When Women Create Drama, Do This... 

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Every Woman: “I hate drama”. Also Women: “That’s not how you fold towels”.

If you're the beta to her, do this anyways and if she doesn't come back, it's fine. You really needed to spend the time working on or being by yourself anyways.

The word “No” and your feet moving are useful tools.

Some women are also experts at creating bad situations and then getting mad at the way you react to it.

You're basically saying treat them like misbehaving children.

Was in a 72-hour chaos calendar relationship. Now she's someone else's problem & I feel great!

When you use the soft next be prepared to be called a narcissist and emotional abuser. If that happens soft next her again. Everytime a man does something for his own good, he is a narcissist. When a woman does it, she is self empowered.

Did this, and she broke up with me. In reality she just wasn’t interested in me enough. Harsh reality but I’m glad I’m out of that relationship.

The biggest power men have over women is the ability to walk away

Never ever overtly express that she is your one and only. Competition anxiety is a powerful thing gents.

A wise man once said, “I don’t pay them for sex, I pay them to leave”.

Any woman who says “I hate drama” is a compulsive liar!

She wants drama, you take yourself out of the picture. You'll give her the gift of missing you when you don't put up with childish games.

He’s basically saying: when they’re acting like children treat them like children. It’s amazing to me that our society enables Women to act like kids without repercussions. Without men, society would crumble

The fire of self discipline burns away impurities

I actually tell woman in professional or personal relationships "I don't have time or patience to argue with you" and walk away. I soft ghost them until they beg me to come back. If she's uninterested the soft ghost becomes a hard ghost.

“Women don’t let logic or reason get in the way of their emotions” - guys, don’t sleep on this. Rich said it fast but this needs to be deeply embedded in your psyche if you’re going to deal with women (and you are).

I still do this with my wife today. She knows I love and care about her, but I won’t put up with any drama, period. If still acts out I am out. It has only happened a few times when I had to “peace out” on her. It keeps her in check and we have a very happy life together. Keep yourself first always guys. You only put up with what you are willing to put up with. I chose not to put up with drama at all.

"She has to have strong genuine burning desire for you..." RIP 98% of the viewers....feel free to throw me into that mix. lol

If a "Tomi" starts drama remember that life is short. Dont waste time guys

"Women don't let Logic and reason get in the way of their emotions" 😂😂😂😂😂 100% true tho 😒

Soft next with a single mom easily becomes deleted and silence. I'm busy with my life, she screwed up her life. Later.

When I was dating, a girl tried to start some drama and started to cry. I told her calmly that I didn't want drama in my life and told her to leave. I just keep things simple and don't want complications in my life.

I used to do this, she would absolutely HOUND me to engage the drama. I'd watch hockey, one point I remember she ripped my poster down. All I did was get up, order the poster on eBay. Then went to a hotel. Suddenly she changed her tune to please come home, I'm sorry etc

Another great message in this video. My two cents through the lens of a seasoned divorce lawyer: if you have ongoing drama or “manufactured indignation” by the other person in your relationship, DO NOT MARRY. DO NOT COHABITATE. Instead of being treated poorly, go buy yourself a fast German import (or whatever brings you joy) or do what you love to do. Life is too short to be someone’s beta servant. BTW: The October 28, 2020 video upload on this channel titled “Before you chase women WATCH THIS. Chase Excellence, Not Women”, is a another unscripted home run message filmed in a car video for anyone who needs a refresher.

Yep, what I realized when I started doing "soft nexting" was that she was getting really mad that I was becoming "distant" instead of changing her behavior, and then she broke up with me. Then after 2 weeks of not talking , she asked if I wanted to talk, when I made it clear that not only do I not want to talk, but I have NO desire for any kind of relationship, especially friendship, she got mad that I "got what I needed from these past 2 weeks." It all hurts, I was certainly very in love with the WRONG woman, and it's done some damage, but I also know how to properly heal, so coming to this channel is a big help, the biggest struggle that I'm certainly dealing with is not making women the focus of my life despite me having done so for so long in my life.

Comply or goodbye. Thats gold right there.

This channel is so underrated

The tool that never was in my toolbox regarding the many narcissists I've had to (allowed myself to) deal with, but after my most recent encounter, best believe the soft next will never again be second guessed.

When you listen to them for 15 minutes and then you start talking in response she interrupts after 30 seconds. Dont waste time and just let her talk alone

If you want companionship..... Get a dog!

If it gets to the point to where a soft-next is necessary (outside of marriage), and she doesn't go for it, then the best thing the man can do is keep moving - don't whine or cry about it. This is a woman who has a greater interest in another man/men, or at least believes she has that option; kick her on down the line.

