I feel ashamed for feeling this during these past months MONTHS, and having breakdowns every other day, just because I couldn't forgive myself for the things I didn't become.
Kinda wanted to cry hearing her say "it's okay not to know everything". I'm only 21 this year, but I'm also ALREADY 21. I spent a few years chasing something I thought I wanted but I'm not so sure anymore, and all the pressure from society is definitely not helping. For anyone reading this, I hope you give yourself a minute to breathe and take care of your heart and soul 💜
age is very much like glass half full or half empty 😉 you're entering arguably the best decade of your life-don't forget to have fun, play, and laugh endlessly along the way!!
Hey Chloe! I feel you. I'm 22 and I realized this year that I've been on the wrong path for the past, I don't know, four to six years. I even got a bachelor's degree which now feels I've done in vain. At the beginning of 2021, I felt like, I'm already 21 (at the time) - I cannot change paths anymore. I've invested too much time into this one. This is it. But honestly: It isn't. There are people changing path when they are 25, 29, 32, 40 years old. It is never too late to start something new. And looking at it that way, you are only 21 years old. You have so much life ahead of you. Now is the easiest time to switch paths, try something new. I think we always believe that everybody around us is following life in a straight line but there are so many people zigzagging around in life. I've switched paths now. I will start studying a new subject in October and I feel beyond excited about it. So I encourage you: Trying and taking risks is always worth it :)
im 24, i spent my entire life chasing a dream i thought was mine - it was my parents. and then i found mine at 23, and now im having ot backtrack and start over again. but its okay, things take time, some people start again at 31, some even at 40, and its okay. and the thing to remember is youre not starting over from scratch - you bring with you everything youve learned and the experiences that made you strong. :)
@@Emma-ic9kv Hi Emma, thank goodness I came back to watch this video again, or else I would have completely missed your reply! Ugh I completely understand what you mean about having invested too much time on one thing. It's scary to have to be brutally honest with ourselves, accept that the current isn't working anymore and try to figure it all out again (not that we had our lives all figured out previously, but I'm guessing you had a relatively clear view of your path ahead some time before the realisation hit). I too have to constantly remind myself that other people have also gone through/ could be going through huge life changes as well, and that there is no 'deadline' for us to meet- e.g., being too late and having to start working asap/ be successful at a certain age, etc. etc. It's all just an illusion that society is trying to drill into our heads. Thank you for telling me your story, I feel a little less anxious about life now 💜 And kudos to you for making that huge jump, that must have taken a lot of courage! I'm so incredibly happy for you, I truly hope this new chapter in your life is going to be amazing ✨ - Chloe
@@dianabanana08 Hey Diana, I'm so glad to hear that you've discovered your dreams! It is so true that at the end of the day, our unique experiences only help shape us to who we are today :) Thank you for the little nugget of wisdom 🌱 - Chloe
When I stopped feeling guilty after resting for a longer period of time, that was a game changer for me. It sounds crazy but we don't even realize that we often overwork ourselves. When living in such a fast paced times, the hustle culture and all that jazz it may feel like we are behind but that's not true.
couldn't agree more 💘 I was playing coin pushing games @ Dave & Busters a few months ago when I realized that was the first time I was out enjoying myself without feeling the need to be working or that I'm "falling behind" because I'm not being "productive" 🥲
I've been internally and externally crying for a few days now because I can't even manage to get up and brush my teeth.. I can say I need this video. Plus I have to go under a surgery, I'm so stress I can't do the simplest things
You are doing amazing with what you have to work with sweetheart! It will always be there! Take care of you! You’ve got this! I’m also sending good vibes to not just you but any medical personnel you see that they will be efficient and quick and that everything will go well! 💛 If you can, please go drink some water! 💛 you’re gonna do great!
