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Thanks ladies for the good work. I think one of the biggest reason why women give birth to few babies is the unreliability& irresponsibility of the men. It's crazy gals...I don't know what's become of the men, my God, may God touch them.😢 Women want to give birth to few children such that incase the father decides to take off, she will be able to handle on her own. We are always expecting them to take off,and more oftenly than not, they do. Trust me raising 1or 2 children alone is easier than raising 3,4,5.. Personally, I have one baby gal, her father took off and I swore to myself, unless am married & the guy is 100% committed,am stopping at 1 baby
Hehehehe I realised I didn't want to have children when I was pregnant 🙈 but I endured and it's the beeeeesssstttt thing that's ever happened to me,it's such a joy to know that God is with me on this journey pouring into me for the sake of this little man and I now know that he's all I can take and compromise for and am glad God gave me the opportunity to be a mother.
I always only wanted children if I was staying with their father in the same house and we bring them up together(Other than that, I was happy being the darling auntie to my nephews and nieces),because then I would have someone to share the huge,endless responsibilty but after separating with their father and living the house, I regret having the 2 innocent little children because I feel like I did them injustice...
I love children in fact wanted about 6 but God blessed me with 4. I got a burn last Saturday but the way my elder son was pampering me this evening hooo made be a proud mother
Can we just give these ladies their flowers for the consistency they've shown in giving us great conversations?! Super Blessed I get to learn from these ladies. May God continue to richly bless you!
I think i love all these Ladies perspectives...just one thing i felt led to share...there is a growing number of abortions among married women because of finances. Just want to tell a lady out there that your child is no mistake. It is beyond your control to have one in the first place and God will take you through.
I think having chouces is not always about selfishness but out of love sometimes. Having children these days and afford to make them live good life is realy difficult and at this point i think choices are important if can't rise one don't have it and if you can afford 1 or 2 or 10 and more just do it but remember if you bring those blessing without the ability to care for them, the world will not be blessed at all
We need to appreciate that in as much as we look at pressure from society as a negative thing; it can be positive in a number of ways. One of these is how it helps us to remain highly accountable and not consider freedom a leeway to making all sorts of decisions. One thing we must also recognise is that we, as individuals form what we call the society, it's formed by our very own opinions, choices, actions and even thoughts. So in one way or another, we've formed part of society's narratives, the good and the bad. So having said all these I think that it's important that we appreciate that we belong to this society and each of us in our spaces has a role to play in shaping and changing some of these narratives for example the pressure to have a given number of children. I believe this should be a decision a couple gets to make because after all, these children are their very own responsibility primarily.
Yes, societal norms are not always bad. This "individual choice" thing is being highly elevated than it should. In South Africa where I'm from about 70% of families don't have a father. This is not really shunned upon as these individuals decided to make a family this way. Choice should be left to responsible individuals only, the rest should be living according to the cultural/ religious norms. And maybe to close off this topic properly, let's have kids from different family setups come and share their experiences. Sometimes as parents we decide on things without thinking how it'll affect the kids.
This episode is dedicated to childfree women. The ones who CHOOSE (for various reasons) not to have children. I might have sounded defensive on this show but it had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with the woman that chooses to have NO children. The woman you victimise because she makes a choice that you dont understand. I was (and always will) standing up for a woman whose choice you are so quick to question. Let's do better. P
This topic was a hot button, nerves were "inadvertently" touched,defense mode low key activated but the classy & mature thing abt this panel is that they know how to respectfully agree to disagree & then circle back & wrap it up with a beautiful bow.
Wow!!! Amazing conversation! Pumla and Racheal your input were incredible, especially the spiritual perspectives that you shared. I am rooting for this show to win an international award.
Me as Me, When l see A mother with more than 2 kids, l feeel Joy in the inside and Am ready To have 4 kids ..... ...😊😊😊😊😊😊🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉...May God Bless me With Kids And l will be the happiest
I loved Angie for this! Wisdom trolling "choice" that's held at such a high pedestal today. Children are a blessing. Who would want 1 or 2 when you could have more.
