When girls do it: an examination of female sexual predators (EXCLUSIVE) 

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It's absolutely horrifying that a female abuser is able to continue working as a social worker with access to teenage boys and isn't in prison where she belongs.

I heard “their sexual needs” more than once. They weren’t needs. They were perverted desires.

Just because women gives life doesn't mean she's incapable of abuse,women can be mean,abusive and can kill too

As a mother of boys, I can't wrap my head around mothers abusing their own sons. That's particularly vile.

I was abused by family members. I am a man, these were female relatives and even my Sunday School teacher. First time I have admitted that 65 years.

Women seem to slip under the radar when it comes to them sexually abusing anyone I'm grateful you are highlighting this issue.

I’ve met many men with similar stories of predatory women. I always said to myself, girl/boy child of mine, it doesn’t matter. I will watch out for them the same.

Thank you for examining this subject. It's very common. Female sexual predators have very similar grooming techniques and are rarely suspected - it's extremely confusing and painful when this is done to a girl as well. Little girls are taught early on to fear men - when a woman targets you, nobody cares or seems to understand it.

I am a woman and I feel women predators should at least get treated like a male sex offender. Then my opinion is also the penalties that are given to all sex offenders isn't enough.

What the native American guy had to say and the one who was held as a sex slave by the social worker left me almost in tears. How absolutely despicable humans can be. The more I see of humans the more they sicken me. I really hope these brave men can find healing.

Listening to these men share helped me realize this kind of abuse by women is more common than we think it's not tallked about enough. Thank you making me more aware.

Parents SHOULD always BELIEVE their KIDS when they say somebody is touching them or showing dirty pictures or anything you’ve taught them to avoid !!! I raised my sons & all the kids in my family to always tell if somebody did something that wasn’t right. I know you can’t always expect a kid to tell because of threats but we should tell our kids no matter what the offender says that you believe the kid & they’ve done nothing wrong. Once you find out INVESTIGATE , then move forward.

Almost all of my boyfriends were abused as children by older girls or young women. It's not spoken about enough.

Absolutely vile. All sexual predators should get the maximum punishment.

24 years ago my sister was murdered here in Brisbane Australia, trying to speak out against the female paedophile in our family. I spend my time watching murder podcasts trying to understand. When she was screaming about this Nobody believed it was real.

Now 72, the abuse by (an always sober) mother started at the age of 3. My father was unaware, but every time I refused ‘her love’, she called him to beat me up for being ‘a bad child without an inch of love in its heart for his poor lovely mother’. Her friend a secular surgeon was also willing to go with her and he gave me medication and electroshocks to become a more healthy and lovely child. The abuse ended at the age of 6 and a half. She was afraid I could start telling my schoolmates about female genitalia. Those days most schoolboys did not even know about the difference between male and female genitalia. The rest of my life at home she tried in vain to make a homosexual out of me. Of course I never married nor had a girlfriend. I am diagnosed with CPTSD and Alexithymia. (Thanks)

These women are so disgusting! I'm so sorry that you were put in this situation.

My son was abused by his stepmother from 3-6 years old. As his mother, I knew something was wrong but I couldn't prove it and he couldn't verbalize it yet. So my son suffered for 3 years. When he was finally able to verbalize it and told me what was going on, I blamed myself first. I turned it in and followed all the correct steps. She got a slap on the wrist and wasn't charged for anything. My son didn't get the justice he deserved.

I was sexually abused when I was 8 or 9 by a cousin. I later found out that she did the same with my other cousins. She used to watch us when our parents would go to work. It happened so many times and I couldnt say anything to anyone out of fear. I finally told my parents about it during my freshmen high school year when she had relocated overseas. I should have spoken up about it earlier. This has affected me and my sexuality. I never spoke to her since or forgive her.

My aunt did it to me multiple times when I was small. I’ll never be fully healed but I learned how to cope and use my pain to make my corner of the world a bit better and more understanding.

Men or women who sexually abuse minors are sick in both mind and body this predators should not be around children

These stories need to be heard. I feel for the men that have been abused by women. We never hear those stories. Breaks my heart. I am a survivor of incest abuse and it has been hard to heal from it. Hearing other survivors speak about their abuse makes me feel less alone. I pray for those survivors healing and peace.

