Who Are The ENFJs (The Cleric)? | ENFJ Cognitive Functions | CS Joseph 

👀 why we like this? 😂

Because we enjoy knowledge

Emojis are not helping solving your problem.

Yes true!!

When u go thru Brain Fog u get a resistance to this kind of comments cuz you're Experiencing something that can't be even defined as stupidity anymore

same

OMG right?

At some point you'll be worn out. Then you'll get to a point where you won't want to give at all, to anyone. 😂 I'm ENFJ, been there.

IKR!!!

Codependency ..Look up codependent personality disorder, or even my videos. I speak about it :D

Yeah, that the same for us INFJ's too

my best friend is an enfj and i literally cannot fault him

Nice prof pic!! You watched The Legend of Zhen Huan?

@@vonnievonv Thanks, yes I have watched it. It's a great show ^^ You can already guess my favorite character from there (,x

Nicohakuu1 is there a way we caould talk more about the drama??? I only seldom know people who’ve watched it!! 🥺🥺

@@vonnievonv Do you happen to use Discord? I would gladly discuss about Legend of Zhen Huan more!

I got your back.

SAME!!!! I swear I was just having this conversation about me feeling like a bad person.... AND STUPID!

Dude yea

As an INTP, I can safely say Ti does not equal intelligence. Just because Ti is your inferior, doesn't mean you aren't smart. There are many different kinds of intelligence and skill.

@@ButterflyZo agreed

Yes you do. One ENFJ did that for me. I was comfortable enough to open up to her. /INTJ

ENFJ here me too I would never give up ❤️

@@beaverdiva2823 Where could people meet enfjs?

that's why INFPs think you are amazing

Rick Astley would be proud.

This new to me, need help to understand myself, i thought I'm getting crazy with thought s of being not unstood, not understanding my self either of later

I resonate with each word typed in this comment! Thanks for representing us so aptly💕

I 100% relate to this. Gotta stop attracting girls that need "fixing" so to speak lol

I had to learn the bad way, so I started mimicking the INFJs and door slam them before giving them the chance to utilize me. Trust your gut when you feel that bad energy and don't try to fix it, just stay away. That was hard for me to understand in the beginning but it costed me many tears and emotional draining.

Also, being an ENFJ male sucks because in some situations people consider us 'too emotional', and I guess that it is not expected from men in society. There's so much that needs to change in the world...

Sounds harsh, but after looking after many friends with mental health problems and loving them so much and stressing about them so much, I know I can not be their go to person without it having a bad affect on my own health. So if I make a friend and they tell me they have poor mental health, I will show a lot of sympathy but then privately think about if I actually want to be them as a close friend, because once someone is my friend I am loyal and will do everything possible to keep that friendship alive.

Enfj, being enfj. Once you realize that the individual's ego is an illusion, that self is determined by a respectively gathered understanding of community consciousness, and admit that existence is, "an infinite now," Watts,. You turn away from the world. Tell that sad face to turn away from the world. Citing my reference to a watts lecture. I could had told you about that time, the nuns were very forgiving. I no longer imbibe.

After a discussion with my wife I realize I have used covert contracts. So ... as hard as it is to admit, I may have been mistaken. Maybe. :P

#same

Holy crap, that’s me…I’ve done it before work some friends 🤣🤣

Haha true

We just don't dissapear like INFJs. They dissapear and you will never hear from them anymore. Nobody knows why they do it. We ENFJs at least explain if we don't like something about the friednship or relationship.

Self worth comes from serving others so find an occupation that helps others and your self worth will never be depleated

@@TomeRodrigo true 😿👍🏼

@@sunnysol805 Read the book "When the body says no" from Gabor Mate. Self worth is not coming from serving others because you can literally die from it, but self-worth is coming from taking challenges of life and loving yourself healthily and meeting your needs. When "your cup is full" you can give to others. People who only serve others and ignoring their own needs mostly develop nasty diseases because their body will say "no". It is simple as that.

Lol when he got salty

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A male ENFJ told me yesterday that he has the memory of an elephant. It made me laugh inside. I’m an ISTP and we have natural camaraderie. He offered to teach me some jiu jitsu techniques and we had a little “fun” afterwards. I’ve known him for 6 years and last time I went down this road with him (2 years ago) he very quickly treated me badly. He apologized but I kept my distance until now. I like him as a person. I guess I’m just riding the wave until it hits the shore.

@@CuddleClaw. so people forget that as a ENFJ you are used so much and sometimes the closest people feel the brunt of the situation because we dont feel like our efforts are being welcomed.

I don't drink I can't makes me less productive the next day so I smoke weed.