@@beelzebabe5112 I really appreciate your comment 🥺✨ Thank you for thinking about the medical personnel too , they go through a lot of stress too . I drank water thank you 🎈🤍
As I sit here mindlessly scrolling on RU-vid lol. My kitchen is a mess but I just can't do it. I'm gonna go have breakfast and then go for a swim. The kitchen will be clean eventually...
I dunno but as a 17 year old it feels like compared to older generations, life really rushed at us, like you had to be on job by the age of 14 if u wanna be anywhere once you’re 18, cuz u feel like that sets you up for your 20s and 30s, but then feel like we are also slowly forgetting how to be kids and just enjoy life without mad anxiety.
Me at 21 still feeling this. Feeling like I want to do sooo much before I’m 30. Seeing women continuing to do great things even in their 30s has made me feel a tad bit better. Trying to ‘act my age’ and not older like I have been all my life 😭
That's kinda strange I had my first job at 19 after I finished 6th form (from the uk) working in that job for 2 years, then I decided to go college for 5 years, best decision now I gotta find a job x
I'm burning out while watching this video. I feel ashamed for not being productive as people at my age (20's). I don't have a job, I'm not doing great at college [...] I hope someday I find some peace of mind.
I was feeling nothing, emotionless last week. I could not feel anything even the excitement doing things I enjoyed. It was truly burdening to the point crying without reason. Somehow I feel pathetic to myself. Thanks Rowena for this, for saying it’s completely okay to be potato. It’s okay to not doing anything, and taking rest 🤍🤍
i think we (this is me) have this problem of sitting down and asking ourselves what we really want is because we're afraid the answer might be nothing which does NOT coincide with society. last year i realized all my career and life goals (outside of genuine happiness) are things i made up so i can spend my time least miserably as possible on earth lol. i truly wish to do nothing but be happy and have everyone around me & world happy. like at my core, i just wanna vibe. i saw this quote the other day that we are the only life on earth that has these goals and benchmarks. we are simply here to experience what life gives and move on. obviously i get disillusioned and let myself mostly be stressed out about not being where i should be in life & living in the rat race of society but it's nice to know my core and when i remember to, i actively try to step back & experience
beautifully stated! needed to read this. This is how i feel as well, I just want to vibe. My "goals" are to make money to live and be happy. At my core Idgaf about the rat race/success hamster wheel either. People think I'm crazy when I don't have a "5 year plan", I'm just trying to get through the week tbh
I've been doing nothing for almost a month after a year of grinding in the new normal scheme of teaching. It happened for the first time. At first, I didn't know how to handle it yet eventually, I gave in and rested. Now, weeks after, I'm slowly working to get back to the groove.
Cried at the last part where you said, “You’re doing great, sweetie!” because it just feels like I have never heard that in months despite working so hard and feeling overwhelmed and feeling like I have to carry the weight of the damn world. Thank you.
i legit cried immediately as you said "we seldom take the time to go inward and ask ourselves: what do you want and who do you want to be? what's important to you?" 😭💖 thank you for this video!
When you asked about “Who do you want to be? What do you want to do?”, I was already thinking if it's possible to ask what if the answer to that is ‘I don't know’. …That's why I was so surprised when you followed it up with “and if your answer is I don't know, that's okay” that I ended up tearing up so much 🙃. Thank you very much, Rowena… :')
The reason why I subscribed to you was because I wanted to get my life together. You really felt like a big sister to me because of all of your tips and advice. Recently, I've been going through a tough time and I just think it's so timely that you posted this and I felt like you were really speaking to me while watching this video. Thank you so much for this you have no idea how light you just made my heart feel.
😭 thankful to have the sweetest little sister. so glad to hear you're heart's feeling lighter-I hope you'll continue to feel this way in the coming weeks and months. :') sending you the biggest virtual bear hug!! you're amazing and so so appreciated.
I also recognize a lot of people who are younger than me and are in their teens doing internships/research earlier than I was when I was their age sometimes made me feel like a failure that I didn't start as early as well or that I am not enough. It took a while to recognize that I have my own life and narrative and no two lives are ever the same. Also, it may also be the fact that society and the economy had become more competitive and harder so kids younger than I have to work even harder. Similar to the fact that boomers will always have it easier than me a millennial, it'll probably be even harder for gen z.
