As a man living in Oceana and Asia now for most of ten years I want to say that his is a very sincere and fair video. I just want to add a little bit of emphasis on two things. 1) if you are new to Asia please don't rush into a marriage of any kind, if you are in love then give the woman a year as your GF and see how it goes , get to really know the worst as well as her best because any mistake you make will set you back time and money-wise. 2) If you are an American man with basic financial stability & you're not totally gross then you are a Grand Prize to a sea of women in Asia but they want you on their terms so remember, you're not someone to be defiled and ridiculed like American women treat you, you're a man in demand. Please spend a year getting your 'new brain wired' in that capacity before stepping off the deep because once you settle down with a woman you are without your consent expected to provide for more than just her. This is a brutal reality and you better get our 'new brain wired' properly before you step into the deep end of the pool. Remember, you are a desirable mate to a women in Asia don't let the scars of hateful American women ruin your new life but also don't be stupid. All relationships are exchanges, both parties have to get something from the relationship or there is no value in the relationship, value is not of course just money, see the truth for the truth and be smart.
Especially if U are young,U just waste your time as you can find always better...just as girls always compare and date with others if U are not around... Dating is not what is used to before COVID...now is just an exchange
One thing I disagree with mentioned in this video is I wouldn't worry about being bald or balding. Don't let that stop you. Most girls, especially the province girls, don't care. It's personality first. They are not Western girls that feminism ruined and now they simply prioritize looks. I've met a ton of happily married guys who no hair and pretty wives. If it worked for MJ it can work for you. Dress well and hit the gym. Gym memberships are dirt cheap there. No excuse for a beer belly unless that's how you absolutely want to live. Even then a lot of women won't care but you should also just live a healthy life. It's much more possible there. Portion sizes are smaller, gyms are cheap, walking is common, etc. You should not be gaining weight in the PH.
When I was single and living in the USA dating felt like a job interview. I thought their questions were prying like: What kind of car do you drive? Where do you work? Do you travel a lot? Qualifying questions to determine my income. I am sure you experienced it. I would ask how many kids they had and is the father the same for all of them? This was my qualifying question to NOT to date her again and how EASY she was. 😆 I met my Filipino wife during a 2004 visit to friends in Manila. We have been married for 18 years! Best decision I made was visiting friends in the Philippines 20 years ago.
I'm 42 financially secure and in the Philippines. I find myself just trying to enjoy my time and whatever comes I will figure it out from there. I am attracted to friendly, kind, funny and smart. Different places have different vibes but simple ladies catch my eye more
Basically I will use the woman that I meet online or any woman even in America I am a very patient man😊 I never rush into any relationship I was always like that even when I was a young man😂 when I was young they used to say I was conceited😅😅 because I wouldn't just lay down with any woman😅 I was very choosy even to this day in America it's where I live I live alone I've been living alone since my last divorce how long has that been over over over over over 12 years I think now😂😂😂😂 I was in my 50s then and I only focus on myself since I was 53 years old after the divorce so I concentrated on my finances and my self I'm waiting until I got financially back on my feet LOL because every man knows it's an expense leaving a woman in America after a divorce it sets you back LOL even in another country I was to go again in a relationship😂😂😂 so I would be very picky and choosy even though I am 66 years old now almost ready to retire😂😂 still in great shape as I was when I was a young man😂 the only thing different is I'm older😂😂 but I can still wear my pants that I wore when I was a young man the same size🎉🎉🎉🎉 my grandmother was a registered nurse told me to never get fat😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉 never gets settled down with a woman and think that she'll be there forever they are different today🎉🎉🎉 never forget that never forgot that saying she said never ever Be totally in love in love in love in love with a woman from the start😂😂😂 because that woman can change very quickly LOL and then she said you'll find out you were in bed with a snake or a lion😂😂😂 so with that being said grandson number one don't fall in love with any woman always keep one eye open all the time watching that woman so funny I still remember that conversation I was 20 years old😂😂😂 but I was married in America for 18 years before it fell through because I work too much so I decided to stay alone until I retire which it will be semi-retired in 2025 so I'm going to be looking to come that way to the Philippines and take my time just enjoy the scenery just like I did when I was younger no rush to pounce on getting into a relationship😂😂😂 ,,,, basically you,ll see me just walking around enjoying the scenery😂😂😂😂 of course I will be looking for a woman but I will not be on a prowl I will just be observing and looking for that Gem of a woman that I am looking for😂😂 I will not be in no rush at all😊😊😊 I will wait till the right one present itself is my grandmother said patience is a virtue😂😂😂
Rob, on this occasion I strongly disagree with you on two points: 1. WHY do you keep promoting NAIA Manila Airport?!? It's CRAP and consistently rated one of the Worst Airports in the World, yes again this year. The baggage handlers and security agents there are notorious for theft. You are so off base about the Cebu Airport - (unlike Manila) is compact, ALL A/C, immigration is a breeze AND almost all international Flights arrive in the middle of the night so the trip to your hotel in IT or Business Park is just 10 or 15 minutes. Just because you arrived in the middle of the day from a local flight and hadn't planned for a 45-60 minute drive (and really what do you care anyway you're just sitting in the taxi, your not driving). Gentlemen if you are flying international and going to stay in Cebu AVOID the Manila Airport. 2. I personally would bring at Least $1,000 US (I advise $2,000). If you island hop at all you can easily find lots of hotels, restaurants, bike rentals etc that take nothing but cash. Standing in line at an ATM SUCKS A$$... and that's if it doesn't run out of cash which they do all the time especially small islands like Siquijor or Siargao. But hey that's just my take.... you do you. Peace and Love, B Goat
@@HemiChrysler Well I hope you enjoy really spread out un-airconditioned Cluster F@cks that put you at risk of a baggage handler stealing your stuff. NOT the way I plan on managing my move to PH. To each his own, good luck with that.
