This is why young women need real women in their lives! My Mom & Grandmother would always say if he ain't committed - move on. Never give more than you are receiving. You will be OK. Just walk away.
@lucybendolph Truthfully, these women were always admired, loved and adored by men. They behaved and carried themselves like ladies. I never witnessed a man disrespect them. Both have passed away, yet whenever I run into anyone that knew then, all they have is beautiful things to say. They knew their worth and loved themselves.
“If a man can live without YOU, you need to live without HIM!” BOOM! There it is! I heard someone else say it this way, “Let a person do what they wanna do and they will show you what they RATHER do!” ❤️
My Queen, you have my sympathy. The love of my life showed signs very early of not being anyone to take seriously. I was so blinded by what I was seeing. It's made me stone cold suicidal 😢. I just want my mental freedom again. 😢❤ I just don't like being WEAK it makes me into something I can't relate to. So sorry for your pain.
Woman my man after 27 years of solid commitment to him decided it was ok to run back to mommy and daddy because I had to “man up” when I became a proper orphan. I hear you. It hurts like nobodies business but I’m sure you got this. If you have a support structure then you got this ok?
If he needs space, often times it's because you are not his only option. He's trying to decide between you and someone else. Eliminate yourself as his other "option" and connect with a man with whom you are his 1 and only. Nothing against space in general because during that time she may realize he is not the one God has chosen for her.
This is what happened to me! The space is what was needed for ME as the woman to truly see the man I was begging for his time and attention etc was a man in that space I realized I didn't even see as a true fit or what I was attracted to morally etc. I blocked all paths of communication because I realized I was done and wasn't coming back for good.
I thank God for receiving christ cause he gave me a purpose and pulled me out of this love drama. I have peace and I know my man will come cause I choose christ first. This was my case and I know how it can be very challenging to walk away but free
You missed his point. Let a man think with out a woman always believing it is another woman. Men do need space to figure things out. It does not always have to do with another woman. That other man you speak of will need space as well. Women need space as well. Women need to do self assessments. We are NOT perfect. There are things we do or say that men find disturbing in their minds. Whether you admit it or not, you give yourself space. His space time might not be when you give yourself space. Women must learn to STOP manipulating that man. If a woman is constantly in a man's space (in his face), she is only confusing him and things between them become blurry to him. He is not thinking clearly or for himself. A man needs to hear his own voice. He has to step back to think how and what he is feeling about her and how he feels when he is with her. Many women nowadays think men do not have their own problems or concerns. Women are NOT men only solution to solving problems. When that woman is not around, he has the space to focus on his life with her and how life would be with her before commiting to a lifetime relationship in matrimony. This is why there are so many divorces nowadays. Whether women admit to it or not, they think they can manipulate men by always wanting to be with them every single minute of a day. A good man needs space and time to think if he can care for that woman, take care of her, and be there as she needs him to be. Men struggle with doubt just like women. Let's face it, some of you women are too high maintenance and need. I even view some women as a basket case. High maintenance doesn't mean you should look beautiful but you too caught up in material things and you expect the man to buy these things and pay the bills all by himself. That will break his bank.
Women have to be willing to “pay now” or we will pay later with wasted time, broken heart, and soul ties. Ladies be willing to walk away (for good) if he is not offering you what you desire. 🙏🏽
This is so true! My husband didn’t think I would leave and I packed up my belongings and got my own place. It definitely showed him that I am capable of leaving a situation where I’m not being respected. He told me that he never thought that I would leave him. I’ve never had another issue out of him since.
I ALWAYS SAY WHEN SOMEONE DOESNT APPRECIATE YOUR PRESENCE THEN LET THEM APPRECIATE YOUR ABSENCE .. AND THAT GOES FOR A MAN, FRIEND, CHILDREN, FAMILY ETC.. TO WHOMEVER IT MAY CONCERN!!!
