When i reached my 30s, i felt so worthless because i didn't finish college, i was making minimum wage money, and I was single, had no house, and was in debt. The hardest step i had to do was infact was to fall apart. I was homeless for 3 months, i was with a woman i didn't like at the time, and i lost all my savings soon after. I constantly questioned my choices and tried to work faster, harder. Realizing there is no easy way out of this mess, that if i wanted to build my self, i had to change my character. I was promoted in my job, left that woman, moved into a tiny house, and been working on paying down my debt. I would say that the biggest lesson i learned from my journey was to have faith. Faith in my dream and my future self. Without it, you will fail consistently, and it will drive you mad. Take time to listen to your self and check in with your self. After the whole mess, this back in 2022, I realize i love taking pictures and so i bought my first camera back in christmas. My hope is to become a pro in time.
@purplesky4157 I will be frank, that doesn't help someone like me. I'm a person who believes in the journey of the individual and how he is able to overcome the challenges that life gives. Faith in one self is something people don't know how to do, and it bites them in the rear every time. This is one the reason why people turn to God in the first place, to believe in something bigger than them, not imagining who you are trying to be, is just as grand and amazing. Don't sell yourself short.
Congrats on being able to get out there. But why would you commit to a woman you don't like in the first place? I mean, I am all for your success but the "woman" part wasn't so good to hear.
didn’t do much after my degree, just travelled, socialised, worked here and there. At 29 I became a digital electronics engineer, At 40, I started again as software developer. I’m 45 and still enjoying technical stuffs, also working on a side project of an app. I had the most disorderly career! No regrets, that’s how my brain works, I couldn’t get stuck in a job for a decade !
Keep your head up and let's be grateful that we are alive another day. Follow your gut (dreams) and give it 200% in whatever your apply yourself. Prayers that 2024 will be an incredible year for everyone. -Dave
@@tgr138 Save a percentage of you what earn 10-30% if possible - put it away in a bank you don't access easily, learn everything from what you experience: e.g culture, language, people, corporate, business, tech , Treasure your experience because life goes fast, get a lot of sun and keep active!
Next year I will be 30 years old. I trust the process and myself. The only thing I'm afraid of is dating again. It's hard to find a good one after you've had your heart broken.
Well man hate to break it to you but even finding someone new is harder than ever for guys in the West. You'll be lucky to even make it to the hard break stage. But I feel you.
Great message! I’ll be 42 this year and there’s so much I want to accomplish in life. I’ve been focused on building a stronger body, reading to expand my mind, and learning new skills.
At the age of 29, everything I had was lost (career, relationships, business), and at the exact age of 30 (2024), I started everything again from zero. Initially, I felt the same anxiety, but I always instilled the mindset that I am an adventurer who cannot stop in one place, not an NPC. Thank you for your advice.
honestly, enjoy the process and have some pride, that's a good story. yea some guy worked hard early good for him, I'm serious. that guy could have found his life partner at 19, etc. But everyone likes a good comeback story. Its part of your character, playing the cards you've been dealt. yea you made bad choices but who doesn't as long as you dont up end up in prison, paralyzed, some like crippling illness. YOU ARE BLESSED!
Sorry to hear that. It's what I went through as well, and still trying to figure out how to get back on track. But small steps forward make a big difference!
"You creatives, should not live like this" ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Turning 30 this year. This coaching is truly what i need, truly glad this popped out in my feed. I will replay this from time to time because this has so much wisdom and push that I needed to finally make changes in my life.
This is so relevant. I turned 30 last year and I made it a comittment that it was going to be a year of change and turning point in my life: I traveled to three countries on my own and joined the army. The military made me appreciate my travels and freedom ive had in the past. Now im back from the training at 15% body fat, alot of money saved up, and a stronger state of mind. I have a stable job that I appreciate and looking foward to advance in the career ladder. I dont have a house, wife, or kid tho so people may see im behind as a thirty something but none of that really matters because I know they can hold you back too despite being accomplishments. Life is a matter of perspective. No one is going to care but you.
@@SonicUmami I did man, but I don't recommend lol. Like it's not really a physical limitation thing, (you don't need to be that fit to get through military training). It's kind of like what Wanhee said, you'll be among a lot of younger men (18 and 20 something year olds) and it's more of a mental challenge than anything. It's like going back to high school where the drill sgts treat you like a kid or even like a prisoner. And as someone who is 30, you already went through a lot of stuff and enjoyed your freedom, seen the world, and being subjected to immature people and a lot of BS the military puts you through makes it not worth it in my opinion. But hey, there are also a lot of other people I met who did it at 30 or a few years older when I went. They all got reasons to join. Definitely talk to a recruiter and do your research. Don't rush it. Because once you sign, the military owns you (and they will keep you from going home too).
