@@thediabolicalempath7246 I've heard it said "easier to stick with the devil you know", lol. Also I think we assume its easy for them to "hook us" (women) its not, somebody some where gone see through the murk and not put up with they crap, so once you're invested, they breadcrumb so they don't lose you as supply. Its a bunch of variables, lol
Yes more people need to realize this. The whole "It's their loss" thing is a bit silly. Sometimes people don't jive or aren't compatible. It doesn't have to be a loss at all.
Exactly people already know this, that's not the point...what makes them a bad person is them not telling us they're not interested and giving us false hope while they CLEARLY know that the other person is interested
That is right. Sometimes it is easier for others to automatically label the person a "jerk" or "not worthy" just to lessen the pain that comes from not being liked back, but that honestly affects our character in a negative way. Some people are just not for us.
A man who wants to make a connection with a girl will DO it. Plain and simple. He won’t sit idly by. Don’t believe his “I’m a bad texter bs” - you are a good texter with ppl who matter. If he had a few seconds to post a story on his social media then he has a few seconds to reply back lol ppl really aren’t THAT busy
Lizzypoo it’s a difference when someone hasn’t gotten to know you yet. Matthew made that difference clear in the beginning. Why would you put everything aside to invest in a person you don’t even know.
I have aspergersyndrome and i am an introvert with high HSP. I do not like texting. It is superficial. I only text to make appointments and for practical things. I rather call. I find rela letters more valuable and meaningfull. Bless
Amen 🙏 I knew a guy who would post seven IG stories a day (in five different colours and fonts) and he didn't find a few minutes to reply to me... for 3 DAYS! And his excuse was "I need time and comfort to give a good reply which I now do not have" ... Whatever, bye 🙄👋
When he isn't investing in you, run. Don't invest in an empty black hole. There. No need for further analysis. Invest in someone who will invest equally back
This is just confusing me more .. What if we both invest equally for the first 3 months and then he just falls out of investment lol just like that and there's nothing you can do about it but let him go .
Facts. I need to know too. Thats why these boys are out here taking women for granted because we are allowing their bad behavior, are desperate and making them feel like they are must-haves.
@@MsBadBody Yes, and sex. Women used to wait for marriage and men had to wait. Women have lowered the standard. Men love it more than women do. Men treated women alot better, on the whole..
NO ONE is a prize. This mindset is why people fail at dating and relationships. Having expectations on how the other person should act cause you think you're the "prize" is a horrible mentality and very toxic
Yes, men married for sex. Now they can have sex with just about any woman. It's great for the men. Men love dating..seeing all that's out there..women..not so much. I'm sure the men have the best deal and that women on the whole are undervalued in the eyes of men because now they can pick and choose. We have given our power away. Now men seem to have it. Wake up women!!
When I first had met my boyfriend he told me he didn’t want a relationship, I listened and we just were casually dating. We got to know each other better and I stopped talking to him because I started to like him. He freaked out and came back after me because he had started to really like me too after us getting to know each other. Our 7 year anniversary is this year
lace good news! Congrats! I’m in a situationship with a man whom, in our FIRST conversation, said doesn’t want anyone living with him, doesn’t want to marry. He calls me every day. Was 2-4 times a day. (Over 130 calls in 1 ½ months.) ONLY GOT TOGETHER TWO TIMES. Now cutting down calls to 1 time a day. I love him and feel like Pavlovs dogs, waiting for attention. (I rarely call him.) I need to cut communication completely. How did you do it? What did you say? Thanks.
You can NOT Make a person be interested in you who low prioritizes you. Best thing I learned about this video was move forward DONT sit waiting for the phone to ring ,build your character and respond ,and don’t react. See or as a blessing. There’s someone who wants EXACTLY what you have to offer. Don’t lose hope .
*begin imaginary commercial* I can see this as a RU-vid vid, a fake commercial of sorts. Fades in to you, and you have your Perrier. As you enjoy your peaceful, relaxing day/evening, the wind kicks up just a tad to give the moment a wistful vibe. You look into the camera, and you say something like "Winners don't wait." Then the person of your dreams walks up to you and sits next to you, also with a Perrier in their hand. Then, you and that person say together, "Perrier isn't for losers." *end imaginary commercial*
Sedonia Dragotta that’s how I’ve always approached it. I’m not a snob, either . It’s just that having a man in my life isn’t the most important part. He’s gotta’ enhance my life somewhat .n
I bet you haven't met a 3% man yet. Then see yourself chaising (if he knows how to treat a woman ) all of this assuming she is emotionally sane and not a passive aggressive little girl pissed off with men. Bottom line so it's hard to find emotionally sane people that know what the opposite sex responds to. I am still taking off some of the little crap in my head sometimes but it's a work In progress. Also would be beneficial that women would understand themselves. Most women don't know to what they respond to and will never do. And the lady above is the perfect example.
