When you die, in Australia 

My dad was in palliative care in hospital. When he passed the funeral directors came and picked him up straight away. We did not want him in the hospital morgue. Mum was palliative at home and was picked up from home and we helped the funeral directors prepare her for transport. My daughter dressed and prepared mum at the funeral parlour as she worked there, she also did dad as well, which she said was a honour to be able to do for them. Here in Bunbury, Western Australia our local funeral parlour William Barrett and Sons do Dying to Know Days and this allows people to tour the facilities and ask questions and be given information on whats involved and what you should be prepared for.

You ladies are awesome! I never miss an episode. I’m a retired traffic accident Reconstructionist from a city close to St. Louis, MO I am retired now, my wife named Tracey passed from cancer in 2020 at age 52 and I lost my daughter on 07-01-24. She was 35. What you do is so valued and helps people understand more about your job and how the process works! Keep up the awesome videos and I have to truly say that “Trish” is absolutely gorgeous. You are both beautiful ladies! Sincerely Mitch O’Fallon, IL

Hello from Oklahoma!! (USA) I have to say, I have been involved in funerals that had been pre planned and those that haven't. The ones that were were much less distressing than those that were not. I planned my dad's before he passed, and it was very comforting to know that had been taken care of. After that, my husband and I planned and prepaid each of ours. We hadn't even had that conversation yet, and it is very comforting to us now that our kids won't have to make those decisions on top of their own grief.

You are doing fantastic public awareness whilst also humanising death as a natural process that, with the right care, can leave a positive memory for loved ones. Thank you T&T x

Another T&T extraordinaire, cool info, thanks for sharing ❤

Again Thank you I have seen the Funeral directors really take advantage of people I have seen that It cost mt sister about 15000 Dollars for her son and she had two sons passed away a year apart and it was a one day showing And there no credit with them u either have the money or their no Funeral It didn't use to be that way but i guess so many people took advantage of them Thank you for sharing

This would have to be one of my ‘favorites’ that I’ve watched on your channel.. I watch this topic a few times but usually from overseas RU-vidrs. I had no idea that we have all those options in AUSTRALIA,love the ‘pre plan’ option… I’ve lost so many close to me and sometimes you go back and think, ‘ wish we did this or that differently’, now I know that we can actually be more involved in the arrangements,not that I would wish for someone to pass away. My saddest memory was off my brother in law and his wife losing their 9 day old son,at birth they discovered a hole in his heart,so they were expecting it,but the sad part was,we were there when he took his last breath and the funeral ppl came and picked him up so fast after his death that the grieving parents didn’t have much time with him! 💔💔💔 Love you both from SA ❤

Very informative. Thank you! As always, Carol B.

Kals glasses flew off like someone swatted them off! That was cool! A ghost was there with u! Great video ladies, Kal and ghost !! Have a great weekend lovelies!! 👻💗

Always enjoy your videos ladies! Always informative and so honest. I do think that there Australia allows a lot more ways for a funeral to happen including the prep of the body than the U.S. does. When my parents died, they both had pre-paid, pre-planned burials. At each of their funerals, my sister immediately wanted to change things, but I told her they both had a pre-paid, pre-planned burial. The funeral director like you said pulled out the paperwork and there wasn't much she could have done about it, other than their wishes. For me it was so nice not to have to plan a funeral and everything that surrounded it. They chose everything from casket, color of their clothes, music, everything and both ask to have a vault. When my mom passed my sister tried so hard to not have a vault and not spend that money. The vaults were the only thing that wasn't paid for but they requested one. Again, the director pulled out the paperwork with their wishes and she couldn't help but agree. So much easier for the family. When my husband passed suddenly, he had an autopsy, so it was a couple of days for him to come back to the funeral home. That at least gave us some time to think, plus he and I had talked several times what we might want if we died earlier than expected. I do wish that he and I had done years ago what my parents did planning it out ahead of time. But at least I did have time to think and make everything perfect for his burial and he made plans years and years before how it would be paid for. I've thought a lot lately about doing a pre-planned so my children won't have to worry about making arrangements and they will know what I wanted. I have talked to them some after my husband passed, so at least they have an idea what I want. Just wish I had the money to pre-pay for my burial, that would make a big difference, but I've made plans to cover that when it does happen like my husband did.

We always had Funeral Directors come and pick up our residents up from nursing home.

Hey tracy, hey trish, love this video, loads of good information and advice, i find it really hard to hear but my dad always says whenever he goes he just wants a direct cremation, no service no viewing no fuss, and then he just wants his ashes put with my mum (his wife) i hate hearing him say it and find it really difficult as i feel really guilty that he wouldn't have a service, when my mum died and my brothers died he made sure they had nice services and good send offs, i know its what he wants but i just feel guilty 🤧😔😕

All these videos are so well done and are respectful. (Quick love from Mississippi US.). Thank you both from the LGPTQIA community. Tracey would take care of anyone, and that’s why she’s an angel.

Oh my goodness, Kal! I needed a laugh. 😂 Sorry it scared you ladies, though. I'm sure it would have scared me in the moment, too.

