Where did unique beauty go? Use your beauty flaws to your advantage 

I love seeing old music videos when people had crooked teeth and acne scars and dodgy haircuts. People looked so real. 😂

I would love if people stopped calling distinguishing characteristics flaws.

I used to work with a South Korean lady who candidly discussed having a "surgery fund" for her daughter so her kid can have work done at 13 and pass off as a "natural" beauty who looks like her mom. The lady herself had a ton of work done (it was good tbh, nothing over the top but still different from her old face). When she looks at her kid, she sees her old face and she hates it. I cannot even imagine having a culture that passes down astringent standards and one's personal trauma on to their kids, but she claims its normal for them.

"There is no great beauty without some strangeness in the proportion" ~Edgar Allan Poe, From the short story "Ligea"

I'm a portrait artist, and I find this "same face" trend horrifying! I use the uniqueness of a face to capture someone. And I worry about the children born to these people when at some point they realize they have the nose or eyes etc. that their parent deemed unacceptable. How can you teach self acceptance when you didn't accept yourself?😪

Internally, individualism is becoming stronger and externally everyone wants to look the same. damn scary.

I think Korea might be the mother of god of this "same face" phenomenon. I'm a native Asian, I can tell different Asians apart, but 20 years ago, I was on a Korean Air flight. The appearance of the flight attendants absolutely stunned me: at a glance, they looked EXACTLY the same. It's only when I started to really pay attention to the subtleties on their faces, I started to notice some differences. It was absolutely WILD how uncannily similar they all looked. I didn't know Korea is the capital of plastic surgery, but after I learned about it, it no longer surprised me.

I’ve personally been embracing my big forehead lately. It makes me feel like a 15th century duchess with a fat dowry. These features we mock have so much elegance once you really look at them

The only reason why Bella Hadid has a modeling career is because she's undergone so much work that she looks nothing like her real self.

I’m a 19 year old girl. When I started growing up and losing my baby face my features started showing theirselfs. I got my father’s big croocked nose, my grandma’s small chin, my mom’s not very curvy body. At first I didn’t even realise how big my nose was, cause you know, that wasn’t what a 7 year old had in mind all the time. Then people started teasing and bullying me because of the things I wasn’t responsible of. Strangers, relatives, even my own parents were making fun of my features. And I want to highlight, they were all adults. Not children. Because children don’t care about those things. But somehow, It was bothering every adult around me. When I would cry about it - which happened very often- everyone including my parents would say, don’t worry! The medical field is very developed now. Just wait untill you are 18, you can get plastic surgery then. It’s nothing to worry about, it’s fixable. You just have to resist till that time. When I was 10 my parents forced me to get braces. I never wanted them. But appaerentally, my chin was something that should have been fixed immediatelly. Don’t get me wrong, it was completely healthy, just ugly. I refused the braces, I didn’t take good care of it because I hated it. I hated that even my teeth were something that had to be fixed. Everything about me was wrong and had to be fixed. I had them for 4 years, around 14-15 they took them out. The doctor said, because I was refusing to use the rubbers and other stuff you have to do to get your jaw pretty, there was nothing left he could do. So he took it out. My parents till this day whine about how they paid for me to be pretty but I refused, how ungrateful I am. Last year I turned 18. Everyone is constantly telling me to get plastic surgery. For my nose, chin, boobs. My self confidence is nonexistent. Since the day I gained consciousness of my appearance, I hated myself in every single second. I don’t remember a moment when I felt not even pretty, but normal. Children grew up, started adulting and my appearance started bothering them as well. Right now, all I want is to just exist. To just be, without people having any thoughts about my appearance. Good or bad, I don’t care, I don’t want any of them. I just want to cover every inch of me, so people would have no choice but to see only my inside. Me. Not the body I didn’t chose. Thank you for the video, really. It makes me feel at peace that people like you are still existing. 🌷🫶🏻

The beauty standards of today are just awful. We’ve lost what makes us interesting and individually beautiful

At the height of full glam, 2016-ish, I saw an online article about a makeup artist who specialized in wedding makeup, with what had to be at least twenty or thirty before and after pictures. He managed to make all of these brides look identical. He used the exact same techniques on all of them. No bringing out their unique features, no variations on lipstick colors, just heavily contoured Kim K cut and paste. It haunts me to this day.

It’s kinda hard to sell products when you embrace your natural features

I think we will reach an over saturation point that will eventually cause natural features to be desirable. Just wait. It saves money and unnecessary complications too

I'm so bored of the lack of variety in modern beauty ideals

I will never ever ever change my face. Embracing the beauty of who I am is an act of rebellion.