Such a powerful video and thank you so much. I’m 27 and 30 feels right round the corner. I haven’t done much in my 20’s but I’m actually excited because like you said 30’s is the new 20’s.
I was forced by my parents to go to nursing school after high school. I was a dancer and a creative but they knew an arts degree wouldn’t pay the bills. Now 32, been a nurse for 11 years and I am a shell of a person I once was. Working in healthcare ruined my mental health and now I’ve decided I no longer want to suffer. Quitting my high paying, “stable job” is causing me a lot of anxiety because nursing is all I’ve known. But my gut tells me I need to leave. Still trying to figure out what I want to do. Im so scared to start over. But excited to leave healthcare for good.
In their early 30s my parents left everything they had and all their friends in Philippines just so I could live in Canada. I saw first hand that restarting your life is not only doable but my parents THRIVED and are thriving. If something matters enough to you, you can deal with a lot of garbage before you start to really feel god about yourself. I’m 30 now. Here’s to thriving. Let’s go ghost and grind y’all.
I changed my life up around age 32 really getting into fitness and also starting social media, now aged 36 I feel my best ever, it's definitely possible 😊🌞
I came across this video just today. I'm currently 32 years old. I've been working as a Software Engineer for the last 7 years (spend 5 years in college). I'm currently finding myself feeling very lost. I feel as though my passion to create and solve engineering problems has almost completely gone away. I'm having trouble putting my attention and focus on anything right now. I've truly never faced anxiety like this ever in my life and I'm trying to find the answer to "What do I want from my life?" Or "What do I want to do with my life?" It's been a few weeks now and I still haven't found the answer. I've taken some sick leave from work to give myself time and space to think about where I want to take my life.
Same here brother, I am turning 25 this month, but haven't figured out what to do in life. I have completed masters in physics, as a passion to solve problems but quit to go further in academia. From then I am completely lost. I can't find a direction to go. I am just finding like minded people to work together on something interesting and unique.
At age 27, I started from zero again because I realized the life I was living was not how I wanted to live for the rest of my life. So I quit my job, re-enrolled in my last prerequisites and picked up an old job I worked from 10 years back. I know in 3 years, I will look back and be so thankful for sacrificing it all for a healthier, wealthier, and happier lifestyle. New subscriber btw! Love the authenticity and just started on my fitness journey too. I’ve lose 25lbs and want to lose a tad bit more and start toning. Following your other channel now too, thanks!
Amazing video I’m 29 and studying in University ; will graduate at 32. I’ve been doing self-searching and self-work for more than a decade now. I’m finally in a program that feels right - I’ll admit that I often feel anxious about what my professional life will look like, but I realize who futile it is to do so. Totally agree with everything you said. All my different experiences have brought me skills and enhanced my academics, relationships, goals and aspirations. I’m gonna commit to tackle my other passions and goals. Cheers, you’ve gained a new sub
This subject really resonates with me at the moment. I've felt so conflicted about what to do recently. At 30 I had an epiphany about what I wanted to do, it's in a creative field. It felt crazy but I followed my gut and went back to college and retrained in it. I tried to do it as a business several times but kept failing or experiencing massive external life changes and bereavements that resulted in me repeatedly stopping working because I was in a very bad place mentally. I finally opened my creative business last year but I've been v anxious about money and worrying I'm being irresponsible as I'm now 40. I was wondering about training in IT part time alongside my business to give me a plan B especially since I'm not married. Everywhere I look I get conflicting advice, some people say 'follow your dreams/gut' while others say 'do whatever pays the best' and I think both types of people have a point. I'm doing journaling, meditation and goal planning to help me figure out what to do.
I’m 35 and I still feel like I don’t really have things figured out. I work a menial corporate job that doesn’t really excite me. I tried following my passions to find a career path that would excite me but ultimately it lead no where.