Anyone..I mean ANYONE can be a sexual predator please pay attention to your children at ALL times!

The survivors in this group are incredibly strong and brave people. I hope they find peace and compassion for themselves.

Woman also abuse woman. It's not just them offending against men. I was raped by a young college aged babysitter from 6-9 years old. My family never believed me. And this woman tortured me! She was brutal. And she just kept coming over. It just got worse everytime. I would beg my mom to not leave. And she always would. This woman has scarred my life. I wish parents would seriously listen to their children!!!!!!!

I'm glad this is being talked about, it needs to be talked about alot more.

As a child I was molested often by a female family member and was laughed at any time I tried to get help. Cause “only men do that. No real guy would complain about it. You are just trying to get her in trouble.” Your body will react. No one thinks a girl wanted it even if their body betrays them and gets aroused. If a young boy becomes aroused “see you must have wanted it.

Im a female, adopted, and yes, me too. It is hard to say it, I still do not like to say it, not as severe as some get, but damaging none the less. When I do tell my story, people repeat it back but say I said my dad did it, even though I would clairfy, when I talked about it, it was my mom, NOT my dad. Im sorry this happened to you. Ya'll are so very brave. Warrior heart to tell your story. 🙏✌️

I was abused by a 30 year old women when I was 14/15. When I told my mom laughed at me. She even met her and did nothing.

I was abused by two different females when I was seven... This is the first video of this type I have ever seen... Rough and powerful stuff!!!! I am now 48

When you finally get the courage to tell anyone that you were sexually molested by a woman or girl when you were a child you often get met with a few responses - silence, disbelief, belittling, or excusing it as “well have you ever considered that she was probably the victim of abuse herself?” These are not the same things that people say when someone talks about being a victim of sexual abuse at the hands of a male.

I can't believe that woman said women get more harsh sentences!!🤯 I still remember that teacher who had sex with her student, and got HOUSE ARREST!! Her lawyers argument was that she was too pretty to go to prison! And what's even crazier is the judge agreed with him!!! Can you imagine as a man your lawyer saying you're too handsome to go to prison and a judge agreed with him?!

So sad. I feel their pain. It's hard to hear adults being sexually aroused by a child. What is wrong with these individuals?

It happened to me when I was 11. She was my 6th grade homeroom teacher. It destroyed my life. I loved her the way a man loves a woman. When we were discovered and she was allowed to resign, I was devastated. Her parting words were cruel and remain with me to this day. I learned early to mistrust females. I also became fixated on older females, particularly teachers. My childhood was anything but normal. Sex became my primary focus, but it was also my most singular fear and I could not bond emotionally with females over fear of abandonment. What's worse is watching videos or reading about the sexual exploitation of boys by women arouses me sexually which fuels such a deep hatred and rage all these decades later.

Sad stories for all of these men, being made to endure these acts of abuse these men were subjected to is HORRIFYING heartbreaking for the Man Who as a 14 year old boy was put in the situation where he forcibly fathered a child to add to this abuse. Absolutely horrifying and traumatizing.

I've met women who are sexually deviant and they look normal( normal as in coming from suburbia). Narcissistic personality disorder plays a large role in why they break boundaries which goes for pretty much all sexual predators of either gender.

This is honestly unbelievable…..not that I don’t believe it, it’s just so disgusting that I don’t want to believe it ! I give these men credit for speaking up about this disgusting behavior! Gosh, listening to these men talk and hearing what was done to them, it’s just infuriating 😡

A HS teacher was having a “relationship” with another student and everybody’s reaction was dammm she was pretty his lucky even myself . I didn’t see him as a victim at time because we all felt “grown “ but looking back now that I’m 30 I understand he was a child , I was a literal child at 16-17 I didn’t know shit and he was groomed 😢

I have heard this before from a couple of males I know. As a survivor myself, I KNOW boys are abused and yet as a woman....it is soooo disgusting to me to see a mother, the soft place to land, is the abuser. Yet my mother abused us in every way possible and allowed others to do the same, so I know it happens. This is how powerful society is. Somehow it's different in their minds. These men display the very same things I do as to relationships, trust, etc. God bless you all and I pray for your healing.