@@livylondon1 he is in therapy for BPD. I got off the wave, I didn’t hang with him after that. I decided it’s not worth it and I decided I don’t really like him as a person that much. ISTPs get used a lot too especially when younger. A lot of people do. We all need to learn from our experiences and do what we can to improve ourselves. Learning how to set boundaries has been useful for me.

@@CuddleClaw. YOOOO BPB I have learned the hard way how toxic someone who is not getting help can be with that disorder. I understand I was speaking, i guess from personal place.

That’s how boss we are 😂 made the whole world light up 😂 #ENFJ

@@savagetimegaming 😂😂😂

Lol how did that happen! 😂

Much appreciated.

He kind of went on a little bit of a tirade

Lol let him vent

Sounds more like he's FOS💩!

i dont think we are afraid to be wrong.

Ikr! He sounds that whiny in all the other videos I’ve watched on who the types are!!

That’s fair

Try to think of empathy on a spectrum rather than black and white. ENFJ’s are generally further down the empathy spectrum than the other types.

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Better hope you're not an ENFJ then

Same

If this doesn’t feel like a sure fit, you are NOT and ENFJ Dang, it was spot on

That happened to me to an extent but I started to flip back when I moved away and started anew. Not saying my experience is representative or necessarily able to happen for everyone.

Reading that is interesting. Since I am an Infp who developed my ENFJ shadow because of circumstances. I really really miss my infp ego as well. I think they might even be the most innocent of all types as well, but especially INFP's 🤔.

Move far enough for your true self to be able to start shining through again

Yep

Infp female. Let's get married!!!! 😝

I'm an ENFj, and I didn't get to the part of the video about "covert contracts" yet. I can tell you I definitely don't do that. And if you suggested that to my ENTP husband, he'd laugh and say, "Covert? Have you met my wife?" Yeah, I do have expectations about how things should be. But I will tell you flat out. In detail. This may be a matter of maturity level, certainly younger ENFJs with less confidence in themselves may try more covert tactics. More likely, it has something to do with who the ENFJ is dealing with. We deal with different people in different ways, because people are...different.

I value communication, i like helping people, but after doing it for long, you ask yourself whether giving is only from your side....then you start to hate it

​@@elizabethkinyuaelizabeth534 Yess...about covert contracts it's like, I help my batchmates as and when I can (no matter how small or big a task is) but not getting a single birthday wish on my last birthday made me sad and I realized that yes I do expect people to do small deeds for me...which can literally just be asking 'how are you?' because that validates my giving nature in a sense but no rather a few will critize me (although correctly) which does make me feel like a doormat at times. But again as givers we don't usually ask for help and need aswell😂 (maybe coz we enfjs find ourselves sufficient to execute tasks) which can be the reason we don't find others helping us often

That's My Love Language Too! (Also an ENFJ)

I love gifts like anyone, but as an ENFJ if you really want my heart to flutter, just take care of stuff without my asking and say things like "hey, let me help". Once a man I had a crush on offered to help with a computer issue and I melted. ;-)

My husband is an ENFJ with acts of service as his love language!

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I see a psychiatrist but I have no psychiatric diagnoses....Oh yeah he is an INTJ....yes I typed him to his face because I saw his shadow functions come out on a bad day. Anyways, I have been abused emotionally in the most extreme non-stop way by a guardian.....I go mainly because I have chronic pain and fibromyalgia and I can say everyone should do psychotherapy even if they have moderate issues only. I have met so many intuitive feelers with fibromyalgia and mental health issues and most of the time the mental health issues are not organic rather social/environmental that can be fixed with the right knowledge MBTI can help with along with the right group of friends. Anyways, One side of my family hates my Fe completely and keep in mind I am an ENFJ as well so basically they hate me.....they are all Sensors with Fi as lead or second so they think I am being fake, over dramatic, etc.....the thing is whenever I meet someone and I am with that side of the family they are confused because they are impressed with me and they say that and then my dad or sister undermines me or downplays what I said in the most infuriating way. My psychiatrist does not discuss diagnoses but I have extensive knowledge of psychiatry/psychology/neurology and watched as he ruled out diagnoses and I remember he was stuck on what I intuitively felt was Avoidant Personality Disorder but for sure a personality disorder, anyways he was very obvious with questions that spoke to the primary symptoms of Cluster C PDs....he probably got stuck on this because a parent has obvious Cluster B type personality disorder behavior and traits...I played it cool and then at night emailed him and said "Avoidant Personality Disorder?! Come on that ain't it!". This was the start of many things I did that earned me the "you know you are a piece of work right?" look....