I think it is not about relationship skills but social skills. I encountered many problems, because of luck of social skills. In my opinion you should feel good around people then you can find someone who could be happy with you.
Don't stay with the person who isn't capable of investing his time and effort to you because that kind of relationship won't work. It's true that if you love someone you don't need to expect in return but for a relationship to work out well, everything you do should be reciprocated.
Showing anger to someone with low investment is definately not an attractive quality. If anything it will only confirm to them that they did the right thing not investing in you. I much prefer to keep my self control, my dignity and stay classy. At least then I get to keep liking myself...which in turn can attract the right person anyways. Win win :-)
Kim B it is frustrating though when several guys have done this to you. im tired of feeling inadequate because guys dont see my worth as a young woman.
No one can make you feel inadequate. That feeling comes from inside. Maybe these guys don't see your worth because they are simply not good enough for you. They're not bringing enough to the table for you.
Kim B Yes it is, however everyone deserves a chance. Each person deserves just as the person that came before them. This is a mistake I have made. I took a week of no communication on both our parts for me to figure this out. We're back on track.
The best thing you can do with anyone is pretend they don't matter and don't exist to you. That kills them. Not nasty replies, not smartass remarks, just that they don't matter to you anymore. Ghost, invisible...done.
Teri Noneofyourbusiness. its a sad truth but what happens if your stuck splitting bills and dont got anywhere to go live til you get things sorted out?
Redfather tried it. It has results. My gf has went cold plenty of times not really showing much investment in me. Went no contact. Guess what? She comes crawling back
Listen up. You deserve more than being a second choice. There's somebody out there who will treasure you. You just need to find them and waiting around for someone who isn't invested only slows ya down
Yes and that's all lovely - HOWEVER, what if that next guy who "treasures you" doesn't interest you? That's often the problem and then we further beat ourselves up because we think we SHOULD want that good guy! Ugh. It's frustrating, I know. I met a "good" guy who would've done most anything for me (I knew him through mutual friends and he was certainly a "good guy" but also a "needy guy" 🤢🤮 uh...no). I had a friend, and my Mom make me feel bad for not jumping on the good guy because I SHOULD want him after the last guy who hurt me. Sorry to go into all that but just because we might find someone who treasures us doesn't mean we will be interested in them - and we shouldn't be made to think that. The key is not just hoping for a good guy who will treasure us, but hope for a good guy who WE are also interested in giving to them. That's the hard part - finding both.
I think where it gets frustrating for women though is the thought that guys are supposed to pursue you if they are interested. But when they act interested one day and take three days to answer your text the next...and flip flop back and forth like this for several days, it feels like a waste of time and a game. I have definitely told guys who do this 'never mind' because i have no clue what they're doing TBH. :)
@@aa1589 putting effort doesn't mean chase a mediocre guy. I get it, play the game, but if you think that i have to chase your mediocrity, I'm out. I'm not going to give a guy a second chance when there are so many out there waiting for the first
I'm a guy and I listen to Matthew, I must say his advice goes both ways. I learn a lot about women too in order words I think I've learned a lot about people in general. Thanks, Matt.
If a person doesn't show interest in me I try to put myself in their shoes. I don't like everyone that like me either and we should be able to have that choice. It just stings a bit when you like them but oh well.... NEXT😂✌🏼✌🏼
Your content's so much better lately. One can see that you're really pushing yourself to kick it up a notch. It was good before but not much different from what you'd get with other dating coaches. Every video lately is breakthrough after breakthrough though... Keep it up Matthew and thank you. x
"you are going to have to really try for me to go back to investing on the level that i did before" i think i really needed to hear that. now i have to apply it.
