SIGNS YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE TOXIC |Tips To Protect Your Inner Peace with Sunday Asingwire  

Dial *125# to get your Airtel #Xtream wiFi and let's get started! What's your experience with toxic family members? From our loved ones guilt tripping us to ungrateful relatives, settle in because we are speaking out about TOXIC FAMILY. And we are lucky to have Counseling Psychologist Sunday Asingwire with us for expert tips into this matter. We absolutely loved doing this show at the Golden Tulip Hotel, come and solidify your family relationships and explore more of what this gorgeous hotel has to offer. Thank you to Zuri Hair, Shades of Beauty, Shoe Puzzle and Fashion Episode for our look today :) If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who needs to watch this and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one. Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O... #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove

I realized I was a bitter toxic mother, I'm really working on it. I realized I was really angry and bitter more over towards my little ones, as young as 2! This journey of self awareness has got me working on my silent treatment, anger, bitterness, screaming....Most of the adults in my life were toxic. We can do better. The silent treatment made me lose so many good friends over time.

Its in this episode that I have really understood the statement you say over and over again that YOU ARE SIMPLY CONVERSATION STARTERS. I feel like having some conversations with some people in my life. I used to be ashamed of watching, and enjoying a ladies´show as a man but boy oh boy....am not the same guy I used to be. A BIG thank you to the entire team.

Every one of you ladies bring or have your own aura on the show.i feel like something is missing without Manuela.I hope in the future Pumla you don't get absent 😂. I'm always looking forward to Friday because of you. For Rosette, ai,she's so iconic in fashion, Angie,her voice soothes one's soul and Rach,i love you so mucher❤

This January i decided to draw boundaries because relatives come with entitlement and lack of self love can spin you out of this world.

Rossette today you are pure flames ,I loooove this look on you. Love from Kenya.

That is why I moved out of town, to love my relatives from a distance.

Let's all agree that Rosette's hair is SOOOO BEAUTIFUL! I have cut off my brother and my extended family from my life. I'm so happy and peaceful. Let's stop encouraging people to put up with toxic family members! Toxicity is toxicity whether family or not! Blood isn't always thicker than water after all!

I know of someone who gets triggered and angered so fast.. like he's going to quickly shout at and abuse someone... But when we shared, the mother used to abuse them when they were young and I now realized that the toxicity from the mother all from way back is following them

I kind of grew up from a toxic home, most times i would be home i would go to my room amd cry and wonder why i was born in such a home, much as i had access to basic needs i was never excited about going home for holidays to the extent that i would opt to study in holidays and keep at school. The moment i joined campus i would look for volunteering placements to keep me busy and surely i wouldnt go home. I would go home for a few days to check on them and after my graduation i didnt go back home, i still went for voluntary work, God blessed me with a job a husband and now i have a family of my own, i distanced myself from my family not that i didnt love them, i love them and when money started coming i supported them all through, i visited them but i needed that space to build my empire that is free from all that home drama. Such environments can would your heart and u find yourself being hard on other people in future. My gal stay away from your mum for sometime however dont go into bad habits that will spoil your future

I have a very, very, very, very toxic mother. Not to just me, but to any family member. One thing I know is that having a toxic mother is a lonely journey, so traumatizing yet you can't have anyone to tell and be on your side because, ideally to society, a mother does no wrong. A toxic mother can kill you faster than any other illness. I self-distanced about 8 years ago, and I have never regretted it. My life is so much better, mentally. No contact! and over time, I have earned so much respect from her, from a distance.

A Friday without Bump Love is not a Friday; and the weekend only starts after watching Bump Love ❤🎉😅. Thank you ladies always.

Pumla is straight up spitting bars today, like damn girl, you spoke to my soul!

Hey ladies! This spoke to me. I recently decided to stay away from my family since they never stand up for me when i face abuse from my sister. It's been two months now and i am enjoying the peace of mind.

What I have realised we are all toxic but on a different level, I'm personally progressing, I thank you ladies.

