лет назад
Great document. reinforces the importance of educating woman, the manipulation of what started of as a simple custom then turned into a commodity & free rain to do as they please with woman & its impossible for change to occur when your government is in denial about an issue or just consider woman to be less then a man a norm.
@juneturner692
@juneturner692 10 лет назад
You are right, it is a beautiful wedding and yes we did it with the knowledge of the bride and her family. But sadly as you would see if you watch the whole video, it all too often turns sour. When exorbitant demands are made for cows or money the man considers he has paid too high a price. This causes him to regard his wife as property he has bought and whom he can mistreat as he likes. Many women are subjected to violence but are forced to remain in such abusive relationships because they cannot afford to REFUND the bride price and leave. To someone like you, living in New York, well educated and well off, bride price must seem like a romantic, cherished culture, but to poor people in rural areas, it is an important source of income. Thus young girls of 14/15 yrs are removed from school and forced into marriage so parents can get the bride price. We are campaigning to reform bride price to its original, non commercialised form, where it is neither demanded, nor refunded but freely given, purely as a gift. This is so that we can restore the dignity of African women in marriage. I am sure knowing these facts you would agree with us and indeed, support our campaign. Yours not so extreme, African feminists!
@bobo7514
@bobo7514 4 года назад
Well said I'm writing an essay on this, thanks for explaining!
@karenwilson9508
@karenwilson9508 4 года назад
june turner where is the law protecting woman from men like these? We’re not commodity, but someone to cherish. How can man stand by and watch men treat woman like that. Stop that cultural shit it annoys me. I’m Jamaican my husband is Ghanaian, my mother never accepted bride price for me, because I’m not for sale.
@lasantajones9703
@lasantajones9703 Год назад
On one hand I say respect the young girl’s choice to marry off or not. On the other hand I think of it like respecting a young person’s choice to get a sex change. They have not experienced enough life yet to be locked into a choice so permanent. Same with marriage, so how about we teach them how to be adults & allow them to have more life experiences, skills, & education before locking them into marriage
@misskaykayRSA
@misskaykayRSA 5 лет назад
Heartbreaking. I cant even deal right now
@masterreflections
@masterreflections 4 года назад
Who else is here because of 90 Day Fiancé with Benjamin’s and Akyni? I am glad I stumbled upon this.
@saneisha3450
@saneisha3450 7 лет назад
wow happy this bride price is not in jamaica omg poor ladies
@kiswahilikitukuzwe2547
@kiswahilikitukuzwe2547 6 лет назад
COCO JAMAICAN YARDIE GIRL island girl Doesn't domestic violence exist in Jamaica?
@neilnelmar8007
@neilnelmar8007 6 лет назад
who would pay bride price for them nasty whores in jamaica
@JBRMummy
@JBRMummy 5 лет назад
But it's almost every where in Africa n for My understanding it's because of poverty that's y girls r sold inform pride price
@yvonneblake2
@yvonneblake2 5 лет назад
@@neilnelmar8007 Neil Neil no need for that I'm Jamaican ...Coco is merely refering to the practice ...for example you heard from the bride own mouth she was stuck in an abusive marriage on that basis ...I could not return home because the cows had been distributed among the family... Whilst the domestic abuse in the Jamaica ...it not culturally justified/accepted / promoted on the basis that women are commodities to be bought and sold and unless you can refund bride price you are stuck ... Neil are you totally discrediting the survivors experience on the basis that we are whores ( Jamaican women) Well Coco thank God we were brought up as whores and we will teach our daughters to be whores in that case ... I hope these strong women go on to flourish in all aspects of their lives and continue to shed light on and continue to challenge this barbaric practice which dehumanise women and encourage pedophilia ... Neil Just in case you fail to realise that even a child ( a 15 year old girl ) was a victim!!!!!!
@ainsworth501
@ainsworth501 5 лет назад
But marital abuse is here.
@landscapequeen8091
@landscapequeen8091 6 лет назад
What a brave girl ...this breaks my heart. I cant imagine ever letting someone take my child. I would die fighting
@elenthora442
@elenthora442 4 года назад
These things happen even if a dowry is paid, the problem is cultural devaluation of female human beings!