I tried a similar method and it worked well. I didn’t answer her phone calls all day, but I texted her telling her that I didn’t want to talk to anybody. I created drama based on a real event that didn’t really bother me. She was so worried and in such need to know what was going on, that when I finally told her, it was like giving food to a staving person. I still do that once in a while and let me tell you: She is now very connected with me. In other words, I have the food that she needs to survive. I am a sensible man to her now and the connection is much stronger. I love it.

If you're living together go to a hotel for a night or two to get some head space. If she wants you back and apologies DO NOT go back until at least the next day. This worked for me several times although I have to say it's only a short term solution, the long term solution was to leave her because the drama and arguments kept returning and there was no light at the end of the tunnel.

Best piece of advice I ever got. "If it floats, flyes, or fucks, RENT IT"!!

I usually kick them out or drive them home and never call them back. Once they are out of the car the drama stops.

This is golden advice guys. It's called a correction, not much different than training a puppy. They screw up, you correct them. Not harshly, but firmly, with intent. This goes for girlfriends, wives, kids, puppies, dogs, you name it. You will never change what you are willing to accept. Never forget that.

This works for me in marriage. I simply turn "off" when presented with drama... it's nearly automatic... as is her eventual reaction when she realizes she is alone. I have plenty of other things to do in pursuit of excellence in career, etc. Result: Happiness with or without her in the moment.

Rich, I did this exact tool the other day I just didn’t know the exact name of it. But my girl had started drama with me after I saw a female friend from high school and said hello and hugged her. She threw a fit and stopped talking to her for how ever long possible. Not even a full 24 hours later she texted me saying she wanted to talk to about that incident and apologized for it. I told her straight up that if she pulled something like that ever again I was done. She’s been qualifying herself to me all week and it feels great.

3:56 I love it, " It is comply or good bye!" Hold your frame and carry your balls always with women! Thank you Rich!!

I have done this many times and it doesn’t work (well with the woman I have dated), they just get more mad and just want to punish you more for not being available. I am just sick of playing games with so many GF over so many years, I now just choose not to have a GF and it is far less stressful.

I definitely want to hear more tools, especially after going through a marriage for almost 5 years, and I would put my foot down to address it, and explain to her, and she would apologize, but never fix it. I want to prepare for the future and right my wrongs in any way.

Spot on advice Rich. I got red-pilled after I separated from my wife (subconsciously) I had no idea that advice like this existed back in 2013. I think the soft nix is a great shit test to determine if you are her first choice. If drama keeps getting re-inserted, walk away.

Currently 3 months into my soft next... don't make quick judgements, it's complicated but I'm stoic and zen and a devoted Father those are my priorities.

I was doing this back in the 80s. My emotional health is far more important than her manufactured drama.

I always do this they start drama about how you’re not giving her time or attention anymore

That is exactly what i do, when my gf decides to start a drama (most of the time silly) never knew it was called a soft next, Usually works within the day

I know a chap who occasionally introduced his wife this way "I'd like to introduce you to my 2nd wife S----." I asked him why... he said "Just want to let her know that there are plenty of numbers after 2."

Its harder when they reveal their emotional drama face after entering a long term relationship. The soft next does work. Have to make sure she does not creep back... I go into my workshop and if it gets bad I go fishing.

Drama? Ill tell her straight up to get back to me when she is done. I dont deal with grown children.

I've done this to my late wife. She would be demanding an apology for some perceived misdeed (i.e.: she wanted me to bend a knee to her demands) and I would give her the silent treatment for however long it took for her to apologize to me. I never gave in to her since I knew I had not done anything for which to apologize. Generally two-three days later she would apologize and I never brought up what I perceived as her wrong doing. Maybe that was a mistake but maybe not. I do know that she insisted on creating drama every few days and never learned to modify her behavior: she kept doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. She did this right up to the day she died.

Comply or Goodbye...that’s the only way to live

Women don't let logic and reason get in the way of emotions Golden words worthy to b engraved in the mountains so that the future can learn from it

Probably worked well in the 80’s. Now, they have that phone- as if it were a body appendage.

Yes most definitely want to hear more. It goes in line with being your best self. Moves like this show her that you value yourself and therefore must be someone of value and a good woman will respond to it positively and a bad women (red flag) will not respond well to it. It leads to an abundance mindset too. If she continues to act out and then goes and gets herself another guy to cheat on you with then kick her to the curb and go pick another girl. I think its important that you have your own place and make sure it stays solely in your name even if you do get together. Make sure you have proof of ownership and receipts for important things in case things go south and the police are called and want proof. Never underestimate the power of CCTV and receipts.