@@Abelius He did in this very episode and has recommended Manila at least twice before.... and it's Rob's podcast and his opinion, so of course he's justified in expressing it. But as he finally saw why Cebu such a great starting point via IT Park (I would argue Business Park makes a Great compliment as you can meet up with Lots of Vloggers and Expats at The Social) I argue he is misguiding folks about Cebu Airport given that Manila Airport has some of the Worst Ratings in the Whole World.... and yet he promotes it... as is his right.
A few years ago I had a look around the Philippines. Lots of available geourgeous women to partner with. But after one has got over the pleasure of being served a few pina coladas on the beach, a man needs a purpose. An increasing number are inspired to become bloggers, but what can the rest do apart from propping up the bar. Haven't come across one blogger who addresses this issue. It not only about female companionship.
There are opportunities to open businesses but you need to put them in a trust or in your wife's name. Not completely risk free but I would rather start a business there than the US at this point. If I bought an established business in the US that is different but building from scratch at this point in the US is a fools errand in most cases. And most anything tied/branded to a foreigner or Western culture will be popular with native Filipinos. Maybe 80% of restaurants fail in the US but I bet that number is much lower in the PH and especially when you brand it as foreigner owned and operated near a tourist area. You can even work there you just need to be slick about it.
Pretty sure I'm in the top 10% in the west for my age (60s). That said, I can assure you that dating women between 45-65 is wacked out. And even at that age.. they are still looking for Chads. I seriously think that most western women in that age group have just lost their minds relative to dating. Their expectations are sky high, and don't at all correlate with their 45-65 year old SMV for men.
Hi Rob & Chrissy. My story started 4 months ago. I went thru Christian Fillipino, only for 3 weeks. In that time period I went thru 498 people. A lot I know, but I was looking for a professional person. Bingo, Teacher 11 years in Phillipinies, with a Masters. So back to story. Then I narrowed down to 3 people. Funny thing is she went thru her last 3 & weeks went from there. She’s 39 with a 22 & 21 year old sons. Both in college. So 501, that was my total I’ll be coming into Phillipines, Manillia, August 8 th. Single mom for over 20 years, in Leyete Province. Just my story. Barry & Joylyn Tacloban, Php
In regard to taking her back to the US, our Supreme Court recently ruled that Americans do not have the right to bring a foreign spouse back to the Us based solely on their marriage. She would still have to go through all the requirements to get a Visa or become a Us citizen on her own
I thought the recent ruling said…Visa denials are not reviewable in court unless the government violates an applicant's constitutional rights in the process.
I'm so glad I watched your video after only a couple of weeks of online dating on the Filipina site and dealing with scammers I found what seemed like a nice sweet girl and I was ready to give up on everyone else and focus on her, what a dummy. no, I'm slightly joking I only met her a couple of days and we were texting and we video chatted and I thought I just wanted someone grateful. but after watching this video I believe I may be the prize. I look forward to watching the video in which you promote 90% of the information and in the future I may acquire your services.
I wouldn't advise for "A foreign Affair". It's all about pay per letter etc. The women have an intro letter that is sent out automatically so you'll think there are hundreds of women dying to meet you who have never even looked at your profile. A lot of guys are taken for tens of thousands on that site.
