What Traumatizes People the Most is Malevolence, Not Tragedy | Jordan B. Peterson 

I truly hope this man will be seen in the near future as someone like Socrates and many years from now, if not tomorrow, he gets the same notoriety and respect. He speaks the same truths in today's language while admitting one's own faults in trying to find those truths. I am truly thankful for the technical advancements of today or hearing him speak would or could not been done. Thank you Dr. Peterson for your work and passionate devotion to family, God and the well being of others.

Malevolence is active and willful against you, you're specifically targetted... tragedy is life events that just happen - nice clarification. I'm getting quicker at not only spotting it coming but resisting, acting against or moving away from it. Evil on legs basically is what it is.

I was the victim of pure malevolence when my ex wife's boyfriend attacked me ruthlessly with texts from her phone, in her name... the things I heard and believed about her (and myself) were so traumatic that I've never been the same since. Fortunately for me, I was able to overcome and become a better person from it rather than a bitter person.... but the pain was overwhelming and a big part of me DIED and NEVER recovered after that. JBP is right on the money here. I could have survived the divorce, but the malevolent force of her psychopathic (now ex) boyfriend tortured my mind for years

The fact that lectures like Jordan's gets this many views and more, gives me hope for our species.

To me this describes why the psychopathic bullying that happened to me as a child from both adults and children still affects me 25 years later. I’ve been ashamed of it my whole life. This describes to me why bullying should be taken more seriously by everyone and why victims should have access to recovery. It takes you apart. I have not recovered.

When a person gets pleasure from hurting you on purpose just to watch you suffer, it's almost inconceivable as a good person to comprehend. I'm still reeling from an abusive relationship. I didn't know what she was doing to me until I got out of the relationship and looked back at the abuse I could not see while in the relationship. I was shocked beyond belief that I had let her abuse me for so long. I'll never fully recover, I'll think about what she did to me until the day I die. She will always be a part of me. I will cope with it though through the grace of God.

"a huge part of them are killed, and they often don't recover." so true

Few days ago i realised that my very first and all time best friend from my life was trying to break me psychologically, he twisted almost every conversation the way that it was driving me insane, and tried to ruin my relationships with my family and friends to turn their backs on me, i knew him 30 years and were in touch almost daily, all this changed my perspective to everything, the most horrible thing to realize was that the only human who i trusted more than anyone, same time tried to destroy me and my whole life, from now on only person who i trust is myself

malevolence is the greatest human tragedy.

I was in a high speed collision a few years ago, it really messed up my body and mind at the time, and I simply thought it was a tragedy, an accident. I found out during the legal proceedings that the guy driving the other car did it on purpose, treating the lives of my father and I as if they were dice he was betting on, it is a miracle I survived, but I won't forget the gruesome scene I witnessed that day. The fact that it was a conscious decision on the other drivers part added a whole other level to the trauma, absolutely terrified me knowing that it wasn't actually an accident, instead of fearing becoming the victim of another accident I came to fear becoming the victim of another person's intentions like we were that day, knowing then that some people can see the life of another as an opportunity for some entertainment, just a pawn in someone else's game. It ruined a good part of my life, but the life I have rebuilt out of those ruins I owe a lot to Dr. Peterson and people like him. I would still be a living dead nervous wreck if it wasn't for him.

Richard Grannon has an excellent CPTSD channel. He teaches a lot about building proper boundaries so that people who survived trauma can rebuild and move on to a healthier life.

Jordan Peterson is a MODERN day philosopher like Aristotle and Plato.

