Ever wondered how much your birth order affects your personality? Dr. Karyn Gordon talks about personality traits of eldest, middle, and youngest children.
Based on my experience: as middle child, my parents had spent their time with youngest and oldest. They were more likely supported emotionally and emotionally, so as they grow they depend on parents decisions . As I am , parents during that time my parents are establishing their career so less time less and more less time for me . At a young age my sister has estbalished supporting our family business and build her own business , the youngest were supported sending as students visa in USA and working now in airways . When they were establishing their career at young age I was struggling. Now as I grew matured and mistakes are not corrected , not guiding properly and got matured I was forced myself to be something. Now I am no longer scared to do something. I graduated in engineering, and studying abroad at 34 years old , putting up a business in Arab country and putting up a non profit organizations. I felt because of not being supported , I became more resilient and I do t have social pressure and just focusing on my self and my goals in life .
this person literally spent the least amount of time explaining the most complicated one ( the middle child ) which just reinforces the middle child syndrome phenomenon
Little Flower huh that really I was the forgotten child my family having the fun and I was sitting there just watching on the ipad trying not to cry and then not noticing me the whole day till night how does that feel
I'm more responsible that my oldest sister, I'm the middle child by the way. The only thing that my sister has of being "the oldest" is that she is the favorite.
Omg I’m the middle children too , and I’m absolutely more responsable than my older sister and like I have some of the older sister characteristics and I’m treated like the middle
This is true for me and my siblings. They’re going by the NORM, my husbands brother sane thing he’s going to be an astronaut and is a doctor , my eldest brother went to Columbia for engineering, graduated magna cum Laude. My middle brother is the peacemaker, he’s quiet but kinda lost he’s the only one who has had Togo back home.. me and the eldest never did. I’m very sentimental, and by the time I was here I got “relaxed” parenting. I am an entertainer.. I’ve always been taken care of. I was always the rebel. I may as well have been an only child because my brothers are both 8 & 10 years older than me.
a lot of this I didn't agree with but there were like 3 things I did, including the middle child being the peacekeeper, whenever I get in a fight with my sister (the oldest), he is usually the one stopping us, another thing I agree with, there is not a completion between them, but like they said the youngest (me) an over achiever, is always trying to best my siblings, which actually get more attention then I do, my mom wants something done "CHRIS GET OVER HERE" (me) " I can do it" (mom) "no you can't" (when I can). Somethings I disagree with, "I get the most attention" lol that's funny my sister gets all the attention, she wants to be an artist so she is always showing my mom her paintings and my mom be like "that's amazing Angel you are great" while I can also draw amazingly, but she refuses to believe that, and my brother he's quiet but works a lot and gets rewarded a little too much, and is not that much of a social person, that's me, another thing I disagree with, "oldest go for steady jobs and good grades", not so much for her, me, yes, I want to be a history professor at the University of Georgia with a advanced pay of 92 thousand dollars a year and invent things on the side as a bonus
I'm the youngest of two what does that make me? My brother was always shy and timid and I was the rambunctious fighter and I wid often fight his bullies (I never had any) and I always had to speak for him
I am a definite over achiever but I'm the mostly likely one in my family to go bungee jumping or skydiving and I am Very creative and I am obviously a youngest child
And see, I am the only child and there were pros and cons. The pros were that I did my own thing, got a lot of parental recognition and time, have always been very independent, and never followed the crowd/don't like people in my face all of the time. I crave for and seek out alone time and do not need a crowd to have fun. The cons are that I have serious issues with disappointment...not just disliking it, but refusing to accept it. I came to grips with the fact that things "are not always going to go my way" in my 20's...I know, that's bad. LOLLLL! But, interestingly enough, I am big on sharing..and am not selfish,...which is contrary to the idea that only children are "self-absorbed" and "don't like to share." The other cons are imaginary friends and talking to myself (as a child), and not feeling as if I was understood/could bond with kids my age. In fact, now at 31, most of my friends are older than me, up to a friend who is 70. No joke. I love older people and don't vibe with many people younger than me...just my experience. People tend to think that the only child has it the best and we are spoiled, but I actually envy the "babies of the family" in that from what I have seen, they are PROTECTED to the max and tend to always have the security of knowing that someone in their family will have their back. I observed this with a former friend, and two ex-boyfriends. LOLLL!