Wow, you really did it, you really told em!!! I hope this advice will really help men to avoid getting scammed because they won't be thinkiinig they have to giive a girl whatever she asks for since they don't have any other hope of love and apprecation. I also encourage men to keep leveling up, get in a bit better shape, learn new sklls, improve your confdence and then you can set your boundaries in advance.
Good video. T-Mobile is only 15 Gig for the 30 days. If you are near wifi it's no problem. It's only a problem if you're streaming outside wifi which is rare in the Ph. I just got back from a week in BGC and used virtually no data. I probably could have made the month. Thanks again!!
Beware - The problem with dating sites is that you become emotionally involved with the image that the women (or scammer) gives you. I think the best way to use them is to wait until a month before arrival, like I did. I am happy I used a lengthy introduction with a code word at the end, to be included in the response. The code word helped screen the scammers and those with limited English skills. Most messages were "Hi, how are you". Only a few had the code word.
Very smart man. Scammers don't like to waste time. In my profile I put "you ask me money, you will be blocked" and I get less than 5% of the women contacting me.
@@Spitzbube I asked they use the word in their response. I used "Water". Example - Hi, "water". The Filipina Pea suggested using a code word. I used water because I grew up on Lake Erie. It easily transformed into a subject to talk about in the couple of chats we had.
By the way that’s a good one Charles Schwab ATM card. When I travel Asia I would take dollars and exchange it in that country. But now just my ATM card you get best exchange rates wherever I am. I still take five hundred in cash just in case. By the way Cebu is great. IT Park is 10 minutes from me. Women are everywhere here take your time. I’m grateful to live here in the Philippines. Also traveling Asia is also great and inexpensive.
That's a great educational video on Filipino relationships. Who i do feel sorry for is old woman.Us men don't want them always looking for a younger and prettier lady.
Hello, I have been to the Philippines 7 times but not since 1986. I know things have changed since then but I wanted to say that in watching your video that I have really never heard the situation put out the way you expressed it. My times there were courtesy of the United States Navy from which I retired in 2001. I do appreciate the information you provide and will continue to dream while I get things situated here in the US. Take care and I wish you and Crissy the best life.
3 of them were begging under a bridge with there kids under a bridge. Another 3 girls I put in cebu after there house burnt down They are now all working and help me with rent for . They are all intelligent and speak perfect English.
Your 12% is way too high for the West. If you don't have at least 2 out of the 3 sixes your in trouble in the West. Can't wait to come to the Philippines for vacation next year Thank you Rob for all the good information .
Agreed, if you want a truly attractive woman you gotta be top 5% now. I have all the sixes except the 6 pack and still get almost nothing. The sixes leaves out male model face which is also a requirement.
Good morning Rob, Marilyn and I have been in CDO for 5 days now and have been so busy looking for a suitable house to rent. As soon as we can get settled we will start working with an engineer on plans for our home construction in Fresno Parkview. Hope to meet you sometime in person.
Philipinos think every western person is rich, and compared to them I guess we are (Google the average wage there) It would be like a millionaire or celebrity over here. You have much better than average dating opportunities. Best advice is to not try to act rich (not sustainable) and be careful of gold diggers (same problem as here if you are a millionaire or celebrity)
@@robertboll1503 - I don't think many Filipinos think that way. Well-educated Filipinos, especially those accomplished, do not think that Western people are all rich. It cannot be automatic. We also use our brains to see through things. Just saying...
Hey Rob, great information. I'm retiring summer '24 and moving to the PI that fall. Have a friend who owns a condo in Manila and has offered it to me for one month. I'm a scuba diver so I plan on going on dives that first month and checking out the different places. I'm seriously looking at moving to IT park since I used to work in the BPO industry and understand that "culture." Thanks.
Bit repetitive but sound advice. I have been in a relationship for 6 years and we now have a business here. One factor that is overwhelmingly obvious is that the No 1 reason for having a foreigner partner is your money. Call it security, better lifestyle, use whatever euphemism you like. The humour, personality etc is a bonus and will probably provide the glue that keeps you together. That’s why you will be treated like a king - and it feels so good. Ask yourself, If you came with your man bod, tongue hanging out but she magically knew you had little money, would she still want you?
@@cliffyfellows38 - Sorry, but not all Filipinas are hungry for money. There are a lot of decent, well-educated & accomplished Filipinas who are only seeking true partnership. Money will not make you the happiest.
My friend, I totally agree with you on needy men being the biggest turn-off for any woman. It took me a while to learn this. I also have a Masters degree in psychology...Just saying.
have you ever had experience / heard of organised speed dating tours of the Philippines. they organise your flight, dating events hotel etc as a package. i heard it was being run in cebu and educated quality of men / women was higher.