I thought it was because of my advanced age (a little over 70) that I can’t identify todays’s celebrities. I’m so glad to know they look the same to others as well!

Even Marilyn Monroe wouldn’t be accepted by modern standards. Audrey Hepburn would have been forced to have cheek implants, plumped lips, a boob and butt job. I think of all the iconic beautiful classic actresses that by modern aesthetics would have been altered it makes me cry for today’s women. I remember when I was young reading an article that asked ‘what kind of beauty are you?’ I didn’t fit any of the types, but a bit of myself in a few. I realized I had an unusual and unique look that was mine to celebrate and enhance. It gave me an incredible feeling of self worth. In the movie ‘Penelope’ it’s not until she tells her mother ‘I like the way I look’ the family curse is broken. I wish today’s women could say the same.

About ten years ago I dated a man who kept telling me I should cover up the 'blemishes' on my face. I was alway perplexed whenever he said this because I had never noticed any 'blemishes'. Years later when I was studying my face in the mirror I realized what he was referring to. Around my mouth area I had a whitish mole that if you didn't know me could look like a pimple, a medium size flat brown mole, a small red patch of spider veins that was there since childhood and on the other side of my mouth two small brown flat moles. After 40 years I had never looked in the mirror and seen 'blemishes'. I had just seen my face with my moles and other marks as completely normal and completely natural. I had never ever thought of them as something that should be removed or covered up. I'm so glad that I never did either of those things. Today he's single and lonely and I still have all my so-called 'blemishes' and I'm as happy as pie.

one of the things that has always helped me is knowing that it took thousands and thousands of my ancestors in order to create how i look, so many stories, so many battles, so many love stories happened in order to create me :)

One of the most beautiful women I ever knew had a big strawberry mark on her cheek and she never wore a lot of makeup. Just mascara, a little blush. Maybe lipstick. Zero foundation or contour. She had the bluest eyes!! Air dried wavy hair. The way she carried herself with class was just amazing. Sadly she passed away from breast cancer at only 52, just a year after diagnosed. But she was unforgettable in her kindness, sweet nature, interesting personality, and natural beauty. She was a school teacher, a paralegal, and sometimes a stay at home mom. She really represented all women! Ps. I was her young babysitter and as I got older, I was honored to be her friend. ❤

The french have a phrase "jolie laide" beautiful ugy - embracing the unique character of ones appearance and making it the feature.

This is all social media's fault. One of the many reasons why I deleted all my accounts. I was born in 1981 & remember being young before the internet existed. The girls of the 80's & 90's were the most beautiful. My favorite actress from that era is Fairuza Balk. Such a unique lady!

Makes me think of Barbara Streisand's nose, Lauren Hutton's gap, Cheryl Tieg's thinner lips. All beauties but so unique and fun to look at.

Many supermodels in the past had hooded eyes, it made me embrace mine

One influencer called it the 10x rule. We see our *perceived* flaws 10x more than anyone else would. In fact, if you mention a physical insecurity of your own to someone else, they will often go, I totally don’t see that flaw on you. I told my husband & he said that’s a great point; it’s not just women & girls who do that ❤

I wish all women would wake up and realize we're all more than our face and body. Our value is who we are as a person. If you put all of your everything into your outer appearance then what are you when it's gone?

Gets even scarier when you see the research on how children are impacted by these faces, particularly the blunted emotional development as a result of limited emotional expression (shoutout to botox and fillers).

The 90’s were such an iconic time of beauty. You are such a beauty.✨🌸✨

How does this video not pop up on every teen girl's feed? They need to watch this. I was born in 2005 and there is some toxic stuff people keep feeding girls my age. GAls, we've gotta save younger girls from falling into the nonsense of needing to fit a certain beauty standard. 🤞🤞

Audrey Hepburn is a good example of unique beauty. She didn’t have work done. She was just beautifully her ❤

A box of supermodel chocolate. Wow! I miss those days.

Seriously! I can’t tell who I’m looking at anymore. I actually cried when I saw what Renee Zellweger did to her face. She had the most unique, distinctive, gorgeous look. Now she looks anonymous.

