Why Bisexuals Fall in Love Differently - (Why am I so in Love)

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@Nhouah 6 лет назад

It's very interesting to hear more about bi people that have different romantic and sexual attractions, not a lot of people talk about it.

@lucielimbach119 3 года назад

I‘m bi and attracted to both genders in different ways. I have qualities in looks for women and others for men and they differentiate. But character-wise I like the same things in both. So if I fall for somebody it‘s either just sexual or both sexual and love, but I would disagree that I have a preference gender-wise and the ability to love a certain gender more, or be more sexual with the other gender. Hope you can understand, what I‘m trying to bring across.

@izukuafton7387 3 года назад

I'm bisexual I love all genders and I have a preference for my same gender females

@PSSavant 6 лет назад

This is such an important video. You are brilliant!

@MiraX871 4 года назад

How to understand, is a bisexual man likes me? I think, he doesn't want to be active part of flirting but he is interested in my personality.

@rickylewis9817 Год назад

Lmaaooo I saw dopamine and oxytocin and brain went "oh bet Adderall or percs I can just buy those" 😂 (it's a joke I'm not a drug addict I swear)

@brunoangel4556 Год назад

On the nail.

@BASH_ANGEL 4 года назад

Hahahahahaha if this is what your book contains, i wont buy it ! Hahahaha dopamine points, oxytocin points hahahaha i cant stop laughing it made me cry ! Are you a qualified writer, psychologist or Phd degree? Really? Hahahaha i cant believe you ask us to score someone to 100 points with all those categories ! Hahahahaha omg ,seriously?

@oneuglysweater1103 3 года назад

hahahahaha omg really? hahahahahaha who asked for your opinion? hahaha

@UserUser-cy6gh 6 лет назад

Alexander is like my bisexual senpai.

@lowercaseguy3578 3 года назад

Most anime stories are bisexual .

@reasheb.7429 4 года назад

I thought I was weird but it's just a bisexual thing to be romantically attracted to one gender ( men) and sexually attracted to the other ( women). So confusing. I don't just want a sexual relationship so I go after men but I only really get turned on by emotional closeness. Whereas with women I just feel turned on physically by them but no emotional attachment w h atsoever.

@eirillvrehus441 3 года назад

Same but opposite

@taylorm1690 3 года назад

This is me af. My boyfriend was like “I think you’re just a lesbian with daddy issues.” And my brain stopped in its tracks…. Lol

@mariahconklin4150 2 года назад

That sounds like me lol! Oh well! 🤷‍♀️ and I’m here questioning my boyfriends gayness when he says he’s straight. 😢🤷‍♀️ Ugh. I think my problem is from past childhood trauma though.

@mariahconklin4150 2 года назад

@@taylorm1690 oh yeah maybe lol! I do have dad issues but I have mom issues to lol which is why I have a strong emotional connection with my boyfriend and also a strong physical connection. Idk though maybe me and him are both bi. Maybe he’s attracted to men more but emotionally connected to woman. Who knows. All I know is that he’s sweet and funny as hell.

@idris_catss Год назад

It’s annoying I really want to be in love with a girl

@liamrenaud2347 4 года назад

Thank you so much, i finally understand my feelings now. I’ve struggled a lot with my feelings and been very sad for a long time. Once again, thank you. Sorry for my english, im not from an english speaking country :)

@kiraiadiamante9615 6 лет назад

Really interesting video... I was wondering, I have never been in a love relationship but I feel attraction for both males and females and I'm pretty sure about it, is there any chance that I found out I'm bi at the age of 14/15? or I'm just a confused teenager and this is a phase everyone have at my age?

@BisexualRealTalkNow 6 лет назад

Yes. Puberty is a very common time period for bisexuals to discover their sexuality. Welcome to the cool people!

@Anthony_Gx 3 года назад

If you’re already pretty sure about it, you can be sure you’re bi :-) Most teenagers that feel attraction to their own gender try to ignore or deny it at first

@Leena79 6 лет назад

Oh, when you come back from vacation, I'd love to hear your thoughts on how bisexuality is represented in the new Netflix series, Insatiable. 😀

@Leena79 6 лет назад

I'm demi-bisexual, and I can only wish my brain worked like this. It would make my life so much easier 😂.

@snowrhodes9176 6 лет назад

Same

@vixiphi6111 5 лет назад

Alex you should repeat this on TedxTalks! Great insights, great sense! My long-term relationship with the woman I love to the moon ended recently, as I became more aware of my bisexuality. This talk so resonates with what I am going through and puts some clarity into my emotional turmoil. Thank you 🙏💖

@tantalus6916 4 года назад

how does this come into play with asexuals, demisexuals, and aromantics? Especially when polyamorous/bisexuality/gay/straight overlap with asexuality and bisexuality.