People on the verge of spiritual break through, what James 4 calls spiritual "double-mindedness," look awfully "bipolar." Forgive the English, I tried my best. Please try to hear what I am saying. Those struggling with double-mindedness are not crazy, it would be crazy for them to be numb to what they are processing. The emotions experssed is not the issue, the issue is WANTING to reject the self-harm rejection of God and rejection of his only good ways AND WANTING to stay with the ways of the world they are used to but go against their convictions and newfound revelation of the better there is. Example, those who cry out for justice but actually seek Godless and harmful revenge as they reject allowed justice to take root as the Godly solution. They look "bipolar" as their ideals are not God's ideals. Especially if they express their emotions and they do not seem to logically line up according to how others would expect. You cannot cry out in hate for love. Those who are immature and fighting God can't understand that. Others may see the terbulant cognative disonance and call them crazy, but they are not crazy, they are spiritually unstable and lack faith in following God's will. Their emotions seem all over the place due to their empathy and care, but the truth of God is steady and could anchor them if they surrendered in faith to that, to him. You can't drug a person into understanding God's solutions, you can just numb their reactions so others are no longer disturbed by what's spiritually going on in them. They have to have faith in what they know is right and not go by feelings of compromising solutions, others' opinions validationg them for doing wrong, or their tendency to try to control it all by their internal judging rather than wisdom that's greater than their own. They must surrender to God and accept his feelings and feel those and trust his plan. They struggle because they want to still control things on their own, but the only solution is surrender to an only good God that is greater than themselves and this comes with the realization that they can't help people, only God and his ways can help people. They fight the needed weeping, repenting, surrender and change that's needed and it looks very bipolar as they try to control even God and try to make their will his. Even this world tries to tell people extreme emotoins are wrong and to be drugged for it, but God says it's okay to even be anger, but in your anger DO NOT SIN. "What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you." That is from James 4. And this is the solution. But it requires a full surrender. "Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You[d] must be born again.’ The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” Nicodemus said to him in his seeking, “How can these things be?” Jesus answered him, “Are you the teacher of Israel and yet you do not understand these things? Truly, truly, I say to you, we speak of what we know, and bear witness to what we have seen, but you do not receive our testimony. If I have told you earthly things and you do not believe, how can you believe if I tell you heavenly things? 13 No one has ascended into heaven except he who descended from heaven, the Son of Man. And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, that whoever believes in him may have eternal life. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.” This is from the book of John in the Bible and it has healed many, many millions, if not billions of people. God is love, his solution, Jesus, is perfect and it is in our own attempts and trying to create the creator that we create what is evil and tumultuous in this world, we need to surrender to God who is only good and not try to be like the Devil himself and make our broken ways a god that we worship and obey even to the point of self-destruction all while thinking ourselves and the broken ideas of this world wise and purpose numbing solutions. Prayers that you hear and understand what I am trying to say, God loves you, and means well and not harm. We just reject him, and the worlds solutions don't actually help us or help make the world better. Don't let the Devil stop you from crying out when you see injustice or delighting in what is good. If he can't get you to sin, he needs you numb in apathy never working through the double-mindedness to get to God's perfect solutions via surrendering to God who is not of this world. Scripture says, the Devil is the "current" ruler of this world, but we are not powerless to him, read scripture for yourself to find out more and how to reject the enemy's attacks. There are people under serious attacks, I am not saying don't get help, I am saying run to the right kind of help. Flee what's actually harming you. Ask God to show you what's really going on and how to go to the good places that can ACTUALLY help.

@@KaymakveMimi i will never go to a doctor to diagnose me, i’m bipolar in the sense of i cant decide like 1 minute i’m like i like this and the next i’m like i dont, my emotions dont randomly change

Hah, I definitely hope my future wife is an INFP or INTP

THIS!!!

Maybe you can tell them what you need

Seems to me (as Ti hero) that you are suggesting that ENFJs are unable to differ between knowledge and personal experience, thus ENFJs being horrible Ti users, i.e. being stupid. That's not very nice of you considering that ENFJs hate being found stupid (and you implied it, therefore you found it, even though I called it out explicitly). :o)

@@xamidi Looks like emojis confused you.The OP was making a joke about Chase being bitter toward's his gf

@@superioropinion7116 I assumed that OP did, which is why I wrote my comment. Seems that language is confusing you?

@@xamidi Yea,it is confusing.

@@xamidi Yeah, your language is confusing

Very good comparison that I note in the two types as well.

