What To Do When Your Boyfriend is Addicted to Porn? | Alyssa Bethke 

Hey!!! Who's watching within first 24 hours?! Also, loving the feedback so far and glad it's encouraging some folks out there! Want to add a few quick notes: 1) We are thinking about doing a part 2 in the next couple months specifically addressing women who are addicted to porn. Would you guys want that video? From our messages and research we always like to make sure to voice that the problem of porn actually affects both genders. And the fact we never mention that ladies too can be addicted sometimes heaps double shame (shame of porn, and then shame that women shouldn't be addicted). I think it's important to note that both men and women can be addicted to porn and how to walk through that. PS this video specifically is one geared towards guys just because we were asked a specific question that Alyssa is answering (an email we got asking what to do when a girl's boyfriend is addicted). 2) yes this is a re-upload of a video from a week or two ago. Sorry there was an error and had to re-upload the better version. The first one was only online for 24 hours or so. Props if you watched it before it was taken down! ha was that you?! we love y'all!

I just moved in with my boyfriend and the pain this causes is unimaginable. I found 24,000 screenshots of porn and women on facebook, and instagram and even pictures of women walking down the streets. We could have a deep conversation about how this hurts me and the very next day theres more screenshots of porn and pictures of women on the streets. He cant see what that did to me. It’s traumatic

I didn't watch this video when it came out, but I ended my engagement yesterday because he confessed to still being addicted to porn. Thank you for speaking on such a difficult, heart-breaking topic. Porn hurts so much.

These comments help me to not feel so alone. My boyfriend watches it every single day, even when he's quickly using the bathroom he puts it on... It's ruining our relationship but I want to see him overcome it. Our relationship is so much more important than any of that. It breaks my heart and hurts me. I'm so relieved I'm not alone

I know alot of so wonderful young men and women who struggle with their porn addiction. Being addicted to porn doesn't immediately make you a bad person, but it can ruin relationships very easily. It's so easy to find pornographic materials these days that it's hard to stay away from the temptation and ignore it. We need more help for teenagers especially who look at porn excessively and ruin their relationships with everyone they love

Most men don't even want to give it up. Some don't even try. Kudos to those few men that do! By the way, just finished reading your newest book. I LOVED it!! ❤❤

Porn almost split me and my boyfriend up. The pain it causes is real. Thank you for uploading this.

If your partner does ANYTHING that makes you feel worthless, or negatively impacts your self esteem, LEAVE THEM. Show yourself some respect.

