Stop being blind and identify the things that you find are an issue, instead of burying your head in other things. Self examination is key to an extent, but changing your behavior based on RECOGNIZING the issues is more important.
@Hunter Hall who said anything about taking control of everything? that's crazy talk. so is the "let god deal with it" mentality. it's too easy of an excuse to allow lazy people to just ride life and let others compensate for their slack. as I said, self examination is key TO AN EXTENT. you can't expect to know everything and account for everything. and you can't sit there and think all the time either. this is why i said, recognizing issues, and reacting to those, is more important. that's how you change behavior and situations. i'm not gonna keep talking in circles here though, because i'm just restating what I stated.
Any successful combat vet that suffers daily with PTS can tell you to do a few things if you're feeling in a rut or depressed. 1. Have you eaten today, a good healthy meal 2. Have you gone outside today? 3. Have you talked to someone supportive of you 4. Have you completed any tasks small or big 5. Have you helped yourself/encouraged yourself
Good points. PTSD is an anxiety condition (not a separate condition despite what we are told) and requires daily structure along with use of creative intellect.
This is why it's good to seek out other self help sources along with Jocko podcasts. Sometimes you need some extra advice in how to overcome your problem.
It's funny, I learned that saying 5yrs ago and live by it but I can't help but notice the richest people I know do everything the easiest and simplest way🤔
I was in a decade long rut. Yeah, a decade. Went through drugs etc and hated life. One day I went to jail which wasn't uncommon and realized why am I doing this?. Getting sober and fixing myself can't be worse than this. So I changed. Started college which I still struggle to stay motivated with but I keep going. Always forward
I am proud of you bro. Life is hard and it tough to believe that something could actually change after being stuck …but keep grinding man you ain’t alone
@@GoldenMushroom64horrible info. My Brother is a Senior Manager for a huge corp and has 5 felonies. He simply had to write a letter of intent explaining the situation (extremely nerve-racking). 20 years ago maybe but the world is different and desperate for real leaders. Everyone is afraid of responsibility over people.
I was in a rut from the summer of 2018 to about December 2019, felt like I pretty much wasted that year of my life. Moved out of my parents house last month & now pursuing my grad program full force.
So...not sure if you have seen it or not, but Jocko has a short excerpt video titled "How to Crush College". I use it to help teach my high school students. It helped me recently during my undergraduate work. It definitely puts the voice 8n your head to stay motivated in any type of school. I highly recommend it!
Jocko’s last sentence was key here: “take ownership of ‘em [problems], *and look what you can do different.* ” Blaming yourself for your problems won’t fix anything on its own. You then need to work out what you need to do different, and then you need to make yourself do it. I am fine with the first step, okay with the second, and struggle badly with the third. Breaking habits is hard.
Jocko, because of your motivation speeches and your podcasts. I have beaten my stress, anxiety, and fear. Which has put me in a road to success because of discipline. I'm currently in the process with law enforcement. Everytime I run a 5k and want to stop, I just think to myself "what would jocko say". Then I push myself to finish. Honestly, if it wasn't for your advice and wisdom. I most likely would be in a path of failure. Thank you man! Your my inspiration.😊👍😎
Echo and jockos relationship is like yen yang, echo gives a softer aspect to the intensity that jocko spews, also. NOTE TO SELF, do not invite jocko to watch the ufc fight.
Echo believes in many of Jocko's views, and can answer plenty of these questions himself, that makes it all the better to watch the respect of each other's role play out to create such a great podcast.
Any time I'm feeling down or lost I always come back to these videos. Jocko has helped me overcome so much with his words of wisdom and has taught me life lessons that my father should have. Thank you Jocko and Echo!
There is no one on Planet Earth and beyond that I would rather listen to, to hone my leadership skills and/or life skills. Jocko, this country is so lucky and blessed to have had you on our side. You are an absolute wealth of information and there is not a better role model anywhere. All I can do is thank you so much for all you've given our Country, and so many of us, individually. I had a really tough day yesterday and lost my cool at my son and others. All of your videos I've watched have ran through my head on loop, and today I have to implement those lessons of humility and correct my actions as well as apologize. Thank you for the direction, Jocko!