@ScribblebytesWorldwide 3 года назад

0 points.

@Nick-pm4jz 3 года назад

Dear Alex, I've two things to say about this video: Number 1, my dopamine is rising because your smile is so attractive to me. ;-) Number 2. This has been an epiphany, it all makes sense now. I'm 44 years old and you just managed to fill all the loop holes. I couldn't understand why there was so much time before I realised I was bisexual, when I thought , I was heterosexual after all, after I've experimented with boys as a teen. I know fully understand the process I've gone through, and you sir, made it clear for me. I can't thank you enough.

@wellenlangepol8653 6 лет назад

i still don´t get how do bisexuals fall in love differently. when you fall in love you fall in love. and i terms of the example you talked about , the person was not in love , they was in lust.

@suzannemcvicker617 4 месяца назад

Lust and limerance are often mistaken for love.

@kunalkatariya3046 3 года назад

Hey Alex, I wanna ask a question. Two bisexual(of different sex) can be in relationship or not?

@ScribblebytesWorldwide 3 года назад

I should have paid more attention in math class.

@rossvictorious 4 года назад

Alex, you know what's crazy... everything you said is everything I have known to be instinctively true from the moment I realized I was bisexual in 7th grade PRE-SEX experience. There is a qualitative difference. I think that I am a polyamorous bisexual...well not think... I am... I think my needs gaps can only be filled by having a male and female partners.... I've done test after test on myself with others LOL. But I will grab your book on Kindle to support. Even more so, I am happy you exist and hope to connect with you soon.

@phunkee9095 6 лет назад

makes perfect sense to me

@jabuhlatshwayo8695 2 года назад

Thank you so much for this, I was wondering and having anxiety what's happening to my long relationship and the people I strongly fall for. This was a great explanation and I feel much lighter. Thank you 💗💜💙

@dragoncohert 2 года назад

Do you have any resources to cite? This seems a little bold on the claims.

@DannyVdesign 5 лет назад

Thanks for bringing in neuroscience! Just add some wacky experiments and it'll be Alex Bi the Science Guy

@sarcia96 3 года назад

Interesing.

@mestizounsolo5545 Год назад

The worst for a GAY is to Fall in Love with a Bisexual. It never works a bisexual try to do that but I knew its a non wining situation

@nazigol289 5 лет назад

Im exactly the same as it is explained in video htrosexual and homoromantic

@mariahconklin4150 2 года назад

Omg I love when me and my boyfriend don’t spend a lot of time together because when we do see each other it’s like we are two magnets coming together but I’m struggling with the fact that my mood is up and down and his seems fine but then again I don’t know if he’s in denial of his own self

@DrewMerri 6 лет назад

Hi I was wondering if you guys could possibly help me... I’m a guy and I’m confused- for the first 16 years of my life I thought I was straight even when I started watching gay porn at the age of 11 I still thought I was straight because I only had crushes on girls, I would occasionally watch straight and lesbian porn but mostly gay. I never thought anything of it really until around may of last year when people started jokingly calling me gay, this made me watch only straight porn and it was fine until a few months ago when I realized I wasnt turned on to straight porn as I was to gay porn... this made me stressed and confused and I think I developed HOCD from it... now I view myself as bisexual heteromantic but i don’t know if I’m actually this or if I’m just a closeted gay... whenever I think of the future I always see myself with a girl and having three kids. My biggest fear is that I’m going to mary a woman and find out like 7 years later or something that I’m gay; or that I’m not able to have sex with a woman, this has been stressing me out a lot and (sadly) has put suicide into my mind (I don’t think I would ever intentionally hurt myself but I don’t know) I’m really confused can someone please help me

@BisexualRealTalkNow 6 лет назад

Mason, I have been where you are. I think a lot of us have. I didn't figure out my sexuality until I was 17 and it took more than a decade after that for me to fully accept it about myself and to stop thinking that I could still end up gay. Unfortunately, however, there is no rushing the process of figuring this stuff out. But, that's okay. And to tell you the truth, the physical parts of figuring it out can be really fun. ;-) Here is the only important thing that you need to know. Whatever you decide you are, there will be a community of people who will accept you and love you for exactly who you are. If you're gay, you will be able to find other gay guys who are in the exact situation you are. If you're bi, you will be able to surround yourself with the coolest bunch of bi folks that you could ever imagine. So, no matter what you decide on, you don't have to be alone. You can choose to hide who you are make yourself feel alone, but you don't have to. And that might be hard to imagine now. But something tells me that even if you told your current friends (in the right setting), even though they teased you for it, they could end up defending you to others. I know it's hard to imagine all of this right now. But life can be a lot different than the way it appears to you at 16. Keep in mind that I'm not suggesting that you recklessly come out. That would be a mistake. But if you watch my video about how teens can come out, and then give yourself time to process it and figure out who you are, you might have a happier life than you could ever imagine. I hope this helps! :-)