WOW. less than 4 minutes just changed me more than 8 years in school 6 years in secondary & 4 years in college

Tried to explain this revelation to some friends a few weeks ago, but I had not articulated my thoughts on it as well as JBP here. I tried to explain that even though one's aware that evil of acts varying and scary degrees occur in the world, you actually don't understand malevolence or how evil and malicious one can be until you are faced with it. 1st experience is sink or swim, you gotta role with the punches the moment they are thrown and out weave and bob and you WILL come away with scars and significant less trust in others. No one was able to relate at all, I wish them well on their encounter

Even if you are not naive you can still by victimized by malevolence lots of people like to just ignore signs or are scared to leave an abuser especially if they are threatening your family etc. I'm about the last person anyone who knows me would have expected to be victimized so it can happen to anyone sometimes they target the strong independent types on purpose because they are like a bigger trophy to destroy. You would think they would target meak and mild types but not always.

Doctor Peterson should work as advisor to heads of state to address criminology research.

The western world is at a chaotic moment right now... aproaching climax... keep your eyes open.

Jordan, I love your content. Keep up the good work

Today this girl I was talking to left me on read and then when we got to work, she completely switched up on me and was being cold and kind of mean to me. She also was blatantly flirting with every othe guy at my job, and bragging to my friend about leaving me on read and showing him the messages like it was fun for her to lead me on. She also told him she was talking to at least 10 other guys outside of work, and wondering which one she'd choose tonight. This is the same friend she straight up told she liked me a few days prior before I got her number. I now realize that everything was carefully manipulated. She acted so interested in me, we laughed together SO much like our humor matched perfectly, she was so nice to me, reciperocated everything, she must have even been watching who my close friends were, and told him that she liked me purposely so he'd tell me so I'd ask her out. Then she played a little game, left me out to dry, bragged to my friend (which she knew would tell me about her bragging, presumably to hurt me) and then IMMEDIATELY started flirting heavily with another guy and flirting with every other guy there in front of me. That is true malevolence. She literally just felt like manipulating me for no reason. I never did anything to her, I didn't pressure her or act clingy or anything (I'd admit if I did). I am very glad it lasted a very short period of time and I never had any intimacy with her before that. I should've listened when she told me she was crazy, and when my friend said she was flirting with everyone. I wanted to give her a chance. I will NOT let it make me vengeful or a coward. I prayed to God to forgive her and not punish her, I asked him to help me forgive her. I will not let it give me trust issues. I believe God showed me this but made it happen quickly so I wouldn't be destroyed, but so I would see that maybe my exes weren't so bad, maybe I don’t need to feel so bad about them. Maybe I'm not so bad either. And now I have more appreciation for actually nice girls, I am also stronger and wiser and will be more careful in the beginning, and be more capable of choosing courageously to trust someone rather than naively trusting them. It was a blessing in disguise. Thank you, God, and girl.

I've been watching peterson videos for like 5 years and only just made a realization he has been harping on about for so long but I never quite made the connection. Many people believe that the devil is not real but evidence points to the fact that the devil is very, very real - and until people truly integrate this into their belief system - i.e develop a theory of malevolence, when the reality strikes them across the face it will continue to cause un-necessary trauma. Because it's such an important part of reality that the brain is screaming at you to figure out what you did/have wrong in your perceptions system and FIX IT.

I was a victim to a man like this. Unfortunately, I am still struggling to recover and heal, now, five years later. Anthony was extremely abusive, physically and emotionally. He said he was abused as a child and grew up in a bad home....I was a 22 year old single mother when we started dating and I fell for every trap. Now I see all of the signs and how he used my naivety and low self worth against me. He quickly alienated me from my friends and family. He was possessive of me but told me how I was his soul mate. He helped my family and helped me or at least I thought he was doing it out of the kindness of his heart, but i was so wrong. He never felt remorse or even pity for me after he would punch me or kick me....and he would leave me lying on the bedroom floor for hours after he strangled me. It scares me knowing he is free in my community. I know what he is capable of.

I watched this video before i was traumatized as well, and at that time i thought i was able to differentiate between good people and malicious people. I gathered a handful of people who i thought were among the best i had, and they worked together secretly to disrupt and hurt me. I actually started to understand school shooters. I still find them repulsive, but my experience made me think about doing such a thing. This scared me. You are so insightful mr Peterson

My God! What depth of insight. That ranks him beside Jung in my opinion as an explainer of the dark side, how we connect with it, and how knowledge of it can liberate us to see both sides. To have such stuff within a few clicks on the internet . . . . do people have any concept of how lucky we are?