The thing is I feel like people ignore that there is a secret recipe for beauty. Because despite certain models being unique, their distinctive features are just a handful. Like 1 different thing, while the rest is traditionally attractive. Usually it will be like yes this model has downturned eyes, but the facial structure is above average. Truly different people do not rise as high without any of the traditional features

As an Asian guy who hails from southern China, the rise of K-Pop stars and culture has given way to this “same face” phenomenon where slim, pale faces are desired. And yes, the eyelid surgery for eyes to become more Caucasian looking has started to take hold - it really really sucks, because when you’re adamant about not changing the way you look, but yet everyone around you is changing, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.

😂😂I thought I was the only one that noticed. I'm black and I noticed it in our community as well.

I feel so fortunate to have been a teen in the 90s. Unique quirks have always been what attracts me to a person and the "same face" look makes me feel uncomfortable and I can't place why. Like an instant feeling of mistrust, as though the person is wearing a mask. It's odd.

And with everyone dressed in gray and nude, to distinguish is an impossible mission

I recently was looking at red carpet photos from the early 2000s & it was so refreshing because while everyone looked great, they all looked different. Everyone had makeup on, but none of it was perfect. The clothes were all uniquely styled and everyone looked REAL. Today, everyone aims for absolute perfection and they all end up looking the same.

This is honestly such a tragedy. Millions and millions of women are feeling bad and finding flaws in themselves just because our economy and social media landscape revolves around these ideas and ideals. I am 39 and feel so darn lucky to have grown up in a time before social media, selfies and influencers. It makes it easier to create a healthier distance to it, and just plug off and be myself, and look myself. Whatever that means.

I feel really disconnected from my generation because of this, I've been for years and years so pissed off by this weird phobia that society has for uniqueness and difference. I just find it so strange, why would you want to live in a world where everyone is the same? When did humanity get to this place? I really wish people could learn to appreciate beauty again😞

They are just going to make us natural women stand out more, in a good way, and just wait until the trends change & their decisions, in many cases, are permanent.

As someone with quite a unique and "interesting" face, i really appreciated this video. Id never get surgery but that doesnt mean seeing the same Instagram face everywhere doesnt affect my self esteem

This reminds me of an episode of “The Twilight Zone” called “Number 12 Looks Just Like You.” In it, each sex has two looks to choose from, and surgeries for people after 16 or 18 were mandatory. The surgeon explains that by making everybody equally beautiful, they’re able to get rid of things like job discriminations and the like, but our protagonist argues, “But if everybody is beautiful, than nobody is.” I highly recommend the episode, so I won’t spoil the ending.

I always hated people saying: "oh no my nose is too fat" or "my double chin is ugly". Like it made me boiling mad because considering a facial feature ugly is not a thing you're born with (babies aren't embarrassed of being chubby or different) but society plants these lies upon us and we believe them. If you believe a random opinion online of a stranger you don't even know, might as well just believe in your own. It's young years wasted in many girls and yet they know it but have this strong desire to fit in and let themselves knowingly be tricked by useless trend that change every few years. Their beauty is in chains and I can't help but be furious. Sorry for the strong reaction.

Ok just want to say how stunning you are. You remind me of Marion Cotillard. Also I relate to seeing all of my flaws after being on camera. But I love myself for who I am. After having kids I realized just how perfect we all are. Like, we are walking miracles yall!

Do people not realize that big, fake lips are not attractive? If you're aging and your lips begin to thin out, LEAVE THEM.

I was a teenager in the 90s. Even the models back then had their own unique look. Cindy Crawford looks so much different than Linda Evangelista. We only had one Claudia Schiffer. Only one Kate Moss! I must admit that not many of us teenage girls were insecure as much as girls are now. It's sad.

“The rise of same face” is wild. 😂

In Hollywood most aging people look ridiculous and insecure. I love how Jamie Curtis and Jodie Foster look GREAT, natural, and secure in themselves, confident. Changing with age is normal. "Fixing" yourself, removing your own natural face, in my opinion looks bad. I so agree with this vlog, make a decision to accept yourself and your uniqueness, also as you age. We decide what attitude to have to things, our brains have neuroplasticity. Choose attitudes that serve you.

This starts from people pointing out a "flaw." Men are rarely criticized for their looks. It's mostly women. Ergo, this problem. I've never liked the Kardashians, but I don't hate them. They are a mirror of society. They are geared towards what people reward with attention, influence, and money. I'm lucky to be living in a country where it is rude to comment on appearance, so you rarely see anybody who has had any cosmetic procedure done.

The same face trend reminds me of the twilight zone episode "number 12 looks just like you"

Stephanie Lange is a most exellent channel for the young women on this topic.