Just a huge thank you for these podcasts - for taking the time to film, answer people’s questions, which are often very relatable, and sharing the knowledge for the betterment of ourselves (which will lead to a better collective) It’s just awesome and slowly, day by day, changing my (our) life for better
How do you push yourself through the uncomfortable times when it’s so easy to just sit back and let life happen to you. I used to be extremely motivated and driven and in the past year or two that fire within me has really dwindled. I am a veterinary medicine student, and the amount of information we are given to learn is really overwhelming. So much so that I feel I have began to lose sight of why I worked hard to get here in the first place. It’s so difficult to keep pushing through the workload each day. I know that being a veterinarian is what I want for my career, but it’s difficult to keep my goal in sight when dealing with the daily overwhelming volume of information and to also keep other aspects of my life balanced simultaneously.
You gotta keep pushing. Don't forget how far you have come, to stumble now will keep pushing the finish line further away. I am in a similar situation and have been stagnant for 3 years, I can see how this will go if I don't take the reins. Nobody will lose sleep if you drop out or fail. Your failures will be used by feeble minded people to make themselves feel better and to put you in your place. Take a short break as soon as you reasonably can and use it to regather your focus and energy. And remember the reality that you are where you chose to be and also the fact that if it was easy then everyone would do it! So don't aim for passing grades, a great career will be easier to attain if you are recruited before you leave because you are part of the top tier. Good luck, be at peace with your decisions, it's on your head nobody else's
To the brothers who are going through a rut. It will come, or is currently happening. Just to remind us that it's part of the journey. A rut is what it is, a time where it feels overwhelming or just plain sucks. Powering through do work at times, but the rut will overwhelm it eventually. I personally have no explanation for this. Embrace the rut. Own it. Acknowledge it and learn from it. You are here because of what you did somewhere along the journey. And the variable varies from a person to the other. These are those days where introspection and retrospection is greatly needed. Don't break yourself taking it all at once. I've done this too many times to not learn my lesson. One block at a time. One matter at a time. You want this right? I can see that you are handling things alright, but the rut is here to help you sort out what works and acknowledge your work/play rhythm. I really wish you both get what you want and score it big in all areas that matters to you both. As Jocko once said, "Success and Failure is a slow process." If we ain't building, it's the latter.
Just know that this is a couple years out of your life(finishing school)...you push through these couple years and it sets up the next 70 years for you. If you drop out now or veer off your path, you'll spend the next 70 years regretting your decision to not push through a measly couple years.
@duhitstime I do not doubt your sincerity regarding the Difficulty of the workload, or your feelings of being a bit Overwhelmed by it all. All I can tell you is this: Be *Thankful* You have a Goal. That goal is your proverbial "Light at the End of the Tunnel", it is Not some endless corridor, and however daunting the volume of knowledge currently Seems or Is... It will not remain that way. You Can push through, and You will Achieve Your Goal. You have Purpose, be *Thankful* of that. SO Many others would give away Everything they posses, just to have Purpose. You got this, my friend. 👊💥!! Cheers🍻!
I don't have your level of education, but when I was in college I kept a mental picture of my degree foremost in my mind and challenged myself to graduate with honors. In my personal life I parsed my absolute tasks to 3 things and everything else could wait. School is full of deadlines and I work well under deadlines. Good luck and God bless.
I definitely had a hard time recently at work. I was driving for FEDEX express In California. I arrived at a on call pick up and as I exited my truck I saw a man who had a gun shot wound to the leg and no one was helping him so rand over to him An dragged his body out of the gutter and started working on him to stop the bleeding. I had served in the Marine corps and felt confident in helping this man. I usually carrying a tourniquet in my truck in case I get hurt or someone else however I was able to stop bleeding with out one till LAFD arrived with one I was able to control with shoving my knee into his pelvic area and used a towel as pressure of the wound.I stayed awake all night last Friday wondering how I could have been better and I felt Iike the only thing that beat me up was I felt I was complacent by not having a tourniquet with me so I ordered 3 more that night to carry in my bag from now on including chest seals/gauz/Israeli bandages. But I had the knowledge to fix this guy but I got to comfortable aka complacent in life. But anyways I felt like I owned my mistake by not having equipment that day now having ordered more gear I feel like I can now stop thinking about this and move forward and be better prepared for the next time I hope never happens...btw These podcast really help me think of better ways to understand my faults and how to grow from mistakes past and present so thank you echo and jocko for the effort and hard work you guys put in for us!
