What you shouldn't say to a woman who is child-free by choice 

I made the decision to not have kids at 10. Was told I would regret it by many. Still waiting for the regret to kick in. I’m pushing 70, so it doesn’t seem likely. I couldn’t be happier with my decision.

People: who's going to take care of you when you get old? Me: Money😂😂😂

I'm a happily childfree Black woman. Having a child is a choice, neither a requirement nor a right as a woman. In some cases, it's a privilege, because in some cultures, motherhood is forced upon a woman. I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to opt out of parenting, as a woman. Not everyone was meant to be, or should be, a parent. Just stop bugging women about our personal reproductive choices!

I don't regret my decision of being child free, regardless of what anyone says.

What do these people care? Strangers being angry that you don’t have babies? It’s not their business at all.

As a BW who is childless by choice, I've found I get the most pushback by BW who are single parents.

Good for you, Dominique. I was brainwashed into having kids by family and church. Although I have one child and don't regret it, I never put that programming into my child. It is up to him to decide. Everyone should weigh the pros and cons of this huge choice. You can never regret doing what's best for you. Great segment as well cityline.

I did not enjoy the company of children when I was a child so it wasn't something I ever even thought about doing. You don't decide to have a child or spouse presuming they will be your caretaker later in life you choose then because you want that type of relationship. Assuming that people want what is considered normative or what you want is presumptive and dismissive of other people's experienced and values.

I applaud 👏 women for being child free. I'm a man and I'm don't want children because that's my personal choice. Besides why raise a child in this evil,corrupt,satanic society. I'm a man and I feel sorry for women who already have children by these deadbeat sperm donors, going back and forth to child support court, hoping that he finally starts taking care of his responsibilities. I say "sperm donor" because you have to earn the right to be called a farther in my book 📖.

People are concerned about women not wanting children and not concerned about creating a world we would feel safe and stable enough to raise a child in. I’m 32 and have always wanted to be childfree. I remember having that thought for the first time at about 8 years old. My mom and stepmother both had my 1/2 siblings within a month of each other and I saw how much strife it caused them, their marriages and their overall satisfaction in life. At eight years old, I probably wasn’t mature enough to understand exactly how much babies were impacting their lives, but all I knew was that everyone’s life became exponentially more stressful with a baby around and I knew I didn’t want to do that. I remember being SCARED at the idea of having to go through this one day as a mom. And then it was like a light switch flipped in my brain a few years down the road and I thought…”WAIT…I don’t HAVE TO be a mom, do I?!” I answered my own question😉. I have nightmare about being pregnant, not dreams. I wake up panicking thinking a baby is in my spare room. It’s crazy because it’s almost like in those nightmares, I am seeing my life and how it would be if I did decide that I had wanted children. And the relief that I feel when I realize that it was all a dream lets me know that there’s not a single cell in my body that wants to be anyone’s mother, ever. When a woman tells you she does not want to have children, believe her. It goes so much deeper than just waking up one day and deciding babies aren’t for you.

I often get told my decision to be child free is selfish....as if them having children is them given something back to an already saturated world.....I love women are waking up to the fact to women realising its a choice not an obligation ❤❤

I agree with her. I know true love with my lovely dog. Not having children doesn't make you less woman. We all have a choice to do what we want and live happily

This is why Tracy is a great host....from bringing on this guest and providing a comfortable forum for them....as well as sympathizing with them. There can be cases when mothers isolate and ostracize women without children....as if the mothers don't have a sensitivity chip. Tracy didn't fall into that trap and was respectful. PS also love how their outfit colours are complimentary too.

Also, if people with kids tell you “You’ll never know true love until you have a baby”, ask them if they believe that their children truly love THEM. Because if we’re going by THAT standard to establish what love REALLY is, your innocent child does NOT truly love you since they they didn’t give birth to you…right?!😅Almost all parents are gonna say they think their kids DO truly love them, so you immediately flip their statement back on them and make them realize how ignorant it is. It makes them realize that true love can exist in many ways across many different forms of relationships. I “truly love” my parents, but not in the same way I “truly love” the woman I’ve been best friends with since kindergarten. But I don’t “truly love” my best friend the same way I “truly love” my dog. If they get offended by you pointing that out, it says more about them than you. The truth hurts and throwing an insulting question back in someone’s face after they threw a backhanded insult at you is a good, low-key savage way to say “f-ck you for assuming I haven’t experienced true love”.

This lady has such a calm and friendly demeanor.

I knew when I was a teenager, I didn’t want children. I love children but till this day I haven’t regret my decision.

I was Childfree before I even knew what the term was. I was only 13 and I’m 24 now; haven’t changed my mind and I don’t think I will 🤣

It means a lot to me to see all this happy childfree women!! I’ve known my whole life I didn’t want kids but I only verbalized it last year when I turned 17. I am so happy with this decision and I have an ever growing list of reasons why I don’t want them. 😅

Perfectly said! Great interview! Thank you.

I love this interview! Dominiques not only gave wonderful answers but looked stunning while doing so! I loved her outfit!!

