What if Your Boyfriend is Addicted to Porn? | Jeff & Alyssa Bethke 

Brandon Dith-Berry Good man continue to seek the Lord and walk in your deliverance

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you stopped watching porn 😂😂😂😂

Brandon Dith-Berry thank you for sharing this story. I’m struggling with this. I forgave him as well and told him I will keep him in my prayers, but after Easter Sunday the same night he watched porn ... and I’m 8 days till my due date with our son. I don’t know what to do. I feel so alone right now ....

Gordon J I just found out that my bf watches a bit too much porn.. but we have a great and active sex life together, he said that he would never cheat on me. He laughed when I told him I was upset and I feel useless if he does this so much, like it's perfectly normal. I would like to understand what’s in his mind even if he tells me that it’s just porn and a moment..

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Sourav Kundu Stfu

@@booboobunny5655 you missed something in your life you should do something on that particular area ASAP

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I agree with this. I cried when hearing this coz it’s true

Steve Minto That's awesome man! God bless

Good for you!!

Steve Minto lucky

Steve Minto Awesome man! Praise God! I've been clean thanks to God for the last two years! God has transformed us

Steve Minto thank God!

Donyale Walton amen to that! I married way up she's amazing :D

+Donyale Walton agreed! definitely on her knees ready to slurp up Jesus's special syrup!

Donyale Walton I think she is submissive in the wrong way--it seems creepy and is uncomfortable to watch.

Ephesus RH you have no respect with such a comment

yeah a woman should be seen but not heard. Praise be.

Amen! Such a great way to put that distinction Tessa.

THANK YOU for saying Thank You about it going both ways. Lust IS NOT limited to men, and definitely NEITHER is PORN ADDICTION!!!!!! I actually came out of that myself the very night I came to the Lord.....dropped that IMMEDIATELY. Great video.

**Female btw*

Nhat Tran tell me how please

I think humans turn to religion because we need answers, we need to know how it all started, we need to know what will happen when it ends. Well the sad truth is that we can't know everything, and that there are mysteries in this universe so big that would blow anyones mind, maybe there are even other lifeforms in this universe, but no one knows for sure. I think its ridiculous to think that we have all the answers to all the mysteries, al the questions about this mysterious reality we live in, in this book, that other humans wrote a long time ago. Its selfish to think that the whole universe is centred about us humans, that we are the most important in this whole universe, that the divine creator chose us. Even out of all of the animals, micro organisms, fish in the sea, we are the chosen ones?! It is ridiculous and ignorant to think like this, that we are the only ones that can go to heaven or hell, that all other religions are gone and that we are right. We can't know all the answers, thats the wonderful thing about life, its the mystery that surrounds us, we can find out more and more by using science, which is a method that involves actual PROOF, and not some book. You see the bible contradicts all science, it says that the universe was magically created along with the earth 6000 years ago, while there is actual proof that it is a lot older than that, and that the whole universe is even older! The bible says we can't have sex before we marry, why would a divine entity that created even care about us having sex before marriage?! The bible also says everyone born before Jesus would go to hell! How could they have known?! There are hundreds of other examples I could say but I don't have all day. Sure its reassuring to think that when we die we will go to a magical place where we will lived with our loved ones for eternity in eternal bliss, I'd love that, I used to believe that, as I was raised as a Catholic. But you have to use reasoning and how unreal it sounds, how we just use it to comfort our selfs, because the thought of death is scary, but we can't live according to this book. We have to live life to the fullest and not having restrictions from this book, so you can be rewarded with an happy afterlife. I'm trying to help you think straight, we can't have people still believing these lies! Please help spread my message.

Well first I have to come to the realization that i dont want to live like this. i saw how destructive porn was in my friends, family, and my life. and i prayed, "God please set me free from my adductions, i hate this so much." and at that time i had a faithful brother in christ that walked with me. we were each others accountability partner, he came to me and said, "Nhat, i'm struggling with this sin," and i said, " bro, i'm struggling with it too!" and we both found freedom in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Jesus took on our punishment of lust. we are free from condemnation! my desire to resist temptation is understanding that jesus died to sin for me and resurrected, defeating death. i have the hope that i too can overcome this temptation. believing God's truth really changes our hearts. because the truth can set us free!!! (shout out to jefferson! i love you and look up to you! continue in what your doing)

TheIcanntspel hey man ik you said this 4 yrs ago but I’m praying for you

​@@jessewilson1330 Thank you for this. The video is still relevant to me unfortunately.

@@TheIcanntspel me too, you are in my prayers and i struggle with it too

Omg am so sorry to hear that.can't imagine how hard that might be for you!

I like the great thought, God is merciful and gracious, and we can find great healing in him. Bring it into the light and Satan losses his power.