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
Yes and no. Sooner the devaluation of women is a biproduct of deeper issues, like tradition being more important than law, which again is a biproduct of international exploitation and wars leading to stagnant economies and developmental growth. Their countries aren't organized in a manner that lets law enforcement and development gain footing, and the economies aren't strong enough by a long shot to build centers of education and the likes. The rural areas aren't regulated by law enforcement, and local political leaders aren't a thing, so these areas do pretty much whatever they want - or sooner what their culture, traditions and beliefs want. Growing up in an Afghani village without internet, roads or knowledge of what an educational facility even is, where the highest authority you'll ever see is a chieftain, is a good example of deeper issues than just female devaluation. Religion usually have a very strong standing in these communites too, and they come with their patriarchal views and values. The best examples are catholicism, islam and hinduism. We're talking about completely reforming more than half the populace in South America, Latin-America, Sub-Saharan Africa, the Middle East and parts of Asia really if we want to get rid of things like dowries and child marriage in a short amount of time. It's just tragic to think about really :/
@Som-Hanoolaato
@Som-Hanoolaato 8 лет назад
At (19:47...) that young beautiful woman make me cry. What a sad story. I wish her & her children all the best .
@keziadouglas100
@keziadouglas100 10 лет назад
What is the government and protective services doing??My God my heart breaks for these women!!How can we help them?
@schinjavata
@schinjavata 10 лет назад
My heart bleeds as well. The problem is the Government itself has people in it who agree with such stupid, tired and abused traditions and like its been mentioned, the practice is no longer a show of appreciation (gift) but now a 'trade' where one can even demand a refund! Imagine..! The poor women!
@patriciaandrade9031
@patriciaandrade9031 10 лет назад
I also like to add ladies that even though I agree and see your point. These people live in extreme poverty. Poverty we won't ever face being from privileged countries like the USA or Britain, and this also impact the thinking of this people and understanding of having children and having a family and what is the real purpose of it. As long as not even your basic needs are covered, humans are not free to think, practice or respect others, even though love may be within all of us, social problems are very real and contagious to the human spirit. I wish it could be different for these women and children as it is in the West. For that matter I think we should keep spreading the word, reposting the video on our personal profiles and add some media and political pressure from the West which have worked in the past for other problems within nations in similar conditions.
@schinjavata
@schinjavata 10 лет назад
pa asi my thoughts exactly. I'd love the media here in the West to get involved but just don't how I can do that. I grew up in Africa (thank God I came out of it in time) and have had my fair share of problems a little similar to what these ladies are going through but different, because am not married,and just to let you know some these archaic traditions are really oppressing. More so to the girl child! And to make matters worse, most of the population thinks these archaic traditions are the way to go, including politicians. That means there's a long, hard struggle ahead to try and 're-adjust' everyone's way of thinking. Show me how to repost videos and I'll gladly do so on my page
@crystalcollins2810
@crystalcollins2810 9 лет назад
Pray for them
@reason5591
@reason5591 4 года назад
What is making so many of these husbands so angry? Is it mental illness?
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
It's about poor people having to give away wealth they don't really have in order to let someone they're related to far down the line to get married. It causes spite from the grooms family towards the groom. Falling out with his family causes anger and regret, that in many cases becomes natural for the groom to take out on the closest "cause" of his problems, being his wife. Another thing is that due to the tradition of these bride prices being shared amongst the family upon recieval, they're super hard to raise enough funds to repay in order to break the marriage, so both parts are typically locked together because of their financial situation. Also religion have a huge say in the cultures and traditions of these countries, and both Islam and Catholicism, the by far most common religions in African countries, are strictly patriarchal. The men are taught from they're kids that they're gonna be the heads of their family, and the girls are taught to be "perfect wives", often not recieving education at all in more rural areas where tradition is completely unregulated by the government. So no, it's not mental illness. It's their set of social norms, economy, lacking government, culture, lacking education and traditions all working together to maintain it.
@bunsofsteel2009
@bunsofsteel2009 11 лет назад
Her daughter is strikingly beautiful.
@gratitude5740
@gratitude5740 6 лет назад
God bless you Mr. Kenneth Kakutu!!! It is about time !!! Be strong !!! Woman And men are not for sale !!!