I have no idea how someone who didnt go throught that can actualy understands what he is talking about.

This is true. I did some terrible things and when I look back at it, only months ago, it makes me extremely sad knowing that I managed to get to a place where I could actually commit these atrocities. That realization is tough and coming to terms with what you've done is even harder, especially when it is to someone you deeply loved. It makes it even more twisted that it was not a stranger. However, I know I have learned, and still am learning, from it but it hasn't been easy at all.

Many people are so naive they dont seem to understand the difference between tragedy and malevolence. Tragedy is part of life. So is malevolence but it is unnecessary.

I think this is such an excellent video but I would take it a step further and say that even every day sin can be traumatic for people. I think this is why God lays out His Commandments and laws for life in the Bible. Because otherwise, people can so easily justify horrible sin when they don’t have a framework for moral living. For example, my dad walked out on my family when I was 12. He left my mother but emotionally pretty much left us children too (for his paralegal). He was so fixated on her, that he just couldn’t be there for us. He blew up everything that was important to us and everything that we had he raised to be. He essentially destroyed most of our family’s network of close friends (because people felt that they had to pick sides), and of course, extended family relations were different. I was so blown away by his actions because my brain had no capacity to fathom what had just happened. I just couldn’t process it. It was the worst form of terror and sadness that I had ever felt in my life. I didn’t even know such behavior was possible. So, even though he didn’t shoot up a classroom, essentially he shot the hearts of so many people - without any real empathy! He was also my best friend before he left. The sad this is is that even the most ordinary of human beings can commit such tragedy without a Godly, moral framework of right and wrong I believe. However, the silver lining to all of this is that through this trauma I found God. God taught me to not idolize another human, but to hold Him as first and foremost in my life!! I have forgiven my father and still have a relationship with him, but it was never the same as when he was in our family. And it took me so many years of therapy and searching (and finally finding) God to heal!!

as a victim of child abuse and witnessing many other forms of abuse from my father, I really appreciate people like him who can articulate the way that someone like me can grow and can learn from those experiences. cheers to growth

I think the lecture Tragedy vs Evil is a great continuation on these ideas

I did encounter that as a naive teen. My ex-boyfriend was psychopathic. It took me a year to muster up the courage and break up with him, he just wouldn't let me go, so he'd manipulate me in ways I could never imagine. It's been 3 years now, I still can't get over it. I'M STILL TRAUMATIZED.

Jordan, you’ve inspired me to actually start my own RU-vid channel

I could never stop listening to this guy haha

Such insight...

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After dating a girl I got so hurt that I don't even wanna date another girl ever again. I'm scared ill make the same mistakes and get hurt again.

What he is describing here could also be referred to as pure yin energy in Taoists philosophy. Pure Chaos. Research into creativity has demonstrated that those referred to as Creative Geniuses excel during times of chaos. If fact, it is in the realm of chaos they do their best work.

As a lonely guy who has minimal to no interactions with girls, i just had a dream where i cuddled a girl so vividly and she rejected me harshly afterwards, so i'm here to find out abt my mini-trauma and capitalize on this curiosity while i can lol

The title isn’t wrong. Literally all the worst things I’ve experienced have been because of malevolence of people and the real world after affects of what they will do to you. Also apathy and active disregard of you as a human being.

... ... we're all monsters to varying degrees ... aggression is quite natural ... what Peterson really said was know that you are a monster ... don't act it out with impunity ... but that doesn't mean zero aggression, because that's impossible.

Thank you Dr Peterson ... 💞

Trauma is the sacrifice of actual experiences into blindspots caused by a persistent lack of support to consciously manage emotional reactions and what's so. Jordan was traumatized by his parents' trauma- his mother's emotional unavailability and his father's emotional chaos. Jordan sacrificed truth and self-awareness for "that which is good" in an emotionally and developmentally threatening social hierarchy.

woooow i can't stop watching this man 😭🔥

The craziest thing is many of them actually make careers out of their psychopathy.

