He Said He Wanted You Then Pulled Away? HERE’S WHY… 

If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and never disturb them again lol

If someone ghosts you, they didn't like you that much or they have someone else. I promise you, it is that simple.

Ignoring or acting indifferent is the best thing you can do. Literally act like you didn’t notice his absence. If he asks you out again, simply say thanks for asking, but I’m really busy. Or don’t respond to his texts or calls at all. Men hate indifference, it makes them question themselves. Never respond with anger or genuine emotion. These men are immature and unworthy of honest conversation. Stop giving away your power. Don’t waste another minute of your valuable time, and don’t grant these guys access to your emotions. What these men need is a reminder that they’re not that special, not that great in bed, and not particularly rememberable. Move on. I don’t care if you’re 20 or 80, men are everywhere. Let those time wasters go.

I understand “no one wants to look bad, or have difficult conversations” but it’s called being an adult. I’m shocked how many people feel like they can do anything they want and there is no consequences.

When the trash takes its self out let it go.

He disappeared because he has a little boy mentality and he’s afraid to show up as a real man with real feelings, be vulnerable and honest… which is a precursor to intimacy.

Why people ghost 1. Don't want to have the difficult conversations. 2. They don't want to look bad. 3. They want to keep the door open.

Bottom line, men: DO NOT PERSUE A WOMAN IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THEM OR WANT THEM. Stop wasting our time, stop wasting our energy and and stop wasting our emotions.

Some mental issues? Never forget some people are broken, they are afraid of love, intimacy..fear of abandonment? So I ghost you, I leave you, because I am not able to love and receive love. I did that in the past, and recently I received the same. Some of us are just broken. No other men/women, just pain and suffering as our best partner.

The number 1 reason is: another woman in his life. Period. Let's be honest.

It's crazy how many men love-bomb you and then ghost you. Then, they come around again after a couple of months, expecting the same "benefits" as before, like nothing happened. And when you say no, they love-bomb you again and it all starts over!!!!! Excellent video, Matthew!😃❤️

Love bombing is about a selfish person trying to create a passion filled, dopamine spiked experience for themselves. It has nothing to do with the other person. The other person is just an object to try and make them feel good about themselves (i.e. a sociopath).

Please remember that ghosting is very loud communication - it's silent but what is communicated is "no" , "I'm not interested", " I don't want to continue". These things are difficult to spell out but the silence means exactly that. Take it as a communication, instead of " not communication". At this point you have to say to yourself : "I heard that clearly and loudly that you are not interested. Well, it's time for me to say as well that I'm not interested neither. Why would I be interested in someone who is not interested in me????" " If and when they decide comeback, just say no. Because if you're saying yes, he will leave you again. Silence for me means loud no, means he has no respect for me or desire, and it means it's my turn to say no to him, as well. Girls, take care of your heart. If it breaks many times, you will end up depressed, cynical, old lady. Please be happy and take care of yourself, there are so many good men, you will find someone for yourself who will respect you. .

I think we are only hitting the surface. We need to be frank and really call this out. A lot of men have emotional issues and don’t know how to be relational. It’s an ego boost and toxic tactic they employ because of their own personal traumas, lack of self love, and disregard for others. It’s more than them being immature, it’s a complete lack of empathy and emotional intelligence. These men will never be good partners, even if you get with them, prepare to be taken advantage of, gaslit, and emotionally neglected. They refuse to heal their emotional wounding then go off and bleed all over everyone else. We really need to start leaving reviews on people like that black mirror episode and calling out this toxic behavior.

They ghost because they don't care enough. Because they don't like you enough. Is there anybody who doesn't know it?