Thank you, I turn 30 this year and I’ve been sitting on a business/career idea for the last month and I’ve been anxious about making such a drastic change in my life, but every feeling you’ve described in this video I’ve felt in the exact same timeline. Thank you for the boost
this is such a great set of amazingly sound advice. simple, powerful yet so so really difficult to accept. I'm 27 and i constantly feel like i'm behind or like i'm running out of time. I can only hope you're right
It's sad how society makes you feel like such a loser the moment you turn 30 and not have all these things figured out. That’s why a lot of people in their 30s are stuck in the rat race. Sending some love to everyone in their 30s and still figuring thing out as they go. Keep fighting off the anxiety. Trust the process, things will surely fall into, place in time.❤
This video literally came at the right moment. I'm 30 this year and literally jumping from one place to the other, because i know what i have to do it's just too much voices in my head saying to play it safe & work with others first. May i have the courage to take that first leap of faith.
I stopped smoking bud cold turkey. Gotta have a strong mind not a dependant mind, keep yourself busy with work and a hobby. That helped me out through my sobriety.
Man, I really thank you for this content. I have been having a battle with myself for the past year, I have tried a couple of times to find my place in the world but ended up coming back to the old place where I bit myself over and over for not being strong enough on finding that place like everyone else seems to do, but hearing you out makes me know that I am on my way.
You’ve managed to eloquently explain and put into words what I felt in my gut that I need to do but couldn’t quite express. You’ve just got a new subscriber, thank you!
I started a gardening channel in Feb 2023 and I was able to achieve my 500 subscriber goal. Life is too short to settle for less. It's unfortunate to hear when companies are stubborn to hire true talent and instead focus on a checklist of qualifications (degree, minimum/maximum years of experience, etc). Thank you for being bold and sharing your experience with the world. Love from California brother and I pray that 2024 will be an EPIC year for you. -Dave
I'm 24 at this time. I truly find it so good to know this more early in my life cause I deal with the fears of life when I have worries. I love this video cause I do feel lost, I lost my job and have working on doing better and improving my life. This is reassuring for me as a 24-year-old guy that just wants to understand how I can can go about my days. Thank you for this video!
2 minutes in and I’m blown away by how accurately you captured a lot of what I’ve been feeling but haven’t been able to articulate. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾
Oh my goodness! This was soooo unexpectedly refreshing 😢😢😢😢. Thank you so much! I’m in a very confused stage in my life and I want to change it. This has encouraged me so much. Thank you 🙏🏾. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
I’m tuning 34 in May and been thinking about leaving my job multiple times since 2023. I love what I do, but management sucks so it’s miserable working there 99.9% of the time. However, I remember struggling in my 20s to be where I’m at today so now I’m at the Hannah Montana point in my life the “life’s what you make it, so let’s make it rock” and I’m going to rock 2024! I have some plans to do things this year, they’re not concrete so I’m anxious about those, but they’re plans that I’m stoked about. The info about 30s being the new 20s is true because I did NOT have NOTHING together in my 20s. And with how the economy changed and the life expectancy I’m planning for marriage and etc. near or around 40. I’m not rushing anything anymore. Life is just going to life so I might as well sit back and enjoy the ride 😎
Ive just turned 33 and i havent a thing figured out at all, barely a dollar to my name, no where near where i thought id be by now and its killing me. The shame of not having achieved the typical accolades by this stage in my life is daunting. I struggle to face everyday head on. Kudos to u for embracing your own legend and pursuing it. I wish u all the best.
I also did a PPE degree and it changed my life! I used to be brave about going for my "stupid" ideas and rejecting the linear flow you spoke about, and this video's reminded me to get back to that. Ignore the "dreaded they"💡 thanks!
31 here and really nice video, to tall people in this age range 30's, don't be too hard on yourself. The first thing you just wanna make sure is that be financially stable coz savings can SAVE you. Don't mind societal and family pressure, our clock are ticking, enjoy life the way you want it to be and stop overthinking. Let your joy overflow and everything will follow :)
Great advice spot on! sometimes we get held back by the voices in our head! being 30 I felt ashamed & it’s too late 2 go back to school but you’re right who said learning stopped at 30 or 40. Thanks fam!!
I’m already 30 and more and it’s almost the darkest time that I am right now and your video just pops up in the middle of the night just like a friend who accompany me get through all this
Beautiful share - message, delivery, oneness. You have voiced the things I have been thinking about and my position so clear, and so well. I feel seen and heard, and I appreciate the free flow, realness of it all. Loved how you said 30s is the new 20s as well! Keep it up.
Im turning 29 this year, I got broken up with in my relationship of almost 6 years out of the blue. I lost the house we applied for and I honestly dont know what to do from here. Im anxious and depressed and I feel like my life is in mess. It sucks so much but I still keep going even though I have no clue whats ahead.