Are you a secret spy Rowena?!! Damn, you know exactly what I'm going through and in need of this freaking video to get my ass out. Not just this time but every time :') Its me coming clueless on RU-vid and getting back with ur words of wisdom. Thanks guurrrlllll
as a younger viewer i relate to what you said at the end a lot. even right now during summer break, i find myself trying to be productive and get my life together and it's adding so much unnecessary stress. i've been spending most of my time watching kdramas and when i look at the clock i realize i didn't do anything productive so i beat myself up for it. thank you for this video. it helped me realize that i don't need to be productive all the time and that taking a rest is not a waste of time :))
I do try and get enough rest, but almost always this consists of time spend on my phone while laying down. Thanks for this reminder to put away my tech and deep rest without it! I'm gonna do that now!!
1. Be intentional with your resting. Rest deeply when you do rest. 2. Stay away from tech! While resting. 3. Set the environment to help you rest deeply 4. Go with the flow during the rest. Don't just check off more tasks during rest time. Do something random and fun like an unboxing. BE HAPPY. Be spontaneous. 5. Resting is important to grow spiritually and mentally. Be bored, will lead to creativity. 6. It's important to be productive but it's more important to take good care of yourself. You're doing great! Smile :)
I feel this way right now and my mantra is " make an effort", I say this a couple of times whenever I do not have any motivation to do what I am suppose to do.
Rowena, I’d love to hear your thoughts on “Can’t Even: how Millennials became the Burnout Generation” bc from this vid’s ending I think it would really really resonate with you and your viewers/potatoes!
the heart to heart talk towards the end made me cry up so bad. i needed to hear that, that it's okay to feel this way and that i'm still doing great. the past few weeks have been very stressful. i feel very unmotivated and I'm so ashamed of myself yet i cant do anything about it. thank you Rowena, you are a lifesaver.
Useful tip: add minimums to your day that are extremely easy. For example, doing work/schoolwork for just 10 minutes. If you find you want to keep going after 10 minutes, go ahead. If you do not want to keep going, that is ok as well. Most of the times, you will want to continue doing your work (until you need rest - 30-50 minutes). At times, the hardest part is to start your task, not maintaining the task. Good day :)
I've spent the last week of Eid break being horizontal and useless, and this came just in time for school tomorrow when I have to be productive and on top of my shiz again. Thanks ro!!
you know what this means.. commit to your last day of being horizontal!! 😜 if being horizontal helps you recharge and be more productive, it can be very very useful hehe
@@rowena sista can you give me some advices ! I'm trying to heal my messy childhood traumas and a lot of things popped up.. I'm dealing with a lot of responsibilities; family, college, pressured to find a job, clean the house and cock ( like not a normal clnng.. literally I got no energy left or time or brain cells to think in the end of day ) and choosing a career that i truly wants not what my ( narc mom wants..) And figuring myslf out ..but all I want is SLEEP. She drains me. I'm burned out since a loong time with a panda purple circles only in my 22 yrs and I wanna do a PAUSE and run away to a jungle just to have some peace. ( I'm a Sagittarian like uuu so maybe you can understand me! 🌸) I don't knw what to dooo i wanna have fuun and try thiings ( I never was aloud to make mistakes.I was numb. A robot doing what they order me to ) and get to new experiences nd spread myslf ( I'm hungry for life hh ) but i'm tooo TIRED and lost . I become socially anxious with no frnds or even a support family members. And I'm not ready to face all the social LYING and having a Career That I might regret it later of mischoosing... So any advice pleaase sis help !