Munange. The one of zero, 1 or 2 wants that. The one of 8, 9 or 10 also wants that. It should all be okay. Let's be respectful and not troll each other's choices
@@millennialaunty my dear if you haven't been in a situation of being alone you will never understand this even if one had a full village around still one would wish to have a sibling
I just want to add and say, God gave us common sense for a reason. Be kind to your children and give birth to only those you can afford as a woman. That other gender is not a constant in our lives and even those that are committed and disciplined could die, get physically or mentally incapacitated etc. etc. In conclusion, make common sense your friend. The culture, emotions or society we desire to please will not pay fees, you will!
I am only 40 seconds in but I had to pause and say, Rosette, That hair hugs your face so beautifully 😍 P.S I love how you've all been present for the last couple of episodes!
I personally knew I always wanted to be a mum, love my children above everything else, but I totally agree with Pumla. I totally don’t agree with the over romanticism of having way to many children, especially in the African culture!, And about regretting having few friends when you are older, that’s not true! My Mom had 10 kids and she’s now “ all on her own”, we have all taken our different paths.( we can’t immediately be physically there when she needs us). My mother in law had only 3 children, but they were all physically there for her until she left this world( so it’s not all about the number of kids)
I am team Pumla today. Those who never lacked basic home items can not have a similar look as those who did on the issue of raising a human being. CHOICE is big word & key lies in how each one of us strikes a balance. Life has no manual, your submissions are dependent on your life experiences. 26 & I can assure you if I can't finance atleast one, am not having it. Reality is shockingly expensive: knowing thing & understanding them impacts your life differently. As I get older I know now some decisions can't be recorrected, I know now that some of us have no privilege to risk stuf(life your own kid's future- atleast ensure agood backup) , I also know that kids don't forgive irresponsible parents. If your kids grows while she was the one who lacked at every point, her look of things will always aim at how not to go back there. Helplessness can humble you beyond measure. And today I feel that Angie should be told how women land in that spot of not wanting kids at all.
True and I was that child who lacked and there's a way it affects my self esteem I always feel unwanted and it's hard for me to relate with others. Thou I have no problem with my parents coz dad passed wen I was 11yrs ma mum had to suffer with us but here iam struggling to live 🙏
@@pumlanabachwa8668 I am making 27 in August. I am surrounded with everything I don't wanna be like. Taking up any chance to change my story... I am thankful for the internet for how simplier it has made my life.
14:35 That was a good conclusion Rach. Make your choices, deal with the consequences 😂 at all the stages of your life. If you CHOOSE remain child free, be at peace with it and be at peace with those who have 10+ most especially if they are not coming to ask you for help 😂😂😂But even if they ask you for help, accept peacefully or refuse peacefully. All in all, be at peace with your choice and be at peace with other people's choices 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hot and significant topic today.....An old lady in a nursing home I worked in said she chose not to have children and not to get married thinking she will die rich in her mansion enjoying her money, only to end up all alone confined in one room in a nursing home and her funds being managed by her nephew and best friend... Like Mannuella said," we aren't in control as we think we are. "... Just be happy with any choice you make in your life and be ready to embrace all the consequences of that choice whether positive or negative.There is no choice better than the other I think.
Hi ladies, would you kindly have a discussion on the Marriage Choice as well from the same perspective. I appreciate every one of your perspective on this topic. Such beautifully wise women. As a child i said,"when i grow up i want to be a mother like my mommy". She was and still is a great mum. But i never had that innate desire to be married. This white dress fantasies and all that jazz. However, IF and this is a very big IF. I meet a man who changed my mind about it then i would get married to him because i do genuinely believe that marriage is good and that it works. Its just not sth i wanted for me. The flipside has always been. Because of my Christian faith and belief, i was never going to have a child out of wedlock intentionally. My desire to be called mom could not superseed my desire not to be married. And then at 32 i was diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis so that story all went out the window for me. At 38, i became a mother out of wedloc and i hear Pumla when she says God knew my son needed to be born, but he knew i was not going to bring him out of wedlock. So for me he caused 'a situation' and as soon as i was pregnant all the care and comfort 'the situation' brought in those very few months left completely. I love my son to heaven and back. I do not regret him nor am i ashamed of him. I am a proud mother of one child and i am fulfilled and satisfied with him. Society will not understand my one...... The ones who are not happy about me being a solo parent are still struggling with my joy, independence and pride in him ,while those who are excited about him are not understanding my refusal to have another child. I am content and at peace. God answered my prayer quite unconvensionally and i am happy. Now i am still open to marriage, though i am not looking for it. But another child..i am closed for business 😅. I love love love bump love.
