A friend of mine explained these intense feelings to some people like this: "Take any feeling you have, and multiply it x100. That's what Green Roc deals with everyday." I wouldn't think it is x100, but certainly what I feel, at any time, is multiplied if compared to non-autistics.
Thank you so much for having this channel! I have a son who is 24. He has mental heath issues Autism, ADHD and anxiety. He never leaves the house. He only leaves his room to go to the bathroom or to get a snack. He eats in his room. He is on medication for his mental health and ADHD. He has progressively cut himself off from the world. He was not this bad in the 7th grade. He had friends and skate boarded and went out every day then slowly got worse. He was going to a therapist for 2 years. He won’t go now. Thank you for helping me understand my son! Much Love.... xoxo
Willow v I don’t remember the year my son decided to stay in the house all the time. He stopped attending school in the 7th grade. My son still doesn’t want to leave the house. He is still eating in his room. He started to act happier in the last 6 months. It has been a surprise but it is nice to see him smile. I don’t know what made him change a little but I like it. I pray for my son. I want him to have a good life.
Having intense feelings ain't fun at all. I resonated with that part of the video. It's like I could watch something upsetting and just obsess over it the whole day or even two. Still happens
I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Major Depressive Disorder as well as Autism which makes things a lot harder to deal with. But I have learned through therapy, taking medication and my own coping skills how to deal with things and I want to encourage others to keep on, keeping on if you are struggling with the same things! Things do get better 😊💜🖒
I told a coworker about my autism and she began telling me I didn't seem like it because I was coherent, talked about how people use to consider kids with disabilities to be bad kids, referred to a quirk of hers as "her autism", and touched my shoulder. I was pretty upset because I can't try to correct someone without sounding condescending so I just had to deal with the unintended insults.
Cactus Scree wow! So sorry someone acted like that. It can take time for it to feel ok to disclose but do have a look at how someone treats people different then themselves. That might help.
Thank you so much Dan! This really helps. I usually try to fight my anxiety or stress, because others sometimes try to tell me that my worries aren't necessary or rational. This is only to help me, but it doesn't seem to help; this video does help a lot. ❤✨
Happy Halloween 🎃 Today was the best Halloween I’ve ever had, usually because of anxiety and my autism I didn’t have many close friends and I’d tag along with my sister or stay at home, but after being in three friend groups, finally today me and my friends were hanging outside around our area and we spent some time in a park in the dark, and it was great, no one was there so we played hide n seek in the dark (ik childish but it was fun)
Hi Dan! Hope all is well? Had my diagnosis of Asd on the 29th! finally I can be myself and not feel bad about it.. so all in all I have Dyslexia, social anxiety, depression and asd. Thank you for the videos, they have really helped and I'm more than pretty sure they will continue to help. Keep it up 👍🏼
Morning! Will this be watchable after it's live? My son is only finding out next week that he has Aspergers. I am so excited to introduce you and your channel to him. I think creating a community of unique individuals, like you have, makes people feel less alone. And I know my son wants to feel part of a group.
I have GAD, possible autism (still testing), psudotumor cerebri mimics brain tumor an causes anxity. I freeze when I had to deal with crowds at a work setting. Or I will get so upset I can't foucus on what's going on. I think of something happy that helps me a lot.
Totally relate, it happens at work every work day. But, I do help customers socially. Eye contact hurts with certain people. Deep breathing helps as you said. Especially, to people who I have no connection with. Or a boss, etc. Need a therapist! Wish I could...took a while to get a previous one then they dropped me, but not money wise. Anyway, I'm glad I'm not alone. And understand it more.
At six minutes you say you don’t know if anyone has a hard time understanding this. You have described it perfectly and it’s hard for me to come to terms with how everybody else doesn’t feel these things. BTW, I am 61 years old, newly diagnosed autistic.
Therapy/counseling is SO HELPFUL. It has been *the* most helpful thing since my dx. I was lucky to get my dx from a fantastic therapist who specializes in autism, specifically women/girls on the spectrum and she is beyond amazing. The growth and understanding I have gained in just the 2 months we've worked together has been incredible. I still have a long way to go and a lot of work to do, and honestly I can't wait to see where I go from here.
Hi Dan, I am ok with a few words with a stranger, especially if I have something in common with them. Today I saw two elderly gentlemen walking their dogs past the grocery store I was headed to. I love dogs, and lost my little dog a few months ago to a terminal illness. I talked with the two guys for a minute, pet one dog, and then left. It was pleasant, but I could not do more. A group of people in a social situation is awful, though with family members and very close friends it is better. As a senior with autism, anxiety is something I have dealt with every day since my childhood. School was hell; adulthood is better.