this video was very much needed I personally have very much work(academic) to do but I spend my days doing nothing and then panic later, I don't know I just feel burned out all the time I'm tired of doing nothing with my life🤷
Girl, yesssss.... I just recently had the same self discovery about putting all my “eggs” into the deep working must do something for my future basket. Been doing this sabotaging mindset since 13 and now in my late 20s am facing the need to change my approach to life. :)
I've gone through so many life changes and feel like no matter where am at your videos always seem to be what I need to hear at that moment. As a twenty something year old I'm still figuring it out and you remind me that it's okay to still be doing that. Thank you Rowena ♥️
i started watching self help videos back in 2019 at the age of 17; some videos where titled ‚things i learned in my 20s‘ or ‚7 things i learned at 27‘ and that was the point where i realised how young i still was and how it’s okay to not rush, to take time and not force healing as most people start their selflove journey as adults. that’s when i realised that my inner child is still there, as i still was a child.
The timing of this video and this message really couldn’t have been more perfect for me and where I’m at physically/mentally. 💖Sometimes hearing things from strangers can be more meaningful than hearing it from someone you love.
I've been working 2 jobs while taking a couple summer classes and I honestly feel like I've just hit a wall. I've had two very needed days off but I literally couldn't get off the couch and just scrolled through RU-vid shorts for hours. Very looking forward to trying this technique and rejuvenating myself.
This was absolutely beautiful and well-said. So many videos feel so artificial, I felt like I resonated not just with how you acted/approached deep rest, but the mentality of the world we live in. Thank you
oh my gosh! this is me for like moooooonths after I got COVID. I was really productive then and now I'm just hating/upset with things but not lashing out then not wanting do things. But so glad that we have this space with shared experiences. Thanks Ro!
Ty for this reminder :). I’m sure other young viewers can relate (esp us rising seniors...) about feeling like we need to be doing everything during the summer, need to be productive at all times, need to be doing things like research and internships and organizations, etc. And while getting involved in these things can be super valuable, especially if you’re interested in what you’re doing, I think it becomes an issue when we start feeling guilty just for taking a break... this video was a great reminder that it’s okay and actually beneficial to simply rest, reflect, and recharge. And I definitely need to do more tech free breaks!
You're a great guide to me I never really talk to anyone like this but really here on your yt Chanel I found my peace of mind n even if you don't know but you spark Positive energy watching you is itself like a relaxing therapy to me frankly whenever I feel like why do I feel emotions good ones bad ones or don't feel like feeling anything I rush myself in here thank you so much n plz don't ever stop making vdo's just keep doing what you do ❤️
I just finished my semester and immediately, I got sick. But my mind told me to look and apply for work and internships because it's summer break. And every day, I remind myself that I need to seek financial independence since I've been in university for far too long than what's expected (by my family and society lol). It eventually became exhausting and frustrating, and I think that's why I am still sick. This video came at such a good time for me. Heck, right before I watched this one, I submitted my nth job application. Thank you for the precious reminder, Rowena. Definitely woke me up.
every time i open a new video of yours i squeal and clench my fist out of excitement. and i didn't realise it until my partner pointed it out... just goes to show how much i appreciate and love you!!
I just recently graduated from high school and am soon to be in college and now on break, this is absolutely what I just need. I have been feeling like I'm not doing anything and wanting to do something but at the same time not feeling like doing anything during break.