I am a victim of mother -adult child abuse. It’s very heart wrenching. She’s still alive but I grieve for her every single day.

Oh..how we have had experiences with toxic relationships from our relatives even in our nuclear families. Am glad I can now judge and handle the moments better. May the Lord help us to not be toxic to our husbands and children. Oh Lord help us to have healthy relations.

Bump ❤,thank u ladies! Toxic family members/relatives bask in the phrase "family is everything" because it helps them get away with their bad behavior. A phrase that IMHO best defines Toxic Positivity. Now,a healthy family/community is everything.✅️ 🙌

Rosette my deepest condolences. May your mum's soul rest in peace. Oh Lord, a deep conversation. Thank you for sharing ladies, I can see all the toxicity to date. My own mum was not toxic or controlling but I really had to parent her at some point because she was pitiful, and sad and had to deal with that toxicity from her family. Pumla, I can relate to the ridicule from relatives. I saw extended family do the same to us but I think on my dad's side he defended us. He would say, they will learn, teach them or even that is why I pay tuition, they are not allowed other languages except English at school. But when do these things stop? Because we are old and some relatives still behave poorly, I can not take it folding arms, I have to stand up for myself and whoever else is in that sad situation. I used to be temperamental, angry, violent even fight physically because I thought I was self-defending. I have come a long way. I am assertive but have learned to keep my cool. I know which battles to fight. I really have learnt to walk away and speak kindly even as I confront a situation. I am empathetic and patient now. Therapy helps, let us get help. I am actively getting help and prayer has been working good for me for the last 7 years.

You ladies today loooked Gorgeous and the topic was very eye opening. Now am doing a self check looking out for my toxic behavior towards my family. Thank u ladies. Mrs Mulondo you were Very much missed on the show today❤❤

This one has been a Reality check for me, thank you for sharing your stories.

Rosette that hair colour looks gorgeous on you

I like conversation. I also grow up with my mom before she passed, as I grow, they don't know what they are doing they are just trying to raise a responsible child to the society, not necessarily to themselves. They fear that the father's side will judge them its really tough on these mother.

What's Friday without Bump love 🙈We appreciate this content 💕 Condolences to Rosette🙏

Am soooo grateful for bump love. For us the new mothers, we have learnt/continue to learn sooo much about being better parents.May God grant us the grace to implement.

Rossets. Hair.......that wig is perfect on you

Me I have been in a toxic situation since childhood and the story on my side just seems to be so long and big.....imagine doing everything but your father just feels you are not doing enough and never appreciates the little you do,its now 3 months and we haven't talked but I really feel peace at heart just because he's not asking or pressuring me in most things and am doing only what I can or provide what I could at my own time not his time......thanks bump love ❤🎉

i thank God i healed from the toxicity that lowered my esteem a bit and am now walking a journey of restoration. this aunt who took us on after the loss of our mum was too much.

Rosette much love. Sorry for your mom loss. You shared with us she had been sick.. so sorry. You really speak highly of her and my heart goes out to you ❤❤❤

To answer Rosette most people from toxic environments have low self esteem , anxiety, panic attacks, people pleasing, u always want to be validated, u have self doubt, you always put yourself second to anyone

Hahaha, this episode reminded me about a certain auntie who frequented home for parties while we were still kids. Growing up, my favorite chore was cooking, but for some reason, I just wasn't passionate about cooking matooke. I even didn't like eating it anyway hence my lack of motivation to participate in its preparation! So this particular woman always said things like "' Who will marry you when you can't cook matooke'','' You are too lazy and you will never succeed''. All this culminated from the fact that I didn't like cooking matooke! Please note, I was great at all the other dishes. These statements went on for some years (through my teenage years up until campus) and then I decided to clap back. I reminded her how perfect her matooke cooking skills were and how they hadn't been sufficient to keep her marriage together. I reminded her how she isn't God and has no audacity to speak such words into my life. I went ahead to elucidate that God and not matooke keep marriages. Nways, I went on and on, while some other aunties watched and were dumbfounded🤣 Ladies and gentlemen, that was the last time she ever said anything to me. When we meet, we exchange our greetings and move on. Sometimes toxic relatives need to be schooled while establishing clear boundaries.Thanks for another great show ladies 💜