This is so spot-on, Matthew. It happened to me recently where someone came on really strong and idealised me, only to then play hot and cold/push-pull as soon as I reciprocated. I called them out immediately, politely but clearly and stated the kind behaviour (consistency, reliability) that I was looking for. They "improved" for a bit, then went back to playing games, then ghosted, while still throwing breadcrumbs ("likes") on social media. I called them out one last time and asked them for a personal talk and to explain their behaviour. Unsurprisingly, the person went ghost again yet continued to "like" my social media. I blocked them on all channels. It's completely unacceptable behaviour and utterly disrespectful and selfish. I don't think such people are actually happy in their lives...but that is theirs to carry.

When men show you who they are believe them and keep moving forward as you’re real king awaits.

If said person is a narcissist don't feed them with the satisfaction of knowing they "deeply confused you." Starve them of your response. Don't turn into a ghost - turn into a Genie & pull the rug out from under them & use it fly off on your way. . .

Truth is they will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want from you.

Ghosting is an awful thing to do regardless of the relationship type; not apologising when necessary, not answering messages, no ownerships of conversations. It is a terrible behaviour people should learn to remedy as it is toxic and taxing.

I am happily married now, but back when I was single, I got ghosted sometimes. It was no big deal to me. I just understood right away that the guy was not interested and I quickly moved on. I actually appreciated that he did not feel the need to "explain" the reasons why he was not interested. Because that can be very hurtful. They are avoiding confrontation, because they don't want to tell you why they don't want you as they know that you will be insulted and hurt. I never needed or wanted to know the reasons "why". I only needed to know that they were not interested and that was enough. If you go out on a date with a guy and then afterwards, three days passes by and you don't hear from him. It's over. Just move on and don't look back. There will be many other guys out there for you to date.

They have some issues, that's why the hurry. Mental health problems, emotional immaturity, some other woman waiting somewhere else. It could be anything. They are selfish and don't care how much you suffer when they leave. Usually they disappear when you actually get interested, because they don't want your closeness. There is something they are not telling you. They might be also hot n' cold. If the guy disappears after you had a good date, believe his actions, it means that he is not interested in a serious relationship and never take him back!

Their silence and absence is an explanation for how they feel about you non-existent. It's painful and it hurts. You're not a plan B or a second option. You should be their first.

I think it resonates w me that they are afraid of being honest as well as keeping us on the sideline. Dating now is so tough. I’m so tired. It’s all a game now and way too easy to discard people.

I really like that your advice here wasn't "how to get him back," but instead emphasized how we need to recognize dangerous traits and hold to our standards.

Not to pull out a defeatist attitude…but I am so tired of dating. Exhausting effort with nothing but hollow people raising expectations and then inevitably hurting you.

Having been part of the sex, drugs and rock and roll era of the 60s and 70, and having been married 3 times , I was part of opening the door to the types of dating relationships I see today. I want to tell your community of women the advice I gave my own daughter. If you are looking for a relationship, Never sleep with, have sex with a man on a first date. The more attractive they are to you the more this advice is good. In order to have a long term relationship with someone you need more than a sex drive. I would say that you should date for a while before entering into intimacy. #1 Players are not willing to put 30 -60 days into a relationship without a payout. This eliminates the sleeze bags. #2 It allows you to know whether or not you actually like this person and have some sort of agreeable personality exchange.

I’m learning not to read too much into peoples shit and if people disappear great! You just showed me who you really are, a person with no respect or integrity and I simply don’t need people like that in my life.

Going through this right now. I m shocked he ghosted me. We were so much into each other. Now i m feeling left alone and used. I hope everything goes back to normal soon 😢

If someone ghosts me, that person is dead to me.

I love what you said exactly. He doesn't want to admit his wrongs so he gives you that silent treatment. Exactly smh

Thanks, Matthew. Some of my takeaways: 1. The concept of someone "withholding closure" 😬. 2. There's often a thin line between positive and unhealthy traits (spontaneous vs impulsive). 3. It is dangerous to want to be with someone more than you want to honor your own standards.

My last "situationship" was not only a love-bomber, but an absolute gaslighter when I contacted him a year after our "not actually a breakup" to get closure on a couple matters. He literally denied all key aspects of our few months of dating...including the fact that we were even dating. Since then, I've literally shut down romantically and sexually. I'm so incredibly burnt and scarred by everything that the idea of dating again makes me physically ill.