The only advice I can give is that you shouldn’t invest your time in someone who isn’t doing the same, don’t play games either and don’t fall into the words of another person, actions always speak louder than words.. a person can say whatever they want, for example they can say they’ll make time for you, but if they don’t make that time or put in the effort then it’s time to analyze that relationship/situation and simply leave. At the end of the day happiness is very important, and whenever I’m in any situation whether that be a relationship, school, etc I always ask myself is what I’m doing right now or is this particular aspect of my life bringing me happiness. This doesn’t mean happiness all the time because that’s not possible, but am I happy most of the time or am I constantly stressed or sad. Everyone has different love languages and the best thing I can say is don’t force something, if you want someone to give you time or you want something to be a certain way, simply find someone who meets your needs.. don’t try changing someone else because they won’t change, they’ll change for a time period but once they know they’ve got you they’ll go back to their ways. The biggest problem I feel that I see in relationships or dating is that people aren’t clear with their intentions and that’s why people end up being confused or creating scenarios in their heads. Communication is key, and if you’re the only person communicating then it’s time to leave.
"Winners don't wait. They keep going." This is so true! Great talk. :) I'm at the point where if someone isn't matching my energy, I'll bow out but without any bad feelings. I'll just say "Hey, it looks like you're playing some games and I'm looking for someone who's on the same page as me. I wish you the best. Xx" and I move on. Also, holding grudges against people who you had 1 or 2 dates with you is so bad. It's okay if you don't connect right away or if they move on. In my experience, if it doesn't take off within the first couple of weeks, it never takes off.
Matthew, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched this throughout the years. Pure gold. Thanks for all you do and for helping me stay in a positive space with high expectations coming from a place of peace and love!
antionette fisher, well, a person who is doing great in living a fulfilling life and is cool with someone who is not ready to invest in a relationship, has high energy and doesn't care about who is flaking on them! In this way they don't appear miserable and needy. 😉❤️
Always be true to yourself. Don't settle for bad behaviour because you're lonely or desperate or insecure. Once you invest in yourself, the bad behaviour doesn't impact you because you can say to yourself, "thank you, next!" and not take it personally and keep having a fun, happy, fulfilled life. If you're not sure how to stop being lonely, desperate and insecure, start with creativity. Art, dancing, knitting, sewing, crafting, carpentry, sculpture, whatever. Something that you can use your hands, mind and body in concert with each other to produce a beautiful outcome. I tried doing that when dating and relationships kept falling apart and I realised I felt that way because I wasn't nurtured throughout my life by others. But the tragic thing is, I wasn't nurturing myself either. Art and creativity nurtured me in ways I never would have believed. Now I'm single and absolutely loving it but I'm open to a relationship if it happened. The upside is, I will never again accept bad behaviour from anyone and soon as a guy starts that crap, I'm ready and willing to go, "see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya".
Something doesn’t sit well with me about these ‘techniques’ I’m not dismissing their value, but it feels a little like playing games which I don’t a really like. Can you not just communicate openly with each other? Why do we have to skip around each other like this?
I couldn’t have put it better myself. Well said. I am straight up like you! a “real” person! and I am not going pretend to be something I’m not and play these pathetic games just to be in a relationship with a man. They are not worth that much. I prefer to stay single.
Evie Cool, I really like Matthew Hussey's channel as there's so much to learn and use depending on your situation. You don't have to use all of the techniques, or any of them quite frankly, but being respectfully honest is key ! I too am a straight shooter where I like getting to the point in a respectful manner ! Dating has become quite the challenge. Quality will always win over quantity.
Thank you so much for your insightful videos. I especially very much needed to hear this. I think often our first reaction to rejection is to be angry and frustrated, but we need to realize that it's a normal part of life to be rejected, that in fact, everyone must go through it at some point in their lives. The best way to handle this, rather than become angry, is to remember that this person that has kindly declined us is their own person with their own ideals and aspirations and we cannot control their reaction to us. And that is ok. Sometimes, it's just not meant to be, or we've simply caught them at a bad time. Either way, it's important to keep being happy in our own lives and focus on our own personal development instead of focusing on the negative and trying to chase down another person. It is when chasing after our dreams and ideas that the right people will come into our lives, and we'll know that they're the right ones because they'll fight to stay in our lives.
Marina Defranchi Agreed. Even if it's the right ones who fight to stay in our lives, we may still not want them. People can complicated, stubborn and stupid at times.
I really appreciate how you offer guidance not only on "how to get the guy", but more importantly how to cultivate self-love and respect by utilizing the tools shared in your videos. Great words of wisdom, and an infectious personality as always Matthew :)
My boyfriend after 9 months has been so focus on his work and don't have time to spend with me. I got anxious and got mad at first but I guess it's a waste of time to pour on that negative emotions. So, I tried to be okay and didn't mind it, until he beep me up and said "I miss you a lot." that's just felt good to read it all over again.