What else to expect, we are the eldest and most liable to be answerable. But when we were still the only child we never thought we are the responsible one, well not until our siblings came. Still we grew to Love The Role.
I'm the older child in a family of only 2 children (my parents only had my brother and me). I would say that I was always very perfectionistic when I was younger. I was also a lot fussier about other people's behavior than my brother was (he's 2 years younger than me and doesn't have any disabilities). If someone didn't follow the rules or codes of behavior the EXACT way I understood them, I would let them know (and not always in an appropriate way or place, or at an appropriate time) how it made me feel (even if it was a parent, teacher, or peer who broke the perceived rule). I think part of that is because I also have Asperger Syndrome (I think it's called High-Functioning Autism now?), and a lot of people on the Autism Spectrum (but not all) are more rigid in their ways of understanding rules and codes of behavior than most people without Autism (but not all). I think a lot of kids tend to mirror their parents' or guardians' attitudes toward misbehavior. A lot of times with the oldest child(ren), parents/guardians are more apt to correct or reprimand their child(ren) for even the smallest misbehavior. With every child who comes afterward, the parents' or guardians' attitudes toward behavior might be a little more like, "well, I'd guess it's not really a big deal unless it's dangerous or destructive, or making someone else REALLY uncomfortable."
+Leanne Strong I'm the handicapped first born too: epilepsy,visual impairment and learning disability. I actually failed school, but was passed due to my learning disability and the onlly avid reader. I can pass for a Harvard better than a lot of valedictorians I know. My abled-bodied sister and father made fun of my disabilities just as classmates. My sister got away with stealing for 12 years)1977-89). Ironically she met her match and has paid for it for 25 years already. My father actually yelled at me when I couldn't understand homework. In the meantime, he's claiming to love me. I told him, in '05, "You do to the mind and emotions of a child what your son(my half brother whom I didn't know until I was 12) does to the mind,emotions and genitals of a child. You abuse. Why don't you get together and exchange notes?" Like my teachers, as he and my mother, if Ray Charles were his kid, Designing Women wouldn't have a them.
+Tia Williams I wasn't abused like I understand you were. Nor did anyone in my family ever do anything as bad as stealing (ok, well, maybe my brother or I did when we wer little, and didn't know better). But I did sometimes feel like my parents let my brother (2 years younger than me) off easy for something that would have earned me a good long talking to when I was his age. I thought it wasn't fair. That was because I remembered my how my parents and teachers had always explained that it wasn't fair if one sibling or classmate got something different or got a different amount of something than the rest. I thought that everything should be fair all the time, and that fairness means treating everyone exactly the same. I didn't want the fairness rule to be broken.
My parents gave my sister 64 spanking in 1978 alone. That shows how dedicated they are. I learned that my parens met in FL not SC like they said. I'm still digging.
What if you don't know if you're an elder child or middle child my mom is remarried has two other children younger my father has two older children than me from a previous marriage both my parents are remarried with different partners and I'm stuck with no proper love and care in fact my parents have chosen their other partners and other kids over me this is what step children have to deal with when parents get remarried we are shunned to the side of suffer from depression and I've tried to kill myself seven times, i dont know if im older, middle or youngest? Both parents have kids from previous and new relationships help
Ask who the children take after, Mum/ Dad?, then see the differences of /between the parents. Birth order then comes in.Then maybe some sense comes of it.
As a youngest child myself, I would say that the dynamic in _my_ family is that the older one looks more like the mom, and the younger one looks way more like the dad 🤣🤣
all these so called birth order experts only have one good thing to say about middle children and thats that there good peacemakers, when in reality we usually tend to be the most talented (we gotta work twice as hard to be noticed), most independent (learn stuff on our own), the most social (chosen family over regular), and the most ambitious because we feel like we always have something to prove, ppl really underestimate the middle child, also 52 percent of US presidents are middles not first borns
I'm the oldest of three, two younger brothers......... I only wanted two children of my own and that's what I have, two sons, no middle child syndrome to deal with... so much easier.
Sheesh, this is PURE crap. It doesn't account for the temperament of children, which is inherent, or if the parents both work, or many, many, many other factors that shape a child's personality and moral character.
I am a definite over achiever but I'm the mostly likely one in my family to go bungee jumping or skydiving and I am Very creative and I am obviously a youngest child