I guess this video leads into the “women shaming tactics” one. They will gossip about you and lie if you reject them. Their tactics nowadays with social media and their Karen circles is especially interesting. They live through social media now. I removed myself from it

I learned this technique about a year ago. It’s probably not politically correct to say this, but there is a program here in the UK called ‘very badly behaved dogs’, where a dog psychologist called Graham goes around to people’s houses. He basically does the same thing so I tried it. Our relationship is the best that it has ever been.

if you have to pull tactics like that, why bother even having someone like that in your life.

Ya know what feels good? Moving so they dont know where you at

This was helpful! I’m in a relationship with a lady that brings some drama almost predictably every couple of months. There are tells she gives off so I know it’s coming. Fortunately for me I’ve been using the soft next with her not knowing I was using it. I’ll withdraw from her for a few days, sometimes nearly a week. During this time she usually reaches out with a text that’s still a touch dramatic, which I usually ignore or maybe respond that I’m not going to sit here and take this drama from her. Near the end of the soft next, she is much more calm and ready to actually talk and consider a position other than her own. We’ve done this dance for about two years now and actually are in day one of another episode. Thank you for your insight and confirming that I’m not in this without some effective tools to make the relationship work. I’m open to some reading material as well.

Never marry an illusion just to divorce a reality 🇺🇸🦅🗽🔫💪👍

It feels like the drama always comes at the worst possible time. When you're on your best, everything is fine. But when she sees a clink in your armor, she'll constantly try to test you. Women are exhausting.

Most of the times when females would chase me and act desperate was when I ignored them or was in the process of leaving the room. I don’t think it’s ever worked when I did the chasing

Great advice. I tend to limit my availability to 2 days a week in relationships any how. It keeps things fresh and limits the time for these outbursts.

Solid advice here. Engaging with the drama only encourages it. Only productive way to deal with it is to ignore her. It's the only language women understand. Also, if you get a low-drama woman, hold onto her. They are rare, but they are out there.

I disagree with one point of his. The soft next is still doable when you are living with a chick. Become a cold fish. Do not show her any affection. Do not have sex with her. If she wants to engage with you, politely move away from her. This ought to put her in panic mode. She will see that she is in your bad book. And she will listen to you like her relationship with you depends on it (as it should). Tell her she is behaving badly, tell her the right way to behave. Above all, be polite, honest, and direct. And be calm. As soon as you express yourself, it is on record. Do not give ultimatums. Rather say that if this continues, you will find someone else who is a better fit, or you will become a single guy. Don't be afraid to walk. If the relationship means anything to her, then she will change. If she does not change, then you will leave. You can't lose. We get what we tolerate. If she knows you will tolerate bad behavior, then you have no leverage.

No. A drama causing person challenges your authority. So establish authority.

Awesome 👏🏾 I sent this to my married friend

Always let them know at the beginning, that you like to avoid unnecessary stress. That way they know why you're avoiding them, down the road.

Drama kills, avoid

I am not totally buying this "soft next" logic......BUT I will tell you a major break through I ran into with my second wife when I was married to her!! You see my second wife...like my first wife, constantly accused me of things SHE CLAIMED I was "guilty of" and according to her (telling ALL OUR FRIENDS and families) she would blame me for things I never did!! And up to this point I had been married to her for about 11 years when I realized a lot of "FACTS" about my wife's "stories" that she would regularly "alter" to make me look like a complete monster and she always painted herself as "the victim"!! So you can understand the backstory of what I was up against!!!! The spring time before our 12th anniversary however I began to realize TWO THINGS IMPORTANT to this story! First she was blaming me for things SHE was actually guilty of......and secondly she was never around in most to the cases to know WHAT THE F**K was going on at our home to start with!! And while she constantly accused me of many things........it wasn't like we were actually "spending a lot of time together" for me to actually be guilty of all the HORRIBLE THINGS she was accusing me off....which came to a head at a friend of mine's wedding (another long story in itself)!! In this I determined that the only "solution" to my problem was "just never be around EVER"! And to further this logic, "she couldn't blame me if I was never around to be blamed for anything!"!!!!! It all seemed simple enough! So that spring when "car show season" started I was constantly gone to car shows. OR I would go to seminars on home building, I was even taking free courses at Home Depot and Lowes!! And I would find ANY EXCUSE to keep me away from the house, and away from her!! I even took in a couple of "Start your own business" conferences in the nearby city on random occasions as well!! And when I did earn a "little extra money" like her I spent MY MONEY on myself buying car parts, tools or whatever I wanted to buy and literally just stock piling things I wanted and needed!!! And no matter how much she protested about ANY OF IT, I would just simply tell her "It beats being around you!"!!!! Adding a flair of passive aggressive tension to the mix, which she had done to me for YEARS anyhow!! In truth I was doing EXACTLY WHAT SHE DID TO ME BACK TO HER!! I did what I wanted WHEN I wanted, and didn't care what she said or thought or screamed at me about!! I just did the things I liked to do! And I was NEVER home to be "blamed" for the things she would try to blame me for!! In the end we got divorced almost 3 years later!! BUT people around us, started asking me if her stories about me were true, simply because for years everybody had bought into her lies about me......and now when I would run into them and they'd ask me "Where is your wife?" and I would reply with "Who knows, who cares?!" they'd look at me just stunned that I had seemed to just "given up" on her!!! She still tried to blame me for things BUT I made myself very "high profile" to the people she was telling crap too!! So people were running into me literally EVERY WHERE!! And the began questioning her "tall tales" about me from her!! Basically I made her finally look like the idiot she was...and proved to everybody that "just because she said things about me didn't actually make them "true"!"!!!! And I think that her losing control over the lies she spread about me hurt her the most.....which was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship!! I basically took her control away from her!!