Deep conversation. Appreciate it. Rosette is looking super stunning on this one.❤

This conversation was amazing. Loved it loved it loved it. Yes people pleasers always start off as parent pleasers its not easy to get over, i should know BUT THE WORK NEEDS TO BE DONE. I like how Angie finished it off, there comes a time when now you cant blame your parents. You might have come from a toxic background but now YOU ARE THE BACK GROUND. do better so your children dont need to heal from your inactions. With love from bump love 💕

Surely lets all do better, there are these people who still discriminate, mostly for intermarried couples, you get married to a muganda when you are munyankole and all times the in-laws are being toxic. Thank you ladies for always bringing up insights of behaviors which we always dont know their impact to other people.

I went through the same thing, imagine at 25years I still couldn't express myself well, I just had to move out of home, I can now see things more clearly, am gaining back my self esteem....Started a RU-vid channel 🤗 Prayer also helps🙏🙏🙏

An amazing episode yet again. Kudos to everyone who healed and became an even better version of themselves. It’s unfathomable how toxic family can destroy identity.

As far as it depends on you,live at peace with everyone.

I have a legion of toxic relatives both nuclear and extended. I have cut them off and I am not guilty of the choice I made because my mental health was wanting and I was also projecting my anger towards my friends. I am better now healed...

It so hurts when your people are not good to you. But like u said ladies at a certain age, we need to do the work. No more blame game.

It's always "love from a distance" period!

Ladies always looking 🔥. Rosette ur look is so on point. With regards to the topic, it is so sad that family members are the ones that bring about this childhood trauma and it is even more depressing that they never know what they are doing to their children. Am not yet a mother but i pray to God to always make me aware of even the smallest of toxic things happening to my children so that it can be combated. May the almighty bless you too ladies. Its never easy to speak about your personal experiences on media, but that fact that you get the courage to speak about it just to help the someone out there……dem🙌 God Bless

You guys make my Fridays...am addicted!! Love from Kisumu _Kenya

Rosette that look is epic family feud aside. Am glad i come from a family of 6 and we all grown ups, our parents made sure we can’t have hate for more than one day. Forgiveness was advised and be it practical. So we fight and break but mend in a few days. We give each other space and time to heal.

Hello Bump love, this was happening to me as I was looking for validation from my mum. I feel your pain dear. However, a friend advised me to break my emotional need for mum, air out my feelings and grounds, and rebel respectfully, if it doesn't work for me I stay away, she calls me yelling on my phone I switch it off. Then the change came. we learned to listen to each other she learnt she doesn't have to yell and say those hurtful words Oh God. Break that validation need from her and find peace with yourself. You can validate yourself and that enough should be enough. they eventually learn coz trust me she doesn't want to lose you as well. And she loves you just sometimes she is dealing with emotions she cant explain to you as a you are her child.

It's funny, the journey of healing from toxic family members doesn't end. It's just recently that I decided to move on with my life without looking for an applause from family. Having gone through a childhood of rejection, getting acceptance in my adulthood from my parents came at a cost of doing whatever I was told do, I depended on what they termed as success, progress and what I had to do with my life. It was sad. When my relationship was on the line, I woke up and looked to God. I gave myself space from my family, I love them but when it comes to what I am doing with my life, I will tell them what I can, and not looking for approval this time. It's key that you get to appreciate you have grown up and need to look out for a your own peace of mind. 😊

Wow wow wow! When you think you now know Pumla's story so well, she drops a bombshell of SouthAfrica! Wow wow, Like I said before, it's never boring with Bump Love. Thanks for this show.

I am so sorry for your loss, Rosette. May mum's soul rest in peace. This was an informative episode, thank you guys

I have realised that people who were never deeply affected by trauma in their childhood are the ones who say it can't follow someone into adulthood. Working on a wound that has been sick for a very very long time is not very easy.