Try not giving a man what he wants, regardless of how much you like the idea. The genuine person will wait for you. The more toxic types will wander off and find someone else. You'll be better off without them 👍🏼. Be good with yourself. Do the relationship slog before the fun stuff, it repels the a-holes.

Words of adoration can be addictive when a person is love starved. Stay safe and cut the heartstrings with distance.

My boyfriend of four years went to work one morning last month, and just never came home. There was no argument, there was no discussion, in fact, he was intimate with me the morning that he left. I expected him to come home for dinner that night as we had discussed it The day before. I found out that he quit his job and moved out of state. I was devastated and blindsided. When I finally did get through to him after texting and calling 1 million times, he totally gaslight me. I was so hurt. I’m still hurt . I wish he would’ve had the balls to have an honest conversation with me.

I take it as some kind of game, so I just go on loving myself and living life, if a man REEAALLYY wants you, he will make it clear and won’t leave you confused, don’t worry about karma, it’ll hit and usually it's when you’re happy with someone else, no ones problem but theirs cause if they do it once they’ll do it again……go where you are clearly loved go where you are clearly appreciated go where things are clear so you’re not left wondering…..much love

He probably has a wife and kids.

I think ghosters would fall under the umbrella of narcissists who are dismissive avoidant. Please stay away from these types of people. They don’t change and you weren’t the first person or the last that they’ll do that to.

Because he lacks the maturity, decency and courage to be honest and usually has someone else lined up! My ex fiance' did this after complaining that his ex ghosted and breadcrumbed him...and how awful she was?? He walked out whilst I was very ill and devastated my mental and physical health..and never took responsibility for anything he did or said! Absolutely zero emotional intelligence. Good luck to the new supply..she'll need it!

“More than you want to have standards, you want them back” so painfully true then they have completely got under your skin 😢

Isnt it ironic that some people claims theyre honest but dont have the guts to say to someone theyre dating that its not going to work out😅😂

The last time I got ghosted,the guy ended up getting married 6 months later. He's probably already talking to someone else!

Love yourself ladies, it's the best and only way. ❤

It's like if a guy tells you it's over, but he won't return the earrings you left at his house -- even if you offer to pick them up at reception at his job or send somebody else to pick it up. Wants to keep the door open. Some guys are just professional babies.

The real moment that I knew my guy was for me and about me was when I was first expressing I wanted more with him before we went further, and when I just kind of backed off to let him sort out his feelings…and he came to me, wanting to talk it out, wanting to make sure I was happy in the relationship. He lived up to everything he said. The hard lesson I learned in life, no man earned you being excited in days. The most he should do is pique your interest. But enough to even stress about why he didn’t call? Nah. He hasn’t invested anything. He hasn’t had enough time to care. He barely knows you. The best thing is to approach it as a long trial period. And during the trial period you’re looking for words to become actions and actions to become consistent, that’s before even considering him as relationship material

Great topic but I've found in my experience if a guy acts super keen when hes with you then disappears or acts flaky it usually because theres someone else in the picture like a long distance relationship or an ex hes toing and froing with .so I'd say if they resurface you need a convo about that and make sure they re properly available ..good luck gals !

This describes about 90% of the men I know. They're absolutely off the rails and trying to make sense of their madness drives me nuts! It's like they put our relationship in a race car and go 200 mph only to park us and abandon the car one lap away from the finish line, and sometimes they eventually come back and pretend they never left, and sometimes they don't come back at all. I finally realized I have the power. I set the pace. And any guy who wants privileges or benefits from me has to show up and step up and be consistent. And it's not being egoic or difficult on my end. It's giving a real man a fair challenge. That's the best compliment you can give a real man, is to be a fair challenge for him. I make sure that I set the terms clearly. I say, "I'd really like to be more intimate with you, I think you're very attractive, so I'm hoping you'll show me you're trustworthy. I'm ready to reward that when I sense it." I just started this so I've had mixed results with the last two dates I've been on. Both men responded very well! And I felt that they respected me and enjoyed the challenge. The first one hasn't called or texted me since our last date and I'm not chasing. But he did shift into a more thoughtful person and walked me to my door and kissed me very gentlemanly before he vanished. The second one slowed down his energy and has been more romantic! He's really shown up and it's impressing me so much! He's treating me so good! We'll see how it goes.