The best way the only way to meet someone is to meet them physically never mind all these dating apps and advisors in my opinion if you think about it did you meet your first lady on a dating app I doubt it. Now due dating apps work Yes and no anyway good luck Just voice in my opinion having one has😊
Love your content! Enjoyed your one month budget video. I would like to experience a 10k month. Is it possible to safely find a companion for a month at around 500USD a week?
I am preparing to make my second trip to Philippines in October. Home basing both times out of Mindanao. My first visit was in the province 1 hour outside General Santos city and despite US warning level 3 of that area, I always felt very safe. I will be in CDO this next visit.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Would love to meet up with you guys and take you to lunch when I am there. We are going vacationing to Palawan and Cebu before returning to CDO for a week and my woman friend goes back to work.
I typically enjoy/agree with your videos, but I think in the first part of this vid your are deluding these men into thinking that they can be "mid" yet still be highly valued just because they are foreign. If you are extremely old, out of shape/fat/obese, and not good looking you will not find some beautiful woman that wants to be with you for love. They will be with you for your resources. Even a man who is in their 40's handsome and in shape is still going to be looked at for resources but has a much better chance at finding a more genuine relationship
If money is the thing just like anywhere else then love care trust understanding and faith are not there for a canadian man or any man.i guess im out on this with a Philippine woman as well even though i married one there.
My opinion is the man is the one that's desired because it's better when the woman desires you more so than you desire her because it begins and ends with the man
This makes a lot of sense but I still don't get why things are so hard over here. It isn't like women are rare in the US, they are everywhere and are over 50% of the population. The pay gap, especially before kids, is the lowest it has ever been which is great for equality but women are also still dating up and looking for providers and that may limit things. Another difference is that we don't prioritize marriage and family. Speaking of pivoting, it seems like I would be relatively taller and relatively richer and relatively better looking if I arbitraged myself.
Long time ago a guy who looks a lot like you told me some things about relationships for older people. He said guys who marry twice do it because they believe in love. After that he says it's a deal. That's depressing, even though it puts me into the top tier for making deals. Sounds like It could be super difficult for me to discern if they really like/love me. My plan is to come out and play golf, eat food, and play on the beach. After that idk?
Develop an abundance mindset is always a beneficial advice. David Hawkins book Letting Go can help you remove your obstacles to that state of mind if you are looking for a little help on that path. Have a wonderful life!
I've been extremely picky all my life, so its nothing new to me. I research SEA for 3 years before i decided to live in Boracay. Was on a number of dating sites just to feel the water so to speak. But I told any women I talked to I can't take anyone seriously unless I meet them, its a vibe thing. The last site I was on was Pina Love, I literally got interest from at least 1,000 women within a 6 month period. Out of that 1,000 maybe talked to 50, out of the 50 maybe 5 were decent, but only one survived. lol
Gentleman When in, or going to another country you should consider investing in a phone that is Unlocked. This way u can go anywhere in the world buy a Sim card that works in that country put it in your phone and have no problem.
Great video Rob. I’m kinda the guy you talk about. A little insecure and not confident enough to make the first move on a woman so women choose me and I end up in the wrong relationship.
How likely is it to find a younger Filipina who will forgo ever having kids? I don't want to have any more kids. Is my future wife more likely to be happy with a life with me if she has had at least one child of her own from a previous marriage so she won't miss having been a mother? If she has either grown kids or just one young child, I would be a supportive parent and provider however.
Spent my first 30 days explore there. Could never get my phone to work properly.got a globe sim at the kiosk, went to a few stores, went to customer service, asked friend for assistance, downloaded the app; nothing. Basically an iPhone that was a camera only if off wifi, which is everywhere once you leave the hotel. Would like to figure out a western style phone service plan for when I return.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines jealous. Couldn’t make phone calls or search internet or use apps when not on WiFi. iPhone was basically a glorified camera. Maybe next time it will work.
Sorry if you have already covered this topic or do not want to discuss it, but have you and Chrissy come to an agreement on additional children? Again, no pressure to answer, I was just courious based on your 30+ year age gap.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Be cautious as I think or learned over the years that if one or both of the parents are older there is a chance they will have a child with downs syndrome. That's just what I've heard.
Im 42, never married, no kids, make 50-55k a year. Im not handsome, i have mild nager syndrome, so most women in the west dont find me attractive enough to notice me. Im a introvert, partially deaf and a practicing Buddhist and live a simple stress free, minimalist lifestyle. With that being said, im going to the Philippines in September, staying 3 months. I was invited to go and stay by filipina co workers, they said they want to help me find a good woman to marry and have kids with, and having a family is all i ever wanted so i said why not. I dont know how I will do with the women there but im willing to give anything a try. If itndoesnt work out, theres always Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, Cambodia, etc etc etc.