Wow. Thank you bump love for this topic. This has been my most empowering episode to learn from. Everyone's submission has been so helpful for me not to question life so much. My girl will be making 3 in October and I can assure you, I never called her to come to this world. I wasn't prepared. I was just 20 on my year 2 at campus so immature and young. I felt wat the hell has just happened!! So do I have to not enjoy my 20s because of this?? And guess what, am learning to adjust, to settle in, to accept that she came from God and for a purpose and mine is just to nurture and co create with God just as Rachel brought it. To accept the journey and live in the now. Resist fear especially the fear of the unknown Manuela said it makes us miss the chances that might come our way without us realising them and Yes! It's true. Make choices that we can be accountable to. Educate ourselves on them to avoid regret and to have answers to societal queries "pumla said. Rosette and Angie all preach love. Thank you ladies you're really shaping me through your views and I totally relate. I desire to stand some day and attest to all this in the crowd just as you do. You inspire me so so much. 😘😘 I love you'll.
I normally enjoy all the episodes ladies, but I think this one tackled a conversation you were not ready for. Its a very sensitive one that deserves alot of nuance and respect to both sides. It was hard not to get people in their feels on this one. That said, yall handle yourselves in such a classy way that disagreements dont become so ugly.
Pumla and Rachael submissions are well laid out thanks for the show Naye also Pumla comments just make me laugh 🤣🤣🤣 we are blessed to have you on the show her bluntness is what ever young girl needs am sending my sisters to Pumla for counseling 🤣🤣
Growing up never wanted kids because of the torture i went through when my parents weren't around. My dad passed on when i was 8 while my mum was somewhere catering for another man with my other half sibilings from different Dad. I grew up with anger that even made me to hate every child because what was in my little mind was that, children are like curses. Mothers will just givebirth and leave them to suffer coz mine left me at 2yrs. But now as i grew up after i had encountered with God, i learnt to love and i started loving myself, oh! My God, my love for children is on top, apparently i'm 28years and got married in 2021 May, not yet conceived because my husband boaded for an ending opportunity soon coming back this very year but i tell you ladies, i'm so much prepared and i can't wait to have those kids as many as God will trust me with because i'm a steward and for me the difference i'm gonna do, is to make myself available for them everytime they need mum and the essentials. And yes, my plans may not align with God's but i'm praying for His provision according to His Will. Thank you ladies for always impacting us with Bump love❤ GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
I love Pumla for this 100% the way she reasons and the way she brings this point, everybody can make a choice which is in our African Culture not that present and mostly not accepted. Pumla is not African she was only born there. As much as I love being an African born and raised, but I cannot keep up with these expectations and trying to explain things nobody want to understand . Yes we think we think too much and that is the beauty of it. We have a choice to think on what we want to be and with who. Saying that our Wombs were made for having kids tells me that Women were met to marry and bear kids. So every woman who is full age doesnt have a choice to get the right Husband. I feel the same way we have a choice to get ourselves a good Husband it is the same way we have a choice to say how many Children we want. I am here comfortable with no Single kid. I dont judge people with kids no matter how many. Everybody should live how he or she wants
SUSAN. SUSAN. SUSAN. How many times have I called you???? I know for a fact that this continent I was born on was just to ensure that I remain humble 😂😅😂 BECAUSE 🤦🏾♀️
Hehehe... ⚠️ My dears, am from a school of thought that actually not every child is relevant 🤷🏽♀️. Relevant:purposeful! In other words child bearing MUST be in the divine setting (this is not necessarily whether or not one can bear the child). Your "choice" better be divinely set lest we have an irrelevant offspring.