Finally a video about the female podophiles!. Most of the times, we hear only about male predators.

We all need to be aware and protect our children.

I had an abusive mother(not sexually but physically and alot mental abuse)I was abused by female cousin from 8-12. When it finally came out she seemed to worry more about who did to my cousin more than taking care of me. It took me running a razor to wrists before she finally got me professional help...thanks ma!! Smh

Damn. I'm 59 years old & younger guys flirt But I can not date a younger guy. It sickens me to think about women abusing young boys 🤔🤨😤🤢🤮🤮

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse by seven different unrelated (to each other, only one to myself) men I have a LOT to say about this subject. The first is to say that while I never suffered at the hands of a female I know *it happens.* We need to give space and support to every victim of female predators - as well as victims of male predators. Vile is vile, period. The second is that it is *absolutely imperative to stop* pitting abuse victims against each other as though our suffering can be quantified. Female victims experience JUST as much shame, JUST as much isolation, JUST as much normalization, just as much dismissal, and just as much lifetime stigma as male victims. It's just presented in different ways. A male child victim of a male pedophile is stigmatized as less of a male/effeminate if they speak up (as though being female is an insult - but this is the stigma) - a female child is forever seen as tainted, impure, dirty. A male child abused by a female pedophile is seen as coming into "manhood" early as though it is an honor to be abused, thus making them feel like they should be grateful for their abuse. Female children abused by female abusers are almost unseen completely. NONE of these situations are any better than the others. They're all equally awful. They are ALL under-reported. They are ALL under-acknowledged, under-prosecuted, and equally dismissed. *THESE MONSTERS ARE EVERYWHERE* Studies show as much as 1% of the adult population or more are attracted to pre-pubescent children and as much as 5% are attracted to underage children. Now understand that this number is greatly skewed in a child's circle of connection because pedophiles tend to find careers and/or hobbies and/or competitive sports that increase their exposure to and trust with children. Do your children know adults? Think...Teachers, friends' parents, spiritual or club leaders? It's a really uncomfortable subject, so many of us (survivors) never speak out and the ones that do rarely speak to the true depth or frequency that we experienced. The best advice I can give is to listen, give space and strength and support to anyone who confides in you, and do your absolute best to shed light on this truly horrific putrescence on humanity. Love, peace, and healing.

As a female victim of incest, my heart goes out to these men. My Mother was a pervert too. She did her dirt to my brother as well as me. Of course my family was a hotbed of complete psychological pathology. I started trying to kill myself at age 9. She came into the kitchen and saw me with every pill bottle out ready to take them ALL! She said "go back to bed." AND when I was in the 7th grade and started writing in my journal THAT I wanted to kill myself my parents had to do something when my teachers called them in to discuss it. I had my first psychiatric hospitalization when I was in the 8th grade when I left a suicide note in my little girlfriend's locker telling her goodbye. She, of course freaked out and told someone, getting me the help I so desperately needed at long last! I do hope these men get the help and relief they need at long last too! Their abusers deserve prison!

Sexual abuse is sexual abuse. Its just some find the truth to disturbing to understand, that doesn't change the facts or the damage done to innocent young children by these freaks. Listen to your kids people this danger is in every community.

When girls do it, it's almost sexy. When guys do it, it's gross. Double standard?

I taught my son that no matter who it is, male, female, child if they touch you in the wrong place you tell me asap. I would always believe him, kids don't make things like that up.

I 100% relate to Al and what he went through. I am a male and I was sexually molested for 8 years of my childhood by a male family friend between ages 5-13. I am 56 now and I have learned how to deal with it all and overcome it all for the most part by age 38. It is rough when nobody will believe what you tell them had happened especially as a child and being male.

we have to do better for our kids. i am so proud of these Men. thank you for coming forward.

Their stories are horrifying. Wishing them healing, love and inner peace.

My gawd this is hard to listen too.. how can people do these things to innocent children 😢 So much respect for these brave strong men to be able to talk about this and tell their story. Prayers to them to stand strong and heal through their journey 🙏🏻

My husband was SA by a family friend as a teen and it has messed him up so bad it's been effecting our marriage for years.