Yeah though I've countinued to be anxious which led me to countinue to doubt myself and prolong my problems but I guess that's just myself trying to take action regardless ive always felt my time was extremely limited but this video is very good
I find this really refreshing and terrifying at the same time. I'm 26 and actually living that anxiety of acting by inertia and not knowing where to go. I'm scared I'm gonna hit 30 feeling and living this way, like it is too late to reinvent myself and do something that could make feel full. I recenlty decided to wait patiently and have good experiences until I find that something in my life. In the midtime, I'm gonna continue with my "decent" regular job and life, and use that sensation of emptyness as a reason to keep searching for something greater, and maybe sooner than later I will be able to get my S**t together.
I thought this video would be one of those that would just comfort my ego, but this one is so real that I got teary-eyed while listening. I felt like there was someone who spoke exactly about the same situation I am in right now and validated all the uncertainties that I myself cannot overcome. Thank you so much! ❤
You've just been describing my life for 20 minutes XD I love this vid and this unfiltered channel in general, keep up the work. Personally I've always wanted to do YT and coaching about languages and life in general but I wasn't confident enough so I started off with asmr which I actually enjoy more than I thought but still I think in the future I should try a different type of content. Besides now that Im back at my mom's house I find it difficult to find the space and time to film the way that I would like to. Cant wait to have my own place tbh. I can relate to the anxiety and pressure thing. I'm 31, im finishing my master in philosophy in april and I also studied acting, piano, singing and languages. Since I've been going to the gym on and off (depending on how I was doing healthwise) in the last 10 years I would now like to take a course to become PT and work in the gym. Working out changed my life and my health for the better and I really feel the need to help them others in some way. The gym was the first environment where I started to feel stronger even mentally, it was like my escape, this lil home that felt safe and happy. I hope dots will start connecting soon in my life as well.
@@CheekyNuggetPodcast ahaha maybe I'm your italian female counterpart. Btw at what university were you doing your PhD in Milan? I did the bachelor in Switzerland and the master at the Unimi.
Very timely video, preciate' it. Trying to reinvent myself after losing my job last year. Ironically, after a lot of self reflection, i feel like I'm on my way
There's something beautiful about seeing this, and slowly watching the night fall. There's something philosophical about that. If it was planned-Kudos.
I needed this video. I’m stuck thinking about my passion with music and my financial future and I’m leaning towards the latter. It sort of feels like I’m killing my dreams but I always remember I can work on it in the gaps and come back to it later. Hopefully my break before my new job in construction can give me some clarity. Thanks for the video
Bro this is nuts coz minutes ago I found everyone in my LinkedIn crushing it getting promotions and shit and just my competitiveness made me pity myself. Thanks for this video. I know I can things around beginning with my fitness goals. Hopefully discipline from this small area will trickle down into my financial and business goals.
I am 19 years old, this year I am turning 20, although the advice is given for people in their 30s or older, it has honestly resonated with me, I will not say that I have a bad life, not at all, but at the level of purpose or fixed direction for the long term. I can't find the common thread and as a result it makes me anxious. I will trust in the process and that my good habits, choices and the set of good actions will connect and give rise to future success. Of course I will also make an effort to look for it and put myself in situations where I can obtain it, thank you very much
Did this. Started over at 30. Discarded and cut off toxic people out of my life. Moved to a different place. Never had much money, but I used up what little I had. Yes, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Yes, I felt like a failure. Yes, my way of life had to change. Yes, I cried myself to sleep for many nights. Yes, it was the best thing I ever did for myself.
fellow creator (but in my 20s) here, navigating this big hairy thing called life. part of this journey is documenting my reflections, just like you. videos like these inspire me! keep it up. FYI - if you're reading this as a teen/young adult who's feeling reflective and maybe a bit lost - i think you stumbled across this comment for a reason. i also share lessons and recipes on my page - would love to see you around.
30 was a year of crisis for me, for sure. I left a 6 year relationship and ended up in another one right away, which ended in divorce a couple of years later. Now I’m 40 and couldn’t be happier. Everything I wanted came in it’s own time, when I settled down and let go.