@silandulo
@silandulo 4 года назад
People should refrain from commenting on things they don’t know about. Bride price is a token of appreciation that a man pays the family of his wife to be. What is the man appreciating ? First, that they gave birth and reared a wife for him. Additionally,that he will now have someone to give him children and take care of them while his away hustling or working. So from an African perspective it worked and it still works in some quarters but as well know humans have a tendency of abusing things. Paying bride price is no license to abuse nor ownership of the woman but a token of appreciation as alluded earlier on.
@cortez3jlb
@cortez3jlb 11 лет назад
I am so blessed with my beloved husband. We are one in all we do. Love, respect, kindness. I love doing for him. He works hard and is also a wonderful father. Life with him and my son is so happy. Forever isn't long enough. I wish all people could know this happiness for themselves. I'm so sad for these women.
@lionnees5479
@lionnees5479 5 лет назад
I’m really trying not to judge but I’m thankful to be born in America. These women are treated as property 🤬
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
You see similar things happen in rural areas in Latin-America and South-America too. Take Haiti, Venezuela or Colombia for instance.
@Ghanadiaries
@Ghanadiaries 2 года назад
Lol,travel and see! That's all I can say
@IvyLeagu
@IvyLeagu 3 года назад
I pray for all these precious women who are suffering and who have suffered. Your beautiful and strong, highly blessed and favored by God. Strength to all you my sisters, your voices are heard and pain is felt.🙏💪💯
@SHAWNTESH
@SHAWNTESH 4 года назад
I really can't blame the women for not wanting to remarry.
@pineapplepeoplesouthafrica8850
Strength to all those brave, kind,amazing women.
@lovelygal212
@lovelygal212 6 лет назад
He said with more wives i get more kids and cover more ground in the field 😂😂😂😂
@MrMaria0991
@MrMaria0991 6 лет назад
Lovely Tee ikr thats got to be the stupiest answer and explanation he gave ,like those ladies are nothing but buisness to him the idiot lol i hope those ladies find the courage to leave his fat ass lol
@reason5591
@reason5591 4 года назад
I fail to see the humor in this
@uzaktakikedi
@uzaktakikedi 4 года назад
Lovely Tee 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@NoName-sd9qc
@NoName-sd9qc 10 лет назад
Florence Abbo is an amazing woman!
@thewonderfulkushite9472
@thewonderfulkushite9472 9 лет назад
I have to question the accuracy and unbiased nature of this video since it was not done by someone of that particular culture. I can certainly understand the concept of bride price. The fact that some men behave like dogs is not unique to this culture, bride price or not. I'm sure that most couples don't end up this way. There are terrible marriages in every culture and bride price is definitely not to be blamed here. One can find women with similar horror stories everywhere in the world! Blame it on human nature.
@suzanabrams1
@suzanabrams1 8 лет назад
+TheWonderfulKushites To question an accuracy of something just because a person doesn't belong to that particular culture, I think, is shallow on your part. The documenatry maker could be better informed even of those in the culture...could have lived with them or been in the vicinity or be familiar in areas of expertise that you may not know of. It was all of the locals both in villages and towns, talking after all, offering both their information and life stories and what the laws are. I thought the film was very well produced and offered for all kinds of refreshing opinion even those of biased prejudices. Of course, horror stories exist in this universe from the beginning of time. But this documentary concentrated on the subject of a bride price of a particular people. It was precise and focussed. I thought it was superb to listen to the young girls' stories which had a newness as every abuse case is different. I liked it. I'm wondering why you wasted your time watching something that had zero benefit for you. You sound cynical and defeated about life and I'm glad that I see the world differently. Goodbye.
@omgitsdm
@omgitsdm 6 лет назад
TheWonderfulKushite I agree, I never take these European documentaries serious when the subject matter is on the African diaspora. The history of rape, colonialism, and destruction runs too deep. There is bound to be biased. Jewish don’t allow Germans to do this to them, African descendants shouldn’t allow their oppressors to either.
@dianantimane1885
@dianantimane1885 6 лет назад
this is biased documentary.. does it mean that all these men in Uganda are women beaters. in my country a bride price is not returned if you bore a child for that man
@MrMaria0991
@MrMaria0991 6 лет назад
@diana_mukushi this is not centred at all uganda men but some of them,this documentry is to create awareness and break the silence of bride price practised from ages ago and how it was structured before .....so i think its not biased but an eye opener for the world to see and learn of the many stories these beutifull ladies have went thru and to come out as survivors
@veekay9900
@veekay9900 6 лет назад
Again you are ignorant, women in the west are still beaten even without the bride price so its the attitude of the man not the bride price.