Morgan Elpin I am so sorry for what you are dealing with. This is a very tough tough thing to go through. Jesus can still bring total healing and restoration. Pray for the Lord to humble his spirit, to draw the right people to bring him into submission of God's will for his life. Also ask the Lord to grant you love and grace, as he does, so that you can support and love him through his sin. Once I started showing my husband grace and love in all areas including sins that made me uncomfortable our lives started to shift. Because where mercy is there is no condemnation or guilt and the enemy uses those things as a foothold to keep people in an addiction cycle. God bless you. I am praying for you and your marriage.

Morgan Elpin I'm going through the same thing . I feel like it breaks me more and will always disappoint me to know I'm so loyal and respectful towards him and this is the sick stuff that won't ever end unless I leave him .

Ashley Sainz i understand also. It’s super hard. It’s super hard when they won’t admit it and makes me feel like I’m crazy and wrong for getting upset.

seems like a lot of us will either be single forever or settle for a porn addict (or ex-addict) because they all be watching porn now.... I have searched high and low for a men who does not, and let me tell you IT DOES NOT EXIST. It makes me so sad

Thats awesome ! :)

no its not

@@eribertotorres9478 You'd be surprised.

Parisa I agree that there are plenty of places out there where it's hard to find True, Wonderful, Godly Men that don't fight for Truth, Life, Faith, Family, Community and Definitely Purity!!! However, what I will say though is that Wonderful, Awesome Godly Men are out there ... You just need to be in the right place at the right time!!! :) It's also a very, very, very big deal that I can say this because from the time that I was a kid and in elementary school until I graduated from high school I was constantly being bullied and sexually harassed by Men and classmates in my school and my parents didn't do a thing about it!!! :( On Top of that one of my abusers had ended up in jail for drug charges :( ... So growing up I knew that I wasn't safe and in-return had soo many lies that I believed about Men and all those lies even carried on into my early adulthood!!! :( Whenever I was around Men I could never look at a guy in the face and I would always shrug my shoulders and look at the floor whenever I was around Men!!! :( Well, that definitely changed because about 5yrs ago I got invited to a Church near my place by one of my friends and I can tell you right now that, that was the best thing that ever happened to me because everyone in this Church has such a Spirit of Love, Life, Faith, Family, Community and Definitely Purity and I can Definitely Say that the vast majority of people there who have brought such a Spirit of Love, Life, Faith, Family, Community and Definitely Purity into my life are Men and they have just totally and completely removed the scales from my eyes and all the lies that I had been believing about Men for soo many years!!! :) I could tell you soo many stories of all the things that these Men have said and done that have brought soo much healing into my life, in-fact soo much soo that about 2 weeks ago today I was going through my stuff and cleaning things out and as I was doing that I found a really horrible key chain burried in the bottom of my purse and on the key chain it said: "Boys Have 2 Faults Everything They Say and Everything They Do!!!" This key chain wasn't broke and none of the colors on it we're worn out anywhere, but I didn't know I had it and the minute that I saw it my heart, mind and soul just sunk right to the floor and then I didn't even hesitate cause I threw it right in the garage can because I didn't like or agree with the message that was on it ... And with that being said I haven't seen it since!!! :) So as hard as things might be for you, know the truth about Men and the truth will set you free because I've been there!!! If your having a hard time with Men then I would Definitely Say find a really good Church to go to because trust me True, Awesome, Wonderful Godly Men are out there ... You just need to be in the right place at the right time!!! :) Hope This Helps!!! :) Thanks, Rachael N :)

of course you found a guy but he had Lil d****k

@@souravkundu8976 you must be very young and silly.. and creepy..

Jessica Anastasia i mean death in a spiritual sense. Like really messed you up.

Thanks Evelyn!! Means a lot :D

+tophiigh great question! Looking for answers, too!

***** Totally! Currently reading 'Meaning of Marriage'; Super helpful and encouraging and eye opening :) Total favorite as well.

What advice would you have with a man that looks at instagram pictures when he has been married for 10 years?

How do you introduce family/friends who are not believers to God? I'm 15 and love Jesus with all my heart but my family do not and I want them to be able to love and learn about The Lord because let's face it he's amazing and all we need him

Gemz The best thing you can do is pray for them. Always looking for opportunities to share the Gospel. Its important that they see that your life isn't perfect and the only thing that seperates you from an unbeliever is Grace! You have to remember that you can't save them (Only Jesus can) so all you have to do is introduce HIM to them. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. Don't feel like you have to say the Gospel a certain way or sound intellectual. A simple "Jesus loves you and here's how" goes far beyond an intellectual response. Because when we are dealing with salvation...you have to understand that its a matter of the heart not the brain! Stay encouraged Gemz and keep on fighting the good fight and know that your not alone, you have brothers and sisters fighting along side you. God Bless🙋

Shirts dope btw jeff

Shannon Henderson I would love to hear their thoughts on this!

***** yes, Please do a video on this!!!!!

I would like to see a video over these also

Thats a very good question.! Would love to see a video on that.!