Sasaki Umiquema same here ... Got dumped and he said he's not interested anymore then I Was angry and advised to ditch the guy so i replied saying "me niether" when i actually was interested but yeah also angry too as he was angry ... Ahhh now Im thinking what if he thinks its mutual the beak up but for me it wasnt and now yeah i saw that he unblocked me but he hasnt texted me so I didnt want to get rejected or look like I'm not respecting him so i left it and waiting for him to reply but alas
Thank you so much for addressing the angry aspect. And for delving into the fact that if someone isn't interested in you they are a horrible person. Everyone doesn't work together and that's perfectly fine and normal. Move on to someone that wants to hear what you have to say and and be around you.
It's so disgraceful that even after getting the red flags our heart is not ready to accept those signs... Because damn! We really love them and it's always hard to break a connection with our loved once 💔
This video should be seen by every young girl, well every girl, because I love that you are teaching women to communicate their standards in a way that is not angry while remaining positive and polite. My daughter is 19 and this has been such an amazing example of how you can say anything you want but its how you say it that defines your character. Thank you Matthew, for not only giving advice for dating relationships but for all human relationships in general. I love love this message!
I used to be the kind of girl, who would text a guy first if i thought he was cute, or ask for a first date, or even ask for a second date (after he asked for the first date and then didn't ask for a second one). I really don't care about those gender-roles and who is supposed to text first, initiate a kiss or something like that. It just turned out, that every time, I was the one texting etc., the guy never really was interested enough to play that "back and forth" game with me. All good, as long as i was initating the contact or dates, but they never initated anything. Now I just stopped being the one to text first or ask for a date because it was just too exhausting. Might there be something right about "men shoult text, ask on a date, initiate the first kiss" after all? :O (sorry if my message doesn't make sense, i'm not a native speaker :D)
Now think about what a man has to go through when the whole society forces the man to initiate. Welcome to a man's world. Ohh wait you gave up coz it got "exhausting". Poor you. We men don't have that luxury.
Le Beri, there's no need for the guy to respond or chase you because you're doing all the work. There's no challenge for him. When he's feeling lonely and you stop texting him or contacting him, he may reach out to you but if he sees that he doesn't have to do anything it's because he thinks that you're desperate, meaning that you will do anything to get a man even lose your self worth. Stop chasing men! Love yourself and have more class about yourself!
My main problem is guys just see me as something casual and I never seem to be good enough for something serious, just wondering if there is a vid on it already?
Steph JT he has plenty of videos on that subject. Just look at his youtube channel. Also if you don't want to be casual then don't be casual with them. Don't have sex with them until you are both interested in a relationship and don't compromise your own needs and values for others. Stay strong and good luck.
At first I was think I should have to watch this, I shouldn’t be confused but it’s me, not him. If you show anger, you’re showing that they have power over you! You’re absolutely right! I need to work on that. Also, when you take the anger out of it you can analyze the situation better. Let him go instead of going off
"Winners don't wait. They move forward with their life". What a wonderful way to see things!! Thank you, Matthew!! Toward the brighter future & being a winner!! :)
Yes I love how you made it so clear with how to properly respond to men. Especially while remaining in Positive energy but still getting your point across in a great way. Thanks again for the free chapter too.
So basically we should pretend to be cool when we are upset by his behaviour? Sounds sneaky and unauthentic... like playing mind games. I believe in being my authentic self always. Even if someone doesn't like it I'm glad to know they aren't the one early on. I would rather be upset and show it in the initial stages itself and wait for the right guy who understands clearly that I would be upset by this behaviour and chooses to make my feelings a priority the next time round.
What a GREAT phrase! I’ll invest more when they invest!! Oh my gosh!! I’ve tried so hard to hang onto hope but he’s not mirroring the effort I’m putting in. I’ll invest when he invests...mind blown
I wish you were around when I was single. Your videos would have saved me alot of heartache. I did get my happy ending. Your videos are excellent. I enjoy watching you. I just have to ask..are you in a relationship?
Didi1770 agreed. I'm 29 and just learned about Matthew and this channel a few months ago and I wish I would have I've been watching him since the very beginning
Men are all the same. This dude seems like he knows everything but it seems rehearsed, clinical and weird. I really like what he says, and I put myself in a womans shoes and really like him. But from a mans eyes something isnt right here.