I still remember the time when i was at a geek convention, we were in line for something i can't remember, but i was with my parents and a woman began to speak to both my mom and me a teen girl more spefcifically. My father suspected an adult woman was preying on me while in line, with how she kept flattering me, (he wasn't there the whole time to hear, but something went off in his head). Later she sent me a piece of jewlery from her and a note in the mail, I believe my father wrote back to her. I don't know what he wrote, but we didn't hear from her after that. It was weird for me at the time when she spoke to us, but I thought my mom would have alerted me to trouble. Well my mom never even thought about women preying on others till my father said something. I think I donated the jewlery.

The indigenous man broke my heart 💔 I hope someone in his life tells him hes worth love and respect. I hope for all of these men they know they are worth respect.

This is a conversation that needs to be had, more people need to understand this really happens and stop excusing the women who do this. Imagine the absolute outrage if someone had the audacity to say to a little girl who was sexually abused "aren't you lucky" or "he's so good looking" why tf is that the acceptable response to the little boy? I wish I could tell each one of these men how thankful I am for them being vulnerable and opening up to the world about their abuse and how brave and strong each one of them are.

When I was a teenager I was in juvenile hall. I remember a very nerdy and quiet "good" girl, and I asked her why she was there. She said she molested her brother

Not my story but the person im with had a lot of run ins with the women in his family and his step dad. His step dad started when he was 6-8, his mom would get drunk and walk in on him taking a shower tell him she liked the size of his pen*s and have him grope her boobs watched pornos with him that was 10-12 at 12 he started doing heroin and alcohol to help himself cope his mom would come party with him and his teen friends and strip for them. Then she met a new man sent him to live with his aunt 15-17 his aunt and her friends would get him and his female cousins high/drunk and then have orgies with them. He was an addict from 12 to 25 on heroin, meth, pills, fenty, & alcohol. He overdosed died 7 times and was brought back to life Im met him a 30. He is my rock and I am his he's relapsed but has been sober for 1 yr now. He started drinking again when his mom started calling him and begging him to come see her. She is a very well known Nurse Practitioner in Florida. Who just bought a small island where her and her husband go to drink and have sex parties. She came into town and asked my ol man to come see her at the motel without me it would be him, his stepsister, and her husband. He flipped out saud no he wasnt coming if i couldn't be there she said" tell Jamie we are having a family meeting" he hung up on them said its not a family meeting but would turn into a freak show. They didnt want me there because i wouldnt accept their type of fun drinking,doing drugs, etc. Hell no for one hes in soberity and two the trauma theyve already done to him

The cruel is that most of kids that are abused sexually by a woman are not believed by authorities and that woman continues doing to other kids .

Im so glad you guys are making this public. I have a very close male family member that was abused by a younger female family member. He was in elementary school and the family member had recently come to live in their home because because the caretaker was a severe alcoholic. When the sexual abuse happened it was discovered immediately and the offending child was immediately SENT BACK to the alcoholic caretaker before the crime could be investigated by the authorities. The offending child was NOT sent for. The abused male child had a small amount of counseling and the parents that originally discovered the crime downplayed the incident, believing that they 'took care' of the problem by sending the girl away. The mother was actually reported to say 'I don't think its possible for such a young girl to abuse an older boy. It can't possibly be her fault. How could it? She was SO YOUNG!' Baloney!

Title should be “When women do it”

This is why there should be no time limits on reporting and prosecuting these cases. Trauma and social stigma will make it very likely these issues aren't understood, let alone reported until much later in life.

I love it when the authorities reveal their biases, "she can't be a predator, she looks so innocent" 😏

i've been a victim when underaged of a female predator, she never got convicted even if the story came out and most people (till when i was still sharing this with people looking for support and understanding) made "fun" of me cause they -wished they'll be lucky as i did-. Sexual abuse traumatize you for life but even more so when you have to spend the rest of your life accepting you can't be seen as a victim cause you are a men.

When I was 10 and my brother 9, we were abused by the house maids... We always hid it and 40 years later, I would tell the story and no one among my family and relatives want to hear it

Stop treating women like children, treat them like you would treat men.

