I mean, sometimes they're right. I had those sort of moment with my own parents growing up and always blamed it on my parents, but as a parent now I can see the other side of it. There are times that I will say something to my daughter and instead of asking any sort of follow-up if I wasn't very clear or if she didn't understand what I was trying to say, she will make assumptions and jump to conclusions and in her memory I said those things she read into the conversation instead of what I actually said. Memory is a fallible thing for both children and adults and I'm sure in most instances there's a good amount of failures in that regard on both sides of the equation. If a child interprets something said as a harsh criticism, that's what they'll remember that interaction as regardless of reality. I have to make sure my language is really precise when I talk to my daughter to make sure there is no room for misunderstanding.
@@nephatrine - Kids don't jump to conclusions right off the bat, they learn from previous experiences how you've treated a situation and make inferences based on those interactions. Kids aren't making up stuff just for giggles, they've had enough conversations with you to build a story about who you are and how you treat them. It's not just about the one time you said something that was misinterpreted. Sure that one time might've been a misread, but there's an entire amalgam of cumulative moments that justified her coming to that conclusion. Kids aren't out to make their parents the bad guy, but parents are often misguided or not as communicative as they should be, and it leads to children who are left confused, neglected, or mistreated. If a misunderstanding happened bc you dropped the ball explaining it to her, that's still a YOU problem. Trying to reframe it as if it was your daughter's fault for misunderstanding, when you're supposed to give her proper guidance, is you simply blame-shifting. Even if we wanted to be generous & "cut parents some slack" by using this example, at the very least the onus falls on both parties (parent & child), but in no way does it exempt parents from their error. And to be fair, this is not all parents. I'm noticing that Gen X and Millenials are doing a way better job of raising their kids than Boomers. We live in a completely different world, yet it seems that Boomers never left their existential plane. They seem to think you can apply their experiences to today's world, which is ridiculous. They're the most out-of-touch generation, they're also the most entitled and elitist in behavior, yet have the gall to accuse younger gens of entitlement. Even Silent Gen, who are the eldest gen alive, have a way better understanding about what current kids are dealing with - that's bc Silent Gen lived through the Great Depression and both World Wars. Unfortunately, just bc Silent Gen is slightly more nuanced, that doesn't mean they don't also fully grasp this era. Since they're also complicit in voting for the political & economic structures we deal with today, it's not too big of a surprise that communication barriers between parents/grandparents and today's kids has lots of friction.
@@navaloregopakumar2265 - Exactly, kids need to get more credit than they're given. They're treated like they're too young to understand. The reality is they're often able to see more subtleties and optimism, bc they haven't yet had their judgments clouded by the cynicisms of our world. They can approach broad ideas without our biases or jaded outlooks. It seems pervasive that in every generation, there's this sentiment that children aren't intelligent and that they must only be seen, not heard. Kids are pretty insightful. It's like we forget that *Greta Thunberg, Malala Yousafzai, Emma Gonzalez, Marley Diaz, Mari Copeny (AKA Little Miss Flint), etc. are our society's youngest change-makers.* They weren't gifted children who had privileged access to a popular platform, they were regular kids who saw an issue and tackled it tenaciously until adults shut up for once & listened. Even kids back in the day did this, like Samantha Smith who was "America's Youngest Peace Advocate" at 10 yrs old during the Cold War. I always try to remind myself that children are only a reflection of us, so if they suck, it's bc us adults didn't do our jobs right.
Probably my favorite part of the clip! I'm gonna totally just use it in any situation where I disagree with something that upsets me. Boss: You could improve in these areas... Me: Let me out of the car! Let me out of the car!
That’s exactly how parents get defensive when confronted with their failures. “Oh, because of your abusive parents?” No one said “abusive” until you did just now.
Yup, just like how my mom that adopted me. I confronted her and she had nothin but excuses and said that her verbal abusive didn think it would do that much mental damage because I am a BOY.
@@DblONo7 Hey, friend. Don't let it weigh on you. Parents are people too, in all their flaws and crippling insecurities. I'm not defending your mom, or my parents for the matter. Just want to tell you - you're doing good, AND you can do more good.
Lil Filth Same, I recently very gently brought up how my father would spank me when I was younger (to the point of tears and screaming) when I had no idea what I’d done wrong and was too young to understand, and he somehow magically forgot it ever happened and insisted it never did. He was acting like I was crazy and dramatic, and it’s such a terrible and I suppose invalidating feeling to hear that from the person who did it to you and was supposed to take care of you
Kinda sad how parents don't remember.... I remember talking to my Dad about how I don't try for stuff cause he used to tell me what I liked (Reading/Videogames) didn't matter, and I would never make money that way. But when I brought it up, he had no memories of doing it. It kinda messes you up.
And lots of people blame their parents for their own inability to see and fix themselves. .. Nobody is perfect, it is your job to fix you. Once you are past 17 years old .. that problem?... is YOUR problem.. life is too short to live it stuck with the limitations of your parents thoughts and abilities. Grow, change, adapt..
Phredo Cassera I understand your message, and I do agree with parts of it. Not the part that entirely absolves the parent’s of guilt when the child is 17 though.
Sometimes. Other times you have people like her who are natural comedians and performers or at least appear that way. That was a truly amazing set, even if it wasn't gut bustingly hilarious. Still an amazing performance.
That's true and obvious in comedians like Bill Burr; but there are other ones, like George Carlin, Jeff Allen, and Dennis Regan, who you can clearly tell that they have a pretty wholesome and healthy inner lives, without any of these deep-seated issues. As for Ms. Povitsky here, I really can't tell if your deduction is true or if she's just faking it for comedy.
I think older parents loved us, but really didn't know how to express it. What they remember is how much they felt for us in their heart, not what they did to us in our heads.