Haha, thats exactly what i did. After a disagreement he went cold and pulled away for days and I let him. I told him i was there when he was ready to talk. He came back and told me he doesn't think i'm the one...."something doesnt feel right." I said ok, nice knowing you. Then he came begging to have me back. I am not playing games boo. I am not staying in a relationship with you being one foot in and one foot out= the trust was lost. I'm not going to allow myself to be continuously hurt by your avoidant patterns=you need to heal your trauma. I love myself too much. He finally began therapy, as we had already discussed, but I guess he thought I'd always be there. Next!
I'm going through this right now. Tomorrow's will be three weeks. I hate admitting that I feel free. This heaviness has been lifted from my back, and I feel genuinely happy again. I don't want him back. I needed this.
He didn't say that man will not return. Three weeks just what you needed for space. Space does not always men the man is gone. Men need to resolve issues and make preparations to receive the love of their life. It doesn't men that man was the negative force in the relationship either.
Also dont give it all out at first! Make him show you who he is first.. make him work a little. Men actually want this. Give him space too and keep yourself busy doing things you love. Dont focus so much on him at first
I’ve decided to make Jesus my husband. Tired of meeting these Men that can’t do the bare minimum. I believe this is why Jesus keeps allowing me to meet them to wake me up and realize he is more than enough. I’ll know the right one when he comes and if he doesn’t I can say I had real love before and I’m good with being single❤ because I’m not settling for the bare minimum.
in the time you give him space and learn to be without him you don’t even want him no more … the right man will not need to wander away from you to know your the one…❤❤❤
Awesome. And this would be the result that women would want. However if we get the opposite, that’s also good because now we know if he can live without us so freely and happily and loves his space without us - then he’s probably not the one for us and we should definitely move on. I’m glad you let boo-thang didn’t enjoy space without you. Peace & Blessings
@@goddessglow6996 I’m wondering the same thing. It’s only been 2 weeks and it feels like a month! I let my boyfriend go and he was so angry he shut down, and decided to keep my laptop. That’s stealing and I’m incredibly angry! I was stupid enough to lend it to him and now he wants to hold it hostage. I can buy another one, but it made me see another side of him I never saw before.
How long did it take him to come back ? It’s been 2 weeks for me & hurts so bad. But I had to let him go. He doesn’t want to marry me, and it’s been too many years.
Dang!!! I JUST decided to give the man I love space… this message is for me. He texted me but I haven’t responded. It’s been going on 3 days now and I miss him so much but my spirit kept telling me SPACE… give this man space… and room to show up. I’ve been showing up for him since we met. I need to know he’s sure about me.
Hi.. I truly understand what you are going through cuz I'm in a similar situation. I completely stopped texting him back since Feb 16 and he's been silent since then. I do miss him so much! But since I'm praying for God's will I'm literally controlling myself texting/calling him. This is so hard but I rather have God's way than fulfill a fleshy desire ( missing him part) God's teaching me to be literally truly patient and I'm enduring it.
This is absolutely true! After 8yrs in a connection, i felt taken for granted. I broke it off & 16mos in separation, he was relentless in getting me back. It wasn't a game for me....I just needed to know that he really loved me....And he does! We are back together & going on 10yrs(minus the break). Thank-you Sir👑
And. That space can offer a lot of clarity. Sometimes space allows you to discover that he wasn't the right person for you and you were settling along. Only entertain marriage minded men anyways.
I feel like if he needs space to figure that out, he doesn't love you. If he loved you, he would not be hesitant. He would quickly claim you as his prize. If you ever have to question whether he loves you or not - I mean if he's gaslighting you, lying to you, ghosting you, being disrespectful, etc. and you're giving him the benefit of the doubt for ANY reason - HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Tell him to start walking.....and keep on going.
I got the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" speech. Painful when you're the one in love. I was asked what do I want to do, so I was trying to decide if I was going to stay friends or walk away. This video helped me decide. I sent him a text and said "I think it's best if I step back at this time." Bowing out gracefully.
Wow. That's exactly what I did last week. I told him I'm going to give him space to figure out his life. I have no problem staying away, but if this pushes us farther apart, I'm prepared for that too.
