One thing that is true though which people in general do not realise. There is a difference between being nice and being a push over. It's fine being a douche or a nice guy, just know your limits. Then you should be fine
I agree, their confusing kindness with weakness. If your a doormat with no self-esteem, sure. If your genuinely 'Nice' because you respect others, Nope.
Being the nice guy work, being a doormat doesn't Don't be gullible and believe she's an angel that can't do no bad or put her on a pedestal And more important learn lo loose, you are not entitled to love and they don't owe you it for giving them money or time, be a nice guy dont pretend to be "nice" guy
There's nothing wrong with being the nice guy but being too nice especially to bad people nowadays is a bad thing because that will give people the golden opportunity to use and take advantage of you to get exactly what they want from you while you trusted them until they betray you and treat you like Trash and leaving you in the gutter broke even worthless like you didn't even existed and it's also like what green goblin said "In spite of everything you've done for them eventually they will hate you, why bother???" Not to mention Everytime you get mad or angry not to tolerate anybody's crap especially if you have every right to they treat you like you're a bad person since the nicest and kindest of people breaks the hardest once they reach their breaking and boiling point. (I speak from experience)
I have always blamed myself for having yet to have ever dated I never put myself out there or made myself vulnerable or open, nor did I ever go out of my way to meet people in person. Obviously that results in me being undateable I've been working on this, mostly by trying to make friends and talk to people as well as hang out, oblige to promises, etc And hopefully soon I'd find opportunities to connect more deeply with others After that I'll worry about dating
I learnt the difference between 'transactional kindness' and 'genuine kindness' only recently, and I learnt that genuine kindness is very very VERY attractive and likeable
Being nice and being kind are two very different things. Nice is a front, and transactional by nature. That's the most important point, which I'm so glad you made. Being kind is being the best you can to yourself or another person. There's nothing inherently wrong with being nice, but it means nothing if you're not a kind person first.
I’m a guy who lost his happiness and want to be happy again, but I can’t. I used to smile and be happy when I was young but now I lost that feeling. Will being in love with someone make you happy again?
As a girl I don't know why I'm watching this... But this makes me wonder if there are girls like this. And if there isn't... Why are some guys like this?
Nice, HONEST masculine guys are actually the hottest thing on the planet. The only nice guy I didn’t like was because he pretended to be my best friend for years, was only mean and teasing me the whole time and then all of a sudden confessed he loved me. If he had been honest at any point and said something like “you look pretty” or anythiiiiiing I could’ve started having feelings for him earlier on
It’s funny because a player who doesn’t care about you as much would’ve been upfront right away, How thoughtful right? The guy your talking about wasn’t upfront because he tried the long safe approach not to lose you in a week, building chemistry and hoping you might take initiative, eventually he did and how did it turn out?you cut off the friendship, How pathetic and unthoughtful right? But who cares he was one of many, even less just a nice guy “friend” the whole time. At least you got something out of him. While being in other situationships at the same time.
@@Mcgee833 I see your point. But if he was even nice to me that would have worked with me. You’ll notice in my original comment that he actually wasn’t nice to me and would tease and bully me. In college I had a close friend where we would just play and do outdoor stuff for a year, study, and it became something more until we both graduated and had to leave to separate peace corps countries.
I miss those old videos of you when the voice used to be sweet and steady instead of this deep voice over, the frequency of that voice was better to understand and implement in real voice
Honestly most "nice" males stop being so nice the second a woman politely says she's not interested in having sex with them lmao I may be wrong about straight ppl problems tho, I'm not into that kind of stuff
It's called having great communication with the female if she tells her nice guy person how she wants to be treated and thrown around but not actually hurting her then he is OK with it
Fact is that most guys are nice, most people are nice, and if you identify as a “nice guy”, at best you’re not bringing anything special to the table and at worst you’re delusional about how nice you are.
This narrative is only true in movies… not real life. Ive only ever dated ‘nice guys’, they’re definitely the preference over cocky fuckboys lmao. If someone can’t like a nice guy because they feel like they need to work for love/attention then thats an issue in itself Although i do agree with the last point- kindness is not transactional and women don’t ever owe you anything 👏🏽 Anyway looks like its time for me to unsub because i’ve been subbed for like 6 years and only now realising all the content seems to be geared towards men😂 definitely not the target audience here
I dont need women. I'll just wait for birthing pods. My kids will be born from artificial wombs. I hope that we will be able to make artificial eggs soon.