The bit with her parents is classic Esther. She's one of those comics who's very good at 'awkward' situations. I'm glad to see she's still going strong... :)
@@LolSaiYes You're right, it's totally part of the joke. I've seen a bunch of her work, and she's had her parents in it before. I'm sure they knew what was going on and played along.
I didn’t laugh at all, but I watched the whole thing. She’s one of those comics that is entertaining in a way that’s hard to explain but you get it when you see it. I like her
"there's no such thing as a perfect mother but there is such a thing as an accountable mother" lol glad to see my boomer parents aren't the only ones with absolutely zero accountability or self awareness
When my parents have (brief) moments of self-awareness, it coincides with realizations about how their parents treated them. Then I'm like "Okay, if that was so awful, why did you do it to me and my sister?" They had an example of how NOT to act, and they went right ahead and did it.
@@danielcamacho1913 Sounds like boomers, especially when trying to justify things like hitting. “Well, hey, *our* parents would hit us for EVERYTHING!”… as if that makes it okay. 🙄
@@marcuslesesne6239 "shitty" would be neglectful or not even being there.. an indifference to whatever their child is or does. That indifference can cultivate into all kinds of neuroses. I'd say abusive parents are in the "abusive" category tho.
You do realise it’s a sketch... This is a comedy set, not a lifetime documentary... You and the entire comments section needs to get their heads checked. Unlikely to find a brain I’d say 🙄
I knew it! I thought she was that cake girl! No bad feelings about downvoting especially now. Worst. Ad. Ever. And the "comedian " behind it? Perhaps Amy Shumer was her mentor???
Parents are crazy. Reminds me of when mine used to borrow money and then when you go to get it back, they hit you with “All I’ve done for you, take the money out of that”. 😐
mIkeDBIGame Thats the kind of gaslighting a lot of parents use. Some parents take advantage of their kids. Not all of them but definitely some. We don’t know this mans story. I personally have a friend who’s parent would steal their money and use it to buy beer or weed. It’s a parents job to take care of their kid, not vice versa
Goes both ways. Most kids, especially in America, don't realize how truly good they have it. If a parent doesn't spend a lot of time with their kids because they're always working and providing the kids will grow up and complain that "daddy didn't spend enough time with me" and if they decide to work less, make less and spend more time with their kids then the kids will grow up and complain about how poor they were growing up and how they could never buy anything or do anything fun.
You know what’s really scary......the men that give their daughters “daddy issues” Fear them, and love the women whose fathers didn’t at no fault of their own The daddy issues are the daddy’s issue, not the other way around
2:52 "because of your abusive parents"-🤣. I tried to have this conversation with my old man and he got annoyed, looked over at my mom and said "I told you we should have taken him to the doctor from all those times we dropped him". Lol
You know what's crazy? I didn't know this girl from a can of paint, but as she was riding in the car the scenery reminded me of my hometown. Gave me nostalgia. Come to find out, she was just one town over (3:10).
It reminded me of my home town too. Well near my home town. Since Skokie is on Chicagoland’s far north side (but close suburbs.) the clue was the gigantic CTA train running by. Looking forwards to her special. If she has a ton of her family in the crowd the audience reactions should be a real hoot.
2:18 My parents don't remember being negative all the time, either. They would tell me about all the times they bragged about me to their friends, and they remember telling me (trite, useless) things like "You can do whatever you put your mind to". Then I see them and they're *still* negative all the time, and they complain about me being negative and angry about things, and my sister and I remind them *"We know where I got it."*
It’s crazy how I am reading the comments about parents and agreeing with everything. Lol 😂 I think all of our parents went to the same school called, “Denial”. Lol 😂
God your dad has such a horrid guilt complex. Clearly you've largely forgiven him but damn, dude needs to talk to someone and both admit & forgive his own mistakes. Yikes! Great bits!
@@BothHands1 she is not just screwing with "them". It's not that I know her, her parents and her can be in this together and create this show to get attention. I have no way of knowing that. It doesn't matter, behind that mask is a deep hurt that she is trying to avoid, that is what matters. I don't know what it is and I don't care either but it is giving people an unhealthy inspiration about how they could deal with their issues. In this case taking on the victim role to get attention. Making a show out of it is what is making this unhealthy, therapy and healing happens in retreat, not in public.
I once had a girlfriend who wanted to call me daddy. I gave her 5 dollars and told her, "If I'm going to pretend to be "your" daddy then go to the store and get me a pack of cigarettes."
Or that's literally why she has a sense of humor. This is how my family is and it's the reason I have the sense of humor I have. Only snowflakes would take these things personally and bottle the feelings up inside.
I’m 21 and I’m still coming back from when my parents used to chant “don’t treat us like one of your friends” Some parents be treating their kids like literal prisoners n slaves to the house and when you don’t fight back I guess they assume they’ve done nothing wrong.
Esther is always surprising. She presents points of view I didn't think of and I laugh every time I hear her jokes, as much as I do the first time I see her perform it or catch it on the internet. From being around her at The Conedy Store, I found her to be kind and thoughtful. I look forward to more of her shows.
Compared to when Bill Burr went on Just for laughs. Couldn't agree with you more. There are some comics that can't tiptoe the line and there are ones like this that don't even bother trying.
@@bene3443 the big difference is Bill and most other male comics are actually funny. Women make terrible comedians and resort to sh*tty one liners and vagina jokes.*cough* Amy Schumer.
WELL...as a father of two adult daughters myself, I am absolutely...laughing my ass off at that last zinger about "he's seventy five and broke." I did not see that one coming.
Holy god! I thought it was a targeted RU-vid ad when the scene shifted to MY HOMETOWN and started showing a street within walking distance of my house. I was so confused until the camera showed her in the backseat. Hometown girl!!