I was diagnosed with asperges at 30 and I've been told I've got dyslexia. I'm having a really bad episode with depression at the moment I can't concentrate I'm not interested in anything I never laugh at anything I've got really bad social anxiety I've had it through different stages of my life and this is another bad one. I don't want to just sit there and say nothing especially in front of my kids. I'm supposed to be going Back to work next week and I'm praying I can sort my self out somehow. Anyway good videos mate
Now this is interesting. Dan went from a question where they asked him about training and he talked about how much she liked training. Then the next question or rather statement was congratulations on 100 K. My mind instantly thought oh my gosh she ran 100,000 miles? LOL
When I got diagnosed. It hit hard .I get voice s say it's a curse I try not to listen but it's hard not to I'm sorry if I offended U and offended others.its no curse .it's so awesome to be this way.ur vids and other s like it have open ed my eyes to the wonder of it all .peace dan.
Maybe it depends on if you get the right therapist. I haven't had much success with them and have been trying to manage with medication. I wish therapy could work for me, although I never really looked for a therapist who deals with Autism and Depression/Anxiety. Another thing is cost. I don't have any extra money to spend for that. It's not easy to find a therapist that takes the Medicare insurance I have in the USA.
That new special interest does sound like it could b neat. I remember exploring an abandoned construction site, it was a parking garage or something if I remember correctly. Exploring is so fun, like in the woods or in a building, I love it. Have u watched people doing spelunking? Is that what it's called where they go way down in these caves and stuff?
Dan I have dyspraxia symptoms which impacts me greatly and as a result I am very accident prone and I have poor hand to eye co-ordination. There are no counsellors in Thurrock who have an understanding of autism as I was told by a CBT therapist that it was not worth it as I am the only one client who he has met who said that they have autism. Sadly when I told the CBT therapist did not change the way he counselled me, even when I told him that it did not work with me. I explained that I am unable to visualise or approach shop assistants to explain that I am autistic, or even showing my autism alert as that causes me too much anxiety as I am worrying that I am holding up the queue as they are shoppers behind me. On top of that I am a slow shopper and it takes me longer for me to pack things due to my poor hand and eye co-ordination issues and that I have hypermobility in my wrists. CBT did not work for me, but I will be going for a mindful course. There was a stress and anxiety as well as confidence and assertive course that I went on in the past at MIND but the course is not being run any-more.
@@TheAspieWorld Thanks, I did have a counsellor with autism experience but she left MIND and the one who ran the stress and anxiety and confidence and assertive courses where run by a counsellor with autism experience and understanding. The reason probably is down to lack of funds.
i seen a therapists i was terrible at opening up at first but she went into coping strategies and it did not stop them but it helps like when i am i supper market and i feel overwhelmed or the train station.
Hey dan, followed you on here for over a couple years now, quite good videos have had a very high level of asperger's since i was born.. Such as never stopping screaming as a baby no eye contact ever etc trouble settling to school when started at age 4 i am told by mum school also noticed it & obssesional arranging seam bobbles on socks for hour at home before going into reception class as sensory made feet feel horrible and set off anxiety also age 4-6 years i also had to arrange nerly 200 soft toys i collected on bed in the order where they would all be with their friends only cus was convinced that young they came to life at night xD and wouldnt let my mum say the same good night words /pattern.. in the same order.. It wouldn't matter how late i made her stay up she had to say it in that.. Night night sweet dreams and a couple other things And wouldn't let her say it or go off/ unless she would come back right after i finished arranging them until after i was finished making sure all soft toys were with their friends in order & once got impatient refused to say night & i had a rily severe aspergic meltdown the whole night.. & was one of worst meltdowns of my life/nights.. With the adhd worsening alot when i was 20 years old.. And always had high level anxiety used to have depression As a girl with the masking commonly i developed bdd in high school, avoided lessons alot.. Cudnt talk at all in classes or group up easily or at all with people often enjoyed being in libary music rooms or even loos.. On own due to my bdd.. & it got severe then to point i missed 40% of last two years tho not before then was very good attendance.. So is probably reason i still passed all ten with half A's & B's also.. Is there any chance u cud pls do a video in the future on asperger' and bdd.. maybe you may know a gurl who has this who could help with the video? Anyway:) starting to learn more about it recent years /coping mechanisms:) Also did you know the famous artists Gary Numan /Eminem has asperger's
Hi, I love your videos and how informative you are. I'm autistic as well and just wanted to let you know that something in the sound quality of your videos is very loud and echos. Maybe go back and have a listen and see if you can hear it too. I was cringing through this whole video because I really wanted to watch it, but the echo was hurting my ears even with the volume turned down. Keep up the great work though! You're awesome!