In sports teams, new players suffer hazing and abuse by older players. When they become the older players, they then haze and abuse the younger ones instead of being mature and ending the cycle of abuse. Breeders are the same way, they want to force everyone to breed and suffer children the same way they did. They hate Childfree people's willpower to say "No" to society, our thinking that led us to question conformity, our determination to make our own decisions. 2:30 - Questioning and commenting on people's reproduction is sexual harassment and should be treated that way. It doesn't matter whether it's a Childfree person or even someone who does want kids, asking is sexual harassment.

Yesss! Love Dom!

I enjoy being involved in the lives of friends' children childlike energy, and children's creativity AND I enjoy coming home to my own space and my cats. Parenthood is a huge responsibility and it never appealed to me. Grateful my parents were generous with me and gave me a decent foundation yet I have no desire to do that.

Proud of you girl. Live your best life!

People need to mind their own business. Which century is this? 🇹🇹

I'm 39 and I'm childfree by choice it baffles me that some people get mad at me because I decide I don't want to have any kids at all I be telling them it's my choice that I don't want to have any kids at all and having kids is a choice

One awkard and terrible experience when i was twenty three from a stupid mistake confirmed to me that I was asexual and that I did not want children. I carried the pregnancy to term gave kid up for adoption haven't dated or had any regrets about staying childfree and I'm now coming 34. I'm a complete introvert love my own space and peace and quiet and hate been around people. I sell online at home so i dont have to work all day surrounded by people i make just enough to pay bills and feed myself and my two dogs not raise a child. I stay up at night sleep until whatever time I want in day. I love my life love movies, music, hiking with my dogs and not having to change everything I am and give up everything I love to be a parent. There's more to a woman than a childbearer having children is a personal decision that changes your whole life it should only happen if you know it's what you really want.

Those "friends" that called me selfish are no longer my friends.

Dominique !! Love her on Tik Tock! Happy international CF Day 8/1/23 🎉🎉😄.

I don’t need the miserable life of a mother to know what love is

Yeah, I agree with that statement. It is truly selfish to have children considering they don't ask to be born and this world is sick and disgusting. This is coming from a both single/unmarried and childfree man who doesn't regret this life decision.

I’m a conservative woman who wants to live my life child free for many reasons. I come from a diverse family, with half of them being Puerto Ricans and the other half Sicilian, both of which are huge on family and “old school” traditions when it comes to these societal expectations of bringing life into this world as a woman. However, it’s even more confusing to fellow conservatives that I don’t hold the same value in wanting to start a family because of political correctness (God, faith, family, women’s rights when it comes to abortion etc…) and while I am pro life, I can also have every right to be childfree myself. Another thing that aggregates me are the “what ifs” from pro lifers. What if you got pregnant? It’s called birth control. Use it accordingly. Now stop worrying so much about my life choices, and go change that diaper. 🎉

Even tho I want kids if I was with a partner. Who doesn't want kids or couldn't have kids. I would just except it and not have kids

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Or when people say "just adopt" likes its actually affordable and easy 😂

I never wanted to be a parent. Forty-seven years old and have zero regrets. I love my freedom!

Children are a damn handful, people need to mind their damn business if you have kids raise them and mind your damn business, damn

This audience rarely gave any applause during this segment which means they do not agree with Dominique Baker on being childless.

When people ask me when am I having children I say never because I don't want that responsibility I love my freedom. Some responses are supportive while others assume am barren. Black communities are the worst in passing judgement but at the same time complain about high rates of single parent homes

I didn’t want kids. Now that my parents have entered assisted living I have huge regrets. Their life is so much richer in old age because they have us.

We men do get the same push back, believe it or no.

Absolutely nothing wrong with this.I have no children am very happy.The only problem is when you grow old and your health changes .

42 yr happily married and childfree. Do what’s best for you. It’s far worse to regret having children. Don’t bring babies unless you are 500% committed.

Everyone should have 30 kids or as many as they can if they can!!

I'll say whatever I want to someone who Identifies as Child free. I miss the days where literally nobody gave a sh*t or questioned it. Better not to glorify it so the narcissists feel seen.

I'm child-free too and what I find odd is people who make a childless life their personality. (Yes, Yes, I know people with children do it too...) I think if she made one or two tiktoks it would be ok since she's giving context to her life but a tiktok account dedicating so much time to that topic?? 🙄 And that pious "look at me eating grapes in my quiet home without the bother" is really cringe, it's why your friends don't include you because you appear to shout your choice from roof top - you lead with that like it's a character trait. (it's no different to the large family vloggers that the Internet is quickly losing interest in)

there is nothing normal about choosing not to have children and we should never normalise or make this thing look popular cz its not

That’s a whole man, that can’t reproduce children! Hence, her stance. I love the show but, Dominique should be more honest with the viewing audience!

If the husband doesn't want kids wich is very unusual that's fine but for a woman to think she has the right or authority in a marriage to make that decision is selfish and just plain wrong when your married you become one flesh any woman who goes against this should remain single