Errah brother. I felt complacent and lost after ending my service with the Marines and it slowly took a toll on my psychi. Now im in the Army amongst a lot of other prior service Marines.
You were more prepared than most -- many would panic or just call 911 and have no ability to assist. Sounds like your nature is to be prepared so the part of your psyche that is criticizing your "errors of complacency" is probably just a *healthy response* reflecting your more aware nature. Don't be so hard on yourself personally, use those voices of judgment to take more action if they are reasonable (prepare your ideal med kit and start carving the habit of bringing it with you -- ironically I've been thinking about this very action for my own car the last few weeks and still haven't done the actual list and assembly). If you're struggling with persistent "guilt", treat the voice of guilt like its a separate member of a council addressing its concerns and just acknowledge it with a simple "yes, I can be more prepared" and take action. If that doesn't help, maybe there is a deeper issue like too much residual stress in the nervous system, in that case turn off the "fight or flight" dominant side thru some exercise followed by deep breathing or breath-focused meditation. Hope this helps in some small way, sounds like a crazy story and I feel minor stress just imagining the adrenal load you must have had staying up that whole night after dealing with that sh*t 😬
By the way one of the best advice I’ve gotten was from this clip, look at what’s going wrong and take responsibility opens up the mind to where now you gotta figure things out and hopefully fix it. Changed my life I’m gonna practice this till the day I die. I also am more easy to let go of mistakes cause now I’ve learnt from them and it wasn’t just another mistake, thank you for that
as you would say....."good" love that, because your next line would be "Get up ! Dust off "recalibrate, reload, re...engage ! it's been a while since listening to you Jocko, I came here because i was able to relate to the title, then i remembered........thank you 💪
The lesson is: Do what I AM ABLE TO DO to help make things better in whatever situation I'm in that I HATE and STAY 150% on doing whatever I can and am able to. Move forward from there. Do my best to make things enjoyable for myself, have fun and laugh about things. Embrace the fun side. Make things to do fun for myself.
Ive been listening to Jocko for a month, and I decoded to change my life little by little. I decided to start exercising and get the goal I want. Thank you @Jocko for showing me a new perspective
I think extreme ownership is also comprehensive ownership. You don't just accept responsibility for whats happened, you also have to take ownership of the solution. Always getting up when life knocks you down is good. But it only takes you so far.
This truth is ancient. Always be honest with yourself and willing to see your part and make changes. The truth will set you free. It will free you from yourself.
This video helped me because it made me look at recent situations that were out of my control and dig deep to find what I could have done differently and also how to handle it going forward. Thanks.
Since i started listening and taking to heart the lessons you guys teach and the way you view life i haven't become more successful or better in what i do, but god knows I've gotten off my ass and stopped feeling sorry for myself in the event that life isn't going my way. Young people desperately need to hear these truths. Thank you
"I am stuck in a prolonged period..." It was a dreary rainy night rolling through St Louis when it finally clicked. Was listening to Robbins explain his concept of asking our brain questions, which no matter the question, he boiled it down to HOW we evaluate situations determines the nature of the question we ask. It became so clear at that point and I immediately began to see just HOW I was self sabotaging myself. Ask the wrong question and get access to certain chemistry associated with the question. Chemistry that leads to certain emotions, and three distinct physical patterns: body language, thoughts/focus, speech. Basically a loop/neuro pathway/ belief. Love how Jocko gets hyper aggressive in the beginning. He sees the question being asked.
Walked away from my job in corporate America last year to get control of my life and be a dad. Thanks for the content, great lessons can be found here.
My experience with this was not getting a new job, motivation and the fire was burning low. My girlfriends fire however was red hot and passed some over in which I now have a job I love and back on track. Sometimes it just takes someone who can support you while you’re in the rut.
I like how Jocko wasn’t familiar and doesn’t practice stoicism. The ideas and ideals he teaches or talks about in his videos he’s a stoic without even realizing it. Control and own what you can control, and don’t worry and stress about what’s out of your control. You can’t control other people you can only control your own actions.