It was liberating when I got to the age when I realised that what other people think of me is not my business. And I like my face. I have a crooked tooth which I think is cute and gives me character. I have a big Greek nose which is part of my heritage. Anybody with enough money can buy a cookie-cutter nose, but my ancestors going back centuries might have had mine. You have to remember as well that beauty standards change. I overplucked my eyebrows in the early 00's and they never grew back properly. Better to celebrate what you have!

It’s social media…

I’m so bored with celebrities and movies now and this is part of the reason. Why would I see a Nicole Kidman movie anymore when she’s become an alien who can’t act because she can’t make expressions? Remember curly, freckly, strawberry blonde, small eyes Nicole Kidman? I loved her and her spunk. I don’t know this current one, she looks like everyone else and can be replaced by anyone else.

That makes me remember that once I saw an influencer saying that the most beautiful women called "unique" and "one of a kind" are often diminished for "big nose"(Gisele Bundchen) or "no curves" (Gigi Hadid) or "male features" (Gwendoline Christie) or "looking like an alien" (Tilda Swinton). They're constantly said to be above-average women and, at the same time, too fascinating to take your eyes off them to the point that media tries to find more flaws to nitpick on.

i accept my unique features, i just wish it were easier to believe that they can be perceived as beautiful by others, especially nowadays :/

I'm totally with you about this Ppl are boring today Inside and out

Gone are the days of Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor or Sophia Loren. Today it is duck lips, Botox, breast implants and everything nip/ tuck one can afford. I agree with you, today women don't embrace uniqueness.

Kpop idols have entered the chat😭

"I couldn't tell who it was" haha, that is so accurate

I love that you said they were a box of supermodel chocolates, that is the perfect example of how they looked in that picture. And how humans are in general. Also you are absolutely gorgeous!

You are so right! They tried to get Barbra Streisand to “fix” her nose. Thank goodness she knew better. Unfortunately, Jennifer Grey did not. She lost her following because she looked like everyone else. I don’t see asymmetry in your face but I do hear it - just a tiny lisp. It’s wonderful and softens your presentation. For most of my life, I described myself as “not blonde.” I’m a brunette, but most everyone around me had light hair. It has taken me years to celebrate my dark hair.

I'm glad u talked about it. I thought it was only me who sees everyone look identical these days

I can’t believe how much we’ve regressed.

the most beautiful people are always different. it's an energy as well, a desire to fit in will never emit a radiance of beauty. it's self love that resonates as beauty

Funny, how you noticed the negligible asymmetries, there is really nothing that sticks out at all! Lips and teeth don't align perfectly in most people, I wouldn't even think of calling your mouth crooked! Your face looks very well put together actually!

It's a vicious cycle when evey couple of months or years trends change again, and everyone panicks because suddenly there's a new "flaw" they need to fix, and a new standard they need to fit in. It's a never ending battle that we can never win, and we just pour a lot of money and time into something that is unachievable

My teeth are not perfect but my smile is unique and adds character and I get compliments on having a beautiful smile and I am 52 yrs old! Beauty is from within!!

I keep feeling we'll eventually swing the pendulum back to center and celebrate all our variations of beauty. The pendulum is always swinging.

Same face syndrome is such a strange thing

Most of the women on American tv do look like they’re made from plastic. If you watch the news readers and some celebs in England they look so much more natural. Love Hannah Waddingham and Isabella Rossellini.

Wow 🤩 Finally someone is calling this BS out! Bravo! Clone Wars need to stop and people need to just be themselves.

As an artist, I LOVE giving my characters distinguishing features! Big round eyes, sharp fox eyes, oval cat eyes! Small noses, sharp noses, big noses soft noses! Soft curvy bodies, muscular bodies, etc! I have always been a firm believer in unique beauty and practice it myself with keeping my mole and prominent eyebrows! It breaks my heart when people literally CUT OFF/OUT their unique features and harm their body for the sake of looking like so and so.. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! So much for saying the things that I’m not able to say! ❤ It’s nice to know someone out there knows and cares about the value of human beauty!

The celebrities are never happy with their money and looks.

I was so insecure about my looks which got me into total depression and social anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms

I love looking at old potraits and paintings. While there were just drawings they still tried to catch the unique feature in the faces. People like Marie Antoinette or Empress Josephine were considered beautiful, despite their „flaws“, because they dressed well and behaved gracefully. These graceful women would be considered ugly today.