If you are ghosted by someone you love and\or are in love with while still having abandonment trauma/feelings of unworthiness. I have something that works. Use the triggers, sit with the feelings and heal the old wounds. When you feel okay, pour all your mental energy in self love. Detach from external validation, just you vs you. You validate you, you comfort you, you buy yourself flowers, you take yourself on nice dates, you do things you love that will fill you will genuine happiness. By the time you have reached this point, you have levelled up and will be strong enough to not only not want them in your life. They won’t be a vibrational match, so they can’t reach you. You’ll also be more aligned with yourself and people that are actually capable of loving you.❤

Why is ghosting even a thing? Who honestly thought that would be an acceptable way as an adult to handle any situation. This happened with my last relationship never seen it coming nor did I have any reason. He spoke about wanting kids, getting married, making sure we’re on the same page. I don’t believe in having conversations like that with anyone. I fell in love for the first time. We hit a point in our relationship where we both were scared to become vulnerable. Thought he felt the same so I decided to take the first step so he knew I wouldnt cheat or leave him. That should’ve been a red flag. I’ve heard everything at this point. First time being ghosted. Never had my heart shattered like that. Completely turned me off from dating. If someone thinks ghosting is an easy way out instead of having any respect at all to sit down like an adult to have a conversation, then that person should not be dating. Anyone that leaves you questioning your worth, does not deserve to be happy.

My experience was a wonderful week with a guy who called himself my boyfriend and then ghosted me. After not hearing from him for ten days I reached out to him and asked if he is alive. He replied yes he is alive and he started dating someone else…because he didn’t know me very well…huh? 🤔🤪 Anyway…I told him he won the worst boyfriend I’ve ever had in my entire life award 🥇 😂 and blocked him! No thanks!

How about he pursue you to make you fall inlove with him and in the end of the day he will tell you that his not ready for a relationship

I do think we need to discuss that the rush of feelings and attraction we can feel after just meeting someone isn't love. It's lust. The idea of romantic love has caused us to confuse lust with love. Love takes time. It's not what you say It's what you do. Love is a verb a doing word.

The most hurtful things that a guy/girl could do in a relationship is when he/she ghosted you. No reason, no breakup just a silence. That’s the time that you will question your worth. Been there Dandruff😂

The best universal dating advice i personally could give for ladies as a man: ``learn how to sell yourself to the man in social way.`` cuzz that is exactly what we all doing when why trying to get something romantic from opposite gender. And how to do that? well simple, fallow same patterns what salesman does whenever they are trying to sell you something... basically never throw random positive traits you have at him,instead highlight the positive traits you have that the guy in question specificly wants the most and by highlight i don`t mean tell him(just telling never works), i mean show him whatever that might be...

It's a 'push and pull' game, and about keeping a person on the hook. Women and men need to stop putting their self worth on having a person in their lives. They just want a person, not about being with a person who treats them with respect. Key word: Respect

My advice when a guy pulls the ghosting , gaslighting trick is to walk away, tell all their friends they are dead to you and sit back and watch the narcs confusion trick be turned back on them. No matter how much you love someone, how much it hurts, choose self respect !

Love bomber aka narcissist Especially when she showed she had boundaries, they hate that

Try being ghosted after 9 YEARS. Was telling me he was still in love with me but going through a difficult time MH wise, he loved me but just needed to have some time to sort his head out. Then a weeks later we’d agreed a day out, and he left me sitting in a pub alone - didn’t show. No text, no call nothing. Haven’t heard a peep since & is with someone else, love bombing her. I’m done with men.