Love the topic today, thanks ladies and love the hair Rosette😊

Ooh talk about it,some family member they know that you're their wife yet your a wife to one person ❤❤❤

Madam laughing machine isn't on the show today,thanks my ladies for the show u look mwaaa🥰🥰🥰🥰i love u lots

Dear bump love...thank you for this episode....it has gotten me reflecting on those toxic relatives.... On a brighter note... @Rosette...you are gloooowwwing today!!!....the wig❤❤❤...the green❤❤❤❤ woow

This episode speaks to me completely! Thank you so! Next emphasis on toxic/narcissistic partners 😊

So sorry for your loss Rosette May the peace of God cover you during this difficult time.

If you're a Kenyan and fridays are dope cause of bump love leave a like here

I have a toxic mum and the sad news is that they never change! You keep trying to please them with hopes to make them love you appropriately but no. They just take and take. Whats helped me is acceptance of who she is and that I cant change an adult. Thankfully my Dad is really God sent, and all of us kids can always rely on his unconditional love. I now have a somewhat codial relationship with my mum and its bc I set boundaries and I absolutely have no expectations when it comes to her.

Wooowww thanks guys for this episode. For a long time i have been wondering why i don't have so many friends but now i know it's because i have a healthy family and they have my back regardless that i don't find the need to have friends around me. Been a good discussion and eye opener 👌

Pumla, i went through the same thing you went through, my whole life i was in Uganda, coming back to my home country in 2020 and its been hard to fit in. But today i have let it be. I will love the ones that love me. Bad energy is never my thing so i will avoid it.

Issa bumplove Friday 🤸🤸🤸 am early today been checking checking 😂since morning

Cutting off toxicity is the best.The Bible commends us to guard our hearts at all cost for from it runs all matters of life.

Rosette May your mum’s soul RIP 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽& May God continue to comfort & strengthen you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Rosette I love your look today. Beautiful 💯

Before I watch the full episode, i felt so touched with the author of that DM. It's like talking from my life. I lost my dad who committed suicide when I was just 2 months, I don't how he was looking like. That aside, my mother raised me single handedly, but when I was at campus. I lost my patience with her because her toxicity. I don't know whether we will ever get along. Even now, she is ever negative. Thanks for sharing this.

Rosette this hair coloooooooooooooooooooor ❤❤❤

Thank you ladies for the show. Watching you from Rwanda. Hope next time will be live in Rwanda. ❤❤

Shalom bump love the DM lady just discribed most families that including mine now as for me add on 2sisters on top and we are in business. Fortunately I live abroad so it's Bern helpful naye she still manages to get to me I think it's because I love her. Now my fear is becoming her cause am a single mother to such an amazing child. In future if Gid allows you shoulf open up a radio show or whatsap group for special bump lovers cause some ofy comments should he heard not read. Shalom to you all from Stuttgart Germany.

I'm looking forward to watching this episode ❤❤❤❤❤ Rachel looks so beautiful and doe like today (Let me also take opportunity to not be happy about Airtels internet😢😢😢)

Ooh Rosette... i remember watching the episode closing 2022 and your mama was going through a difficult time which you never disclosed. Im sorry for your loss my dear. May She rest well

I can rili relate to this buh it's a pity for her that this is her real mum mine ware my aunty's and relatives, mmhh not appreciative, disguising,ful of hatred over you, you're never smart to them, they spit bad words to you, never wish you good luck not bcoz they don't know what to do coz I wud see them smile, appreciate,hug , give their own LOVE, but thank God am out of that situation and whatever thing they said to me just got their own and am now okay with my family, kids and hubby,wedded, my car, my house, my bzz, all I can say God above all" talemwa"...it's true you lose self esteem, you don't learn to love and give, appreciate others coz it's way you've bin seeing done to you mmmh ..thanks anonymous for sharing and thanks bump love 💕💕

I can relate to living with a toxic parent. It.can really affect your self esteem and confidence. Thank you anon for bringing this topic up. I have learned a number of points here. Remove yourself from the situation or distance yourself from such a relationship and get counselling is what i have learned from this episode. I became so quite and it has affected my communication skills. Now am independent and i have set the boundary: i wont allow any of the toxicity affect me.. Eeeh i can relate to anons story and what is being discusses on the episode they are never wrong, never remorseful when they do wrong. They can never apologise. They are always right Silent treatment Passive aggresiveness.