😂😂@lillpoetboy you sems pretty naive, you think woman from Japan , Hong Kong , Singapore will ever like a man like at 42 with this kind of circumstances??? There is plenty of young Asian men everywhere. Bro , Philippines maybe it will work for you but you will be in a trade relationship, no love involved, you will be used , she will smile at you , cook for you , etc etc, but never love you, even the extremely good and conservative Filipina will be like that as long her family get some help. You will trade financial help ,with " love and caring" but that love will be there as long the money is there . Some people are choosed by gods to stay single, don't force and fight against destiny as destiny will punish you sooner or later. Conservative Filipina didn't exist, social media and foolish men who go there to find a wife , change them alot . Trust me ,you are invited there to be used and wallet empty. Filipina is same like russian woman, they just been " practical" when marriage , is like a business for them if they marry outside of their race , they will be practical and clean all your money.😂😂😂 You will be 50 , same guy but older , lonely, and without money and hopeless romantic after you meet one of them . 😂😂
It seems like in the Philippines, even if you look like Ocar the grouch, Shrek or Quasimodo, it will not matter because you will become as handsome as Brad Pitt. If you were considered poor with a measly income by Western standards then it will not matter because by Filipino standards, you will be considered rich. It's no wonder these fellows head that way.
I know you're modest man and know better than to toot your one horn, but it needs to be said that you dress the part of who you want to attract. You dress well and act respectable so that is what you attracted. It's a big mistake for guys to run around in tank tops with their arm pit hair showing. Being clean and well mannered will go a long way.
Hahaha you are right. When I landed in Manila and finally met my longtime online gf, i was wearing my normal travel clothes, collar shirt and cargo pants. She laughed that she thought she was meeting the president. Everyone there wears t-shirts shorts and flip flops.
I have to disagree about Manila. I prefer Cebu. Airport is much much better. I pay the 10 dollars for the first day. Then I go to the mall for a local SIM to register for my local 30 day trips. That's part of my recovery day from the 26 hours to get there. Then I head to Leyte since I got lucky on Christian Filipina.
I want to go there this month and want to ask you about the golf course you play. I like playing often but some of the courses are expensive in the Philippines
It is the bottom 1% that many expats end up with over there - is very true. The rich people there will usually marry other rich people too. It is rare those two classes will unite but happens sometimes. But many Pinoys will always strive to do better however they can -go overseas and work and save. The old expats are a quick way to get out of poverty w/o much effort. So expect to be a walking ATM -
My experience is that 100% of the beautiful women that you would be interested in are scammers and some are very skilled so take your time and ask a lot of questions because they can only hide who they are and what their game is for so long before they slip up; don’t send any money for any reason, they will give you a lot of hints and sad stories but don’t fall for it, it’s a scam and if you do send money you’re a sucker🤗
Oh so basically the same since Hunter gatherer days. Nothing changes, same story different day…. Bread winner supports family 10,000 years ago and today.
I have 7 years. I then retire. I'm thinking in 5 years I'm going to take some golf vacations. I'm an actual country boy. So what's the best public golf course in higher altitude of the Philippines. Beach view not needed, affordable golf a must. What would be a good vacation site for golf.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines if I pick the Philippines, over Argentina, or unknown option. I'll contact you a for consultation. Thanks for the golf course tip.
Tell us how are your dividend paying stocks working out? Tell us open up a financial channel. I’ll watch. Can I ask you why do you have a RU-vid channel? Is it a hobby, is it for income or what’s the reason? I’m figuring you’ have a net worth of a million dollars or more. You seem to be a successful guy. By the way you have a great channel better than most. I’ve been here eighteen years and in a great marriage.
I been on CF x 3 mo, and first girl after two months turned out to be a scammer, other girl now after three months of chatting / texting finally video chatting says she has a boyfriend is not interested in a serious relationship. O luck 3 mo. Waste of time.
Do you feel like this is true re: educated (college degree at least) women in the Philippines? That slightly older western men still have a lot of value to them?
Hi I met my philippines girls on Facebook. All from mindinao All got tragic stories I got them out and rented a house in cebu . I'll be going there in November from London. Am I doing the right thing . Regards Michael
Never believe any expat that says do not meet them online. Only meet in person. I have one of the most beautiful Filipinas on earth, now married, that no Expat has matched in the Philippines..Don’t ever restrict yourself to those you pass on the street in a given city.. by going online, you reach the most beautiful women in far off provinces that you will never pass on the street. Let this blogger show his young beautiful partner?