Lustfully looking. It is a sin. But if you look at a woman with eyes that the Lord sees her with. No.

i hope you are still keeping that...

***** I'm on day 3 of no porn and no fap. It's hard but if I can quit smoking (as of 9 days ago), I can quit porn. I'm trying to make it to 90 days.

***** I'll check that book out. Thanks Sarah

then stop letting it

That was a good one

I'm on the same journey too. Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou ***** and Alyssa Bethke

***** HiFiBanana local church groups are honesty the best for being held accountable for your sins, and there's a lot more freedom knowing that you're never fighting alone.

Sunny Sandhu Sunny, I know that feeling. I feel that pain in me every time I fall in sin. I struggle with porn as well and there is times where I feel like it becomes a routine. Where I fall in this pit of poison, I get out in shamefulness, ask God to forgive me, He forgives me, and a couple days later I am sinking back into that poison. It's not about how hard we fall but it's how God helps us get back up. Keep praying and truly devote your time to Him. Dedicate yourself all to Him. Set aside all encumbrances, read and feed yourself His word. I'll pray for you. I don't know you but I know you alone are not strong enough to get through this, but with God my friend everything is possible. Here is my email, isaiasbermejo03@gmail.com, Instagram: Isaiasbermejo, Kik: isaias_montes, Snapchat: Isaias-montes , Keep in touch, I want to be that accountable person. Ik it's hard to speak of with others and it's embarrassing when the topic comes up at church. But talk to God, tell him all about it. From your heart, repent and ask for forgiveness. Do your part by keeping continuous prayer, reading, praising Him, surrounding yourself with people that have in their hearts, and just live for Him. We can keep talking about it on email or any of my social media, we can even do a web chat, I'll pray for you and we can fast. God is still here. He has not left you.

IsaiasBermejo thanks

Sunny Sandhu I struggle with porn as well.....😞 this week and last week was hard for me and yesterdayI fell into porn....it's hard and I just wanna cry because I feel so dirty and feel so guilty I just pray that God helps me and Jesus Christ sets me free!!!!!!

Hey guys well I'm sorry but I'm am agnostic know mkay and I believe masturbation isn't really bad

Sunny Sandhu Nehemiah 4:14 Fight club - look it up

hatwearinggamer Sin is sin, whether its pornography, sexual immortality, adultery or even some of the older ones( Sabbath Day ) God says the only unforgivable sin is Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. People need Prayer to help with their sins. Nothing against listening to peoples opinions and views, but All sins are forgiven if you walk with God. Albeit we do try to repent, but again Thats between the person and Jehovah God.

hatwearinggamer Just like Rich Conrad said "sin is a sin" indeed. But we need to remember something too. Even a sinner still have the right to come to God. Don't be afraid to ask for forgiveness and pray to change. Maybe it will not be magically 'tadaaa, pooof, I changed'. Maybe it will be a slow process, but it's alright. What important is we want to change. Will it be hard? SUPER HARD. That's why we must ask to God. This is not just about homosexuality. It's hard to change from something we used to do. But keep the heart until someday that same heart tell you to not do something wrong.

hatwearinggamer Watch more of his videos. He has talked about it already and about the relationship with his mom :)

You ought to buy Jeff's book "Jesus > Religion." He writes about it, with his relationship with his mom.

+SayNoTo Libtards I think he was asking if they could actually make a gay porn video. The whole "do a video" part is what's throwing me off, hmm..

Lying to the Lord. Is considered blasphemy. False preaching is considered blasphemy. And one of the worst of all is calling the Lord evil is blasphemous. The unforgivable/unpardonable sin. Blaspheming the Holy Spirit.

Speaking lies,hate,curses against God or His word

Bri Day Pretty much a lie is blasphemy. But blasphemy is the most extreme i.e. saying Jesus is dead and living by that or any evil, untrue claims towards God.

Bri Day ,dont be confused or even be too afraid about it as if your salvation/God's grace toward you may fail because of it. Blasphemying the Holy Spirit is indeed unpardonable in sense that when someone continually rejecting His forgiveness/grace untill death come toward him/her then no more chance for that person to be saved. That's why it is called unpardonable. Indeed any sin we have done toward God is a blasphemy while the case of blasphemy toward the Holy Spirit is quite a special case. The sign that someone is already considered UNFORGIVEN by the Holy Spirit is that person would never turn to God/ask forgiveness from God. For someone to repent and apologize to God is actually the work of the Holy Spirit, so if you feel afraid that you have blasphemied the Lord and want to turn back to Him is actually the sign that you are still forgiven and not considered to be in the state of blasphemying the Holy Spirit

Bri Day Watch out for Jeff, he can't be trusted-, he say tattoos is not a sin, he deceive many to hell. It is a sin, and the bible says that. We are the temple of God and if we defile the temple of God we will go to hell. Ask JESUS instead, but if you havn't repented yet -Repent first or Jesus will NOT answer on your questions. He don't listen to sinners.