Last month I walk into my jiujitsu gym and see Todd on the mats. I couldn’t believe it lol. My self improvement journey started with pick up then I started training martial arts. I got in shape, became more grounded and grew as a person. Which obviously helps with game. It was awesome seeing you Todd. Kind of a full circle moment.
All it took was a year of training Muay Thai & my confidence increase dramatically. When you get hit hard & survive …you lose that fear of getting into confrontations. You don’t seek trouble but you know that you can protect yourself.
Training martial arts is mandatory. Boxing, muay thai, or jiu jitsu. Pick one… or two. But, don’t get into street fights. Always run, if you can. Don’t die, or kill anyone, unless that’s your absolute last resort. Oh, and buy a gun and practice with it at least semi-regularly, depending on the laws in your state or country. Everything in this video was spot-on, though. Confidence, mental fortitude, increased fitness, great outlet for stress, sounds cool to girls, I guess, etc. Lots of good people in these sorts of gyms too. They say you are who you hang around. Men who are driven to be better make you want to push yourself harder too.
Yep. You have higher chances to die in a street fight as a martial artist that has a false sense of security. You are not secure and there are no rules - the enemies are unpredictable and their amount aswell. Pushing an unpredictable enemy higher can result in fatal injury.
As a wrestler and former security at the bars, knowing how to fight doesn't exclude your chances of getting killed in a street fight. Unless you have a gun, evade.
Even if you have a gun, that doesn't stop them from killing you before you can use it, and even if you do, there's a good chance you will bankrupt yourself with attorney fees defending yourself in court.
Yep. The first thing a good martial arts teacher will teach you is when to run as fast as you can whenever you can. Especially when you see a knife or several possible enemies. Fighting is a thing of last resort. Being able to fight also should prevent many forms of fights.
As a former British Commando I can confirm that knowing hand to hand combat is useless against an armed opponent But girls do like guys who know how to do it
This is totally anecdotal on my part, but something just changes in you after taking up a martial art & taking a few hits to the face. Took up boxing in my mid 20's, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made for both my physical & mental health.
@@sdickinson5234 no because the dumbest hit could get you killed Its realising how easy is to end up in a bad condition so the other, previously scary, things in life seem so much less of a big deal now
@@kehbab Kind of. For me, it was just the physical realization of how easy & comfortable my life actually was. Spent my whole life convincing myself I was something bigger & better than I was -- taking up boxing reminded me I wasn't.
@@StrunDoNhor also once you start fighting and sparring you get humbled and realize it is much harder than you thought... so you know for a fact someone who's never trained before could hardly do any damage 1v1 against you
I've been doing Judo and JiuJitsu for 11 years, and martial arts for 22 years now. I notice that I possess a calm around combat and conflict that other people simply don't have.
As much as I agree with almost everything said in this video, in practical terms unless you're a professional MMA fighter, it's generally recommended to avoid an actual fight all together, because 1) people tend to be cowards and will try to outnumber you, wether they're losing or not, 2) fighting doesn't teach you how to dodge bullets, 3) even if you win a fight, sometimes people will try to get back at you (usually unfairly). Been in a few fights when I was younger and it rarely was 1v1. I remember once, I ended up fighting 4 guys and even tho I got my ass kicked I managed to beat one (I got to choose at least one to hurt hehe) and they still felt like going for a retribution. So be mindful. Of course this will help you not to chicken out in every situation and build more confidence, but either way, getting into a fight should be a last resort.
I practiced training of a very aggressive fighting martial art and these things Todd says in this video are absolutely true. What my 5 cents to this are is that fitness, my body look, that I have bigger muscles, also helped me a lot in avoiding dealing tough situations. You see, when I mastered a little this martial art, my body was very slim and often some guys happened to insult me or at least to ignore me. Especially when I was approaching women and her boyfriend or husband was popping around suddenly, often their behavior was aggressive. Knowing a little bit how to fight gave me confidence but still, I had to deal with these aggressive males. Then I started much more actively to hit the gum and gained some muscles. And surprise! Now boyfriends/husbands are not so aggressive when they see me I have approached their girl. They just take her silently and go away. 😁😁
Todd, first of all, I love you man. You are number 1 in your field as much as I concern. I want to add a small but great benefit I earned from practicing in BJJ. I find that it made me able to cope with little things that dont work (for example , a lock that doesn't open) calmly and smartly instead of using force and then more force
Definitely, I'm 6'3ft/1,93m and 210lbs/95Kgs and although I have a nice physique, kickboxing has been really improving my motor coordination, balance, speed, strength and stamina. I can't help but feel evermore so confident and exhibit poise. Fucking love it!