Dear girls, as a guy who has struggled with this, and know alot of guys who struggle with this, I feel obligated to inform you what's the deal with porn. Please read, because this might save your marriage / relationship. 1. Yes, porn is evil, porn is sin, porn is cheating, and porn is terrible, and serious. 2. If your boyfriend does porn, tell him how you feel about it. He needs to stop! 3. Now when that said, let me also tell you this. Guys don't do porn because they want to cheat on you! Guys don't do porn because they don't love you! Guys don't do porn because they don't find you attractive!! The reason because they do it is mainly two: A. It's a habitual addiction. B. Its easy available. Most guys have this problem with them from early age, childhood. They probably grown up with it on the internet. It's so ingrained in us that when you enter a relationship, it's a baggage. It has nothing to do with you as a mate, but is something that the guy is in bonadage to. You might think "this is about me, because if he finds me attractive, he would have quitted now that I am his mate". No! Stop it. You don't know how difficult it is to stop. Even if you had every good gift in the world as an exchange for porn, the guy would say, I'll promise to do my best, take the gifts, and believe fully that he would be able to not do it, but the very next week he would fall into it. This is because porn is like heroin, you become a drug addict, you don't think clearly. I don't defend its existence! It's EVIL. But I don't deny its power over men. The problem with stopping, is that even though you are fully convinced that you will stop, if you have only one litle weak moment feeling like crap and lost your sense of meaning, and I am only talking about seconds, for only seconds!! porn is 5 seconds away from your phone or computer. So it's like being being drug addict who tries to quit, having heroin in your pockets all the time, without the ability to be free from its closeness, so if you want to stop, you can't have one single weak moment. You will have to remind yourself 100% of the time for all eternity that you shouldn't. If you are sober in your head 99,99% of all time, you would still fall into temptation, because that 0.01% of all time you would have porn so quick access. I want to repeat, guys don't look at porn because they don't love you, they don't look at porn because they don't care, and they don't look at porn because they don't find you attractive. Some guys don't care, but I'm not talking about them, but about christians, because we care about this, even though we occasionally fall into temptation. 5. We christian men ask you girls for patience and forgiveness. Why? Because we hate porn and are working on to get rid of it. We are on your side!! If you turn against him because of this, you are litterally turning against your common friend (which is bad, because you have a common enemy). Porn is the enemy, not your husband /boyfriend. The last thing the guy needs is your disappointment, because he is probably more than enough disappointmented at himself. Please support him to win the battle, and enter the fight with him, instead of against him. Because this is NOT ABOUT YOU. This is a fight against satan, the world and sin. 6. If you don't forgive, you should probably chose to stay single the rest of your life, because 95% av all men have at some point struggled with this in their life. That doesn't justify porn, but I'm just saying that if you want to be married, be prepared to forgive your husband ALOT ALOT ALOT, not just for porn which he did in the past, but for all mistakes we do. Christian men are called to be like Jesus, perfect, but if we fail, YOU are called to be like Jesus, to forgive us. 7. Pray for your husband. Dont pray for him that he will get rid of porn "so that you don't feel disappointed", but pray for him that he will understand who God created him to be, so that he will be filled by the holy spirit and understand his destiny. If he looks at porn, he doesn't understand that he is a child of God and are called to be holy. Pray that God will restore him to his full potential. Note! There is some guys who think porn is okey and will not change their mind about it. This message was not for them, but for the guys who are true christians and want to get rid of this sin.

Thanks for the video guys. Aside from the real pain that both parties experience in this issue, one of the biggest needs a guy has is a safe place to be vulnerable with this issue. Trust that there is a commitment bigger than this issue is one of MANY steps to overcoming this. If there is no trust to be vulnerable, then this convo probably won't happen with honesty and in the hopes of relationship building. Please do a part 2!

Porn is definitely a topic that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s also important to understand that it’s not an easy addiction to overcome, especially alone. If you or your significant other is watching porn regularly, it’s essential to have a mentor who can help you pray and give you advice, someone you can open up to and be completely honest with. If your partner mentions that he/she is viewing porn, be careful about being judgemental. It’s easy to feel offended, but it’s likely that he/she doesn’t want to be in that situation and is probably struggling to get out. Be supportive and helpful, and don’t be afraid to become that rock that she/he needs.

Yeah me and my ex broke up because I confessed to her that I watched porn during our relationship. I didn’t defend it I was being honest. Thing about it was she asked me two times. First time I wasn’t sure because you know faulty memory or I was deceiving myself. Or maybe I lied about it I can’t remember. Second time was brutal because when she gone on a trip over two weeks I was watching some a few times and that’s when the guilt really hit me. So she asked me again and I told her the truth and she didn’t like it and we broke up. I found out later that she didn’t like the way the relationship was going. She said I made her feel bad and other stuff which I can understand I did wanted her but that was 24/7 and she probably didn’t felt loved you know. Obviously what I did was wrong but I think God was trying to teach me something here. Just continue to pray for me man.

Thank you so much for this video! My husband and I always talk about how sometimes in the Christian community it’s so “taboo” to talk about or bring up. And a lot of men struggle with this and just to scared to speak up. And thank you for coming from the women’s side of it all. Because it’s so important to ask those questions. I love what you said about being “a safe place” for him to go. I think sometimes we take it personal when we find out they have watched it or still watching. But if we can remove ourselves from the situation and be there as a sister in Christ it’s a lot easy to pray for them and want to help them!! Thank you for sharing!!

If you love your partner and want to share it, stop.