Don't let him keep you waiting as a place holder or an option.. Stay in your royal consciousness! Move on without him.. If he needs time away from you, then he dont really want to be with you!
Pastor Blake, my heart and soul hurts, I have dedicated it to a man without blaming him, I lost all self worth, I’m so broken. Thank you for teaching women. Thank you. 💔
I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏
Get back up queen. You are stronger than you think. Learn from this mistake and become the best version of you. There is a king on the other side waiting for the "new" you, the best you.
I agree with this teaching. Women need to be reminded of this when single and in some cases abused married women. The only thing additional to concern is if he returns. Be slow to assume that his intentions are 100% pure. Sometimes, men return for their ego. They want to see if they can get you back or prevent another man taking their place. Or they may can't have their way with someone else. Bottom line, if he returns and still does not respect you as a queen repeat what Bishop said the first time! Don't let them love bomb you back into the same old mess! Right, Bishop?
Digital hugs your way Bishop. 10 years ago, I gave a man I love space. Guess what? He never pursued me because he could live without me, and I've learned to live without him and allow real men to enter my life. Praise God.🎉
Say it again for the people in the back 😊. People are so afraid of the truth… they don’t want to do that because they may already know the truth and want to keep holding on or they are just fearful that it could lead to the person moving on. I’d rather be sure than to spend a lifetime wondering 🤔 if the person really wanted me for his wife. Please listen to this message with an open heart and mindset. I’ll be married 19 years next month and before we got married we walked away to resolve personal issues and to learn ourselves before we became one ❤. No regrets … no insecurities… no wandering… I’m married to my love… my best friend. I can’t imagine being married to anyone else Anem🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️🥰
Amen 🙏🏽 my motto! Steve Harvey said, when you (a woman) Drops off the face of the earth, becomes missing in action, a man has a hard time adjusting to that new reality! They don’t like knowing you can disappear 🫥 out his life in an instant!!
This is so true. I had to do this very thing and it was extremely difficult. In the end, it was the best thing for our relationship. We're married now, and I wouldn't change the process we had to go through.❤
Amen. God 1st. Jesus 1st. Top priority in your life. When you make God first in your life, everything else will fall into place. When you make God your 1st love and follow his will for your life, and although there are hardships, heartbreak, and loss of all kinds, God will show you the reason why things happened the way they did.
Greetings! A bit of knowledge & enlightenment for u...There are 90 scriptures that dispute the false teaching that Jesus is GOD. Before I get to some of the exact Scriptural evidence, let's review some basic information that most people should know... Jesus mostly referred to himself as the "Son" of GOD & told us that we are all the sons & daughters of GOD the Father. Whn the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, If Jesus was GOD, he would've told them to pray to him but he did NOT. He explicitly told them to pray to GOD the Father "Our Father who art in heaven..." Isaiah 45:21-22 tells us EXACTLY what GOD wanted us to know about who HE is & that HE is GOD, the One & Only! The scriptures say "who hath told it from that time? have not I the Lord? and there is no GOD beside ME; a just GOD & a Saviour; there is none beside ME. Look unto ME, & be ye saved, all the ends of the earth: for I am GOD, & there is none else." Jesus actually emphatically denies being GOD all throughout the scriptures (Luke 18:19, Matthew 19:17, John 14:28, John 10:29, Luke 11:2, John 4:23, John 5:30, John 17:21-23, Numbers 23:19, Hosea 11:9, Acts 2:22, John 17:3, *Matthew 20:28*, John 5:19 & 30, Acts 10:38.The very 1st commandment tells us to love GOD the Father w/all of our hearts & never put anyone or anything above HIM. I could go on but I ask u to do a quick Google search of all the times Jesus told us plainly that he is NOT GOD! & u can read many Scriptures & be revealed that Jesus is NOT GOD & see all the times that Jesus stated himself that he is not GOD but the "Son" of GOD. Keep in mind, Jesus always referenced GOD as the source of his knowledge & powers to perform all his miracles. He never gave himself credit & ALWAYS let it be known that GOD THE FATHER was the source of all he did. We must break free of the lies & false teaching that Jesus is GOD. Especially since it is pure foolishness bc it goes directly against what Christ himself told us! Ignorance is not bliss & not an excuse when all we ever needed to do was read/study the scriptures for ourselves instead of depending on others to feed us lies. The entire notion that Jesus is GOD is blasphemy in itself & goes directly against the Holy Scriptures & Jesus Christ himself. I pray that u all would be revealed the undisputable truth & obtain the revelations that will lead u into GOD's true awareness🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Yep said he need more time. I blessed him with my absence and he never fought for me. He fought for people that didn’t even want him for superficial reasons. He tried to come back but I had to realize for whatever reason he just doesn’t see me “as the one” like he saw those other women, even if he knows you’re the best option. He does have narcissistic tendencies. Let go and let God, Pastor RC Blakes and Tony Gaskins have truly taught me a lot.