You are always so spot on, brother. I broke up with my ex earlier this year and decided to take on boxing. I’ve been boxing for two months now going on 3 and you’re right. You are very well spoken every fucking time man. I’m saving up for one of your programs. I just know I’ll find so much value in one of them. God bless you, Todd. I’ve known about you since you were with real social dynamics. Still to this day dropping nothing but straight wisdom. Can’t wait to level up!!!!!! 💯
BJJ has improved every aspect of my life! Knowing how to fight does give you an unconscious confidence that people pick up on. You are less likely to get into trouble just because of that. Also, people who have trained don't tend to start fights because they understand just how skilled other people can be.
not only men, but also women should learn how to fight. everybody should be able to defend themselves. best option to chose some kind of grappling combat sport like Judo or BJJ and one with kicking and boxing (or ideally where the two of them get combined like Sambo or MMA)
If you want a similar effect but don't want to hurt yourself physically, I can recommend social dance + gym. Almost all good social dancers have hot girlfriends or a couple of hot FBs. Until you get to that point, the women will have shittested the shit out of you until you are literally invincible. You learn to resist any kind of BS while still being charming, creative and socially calibrated in your masculine role to the max. I noticed that while I became better in dancing Bachata Sensual, the women in my everyday life started to like me more and more as well. So it definitely changes your personality.
as someone who fought professionaly it did nothing for my dating. Fighting doesnt make you jacked, it actually makes you skinny majority of the time to fight in the right weight class. Women want the appearance of someone who can protect them they DO NOT actually want someone who can do it. Be a bodybuilder not a fighter.
Be careful to wrap your hands when u hit the bag! I hit the bag without wrapping my hands a few years back and I ended up injuring my wrist - for four months!
Two things persistence brings: * Improving technique allows you to achieve better results (e.g., more force delivered to target) with less cost/pain. * Your body will adapt as well. With heavy bags in particular, if you hit them with gloves, you can build up bone density over time. In general, you can build stronger, more flexible muscles and ligaments if you're careful/smart about it.
@@BenDover-cm5mo I think it's better to learn to punch the right way with the knuckles on your first two fingers and a straight wrist and don't wrap your hands, that way if you get in a real fight you won't break your hand. Of course you can't go full power right away like that. If you're training for boxing it's different because you wrap your hands in a match anyway.
I'm 6' 6" 252 lbs. sub 8% body fat and have Black Belts in HapKiDo (Korean JuJitsu) and TaeKwonDo. My PR's in lifting are 485 bench, 515 Squat and 545 Deadlift. Ty Wiggins was my buddy in college at the University of Wisconsin. He is a former world champion kickboxer and now a stunt coordinator in the movie industry. And we sparred together for 3 years. My point is that I could most likely beat up 9999 out of 10,000 guys and I haven't been in a fight since one year out of college. There is one reason for that. In LA, you fight, you may die. I worked at The Troubadour in Hollywood (a world famous live music venue) as a second job after graduating college. On 2 occasions, I had guns pulled on me by guys I tossed out. Fighting, these days, is beyond stupid. I also have a very high profile career that pays me extremely well. I'm not losing my career because I got arrested beating some loser's ass.
exactly. im with you, and yes i WANT to have martial arts skills, but i never got into it (when i was bullied a little in my youth) and at 55 what would be the point now? even at 40? i feel like being able to fight might ATTRACT fights. unless you're attacked physically you'll never get in a fight chances are. even if you get robbed, you just give over your shit, and no fight. i do agree its a confidence builder and a great skill to have, great exercise, but eventually you age out of it. if someone really wants to fight me after a verbal altercation (i seem to attract assholes) theyll have to chase me after i slowly leave while hurling insults... then ill fight if i have to. also i wouldnt want to lose work time from being injured while sparring
I remember watching you shadow boxing in a very very old RSD video back in the day. I thought it looked pretty crisp. I boxed for 7 years and fought in Irish nationals and have done BJJ the last 5 years. I can confirm many fighters pull in girls they'd ordinarily have no business with
Hope you enjoy the video and it gets you taking positive action. One of the many benefits of fighting is the impact it has on your psychology--developing the mindset of a winner. For more on a winner's mentality, check out my FREE course toddwinnergame.com
Great video, been following you since years now... Just one tiny thing, please don't put that transition in videos, it's giving headaches because of the flashing lights.. thanks!