@stephenhume2865
@stephenhume2865 5 лет назад
This is still going on in NE Thailand in 2019 called a dowry ridiculous.
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
Dowries and bride price are different things really, but people use the two terms as they please. There are also deviations within either of two. Dowries are a certain sum of wealth given to the groom or the groom's family, by the bride's family, and bride price is typically the opposite.
@BloodRedLegend
@BloodRedLegend 11 лет назад
Agreed. I also find it funny how many people claim direct quotes from the Bible to be taken out of context whenever the book expresses things that seem backward, primitive or barbaric to people outside of their group.
@kutesamankajoan7888
@kutesamankajoan7888 4 года назад
Wow finally a documentary about my lovely country, seeing the different places makes me miss home.
@Anastasia2048
@Anastasia2048 4 года назад
Maybe if you're a man.
@kutesamankajoan7888
@kutesamankajoan7888 4 года назад
Now that I come to think of it... yeah
@rcmpgurl
@rcmpgurl 11 лет назад
i have learnt so much from this and would love to learn much more about this
@Katinka6413
@Katinka6413 10 лет назад
...and we in europe have no idea about what is happening over there! :(
@celiaasinor775
@celiaasinor775 8 лет назад
First thing first. I am deeply saddened. No person deserves to be force into a union against their personal wishes. No one should have to suffer domestic abuse. There is no exception nor excuse for this. Now, I understand the documentary's hopeful intentions of bringing the negative consequences to light, however, I believe that the information provided here is somewhat biased. These conditions are more likely to exist in low SES areas. Bride prices are usually intended to be gifts from the groom and groom's family to the bride. If I were to compare it to something more familiar, it would be a bridal shower. Both concepts being to provide the newly wed couple with items that are considered essential and necessary for marriage. The significance of a bride price is showing the bride's family that the person in question is mature and responsible enough to provide and take care of a home. In a traditional bride price list, the items could include clothes, religious books and doctrines, silverware, perfumes, food items, money etc. depending on the family. In other words, it is not a set price ( is can be extravagant or very practical). A bride price DOES NOT mean that the man has bought the bride. In a traditional marriage, even as the gifts and monetary items are given. Many parents, if not all, give advice to the couple. Both are advised to treat each other with tender love, care, and mutual respect. If these terms are not followed, the marriage can be dissolved. Unfortunately, those in the low SES are abused by this system. Either the parents may not want to dissolve the marriage due to finances or other reasons. A bad marriage is a bad marriage regardless of whether a bride price exist. Individuals with bad character do exist in this world. Please do not subject yourself to believe everything you see. Research multiple sources, including a variety of individuals in that culture and or similar cultures. Stay blessed!!
@tinakekana1744
@tinakekana1744 5 лет назад
Lobola doesnt gt refunded in South Africa..its a gift and not a requirement for customary marriage.
@hooriyaabbas7394
@hooriyaabbas7394 5 лет назад
Mifumi is the great project . Women are strong more than man's 👍👍
@anniek3580
@anniek3580 6 лет назад
This documentary is very misleading. Bride price is not the reason for spousal abuse. The practice is actually a token of respect to the woman's family. Woman cohabiting get beaten all the time and so do girlfriends by insecure men. What is the reason for that? That's the problem with letting Westerners interpret our cultures to prove a certain point.
@missme4038
@missme4038 5 лет назад
Annie Kutsawa that is not a westerner who is advocating for the women it is an African man ... I think if a man shows the family he has a stable business and home and support the wife that is the price he can greet them with gifts of respect there aren’t enough cows to pay for my daughter u would need a whole cattle farm plus some it can be like selling if done the wrong way
@miminanabeyaa2034
@miminanabeyaa2034 5 лет назад
Don't see how misleading this video is. Yes, it is through some women are being abused with or without bride price but in this case, these men are abusing their wives because they think they bought them from their families with their bride price. And I don't see how bride price symbolizes respect for the woman's family or the woman herself. To me, a man shows respect to a woman and her family if he comes forward to make the family know his intentions towards their daughter and treats her right whiles they are married not necessarily paying bride price.