Block the ghosters from all channels so that they cannot reach out to you

Im 41, retired and single. I am the King of my own castle and loving life solo. I have recently decided to try dating, so far not bad, But Ive already ghosted two people, and Ill tell you why. After initial interest was shown I went out of my way to do something nice for two women. Both times VERY WELL received, but after this was done, I went home and waited. I waited to see if these people would want to invest time or energy into me. These two individuals had excuses for almost anything, so I stopped texting. Now im getting messages asking what they did wrong. Its simple really, if a guy is going to go out of the way to invest time and energy into you, be prepared to reciprocate. Appreciate the small things, because to most of us guys, thats what really matters. Third person I did this with, she responded the exact way I was looking for in someone, its that Easy ladies.

This is what I repeatedly said to the guys who do love bombing. They were being controlled by their emotions making them think that they already like me, but it was just the situation that they adore. That one guy already like another girl just a month after he said he can't live without me. 🤷 If we can't avoid getting involved with them, let us just learn the signs when to stop.

I got an explanation from the person, but it always amazes me how unself aware selfish, and immature people can be at 30 years old. It's not someone else's job to entertain or heal you after heartbreak. I knew this at 20. It's not hard.

"You really deep down, more than you want to have standards, want them back!" This hit me hard :(

If they come back either ignore completely or say, "This is not okay, this is not energy I ever allow into my life. This is behavior I find deeply unattractive. . . . Hey it was really strange to me that we had such an intense connection over the weekend, but then barely hear from you afterwards. And for me, the kind of energy I want in my life is from people who are consistent , people who are communicative to be in my life day to day, not in my life one day and out the next. The things you said and how strongly you came on only to disappear was deeply confusing and had a real impact on my trust [in you]. So I don't know what else to say to you, but I wanted to be honest about that with you."

I got ghosted a few months ago this makes me feel better because it still hurts but I need to forget about him after one date

Sucks to be ghosted but I'm never super ready to give up my freedom anyway so it's almost bitter sweet when it happens. It feels like most of the time guys are shit testing to see if I chase them and when I don't then the ghosting becomes permanent. Oh well on to the next. 🤷‍♀️

He needed the validation that weekend and he got it and that's all he want

I took this advice with a guy that has been coming back and being hot and cold for 6 YEARS. Once I unfollowed him on social platforms, the harassing messages and text messages that went unanswered became so frequent and obnoxious. When I responded with this level headed response, I think he was truly shocked but apologized. I feel so good having respected myself and setting a clear boundary.

If you can’t walk away from someone because of stirred feelings. Good thing they left. Love is having company not being addicted to their company. After one call and no response. Just keep doing what you were doing, but with out them. Like oooh what a tragedy. They gave you more free time to do thing you love. Ooh scary. 🤣🤣🤣

12:05 - - "Hey - - What are you up to ? " - - This is his EXACT words to me ! ! Thank you so much for clarifying everything so well ! ! ! ❤

This is the best video! I have been looking for the answer to this question for the longest. No one really talks about the guy actually coming on strong, you having boundaries…not needy, none of that. He’s the one that actually brings up the topic of a relationship. And then boom he’s gone…

I don’t think being passionate and intense in a certain moment is necessarily intentionally a lovebomb manipulation. Some people are just in the moment of lust. I’ve been on both ends of this. Then again I don’t ghost people.