Fighting is Power 🔥 Women are massively attracted to Powerful Man, despises the Weak Man. I think Rollo Tomassi also gave some mind blowing stats on this topic. Thanks Todd V 👍
I’ve done 8yrs combined yrs of bjj and wrestling (hs and 1 yr collegiate). Yet going into a club scares me more than fighting in a tournament😂. Just beginning to get over my daygame AA through dozens of sets per week.
Funny thing is I started practicing muy thai a few weeks ago cuz I figured if i’m going to procrastinate gaming again I might as well do something that will boost my sense of masculinity and is related to self development. Not suprised Todd knows self defense I imagine a lot of men in nightlife will feel threatened by his level of game and will wanna intimidate him. How would you not let one activity get in the way of the other?
Tell me about it, 4 years boxing, became a hunter this year, and I can confirm with a hand on my heart that that that's absolutely right! I was a kid to be picked on a lot, being slim and short, so I enrolled in boxing after 3 years of soccer and another fight forced on me due to tackle. I just had enough, I wanted to f-up everyone. who picked on me ever since. First 3 months, I was a total disaster, injured myself so badly that I still haven't recovered after more than a decade. Around the 1st year in boxing, very consistently though, I got knocked out by the best boxer in the gym, and it wasn't that I gave up easily. I was told to take 2 weeks off from boxing but instead, I went the next day and asked the same guy to have a sparring again. I was just about ready to die but also the fight did not die inside me. He refused as I was pale as a ghost that day but I'll tell you what. I haven't missed a day in the gym since then, and I committed fully to learning boxing in and out. We had more sparrings with this guy, and 2 years later in one of our sparrings, he told me: "If you would push slightly more, he will be the one dropping this time". By then, I'd already forgiven him but the point is he took a piss and had a "cool" lifestyle going out with girls at the age of 14, drinking and smoking, I was completely the opposite. Even though he was 2 years younger, heavier, and taller, I managed to match his fighting capabilities with only about 10% of his experience in competitions, sounds crazy but I actually started knocking out heavier opponents than me quite regularly after my third year in boxing. It was quite a spiritual process of growth for me. Turned me from a shy boy into "the tiger" as the fellows would call me. I only started going out and doing pick-up once I quit boxing at the age of 18. Since then, I have not had that many fights at all but I'll tell you what, it happened and it happened without warning, and it was not during night out, a guest in my house attacked me but I managed to defend myself well even though he landed a right hook in my jaw out of nowhere. There was more to follow, but I could parry it all, eventually, we caught the attention of the housemates and he had to leave me alone, saying I would be dead if I mentioned it to anyone, which I did the next day, as I reported him in the police even thought I rejected to fight back but the matter of the fact is, I could and I decided not to. Don't allow someone to walk you over but be humble enough to not seek revenge, as it will get you down as well. Also, still got my pair of gloves and even thought about teaching locals how to fight, as a side hobby even before I saw this video, and I certainly don't believe in coincidences.
I have been a fan of martial arts for a long time. I'm also a fan of pro-wrestling. I think men gravitate towards combat sports because we associate pain with accomplishment. It has ritual functions going back a very long time and it probably provides spiritual experiences for many practitioners whereas a sport like tennis may have a relatively brief history and has not been a factor in nation building. At the same time the high emphasis on men's martial development also comes from a time when we believed that women would lose their virtue if they were to get an education or not be viable mothers. Nobody believes that anymore at least in the west but many young men still have this idea that if you cannot "fight" then you're useless. I would be curious to know if this idea is less common in countries where conscription (having to serve in the armed forces during peace time from six months to four years) is still in force. In countries and cultures where men no longer have obligatory combative rites of passage men may find it profitable to stand out from the crowd through martial arts. In countries where men are conscripted simply gnashing your teeth through involuntary service separates you from the vast majority of females. Then again conscription seemingly does not make men less violent or tame; Russia seems much more violent than Western Europe and Russia is known for their brutal armed service (and now forcible conscription into the war in Ukraine). I don't believe that martial arts very useful for attracting women in general and could be a big waste of time if you don't love it. From the testimonies of men who practice martial arts I've also got the impression that their black belt did not help them to get over their fear of women either. If you want to mingle with women, you could just get into dancing which I personally found much more awkward and difficult than martial arts.
In a boxing, bjj or km gym, you won't get support, you will just get beat up or they won't spar at all. I have never experienced a gym where sparring was supervised and you got useful information on how to improve your style. Go in now, stay for a year, you will notice that nothing changed in your ability to fight. Worse even, you will get injured and don't know why. There is zero feedback on your "journey", all you are is a paying customer. Martial arts is nothing but a workout, unless you do Tai Chi, then it's not even that.