Rownea I love your videos and they help me to become a more self awareness person. I want to accept that I do not know who I am yet. I want to start being a hard worker and take good care of myself. I been feeling depressed lately and want to start being more creative:)
Man, I really needed to hear this. Deep rest is something that I've struggled with for so long and it's taken some time to break away from the thought of my self-worth is tied to my productivity when instead it should never be conditional. Thanks for the reminder T-T
i'm watching this video on the perfect day. I've given myself the whole day as a rest day. No tasks to complete, nothing I need to accomplish. Part of my rest is allowing myself to watch the RU-vid videos that I've saved to watch later without having any guilt. i often feel like i'm not worthy unless i'm being productive. That blue dress looks beautiful on you 😍i think sky blue is your colour
I left this video's tab open for like 5 weeks. Been feeling kinda down lately for not "constantly chasing my dreams"...😩 . ...Tonight I decided to close some tabs and RANDOMLY chose to watch the last 2 minutes of this video. Thanks (present) Rowena....lol this made me feel better and a little more positive! 😁😊😊
This motivated me to get up and clean something in my room. It’s been weeks, and I really love to have my room all tidy and cute, but I just didn’t want to do anything. I only cleaned my desk for now, I’ll try to do something else, but honestly even if I don’t do much more, I already feel a little bit better. :)
dude, maam tsai, i cannot thank u enough for ur words at the end. i teared up and i rlly needed to hear those words :((((( thank u, i hope u'll continue touching everyone's hearts around here
I am a high school student and I would like to thank you for waking me up from this stuck up life where I would blame myself for a moment of relaxation. I don't feel like I deserved to relax cause I have a lot of works and I want to achieve my dream. And it scares me to just sit there without doing anything. I'm glad I found you :))
I've never related so much to a youtuber, ever! The way you talked, the things you talked about, it was so relatable. Found a Doppelganger, gonna stick with this channel :)
whenever i feel stressed, i just kick back and watch rowena tell me everything is fine and putting my feelings into words. thank you so much for this, i so needed that heart to heart talk
The end of this video was so important for me! I am SO burnt out and stressed right now and I feel like I need to figure it out RIGHT NOW, so I needed this. Thank you!
thank you so much rowena! after my finals week, i didn't do anything and blame myself whenever i wasn't able to do my summer to do list. while i'm guilty for not checking off those things, i'd like to think that this is my body's way of telling me to slow down (because i've been in hyperfocused? hyperactive? fight or flight???? mode throughout my first year in medical school) and to just enjoy my first summer as a medical student T__T this came in the right time 🥺 again, thank you so much rowena!
It has become a weekly ritual to patiently wait for Rowena's video. I am always curious about what kind of healing am I getting this week and oddly enough it fits with my current situation. As a high school pass out, currently busy with college entrance exams, your videos have been a solace to my anxious mind. I rewatch videos which I like the best. And then there is a shift and I feel better and get going. Thanks a lot! Love love ❤ Sending hugs ☺
If I’m sad I like watching a Rowena video because it just always reminds me to ground myself to the present & what really matters. You’re the best Rowe ❤
This video came at just the right time. I have 2 weeks off work and have spent the first 2 days, anxious about being productive and making the most of it. Why am I like this?! But you reminded me that embracing rest is healing, and that you need to give your mind time to reflect and to just enjoy the stillness. I miss being a kid, making up games and being bored! Thank u x
Thank you so much for making this video. I have been really stressed out these days for not being as productive as I was before. Even though I know that I need lots of rest to heal, I always feel guilty when I think about all the works need to be done.The inner struggle never ends and it's getting worse. When I watched your video, tears keep overflowing from my eyes. Maybe because I was relief that my feelings are natural, I'm not lazy and it's ok to feel like this. Again, thanks for helping me letting out my feelings.
Your videos always help me a lot! I love this idea of planning deep rest but not planning what you during your deep rest, and just do whatever you feel like at that moment.
I was just feeling this need for rest and unable to figure out stuff but with this video I m kinda of open with ok rest is something that you need as human. That fact that productivity is magnified but not resting is weird to me as they should work with each other. No one taught us to take rest. Rest is important. I will keep in mind whenever I feel overwhelmed! And we all can do it once in a while ❣️
OKAY WAIT ! WHY IS IT THAT WHEN I AM GOING THROUGH SOMETHING !! YOU COME OUT WITH A VIDEO THAT HELPS WITH THAT THING AND LIKE I LEAST EXPECT THAT !! THANKS AGAIN
I'm just 3:00 min. in, and this is already one of my favorite among all your videos! It's great how you were able to put all these pointers in in a very concise way! You are so talented in what you are doing. Thank you Rowena!