Rosy looks so beautiful! Hair & make up 👍

It's my first time to see a show without Manuela 🥰

This was very insightful. Having toxic family members is among the greatest killer of kids' self-esteem. I am a victim myself & still on the journey to healing. It's tough.

This is so deep,May this sink deep in my mind to figure out what to do

Thanks ladies for sharing.I wish we could expand it to toxic work environments.

Angie’s vulnerability is everything ❤

Before i comment, Pumla first come and tell us about that ring😂😂😂😂😂. Anyway great episode ladies, toxic spaces are to be avoided and i understand it's easier if it is a work place, a friendship, a neighborhood but family is a different dynamic. Let's all be better indeed

Thank you ladies for this episode.. I now understand why I distanced myself after the death of my dad cz toxic from relatives was too much like i couldn't take it. All i wanted was space to heal and to know myself better. How can I servive with out my dad ❤rip dad. And am really doing better. I love you ladies

Ladies you balance each other out so well❤. Enlighted in a 360° perspective in my life. Thank you.

Rosette...the wig is fabulous!!

I very missed Manuela on the show. Thanks ladies.♡

I totally relate with Angie. Thanks ladies for this topic. You mentioned so many things that go unsaid in our households and extended families.

Rosettes hair and makeup ..beautiful

For the part of not knowing your local language, I have also had some occasions with my cousins because I don't speak my Dad's language. Someone knows very well that you don't understand but has a whole conversation with you in the language and still says, "you mean you don't understand the language, big as you are" yet you never grew up from there hence the missing out on learning the language.

Oh my God Rosette you look sooooo amazing 😍😍😍

Thank you bump love family for movitating us i was affected with accent which lowed my self esteem and confidencewhile i was younng i personal have overcome toxic in family, friends through distanceing and cutting communication for a while to deal with the cause of the toxic.

My sincere condolences to u Rosette 4 loosing yo dearest mom. My her soul Rest in peace.

Really pretty hair Rosette ❤

I have never regretted following you . Be blessed

Rosette, we keep the makeup and hair❤

I cut off off 90% of extended family. People who were never there for us as kids. My mum was paralyzed and hospitalized for two years when i was a kid and i never saw those people. Their sense of entitlement when we grew up anx started working drove me nuts. I can count the extended family i have a relationship with on my fingertips and i am happy.

i love this show...you never know what's coming

Rosette, i looooovvvvve ur hair,u look stunning.

I resonate with Rachel, I am too critical. That is why I set boundaries even where I don't need to

Am always looking forward to fridays🎉 I love all of you but Racheal Rachael Rachael........ you are so beautiful and intelligent. Actually I got a privilege to meet you in person . You are soooooo beautiful and calm😢❤

Pumla said it so well.. emotional regulation is key.. if you cant regulate your own emotions, how will you teach your kids? unfortunately ignorance is not always bliss.. sometimes its how generational trauma is carried on..hopefully more parents can find more information and do better by our kids..

Hi ladies, I always watch hours later. Ladies you all look gorgeous, beautiful make-up, lovely out fits, nice hair,beautiful people with big hearts, unique personality traits ❤❤❤

I’ve really enjoyed and triggered by this episode. We need more of this. Bump Love can we please have a part two of this.

am so sorry dear Rosette for the loss of mum.may God strength you 🙏

I have followed you girls for many years, you're superb teachers. I have a challenge with my family. My two aunties each delivered 12 children and these aunties are now dead. Each of my cousins has his/her dad of which none of them knows their exact real dad. Most of them are now married and their children are asking them their origin as in their grand parents on the side that is missing. They have tried to cover it up, but the scar is increasing. I need advice from Bump love. Mukasa