Me. 😭

yes

any other reason? or that really it in a nutshell

I don't think that's 100% true. As an ENFJ personally I truly would never want to end up in a position like that. And generalizing the type to say that in a whole is just a bit bit upsetting. I actually went to school for the fine arts and make costumes and jewelry accessories for a living as a something while being a stay at home disabled mom. I also volunteer at my older daughter's school from time to time and help the kids out with tons of art projects and have gotten lots of awards for these things but it's secondary. I do it for the kids to help them to see them happy and excited to learn new things. That's why I do it and it's a really awesome feeling. But politics are just not my thing, yes helping people may be but government buisness is not. Even if that buisness is to benefit people. There are tons of other ways I could do those same things you mentioned in that response to your statement in your video without getting paid and still have nothing to do with politics, or a non paid government position. And also still feel like I'm doing the world a ton of good or at least my part. You don't have to be a big fish in the world to get your point across or to do your part, you just have to be yourself with a great idea even if your a small fish in a huge pond. Anything is possible.

I think it’s more we hate the bureaucracy in mainstream corporate worlds. You can get recognition in work for profit, but you gotta play more games, which we hate

I do it because I'm good at it

EDIT: Like the ENTJ, I do add many elements to my parties that are because I personally like those elements, and I get disappointed because I think others will like them as much as me, and then they don't. For example, I threw a Harry Potter party. When you walked in the door, you chose a cupcake, took a bite, in the middle of the cupcake was a colour of icing that sorted you into a Hogwarts house. That would place you in the team for the games in the evening. I made an old witchy looking shelf of glass vials, with cork lids, with colourful potions, that were just different alcoholic mixes, with these "made-to-look-ancient" tags that had potions titles written on them, like, "liquid courage" and "luck", and "super strength", so on so forth. Everyone just started drinking them without reading the tags D: Mega cry face.

oh wow that is so me

Awesome if true

Justin Falzon Me, tooooo! :) :) :)

Not as much as the INFP 😂

If by "unicorn" you mean rare, yes, I've only known one ENFJ my entire life. INFJs are everywhere. -INFP

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣☠☠☠☠☠☠ I'm so dead by this comment. (Yes, I also am a 🦄 unicorn, I mean ENFJ)

@@Trasea Most of those infjs are very likely infp

Me too

sz you are so right

This

yes

Have you looked at ESFJ?

@@CSJoseph , thanks for the reply. Yesterday I did the test again and I'm still ENFJ :) Can you please tell me where can I find the meaning of those Fe/Ni/Se/Ti? It's the first time I hear about them. Thank you!

yeah its too late for that.

Mistyped my father, who raised me as a single parent, as an ESFP… when he is actually an ESTP. This discovery came after having a mental breakdown in front of him after MONTHS of arguing back and forth about how he has been too harsh on me and never gives me recognition, except for once a year through a short text message. I’m the eldest daughter (ENFJ) of two younger sisters who’s mother passed away while i was 7; my dad irresponsibly placed all his obligation of raising my sisters onto me (ESTP’s are so lazy with their Ni inferior). While my dad has strengthened me through tough love, he has also manipulated me more than my narcissistic ex boyfriend of 7 years (ISFJ). He may be the only ESTP I know and.. will be the last. I love my dad but from a far, that’s all I can offer after self-actualizing and seeing all the ways he has abused my benevolence as an ENFJ. Horrible 😞 this is the second huge heated-argument I have gotten in with my father during my 23 years of life and it’s so similar to the first. So grateful for CSJ because he has helped me make sense of the world.. using ESFP tactics on an ESTP is just pure stupidity, dont do it 👀BUT after learning my dad was truly an ESTP, I suddenly resented him a little less. ENFJ’s, just be mindful of ESTP’s 🥺 they really can subtly get what they want from you without you ever realizing it until they have made a mess so huge (typical ESTP flaw) you have no choice but to clean it up, and by then its too late. Much luv. - ENFJ Also, I started delving into CSJ’s content in June of 2023 and I’m writing this post three months later.. helped me make sense the of the people around me as well as myself along this new journey I’m taking into my adulthood.. trying to become the best version of myself & am so grateful for chase helping me do so 😭

Awesome!

LOL

Kat Lauren I agree too. My first is quality time, affirmation and touch and act of service and the last is gift

I’m INFP as well

just dont get so bad that you end up like Carole Baskin :P

@@CSJoseph oh my god, ur humor xD

Lolool what

Ty ma’am

Keep learning

And you're sure you're not an INFJ, right?

i dont think you are an ENFJ

I most definitely am. I don't think you're dealing with an ENFJ. Maybe an extremely immature one. We are not loud, intrusive, and obnoxious. We are people persons and are most interested in making people happy...more so than ourselves. It's why people like and trust us so much.

@T bird I agree with you, my sister is enfj and she is not Loud and obnoxious at all! Chase’s videos about the types always seem so biased to me. I think that all the enfjs that he “knows” must be really immature versions of this type.