Hey Todd I agree I am blind visually impaired But if you sit in your house without knowing what’s outside, you always going to be sitting on your ass inside the house just because you’re blind doesn’t mean you have to be scared to go out in the world I would also like to get a coaching class with you. How 9:18 from today, Saturday, November
Just start somewhere- life weights , take martial arts, eat healthy and bulk up on protein, obviously take it easy at your age. it will take a bit but youll get there.
1- Fighters have hot girlfriends: is having a hit girlfriend the ultimate goal? In my view I much rather have a high value girlfriend (which is very hard to find). 2- Todd, don't make people believe that after six months of fighting training they can handle a street fight. No one can handle a street fight. 3- Fight training certainly gives self confidence. Sometimes too much as people think they can handle a street fight. 4- your video made want to restart Judo, lol Thanks!
As a professional musician, if I didn't prioritize my manual dexterity and abilities, I'd go for this advice. However any potential of harming my hands is a flat no. But....Todd, strong video , psychology and all. The man right here 👈
Strongly disagree on this one, I've been boxing and wrestling for almost 20 years now and didn't get girls until I discover Todd, had wimps that I could beat with one arm getting girls I like because its not that important. It could help hard case newbs to gain confidence, but a normal guy is better learning technical game rather for getting girls
I think you’re misunderstanding the point Todd is making with this video. He’s not saying it will be the difference maker in getting girls, but it can give some guys a boost
@@PeterParkerwon thats what I meant on my last sentence, sure it will help if you are already a super insecure guy, but any somewhat normal guy could just learn game
Todd you hit an important subject, I wanted to know if actual fighters do have approach anxiety or not? Also what do you think a woman's reaction will be when two men physically fight each other, wis it correct to assume they'd select the winner no matter what?
Go out and build relationships with 10 other women. Sounds like you're too desperate for the one. Women would rather share a confident guy who doesn't need them (because he's got 10 others in the wings) than have one needy guy all to themselves.
You're probably too serious and, um ... intense. 😅 Yeah, you probably need a lot more experience with _many_ women to start playing _it_ like a funny lil game.
Done muay Thai nowadays boxing. I have been travelling many parts of the world walked confident in back streets of Havana or Cario or Minsk . Man respect who can fight so its good for business Woman secretly love the man who can fight. Not only confidence or protection but dominance in bedroom . I m surprised that took Todd too long not to talk about this . Yea bro go to boxing gym most of you can't handle muay Thai anyways and actually might not be that required considering the amount of man turning to feminen . Boxing will give you the practicalities of a self defence no really need to go to stupid gym which gives you only pump. But nothing to learn on your brain like the footwork etc.
I don't understand how fighting translates to getting women unless you're a pro fighter (and are good enough to win). Are you walking around telling all the women that you fight? How do they respond to that?
...mmm...this time I do not agree with Todd. I would say you must learn to be assertive, have a tough mentality, not be scared easily and go all in for what you really want in your life, but fighting? Leave fighting to professional athletes, guys if you go out with your girlfriend and two guys want to steal your money and your phone, you do not fight because if they have a gun your life is gone
Banged my hottest girl right after the end of a sparring training. Iranian muslim who totally forgot her religious views and took every drop in twice in a car in the middle of nowhere. Fighting is an absolute must for every male and even female. The adrenaline rush is such a game performance enhancer and the good news is that there are no side effects nor tolerance development. Jordan Peterson says that those who have swords and are able to keep them sheathed will inherit the world. Martial arts training teaches both the skill of swinging the sword and keeping the sword sheathed, both cases when appropriate. JP also states that one must not be nice or harmless but a monster. A monster that can be self-tamed. Martial Arts teaches that. One's performance in the world outside picking up girls, needless to say, is optimized too. Voice becomes easily projectable, people bend and get in to your frame. They walk out your way. One becomes more focused and enregzised hence more productive. One becomes way less intimidated in any situation. And girls go full dripping for such a person.
Yeah, both. Knowing a hand-to-hand system is of limited value if the other guy pulls a knife or a gun. It's still helpful to be able to work empty-handed, though. You might not have time or opportunity to pull your own weapon.
@@steamer2k319 i agree both is good to have both. I walk with spray because i rather hit them from a distance than even risk a physical fight. It only take one hit to kill or paralyze you. People heavily underestimate fighting in the streets. Im fighting dirty as heII
@@zero1188 I've also heard good things about 'tactical' flashlights. They're relatively small (compared to the maglites of yore) LED units that have an ~overdrive function for blinding assailants at night.
Usually the most emotional and weak people today are the ones who want to learn how to fight, because they can't control themselves or the person they are talking to, very fragile ego.
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