Did she sleep with him? Sometimes they get what they want (sex) and they say/do everything up until that moment they get it. Then, boom, they gone. 👻

This is actually what I needed to hear right now, thank you Matthew 😊. I communicated my standards to someone that came on strong and matched my consistency initially to then disappear for days avoiding making plans when we were supposed to be meeting up. It didn't feel organic to me, so I said if their plans changed it was honestly all good, but I'd rather know to reorganize my time. He then apologized and said he had been super busy and would reach out later on the day, so I was 'it's all good, I understand, sure thing, I'm happy to talk 😊', but he never did. So I was starting to doubt if I had jumped to conclusions too quickly or maybe come across as rude, too serious or sth. I found it difficult to do cause I really felt I had a genuine connection with this person and we were on the same page. Truth is if someone can't be consistent and I say 'I'm going to take a step back cause I feel the vibe on your side has shifted' and I don't find them putting a bit more of effort in but getting defensive instead, I kind of know everything I needed to know 🤷🏻‍♀️

Love this guy! That happens to me a lot. I get love bombed then they get distant. I think i attract emotionally unavailable people, who get excited when we together but afterwards they fear of responisibility and relationship arises and distance themselves that i wont ask more. Now i am aware of it finally feel relieved otherwise i felt guilty or not enough... Now I just turned to my life and realized that it is their problem not mine:) Thank you

That's one of the best explanations of ghosting that I've heard. It's basically a form of manipulation.

I just said to someone who ghosted me and came back few times and trying to hide he is married to leave me alone I don't want you and he said you changed ok I will go.... You don't need a conversation anymore with the person out of politeness. You directly cut them off, make it clear for them to leave you alone and move on. It's easy to say than do, but that's what you do, you move on without them......

I was led on for 10 months, some plans were made etc then boom, ghosted. I was fully into it and she was getting over a relationship. I was not going to run after. Gutless, emotional terrorism.

Ladies. If you met the ghoster guy through online dating where he has many options, you're being ghosted whilst he love bombs new ghostees. This is the side effect of supply and demand with a superficial based dating system where the guy you want is also wanted by most women on the site. Instead, try to meet genuine men in real life through common interest events and take time to get to know them first. Build a deep connection that will last instead of chasing unavailable feelings of lust. TC x

This question is off-topic Matthew, but I thought I would put it here. Many of your videos deal with who pays for dinner, who makes the effort, etc. etc.. yet not once have I ever heard. You mention how often women cook for men (not that men never cook for women, but you must admit it’s much more common for a woman to cook for a man). An example would be a guy I dated off and on for a couple of years and broke up with recently. First of all, he makes fully twice as much money as I do. that said, for every one time he brought me out to a dinner, I would probably make at least two or three dinners in my home for him(I am a good, cook and enjoy cooking). So if I knew he was coming over for dinner on a Saturday night, I would probably take a few days to plan, grocery shop, and prep for that meal. I enjoyed this process. I would get top quality ingredients from farmers market and local butchers and really go all out to make something beautiful and delicious. Often, the amount I would spend in time and labour to make a beautiful meal far exceeded what it would cost to take someone out, but that’s besides the point. A couple of weeks ago we went away for a weekend together, and he got upset when I didn’t offer to pay for half of the dinner bill. We went back to the hotel and had a discussion about it, and he told me that he felt “taken for granted” because when we went out, he always paid for dinner. I listen to what he said and then retorted “how many times have I cooked for dinner for you? ” the look on his face. I could tell he had never even thought about the time and effort or expense I went through to do that for him. Now you could say that maybe this guy was just clueless, or just didn’t think of a woman cooking dinner for him as any sort of effort since he grew up with his mother cooking , but honestly, this is not the first person I’ve had this situation with. So, who do you think was actually taken for granted? Every time he paid for dinner I was thankful. I felt that taking me out to dinner was a gift to me, just as me making dinner for him was a gift. I would really appreciate it if you would address this in one of your videos Matthew because I’ve literally never heard anyone talk about this, and it happens all the time to many many women .

I was impulsive towards him, we have like 3 misunderstandings in a month. And I deserved the ghosting, and I won't chase him, or say sorry again and again cause it is really shameless of me. He didn't blocked me but unfriended, and I don't want us to communicate again, I just trusted my guts. It's hard to love when you also have trauma in the past, you look forward more to pain than of beauty, and that makes you are not good enough to anybody. Keeping busy helps.