@miminanabeyaa2034
@miminanabeyaa2034 5 лет назад
probably explaining the real meaning of the so-called bride price to these foolish men will help in a way..... "An abusive man will always be an abusive man with or without bride price, in the same way, a sensible man will remain sensible with or without bride price".
@ashleyburbank3129
@ashleyburbank3129 5 лет назад
I wonder to about parents who don't have good intentions for their children and don't look into their husbands to see what their reasons are or what kind of people they are! the second woman who talks about her stepmother and Step Brothers is a clear indicator that they wanted wealth and they sold it to whoever
@rubysbaby822
@rubysbaby822 4 года назад
It is a contributing factor for desperate poor people that are willing to let their daughters marry anyone that can pay.
@kweenkathy
@kweenkathy 6 лет назад
The skin on these women is gorgeous!!!
@sarahkamau9055
@sarahkamau9055 4 года назад
In central Kenya we normally have bride price bt not associated with domestic violence .
@candystayinaturalalexander5869
Education is priceless. A wife is priceless.
@AdaptaFilms
@AdaptaFilms 8 лет назад
I don't think dowry is wrong. Those are just bad men!
@sherene7
@sherene7 8 лет назад
And social positioning that cast a woman as property to be exchanged for goods is unethical and inhumane.
@ndolisabi4070
@ndolisabi4070 8 лет назад
Sherene Randle dowry is not equivalent to buying a woman as a property! what is described in the video is a result cultural corruption from capitalism that has infested and corrupted certain cultural practices. traditionally, dowry has a value of gift to the in-laws. in many cases, gifts are exchanged simultaneously or throughout time between the two families as a mean of fortifying family links.
@sherene7
@sherene7 8 лет назад
21:00 - 26:00
@jenniferpade7992
@jenniferpade7992 5 лет назад
If you support dowry then it is good that you get beaten up. Good for you. Women are now consultants, doctors, presidents, engineers. It is called development. The primitive past has passed. Let it go.
@jenniferpade7992
@jenniferpade7992 5 лет назад
Women work hard and pay your own dowry instead.
@cstotesberry572
@cstotesberry572 4 года назад
Tereza's daughter is so beautiful!!
@ghostucntcme
@ghostucntcme 4 года назад
My daughter of 2 year 8 months come home from nursery and said dad I want a boyfriend now I said who though you about boyfriend she said merit my teacher at school. When I complain to Southwark Social Service they call the police and they put me in a mental institution.
@nikki-j6v
@nikki-j6v Год назад
Women get your freedom. There is more much more than being married. Your own life is most precious.
@ANIMALSQUAD13
@ANIMALSQUAD13 8 лет назад
Why should"nt the parents repay the bride price? They are the ones who received it!
@jamaicancuisine1876
@jamaicancuisine1876 4 года назад
Sometimes you wonder why these countries go through so much disaster and hardship. These things are the reason!😓wickedness
@Ghanadiaries
@Ghanadiaries 2 года назад
Don't say what you don't know, lol.
@gratitude5740
@gratitude5740 6 лет назад
Beautiful summary! All truth nothing but the truth so help you God !
@MsJamilaaa
@MsJamilaaa 7 лет назад
Being born a woman in ANY culture has been creepy since history remembers. In India they believed if you became a widow- half of you died. If u were unlucky they'd kill u at the same time. If you were "lucky"- your hair is shaved and you are casted off to live of begging for the rest of your life. Christianity hasn't been too kind on women either throughout history- as a married woman all your property, including yourself- become property of the man, not to mention we have been the "punching bags" that have always stayed due to lack of options. There is no space on the RU-vid to continue, list is just endless!! And as we see- being a woman is still a struggle in a great deal of countries, we call it "emancipation" but is just more burdens on the woman who has to work as a man but still keeps the chores of a woman. I am so happy to give birth to a baby boy, and pray for an easy life for him. No matter the culture- being a woman simply sucks.
@MissCatherine1100
@MissCatherine1100 7 лет назад
You're leaving out the most obvious option. OPT OUT. No Children, No chores, No BS. Marry a man who supports your rights or don't marry at all. I lead a fabulous life, I do what I want, when I want and my awesome husband supports me emotionally. I have a career, we travel and live comfortably. Having children is not the be all end all. Having children is not necessary for anything.