28, Black (Caribbean/Chinese Descent) American. Bachelors Degree. Masters Degree. Completely disheartened in life. Almost gave up. Felt like God told me to "break the flow" right before Christmas 2023 & I left my home. Currently in Georgia living with a friend's family - with no job. Had a perfect job opportunity at a tech job line up (degree, experience, certifications all matched) & I was ghosted. Was just told today that I was qualified for Officer School in the US Navy. The military was never in my goals, but where I am now, it almost feels like I have no other options. But, I look at it as a step into something.. anything. Do I agree with the US government, maybe not totally, but I need a break, a change, a difference. I think this video and your experience just might have convinced me to make the leap. I'll try to trust that the dots will connect.
Just watched your video and your words resonate with me big time. Thanks for sharing and looking forward to checking out all your other videos. Great vibes man
😊 new subscriber here , I like this kind of content .. filipina 32 years old here living alone in Thailand singer in a river cruise. 😂 still learning what's real life is.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,914 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I'm grateful for my big brother who urged me to go to college in a new city when I wanted to stay and be around my friends. That's when I discovered a superpower - the ability to easily adapt to new environments. It's not just moving to new cities or countries anymore. At 46 years old I pivoted from a corporate job to doing something creative. Don't ever fear change it's actually in our dna to explore and grow.
30 in April. The habits I have invested in this past year have me feeling so dn motivated for the start of my third decade on earth. Change your habits, change your energy, and you will change into the you, you want to be.
I've always been a smart guy growing up but now as an adult I realise and see that most people are really chasing the same things in life and pat each other on the back when they accomplish it for example the white Pickett fence, married, children, good career and that's good but most of the times it's what society programme's us to be. The real smart people are those who are true to themselves and don't blindly chase what everybody else wants of them.
man i know that feeling! got a masters in economics and had no idea what to do. now i’m almost 33 😅😅 and started to work for a cool company i finally feel okay with. now i have the goal to be able to travel and to provide my services to clients remotely. from my experience speaking its important to have a short term goal like 1-2 /3 years.
I turn 30 this year. Made a lot of mistakes throughout my twenties and I can say I learned a lot about my own values. I value stability, whether financial or in relationships. I just started my apprenticeship at an electrical union and have a bright future lined up with lots of growth and opportunities. Keep your head up, and make the decisions your future self would be proud of ✌️
Wow this is really unique how different my conditions are as a person, and I can still relate to you. It's just so weird. I just wish u the best. Hope we both figure out life or at least get used to the anxiety and then grow.
I love how you express yourself so eloquently, a mix between philosophical and practical, kinda like Dan Koe 😄 Could you talk more about how a creative person can monetize their skills and gifts? The algorithm definitely sent me to the right place lol
Turning 32 this year, 4 months ago I bought a lovely 1915 house that’s been renovated. I travel on an average of 4 trips a year, love my job as a family physician. Very fortunate & thankful for the values my parents gave me. Can’t wait to see what more I can do with life!
Hey man, I just wanted to say thank you for making this. I turn 30 next month, I served 5 years in the United States Marine Corps and after 2 tours overseas, I decided to get out and go to college. Studied computer science, worked at Amazon as a Machine Learning engineer. Worked for the Clemson Football team, worked on popular games, then lastly as a telephone engineer. I hated it and decided to go back to school for music production. In November, I had the pause you mentioned and realized I really enjoy the whole content creation game plus playing music and sharing my passion for music, men’s mental health, and philosophy. I’m still learning how to build it all out, but I am about to break 1k subs and 4k watch hours since I decided to make the first few videos in November. Everyone in my family, except my wife, thinks I’m crazy. I thoroughly enjoyed my cup of coffee this morning hearing your testimony. I wish you the best and would love to hear about your experience in the Korean military. I was focused mainly in Northern Africa, but I’ve had some buddies do bi lateral training with you guys and had nothing but upmost respect. Either way, I’m subbed and looking forward to more videos!
Loved the video and how you explained things. I got quite the laugh when you mentioned, if you have that person who encourages you to try things and do something different, if they tell you not to try a certain thing, you may want to give it a rethink lmao. Definitely. If your person who typically encourages you says…hmmm maybe not…think on it a bit more 😂😂😂
What I've learned is no matter what level you reach, there will be some kind of failure or shortcoming, and ultimately you'll experience multiple starting over moments (some bigger than others). Its important to keep in mind to never give up or never settle. The key is to continue getting up when you are knocked down, because that's where others will throw in the towel.
I just turned 30 yesterday and this video popped up in recommended, was worried that im not where im dupposed to be at this age this makes me feel better. I dig the advice thanks for making this!