When I was 17, I was sent from PA to Fl to babysit my 30 year old sister’s 6 year son. Upon arrival I found her in a sexual relationship that had begun when he was 16 & she was 29. My sister & I had both been raised by extremely fundamentalist, violent “Christians.” I knew nothing about the world & it took me awhile to figure out that when they went into the bedroom at night “to talk,” they weren’t really talking. Furthermore this bedroom was small & contained only 2 twin beds with 2 feet between them. Her 6 year old son was always “asleep” in the other bed. I was ridiculously naïve about sex; and no way could I even imagine she’d be having sex two feet from her son in the same room. When I finally put all the pieces together, I realized this was probably sinning ; but I had no clue it was against the law. In August I was told to pack up everything in the house. They were moving to California without telling his parents. I did not know it was illegal for a 30 year old woman to move a 17 year old boy thousands of miles, across state lines. In California she passed him off as her younger brother. I met him years later. He told me they stayed together a few years. He got her pregnant several times. She was a nurse in an operating room & would bring home surgical equipment to perform abortions on herself, using these tools & a mirror. Later she had an affair with a man who was married & had 4 sons. He divorced & married her. She joined him in the Seventh Day Adventist church. She became very strict religiously again. This new husband lasted a few years, until he shot himself in front of her in their kitchen. She eventually moved back to Florida & told everyone in her SDA church there that she was a childless spinster. She’s dead now. Left everything to the church.

Sometimes, women scare me more than men. I come from a family of six females out of 9 people. I’ve seen woman do terrible things. But I’ve also seen men do horrible things. It’s just harder to accept terrible things can come from females than it is to accept men doing horrible things. Some women exploit that fact. Unfortunately. Let me add that I feel incredible pain for what these men have been put through. 💔

This NEEDS to be talked about more!! The awareness needs to be bigger than 1 or 2 videos. The stigma behind this needs to be bigger. Too many mothers are getting away with this and how many children are being prostituted by their mothers??? We need a larger reach.

my cousin's were sexually abused by a 16 year old female babysitter at the young ages of 4 & 5 .Their lives were turned upsidedown and she walks free as a youth pastors wife. it's disgusting how female abusers get little to no consequences for their vile behavior.

"Women tend to get harsher sentences, , because there are mostly male judges..." Is she serious? What a strait up false and down right childlike statement.

From the age of 3-4, I was sexually abused by a female neighbour in her late 20's. I'm 37 now and remember it like yesterday. Not understanding what was going on back then, being bullied to secrecy I regret not saying anything.

Guys are under the false impression that it is cool to have sex with an older woman. They brag about it. Unfortunately they don’t realize the harm it does to them until they are adults. It causes a distorted outlook of their relationships with women in their adult interactions with women. They need to get help.

When I was 8 years old mine was a woman, at a Disney water park in Orlando😢 in the early early 90s

I felt really bad for these male victims giving their testimony and felt like the woman did so much damage, until they got to the story of Emma, the 27-year-old teacher from Texas who had a fling with a 16-year-old male student. I don't feel like that story even belongs with the previous ones. The age of consent in Texas is 17 but if you're a high school teacher the student can be practically any age as long as he is in high school and still be considered a victim. One woman in Texas is in prison for having sex with 18 year old students. I can understand why the law needs to draw the line at a certain point but the terminology used in Emma's case was ridiculous and did not reflect reality. The terms "rape," "child" and "victim" were way overblown regardless of whether they fit with the laws as written or not. That's 16 year old young man may have only been 2 months or even 2 weeks from his 17th birthday for all we know. So if she quit her job as a teacher and waited those two weeks or two months or whatever it was then suddenly it would be legally okay and not a "rape," not with a "child" and with no "victim." In fact if that male student and his family had moved one state over to Oklahoma, Arkansas or New Mexico where is 16 was legal and she had gone there on her spring break she could have gotten a motel room with him and they could have banged the night away with nobody batting on eyelash. But because of geography, local laws and her career path she was convicted as being this horrible child molester. I can understand why she said she just wanted to play along with the program in order to get out of it. Because in the states next door it would have been totally legal. Something else to take into consideration is that if that same 16-year-old had molested a 3-year-old or murdered somebody those same authorities in Texas and the public in general would not be calling him a "child," they would be wanting to treat him as in adult in the legal system and throw the book at him as an adult.