@eileen1820
@eileen1820 7 лет назад
Reproduction isn't necessary for ANYTHING? Are you seriously suggesting humanity dies out bc your needs are [allegedly] met? There is something disturbing about what you said. Just sounds very narcissistic.
@MissCatherine1100
@MissCatherine1100 7 лет назад
Eileen D i'm pointing out the obvious. My dear mother did me this small favor when I was a little girl. She said, " Just because your body is capable of bearing children, do not think that it must. You can do anything you want." I knew at 16 that I never wanted children. it just seemed like a huge pain in the ass for no payoff. My body would get wrecked, my finances would be iffy.. no thanks. So what if it's narcissistic? Everyone behaves in a narcissistic manner! We all do what we think will make us the happiest. That is the best and most responsible way to live. Show me a person who birthed a child because they feared humanity would die out if they didn't, and I will show you a moron or a liar. As far a my needs "allegedly" being met, well, I'm lying on my bed looking out a window watching the sun set in the South Pacific. I just got off work from a job I love and my husband and I are going to Palawan, P.I. for our 14 year anniversary in a few weeks. Yeah, I may have fucked up by not having kids, huh? LOL
@MsJamilaaa
@MsJamilaaa 7 лет назад
Catherine Folkman Whitford totally agree! I am 31 and thought I was missing out by not having kids- this is something society claims we haaaave to do. The worst part- whatever my careers has taken me- irrelevant- it all reduces to nappies, breastfed and sleeplessness. If u think men will help- if ur husband is great like mine- he will do his very best- but at the end of the day- they are men and just don't understand many things! And the pain over every inch in ur body from childbirth- can't even describe it! And the amount of patience needed to get through every minute of the day? Is extremely difficult to be patient when u have Always been an independent person! forgive me- my baby is great and wouldn't send him back anywhere- but I am just being realistic about things. And on that note- totally agree- breeding should always be a choice!
@MissCatherine1100
@MissCatherine1100 7 лет назад
MsJamilaaa Thank you for being so honest! i wish more women would tell the truth about how hard motherhood is! I had a couple girlfriends who skirted around the issue and that was enough to keep me child free, I knew they wanted to say they'd made a mistake, but society doesn't let women say that a baby isn't the best thing in the whole wide world, that would makes us traitors or flawed or something. The patience you mention... yeah, I don't have that. Did not want to cultivate it, either. Thank you again. Truth about this matters. It's too important a topic. Parenthood is forever.
@kaarentamm6423
@kaarentamm6423 4 года назад
90 day fiance Benjamin needs to watch this
@eunicenjoki1890
@eunicenjoki1890 4 года назад
Very nice
@oaklandmade007
@oaklandmade007 2 года назад
😂I thought about him while watching this too 😂 he is probably still paying for her
@navneetmadhray9763
@navneetmadhray9763 8 лет назад
All Bride prices in all cultures is wrong. In India we also have dowry where the girl's family has to pay the Groom and his family for marrying the daughter. All in all there IS a commodity and that is the women. We are not seen as a living being deserving the same rights and respect as men, but as something to be bought or sold.
@emmaibn-talalikhwan2283
@emmaibn-talalikhwan2283 4 года назад
Thank you Justice Stephen Kavuma. A bride price, regardless of what is called is a gift. An abusive person, married or not, will always be abusive until he is ready or forced to change
@vinnettepope8255
@vinnettepope8255 4 года назад
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏for sharing this very interesting video on bride price 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
@savantianprince
@savantianprince 10 лет назад
similar to India's dowery from brides.
@everkabete6645
@everkabete6645 4 года назад
dowery and bride price are the same thing
@ositodraws
@ositodraws 4 года назад
ever kabete they’re actually the opposite as dowry is paid to the husbands family while bride price is to the wife’s
@unitarie
@unitarie 9 лет назад
Bride price is not controversial in Africa, it may be controversilal in the West, but a people have a choice on how they want to live their lives, that is the purpose of a democracy isn't it? It is arrogant for you to try to impose your ideologies on a people who have their own cherished lifestyle.
@tuforu4
@tuforu4 8 лет назад
+unitarie i was at a wedding in kenya and such a mess over bride price,.
@colinrichards662
@colinrichards662 6 лет назад
unitarie,I don't mean to be smart or funny against your comment but all i can say is you ask these young girls how they feel,what i have just seen in this video is just cruel and disgusting to me and a lot of other people...