Jocko Willink enjoying your book I bought on 2 -13 and your comical humor 3:34 - 39 and it wasn't 390 The Beverly Hills Polo broken sunglasses and towel on ground near American flag is what dawned on me. Jocko and Echo God bless your podcast
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church....a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes." - Charles Swindoll
I feel like I’ve been in a rut for a while. Mostly in the gym. I loved the gym and pushed so hard for about a year straight, I’m still going hard but not as hard, in the last 4 months or so I haven’t made much progress, feel like I’m in a rut and don’t know how to get that love back for the gym
Yes this correct. Youre in a rut bc you have a few problems to solve to get back into a winning position. Life does suck when youre in a rut bc of real reasons. Probably, high stress and deficient is time, space, money, fun, play. These things take problem solving to achieve. Have to set your mind up to be able to work again by putting yourself in a good position. Gut it out, make some money, get ahead of bills, have some solid fun, enjoy life your way, then your mind will be at peace again.
What's interesting to me about this is that he talks about a dimension of where he's not stuck. Time management is certainly a place that you can get stuck but it's far from the only one. Social limits and technical limitations come to mind immediately. Trying to highlight strengths is great but where you really need to look is weaknesses.
IT is usually easy to answer the questions of who, when, when, and where. It is really the why and how of things that can be challenging. Always ask the why and how and be real intentional and brutally honest with the how and why of fixing it. The rest that you truly can not control you have to let go. And in reality, there are an infinite number of things in this world for which an individual has absolutely no control over. But yes, you can learn to control your response and teach yourself not to react.
We can’t take responsibility for many things that happen to us-however we must accept it and let go and learn from it. Also, when we live according to our purpose and truth then we will be in the flow of blessing.
thanks for the video! everyone gets stuck in ruts, this is why you must be aware and realize you're just victimizing yourself and to get out of the rut you must take ownership like jocko says and keep pushing forward!!
My last 18 years have been spent keeping alive network equipment. It's always my fault, I always have ownership, and you must fix it asap. I love what you say Jocko because it's all true. Really enjoying your content.
Has Jocko ever mentioned Stephen Coveys 7 Habits of highly effective people? His points on taking ownership on how you respond/react to things you have no control over is mentioned in that book. Good stuff.
When you take ownership of an issue, you take responsibility for fixing it and finding a solution. When you do resolve the item, you get all of the satisfaction and glory that comes with it. You don’t have to share that with anyone. You need to thank those who helped you along the way but you get all of the honor. And no one can ever take that from you.
@ 4:08 Goddamn. AS You said Those words... I was literally thinking about My own, nearly *Identical* , experience. She battled Depression and Bi-polar Disorder all her life, she died from an opiate overdose, and so on. Everything you said after that is 100% True. It IS how we respond to the Tragedy. I *wish* I could say that I've *Responded* as I should have. I *WISH* I could tell ya that at the time I had the wisdom and fortitude to React in a healthy manner that would benefit My own life moving forward. I am fully aware that no one else is to Blame for My Failure to respond accordingly. So understand I do Not offer this up as any kind of legitimate Excuse for my many missteps since. I'm *still* here. I'm only say'n... It IS Really Fuck'n Hard.
Epic video, much respect and appreciation.. there has to be a course made in university so professor Jocko W. may help folks learn to live morally honest.
So Im going to start trying, right now I'm planning to get a set sleep schedule, basic exercise, and enriching my diet. I'm planning a 10pm to 6am routine, exercise for 15 minutes when I get up and 15 just before 11am. I'm going to eat at least two entrees a day(I have no appetite at all, I'll go DAYS barely eating) once I can keep those things up consistently I'll amp it up. I'm not ready to give up alcohol cigarettes weed or masturbating excessively yet, but Im gonna at least get a foothold on my momentum. I already set my alarms to do these things and I wake up at 6 tomorrow morning. Im putting it in writing here so there are witnesses and so I'm even more accountable
Gday mate, Off topic question.. How many pull ups do you do abd how often? I do them 5-6 days per week, 3 sets of 8 in the morning (with other exercises) then same again in the arvo. Is that too often? Cheers mate
I just heard of this guy and watched his pod with Joe Rogan from a little over 4 years ago. His demeanor and disposition in that discussion were far more appealing than in this one.
I was in a running rut so I signed up for a 100 mile race that is in October so I have time but if I want to get that belt buckle I better get the fuck after it.
Jocko, the key here is patience...perseverance, chill...somerimes, i think, we have to recognize that not everything IS in our control, patience, like they say in hebrew....הכל יהיה בסדר