I have two male friends who were abused by step mother's, whom were much younger than their fathers'. And I was one of only few women who seen this as abuse where their own father's didn't even have a problem???? And even girlfriends over the years would imply how fortunate and lucky??? WT? I cried with them as I'm a mother and Nanna and find this so disturbing and have seen the pain these victim's can never be the same. It's heartbreaking 💔😪🇭🇲

She wasn't "a girl" she was a woman. Stop trying to enfantilise woman. She was an adult. More than able to make her own choices. Regardless of what their "partners" wanted or did not want them to participate in.

This is why love animals more than I love human beings! 🥶

As a victim of female sexual assault, I agree with almost everything this video has to say, it happens almost to the same frequency if not equally with male SA, THERE'S JUST ABSOLUTELY ZERO ACCOUNTABILITY EVER HELD FOR

As a parent you are usually wary of men and glad these videos are on here for awareness.

DEEP BREATH! Ok, I'm ready.

As a man there’s nothing more disheartening than telling a friend something that happened to you as a kid and their natural reaction is to try and high five you instead of sympathize.

So sad to hear these guys stories about abuse, I'm so sorry they have went through that. I'm always glad when people who are guilty are brought to justice but not always the case in these situations. I hope these men and any man and or women who has ever been abused in any way heals well and finds the strength to carry on.

My Mother was verbally and sexually abusive to me. Also my Uncle, my mother’s brother. Even more from others in my neighborhood. The verbal abuse was the worst part. I hope more learn that it’s not just men.

That Heidi lady seems to be downstairs laying and making excuses for female sexual offenders. She really said female offenders tend to get harsher punishment… mam. Ain’t no way.

Any type of Abuse to A Child is Never Ok in my book!!!

I was molested by a girl that was a few years older then me . I was 5 years old !! It has never left me !! I wonder who did those things to her. 😢 im 52 now and it made me a very over protective mother .

ALL sexual predators are disgusting doesn't matter what gender they are they ALL need jail

It seems like female predators can victimize more people while maintaining the guise of innocence and a nurturing personality than male predators, who are almost always suspected from the jump.

Why does Ghislaine Maxwell spring to mind while watching this…?

We also need to talk about just how many MEN are the victims of domestic violence perpetrated by women.

My heart goes out to these men and I am so sorry for the abuse they have been forced to endure. The trauma that this type of abuse creates in a child (whether male or female) is something that is sadly, often carried for life and has severe emotional and psychological consequences for that person😔 I wish all of these men the healing, peace and therapeutic support they need to live full and healthy lives... You are all incredibly survivors and I admire the courage it took to speak out and share your stories💞🌿🙌🕊🌠

I'm female, but I am also a sexual abuse survivor, who was abused by several different men, for over a decade. I'm 46yo & I just learned that my issues w/ SENSITIVITY is a 'side effect' of SA. At least NOW, my husband (of nearly 25yrs😍) will know WHY I behave the way I do sometimes. I thought it was b/c I'm just a tender-hearted person who is easily hurt. 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 I AM really tender hearted, but now I try realize the SA is linked to it, too. So, a big THANK YOU to all the people who had a hand in me discovering this video on RU-vid! 🙏🏼❤🥹

I didn't understand when the lady said female abusers get harsher punishment. I've seen thousands of these cases over the years and females always get 1/3 of the time their male counterparts if they are punished at all.

I was told I was a dirty kid and if I wanted to stay in the home I had to keep quiet. I was told I was dreaming these things and they weren't real. Which made me think I was bad. I was told the devil would get me and the lord didn't want me cause I was gross. This was a women of authority to me.

Oh my god!!! A bloody social worker!!! How can any one feel safe...absolutely shocking. Disgusting human beings. The poor men. 😔

Why cover the faces of the offender smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

I'm glad that this issue is being brought to the light. I'm a female survivor of sexualising anuse, but I believe that women offenders should receive the same sentencing as men, the laws should be changed, to accommodate the issue of non vaginally penetrative, otherwise they just go back to reoffending while still working with children. They should also be put on the child sex offenders list to be know as a child abuser. I hope the men in this documentary managed to find healing and were able to move forward with their lives and have found happiness.

that is not true that women get harsher sentences that is totally false