I knew about my boyfriend's addiction before i started dating him. He is trying so hard to overcome it. i am very proud of him for that. But I told him we aren't going to get married until he is over it, because I am not going to compete for his time and affections. he knows that. I know I cant help him alone. We have been praying through it and seeking guidance from other couples. This was very helpful along with the other video that you did together about this topic a while ago. You both are huge inspirations with being vulnerable about difficult topics. We are starting our own youtube channel with vlogs and video testimonies. This channel has given us so many good and fresh ideas! Thank you for all you do in jesus name!

he broke up with me because of his addiction because it hurt me so bad. He even crossed sexual boundaries and violated me in some ways. I’m still recovering from it because it honestly, absolutely destroyed me. Felt so insecure. I didn’t even care that he watched porn while we dated from time to time- i do too. I just didn’t know he was addicted, and him crossing physical boundaries just.. it was horrible. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt but wow. It’s still affecting me and it’s been months

this subject is so intense and difficult, thank you for the much needed guidance,nice wish that more would help equip this generation on how to deal with all of it...it's a bit overwhelming

Thanks for this video! I hope that our society begins seeing this as just a problematic thing like illegal drugs are. Porn addiction is sex addiction, and what makes it so damaging is that we produce the dopamine ourselves. Our thinking becomes impaired and the addict within leads you to insanity. The other hardship about this addiction is that you usually wont shine a light on it until you've gone too far or get caught. I'm thankful to have such a strong and understanding woman in life to have seen me for who I really am through that dark period of my life. Commiting to taking back my life, revamping my romance with my gf, and reconnecting with god has provided a much happier life, a life without lies, irresponsibility, and utter darkness. I'm much happier than I ever was in my life and I'm finally back on track with my schooling! All thanks to being PMO free :) BTW Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke helped me get my recovery started with their previous video om this topic. You guys are amazing! Thank you!

Hey Jeff & Alyssa, thanks for this great video. I am wondering if you could go a little further and explain what a woman should do with the information she receives after asking these very important questions. I think that when a woman has this conversation, there is a lot of room for her to feel hurt/overwhelmed by the truth that her man has spoken. How can a woman and/or couple move forward, knowing that these wounds exist? What if the porn addiction is still happening? Is divorce an option? Does getting married cure a man's lust issue? I think a lot of women would be interested to know your perspective on dealing with the damage that porn causes.

I love that Alyssa is sharing!!! Its honestly so refreshing to hear from a married woman's perspective. Thanks so much again! Love this channel!

I found out my boy friend was a porn addict when i was looking through his history to find a video i forgot the name of i watched on his phone a few days before, i saw all of the porn he would look up and it was a LOT i already struggle with an eating disorder and seeing that really broke me because i personally do consider it cheating, i have been eating really close to nothing and working out like crazy to look like those girls, i confronted him about it and he told me how everything that we discussed about the topic was a lie and that he has been addicted for years. Im still trying to cope with it and he cut down to barely watching any i just cant stop thinking i wasnt enough or the thought that he found another woimen sexually pleasing i dont want to break up with him but im so tired of getting hurt and having my eating disorder get worse from it. I guess i just vented on here bc i dont have anyone else to vent too about the situation, and idk maybe some advice from someone who has maybe gone through the same situation as me would be nice.

Thanks for re-uploading! I saw this a couple weeks ago but didn't have the chance to watch it. Great advice, as always.

There’s no point to have conversations, they’ll lie doesn’t matter the relationship stage.

Thank you for this it is a hard road for me . I found out about his addiction before we were married. He admitted to me he was abused by a babysitter as a child. How long does it take to forgive it has been four years and I still don’t trust him .