I came very very close to that level of psychopathy. My parents divorced when I was still young and what replaced my father was an abusive man who did not care for me but also wished harm against me and did everything to make my life miserable. I had a plan. I fantasized inflicting every possible pain and torture I could imagine even if it meant I had do die for it. What saved me was my love for my friends. They were like beautiful blooming flowers when everything around me was burning hatred and Hell. I did not want them to remember me as a monster so i chose love over vengeance even when I had the opportunity to seize my bloody vengeance. The thoughts still haunt me to this day but I don't regret choosing to be a man over a monster.

Thanks for the thoughts Doctor. I’ve been meaning to watch Pinocchio.

Any suggestions on how to properly prepare for the death of a well constructed puppet? I'd expect ideally to shift perception slowly in a professionally managed and controlled environment. If that option is unavailable is there any insight on avoiding a rubber band reaction that seems, in this clips estimation, likely?

Islam is full of teaching about malevolence i think what it's lack is the yoga practice in order to build my utopian individual cause at this point good people should be so tough mentally and physically

On point here. Alcohol is quite a destroyer of the good things in life.

From which lecture is this clip taken?

From which lecture is this?

the medical profession poorly understand both the brain and how emotions actually work ... it's tied to the consciousness, mind and body problem, which is insanely difficult to comprehend ... I've been dealing with traumatic grief for twenty years and still discovering how much psychiatry poorly understands the grief response ... I would add that close contacts should realise that drinking alcohol is not a panacea ... and neither is professional medication for these issues ... alcohol is the most socially damaging drug on the planet.

I love this video

I think soldiers would qualify here in some sense

I really want to know who that one disliker against 700 likes is... he might blow up a train real soon

intense!!!

CHAOS - the place from which order emerges..... Pinochiho .... myths....

Where’s the original video for thus

Source video?

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Dead on. Encounters with evil.

Remember blessings i said that i gave fo myr husband word of God I had mentioned this earlier that whoever it is he made you and those who are in company made mistake to know and listen to them company of Dr Jordan B Peterson i know you don't have love for me it was your idea to take higher place i understand that is nature of devil he is doomed creature you get higher place as he wanted to be most High God all destruction only by obeying God you get blessings my mistake was to know you i made mistake God was sorry that He made man i always said i found grace love and husband in Dr Jordan B Peterson so you wanted to proof what i said was wrong you tried to change Bible do you hate me so much what I have done wrong to you i know i am alone no value for those who are orphan i am adopted child from Holy spirit i rejoice in lord what you will understand this 😭😭😭?

At least acknowledge it for what it really is don't minimize it.

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Malevolent people are the worst thing on the planet. Think about that.

I'm Jordan Peterson. I've been studying authoritarian regimes for decades, and now that I've woken up in a borderline authoritarian Canada in 2020, I've begun reu-uploading 5 year old videos that have nothing to do with the current situation, instead of talking about it. New book coming out, so buy it!

Malevolence causes tragedy, isn't that obvious without watching Disney's Pinnochio?

Ohno, JBP discovered youtube drama channels

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Is this the same like manupulatirs that deceive u. Like cover narcist. Friends that deceiving. Etc

step beyond psychopathy, sounded like bill gates

I need to understand why you used a smiley with a rainbow pattern

repent for your sins and believe the gospel of Christ

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I don't understand why Jordan Peterson relies so heavily on Jung, Freud etc. They were great scientists but a lot has happened in psychology since their time. It appears that Peterson is completely unaware/ignorant of the work of Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, Peter Levine etc. which give a much deeper neurobiological explanation to trauma and PTSD, and also how to heal. These jungian and freudian models are outdated and imho shouldn't be used as main reference for PTSD.

Mind y'all own fucking business

This is Quasimodo in a nutshell.