If You change your mind at 50, you can always adopt. If you genuinely believe raising and loving another human being unconditionally is what you want, then adoption shouldn't be an issue. So still no regrets at 50
Pumla is annointed, she makes a good preacher of the gospel🤪. She is really deep and the way she articulates words shows a highest level of wisdom/maturity🤗 And Rachael's revelation of Mary says it all. We were chosen for our children Thank you ladies for always speaking to us. This topic was for me because of its right timing in my life. May God bless you and increase you as you impart knowledge to us🙏🙏
When she finally crosses to the line of salvation, she will be a great fisher of men.. she speaks with lots of wisdom that shows how much she has invested in knowledge. I love her too. I love her choice of words, authoritative but not offending anybody. She's my idol lol 😄
My mum had 7 children with my father because THEY WANTED TO. Let us not romanticize many children. Let us romanticize having as many or as few children as we can manage. "Choice" is and will always be important. I want 4-5 children as a 20 year old but my brother and sister in law want 2 as 30 yr olds. It is your own choice and it should be respected.
RACHEAL IS VERY ARTICULATE & SPEAKS FROM THE MOUTH OF GOD (PS : am no Savedee fanatic 😜) I THINK SHE COULD MAKE A GOOD COUNSELLOR PUMLA & ANGIE ALMOST GOT CONFRONTENTIONAL AT SOME POINT MANUELLA, YO TOO COMPOSED THIS TIME ROUND
I luv u Nabacwa, true hv da number of kids dat l can manage, l get angry wen l tell pipo my second kid z my last & dey say olimba omusajja tosobola muzalira baana babiri, ajja kubanonya ebali, banange abaana tubazala lwa basajja, even if u produce 10 era he can kwenda so l produce da number l can carry and manage , enough
I am team children are a whole blessing even when they come with so much work..if i personally had the financial muscle among others, would definitely have like 6🥰🥰
Angie has a very good point,we were created to bear children but we only choose not to have them.❤ Pumla took the topic a little personal today but well done ladies ❤
It is not fair to say that we choose not to have them. Some people are struggling to conceive. Also who wants to raise more than one child alone, I feel Angie talks from a point of privilege
Much as God blesses us with children. As people we should prepare to raise and gloom children in our capacity.. I wouldn't wish to produce 6 children that I can't manage to care for. Bump love has made Friday a marked day save for being a door to weekend 👏👏👏well done ladies
I love children to the bottom of my heart though I haven't brought one yet but In Sha Allah I pray I bring some few. When I see a child around, I feel like I'm a protector of these creatures😂. I look at them like my so young self and so innocent of where they are, in a space(surrounding) where anything can happen. This is my vision of being more of a protector and confidant for them. No wonder mum tells me in my childhood, I was so kind to the children and still are. I love those creatures though I believe in having few that I feel I can handle just like Pumla submitted. Please, please, please think about inviting a few of us to watch live these discussions once while. With love from bump love❤
Team Children 🎉🎉🎉. Naye career has suffered so help me God. Naye 2 already really want 4 but only willing to go through pregnancy once. God give me twins🎉🎉🎉. Angie is submission is Golden
As someone who fake played mother as a child coz everyone expected a girl to play with dolls, I can confidently say am 32 and still don’t feel a thing for children. I love children so much and the process of raising slightly older kids is what I feel pulled towards. I plan to adopt coz I know many children need a home with good parents but I’ve never felt the desire to have my own. I’ve always told myself the only way I can have a biological child is if I meet someone really worth procreating with. And I know a lot of people think if you want to raise children then you must want to biologically mother but am saying exactly how I’ve felt all my life
Angie had a great point there. This thing called choice has also been abused and misused 😂😂😂😂😂. That's why everyone these days is choosing to live by "their truth". Zero accountability and no sense of community. The buzz words me time, self love, etc. So Manuela, that Mama in her bonnet with no bra at the school is living her truth. Where do we draw the line? 😂
Self importance! That said, Angie speaks of not being able to go back and change this "choice"! And that's the bit where we must be very intentional putting into account what your purpose here is...what's your purpose?! Truth be said, you can never be ready for a child. No amount of "preparation" is enough. Its meant to be an adventurous journey 💃
Manuela you got me with the last piece , you seemed very composed n calm today hope all is well. But what you said about our fears and letting God take control is key cos there is no guarantee that even when u teach your child that they will follow ghe right path. Even though there is eveil in the world there is still hope. Thanku
@@victoriasanyime9910 This topic did not need canterkarousness 😂She was in deep thought and introspection. Infact I am surprised she didn't shed a few tears 😢 😭 😅
I think i love all these Ladies perspectives...just one thing i felt led to share...there is a growing number of abortions among married women because of finances. Just want to tell a lady out there that your child is no mistake. It is beyond your control to have one in the first place and God will take you through.