I used to hate my nose until the day I realized my nose is the same as my grandfather. And my brother and some of my cousins. Its unique to our family and its a great daily reminder of this genetic legacy we are all a part of. Somedays yes it annoys me, but i would never get rid of it

If you ever look in the mirror and feel ugly, just remember: the bigger your heart, the brighter your smile, the more beautiful the world.

Honestly I hope we shut celebrity culture down before giving up unique faces bc I know which of the two I prefer…

I loved your video so much. You look so pretty and unique with your lovely short hair and flattering makeup. Iam over 70 and I despair at the way many young (and some older) women want to look the same, with long blonde hair extensions, false lashes, loads of makeup and plumped up lips. When I was young my curly hair was unfashionable and I wanted a long straight style. I was slightly overweight and I cut down in order to be slim. Needless to say, Mother Nature wasn't having any of it. I now love my curly hair and accept that I will never be slim. I like to see women who have an individual look and know what suits them. I have never seen anyone else address this subject, so thank you ❤

I can't help but think, if women used even half the energy they put into making themselves conform to beauty standards, they would be so much more productive and powerful. We would not need to rely on "beauty" for power.

This was in my recommended and I planned to sort of half watch this while I got ready for bed. That didn't work out. Speaking of individuality, I must say you have an extremely captivating and comforting presence. I haven't seen someone so "real" on RU-vid in awhile. It's refreshing.

Hear hear Diana! I absolutely abhor same face! It doesn't help that I don't find the current same face attractive at all. It's blah, fake and vacuous. I too miss the variety that used to be prevalent in years gone by. I'm constantly attracted by faces that are a little quirky. A crooked grin, a lopsided eyebrow, a scar, a strong nose... Those faces have character and individuality. And they are beautiful!

Uniqueness makes life more interesting. We weren't put here to all be the same. Same face, same style, same hair, same makeup. What's inspiring about that?

I completely agree. It's so sad to see young women erasing their natural, unique beauty. 😞

I have said this for years- “where have all the real faces gone?” (In my * Paula Cole singing voice)

Sad but true. We as society lost the value of authenticity and uniquness. I guess it all originates from the same plastic surgeon office. And please, can we see some women aging gracefully and with dignity? You cant win time and gravity but you sure can lose yourself and the battle

Well same face problem is also spreading in Korea. All Kpop idols look so the same now that I cannot differentiate who is who although I am Asian.

I'm 53 - no botox, no fillers - no surgery- going to last being me as long as I can! Love this video xxxxx

You're so right! That's what I don't like about a lot of women who aim to look good - they try to look exactly a certain way in both face and body. It's so... dull, in my opinion. And sad. Also, I just have to say that I love your hairstyle. Your hair and earings frame your face exquisitely. It's such an example of how a person can be beautiful by using their unique features. I hope it encourages women to look for hairstyles / colours / clothes / jewelry etc that enhance the beauty they already have, instead of trying to look like the someone else.

Love the name of your channel. I would say that Zendaya still has a unique looking face. The pic you used was edited.

You've said exactly what I have been thinking for a long time. A lot of females today are not really very attractive, in my opinion, because of the surgical procedures, false eyelashes, contouring, etc. I wish this trend would stop.

What happened in the 90s in my opinion was that everybody was able to look like Angelina Jolie … who is totally natural and looks like her father … she is unique but we have to accept we are unique the way we are … Angelina was the ultimate beauty in the 90s and 2000s and everybody wanted to look like her

Not a classic film by any measure, but there is a fantastic bit of dialogue and acting towards the end of the 1994 movie The Firm when David Strathairn’s character, revealing his long-simmering feelings, says to Holly Hunter’s: “I love your crooked little mouth.” Hunter’s character, until then an irrepressible chatterbox, is speechless for the first time in the movie, until after a few seconds, when she replies, “Well, it’s not my best feature.” 😂🥰 That line has always stuck with me!!

I’m 32, small with no curves and it’s really hard to feel confident when all you can see is women with huge bottoms, huge breast and super thin waist. I feel like a child because of these pics and I have 0 self confidence. I know I should value what I have and I know I’m not ugly but it’s still hard to feel good.

yes. my gut reaction to same-face is always the same. I think "poor thing is so insecure in themselves". Quirkiness and a strong, original character is HOT! I'm drawn to confident, original women like a moth to a flame!! I have been obsessed with the fashion designer Agatha Blois since my teens. Inimitable!

The fact that I struggled to tell how many different women were in the thumbnail

You’re face is very beautiful!!