Been so many times invested in a guy who didn't invest back. Took time to learn how to quickly get over it but was worth. Don't wait for tides to turn, move forward - it's my creed here.
The difference is that she's reacting on his story in an angry way, that's a major difference. Whereas the one u sent showed his story made no difference to you. Great explanation. That statement "winners don't wait".,, hurts a lot. I waited 5 years for my ex , just to know that at the end he got married 😭 I feel loser
I don't get mad anymore. I accept it and let go of them. I just get brokenhearted and cry for a couple of days. I'm still grateful they showed their true colors soon. So I can move on to the next. 😊 And, when having relationship talks, I just appreciate it more that they don't lie about not being serious with me. And then I stop talking to them so I can forget them. 😊 I always pray to God, to pls remove the guy as soon as possible if he's not the right one for me. The last guy I liked, he didn't do much effort though he wants me to be his gf. He only wants to put in effort if I accept him as a bf. I try to understand and be patient. And just observed him. He had never been rude to me so I have no reason to be mad. Just that I hope he'd at least not ghost me before changing his mind. But things are still fresh. I don't know what will happen yet. As I barely talked to him last night (he's usually on his phone all the time) so I decided to let him go.
Doing this with my current relationship.. 3 yrs invested.. he still finds things to do without me on his day off... - he got a lil boy... so I’m not sitting around anymore... when he realizes he’s losing me will have to put a lot of effort to get me back to where i was totally into him and kid!
I revisited this video coincidentally today while a guy is giving me reasons to be angry with him these days. The pointers on this piece from Mathew are genius and precious! Dotting my i’s and crossing my t’s now in my communication with the guy and continuing to live my best life. Thank you Mathew - sending positive vibes your way (and Jameson’s way too) 🤗 (maybe there are no coincidences 😊)
I love the part where you pretend to be confused about her text and then you suddenly crumple the paper and throw it down exclaiming "oh yeah, it's angry!" with that fierce look in your eyes.... This is just so amusing!! :D
If you're actually in a relationship, calling yourself gf and bf, then you talk to him about how you feel, and check if he's okay. If you're not in a relationship then decide whether you want to be or whether you want to stay casual, then communicate your feelings with him and check if he's okay. It might be that he doesn't want to get into a serious relationship, and if you want that better to talk about it now so you can move on.
ask him point blank whats up..Be prepared to get a vague response like "I cant do it anymore" or no response at all.Either way,its better than wasting your time. Then wish him well,and move on. :)
CountingTheDaisies exactly what I did..we have been seeing for weeks now and great conversations.. too..but he does seem on and off..which I find not okay.I talked to him about my feelings .I don't want casual fling..if I want to investment emotionally in him.I need to know that he feels the same way and is ready to take me serious too.
Hannah give less fucks, something like -1 fucks. Change your focus to your own life, fun, activities etc, and do whatever floats your boat. He’ll realise you don’t even need him (which you don’t) and he can decide if pursuing you is worth his time. (Which it is!) men just take ages to process things. Good luck!
I can say I'm not usually angry of my relationships. I'm 😞 about it. Yet I found out that I truly have feeling for my best friend and now I told him that.. not knowing that He ALWAYS had feeling 4 me w/o knowing it
Matthew, Hi Matthew. I just came across this video and really enjoyed it. With the girl that said, " cool story bro ......." , I got the feeling she was almost saying, " You gave me my happiness and contentment and by canceling on me you have disturbed my sense of self, my contentment and happiness. Now I'm mad as hell - because you cancelled on me. You don't like me. Waaah." In other words , she allowed him to be the barometer of her thoughts and feelings. I thought your answer would allow a person to keep things open , if she wished to - and also be composed, self assured and have some self-control (versus being out of control pissed off ). In the past, if a friend (male or female) has cancelled on me, I just say, "Ok, have a good time. " I may add, " Maybe we get together within the next couple weeks if I have some free time". I think it's polite and also lets the person know you won't be sitting around just waiting for them. Anyway, great video. Thanks, SS
I do believe in unconditional love like loving someone without expecting in return but if you like to have a relationship, you shouldn't allow a person to be in your life without investing in you. Let your partner know that you have many options because in that way he will be afraid of losing you.