I was thinking "boy, they're really hitting this topic hard lately..." and then I read your comment about this being a reupload. I guess I must have seen the first one in the first 24 hours. I wanted to add that something you don't always hear is that this is an area where God can bring total healing. I looked at porn for a period of about 17 years (and "coincidentally" my spiritual life also stagnated during that period, though I didn't realize it at the time), and the Holy Spirit began bringing conviction in my heart over time. I don't remember the specifics of how He brought me out of it, but I stopped looking at it one day. Sometime after that, He brought conviction in my heart in the area of masturbation, too, and that I remember was when I was reading in 1 Corinthians 6 about my body being a member of Christ and the temple of the Holy Spirit. That was enough for me, and I haven't done it since. It's no longer any sort of matter of willpower, though, and I think that is an important point. Shortly after I stopped doing both of those things, I was filled with the Holy Spirit (or received the baptism of the Holy Spirit... Whatever language you want to use, He became far more evident in my life), and at some point in that process He totally changed my heart. I no longer have any desire to look at porn whatsoever. I still think women are attractive, but that tendency toward lust is so much weaker than it ever was before. I care so much more about what God has been doing in my heart over the past several years now, and about my relationship with Him. I just don't have that desire to cheat on Him in that way any more. So for those of you who may be struggling with temptation now, I encourage you to pursue God and your relationship with Him. If you have not yet received the baptism of the Holy Spirit, find someone to pray with you to receive it (or just ask God directly if you don't have someone who can pray with you). You will know it when it happens, because joy will well up in you, and you will find yourself with a strong desire to worship, praise, prophesy or speak in tongues. That is a transformative, life-changing experience, and it only gets better from there! The Holy Spirit is amazing, and He wants to have a close, intimate relationship with you. I promise you that pursuing your relationship with God will be the best decision you ever make in your entire life. Thanks for reading this, and have a blessed day!

This is the most sensible and practical thing I've seen on the subject. Men who are caught using porn by their wives will try to brush off her concerns with airy generalised statements, and so asking him to be specific is good advice. The woman in this situation is in a strong position because men are generally incapable of defending their porn use when it's brought out into the open (which is of course why we try to hide it).

This is one reason as a mother I control my sons' phone, computer, TV and internet use. It's starts with mothers and fathers. How on Earth do teen boys start an addiction to porn unless their parents give them technology and resources without strict boundaries? Parents are setting up their sons up for failure in their marriages. That's one part of this cultural disease. The other part is lack of self control. Teach your children what self control is. Then when they are adults they don't form addictions to alochol, food, drugs, naked images, etc. "Train up a child in the way he should go...". Use that influence mothers, make the world a better place for some other girl's future husband!

Even though I had met this man at church. This was thee BIGGEST problem in my last marriage! So hurtful! Always told me “what I wanted to hear” and would call sex numbers which I found on the phone bill. After being separated for a year and a half and working on me, I finally signed the divorce papers after 4 years into the marriage. I knew everything had been done to try to save the marriage. He wouldn’t complete anything on his own and walked out on the last day of marriage counseling saying it was all me, and made a scene. I was left crying at our table in front of all who were in the room. ( It was a group marriage course) He’d also been going out on dates with other women. I thought I’d never be married again, ( and I was totally fine with that) but God worked on my heart and three years later, a man who’s guarded his eyes and wanted to was used to help me see differently. We are mindful of what we watch and he lets me be his eyes. We are going to be married 4 years in May and I’ve never felt more loved, cherished and valued by an earthly man like this. Before this turns into a novel or rambling, I’d just like to say that this is VERY important to talk about. It’s not gonna just go away when you’re married...People think oh he’s a man he probably does look at porn...There are men out there who don’t! Thanks for being people who bring this to light! Being hurt in life will happen and God Can use it for His good! But we also need to know the right questions to ask and the sooner asked the less heart ache.

I am torn because my boyfriend and I have been woth each other for about 5years and lived with each other for about 4 and we have a 3 year old together and i inow we are young but he is really addicted like it is affecting our relationship... I feel i am too young to be having a sexual crisis but i have 0 sex drive and I feel low for having such drive but sex now feels weird because I feel I am not enough or something

Why do people act like porn additiction is only a guy thing? Many women stuggle with it too! This is why women may feel less comfortable opening up about it because is is a lot less expected by society. Edit: Oops. Read the top comment. It's all good.

I really really try accept that my fiance watches it. We’ve “talked” about it 2 times and I try not to look at his phone. But i did... today after work and he watched it this morning. I looked at his search history and he watches it every single day ..... I really try to accept it, but everyday... It really hurts me so deep inside. I love him and don’t want to break up, but I feel sad inside. We’ve been together for 6 years...