@DrewMerri 6 лет назад

BisexualRealTalk hey thank you sooo much for responding, I just want to say from this point to when my first comment was posted I have changed a lot, right now I’m pretty sure I’m bi and I’m not thinking about it as much, porn wise I’m really watching a mix of straight bisexual gay and lesbian porn and am a lot more turned on by women sexually than I was before (now I can get off to just looking at a naked woman). Romantically I’m still only intrested in girls in terms of marriage and dating and can’t imagine myself marrying a guy at all, i here a lot of people say that’s because you have been raised to think a guy and guy relationship is wrong, and if you just try going on a date with a guy you will probably change, but honestly I’m not even interest in trying to go on a date with a guy I just feel it’s not for me. I still haven’t had an official girl friend but I had a huge huge crush on a girl who I couldn’t stop thinking about, I think I may have been in love with her, I would legit dream about marrying her and stuff, but she graduated. But it’s kinda crazy because I liked her as a friend (sophomore year) when I only mainly watched gay porn and when I started watching straight porn more it was like I really started having a crush on her. I think when I started watching straight porn more my mind went from the gay side of bisexuality to more of the middle, but Idk. And I’m not thinking about suicide any more (man I feels weird to type and say that in my head) and I truly hate that I was thinking about it, I think it was a result of the HOCD witch I’m starting to think less about. I also heard about being straight with a gay porn fetish, is that possible? If it is that might be me, but honestly I like thinking of myself as bisexual, and when I call myself straight I feel like I’m lying and when I call myself gay i feel like it’s just not right and it’s not me. So if you have any more advice for me I’d greatly appreciate it!

@idanoe7190 5 лет назад

@@DrewMerri I am a bi woman, and I felt exactly the same way! It is so similar it is scary! I started off being more physically attracted to women, and mostly crushing on men. I primarily watched lesbian porn, straight porn was eh and I didn't watch any gay porn. Now I watch all 3 haha I was also worried I was lesbian, and not bi. My attraction went up and down like waves, and it made me very uncomfortable. Now that I got older, my attraction towards both stabilized alot more! It is for the most part pretty even, and I just came out as bisexual to my friends at the age of 24. I have had 1 husband and 1 boyfriend and I am not sure about a female relationship. Maybe mostly because I am happy with my current boyfriend. Again, your story and the way you felt is scary similar to me... Good luck in your life, and no matter what you feel be proud of who you are!

@mariahconklin4150 2 года назад

I get crazy dopamine affects when I’m with my boyfriend. I feel such a strong emotional connection with him it’s crazy. He’s the sweetest. I tried breaking up with him today because of the issues I’m having and he’s feeling judged by me but I’m feeling as though he’s in denial about a lot of things and this is something that we both struggle with.

@Ok-hd5ms 6 лет назад

(Imma delete this as soon as I get a answer that could help me. In that note please help ;-;. Also I just came to the newest video for help) So once I was just wandering RU-vid and blanked out I ended up watching this prank video and just let keep going on auto play. I just keep watching because I didn't really care but then it auto played on this video with this girl and I felt attracted. I've never been in a romantic situation or sexual so I've never had situations where I felt attraction. I've felt attracted to a male before but now with this random female. I'm really confused and I don't much about sexuality. I watch your stages of bi and if your bi quiz. I think I'm bi but I don't know can anybody give advice please?

@BisexualRealTalkNow 6 лет назад

Just give yourself time and see if the feeling pops up again. If you've only had the feeling once in your life and it never comes up again, it won't have any effect on your life at all and hence there is no need to give it a second thought. A single random attraction can be explained by many things outside of you being bisexual. But, if you experience a pattern of being attracted to multiple genders, or if you have an intense feeling for a girl, then give it more thought.

@Ok-hd5ms 6 лет назад

BisexualRealTalk thanks for advice imma delete in a while though :P

@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I 3 года назад

@@Ok-hd5ms u ok did u forget to delete or should I be worried

@umikoshrestha1358 3 года назад

Hey...can you plzz tell me...that does bisexual women have their period...plzz plzzz

@RapidBlindfolds 3 года назад

of course they would. being bisexual has nothing to do with their menstrual cycle

@redmoongacha3885 4 года назад

Well im so unlucky i asked my crush to be my gf and she say yes....but one day later she say i wanna broke up....should i continue to ask her out or leave her alone?