I was diagnosed with depression at age 19,and anxiety at 20. Now at age 51, with ADHD and probably ASD, I wonder about the first two being a byproduct of the the latter two. We can callnthem comorbidities, I suppose. I dont think the first two were the major problem. I may not have suffered so much 33 years ago or more, if there had been enough research. Love the videos
Dang, I forgot about dan bells channel. He also does the "Another dirty room" series. I need to get caught up on that channel. I've had horrible anxiety that just wont go away. I've done the therapy and medication thing. So far it's been all strikes.
I have severe anixety so I don't go outside much. It's hard going out and seeing all these people. I try really hard just to focus with eyes so I won't get scared for some reason.
I came here cos my 15 ADS son has started having extreme anxiety suddenly. His anxiety symptom is nausea and he thinks he will be sick so getting him to school has been so hard as he gets anxious, feels sick and then just wants to leave. He sees a psychologist but e doesn't like to talk to anyone about his feelings. It's been tough.
This is totally what happens with me. I dont know how ill react in situations due to my anxiety and my autism. I do tend to have way more meltdowns with new people, the best thing i can explain its like i get confused and meltdown.
@@TheAspieWorld its nice to know im not alone. Thank you. Just wish i knew how to cope better. Im a lot better now at walking away, or saying i just need a minute. I feel thats come with age and learning what does trigger me.
sometimes I feel like my having ADHD in conjunction with ASD is a blessing in disguise because one way in which the overlap is in social situations, before my anxiety can get the best of me, or before my sensory overload or any of that stuff starts to happen, my ADHD is already keeping me distracted, or ive already walked away from the situation or completely spaced out. Its like my spacyness and daydreamyness and lack of focus prevent me from having meltdowns, shutdowns, and panic attacks. idk, cant tell really.
My dx is adhd and gad. I think I might also be autistic. The gad is debilitating when I have a very stressful or sad situation, like I do right now. I have the sweating, nausea and overwhelm. Nausea is the most unpleasant to me. I'm usually comfortable talking to store employees when I have a question. My adhd takes over and blurts it out.
I just started therapy b/c i felt I checked all the autism boxes.. after 2 sessions my therapist says he is pretty sure it is just social anxiety b/c I am aware things scare me and people with autism would not realize the anxiety.
How can someone deal with the anxiety they create with their own thoughts - not social or circumstantial things but their own thoughts with roots in reality but thoughts that create anxieties and fears that are not at all possible?
Im having massive issues with my 10 year old son at the moment, he's refusing school, and school say well he needs to know if he's in late there are consequences, nothing else, nothing in place to help him, oh and getting the education welfare on to me for him not going to school. Any help ideas would be amazing thanks Dan. He's asd and adhd.
I had issues going to school growing up. Maybe a list of fun things and future plans to make school more fun. Example if you go to school we can do your favorite activity on this day. I don't know if that will help but I know fun things got me through school, maybe it can help others too.
Caroline Beckwith Email me at meredithalex93@gmail.com . I went through all of that with my son about 9 years ago. Please email me and we can talk about it. There are a few things you can do.
I have Autism ADHD Dyspraxia Social anxiety General anxiety Depression And spd And I don’t have a councler or medication I don’t know if it will help do any of you think medication or counclers will help? I do t know how to ask my parents either
Some people find that medication is useful some people find that medication isn’t that useful but it’s all down to personal preference I would say speak with your parents and family see what they say then go and speak to the medical professional who deals with your condition and ask for their professional advice. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
Ide also like to add that, difficult as it may be, like many things in life when you push through, things tend to get slightly better even if not right away. I am in the military and, there are a lot of situations were I have to put my personal stuff aside, get up, and put one foot in front of the other. To be fair, military punitive measures are always an effective motivation to push through something. But in doing so, it has become much easier for me over time to take a breath and then act.
so i have bad anxitey but more wiht social anxitey and bathroom anxiety, have a question if u know or anyone dose. is bathroom anxety go hand in hand wiht ASD? low or high functioning? i will wait for everyone to leave a public bathroom before i go in, if im in and someone comes in i litterally cant go untill they leave or even walk out., i start to breath heavy,, i shake and panic, its hard to explain all that i feel . please help
Therapist,I have never found the right therapist for myself or for my two boys that also have Aspergers. The therapists that I have dealt with it seems like my children and I are smarter than them and they say stupid things I had one therapist I was teaching him about Asperger’s this particular man was trying to do us a favor because at the time I didn’t have a car and I couldn’t get over to the appointment so he would come to our house for family therapy but he basically acted rushed charged insurance for driving over and then would only spend 10 to 15 minutes in a rush talking to us so of course the three of us would analyze him and how he would talk to us and The only thing he was good for was bringing us some McDonald’s and this is just one of the therapists, and then because of this fail and all the other fails my older son now thinks therapy won’t work for him😩