As always, your videos are encouraging. It is frustrating to read some of the comments. A video has a specific topic is not an exclusion of another gender with the same addiction. The topic part that can often be missed here is two fold. Porn is adultery. Especially now with images being in real time or very life like. Lust is lust is lust. It begins in your thoughts. So the other part is the females are most likely being forced or manipulated into posing or filming. Including girls (under 19) being made up to look older. Often times these girls could be a trafficking victim. Any money or time you give to these images is feeding an industry which physically and emotionally robs girls of their innocence. With that said, I in no way want to reduce the level of hurt it causes to relationships. This is why purity is so important. It goes even deeper than hurting our relationships. Awarenesses is my stance and not to create an argument. I encourage you to do some research. Many states are adding legislation to help combat this growing epidemic. Much peace to you. 🤗✌️

Okay, so the following comment/opinion may be of the minority but I think it's very important I share this: If you're in the first stage of dating or getting to know someone I do not recommend drilling your date with those questions as suggested in the video. Why or why not? Suppose your date repented & rededicated his/her life to Christ or was recently saved and you see his/her walk is godly, do you, as the Christian that you claim to be, truly believe in God's words - Isaiah 1:18 and 2 Corinthians 5:17. You believe it for yourself, you believe it for someone else in your church that needs deliverance, you speak forth the words, that you're forgiven, that God makes us in a new creation, creates a new heart, renews our spirits, cleans us as white as snow...but do you REALLY believe in the Gospel of Jesus Christ? If so, why is there a need to bring up the past. Only so we can judge the person for their past sins? If the person is truly a Christian, and is still in sin, you will see other areas where he/she is lacking in their walk. God will make it known. And the Holy Spirit will convict this person of their sin. Ask yourself this, would you like to be judged for your past sexual immorality (i.e. losing virginity), or how many bfs/gfs you've had, or the wild lifestyle you've lived in your past? This video is misrepresented. The subject should be what to do when dating someone who is in sin. I pray we be a bit more sensitive to other Christians. One of the reasons why I had a hard time with fellowship among other church members is fear of being judged. And I'm pretty sure new Christians or new comers feel the same way. Let's be loving and patient with one another as Jesus Christ has shown us. God bless.

Love you guys always. Thanks for all you do :)

My Ex was addicted to things like this me and him dated for a 2 months but police got involved due to my mom and searched his phone and found he was talking to loads and loads of other woman we broke up a day after valentines day. After he was liking my best friend and he used all my friends.. Be careful about your feelings girls xx

I think you guys should totally do a video on women watching porn. It is a topic that is so not talked about in our times. I agree with Jeff that it is true there is a double shame to it! I think as women we are targetted with these ideals that women should not be addicted to that and I believe it is a topic that needs to be talked about so please do!! Thank you guys for the videos! They are always full of wisdom! :)

Jefferson Bethke, what would you say to those guys who see this and think "I'm not worthy of a girlfriend/spouse because of this one area" or something along those lines. Also, what would you say to those men who are struggling in this and want to stop.

I'm going to need luck in order for him to answer those question with out him telling me I'm crazy

Thank you so much girl

Always interesting how people don't was "why"? Why are you watching it. What is causing that need? Especially for people in relationships.

I have never struggled with porn and the best way to overcome that addiction is by making your sex life like porn. Do things that you see in porn in the real life and you won't care for porn anymore.

Tough subject but it was really well dealt with!

Porn is a scourge. Be a disrupter. It will give you purpose and you will f up human trafficking and organized crime.

Stay blessed.

Can you do a video on why we shouldn't blame God when the life of someone we love is taken away?

That's a waste of time. Addicts are liars (all addiction comes with lies)... So, don't waste your time asking questions, they will lie to you

Forget counseling, find a lawyer a sue the porn sight for damaging your life. The lawyers will love you and the porn sight will pay you damages and shut down, liberating the trafficked slaves in the porn.

Thank you.

While I agree with and appreciate what all you are saying, Women watching porn has become very common as well.

I’m struggling so hard with how perverted my partner is becoming and how he lies about not watching it. I don’t want to give up on him because I have my struggles too, and I understand addiction. He used to say he had a problem and now he denies it being an issue. It hurts. How much longer I can take? I don’t know

Women suffer from this too...