Before I even listen to this my ladies ,I love you ladies to the moon,your smart ladies and for Rossetti,she went African,your smart love.Back to the topic,for mi I have my aunt who has many,she always tells us that God will take care and that she has no worries ,but in the world today we should have the kids we can look after ladies because you can have 6 wen behind your back the man has 3 and incase of anything you hustle with all.
Thank you Pumla and Racheal for being so articulate. I knew i was meant to be a mother the first time I saw a woman in labor. It immediately hit me, i instantly felt a strike of love for my mother. And from then on, I looked forward to being a mother someday. I made that choice and I'm so accountable for it.
Am on the 42nd floor with 4 children but if am blessed with another i would gladly have it those things of choice yes good but that one child bambi obwomu bugenda omuluma nga akuzze off course now for your economising but am sure that child will grow up and bare more than 10 just put the two eyes.
Being a mum is not for everyone. I was a very clumsy but studious child. It was assumed that I would marry some foreign guy and we would live a childless eccentric lifestyle. I have 3 children and if conditions allowed I would have more😂😂. I am also very career oriented. I, like Angie believe it is a choice you make.
Hello bump love all your reasons are true but as for me, I get sick for six months of my pregnancy and I have very bad birth experience (am a mother of one but am afraid to go back to the theater tho am a working mom and I have Avery supportive husband
Hello, I love pumla's submission. I should have children that I know I can manage to raise by myself. And my contribution to the matter is that, some women are having fewer children because medically they cant have them for example if a woman delivers by c/section she cannot exceed 4 times and more to that from the current health status of people today, our bodies are weaker can our Grandparents bodies in their times. The reason am saying this is that am a midwife and we advise women not go beyond 5 births because beyond that, you are at risk (risky mother).and this means you can die anytime during pregnancy labour or puerperium. Otherwise I love you guys and I love watching bump love
I never wanted to have a child. But God brought me my son and I'm so grateful for the opportunity to partner with him. My son is now 3, I'm barely ready for a 2nd child. I don't want to imagine it but, I made the decision to have another child. I know at some point I'll be ready to have that second but eh. The societal pressure to add another child.
Manuela, talk small small about women coming in bonnets, u also one day came in pajamas, so extend grace.. they maybe depressed or going thru something 😊😂
Hello ladies I have a boyfriend, we have been together for some time, we met at campus and he is now done but I am also about to finish. My problem is that I don't want to have a child as soon as I finish campus, I want to have some time for my self and enjoy my ka life before starting a family. However my boyfriend is on my case that his family is asking him for a child. He is ready to settle and go to my parents as well. I love and he loves me more. I don't want to loose him. Ladies, what should I do
Economics is a huge factor. Where I live, the difference between a 3bed house and a 4bed house is $100k. That’s a significant difference, and for parents who want a certain lifestyle for their kids, it may be a a detterent. Same goes for vehicles. The difference between a small SUV and a large SUV is about $15k. Our environment is designed for a 4 person family, 5 if you push it
It will be great to have women on the show who chose not to have kids and are living their best life. Even in the Bible it says not everyone will have kids especially if marriage and kids is the goal. It says not everyone will marry So women who have no medical condition preventing them from having children and are living with no regrets would be awesome to highlight!!!
Hmmmm🤔. Normally there’s a kind of respect and openness to the differences of opinions but this one bordered on tension, defensive and almost a dismissal of some opinions. I also think anything involving Religion should really be avoided coz eish you can tell people can’t tackle Faith without getting personal and highly emotional. Still courageous of Bump Love attempting such a difficult topic. ❣️