Mr. Copper is on point. Never give your woman validation, attention and focus.

This has traditionally been called "the Silent Treatment"

As a counselor, you said it well. You also were right on the strength of the connection is the only way it will work. Some might not like this, but its the truth. Thanks for that!

Lol Rich I feel like your are living in my shoes man. I am going through this right now with my gf. She is unable to go 7 days without started some drama. It comes out of nowhere. I talking to her, the dust settles and then comes back. I thought it was me lol. Thank you for this knowledge, much appreciated.

Also, remember. Her drama requires an audience. Ignore her, and it. The drama will stop. Immediately.

If a “Tomi” starts drama remember that life is LONG. Don’t waste time men.

In my religion the Quran God said that to leave them temporarily when tension starts

Another thing to consider is, if theyre BPD or cluster B somewhere, this will be par for the course, and you are NEVER her best option (in her mind) until you are... again.

sounds like playing games and hoping an emotionally immature person will just magically read your mind and make major changes over night bc you didnt text them back. It is contributing to and role modelling an unhealthy dynamic - she too may start to disappear for days on end with radio silence after you do something she doesn't like. It's a power struggle of who can out manipulate the other. Just walk ..

Attention and validation is a currency for the girl world.....this line made me sub to this channel. Also, dude knows his s**t!!!!

Been doing this for years, never knew it had a name.

Comply or goodbye. Love it.

Many dramas have magically solved themselves when I shrug my shoulders and go out to my shop, or get in my truck, already hooked up to my boat and drive.

Truthfully, if her interest level is 9 or 10... she’s not pulling too much drama with you unless you did something to hurt her feelings. If her interest level is lower, you could only improve things about yourself to draw her interest. In an LTR, there will be an ebb and flow. You can ride it out or get out.

I'm not a big Jordan Peterson fan, but that one thing that he does with children ("I'll talk to you when you're ready to be an adult again") is just like this. I live with my GF, for the most part everything is peachy. When she starts up the drama machine, I stay late at the gym. Wish I could just play some CoD and ignore her a little, but I shouldn't be playing too many video games anyways haha

With deep gratitude, as the mother of three sons.

Damn man. I’ve been watching your videos for the past hour and I’m coming to the realization that I’m screwed in my relationship. I have a lot of things to work on to better myself and my relationship.

It absolutely works....and it actually made me think about how I need to communicate. Respectfully. My husband of 22 years had to implement this strategy. I'm learning quite a bit about myself. Love the man too much not to be able to look inward.

Give her no warning & no justification, just let her know the competition is stiff for the 1st place and she have to perform to stay.

25 years with the same lady and been doing the soft next for the whole time! Make a great living , I’m confident and don’t take shit!! Thanks for all the great videos!!!

Comply or goodbye.

oh Gosh..thanks for this...am doing this kinda thing but it depends on the situation where I am on the situation of depression

I have another suggestion: move on! No need for the drama! And dudes, don't get married! Complete waste of time!

bro, I went through this for 11 months! 3 days ago, we had a great evening; by the next morning, she was arguing and combating me, as soon as I woke up... not sure why. As soon as she knew I was serious, bags packed, booked my next location, she decides she wants to communicate (and she also tried to create another silly argument, masking her pain) I left her that day. It's not my job to fix her

"The soft next," making yourself physically unavailable to a love interest, is similar to "gray rocking." This is a technique to ameliorate narcissistic abuse by becoming as inconspicuous as a gray rock on the ground- you don't initiate conversation, give one-word answers, etc. I suppose my question is, if you're having to play games like this to deal with a woman who wants to make you unhappy, why stay in that relationship?

I love how you described a woman like Kyle Reese describe the Terminator

I’m 30 seconds in and I’d place money on it being willing to walk away.

K i think you are my favourite mentor in this current climate. I Subscribed bud.