Reupload?

Just found out my boyfriend has a porn addiction, not sure how to handle it or what I should do.

The pb is that a loooot of men lie about it. So he will say that he stopped watching porn years ago and then you have a bad intuition and you find that he waches porn almost everyday, thanks to his web history.... then you bring up the subject again he will say that he is sorry blablabla that he knows it's not healthy to watch that blablabla... but he will go back to it, the only thing that changes is that he finds new ways to hide it, private browsing for example. But when you're tech savvy like me you know that private browsing is not that private and you find porn again.... Honestly I feel like there will always be a period of time where they stop porn, they realize how bad it is etc. But they always fall back into it, it can be weeks, months, years later, with new ways to hide it, and I'm sure many women think their bf/husband doesn't watch that because they hide it so well... it's very very sad.

The first shall be last is here today

Well you could join in!

working with a very clear, healthy mind is actually something else. If you would like to win back your inner fire, simply try the stuff that Zeke Vikalen advises to stop watching. Maybe try googling him.

He can lie to you too when you ask

Keep in mind porn, can be sex, nudity, sexy RU-vid video of bikini or lingerie etc. Anything that stimulates the mind and body. So PLEASE, rewatch your post and help answers the questions you advised us to to ask our girl and or boyfriend's about porn. Some of of us DON'T no what to do or where to necessarily go for help. It's so bad confessing Christian's have committed suicide over it. People struggle, stop, struggle, struggle, stop. It's a VICIOUS CYCLE! You know, love hate or in this case LUST hate! And we a lot of times DON'T know why we CANNOT quit???? Lots of people will hide it, avoid the topic and or lie! And some people DON'T have an accountability partner. How do you respond when they say yes I watch it etc? As you suggested to pray for help. I ask you to pray pray pray before you revisit this topic of asking questions about porn addiction. You can ask a question about a subject like this. Yet HOW do you tackle these hard serious questions you're posing? What's the near correct answer? Porn it's like a drug for some people. Not to be rude/graphic, though people pleasure themselves to porn as well. How do you address that? You don't want the one your dating fantasizing/lusting/pleasuring themselves over other people on a video, right? This is real and it messes people up mentally etc! So I hope you will thoroughly rewatch your video post. And research for the answers to the questions you advised us to ask. Maybe address it with scripture and as well what it does. And how it would affect a new relationship. The book, "Every Man's Battle" is a start . Though it doesn't address certain things! I appreciate the fact your trying to help. So armor up before you revisit this! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE pray, just like me there are so many who struggle with porn off and on. It's a horrible torment that not easily won.

How about if a woman is hooked on porno does this also applies too them

I honestly a lot of people could say that women are OK with their men watching porne, but in all honestly it's probably just not a good idea in general. Boyfriend was addicted to porn in for a really long time before he met me and he stirred again after a hard time we had. I was very upset and he was even more upset when he found out I started watching it afterwards. Do you know how upset he was to find out I was watching videos of BBC 😂 Honestly it's just not worth thing for anyone stop while you're ahead in the relationship. Most men are going to try to play it off like nothing is wrong don't allow that nonsense...

Sorry but I feel like that was a really bad set of questions because I believe that most of those people and most men don’t believe they ever have or do you have a porn addiction so asking it like that makes no sense to have a truthful answer!

I never looked at pornography until 20 years ago when all women cut me off from sex entirely. Watching pornography is the only sex I have had for 20 years. Women will not even talk to me.

My fiancé doesn’t watch it and never really seriously has as far as I know. Between work and kids i don’t think he’d even have time for it. I didn’t know this was even a thing. 😳

I deleted most of my boyfriend's porn while he was at work.

If anyone here is struggling with addiction, I'd definitely recommend viewing 'fight the new drug' documentary. And downloading 'detoxify' and 'cold turkey'. These are all things that have helped my boyfriend who is a recovering P addict.