This is the most mature and high-value video I have seen in the space of #datingadvice. Wow! all the reasons and rationale behind them are so accurate and bearing positive vibes. I loved the part where he said " people who are happy and doing great things in life won't be angry if someone doesn't reply sooner." Thank you, Matthew and the camera person :)
Matthew, by far my favorite video! It was person centered ... on ourselves. It was about choosing kindness, not accepting negative energy into your life while remaining respectful to ourselves. Nice!! 👍
Matthew, OMG this video came at the exact, perfect time!! I've been talking to a guy for the past few weeks. He's nice, funny, and we flirt. We don't text or talk every single say but it drives me crazy if I haven't heard from him in a couple of days. And I'll shoot him a text just saying hello, and he'll reply back, we'll exchange a few texts and then nothing for a couple of days. I had a thought, what if he's testing me to see if I'm needy, or maybe some psycho chic that is constantly texting asking why hasn't he text me....etc..Which btw I have not done, that's so not my style. But it still drives me crazy when he doesn't make the effort to contact me. A simple hello, I'm thinking about you would be nice. He really is a sweet guy with the cutest Southern accent! ❤ Thank you for doing what you do!! 😊
Simple if a guy likes you and values you he will contact you and initiate contact ..men are natural hunters if they want someone they will pursue ..if they don't then you can bet your bottom dollar your arnt a priority just an option ...stop initiating contact ..let him do the work or fade ..either way you have your answer and can move fwd healthily
I love this ❤ Thank you 😊 You just validated something I did with a guy last week. I was low investment but high energy....and then I pulled back my energy.
This literally just happened to me. we met online, we set a time to meet and I said text me the address. well I headed to his city but 3 hrs later no reply. I was pissed but didn't show it. So I met a friend instead. when guy finally texted me he had a lame excuse. I said no problem my friend lives in your area. I said no worries I'm going to bed now. I wasn't showing my anger. So we will see if he texts back. if not I'm done.
Would you talk more about investment vs energy? I find it's something that's difficult to think about in context and I really want to get a grasp on what it really means. Lots of love and thank you for your videos.
I know in this video was about the early stage of relationship. What to do with a person after this exact many months (a year actually) of dating. When suddenly he goes quiet and stops. But keeps you linger. Just walk away I suppose?
Yes, I've been there before. I brought up "distancing behaviors" and he did admit that his interest had waned. I thought after a year of dating it would be big issues that would break a couple up, but I guess not. I pushed for a few more details, thanked him for his comments, and then said goodbye. After over a year of dating, I knew that was the last time I would be speaking to him. It was very difficult, but the alternative (of trying to ask him to reconsider, or reaching out every once in a while just to say hi) would only hurt me more than him.
Mmm, I have to disagree with you pretty much completely on this one Matt. The number one thing women are looking for from men is a sense of security and safety. When a guy does something flakey, he's making me feel exactly the opposite of safe and secure. If he then responds by giving me a list of excuses for why he was flakey, then that's a dealbreaker. On the other hand, if he's like, "Hey, I flaked out. No excuses. I'm sorry." That I can respect. As for the "have a nice life" girl, she doesn't sound angry to me. She sounds fed-up and disgusted, which is exactly the response a grown-up should expect to handing out a list of excuses for being flakey. Flakiness is a textbook definition of a character flaw. It's not okay. For me, there's a visceral response of disgust elicited by flakiness. I don't need someone in my life chipping away at the sense of safety and security I've created for myself. This would be like if a woman you were just getting to know did something that displayed a lack of respect for you. The number one thing most men are looking for from women is respect. Do you tell yourself that she doesn't know you yet, so of course she doesn't respect you; and her list of excuses for not treating you with respect is understandable? Or, do you move on to the next woman? There are some things that just aren't acceptable behavior, no matter how long you've known someone.
Completely agree. How is "All good. Have a great week!" Not as dismissive as "Cool Story, bro!" Matthew calls it "checking out" but really it's the same thing. Both statements are checking out, but one is being more direct about the dislike of flakiness and the other is more passive aggressive. Personally, I HATE flakes. It's one thing for someone to reject you. It's another for someone to plan something and then either cancel last minute or the same day of the date. It's selfish and ain't nobody got time for that. Plain and simple. Women need to show men (and vice versa) that their time is valuable. It's just common denominator not being an asshole territory. It shows the other person you're making a good faith effort and some level of respect. You have to show people there are consequences for their own shitty behavior. Plus, be a person with options. Just like Matthew said, don't wait for anyone.
I agree too. One thing I've learned is, just don't reply at all. You don't have to. It's clear where he stands by his behaviour. We women are so relational it works against us at times. Just don't. Reply. That will speak louder than anything you might say.