@oneuglysweater1103 3 года назад

oof

@clng5550 3 года назад

neat theory, love it, there should be more studies about this

@amouri7792 3 года назад

Thank you for this great explanation.

@kristinastanic1048 3 года назад

That makes sense 🙈 🙌

@AprilsMoon92 3 года назад

this is how I’m feeling right now lol

@dragoncohert 2 года назад

Wow, thanks for the differentiation. Now I will no longer ever call myself bi, I will just stick with pan.

@matthewklene2264 2 года назад

These are amazing videos, just found them

@eugeneviljoen8513 Год назад

This makes a lot of sense. Thanks!

@iris250 3 года назад

(sorry for bad grammar) (im a girl) okay i need help bc if been thinking and stressing and thinking more thinking yeah yeah well. i mostly have online friends hm? (im 14 btw) anyway i never been in love and had an boyfriend well i did but i was like 11 and said yes bc i felt bad. but i once have an online friend and if been thinking and thought. but what if i do like/liked her? i don't know this feeling.. but i noticed the hm? last 2 days or so that i act dif by the old friend online than my in real live bsf and other friends online maybe i just liked the time but i don't know.. thas why im here. i always wanted to know if she's online. what's she is doing. if she's okay? well. i thought i just rrly love her as a friend i always said to myself if i saw a photo ''dammmn gorl'' yk? but what!?!? well. i got an internet friend an other who i spend so much time with late and stuff but the same kind of? but more? i always get sad if we cant talk and the same i think about this girl the wholeeeee day even when i try to sleep. i think about her in every single song i listen.. i also by her wanna know if she's okay what she doing if she's fine that stuff you could say you just care a lot about her but i dont this much by my other friends so i need alot help.. bc i ofc looked on internet and they say ''you cant fall in love if you haven't met each other'' so what's this than am i bi or not if been so stressed about it of not knowing what to do i hope anyone read this and can help me (i would see myself date a girl and a boy) xxx

@nly-tv5936 4 года назад

This is really good. But I think men and women fall in love wether straight or bi in this exact same way.. Love your analogy tho!!!

@thaaahaaa 6 лет назад

I think there is some interesting ideas here but here are the thoughts I had : -How does it work for aromantic/bisexual, biromantic/asexual people or anyone in those spectrums ? You just don't give oxytocin/dopamine points ? Or you just give different types of points ? -Where does the /3 and /25 scales come from ? From a particular study or is it your own theory ? -For the tendency that bi people have to switch genders after a long term relationship, is it that different from "monosexual" people ? I mean if you had a long term relationship with someone it's not uncommon to seek other characteristics in the next partner, it's just that for bi people it can translate to "switching" the gender of the next partner which like you said is more visible. Enjoy your vacations !

@Nhouah 6 лет назад

I was wondering the same things about aromantics and asexuals. ^^

@Chaosdude7111 6 лет назад

I'm biromantic (panromantic really) asexual, and I think it's more complicated than that. I can be attracted to a person on sight, but rather than motivating me to want to have sexual contact with someone, it motivates me to seek out activities that will elicit more oxytocin points, as Alex calls them.

@kaemmerleintod 4 года назад

And funnily enough a lot of people attribute a very high amount of points (certainly more then 3) to the existence or nonexistence of a particular type of genitals. Which is sad.

@amalmystic11 Год назад

And straight people find both in one. So would that be fair for bi person to try? This is justifying their cheating behavior. They should date each other

@AlexsTheCat 3 года назад

Im bi and 2bh i cant tell which one i wanna do first so all do bth well i dont mind trans 💙

@danro6223 3 года назад

I was scared that im biphobic, now you cleard my mind and said everything what made me scared to be actualy true.

@Mikey-jv5fv 3 года назад

@ShawnBloom 6 лет назад

So,monogamy isn't for bisexuals.Yeah I figured that a while ago

@BisexualRealTalkNow 6 лет назад

:-) You might have missed the point of the video. Bisexuals are as monogamous as heterosexuals and homosexuals. It is just what bisexuals desire that makes them different.

@ShawnBloom 6 лет назад

@@BisexualRealTalkNow So it

@fotinipapacharalampous5596 5 лет назад

I think your level of knowledge is lower than average.

@smithontwins 5 лет назад

It totally depends on the person. Try to study about Kinsey scale. It helps understanding that your attraction to the same/opposite gender varies from others. This video breaks down the type of attraction (physical/material & emotional). For bisexuals it isn't as simple as monosexuals because of the dopamine part. I relate to this for I'm physically more attracted to the same gender but emotionally feel more comfortable with the opposite gender. When I'm in a relationship with a guy (my opposite gender), my sexual drive towards women increases. I must admit I have a hard time being in a long-term relationship. I always thought because I fear commitment but this shed a new light...