This was right on time👏🏾 and this is exactly what I'm in the process of doing it at this moment letting this man experience what life will be like without me!!!!
I am sorry for what you're going through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏
I gave him everything, my all and he still wasn't content. Gave him my absence and turns out I was just an option. learning to live without him too, picking up the pieces by God's grace despite him neglecting the kids. God's been faithful 🙏 Thank you Pastor Blake's, you speak the blunt truth that heals wounds. family be like just take him back, men gotta be men at all but truth is , I deserve way better
Only God deserves "Your All", EVER. We must learn to always put God FIRST. "I do", you say "I do put God first!" I say, "Then how can you give someone else your "ALL?" We cannot serve two powers equally, someone is always going to receive more or less than the other.
@@angelawalkerrealtor4229 I know better now, Learnt that the hard way. The divorce experience has brought me back to God, I believe he's giving me another chance to be all that he desires of me. Taking it one day at a time
This is a tough one, on one hand yes then make sure you go on with your life with no expectations, on another hand, most men KNOW what they want from you after getting to know you. You have to be careful not to allow anyone to put you on a shelf until a later date too.
I don’t see it as tough at all. If it’s not working for you, let it go. Grieve the loss. If he turns up again and real change has occurred you can entertain him again at that time. What I find is that we give men TOO much time. Way too much
@@CoachKhara when I say it’s tough is because his statement is to let him go and it SEEMS like the expectation is for the woman to wait for him to make up his mind. We shouldn’t have to give them time, if he knows he knows. In life sometimes timing can be a gift or a curse, you may have that ONE opportunity or you may miss that opportunity. That’s what I’m saying.
Space equates to letting go for me. If you need time to figure it out, there are doubts on whether or not you want this relationship or not. You have the ball you fumble it or score.
@@kimberly0717 Exactly u made some great points, if he know he knows, then what's with all this time ish. All this time trying 2 figure ish out, he's also waisting life and time away smh.
As a woman, we tend to show how much a man is loved. Sometimes we get reciprocated, know that’s the right man. Often times we get taken advantage of & you know by the wrong man. We need to know the difference whom we are dealing with. If he knows your value, he’ll do everything to make sure he’ll have you in his life forever ❤
That is so true. Let him date other women without you being in his life. He will find out really quickly that he loves and wants you in his life. He will have a ring and a proposal ready.
Well, maybe he will, maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll never come back and be the man that you hoped he’d be, and love you like you loved him, like you so desperately wanted him to love you. And honestly, that sucks. It really sucks. But you’ll be okay. God will bring every one who waits on Him, their own person. Your own will come. And he’ll be more than worth the wait.
Should have decided that BEFORE the marriage and the kids. He is an immature child himself if he cant honor his promises likw the rest of us. And to that i say "BYE BOO! You're deceptive, lost and you've lost me forever." Dont get married if youre not 110% SURE you can make the marriage commitment and keep it. Divorce hurts kids the most. Love yourself ladies!