Thanks so much ladies ❤ . I’m finding out a lot of information from you 2 .my eldest granddaughters are in control of my funeral .. ( everyone to wear bright colours) 😊 it’s going to be be till death us do PARTY 😊❤

Breaths of fresh air 🫶🏻🫶🏻🌹🌹💯 Cal’s glasses really made me jump 😱

Thanks for the wonderful video, ladies. I appreciate all the information you're giving us. I would hope to think that my mom was handled with care and love. When she passed away in January I did read a horrific story that happened in America many years ago. About a funeral home called the lamb mortuary. Where the funeral director was actually taken. Body parts and stuff out of the. Deceased and selling them even gold fillings and everything was pretty horrific. It's horrible to think that stuff like that happened years ago I really hope that doesn't happen anymore.

my best friend just had her son die unexpectaily and he is only 38 he was at home with her so so sad

I have a question I don’t think it pertains to this particular video but I’m sure you have answered it before but I’m not sure. If a body is donated to science to keep them preserved for as long as they have them which for some people could be there for years that they have the body for, do you use a specific chemical to preserve them for that long or is it strictly embalming fluid you use??

Hi beautiful ladies Thank you for sharing Thank you for all you do for our loved ones Take care

It is important that, if you don't pre-plan, at least let your loved ones know what your wishes are. When my Mom died, Dad had her cremated and her ashes placed in one side of a companion urn. When he passed, he would be cremated and his ashes would go in the other side. That much, I knew. I asked him what he wanted after that. He said something about my brother and I taking turns keeping the urn. I suggested, since he was a proud Navy veteran, being interred in the local national cemetery at Fort Indiantown Gap. I drove him up to see it and he loved it. He died from Covid in January 2021. Since the world was shut down, we had to wait until the summer and then I planned his and Mom's interment. They are interred in the newest columbarium complex with a beautiful view.

If there is trauma to the face on the typical side facing out of the coffin, can or would you place the body in there in the opposite direction so the non damaged side of the face is facing out?

love your show

Here in the states if you commit suicide your life insurance will not pay out. How does it work in Australia with the assisted suicide? Love you two!

Hello ladies thanks again for sharing your knowledge with us.❤🙏🎆🎇🌸🀄

Hi from France great to see you both

What happens if you pre plan or prepay for a funeral and the funeral director goes out of business?

My mum just passed away 😢 and she had a pre-paid funeral and my sister still had to pay some expenses as prices have gone up , you said once you have a pre-paid funeral its fixed at that price that you have paid , for us that was obviously not the case

Hi Tracy and tris my husband went to hospital he was left in the ambulance bay On the ambulance trolley well he was going to have a CT scan and he died for over an hour they revived him so I was scared and he was in a comma for 2 weeks

In Ohio, an in home death the coroner has to b called to release the body. Noone can move a body, until. Same way with an accident, shooting, etc.

His glasses didn't just fall off, they flew off! 😂 I love the idea of a diy funeral as I think the industry as a whole is overpriced and takes advantage of people when they're grieving and in shock and are happy to have someone take over the arrangements for them. I'm in the UK, so I guess things are a bit different, but I'm going to do some research in the hopes of saving my kids time, money and stress when I pop my clogs. 😊

Love watching you guys I have learnt a lot. my question is I don’t want a funeral and I want to be cremated how do I avoid funeral companies. I don’t want to waste money on funeral expenses. I am in Victoria Australia. Thanks Chrissy

You've probably been asked before, but being from the UK, do you ever feel like 'comparing notes' between practices? Have a good weekend all. ❤

Hello Ladies!! 👋 wondering where you get your cool headscarves Tracey, I will have a look incase they're on your store. 😊😉

Loved the story about "the Queen". A REAL Priscilla Queen of the Desert!!! I'd have loved to have seen that! I'm sure you did a lovely job Tracy. That movie Priscilla Queen of the Desert was seminal to my understanding of who I was back then (I've never been a drag queen but seeing a film which was gay in it's nature way back in 1994 certainly made it easier to accept my own existence). I never thought of such a thing but what a lovely celebration of life! Live by your own terms, die by your own terms and by all bloody means, be buried on your own terms. Lovely! Thanks for your stories and info ladies! We luv ya!

Hi! Long time follower, first question. If someone dies in Australia and is buried there but the family chooses to bring them back to their home country or they move to another country and want to take their loved one with them, what are the steps to fly them? If they weren't embalmed, if they were, or if they were prepped another way? Or if they've been buried for a short time or many years?

Funeral wishes can also be included in a Will.

glass looked like they were pulled of

I watched a documentary on ABC or SBS which featured a drag queen’s death - the celebration of their life was fantastic! Another great chat, you two. Glad you keep discussing the inevitable. We all benefit from it being discussed openly and honestly. Thank you both. 🫶

good afternoon ladies what does happen when you die I Australia are they different to the uk 🇬🇧

Can funeral homes refuse care for someone who died by suicide or assisted suicide?

💀 👓 well!! Are you sisters? I came in late so I thought I’d go ahead and ask. Thanks for the informative video! 💖💖

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My dad passed on August 2. Our funeral b home here in Florida was fantastic.

Kal is for burial thats what he tried to say. Haha

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