ALL sex outside of God's design of one marriage for all of life, until death--with children to be created in the context of such a marriage--is perversion. Sex with self included. Until GOD'S timing (with a never-before-married person, in marriage, or with a widowed person, in marriage), just turn OFF those thoughts! DESIRE and FRUSTRATION CEASE if you're not thinking about or visualizing things that create desire. Just like with any other addiction (candy, cigarettes), turn your eyes and thoughts AWAY from that which only hurts you. Jesus, our Creator, said that a man who even looks at a woman (presumably a married one) to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. And he said that unrepentant adulterers will be sent to an eternal lake of fire on judgment day after death. His rules for humankind are no joke. We either learn to TRUST him, that his ways are GOOD for us, or we will perish.

What about using a picture of my girlfriend?

Porn ended my relationship. I endured with other things for years. But this was the nail.

I also think it is sickness because if he is doing it daily you shoul leave him.

Is he actually ADDICTED or is he going elsewhere because you wont sleep with him? There is a difference....

What would you classify as addiction?

I just found a USB in my partners pocket .......

My Boyfriend watches porn all day and night he's so obsessed he never talks to me anymore and we have 3 children together 4 in January 15 2024.😢😭💔

but what about girls addicted to porn

What about if he goes to the stripclub every now and then? How do you address this?

I don't think it's a cause to break up with someone, as stated at 3:45 just based on him being honest with you, "based on his answers be like okay we need to break up because you need healing in that area." Indeed, they need healing in that area. If it causes unhealthy behavior or something that really hinders the relationship then sure it would be a cause for that. But just giving up on that person because they have a porn addiction? AND because they were just being honest with you? I couldn't disagree more. You could help them or lead them to the Lord if they haven't found him or SOMETHING more than just "let's break up."

Good, godly, honest, and sensible advise. And in truth, and this because of our biological makeup, the only way to deal with porn, is to probably ban it, as both men and woman have a godly impulse to desires for one another.

OTPHJ

How do you avoid pornography if you are just looking for a "date" on the Internet? Trying to just find a female friend on the Internet turned into a 20 year addiction that ruined me mentally and physically. When I realized I hit the 20 years of being alone mark I gave up and stopped eating, sleeping and exercising. All I do is sit in front of my computer in a manic state "chatting" with "profiles" but never talking or meeting any real women.

The baby voice is truly annoying to the point of being incredibly distracting. If you wouldn't talk this way in front of a group of professionals, don't talk this way on a youtube channel to a group of strangers. It's not endearing. Sorry to sound so critical. Just use this as constructive feedback to a making better presentation.

I'm heterosexual woman I actually like watching... just not with my partner ....honestly that's why I'm good when it comes to sex I've learned a lot of neat tricks over the years lol

This is hilarious

Porn is healthy and is very safe. Ejaculation is a very natural and normal thing.

I am a strong believer in Christ and try to talk to God every day. I have been addicted to porn, and do watch it from time to time to masturbate to when I’m not having sex with my girlfriend. I think the fact that you would break up with a male because of this is ridiculous. It’s all about growing together spiritually, mentally, and physically. I’m not saying porn is a good thing I realize the problems behind it, and what the results could mean. I’m gonna try my best to no longer watch it but I will always go back to it as long as it’s available

Why she aging so much ?

I think you guys are obsessed with talking about porn. Stop!!

Boyfriend likes watching porn..... you watch it with him because its fun and exciting. Jeeze. Lol. I love most of your videos but damn these kind of things are insane to me. Follower of Christ > Religion.... for reasons JUST like this! Aint nothing wrong with watching porn and I am a woman! I watch it any time I want because I ENJOY it!

So basically how to interrogate your boyfriend about porn. this is a horrible video. To all my dudes watching/reading this the honest truth is, don’t be to honest or to “detailed” about this topic with your girlfriend/wife. They don’t understand it. They never will understand it. & Too much information can hurt wayyyyyy more than it will ever help.

Ooof, you start asking those questions, and he is going to split. Those questions scream "I am massively insecure, and will make your life miserable"

I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture. JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.” I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures. By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GWViryWWch4.html

Im a woman and i am pro porn. I actually produce porn and i have done porn my whole life

I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture. JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.” I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures. By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GWViryWWch4.html