Absolutely agree and just recently ended something with someone who was wonderful, but noncommittal. (Also wasn’t sure how much I wanted to commit either!) I don’t agree with using this as a manipulative though. Just live your life and stop giving these men so much time. 6-9 months is my max to see a man’s intentions. After that we can just be friends while you figure it out. No more wasting my good time!
So meaningful and true!!❤❤ For real people don’t know how much value is in your presence so they need to experience the absence. If you are scared to step back and let him do the decision it means that your connection is based of possessiveness and insecurity. Meanwhile you can figure out if you want him also. Space and time apart will test both individuals. Then you’ll know.😊
All the words is so true. A women is more loving we give man everything we got. A woman absent will tell if he want 2 b with u .This man knows what he is talking about
Yeah I’ve learned to stop over investing guys who aren’t doing the same. Some of them keep coming back too but once I’m emotionally and mentally done with you I can’t even bring myself to have feelings anymore. I used to have bad anxiety thinking I’m just a failure when it comes to love but at 33 I still struggle to have the role models for the relationship I want so I’m just learning to comfort and love myself with or without a relationship at this point
Amen…….had to learn that the hard way. It’s been about four years now since I left. But for some reason I still pray for him. Love is funny, they say be willing to give what you love away, and if it finds you again then it’s destined. Walking away was THE hardest thing I have ever done. Four years is along time, but while I was In waiting…….. I learned to love me. God must have known that was the love I was lacking then. Love is odd thou because in the eight years I loved him, I lost me. But taught myself how to love me in half the time it took for me to walk away. Hmmm, this is a strange world we live in.
I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏
I’m a 32 year old woman, never had an issue getting men. I am not a model but I treat people with respect and the love I wish to receive. I have not given a man a child yet even though many have wanted me to. If you haven’t given me a ring or a commitment from your soul to be with me, I will not be sticking around for long. It’s okay if I find him at 65 lol god has no limits for timing. Gods time is always right
What a blessing in the body of Christ ...and in the lives of women's struggling with broken consciousness as you often put it. You are restoring our value and crowns 👑
Yup so glad I learned this. Now I have withdrawals but it’s ok God got me and withdrawals are a good sign that I’m almost completely over the situation for good! ❤️ Responding back is not an option anymore.
Yessss he def spoke!!!! If ur man don't show appreciation when UR doing everything u can and supposed to be doing, then say bye give him that space let him see that U were the real deal. He will come back and be a better man because he needs U. Real talk lived this experience. So I get it!!!
Yes sir! 🫡 My maternal grandmother always said that What he needs is a good leaving alone. His games will loose their fun without you to play with. 😉 🎲
Preach, I’ve given my all and was empty after. I am seeing other people around me do the same thing, at some point ladies we have to be honest with ourselves . It’s okay to choose you!
Any man wanting space is making space for someone else. He may come back to you if his backup plan fails. Give him space and move on completely from him. Nobody has time for those double minded games.
Sounds like you're dropping more nuggets of wisdom with a back drop of ocean waves! Very tranquil, the real deal, not the sound I get on my white noise machine.
I disagree! They’re that deep into a relationship and NOW he needs to figure things out aka looking for something better. When a man loves a woman HE DOES NOT WAIVER. He doesn’t need time, he locks her down.
Be clear on what his 'locking you down' is that says 'he loves you.' Is he working on bringing you into his environment as his wife? Or, is it an act of him controlling who you may attract, all the while reaping 'wifey' benefits? Ladies, don't get it twisted!
I agree that while he needs his space he needs to move everything out of my space and I will do the same. He will not be able to find my hairpin at his place when I’m done.
YES, BISHOP BLAKES EXCELLENT MESSAGE💯💯💯💯AND ON POINT!! THANKS FOR LOOKING OUT FOR US QUEENS❤❤!! WE HAVE TO MAKE OURSELVES REAL SCARCE🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️AMEN!!
Giving him truth to yourself n loving yourself within Self...❤ Love is selfish Real love is selfless 💞 You know when it's real.,... It's when you can not see your life without that individual in your life And knowing when it's not in your best interest and to walk away and not stick around to allow yourself to feel pain....