He felt rejected. That's what happened! And it gave him cold feet and made him pull away. He has an fearful avoidant attachment style and associate love with both pleasure and fear.

It's dishonesty at its best ,they are with someone else.

I found out that the last guy I dated ghosted me bc he actually had a girlfriend of 9 years of whom he shares 2 kids

For me, I always put 110% effort into my dates and relationships. If I don’t get the effort I feel warrants my level of effort then I walk away. I’m a fairly fit guy and very traditional and I make a good wage so I always pay for everything. That’s why If I’m not getting a certain level of reciprocation/interest then I’m gone.

Good episode, Matt! I disagree with one item: if someone reaches out to you after cutting communications like that, I would recommend you ignore them, and not engage! Why perpetuate a situation like that at all? Keep up the great work!

Wow I loved this video. Way too many people tolerate nonsense. Matthew put it perfectly. If a guy likes you and is serious, he will not behave badly. He can only continue to mistreat you, if you let him. Love and peace everyone 🙏🏽

Relationships and Dating are now known as shituationships, it’s like you get NOTHING out of it just leaves you high and dry.

Guys, I'm a Lover. Period. I am in-Love with people from the Day 1. It does Not take me months and years to Feel Love towards another. When You are A Big Hearted Lover - All You Do 7/24/365 -- Is LOVE :) And the rest is Nonesense and Mental Speculations. Blessings! Much Love To You All! It is totally okay to say "I Love You!" as soon as You Feel Like it. Open-hearted people Share they loving nature all of the time and everywhere -- because that's What We All Are -- A Ball Of LOVE ❤😀 Abrahim Hicks, "Joy - is the key."

After not dating anyone for 3 years and healing from the past breakup I came across that love bomber.He made me believe we were going somewhere but it turned out it all vanished very quickly after he got what he wanted. When I got involved emotionally he run off and was cyberstalking me daily for 5 months whilst ignoring my msgs of having any conversation.He got blocked for another 5 months again with no contact from him.Now I unblocked him to see if he is gonna cyberstalk me still or he has moved on to someone else.Dating is so fucked up these days

Because deep down he is not ready to for something serious. Even though he was facetiming almost every day and two days into knowing me he was making plans to come and see me.😅

Be at peace. You really don’t want to be with someone who does this to you.

That's the main reason why I have never been married! There are so many games of just getting the as- or sx! There no love nor any moral in sharing a happy life together with someone! Thankyou for many of your fun lectures! Cheers!

I think men don’t realise the harm they do.

I had this happen to me I spent a weekend with him it wasn't that Romantic but he said we would be together but as soon as that weekend was over he had ghost me no communication completely by 3 weeks after. He then had the nerve by trying to come back 11months later to see if I would love a repeat of our weekend. I was absolutely livid & I'm afraid I told him straight what I thought of him & where to shove his weekend away & finally where to go. I explained that I had moved on as I wasn't going to waste another single minute with a toxic bloke like him or waste precious time wondering what I had done wrong bc I hadn't done anything it was him that had lied & ruined things .

When a guy that comes on strong out if the gate, comes on strong to all women they like. It has nothing to do with you. Sorry. It’s about what he gets out of the whirlwind weekend. If they do it with you, they’ll do it to the next woman that peaks their interest lol.

That is why YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM NONE, & keep your SELF-RESPECT.

I'm dealing with someone like him, who relied on the fact that because our relationship was initially work-related, he could continue to rely on me because I'm naturally kind and a people pleaser. This week I finally came to the conclusion that it was enough; I was ready to move on. And we had the tough conversation; I definitely can see him in your description. When I told him that I had to get if what he was it was enough for me, he was shocked; he believed everything was fine. He still didn't get how much he hurt me because I genuinely thought he cared. I focused more on what he seemed to me than what he really was, ignoring any possible red flags. For the first time, I really said what I needed without worrying about letting him slide away. I really appreciate your content!

They usually get blocked on everything so they’ll have to show up at my door. That’s when I call the police. 😅