@im_that_gurl2561
@im_that_gurl2561 6 лет назад
unitarie how ugly r u?? Is this the only way men in Africa can get a wife...smh
@neilnelmar8007
@neilnelmar8007 6 лет назад
shut your ugly mouth and stop insulting people
@mana6969
@mana6969 9 лет назад
The function is meant to show the importance and value of a woman in life. Women are the rulers of the Earth.
@mosesmakumbi2428
@mosesmakumbi2428 6 лет назад
In northern Uganda Lira there's no 'kwanjula' They are not Baganda, that means they have a way they call it, which you should have found out first.
@akirawashington3039
@akirawashington3039 9 лет назад
three cows and three goats for one girls life... shes ceily from the color purple. i didnt know this stuff was real. wow man. ignorance is bliss.
@nellmccue869
@nellmccue869 5 лет назад
akira washington hn
@AnesuDew
@AnesuDew 11 лет назад
when she smiles at 10:55 its soo beautiful :)))
@josephschuster1494
@josephschuster1494 Год назад
The creation of women is a gift from God and should be regarded as such. Women rock! 🌝
@phindabuyeye2407
@phindabuyeye2407 6 лет назад
The law must allow the abused women to leave with their children. They cannot be stripped off dignity and affection and their children too. The human right lawyers should also fight for the custody of the children, these women didnt do anything wrong yet they have to go through the torment of losing their children too
@Chiyevo
@Chiyevo 10 лет назад
As far as I can see here these are issues of uneducated women who sometimes cling on when the men are fed up. What they need is to be empowered & taught self esteem nothing to do with bride price
@lukhelesibisi4061
@lukhelesibisi4061 5 лет назад
It's sad to see how poverty makes people distort their own culture
@Fourfingerssixtoes
@Fourfingerssixtoes 4 года назад
Glad to see someone has done enough research to understand how this isn't just about "cruel men hitting their objectified wives".
@brandondavis8841
@brandondavis8841 4 года назад
Im dating a Nigerian and never heard of this until she told me now im doing research on it. Ill pay the price on a symbolic level of gesture
@HolyDeathVoodooQueenDarkOne
@HolyDeathVoodooQueenDarkOne 4 года назад
This is just a fancy way of dressing up modern day slavery
@YisraelsRedemption
@YisraelsRedemption 6 лет назад
This was practiced by Europeans too. I’ve read too many old books about European dowry requirements for expectant brides, historically.
@rosemariemiles3763
@rosemariemiles3763 9 лет назад
Time for women to Educate themselves and stop depending on men Those men don't know the value of a woman. They need Jesus ..
@Allrandom42
@Allrandom42 8 лет назад
You are right
@starrlite2032
@starrlite2032 6 лет назад
Rosemarie Miles ... in the case of the vid. Those girls only "choice" is to depend on their husbands, as well being "unable" to afford school, which he does not want her to anyway. One man said he married his wife very young so he could raise her up the way "he" wanted her. Sick!! Those girls married are "children" with no charge over their lives. So sad.
@CaramelCoated41
@CaramelCoated41 11 лет назад
Stay strong, my sisters of Uganda!! Change is Inevitable. One day your value will not be determined by such atrocities known as a bride price but instead as the beautiful, strong HUMAN BEINGS that you are. No price can or will ever be placed on what the The Most High God has created in you..peace
@patriciafoster784
@patriciafoster784 4 года назад
These women are so pretty and deserve a life..
@MillennialMountainMama
@MillennialMountainMama 4 года назад
Bride price is the equivalent of human trafficking in my opinion. I am a survivor of child sex trafficking and a victim of long term severe domestic violence and abuse. This documentary has shed light to why so many African men are extremely sexist and abusive. African culture is beautiful though. I am mixed race/biracial and my mother’s side of the family are European/American and my father’s side of the family is Trinidadian/African. Thank you for making this documentary. 🙏
@Ghanadiaries
@Ghanadiaries 2 года назад
How can you call a whole race abusive and sexist? How many African countries have you visited? How many Africans have you encountered? Y'all need to stop looking down on Africans, it's really annoying and ignorant.
@Naadirahp
@Naadirahp Год назад
Oh shush u know nothing
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